“I don’t like myself sometimes. Can you help me?” God this scene hits me right in the heart strings

I finally understand this scene. This scene shows the lack of empathy and excessive cruelty Barry was subjected to. This mistreatment and abuse is what lead to his anxiety and distorted self image.

When he smashes the windows, the photos of the sisters all together on the left side wall, and Barry all the way across the room on the right side wall, by himself.

1:11 "Oh, a cake. We have a cake." I love that line it's little, but Barry went out of his way to get this nice gift for his sister and she doesn't even say thank you. Saying they already have a cake, it's like she's saying what Barry did is worthless and he wasn't good enough. That always rubbed me the wrong way lol

What's kinda sad is that they talk so much about how Barry smashed the windows rather than the fact he was building a dog house for a stray dog

Sandler is unreal in this film.

The first 20 seconds of him walking in and out of the door to the party is the most relatable 20 seconds in any movie for me. Society anxiety is a bitch.

“I don’t know if there is anything wrong because I don’t know how other people are” That line breaks my heart

There's something about this movie that just hits different.

“I sometimes cry a lot for no reason” *instantly breaks down*

Watching this in the context of late-in-life ADHD & ASD diagnosis. The overstimulation, the social anxiety and isolation, the masking-hello signs, I missed you.

Toxic sisters. I would snap too.

The way you feel for Barry but cant help howling when he says hes a dentist 😂🙈

I don't have a sister, yet I'm the eldest brother, but this has got to be the most gut-wrenching scene I have ever seen! There's nothing more painful than being looked down by your own siblings!

All the voices in the sound mix puts you right in his brain

"Barry, im a dentist." killed me on my first viewing

This is why I see family every half a decade at a 15 min interval per visit. I feel Barry on this!

I really like this character and Adam Sandler acting in this.

Everything about this movie is deeply loveable.

This scene alone is better than so many books and movies in their entirety. You don’t know how life-like this scene is and how difficult that is to write detail for detail let alone choreograph into a working movie scene

The sisters provoked him as a power play. His anger entertained them.

Imagine being shy and not wanting attention brought to you and your family members says, remember we used to call you gay boy all loud and they don't drop the subject. 😬

I watched this scene when I was a kid and it brought me to tears and I remember a kind of aching feeling wash over me and an overwhelming urge to hug him. I rewatched this as an adult and it still brought me to tears but now I know what I felt was compassion. 💕

4:20 ive never went from not wanting to drop a single tear to sobbing to death so quick

Can we just give Sandler an Oscar? A once in a generation actor.

the way he smashes those windows is legendary.

Reminds me of my sisters. They light a bunch of fires, and as soon as I react, they are all surprised at the consequences.

The epitime of a great scene, both well written and well acted, hilarious and heartbreaking at once.

That last “gay boy” would’ve sent me over the edge too Barry.

The guy that plays Walter The Dentist is the same guy that does the voice of Triumph the Insult Comic Dog

I love how there's no relief or a moment of quietness even after he breaks the window. Just goes to show his frustration and his repression at first.

This quickly became my favorite scene soon after its release and remains so to this day ahaha

Man Adam really shows range in this film

I don’t really see any part of the scene as funny. I think it’s a great snapshot of people who actually feel this way.

PTA films are always masterpieces.

Notice in this scene how Barry's picture is all alone on the other side of the room.

I never knew I would relate this strongly to an Adam Sandler character

THIS is why some ppl are introverts. Because social situations are ANNOYING.

“Business is very food” 😂😂😂

Christ, I feel like this any time I go to a party with a bunch of people already there, especially with family. Even if you love them and they you, it's just so overwhelming: did I miss saying hi to anyone, rice or dandruff, was I stupid to bring a cake or was that fucking rude, turn around another person, turn around another person, oh I missed you yeah hey how you doin? Yeah, yeah, I don't remember. Ha ha yeah, very funny, haha let's move on...please move on. CAN I GET AWAY FROM THESE PEOPLE. gay boy? SNAP.

Underrated as It Is this Is actually my favorite Sandler Role, It shows that he have actual acting skills

this entire scene is just fantastic. I was howling when he broke the glass 😂

How would anyone NOT have anxiety growing up in a house full of these harpies as sisters 😂

2:51 through the right smashed window you can see a picture of Berry... wearing the same suit. 😂

This movie is so underrated!

His best movie in my opinion.

Haven't seen this movie in over a decade but the red/blue dynamic always reminds me of Eyes Wide Shut. It's quite beautiful to look at

That door double take

My friend described this to me perfectly. The first time you watch it it seems like a tragedy. The second time you watch it it’s hilarious

Happy to see Smigel.

