Before Cutting Someone Off LISTEN TO THIS! | Cutting People Off
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Күн бұрынVisit 👉 www.StephanSpeaksShop.com - Cutting someone off may be exactly what you need to do. BUT! do not take that step until you listen to this to make sure you don't overlook this important step.
You have to embrace developing healthy communication skills when dealing with people. Whether it's cutting people off, or trying to make things work...you should always be sure to fully express yourself and your concerns.
Dating gets easier when you learn how to better communicate with men and communicate with women. A lack of effective communication has created so many issues, and not allowed some to have easily fixed what they felt was broken.
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"Letting go is usually not easy, but it can be extremely necessary."
This isn't just dating advice for women. This applies to men as well. Embrace taking a better and more effective approach in your dating and relationships. I'm giving you communication tips that will help you immensely, but you have to be willing to implement them.
So if you're considering letting them go, walking away from a man (or woman), and moving on from that relationship...talk to them first.
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@ruthkyeremateng6065 2 жыл бұрын
What of they are playing games like hot and cold with you , do you need to address it, when he doesn't talk to you and then appears acting all nice and warm , is there any case to address because you know they are not serious about anything
@bluebirdie7241 2 жыл бұрын
@@ruthkyeremateng6065 NO! If you are being played with you don't need to talk to them, and you shouldn't talk to them at all. Just cut them off out of your life forever. I think that he means that his advice applies when people have a real relationship especially a long term relationship when there's no abuse or disrespect. Someone playing games with you IS NOT A REAL RELATIONSHIP. That's some jerk inflating his ego by playing games with you.
@ruthkyeremateng6065 2 жыл бұрын
@@bluebirdie7241 thanks that's what exactly I did
@john4808 4 жыл бұрын
When people show you who they are, you need to believe them!
@kated315 4 жыл бұрын
Absolutely!!
@kated315 4 жыл бұрын
Especially when they straight out tell you! Mine told me there's alot of people that'd be happy if he was dead..... I believe it
@loridori 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you!
@mananakhiski3253 4 жыл бұрын
John 480 thank you yesss
@michee144 4 жыл бұрын
@@kated315 My last dude ...told me... it's not you.. I'm just an asshole.
@linrey3397 4 жыл бұрын
The mistake is not cutting them off as soon as they disrespect you. Ive found talking hasn't gotten me anywhere. They just play stupid and continue disrespecting you, then act surprise when you let them go.
@zmcfadgen 4 жыл бұрын
Exactly! Talking has made no lasting positive difference
@rachel-ig9rw 4 жыл бұрын
Dudddeee..so trueee
@webuysellhousesaptscashoff9453 3 жыл бұрын
Ammmen
@sathuisbae 3 жыл бұрын
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
@pamelamallory6142 3 жыл бұрын
Exactly girl u did right
@TheJaiNetwork 4 жыл бұрын
Sometimes the best conversation to have with someone is no conversation.. I’m not about lecturing adults about why they were in the wrong.. too many adults wanting to receive discipline like they are children. You’re an adult.. figure out why you’re cut off or don’t figure it out.. it’s not my problem anymore
@nellyginindza927 3 жыл бұрын
Couldn't have said it better❤🤣😂
@ashjade86 3 жыл бұрын
Amen.
@skyfall1481 3 жыл бұрын
Agree. What’s the point? You’re never going to see or talk to them again anyway.
@freestyle7951 3 жыл бұрын
That's how I see it ....I don't have anything more to say after boundaries have been crossed.
@b.k.r.doggielover5449 3 жыл бұрын
I totally agree with you!👍
@thelifeofvedamariiee1485 4 жыл бұрын
If he’s a narcissistic person he wont care so it’s no talking.
@blahmayne910 4 жыл бұрын
Thelifeof VedaMariiee facts.... no matter what you , ain’t nothing will change
@Glo_up576 4 жыл бұрын
Yes they do care .... they hate you ! How dare you cut them off ect !
@THAQUEENB82 4 жыл бұрын
Right!
@MrsWhite-ys2ok 4 жыл бұрын
Thelifeof VedaMariiee So True❤️
@americanbeauty171 4 жыл бұрын
Damn!!
@lashondarochell7584 4 жыл бұрын
Situationships should be cut off immediately! Taking my own advice
@ScaryToRemarry 4 жыл бұрын
LaShonda Rochell preach
@tiffanyhoward9935 4 жыл бұрын
Yes!
@winnieboateng5334 4 жыл бұрын
Thank youuu👏🏽👏🏽
@gh2543 4 жыл бұрын
Amen sis! Been there, done that! 🤦🏾✌🏾🙏🏾💯
@d0cn0tes 4 жыл бұрын
spoken like a champion!
@farfetched9296 4 жыл бұрын
All ppl have to do is BE HONEST. Understand rejection is fine. It means the person isn't right for you. That's fine to.
@brandywalkenten9085 4 жыл бұрын
What gets me is why lie to me? How come they think I can’t handle the truth ? And if that’s how they see me, they shouldn’t be around. I can handle the truth. The fact that I give someone my time demands they at least owe me the truth if nothing Else.
@poweidethompson7256 3 жыл бұрын
Exactly
@Calicapenergy88 2 жыл бұрын
Absolutely. I even told a guy this and said if I wasn’t for him that’s fine but to continue the lie is the issue. I’m always honest
@mmowec8159 2 жыл бұрын
Many ppl are not emotionally mature /intelligent enough to be honest. And this statement may go over some people's heads and they won't really understand what I'm truly saying here. People who are dishonest with others are also dishonest with themselves. The goal here is to only deal with people who honor your values...that's what I've learned. Many things boil down to values.....
@TDS1281 Жыл бұрын
Exactly!! Just be honest.
@CrystalReneeMusic 4 жыл бұрын
No, no, NO! Do not talk to them. THEY KNOW WHAT THEY DID! They meant to do it too! At the 1st sign of disrespect, manipulation, or disregard, cut them off! If they don't understand proper relationship etiquette by now, they never will, and its not your job to teach grown ppl what they should already know. Cut they a** off immediately, with no conversation attached.
@gypsyspirit8472 4 жыл бұрын
delicate jewel 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
@KT-gm1no 4 жыл бұрын
Preach!
