Being alone isn't being lonely | Ankit Shah | TEDxPineCrestSchool

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3 жыл бұрын

The founder of Tea With Strangers, Ankit Shah, shares strategies of how to truly become one with oneself and why learning to be alone is necessary in order to make meaningful connections. Ankit Shah is a person that cares deeply about our collective thoughtfulness and the things that bring us together. In various lives, he's been recognized as a community builder, a storyteller, an amateur photographer, a designer and a strategist.
He founded Tea With Strangers, a global community organization of hundreds of hosts who have brought over 50,000 people together in real life for small, meaningful group conversations. He also currently works at Facebook on their Community Partnerships Team, where he represents community builders on product teams that build tools to enable them. In past lives, he built programs at Airbnb to enable and connect their host community with refugees and other people in need of free temporary housing and started a nonprofit in India to support the educational and health needs of dalit children in the rural areas outside of Varanasi.
Ankit was raised in New York, graduated from the University of Pennsylvania's Wharton School and is currently based in San Francisco, where he spends most of his free time walking, running, or hiking, bringing people together, and generally trying to stay aware of his environment. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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@wandalee5010
@wandalee5010 3 жыл бұрын
I used to think that the worst thing in life was to end up alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel alone. Robin Williams ❤️
@whatsinaname2706
@whatsinaname2706 3 жыл бұрын
Being in a relationship where you feel lonely and then when the relationship ends you no longer feel lonely 😂
@9979839
@9979839 3 жыл бұрын
@@whatsinaname2706 oh man so right
@akemap4
@akemap4 3 жыл бұрын
I am in a relationship that I feel lonely. The girl who I am with has some personal problems, and because of that, I am afraid to leave her alone. But she never cares about me. All I do is to make favors to her, and never to me.
@LucyJazzy85
@LucyJazzy85 3 жыл бұрын
Red Glory that’s such a great quote... so sad that in the end he killed himself 💜 RIP Robin 💜
@SunSunSunn
@SunSunSunn 3 жыл бұрын
@@LucyJazzy85 Rip, he was one of my biggest inspirations for going into med school.
@Peter-xh4pg
@Peter-xh4pg 3 жыл бұрын
My therapist tells me not to say ""I'm lonely" or I'm alone." He taught me to say "I'm with myself." It does give me some comfort, as it's true...I am with myself, not alone.
@smileyface702
@smileyface702 3 жыл бұрын
Damn, that hit deep. I think being with ourselves can be so difficult when we have a lot of unresolved, painful, judgmental feelings about ourselves. Then it's not so nice to spend time with that person.
@oddone1325
@oddone1325 3 жыл бұрын
well done sir, thank you for sharing.
@louistannudin2486
@louistannudin2486 3 жыл бұрын
smileyface702 thiss
@Peter-xh4pg
@Peter-xh4pg 3 жыл бұрын
@@smileyface702 thanks...and what you said is the truth...I struggle with self-compassion. It's a lot of work..
@medeaendor3706
@medeaendor3706 3 жыл бұрын
I love that
@kkmaverick09
@kkmaverick09 3 жыл бұрын
"I live in that solitude which is painful in youth, but delicious in the years of maturity". Albert Einstein
@oliviacadena2036
@oliviacadena2036 2 жыл бұрын
Wow!! 😲😲😲
@haitiancreolewithluciano
@haitiancreolewithluciano 3 жыл бұрын
*Most things I’ve achieved come from my ability to reflect, to find that sweet, profound voice in silence and solitude*
@Devilish__
@Devilish__ 3 жыл бұрын
Haitian Creole With Luciano well put
@pyschologygeek
@pyschologygeek 3 жыл бұрын
It is sad when someone you know becomes someone you knew.
@alexalexandru7170
@alexalexandru7170 3 жыл бұрын
@@liang2492 read Bible
@Sara-zv9lx
@Sara-zv9lx 3 жыл бұрын
Sadly
@cathyfulford593
@cathyfulford593 2 жыл бұрын
Especially when it is your children
@ThaMobstarr
@ThaMobstarr 2 жыл бұрын
Going through this at the moment with a probably former friend of mine. It hurts, but I am also learning a lot about myself.