This film just hits too close to home it hurts to watch. I really cant bear to watch it. Incredible film tho

I read a review once that stated that this was the closest Adam Sandler would ever get to an Oscar nomination. Such a shame that an actor of such talent could not have gone on to greater things. I have always said Punch Drunk Love is one of the finest representations of mental illness in a Hollywood film. Sandler's performance here is up there with the great 'manic' performances, and I feel his contribution to film was overlooked here. I never had any respect for the man, until I saw this deeply nuanced, intelligent and truley honest porayal of a man on the very edge, hanging on by his fingernails. If only there were more films to really bring home the truth of mental illness..;)

We gotta be there for people like this. We see someone do something like this and immediately judge them and think that they are perpetrators when in reality they could be victims. Always be slow to judge and compassionate.

This might be my favorite scene in any movie.

Incredible. 10/10.

What an oddly cast movie. Robert Smeigel? Awesome. Can't believe this movie happened.

This is me during the holidays 🎉🎉

Excellent film!

Why can I relate to this scene. Many times I've been a hair away from flipping out like this dude lol. I'm sure many others do to. Lol🤣😂

Breaks my heart 💔

This is personally my favorite Sandler movie 🎥 it was a different movie from his other movies his performance is this was amazing he should of won the Golden Globe in 2002

I love this movie! It is a bit quirky and poignant. It is wonderful to see Barry find love in the end.

Barry consoles to someone he mistakes for a psychologist and has a breakdown. Worse, the next day or so, one of the sisters confronts him about his episode which tells him that he cant talk to nobody because they just shamelessly gossip and slander about him openly or behind his back. Barry was a lonely heart through and through and this *family* of his couldnt be mature and considerate toward him.

This was Adam’s funniest film, I’m so glad I watched it

This scene is so relatable it’s scary

It doesn’t make sense why his sisters treat him like shit

if i grew up with a bunch of sisters like that id have emotional problems too

when I speak my mind about something that's bothering me, I start to cry

I remember seeing this in a theatre and the teenagers infront of me complaining and totally not getting it cause they were expecting something like happy Gilmore or mr deeds

Ladies and Gentlemen, the great Paul Thomas Anderson in his prime.

The dentist is played by Robert Smigel, most famously the performer of Triumph the Insult Comic Dog but also a longtime writer for SNL, Conan, TV Funhouse, the Dana Carvey Show, and many other projects. Sandler isn't the only one showing their dramatic chops here.

I love Sandler's performance as Gay Boy

He needs love. I love this movie ❤

Business is very food, thank you

Oof, this clip got me 🥺 I saw this movie on a date. We were supposed to get dinner after and that didn’t happen.

Literally me with my sisters who all have kids and I'm the single weird loner

If I had to deal with those cackling hens, I would have rage issues too.

I have 4 sisters. They arent this bad but they are tremendously unaware. I can only take them in small doses a few times a month. This is in my top 5 films of all time. I relate way too much to Barry.

This scene was the best part of the movie

2:50 Literally any 49ers fan when their team lost the Super Bowl (minus the broken TV)

2:55🤣

Sandler should do more drama instead of silly ass comedy. He's capable of acting. This and Click are two of my favorite Sandler film

In this film Adam is amazing... PTA Made

As a man who's had only 4 sisters and no brother... Ouch. I can't fully relate (mainly to the violent outburst) but I can definitely relate on well-being gestures but get overshadowed and being shy and alone because you don't have Brothers and only sisters. My sisters learned to accept me for what I am and will help me when I need it but damn, watching this... ouch.

Barry you can't go to other ppl house breaking windows. But I love you

I need to rewatch this movie. I think I found it a little too slow when I first saw it. Nonetheless Sandler was incredible in it. Just watching him here I was very impressed with his acting.

Mood

Can relate to Barry so much. Thoughtful sweet guy surrounded by ahhholes. The gaslighting makes him insane n sadly thinks somethings wrong with him.

I watched this movie as a teenager when it came out and hated it but now I totally can relate to Barry's character....

This is the scene i refer people to when they say Adam can't do dramatic parts.

From 01:41 that woman... I think she got some slavic name. She was the geek assistant of Jack Bauer in 24.

SALT. THE. SNAIL.

"Gay boy" sounds like a place holder that was supposed to be replaced with something more realistic before filming started.

I have the same anxious feeling anytime I have to go home. Just the constant noise and yelling and tension always made me feel kinda sick. My family has changed a lot and it's not as bad as it used to be but the feeling of going home still stresses me out for days before. This film really helped me understand my own feelings. I have 3 sisters and I come from a family of mostly women, it can be so exhausting sometimes. I've never lost it however. I did once but my sister laughed at me because I'd never released anger before. It felt like I only let out 50% at the time but her reaction seemed to lock down something inside me. Family ay!

What is a scene for you that you didn't understand when you were younger but came to understand as you got older? For me, it's the window smashing scene in punch drunk love. I can't really explain it, but I've been so frustrated I've wanted to break every window in sight.

4:17 fuuuck....I need to watch this

Barry Cries *reach out to console, but recover by awkwardly palming own belly*

Hi Barry

Wew homeboy needs to let go of the pressure and put his middle fingers up

His sisters would drive me nuts to lol.