@eddielambert2810 4 жыл бұрын
Yesssssssss ❤
@quratbaloch4480 4 жыл бұрын
👏
@valenachristopher3596 4 жыл бұрын
delicate jewel no they did it ......that doesn’t mean they comprehend how you feel about what they said or did....biting your tongue knowing you don’t like how your being treated is when we wanna walk away......without proper communication
@tinawashington2325 3 жыл бұрын
Before I cut ✂my ex off I calmy let him know why, I gave him an opportunity to speak. We agreed and wished him well and let it go ✌. No drama, no negativity...The best way to go. 👋
@RawDogTV 2 жыл бұрын
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@BUCK9110 2 жыл бұрын
Now you're a very intelligent young lady that's how you should handle the situation. Because if you see that person later on down the road a year two years from now you won't have hard feelings about each other. Bemature adults talked it out so if you do see each other later on down the road you'd be happy to see one another whether you or him have a relationship it's all about respect communication. you met on a positive note you ended on a positive note.
@dangerusscurvs4709 4 жыл бұрын
My time is precious. If you can't keep up with me, you don't deserve me. Hasta la vista baby......
@roseoningo8748 4 жыл бұрын
I know 😂😂 especially when he's giving the silent treatment 🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️🤦🏾♀️
@Kayla-qs8rh 4 жыл бұрын
Period!!!
@Stronger2gether 4 жыл бұрын
Exactly 😄😄. I anit doggin any men but i call a man like that a WOT, a waste of time. If I see a man that is a WOT I say to myself "oh he's a WOT". I waste no more precious time.
@anitafreeman6181 3 жыл бұрын
Right On! :-)
@2delicious57 2 жыл бұрын
Agree, if you can communicate and be patient you not ready to be in a relationship. Adios
@lonnierashid6812 4 жыл бұрын
ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS!!! Enough said📌
@farfetched9296 4 жыл бұрын
Can't even trust actions. A person will give you everything then take it away TRAPPING you into believing they'll go back to being the person you met when it was all a lie
@yeahthatsme921 4 жыл бұрын
Actions are lazy if a man ain't trying to change your life.... I'm not talking about a time waste
@Adorablenerd295 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you !!!!!
@allandjohnson7813 4 жыл бұрын
Real talk, I'm a action person
@lonnierashid6812 4 жыл бұрын
Tough Shit ...True...Actions & Words should be in agreement with each other!
@TonettaClay 3 жыл бұрын
Communication is always key. Sitting down and talking. Very simple, but many can't do this still. We've gotta get better.
@RawDogTV 2 жыл бұрын
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@exception05 4 ай бұрын
I'm surprised how many people disagree with the video. I also disagree that you need to talk. For example if I had around 10 so called friends for 15-20 and they were kinda nice to me, but practically didn't cared about me for last 10 years... I don't see if honest communication is possible. Grown people either understand it or not.
@intuitiveempath7315 3 жыл бұрын
Most men don't want to talk, they just stop communicating and go ghost mode. I have no choice because at that point I've given too much of my energy..
@sehrishkhalid126 3 жыл бұрын
Exactly.. they stop communicating when they were texting you like crazy day & night
@intuitiveempath7315 2 жыл бұрын
@@alihaqqani6205 not a good trait to posses because your ego is in your way of finding true happiness. Karma is what you put out to the Universe. You get it back ten folds. Be more aware of how we treat people. Never know you could be entertaining an Angel.
@RawDogTV 2 жыл бұрын
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@sparklinggirl3016 2 жыл бұрын
@@intuitiveempath7315 need a suggestion from you. Actually I have a guy friend who just removed me 2 days ago. I really liked that guy and I was pretty sure that he liked me too but we never talked about it. The only source of communication was snapchat from which I have been removed now because I sent him my brother's snap but he didn't know that he is my brother and right after watching my snap he removed me. I thought he took it wrong. He was a shy guy I know because he never tried flirting with me and I think he thought that the guy in snap( who is actually my brother) is someone special of mine. He just walked away like this which is really hurting me. I removed him as well when I got to know that he removed me but still I miss so badly. What should I do? I don't want to initiate because he removed me without even thinking for a sec. I am just hoping that he comes back.
@intuitiveempath7315 2 жыл бұрын
@@sparklinggirl3016 baby girl the way I see it if he was so quick to just go ghost like that to remove you rather I wouldn't even worry about it because that was too easy for him he got his guards up he's been hurt before really bad from what Im getting,, I would just keep moving on with my life and not worry about and don't stress yourself up by trying to wonder and worry about what's going on with him and why he hasn't reached out,, yet he removed you for his own personal reasons it's nothing you did wrong so don't beat yourself up okay. You are a beautiful soul that deserves real love. You may be like me, it's meant for me to be a free bird and fly high and spread my Empathy Energy to all God's creatures bog or small..Keep your head up💗 your emperor awaits. Love yourself and the rest will follow...
@Quinette76 4 жыл бұрын
Can’t have a conversation with a narcissistic person. I get yelled at, called names, this person don’t like to talk, he text. So I text it to him.
@latesia4 4 жыл бұрын
Omg I can relate and I end up feeling worse than I did before it started
@candiedwards974 4 жыл бұрын
Latesia Thomas, Been there, I don’t want to go back to that!
@mckaylawilliams2951 4 жыл бұрын
I can totally relate
@slimdougmaddox4634 4 жыл бұрын
Sounds like somebody that don't care about/respect you.
@joyfuldee3640 4 жыл бұрын
So True, I'm in one too, He yells, And don't want to hear are care too and don't care about how you feel at all about that
@thesage250 4 жыл бұрын
Some people are toxic. They may have been taking advantage of you for years and when you suddenly get that epiphany that this person is narcissistic and selfish. What is there to really talk about?
@nomthandazondebele4266 4 жыл бұрын
I’ve learnt to walk away immediately when I see red flags, I do have the conversation first though before walking away.
@crystalfuentes330 3 жыл бұрын
Letting someone go you love is one of the hardest things to do. You have to love yourself and do what’s best for you. 🥰 Thank you
@RawDogTV 2 жыл бұрын
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@newnew-mv1uj 2 жыл бұрын
Amen
@daleunderdue6935 4 жыл бұрын
Sometimes a relationship cannot be changed or saved. When a person is being talked "at" instead of "to", consistently, then it is time to move on.
@spacelyman9482 4 жыл бұрын
I totally agree.
@maureengannaway8635 3 жыл бұрын
Yeeeees!... this happened to me today...when this narcissistic bastard said "you can hang up"...this is what I did and now I'm gonna be ok...point, blank, period!
@sweetestescapespa 4 жыл бұрын
I told my ex of his actions many times but he still continued with his narcissistic self. Didn't realize how toxic it was until long after.. took me a few years but I found the strength to leave him after 4 years in January. Presently, I'm the happiest I've ever been without him. Ain't God good
@ILuvMyBrwnSkin 4 жыл бұрын
All the time!