@funface4
@funface4 3 жыл бұрын
I love to be alone. For me my alone time is crucial because that’s what makes me complete. A time to reflect, a time to know myself, a time to cleanse my upheaval thoughts and the list goes on. As he said being a alone is a sign of maturity.
@DanielOliveira-cs6be
@DanielOliveira-cs6be 2 жыл бұрын
am i the only one loving his smile and face?!
@johnmills3163
@johnmills3163 3 жыл бұрын
My motto is " Being alone is being Free ' !!! Pick and choose WHEN you want to be with others , and pick WHO you want to be with ! It works for me !
@User-gl3mv
@User-gl3mv 3 жыл бұрын
I'm gonna show this to so many people so they finally understand what I mean. Thanks man
@mikewazzupski
@mikewazzupski 3 жыл бұрын
Look into psychadelics if you want to understand some more
@User-gl3mv
@User-gl3mv 3 жыл бұрын
@@mikewazzupski thx for the advice 👍
@catalinafirefly4685
@catalinafirefly4685 3 жыл бұрын
QASiM we recognize truth and that brings genuine connection
@groovy56
@groovy56 3 жыл бұрын
“I will never leave nor forsake you, I am with you always, even to the end of the age” -> Jesus
@User-gl3mv
@User-gl3mv 3 жыл бұрын
@@catalinafirefly4685 very true, all of us in here are alone, but at the same time we have some sort of commonality which brings us all together and I am proud to be part of that
@xfaroutzx3637
@xfaroutzx3637 3 жыл бұрын
I've realised the biggest factor that causes feelings of loneliness is lack of vulnerability
@marysmith7028
@marysmith7028 2 жыл бұрын
I don’t understand how does lack of vulnerability cause feelings of loneliness? Whenever I feel lonely I feel vulnerable.
@cmontygman
@cmontygman 2 жыл бұрын
@@marysmith7028 I believe they mean that some people are alone because their afraid of being vulnerable to people aka opening to those around them.
@user-mi5lu3cd7b
@user-mi5lu3cd7b 8 ай бұрын
sounds meaningful but still not get it, can u please explain why?😂
@SouthPark333Gaming
@SouthPark333Gaming 3 жыл бұрын
I love being alone. I don't really have a lot of people who I consider "Friends". I know quite a lot of people, but at a very surface level. I like it that way though. I LOVE BEING ALONE!
@mercyrn35
@mercyrn35 3 жыл бұрын
Same. I enjoy my own company. I read, craft, write... whatever I feel, when I feel.
@MrChet407
@MrChet407 3 жыл бұрын
If your gf your left hand
@SouthPark333Gaming
@SouthPark333Gaming 3 жыл бұрын
@@mercyrn35 I read, learn different foreign languages, build miniatures form different periods of history and other great stuff. I honestly don't have the time to get lonely!
@salehnour
@salehnour 3 жыл бұрын
@@SouthPark333Gaming "I don't have the time to get lonely" Wow
@paulrevere47
@paulrevere47 3 жыл бұрын
@@SouthPark333Gaming One must never stop learning.
@kartulmaa8240
@kartulmaa8240 3 жыл бұрын
I hate reading these comments where most people say that they Love to be alone. Have you ever been completely alone for years? No job, no relationship, no events, no friends, no family calls, just you yourself every day. When you experience that, then you recognize that finding yourself and loving being alone is really really hard. When i had a job like a year ago, then i was happy and didn't had any problems at all with myself, cause being in a crowd half a day and other day being alone with yourself, then you will love it of course. But being completely alone every day sitting in home all day is completely different thing and hard do get by it.
@rae8961
@rae8961 3 жыл бұрын
Not exactly, but kind of. I was locked in my room for most of my childhood (thanks to my abusive parents). At school, no one would talk to me. A strange thing happens once a person (especially a developing child) is forced to be alone. They start to adapt, and even like it, because it's familiar. This is even easier for introverts. Now, actually socializing is physically exhausting, it leaves their minds a mess. Sometimes I actually get tension aches and fatigue if I socialize for too long. It could be underdevelopment for sure. And if you're an extrovert who grew up with friends and had people to talk to, then you adapted to live that way. It's more uncomfortable for you to not socialize. Humans adapt, and hate to stray from what's comfortable. I sorry you have to go through that, though. I really do hope you find strong, stable connections that fill that need to socialize. Good luck 👍
@Sabrina-kf1kj
@Sabrina-kf1kj 3 жыл бұрын
Lucianna Romeave I completely agree
@indianmandili6530
@indianmandili6530 3 жыл бұрын
Yes I've experienced
@Aalpine001
@Aalpine001 3 жыл бұрын
@@rae8961 I am with you 100% Lucianna!
