The ~darkside~ of skincare: the cost of perfect skin & "looking pretty (pt. 2)

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We all wanna ✨look good✨ and have perfect skin right? Today Fel & Ro ask each other, ‘who are you really doing it for?’ Fel talks about her motivations of clearing acne-prone skin to fit in, Ro reminisces back on the days of NastyGal fashion trends and how we’re potentially dressing for the ‘male gaze’. What about self-less acts like gift giving? Are the subconscious intentions we have when doing altruistic acts of kindness? Where does the crave to ‘look pretty’, sense of belonging and feeling loved come from? All this and more in the conversation. Let us know your thoughts on the topic below!
📕 Fel's book mention: The Courage to Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi: amzn.to/45eM0aS
Timestamps:
0:00 Catching up with Felili and Rowewe (in the same studio)
0:39 “How much of everything we do is actually for ourselves?”
2:24 How did Fel get into beauty and what’s her view now?
5:37 Defining the “sense of self” from younger and older years
7:45 Rowena’s journey of self (from eczema to edgy NastyGal fashion)
9:45 Let’s talk about the Male Gaze
11:58 The impact of social media on mental health
13:29 “Why do I care?” & Burnout
15:18 The Other Extreme: Fear & Being Uncomfortable
17:00 Learning to overcome anxiety
18:42 How does Fel view skincare now?
19:20 Beauty for others + “social contracts”
21:45 “Why should I help others be more comfortable?”
24:27 Example from “The Courage to Be Disliked”
26:00 Viewing Kindness from the Lens of the Self
27:40 Friendships & Expectations
29:30 The things Ro did for herself recently
32:00 Learning to take a step back (destress & communicate)
35:19 Wrapping up the chat!
35:52 Special announcement for Beauty Within! (Teaser)
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Пікірлер: 29

@Search4Cherise 11 ай бұрын

As a black woman in education, I know I get treated differently in the world based on how I present myself.

@ofkgjsl 11 ай бұрын

love how this channel turned into my therapy

@joannegracelleyap8277 11 ай бұрын

It’s so nice to see both of you in one screen again!

@israelaburto1969 10 ай бұрын

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@lenaedyse9634 11 ай бұрын

You can't turn off emotions. However, you can learn to not let emotions control you by accepting what your currently feeling and controlling how you respond to it.

@Omg_sade 11 ай бұрын

You’re back and together again! Welcome back!

@chloespencer4272 11 ай бұрын

Such an interesting topic! I have been struggling with this for a year or two and, at the age of 27, I made the decision to throw away all my makeup. I didn't enjoy using it and was only wearing it for other people, it just felt like a chore. I don't care if others wear it or don't but it didn't feel authentic for me. At times it hasn't been easy to go makeup free and feel confident but I'm happy with the decision I made. Now I do my skincare for me, because I enjoy it, and try not to worry about other proples opinion on if I should be wearing makeup or not. Still a work in progress!

@jessywanders8829 11 ай бұрын

I've only used foundation about 5 times in my acne life experience. It never made me feel better. It just made the acne look worse. I have learned to care for myself better. I exercise, eat better and just tell myself I am beautiful.

@CluelessBeauty 11 ай бұрын

I would have had a similar kind of edgy style that Ro was talking about as a teenager, but stoped dressing like that in my late teen and early 20s as I got a lot of unwanted male attention in the form of cat calling. So digging deeper into it I have started dressing a bit more edgy again and I am now 26, I realised that I stopped dressing the way I wanted in order to protect myself from the male gaze at a young age, and hiding what actually made me feel like myself

@shingal6 11 ай бұрын

Missed you ladies! I love listening to the podcasts. Please keep it coming. Also, I’m excited for the launch! Can’t wait! ❤

@changveronicas 11 ай бұрын

love yall!!

@missalaric3310 9 күн бұрын

I love this videos sooo much 💗! Made me think about a lot of stuff but in a positive way 😌

@rehannamahabir5567 10 ай бұрын

To be honest I really enjoyed listening to this even on Apple podcast and Spotify because I feel the same way of going through anxiety. When I tell people about my anxiety they just don’t understand ,most of them understand and some don’t understand but still it hard to overcome it listening to this is more comforting and thank you really I am looking forward to the other podcast episode can’t wait

@sanaevans562 11 ай бұрын

You both are so amazing and beautiful! Great topic, thanks! Fel, have you shared somewhere in the videos on this channel how had you cleared acne with skincare?

@sanaevans562 11 ай бұрын

I've found lots of them. Saying hello to bingewatching) Thank you girls

@utterlystories 11 ай бұрын

glow with ava😂 that’s the surprise

@churiash63 11 ай бұрын

could you give me a cleanser and toner recommendation for oily combo skin? (i still can't find a perfect one for me) both of you are way too beautiful for this world❤ thank u for all the work you do❤❤❤❤❤❤

@aubreyharper4829 11 ай бұрын

First! Thank you!

@lotussong1 11 ай бұрын

When I started to get acne around 11 or 12, my interest in skincare began. However, my interest in K-beauty was only about 10 or more years ago. Now as a nearly 42 year old Korean-American woman, I’m glad I took preventive steps (not just skincare) to slow down aging from the inside out. Here in the U.S., I’m often mistaken for being in my 20s. However, that probably wouldn’t happen in S. Korea though. 😅

@Azriel619 11 ай бұрын

Can you plsssss make a skin care routine for combination skin with closed comedone ❤️❤️❤️

@Search4Cherise 11 ай бұрын

Respectability politics really impact how we present in the world.

@tta1390 11 ай бұрын

The krave formulation has changed and it feels more like a moisturizer in my skin. Do you have any other cleanser recommendations for dry skin

@livelaughloveakhi 11 ай бұрын

I think also considering what is considered “professional” has also been influenced by the white men you were mainly in that space before (in America at least)

@annasivcheva9032 11 ай бұрын

A little of topic, but i have dark circles and a little bit a smile lines while I'm still 13. I want to ask should i add products to my routine (if yes pls give some affordable recommendations) or should i stick to "natural" methods like hot towels and that kinda stuff?