@toshiaowens8413 4 жыл бұрын
I knooow that’s right narcissistic men are the worst.... I left one in 2019!!! Very bad toxic and a very big deficient not a strong asset at all!!!!
@charlenecarter_cc 4 жыл бұрын
😥
@ladennayoung2939 4 жыл бұрын
Thank God you let him alone. I pray the Lord continue to give you the strength to stay away from him in Jesus name.
@cherish.o.m4453 4 жыл бұрын
God is good.
@casandrahornerdbamaomnp3046 4 жыл бұрын
When you have given ample time, and had several conversations that never led to progression within the relationship, then do yourself and the other person a favor by cutting off efforts of pursuit and waiting for them. Maintain a clear conscious without regret while keeping your self-respect intact.
@allandjohnson7813 4 жыл бұрын
Amen, ty
@koolb4676 4 жыл бұрын
Amen
@newnew-mv1uj 2 жыл бұрын
So so true
@ElevatedEndeavors 4 жыл бұрын
I’m cutting off someone I’ve been in a Situationship with for the last year. I gave him benefit of doubt because we have similar interests in lifestyle and intellectual expression. I felt we were similar types of people and felt deep comfort with him. But despite this I notice he did a lot of bad behaviors I’ve outgrown. I gave him understanding and patience, even communicating (despite having history of being ice queen Aquarius with cutting people off lol). Im cutting him off because I don’t want to waste my positive energy as well as my loving energy. Last times we were together he was snippy with me over minor things and was acting like I annoyed him. No thanks. I don’t see you often and when I do treating me poorly is my cut off point.
@evka24 4 жыл бұрын
some people cant tell u whats bothering them and expect u to investigate...to find out and make it better..u could ask if is anything was bothering him...if he says no...and carry on being nasty...cut off....
@MsLiaStyle 3 жыл бұрын
Same. I don't need to be snipped at and feel like I'm annoying to the person I just flew across the country to spend time with. It was humiliating. Thank you and goodbye. No explanation required. I feel zero compunction about ignoring him and his breadcrumb texts.
@5710bryantk 3 жыл бұрын
Part-time muse wow many things you said reminds me of my current situationship,I'm 6 months in trying to decide what to do now .
@karlaromero6672 3 жыл бұрын
How do yall manage to last so long in a situationship? I feel that I've been in one for less than a month and I'm ready to call it quits. He's a love bug in person but dry texting me for the past 2 weeks, my insecure self can't deal with inconsistency. I married my high-school sweetheart and got divorced a year ago. This whole dating thing is so new to me, Its exhausting. I don't wanna repeat the cycle over and over again till I find "the right one".
@ElevatedEndeavors 3 жыл бұрын
@@karlaromero6672 honestly girl I was dealing with having been in a relationship with someone who completely smothered me and constantly overstepped my boundaries with over possessiveness. I ended things fairly quick then met someone who was completely opposite. The polarizing experiences were overwhelming and I didn’t give myself enough time to process how I felt about both. It was totally my own fault and I understand that now that I’ve decided to wait on giving my time to someone who doesn’t meet all my standards. Also reinforcing “mixed signals” as no signal because I don’t owe anyone my time who isn’t straightforward when I am. I have stayed true to this when in the past I would’ve let boredom put me in situations that I knew were not for me.
@bossladymsp2885 4 жыл бұрын
This video popped up as I am thinking off cutting them off sooner rather than later..
@maingikuria7205 4 жыл бұрын
Just typed this precise thought a few minutes before I saw yours
@traquilasmith2275 4 жыл бұрын
Right me to i was about to do the same thing yesterday.
@verademorah3711 4 жыл бұрын
For me I was about to do it now lol
@nompilolungisabrilliantmba2135 4 жыл бұрын
I was like is KZfaq reading my mind now?
@maditidiaz9066 4 жыл бұрын
Same thing with me but that doesn’t mean is a sign or whatever not to do it. Imma still cut him off lol I can’t keep doing this shit no more 💔
@uanip1341 4 жыл бұрын
People don’t respect each other anymore enough to have conversations #sosad
@rockfresh5359 4 жыл бұрын
Facts im not having conversations with single mothers that's settling 💯😂
@hopewilson5359 4 жыл бұрын
Some do and some don't!
@uanip1341 4 жыл бұрын
Hope Wilson exactly
@mya2695 4 жыл бұрын
Marisa Peer I am enough you tube videos
@jesusislordstreetministry8440 4 жыл бұрын
Uani P 🙏
@kimberkattstarz1410 4 жыл бұрын
I just cut someone off. Not even 1 month. Im not dealing with someone that's ok with ignoring and ghosting me in the beginning. I will be the one that suffers if I keep it around. He served his purpose i suppose but if I ok him treating me like that in the beginning it'll only go downhill in the future! I let him know why as well. I was nice about it
@lislourenco8630 4 жыл бұрын
Some years ago I was madly in love with a guy who apparently had the same feelings. He even used to tell people that I was the one. However, he had strange behaviours, sometimes would just disappear and not answering my messages and than would come back several days/months without giving me an explanation. So I decided to cut him off when one day he just disappeared again. It was really weird and hurtful. So I made an agreement with God. If God would heal me from that pain I would never, never contact him again. It has passed 5 years already and he keeps texting me without getting a response.
@tiffanyjohnson4271 3 жыл бұрын
He lost one!😁
@jayjamal685 3 жыл бұрын
hey liz
@truarnett5519 3 жыл бұрын
Way to go, Sister! No one is worth your relationship with God. 🙏💙🙏💙🙏
@barbarandanga2005 3 жыл бұрын
Block him. His messages and calls should not even be able to reach you. Very proud of you.💜
@cate774 Жыл бұрын
This is exactly what happened to me months ago..... I cut him off after several disappointments........II did the right thing.....
@ladyJ_000 4 жыл бұрын
Self worth is a serious weapon, you only need to show me once your true colours, I don’t need to give you an explanation, your narsasistic self knows what you’ve done. Nexxxtttt!
@fatimah230 4 жыл бұрын
Lady J 💅🏿👉🏿💃🏿
@Shon9tilR 4 жыл бұрын
Yes!
