Worst thing to do when you feel bad is telling yourself “Everything is fine yet I feel bad. What’s wrong with me? People have much worse struggles yet I’m here being sad for stupid reasons. I’m weak.” Denying the saddnes or stress makes it worst(for most people).

I was a top in my year at university for 3 years in a row and everyone thought my life was perfect. That couldn't be further from the truth. People only saw my accomplishments not what went on behind the scenes

Most KZfaqrs only show the happy side of things, so videos like this are very much needed, thank you Ruby!! :))

"It is better to light a candle than to curse the darkness."

I think it was so important that you showed that it’s okay to not always have happy days ! - studyjourney

I also like this technique for anxiety to bring your mind back to the moment: name 5 things you see, 4 things you hear, 3 things you feel, two things you smell, one thing you taste. this works for me, and trust me, I usually resist a lot of techniques! hope this and my other comments help!!! sending you love Ruby!

it’s ok ruby, everyone has those days xx

The way you go about everything makes me want to be a better version of myself. You help me so much, and always make me feel better about my many bad days :) Also the fact you find the time to work hard and study but edit and post your videos really regularly is so impressive.

it is totally okay to have these days Ruby! we all face challenges but if they become too overwhelming then it is important to take some time to relax and face it again. Glad you shared this with us! we will always support you and be inspired. 😘😍🤩 Love, Ananya 🥰💗💗

It's crazy how some people still think that you-tuber's are somehow perfect. Or that they never have bad days. At the end of the day we're all humans not robots. Sending positive autumnal vibes to Ruby.

7:24 I actually had to check whether the video had jumped to an Emma Watson video. The two voices sounded so alike in that sequence!

Hey. I have OCD. I hear you. Just remember, thoughts aren’t facts and distraction from a train of thought works wonders. OCDAction and OCD UK are awesome, even if you have tendencies. Best tackled with CBTand ERP. You can’t control everything, you can only do your best. It sounds as though you have done a good job so far.

I've skipped lessons this week because ive been having bad mental health days as year 13 is getting to me and this video has came out at the perfect time! thank youuu!

I really need a video like this. I have really been struggling being back. It’s so important to talk about these things and it helps show others they are not alone 😊💕

As someone who has had to live in a busy city throughout lockdown (most of which was spent entirely alone), I can honestly say it gets better Ruby, just remember to stay vigilante and safe! All the best from Glasgow!

And also I recommend having a mental health mini routine when you're feeling anxious, instead of immediately brushing it off and going back to what you were doing. (I did that in university and it over time it was horrible. Have a deck of cards, maybe a little drawing, a smell, meditation, something to play with, etc, to focus on.) My therapist once said that if it is something you can immediately solve, well then do it. if not, don't worry about it because it is not productive and detrimental to your health. Just have to let go and live in the way you know how and things will work themselves out. :)

Health anxiety is a really tricky one and I have struggled with it previously. But from what I've seen you are being so sensible and considerate of others. Stay strong 💪 things are going to get better ❤️

Thank you so much Ruby to talk about this and show people that even those whose lifes look perfect on first glance have bad days and struggle sometimes (like we all do). I actually had the problem that a girl in school bullied me when I was 16/17 because she envied me for having a pretty good life (good grades without studying hard, few good friends, functioning loving family, getting along with siblings well). In reality I found out by myself that my dad was suffering from depression and nearly cried every night because I feared that he might be suicidal (which he luckily wasn’t but I was to feared to actually speak with somebody about it)

You are completely not alone in how you feel, I just started my 4th year at University and have also struggled a lot moving back during the pandemic. I have the same anxious hypothetical thoughts like 'what if I get covid and bring it back to my family' and especially at work as I work part time in a care home so I think 'what if I bring covid into work'. These thoughts really weigh on my shoulders, and the lack of control over what other people i.e. housemates are doing, also adds to the equation. What has helped me over the last day or so, however, is when I spoke to my CBT therapist I guess you can say about it, and she made me realise that even though to me these are very real worries that I perceive as rational, they are in-fact hypothetical situations that thinking about does not do anything good or help anything. You can take the necessary precautions, but its not feasible to micro manage your life to avoid a situation that might not happen in the first place. Obviously these things are much easier said than done to rationalise, especially when anxiety brain has a mind of its own haha. I hope you just know that you are not alone in feeling this and as you said, its okay not to be okay sometimes!