@NganNguyen-vs4tp
@NganNguyen-vs4tp 3 жыл бұрын
I got a feeling that I will automatically turn on acting mode when being around with people, like smiling all the time, being nice, being kind so that people feel comfortable with me. I feel guilty hurting people I love with my bad mood and am afraid of destroying relationships. But when I am with myself, there is only me and myself left, no one expects me to behave, no one is there to judge, I can express anything that's on my mind, become truthful with my emotions, and I really find my peace being alone. I love communicating with people, it helps to survive in this society but I do feel tired too. Seriously, it's harder to really enjoy life with people around than when you're with yourself, with all that understanding, acceptance and no expectations.
@rae8961
@rae8961 3 жыл бұрын
I get so tired, too. Being social leaves me PHYSICALLY and MENTALLY exhausted. I went to a famoly reunion last week, the next day my body was aching from so much stress and tension. My mind was in shambles and I had to take a few days just to get myself better. Socializing is so so exhausting
@ohyeahyeah1955
@ohyeahyeah1955 3 жыл бұрын
bravo! I couldn't have said this better
@sherryyu8191
@sherryyu8191 3 жыл бұрын
its just sad that im really nice but my resting face looks sad
@NganNguyen-vs4tp
@NganNguyen-vs4tp 3 жыл бұрын
@@sherryyu8191 same here, sometimes I wonder why I treat myself with sadness while being so happy in front of others and if it's fair. Even though, trying to keep a smiling face is real torture
@mimiwitton2823
@mimiwitton2823 3 жыл бұрын
I feel like you took the words out of my mind. This is me exactly as well! I'm trying to be more open and honest because my sanity is worth it. I'm finding that people find it more authentic and can relate to me better. It weeds out superficial people that you probably don't want around you anyways because people are exhausting as it is :)
@petusha
@petusha 3 жыл бұрын
Wat a coincidence...just now I completed writing my journal how lonely I feel and that loneliness has nothing to do with being alone...nd a video with this title came my god...God was really listening to me that time🙏❤
@itouchtheskyslowlifeitaly
@itouchtheskyslowlifeitaly 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for talking deeply about being alone isn't being lonely. I agree with you. I am a happy loner living on the top of the mountain. I am living in nature, in the middle of forest. I have my sustainable garden and I love having a walk in the forest and get some old firewoods for cooking. It's paradise. Lovely watching and listening to you here on the top of the mountain of Italy.
@zachariahkuruvilla393
@zachariahkuruvilla393 2 жыл бұрын
In
@markuchiha7737
@markuchiha7737 Жыл бұрын
Wow I wish I could do that too I wonder how you get your own wifi
@divinereference
@divinereference 7 ай бұрын
You’re living my dream!! I’m so happy for you!!
@ParulSharmaa
@ParulSharmaa 3 жыл бұрын
Alone is a state of being but lonely is a feeling.. That's what I feel it is💛
@eliasmonshyzadah
@eliasmonshyzadah 3 жыл бұрын
That’s exactly what it is 🙌🏼🙏🏼
@gulabrabbani3656
@gulabrabbani3656 3 жыл бұрын
Best definition
@dreamthedream8929
@dreamthedream8929 3 жыл бұрын
I feel it the other way around. Being lonely is a state that you are at but being alone is just a situation.
@quotego
@quotego Жыл бұрын
Loneliness means when you missing someone, when you want to be with someone.. it like a gap that needs to be fulfilled... Aloneness is where you found yourself..you are contented in yourself, you enjoy you own company. You feel complete in yourself..