@allandjohnson7813 4 жыл бұрын
💯💪
@evka24 4 жыл бұрын
beautifully said
@parisdavis270 4 жыл бұрын
Exactly!!! With me it only takes ONE TIME meaning I will only express myself one time and in a effective manner
@sahtification 4 жыл бұрын
You don't need to talk with the person. This will just give the person the way back to you, great manipulators can turn everything you said in their favor. Everyone older than 30 already learn everything he could about himself and internalized behaviors, he was already called out about that thing by their ex. Block and bye
@lamonicasullivan3636 4 жыл бұрын
AMEN
@snowblacc369 4 жыл бұрын
A honest conversation not just a conversation, discern
@33ladyRAM 4 жыл бұрын
Facts...when a person show you who they are by their toxic actions...say goodbye!
@Tanty_Tamz 4 жыл бұрын
Simple😂
@kayegordon861 4 жыл бұрын
@@snowblacc369 agree. The difference in your type of conversation might, just might help them, even if you don't continue in the relationship.
@gioovannabp 4 жыл бұрын
"Abandon sincere communication when communicating with the insincere"
@msg3tr1ght 3 жыл бұрын
Whewwww
@lovelee8389 Жыл бұрын
Love this dang!
@katrinaj7173 4 жыл бұрын
Too many people are afraid of having that talk or a serious conversation.
@MyBluebonnet 4 жыл бұрын
It’s a delicate situation! Most women are willing to give 1000 chances and most are over communicators and so for many that cold turkey cut-off is the only way they can move on to a healthier self and relationship. When you always comeback to communicate your next action it gives that person a window to tell you what you “need to hear”.A temporary “promise” until it fades out again! The best thing an ex ever did to me was cut me off lol while I wasn’t the toxic one I was able to heal and live without him (he thought he was punishing me) and when he tried coming back I was so over and had a clear vision of things!!!
@sheloves3663 4 жыл бұрын
Yep. I had to do this with my ex. Helped me move on easier. Best decision I ever made after 5 years 💜
@clarkclarke 4 жыл бұрын
Same here ..... didn't cut off when I should have .... Did have the talk after ... However I did not want to get back with him
@shshbeenreal338 4 жыл бұрын
bonnet I wasn’t tryna punish I knew I wasn’t gonna do right & I didn’t wanna continue to hurt her because I still wanted to fuck around
@terryrabon9677 4 жыл бұрын
@@sheloves3663 Yes I can relates
@gh2543 4 жыл бұрын
Same thing happened to me. He cut me off cold turkey with no explanation, no closure. Just ghosted me after 2 years in a relationship with him. He got married, and has a kid. Guess what?? He came back after 3 years of no contact trying to be FRIENDS. Yeah right! I ignored him, and of course he didn't have no remorse and acted innocent. Sorry not sorry but this door is 🔒. Move on!!! ✌🏾🙏🏾💃
@joygraydon8830 4 жыл бұрын
I did this a lot. I rejected them before I got rejected. Yes, communication is key.
@philisiwegalela7220 3 жыл бұрын
There's only so much we can take, I've expressed myself more than once.. Gave him second with all red flags but still actions never aligned with his words.. What's best for me is to work away and focus on myself.
@RawDogTV 2 жыл бұрын
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@ladawnjones1605 4 жыл бұрын
Everybody CAN'T be replaced. Some people are acually one of a kind.
@yeahthatsme921 4 жыл бұрын
Please
@yeahthatsme921 4 жыл бұрын
Its just makeup😂
@ladawnjones1605 4 жыл бұрын
@@yeahthatsme921 I wouldnt knw because I dont wear makeup *shruggs*
@freestyle7951 3 жыл бұрын
Everyone can be replaced by someone who is better for you.
@truarnett5519 3 жыл бұрын
Everyone can be replaced! That is why we should not take each other for granted. 🙏💙🙏💙🙏
@Mageorgiba 4 жыл бұрын
When a woman has been in a cycle of toxic relationships for most of her relationship life then she finally breaks free from the cycle, It can be challenging at times to not cut off some people with certain "familiar" toxic traits but like Stephan said, when communication has been acted upon and the person still behaves the same way, you need to CUT IT.
@jayc677 4 жыл бұрын
That's my survival tool especially if I see the signs...but I probably blew a couple good things too jumpin the gun with the cutoff
@18QueenHearts 4 жыл бұрын
Agreed!! Definitely something I have had to be mindful of!!
@andreagreen1133 4 жыл бұрын
well said, sister!
@ebonyessence8 4 жыл бұрын
That is a great point!
@rae13bsgirl 4 жыл бұрын
This is me after I had a narcissistic relationship I left. I dont let no man play with me idc. If you playing with me in anyway you gotta go.
@ScaryToRemarry 4 жыл бұрын
So many of us lack patience. When it comes to communication, learn to not be defensive. Affirm your spouse or significant other feelings.
@jdouce6074 4 жыл бұрын
Amen
@erikasmith8894 2 жыл бұрын
Amen.🙌🏻
@2delicious57 2 жыл бұрын
The best comment
@carolcielle Жыл бұрын
Well said! We're too quick to throw in the towel. We're constantly looking for perfection from others when we ourselves are not perfect.
@shieldoffaith7099 4 жыл бұрын
I disagree with this video advice for many of the reasons here. I love these comments as it reminds me that I am not a sheep. If something doesn't fit right. Don't follow it. Trusting my intuition. I owe no one a conversation. If I decide enough is enough. That's enough.
@b.k.r.doggielover5449 3 жыл бұрын
That's the truth. There's a song with Barbara Streisand and Donna Summer, titled, "Enough is Enough." And, that song helped me through many failed relationships in the '80's. As a matter of fact, I am going to put that song on my playlists!
@shieldoffaith7099 3 жыл бұрын
@@b.k.r.doggielover5449 😅 Lovely .. I haven't heard that song for years...I'm gonna listen now 💃🏽...very timely
@b.k.r.doggielover5449 3 жыл бұрын
I listened to that song, over and over last night. It's the 8 minute version. I put it on as loud as it would go! That song is very healing. And, those 2 powerful voices, Donna Summer and Barbara Streisand, bring about strength to let go of toxic relationships. At least, for me it does. I put that song, "Enough is Enough," on all 4 of my playlists. I can't believe I didn't think of that song, until I read your comment!👍 And, it's very strange how that came about. I'm glad it did. Your comment came just in the nick of time, for me. Thank you, again, for your comment. ❤🥰
@truarnett5519 3 жыл бұрын
I believe it depends upon how serious the issue is. If it is something like he said that can be corrected and they're not willing, then I would not discuss anything further with them. But sometimes it is a misunderstanding and communication styles. I do try to talk things out with a person regardless of the type of relationship or friendship. Then if they engage in the dismissive behavior of my feelings then they're gone.