I am feeling the exact same way about coronavirus!! I had to fly home during the peak in April from Australia and was so scared I would pass it. However I’ve found by going out (risk free activities like walks, seeing people from afar, going into a few shops)ive slowly built up my confidence again. The truth is the virus is very real and dangerous however the media is a big factor in scaring us and causing anxiety. I would suggest you have breaks from the news and know that soon this will all be over and we will appreciate normality so much more. Really hope your okay ruby, you’ve done so well to even go back to university!!

It must have been such a shock moving back to a city when you live in the countryside, and probably really quite scary !! I did the opposite , moving from a city to a town and it was so much less busy and stressful !! You’re doing all the right things , you will be ok from the virus because you’re following the guidelines , I have anxiety so I completely get how you must feel . Remember that your head is probably making everything 10 times more scary , and even though the situation is bad , it will get better. Keep doing what you’re doing Ruby, I love your content ❤️

Ruby, I'm happy that you decided to post this video about mental health. You really encourage me.I always look forward to your videos.

“The advantage of a bad memory is that one enjoys several times the same good things for the first time.” ― Friedrich Nietzsche

Thank you for being so transparent with your mental health, it definitely makes me feel less alone knowing someone else feels the same. I have had debilitating anxiety for the last two years which is gladly under control now but it was so hard to explain to people how I felt if they had never felt anxious to that extreme. I’m so happy and grateful that you are sharing your experience because it helps others understand!!! X x x

Anxiety doesn't discriminate! I feel very privileged to be studying in New Zealand, that we have been so lucky regarding Covid-19, that I have family in town that can help out. BUT, I get anxious a lot, and feel guilty for it. I think being honest about where you are at is so important. Thank you so much for sharing!

Thank you for being so open and sharing with us.💜 I think it's so important to acknowledge that everyone has bad days even if we only show our good days on social media

Oh Ruby!! My heart is with you

Having other people acknowledge that everyone, especially students, are struggling right now is really meaningful to me.

its okay sweet girl i’ve been at uni for three weeks and had at least 10 of these. you’ve got this. weve got this.

Ruby stay strong, everyone go through these type of times. Stay safe and take care 🙂 ❤

It's perfectly fine to have days like this. We all do - it's just a normal thing! I really appreciate you showing this as it shows that even the best of people have hard times. I hope that you feel a lot safer over time and continue doing amazingly in University. I love your videos so much and you are so inspiring. I have so much respect for you.

"Its ok to be not okay" 🎀🎀Even these sort days are required in our lives they make us learn so much and be grateful for happier days❤😇

you are right everyone has bad days. I think whenever you don't feel like talking about your emotions to someone, just grab a pen and a paper n start writing down everything that is going on in your mind. It really helps in channeling emotions. Lots of love from india♥️ ♥️

Respect for talking about mental health. Definitely makes everything seem more real.

Hi Ruby, thank you so much for that insight! I personally struggle with anxiety too and can absolutely understand how you are feeling! Thank you for showing that and for explaining that it is okay to not be okay.

Ruby, thank you for telling us honestly how you feel amid the pandemic. I am a biochemistry lecturer in a Japanese uni. One of my students, a woman, in my lab got sick and became unable to come up to the lab, after the two-month lockdown of the university; in which students had to stay at home. She was a very cheerful and enthusiastic student before the lockdown. I could not imagine what happened to her. But this particular video tells me that she, similar age to you, might also suffer from an obsessive-compulsive state. She is now staying with her parents at home. Hope she could come back soon. By the way, I have been watching your videos that remind me of my college days. Keep up great videos and your study as well.

Thank you so so much for talking about mental health! I also struggel a lot with it (in a diffrent way but it still helps me a lot when you open up about it)

I extend my warmest wishes to Ruby and everyone else who is struggling with mental health at the moment. I struggle so often with autism, anxiety, and depression, and yet better days are always just around the corner. You are not alone, and you deserve happiness and wellbeing.