@sandraborjesson4534
@sandraborjesson4534 3 жыл бұрын
People come in your life and out of your life be kind to yourself and enjoy your own company.💜
@Entertainm897
@Entertainm897 3 жыл бұрын
Some can feel lonely surrounded with bunch of people. Loneliness is a disconnection with our ownself, is about emptiness inside the heart.
@user-xl1rt7zd1q
@user-xl1rt7zd1q 3 жыл бұрын
Most of my good friends are married. I was scared of the situation, but then it occur to me, I was jealous that they have someone who make them feel important, special and loved. Suddenly all the fears disappear, because I already know I am important, special and loved, I don't need to have someone to tell me that.
@Speakingmymind365
@Speakingmymind365 Жыл бұрын
Did u get married?
@hankaul6256
@hankaul6256 Жыл бұрын
I do
@QuickbooksXero
@QuickbooksXero 3 жыл бұрын
Its easy to stand in the crowd but its takes courage to stand alone
@ilovemylifecarmie8491
@ilovemylifecarmie8491 3 жыл бұрын
I lived alone for so many years. n even now I quarantined alone n lock down still going on. but I never feel lonely. For me being lonely breaks me down. fortunately tht doesn't happened even though my life nowadays journey from kitchen to bedroom. bedroom to kitchen that doesn't makes different with normal days. I'm always fine .😊
@asammy6079
@asammy6079 3 жыл бұрын
Hi, so if ur fine with it, why ur watching these vids on how to deal with it? Just saying.:))
@luilu3430
@luilu3430 3 жыл бұрын
@@asammy6079 it could have been in her recommended videos and she was curious to hear someone's perspective on it? Like I did...
@asammy6079
@asammy6079 3 жыл бұрын
İt might, i jump into conclusion some time. So thank u for taking the time to coment on it.
@Omni00
@Omni00 3 жыл бұрын
You can clearly see the affects of this from looking and seeing how open minded and happy he actually is
@reshsher8804
@reshsher8804 3 жыл бұрын
I love being lonely, this is when I connect with myself, my inner being my true friend, true power 💚🧡🙏
@crymeariver.
@crymeariver. 3 жыл бұрын
I’ve always enjoyed my own company at a young age & was always made feel weird by other people
@mamashanshan2772
@mamashanshan2772 3 жыл бұрын
We’re never “ alone”... many aren’t used to be without company!! I’ve never felt lonely until I was with a human that tried to empty me, like their life is/was, until they find true happiness within. Human value, respect towards others, discipline, and love, and knowing to not help others if they want us to “ repair/fix their problems!! That’s up to us. Us!!
@annettep4394
@annettep4394 3 жыл бұрын
Being lonely and being alone are two completely different things
@MsMoonpriestess
@MsMoonpriestess 3 жыл бұрын
Yes exactly !!
@alexalexandru7170
@alexalexandru7170 3 жыл бұрын
@@MsMoonpriestess read Bible
@MsMoonpriestess
@MsMoonpriestess 3 жыл бұрын
@@alexalexandru7170 I have and it's a book written by old men for old men. And I've seen your other posts since u joined UTube 3 wks ago and u say the same thing to everyone so I'm saying " get a life " alex
@alexalexandru7170
@alexalexandru7170 3 жыл бұрын
@@MsMoonpriestess I say for save world
@MsMoonpriestess
@MsMoonpriestess 3 жыл бұрын
@@alexalexandru7170 if u want to make a difference then feed hungry children or volunteer at an animal shelter. Getting on KZfaq and saying "read bible" is doing NOTHING
@anggadextrous68
@anggadextrous68 3 жыл бұрын
Since the quarantine started, we can't help but to feel some social jealousy and self-doubt regarding our connection with other people and we can't help but to compare our social life to others. This ted talk gives me the strength to actually accept myself and my way of maintaining relationship with people. I'm also someone who enjoy my time being alone at home and now to think of it, it really is a privilege and a talent to actually able to be alone without feeling lonely.
@any0822
@any0822 3 жыл бұрын
Very true when he said you need to learn to be your own company why are we strangers with our self
@carolineromay7273
@carolineromay7273 3 жыл бұрын
Being alone is my happiness.. I’m focus what I’m doing .
@patriciahutson
@patriciahutson 3 жыл бұрын
I've lived on my own since turning 42 years old. Now at 66 and I relish my own silence. Spent most of my life alone in various parts of the world. I was tempered by being alone in life. Resilience to the winds of angst. I remain apart from the here, alive, free!!