@2delicious57 2 жыл бұрын
I disagree with these comment for many good reason here. I love the Bible as it reminds me the difference between people with god and people without god know as godless. People need to ask god for advice instead of listening to they’re evil opinions and beliefs of others that’s are godless
@chelumwenifumbo9983 4 жыл бұрын
I'd rather not cheat. I leave! Straight up💯 Especially when I've tried my part to make things work and the other party wont cooperate. I figured that how a person treats you says a whole lot more than what they tell you. Words are cheap! Anybody can afford them.
@truarnett5519 3 жыл бұрын
Words are cheap! Anyone can afford them. Great insight!
@mefme8442 4 жыл бұрын
Just my opinion....You cant force someone to talk...if they are not willing to be open and transparent once you put all your cards on the table then it's in your best interest to walk away.
@jasminemorales6605 4 жыл бұрын
Jacquet Scarbrough ain’t that the darn truth!!
@jasminemorales6605 4 жыл бұрын
Ain’t that the truth!!
@aav_n 4 жыл бұрын
Exactly. It can be dangerous too. I thank God he told me many things and kept me safe.......... 🖤 I wish only I've listened earlier.......... I know the pain doesn't compare to the joy God has promised is coming..... Thank you for the beautiful community too💙🌈
@nicoledamian4615 3 жыл бұрын
I agree with this
@Amazing77712 4 жыл бұрын
I actually am going to cut someone off. You can have the conversation and the person can say they hear you, make some adjustments, but still doesn't get that some of their actions are just not acceptable. You cannot keep giving chance after chance to someone who clearly just wants to waste your time! Value yourself first! If they really wanted it to work out, there would be some direction, a goal, i.e. dating with a purpose! Amen!
@delovelyday430 4 жыл бұрын
Amen
@Frainkey 4 жыл бұрын
Blunt honesty. Exactly to the letter of what he was saying. Discernment of healthy and unhealthy whateverships goes a long way. Keep making mistakes. Unhealthy straight off. These are sadly the places where more give there most energy to. It's the heathlier ones people tend to cut off too soon in fear of it becoming unhealthy.
@missaliciaray 4 жыл бұрын
I agree. I see a lot of people saying there is no point in talking, & that sounds like a big defense mechanism. Just because you talked to someone doesn't mean that effective communication occurred.. A soft tone & kind words doesn't mean effective communication has occurred. Another good point is honesty. A lot of people can barely be honest with themselves these days. 🤷🏽♀️
@msjreneful 4 жыл бұрын
I respectfully disagree with this entire video. I have to say this is an example of the limitations a man sometimes have when offering advice to women. They do not have a woman’s intuition. I’m sure it’s well intentioned, but it’s not healthy/sound advice. When a woman is at the point of cutting someone off that she is with or hopes to grow with/has interest in, it is typically past due and well deserved. Most relationship books agree that women are more communicative about their needs than men - especially when they still care. When a woman goes silent it’s because it’s a wrap and we’re tired of the wasted energy. Ladies, follow your intuition and do what’s for your highest good. Block can be your best friend for your own emotional and mental health. We KNOW when miscommunication is happening because the person does not care enough to change the behavior. If you continue to engage, be prepared for a Ferris wheel of confusion, anxiety, stagnation, and game playing. Cutting someone off is most likely to preserve your dignity and self respect. Don’t force what doesn’t fit! #divinefeminine
@cyansimon1654 4 жыл бұрын
msjreneful Sis I agree with everything you’ve just said. If my intuition is screaming at me that something’s off, something is off and I ain’t sticking around to find out what that is. What is sent by God for me will find a way to remain in my life.
@rebekahmurphy2797 4 жыл бұрын
Yes, this hits it perfectly ❤❤
@-love-life3267 4 жыл бұрын
Well said... Men know what they want and will act right when they want it. If you have to constantly struggle with them for respect, you are wasting time, mostly yours cause he may already have other options. Move on with your head held high.
@mya2695 4 жыл бұрын
KZfaq video Marisa Peer I am enough
@peds4real273 4 жыл бұрын
I get everyone's point. I agree. But what Stephen is saying is learning to communicate your truth before you leave. That's all. If he doesn't allow you too then no problem. But at least communicate. That's all he's saying. He's actually encouraging people to leave. This depends on how much abuse or toxicity was involved or course but everyone has been hurt to different degrees so everyone will cut someone off their own way. But Stephen is teaching a principle. Learn to communicate as your foot is out the door.
@LadyCharity 4 жыл бұрын
That's me - I was quick to cut a guy off but I'm learning how to properly resolve issues and even in that it doesn't mean the person is meant for me...vulnerability is necessary right but not every man is worthy of it.
@mizzempresslee1111 4 жыл бұрын
Yes communication is the key but when you’ve told that person how you’ve felt daily and how to try to change it and they don’t listen then what else is their left to talk about? I was in a relationship like that that I had to leave even tho I didn’t want to cuz I loved him but I told him til I was blue in the face how I felt but he didn’t listen. He talked to me demanding and put me down and used me financially. So you can try to communicate but sometimes it just doesn’t work🤷🏼♀️
@soystef 4 жыл бұрын
walk away sis... he isn't matching your energy, no reciprocation. there are men out there who are willing to not only match but supersede your expectations.
@maingikuria7205 4 жыл бұрын
I feel you on this.
@everkings8414 4 жыл бұрын
I just got out of a toxic relationship and presently looking for a mature lady to be with.. Maybe we should get to know each other.
@beemichaels7346 4 жыл бұрын
True , the person knows,there is nothing left if there is no change but to just cut them off
@mizzempresslee1111 4 жыл бұрын
Ever Kings hi there
@nikotopnotch2832 4 жыл бұрын
We talked and I let his indiscretion slide once but I made it clear..... if anything like this comes up again I'm gone forever. 8 months later he forced me to keep that promise.
@thulisilemaphanga1732 4 жыл бұрын
I have tried so many times to talk and now I feel like I'm chasing, when he wants to talk he knows where I stay but I'm not waiting for anyone.
@unapologeticallydreizy958 4 жыл бұрын
Agreed Communication is Everything! You judge yourself by your intentions. Others judge you by your actions. Communicate so there is nothing to wonder about.
@MisterJtheGamer Жыл бұрын
It's a hard lesson to learn, to be willing to confront the thing even if you think that it's all clear. Misunderstandings are also so easy to happen.