Thanks for being vulnerable! Loved the little nod you did while looking at the pumpkin 🎃!

thanks for sharing the highs and lows of your day. thank you for being brave enough to show these moments

i was in a similar boat when i had to return to work after being furloughed for three months. it was very hard, especially because i spent most of that furloughed time with my family. i am very blessed that i was not completely laid off, but returning to work was still hard.

We all love you and your honesty. It takes a lot of guts to be totally open. I read your book on Kindle and thoroughly enjoyed it ! I hope there will be another soon ❤❤❤

Thank you for your vulnerability 🙏 we appreciate you so much

It's always important for everyone to remember that what you see online isn't 100% of the story of someone's life. You're so lovely Ruby, and I'm glad you had the courage to show everyone that you aren't perfect and that you have bad days like the rest of us. I hope you are able to feel better/more comfortable soon!💖💖💖

You're brave don't let anything disturbs your mental health and you life

honestly this video came at such a good time for me! i’m really struggling since coming back to uni with the pandemic too and my housemates have no respect for my boundaries and it makes me feel so uncomfortable but don’t wish to cause tension!!! this video made me feel not alone

Black beans can often be tricky to find but can normally be found in the ‘world food’ aisle. This is also the aisle where you can often get cheaper chickpeas and spices etc.

I’ve had a bad mental health day as well, my motivation was really low and I couldn’t do as much as I wanted to,anyway You are so incredibly inspiring ruby!

Thanks for sharing your story, Ruby. We are all struggling at times, especially this year. Thank you for being honest: It's helping me and I think others, too.

Ruby you are soooo strong . Nothing could stop you or break you down , we all are with you.

It's okay not be okay

Something I don't think people are talking about enough is how hard the transition from lockdown has been. Whether you had a good lockdown and miss being able to relax and the people you were with, or if it was difficult for you and you thought you were out but we are slipping back into it again.

Your post makes all of our's day! So happy to see another!❤️❤️ Lots of love from India

Wow I was really struggling with going back to uni this year. Everything feels so huge and crushing and scary and so much harder than it did last year. Seeing that other people are struggling too kind of helps. Feels like I'm not alone and maybe I do have the power to scrape myself together

Ruby here’s something my mom once told me, “Would you feel bad about getting a lead in the school play? No you wouldn’t so why do we feel bad about feeling bad for ourselves” I hope this helps. 😘

Thank you for taking covid seriously. I'm sorry it causes you so much anxiety, I also get waves of it! Something I have found that helps is talking to family, creating a cozy space (candle, make tea/hot cocoa), and journaling. Sending hugs.

You're so inspirational

So addicted to your videos...

Thank you Ruby for speaking about your anxieties with covid ❤️ As someone with OCD, I’ve really struggled during the past few months, so I appreciate you being honest about how you feel. Lots of love and I hope things get easier for you xxx

I’m so glad I’m not the only one with these worries coming back to uni, your videos have really been helping me though!

It’s okay to not be okay. Reminds me of the kdrama 🤩 but it’s really okay to not be okay :)

It is okay to have a day that wasn’t so good 😅I have lots of them

thank you for sharing this ruby! it's ok to not be ok, we'll always be there for u and I'm sure everything will work out in the end

this video made me feel better... i'm so nervous and it's really triggering, here in France we started school a month ago and I'm already soooo tired

Ruby, I feel the same way! My mental health has dramatically gone don't after school started. It's OK to not feel ok :)

Oh Ruby, I get you so much and I am so grateful I can watch your videos!!!!

I love your daily vlogs! It really motivates me to be productive with my uni work during those strange times. Especially with my undergoing health problems and feeling ill most of the time. Thank you Ruby!