@unique1016 4 жыл бұрын
You couldn't have said these words any better..we as women fall victim to our heart and emotions, that's how we allow the wrong man in opening us up for more heartbreak!
@MH-tk3yg 4 жыл бұрын
Communication is key, but its all dependent on the person you are dealing with as to how they perceive what you say to them. Especially if they are narcissistic. Not because they hear you, mean they listen to you. Quick to respond, slow to reason. Unapologetic for lies, allergic to the truth. Cut them off!!!
@TS-eg8dm 2 жыл бұрын
My biggest pet peeve is explaining myself to someone and before I'm finished talking they build up an idea of what they think I'm going to say and cut me off then go in a totally different way. listening is a skills that everyone should practice, even if you don't agree with what there saying, let him/her talk without interrupting, that's the key for successful relationship
@NFG_T-Todd 4 жыл бұрын
Communication is everything, how you feel about talking to someone and telling them everything that is wrong on both ends and you still get no results so all you can do is cut them off. I like to talk in person not thru text and I feel in my last situation I can’t blame her for what I allow myself go thru . I saw the red flags and chose to deal with it.i hate things didn’t go good because I know deep down she’s a good woman but she have scars and that I can’t help her heal and in the process I was cutting myself creating scars. So I agree communication is the key and if that don’t work just break up , heal and move on.... it’s not just women who go thru this we men go thru it a lot especially dealing with a woman who have so many scars from her pass
@laddieluna 4 жыл бұрын
dang .. right on time .. i do be cutting people off with no hesitation so i guess i can try to express myself and see if anything changes . platonic or romantic . thanks for this 💚🌱 namaste
@JustineMfulama 4 жыл бұрын
Yes girl. You never know what people are going through and how that relationship can change after a heart to heart.
@laddieluna 4 жыл бұрын
Justine Mfulama most def . growth is a process and i’m certainly learning more to become a better person and handle things more healthier
@peacefreedom4930 4 жыл бұрын
Sounds to me like you’re talking about people who don’t love themselves. People are out here looking for someone to fill them up and make them feel loved and they don’t even love themselves. They’ll spend more time, energy, and resources on the other person then themselves. I think it’s easier to know when it’s time to cut someone off when you love yourself, have healthy boundaries, and are grounded.
@pedrodias5166 2 жыл бұрын
Sharing how you feel is very different from blaming! That is an important factor for sure. Do not blame others for how you feel
@MeetStephanSpeaks 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️
@pedrodias5166 2 жыл бұрын
@@MeetStephanSpeaks ✌😁
@nettiemichelle930 4 жыл бұрын
The current situation in the country and world should be a major eye opener; if he/she isn’t a ride or die person in a time of uncertainty, say au revoir.
@chynadoll77cyn59 4 жыл бұрын
Robin D. That’s right my lesson I’ve learned from that ride or die chick shit , I ride with a ninja for 23 years he’s broke and when he got on his feet he was gone , showed him how to build his credit became a truck driver and left. Please don’t be that ride or die chick . Smh change your mindset. Frfr
@susuilu 4 жыл бұрын
has always been like that in human history
@charlenemoody4496 4 жыл бұрын
Stephan, I have HAD that talk...MULTIPLE TIMES....he's always got his phone in his hand and on FB (I have to literally tell him to put it down), then when I tell him What hurts...he says okay and goes right back to his FB scrolling and being the narccistic verbal and emotional abuser. Then he seems to get worse..I MAKE IT CLEAR EXACTLY WHAT I DON'T LIKE...and he still does it more. I dropped his tail...cut all ties and I don't really care to hear crap!!! And IF I saw him on the street or in passing..I promise I wouldn't acknowledge his presence. HE'S GOING TO KNOW S GOT REAL.
@iridescencebyelle2020 4 жыл бұрын
Good for you girl !!!! He was NEVER going to change. So you had to do what you had to do!
@charlenemoody4496 4 жыл бұрын
@@iridescencebyelle2020 THANK YOU QUEEN...OH BUT HE IS ACTING THE DERANGED MAN NOW..TIME TO GET THE PO...HE'S NOT TAKING IT TOO WELL...HE DIDNT BELIEVE ME WHEN I SAID I WASN'T COMING BACK...I LEFT ON THE 4TH AND HE USED THE FIRST FEW WEEKS TO PARTY, WHATEVER..NOW HE'S BORED AND CONTACTING ME..AND HE'S NOT LIKING MY REPLIES...HE SENT A TOTAL OF 97 EMAILS...I DIDNT SLEEP THAT NIGHT..WAS MONDAY
@EButta71 3 жыл бұрын
@@charlenemoody4496 you be careful Sis. Any update? How are things now??
@2delicious57 2 жыл бұрын
Maybe you chose poorly to began with
@charlenemoody4496 2 жыл бұрын
@@2delicious57 I don't choose. He chose me...but I'm definitely the wrong one.
@falishak6765 4 жыл бұрын
When the man is immature and I did talk to him. There was still no change. I raised 1 son and I can't raise an grown boy who's supposed to be an grown man.
@RawDogTV 2 жыл бұрын
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@mirandaschumann5261 3 жыл бұрын
👏👏👏👏👏👏yes. Constantly moving on before communicating effectively. U get a new person. That person got a different problem
@MeetStephanSpeaks 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing your thoughts I appreciate your feedback!
@RawDogTV 3 жыл бұрын
kzfaq.info/get/bejne/adOVd9tzzNzLpaM.html Cutting people out of your life is necessary, a lot of people wait until it's too late
@dimplez1ish 4 жыл бұрын
Damn. Woke up to this today, when I say it came at the right time... I'm probably still cutting somebody off but I have a lot more to think about first. Appreciate this.
@racilleashley9506 4 жыл бұрын
Communication is key!!! and 'Express your thoughts.' ' to bring about a understanding.. which equals peace between 2 people. . .
@GrownWoman-ws7oh 2 жыл бұрын
I most definitely agree with cutting folks off that are negative. It’s no need to keep them in your lives 💯
@MissOliviaStarxx 3 жыл бұрын
Powerful video .. I am the Queen of cutting things off deleting and blocking and not giving it a second thought. This is really making me evaluate if I ever want something to work out
@RawDogTV 3 жыл бұрын
kzfaq.info/get/bejne/adOVd9tzzNzLpaM.html Cutting people out of your life is necessary, a lot of people wait until it's too late
@hilo5901 2 жыл бұрын
I used to be “queen” too. Then one day I was vulnerable, not sexually, but you know. I allowed myself to let someone in; I got hurt 😢. That was a couple days ago…🤫
@dazzlinghabits4136 4 жыл бұрын
Wow your video has Divine timing! I literally was going to my GF house to cut her off. I love her dearly but I know deep within my heart it was only a season. I didn’t talk to her due to ignoring phone calls but I did pay her back all the money she lent me plus interest. It sucks but life is about growth. Thanks for your Content. God Bless Bro!!
@72803kk 4 жыл бұрын
You were spot on in this video especially the part when you starting to really care or love them , it’s little for error
@sarahsarita4852 3 жыл бұрын
This is one topic that everyone in a relationship has been through. The comments are eye opening. Please Stephan give us a bigger and balanced version of it.
@RawDogTV 2 жыл бұрын
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@user-pt3uu4wq3i 3 жыл бұрын
If people don't treat you with kindness or respect I don't think you need to have a chat because people refuse to look at their behaviors.
@RawDogTV 2 жыл бұрын
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@Angeleyes2222 4 жыл бұрын
This is the Absolute truth! Talk through your feelings, because the person may not know they made you feel a certain way. I always say this. This whole message!!!whew! 💯
@nanaofsaintly1261 4 жыл бұрын
Imma just stay single no one has time for this
@nfoster962 4 жыл бұрын
Amen 🙌🙌
@maureenkibali234 4 жыл бұрын
Amen
@shanicesmith3592 4 жыл бұрын
🤣😩
@anitafreeman6181 3 жыл бұрын
Amen
@malaztarig8619 3 жыл бұрын
Lmaaaaao 😂😂😂 love this energy
@SoJesusChristMusic 3 жыл бұрын
This needs a part two! This is a deep and serious topic! We often let go of what God has for us and chase what we believe we deserve then decades later realize otherwise. Too many of us 60+ still trying to figure out why we’re still single or later realize the one we wanted was not the one we thought. Often times we unknowingly chase what we want and reject what God has. Blessings to those that understand the marriage vows... because many of us believe we are marriage material.
@challeeallen7566 3 жыл бұрын
I appreciate honesty and would love to communicate with someone who is willing to communicate with me. I am a firm believer in communication being the key and you should be able to talk about anything and everything. I live in positivity and I would never cut someone off without expressing my needs and desires.
@dovetales3 4 жыл бұрын
Cool video!! I'm fine with talking to someone before I cut them off, but because I'm in the 40+ group....you still getting cut the hell off!! Why? Because if you 40+ and still playing child hood games with your life....sucks to be you. Time waits for no man. 😗
@ledonahentley4488 4 жыл бұрын
Vera M I agree. There are so many out here with childish ways. Men can get stuck in a place where they’re not growing and evolving into adulthood emotionally and mentally.
@Hollywood831000 4 жыл бұрын
Vera M Everything you said!
@stefanieleavitt5224 3 жыл бұрын
Yup my guy is 42. Either got ghosted or something happened to him. I have sent messages trying to talk (called as well)
@2delicious57 2 жыл бұрын
I wouldn’t be so overly confident if I were you, you possess some childishness in yourself. Most important if you don’t have god in your life, you as in the same level as that person, sucks to be you. Think before you judge. 😏
@lamonicadenise6831 4 жыл бұрын
Exactly right, I’m so happy I’ve done allllll these steps before I made my decision and I’m thankful I made the right one. I headed on out 💯💪🏻
@Queenbelieveit 4 жыл бұрын
Good point! Tone is everything, communicating effectively and understanding. However making it clear about what's best for me. Having the gift of goodbye is good too.... Every experience is growth, self development and getting in tune to self and learning healthy relationship skills .
@jaydajune 4 жыл бұрын
I totally agree with the points he made. Most people react more than they respond and because of that the message the person is trying to deliver is not received. I would like to add that before a person cuts someone off and decides to engaged in a conversation, I think it’s best to go into the conversation with no expectations. Most people don’t communicate well because they’ve communicated with themselves how the conversation will go before it even happens. And because of that, you can block the possibility of a great outcome. But when you go into the conversation not expecting anything, not bad or good, then there is an opportunity for open dialogue or even a mutual agreement to walk away from one another peacefully. Also I think most people approach communication with a “you’re wrong, I am right” mindset rather than understanding it might just be a difference of opinion and understanding. I think as humans we have to stop thinking that the people in our life can read our minds and understand life the way we see it, regardless of how long we’ve been with or known each other. Because the truth is thats what can makes any relationship blossom; it’s in the difference of how we see and view life. We were created to be in harmony with one another rather than be at odds. And the more we are at odds with one another, that’s the Devil just clapping at his hands at what he is doing. Lastly I believe having the conversation before you cut the person off, comes from a place of respect. Respecting them enough to be vulnerable just as much we claim to respect ourselves and be honest with ourselves. But that’s just my two cents. I’m done now. Exiting left 🚶🏾♀️
@ButterCookie1984 Жыл бұрын
Good points!
@sayhump5 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you! You’ve confirmed some things for me and helped me realize and know that I’ve exhausted all avenues. I appreciate the wisdom. Be blessed!
@humblewarrior7593 4 жыл бұрын
If I distance myself from someone I do it knowing I've explained why and I do it calmly, maybe too calmly, because I don't strive to make someone understand but hope they would just listen to how I am feeling because I try to do the same when someone is sharing how they feel. I do agree with everything you said and there may be some situations where a person does not take what you say to heart until you make a move.
@acenoir2576 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for posting this video. i recently got into a heated argument with a childhood friend of mine and i honestly wrestled about cutting it off. Rebuilding my self image from trauma as a kid has been one of my major undertakings as a man to evolve and become better and he made me feel those exact feelings of lesser than. After watching your video, I wrote a detailed letter to him describing how i truly felt without attacking him and why i felt that way. He completely understood, apologized, and moving forward we have a better understand/respect for each other as friends. Because of you, I was able to keep and reconcile with one of my best friends. Grateful is an understatement. Thank you once again sir. Many blessings, Anthony
@RawDogTV 3 жыл бұрын
kzfaq.info/get/bejne/adOVd9tzzNzLpaM.html Cutting people out of your life is necessary, a lot of people wait until it's too late
@proudmammaof6148 3 жыл бұрын
Communication is key in all relationships. Thanks for the words of wisdom. Definitely needed to hear this right now. Stay safe.
@MeetStephanSpeaks 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing I appreciate your feedback and stay safe as well!