Today was a bad mental health day for me. I couldn't attend my tutorials so will have to catch up this weekend online. Thank you for sharing this side of things, it's not normally spoken about

It is okay to not be okay. I think everyone has anxieties but it does help to face it. Sending hugs. I had ocd and ptsd for years in my early 20's so I know what the feeling of overwhelming anxiety and panic attacks can be like- stay strong.

stay strong ruby, sending you love and support

Being open about it is so important!! This us very true Ruby..sadly alot of people do not open up..😔😪☹ You will be ok..You Tube family are here too 4u...2 stay strong. Also Blakeney too... Look after you and stay safe..😷 Update us on your progress too... Much 💘 love..xx

Everyone has bad days, and mental health is never comparable. Just because somebody else objectively has it worse does not mean your bad mental health isn't valid or deserves as much attention, even though people, the internet and even sometimes mental health services can make you feel like that. It's okay

Just stumbled on your channel and I am so glad I did! You are a beam of light that shines in the darkest spaces. I wish you happiness and good days in your future. :)

this video was exactly what i needed right now, thank you!!

I just wanted to say that you should never feel guilty for struggling with mental health, however privileged you may be, it's important to make our mental health experiences valid. Also I wanted to thank you for posting this video, because it feels so vulnerable yet so close to home.

Thanks Ruby. Being able to share bad days is a huge step in making ourselves well. You are stronger than you probably give yourself credit for.

*sending a virtual hug*

Ye well done Ruby. Very brave indeed

Something that no one is ever told is that there will be times in our lives where we're not happy - even times where it doesn't seem worth it anymore. Hearing this can actually be relieving, we realise that we're not the only ones who struggle. But more importantly, we realise that we have the power to find our way through this struggle.

Very proud of how far you've come

I really appreciate it that you also talk about your vulnerabilities and bad mental days. 💗

i suffer really bad anxiety and i always always always come back to your vlogs or routine videos whenever im having a really bad day. so thank you for being you because you bring me so much comfort. really hope you're feeling okay! sending so much love xxx

I wish you are OK Ruby! It's all going to be okay! Thank you very much for the video! Have a great day tomorrow! ❤️❤️😊👌

Hi Ruby, stay safe! Just make sure that you take the necessary preventive measures and you'll be fine!! ♥︎

Thank youso much, Ruby!! I've been having such a hard time toay... My anxiety has been so bad throughout the day and it's really comforting to know I'm not alone. *PS:* I really love your videos! They always cheer me up.

thank you for sharing your day Ruby, it can be really scary being in the house alone and then thoughts overtake. I also had a rough day things kept going wrong and i got really overwhelmed and started to ovethink . I am scared for the future but whatever it brings we can trust that God has it all in hand and that we will get through this together.

Thank you for sharing Ruby, you’ve made me and I’m sure others feel less alone by being open with this and make sure to take care of yourself

Thank you for having the courage to post this :) it’s nice to know that I’m not the only one in this situation. It really helps out👍🧡

Sweetheart, this might be the best video I've seen of yours. Well done and big hugs.

feeling sorry for Celia is an amazing read, Ruby, I just couldn’t put it down! on a more serious note, thank you so much for sharing this honest and raw footage with us. I was having a bad mental health day too and it’s really helped me deal with my anxieties knowing that I’m not alone. and neither are you. we will get through this as long as we remember that. best wishes 💗

Sending love and positive vibes . 💞☁️

if i am not happy reason always been the person caring me less

Stay strong 💪🏻 sending love❤️

I love your channel, Ruby, and have been watching you for over 4 years! Keep up the good work🥰

Thanks for sharing. I know the feeling of having a bad day and not wanting to talk about it. And consequently, that people and friends always assume that your life is just rainbows and sunshine... Much more often we should remind ourselves that everyone is struggling from time to time.

Thank you for sharing, I was home for two weeks and then had to start going back to work, riding public transit etc I experienced that each week I went back to work got slightly easier and less scary so don't worry you'll slowly feel more comfortable.

Thank you for sharing that love, it helps immensely knowing that everyone is struggling with something, there is some beauty in showing vulnerabilities. Wish you all the best 🌷

I think it's very important that you talk about these. These times are hard on all of us and we need to know we're not alone with our worries. I hope you feel a little better now. :)

but it's okay not to be okay-- that's my fav K drama...🙈

I love your videos they inspire me every day to keep going💕