@joi4705 4 жыл бұрын
I def think conversations should be had when determining who should and who shouldn’t be in your life. But in order to do so effectively there has to be 1)mutual understanding of & respect for one another & 2) compatible communication styles. Not the exact same, just compatible. As much as you can, verify these two things *prior to* becoming emotionally attached. If not communication will be moot & the relationship will drag & drain. Here to tell you it’s a painful experience needing to cut ties w/ someone you’re attached to who never understood, respected or knew how to communicate with you in the first place. Don’t do it - choose wisely & make sure y’all fit, up front.
@Goawaypleasenow Жыл бұрын
Thank you. I needed this exact message
@saghaarii1136 4 жыл бұрын
I’m going to lean towards your POV with this. In our generation I’ve found, to protect ourselves from rejection or being told we crazy for feeling ‘a type of way’, the easier alternative is to cut that person out cold turkey. An endless cycle. I’m trying to personally work on this because if I’m noticing that my inner peace is disturbed and clearly there are things that need to be brought up to surface, should be should. And the concept around what’s the worst that can happen from me doing that puts me at ease.
@corettahunter514 4 жыл бұрын
Now you preaching!!! I have definitely ran faster from someone I REALLY liked a lot faster than I did with someone I had less of a connection with. I just let it drag on for months, but the other person I stopped taking their calls and quit them cold turkey with no warning. Thanks for that enlightenment
@ho66se Жыл бұрын
This is very solid advice, especially in this day and age. No one wants to truly communicate. Thank you for encouraging this. God bless you
@R93m 4 жыл бұрын
I’m 27 in a relationship with a 42 year old . He’s a great person very good heart but I cannot have intellectual deep conversations about life with him. We don’t have interests in common , we never argue or fight but it’s good vibes . It’s been hard for me to like tell him I don’t see this being a long term stable thing . I want someone that fires my flame every day mentally and physically
@RawDogTV 2 жыл бұрын
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@joeetienne355 2 жыл бұрын
I can relate.
@CoachHC 4 жыл бұрын
Communication is key. No time for a toxic relationship. Good information.
@Craftsycreations 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this one. I always feel better when I’m writing my feelings out. Because if we are talking it out, and I’m yelling and they are yelling, neither one of us is saying what we really want to say.
@RawDogTV 2 жыл бұрын
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@r-erin2go380 3 жыл бұрын
Around 6 minutes makes things PERFECTLY clear....it's alot easier to go with the easy toxic than who you're truly in love with that is great for you! COMMUNICATION is always key I've learned along the way!
@ellecee8745 4 жыл бұрын
Agreed. A conversation should be had or (an attempt) prior to the cut. Let people know why, then move on. I’m guilty of not having the conversation because I always assume they know why they’re getting the axe.
@RawDogTV 2 жыл бұрын
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@mariog3326 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video! It's called RESPECT! Not only respect to the person, but yourself. Walk away with dignity not like a toxic person. Respect, love one another we're all God's children.
@Kemi116 2 жыл бұрын
I am so so glad I listened to this video before making an irrational decisions. It’s eye-opening and very calming. I want to treat all people with love and respect a d this is the best way. You’ll be surprised about how many people care of how your feeling 🥰
@alecer2 4 жыл бұрын
Many positive points. Many are the reasons why relationships fail to the point that it becomes a necessity to turn around and walk away. I'm a female that is not interest in taking sides, however, it is apparent to me that the lack of authenticity plays a huge rold here , as do, unreasonabld expectations and clinging to past experiences. When the day arrives where people, collectively, come to understand that the past, the hurt of the past are pure illusions of the ego self and that one must bd true (authentic) with themselves, perhaps, things will change for the better. We live in a society where no one wants to put in the work when referring to our inner selves because it has become easier to blame others. Change starts with one self and transparency is , indeed, inner strenght and wisdom. Thank you
@DaRealTamarie 4 жыл бұрын
I’ve tried to talk but he just zones out and Denys so I’m done explaining 🤷🏾♀️🤷🏾♀️
@loriditri8897 2 жыл бұрын
Your wisdom is priceless… You’ve helped me so much I have to think about and ponder about my situation which you hit on today
@shaymain3041 4 жыл бұрын
I was about to walk away but I will have a talk with him. Because living in confusion is not no way to live. Thank you.
@sheilaagwa9055 4 жыл бұрын
Sometimes Its not possible to first TALK about it b4 cutting off Some people cannot talk about it
@tess7798 3 жыл бұрын
Agree 100% with writing letters! I’ve done this and it’s been good for me to slowly and carefully process my words. For the receiver, it lets them read, and re-read, your concerns. It’s a great idea because a lot of us aren’t great communicators and also aren’t great listeners.
@RawDogTV 3 жыл бұрын
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@CaraMelMusic 3 жыл бұрын
If you love yourself and know your worth it can save you a lot of heartache. And I definitely agree; a letter is one of the best ways a person can express themselves to their full capacity while getting things off their chest. It offers a sense of therapy during the healing/forgiving process too.
@RawDogTV 3 жыл бұрын
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@anna-mayramnarine875 3 жыл бұрын
Well said. Stephan I have tried that way you stated not in a relationship aspect, but with a friendship, my friend Pearl and I were friends since childhood 6-7 years. Both of our fathers were cold and abusive men to our respective moms who were quiet, hardworking gems, back then Pearl and I had a lot in common except financially her family had, mines didn't but that was never an issue to me. I was just concern and happy with us being friends, to make a long story short as we grew into young women she kept making poor choices in men and I kept talking to her about that and my hubby and I kept picking up the pieces when she fell, we helped her in everyway possible. Despite being a good friend to her over the years in her eyes she found "the tables had turned" and that my life was flourishing and prospering more than hers so she became jealousful and resentful toward me. She acted unreasonable and insensitive in my presence and always looked for a reason to be upset with me..the story is much much more than this I'm just scratching the surface here with this. So one day when she said we are not friends anymore I just let it be it was useless trying to talk to her.
@sheshez4christr301 4 жыл бұрын
Love the way you get straight into it confidently. No babbling just straight shoots 🔥🙏
@RawDogTV 2 жыл бұрын
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@reneebcc 4 жыл бұрын
Great advice. Effective communication and transparency are keys
@jacquelinetaylor1079 4 жыл бұрын
Well I just recently cut someone off bc he stated I wasn't letting him be a man and that wasn't true , I've talked to him about and he was the one acting like a kid with goodbye so I let him be.
@dionne681 3 жыл бұрын
FACTS. People aren't communicating to get closure or understanding they ghost and pull back based off their own misinformed assumptions and interpretation.
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