@flurpes
@flurpes 3 жыл бұрын
Quite the contrary, you see how boring everyone else is...The more questions you ask, the deeper down the rabbit hole you go. You find that humanity is weak and self-interested. I just want to be left alone almost always. I can do what I want, whenever I want, and I know what I like...
@LucyJazzy85
@LucyJazzy85 3 жыл бұрын
Ankit Shah should be proud of himself. After scanning just some of the many comments, I’d say loneliness appears to be a pandemic... 💜
@ankitshah549
@ankitshah549 3 жыл бұрын
🤗❤️
@mickael486
@mickael486 3 жыл бұрын
When being alone is the only time you have, there's no value in it anymore.
@deedieducati2272
@deedieducati2272 3 жыл бұрын
You can be in a room full of people and STILL be lonely. I've been alone for 20+ years, both at home and at work. I never felt lonely back in the beginning, but once my friends and family stopped calling me, and I felt that I was the only one pursuing a relationship with them, THAT is when loneliness hit me. I am very comfortable being alone, however, human beings need to feel connected with other humans. Even premature infants react positively when the mother and father are communicating physically and vocally with them. Premature infants with no contact if family take longer to gain strength. We were not created to "be alone."
@selmag3284
@selmag3284 3 жыл бұрын
To all the lonely people out there, you are loved ❤️
@hyperhoopa
@hyperhoopa 3 жыл бұрын
That's meaningless coming from a stranger
@eightsec
@eightsec 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you you too are loved!
@selmag3284
@selmag3284 3 жыл бұрын
@@hyperhoopa I respect that. However, sometimes even when a stranger reminds us that we are loved, makes a difference =)
@selmag3284
@selmag3284 3 жыл бұрын
@@eightsec Thank you
@hyperhoopa
@hyperhoopa 3 жыл бұрын
@@selmag3284 It was a nice reminder, thank you, and sorry for my harsh reply. Thing is, I've been dealing with unrequited love so it's hard to believe your comment. Also, how does a stranger know I'm loved? They don't know me.
@valerieosborne9465
@valerieosborne9465 3 жыл бұрын
Hello Brainstorm, I'm in the same place as u r.. I was born loving to be alone and searching out wonderful.. magical places to play with my troll dolls or my plastic horse's.. I always enjoyed the peacefulness that came along with the quiet of hearing the sound of my own heart beating ❤️
@romeror7027
@romeror7027 3 жыл бұрын
Sometimes I feel lonely, but I really enjoy being alone, which is very different
@motv-independentthinkingfo3817
@motv-independentthinkingfo3817 3 жыл бұрын
I LOVE THIS TEDX VERY REAL VERY TRUE EVERYTHING I BELIEVE IN ABOUT KNOWING YOURSELF&GROWING YOURSELF💯👏🏽✊🏼
@adamalpha7881
@adamalpha7881 3 жыл бұрын
Although some personalities don't have sense of ability to engage a conversation with strangers I personally have an ability to start dialogue with strangers Cheers to myself !!
@PepperMtAiry
@PepperMtAiry Жыл бұрын
After losing g my husband I thought I would die of loneliness but then I learned the time alone help me to learn q lot about me. I saw myself differently because I was no longer focused on another person's needs, it was me and me alone. And I love being with me, people calling up inviting me to events is not always a positive for me when I just want to kick back at home and focus on my Bible study lesson. I love the time I spend with my lessons and reading God's word. I treat myself and thats good for me, yesI go out volunteer, help others every now and then but my favorite time is my time alone with my favorite person and that is God
@ACEAndreeas
@ACEAndreeas 3 жыл бұрын
Being alone most of the times means sometimes you will feel lonely
@_nini_
@_nini_ 3 жыл бұрын
I love this, it's something I've been doing for a lot of time and now if there's something bothering me, I simply ask myself why it's bothering me and what I can do and the answer just pops up in my mind. And I hope other people can experience this as well cause it's really great😍
@jamisonlamkin5576
@jamisonlamkin5576 3 жыл бұрын
Probably need to hear this, I feel destined to be alone. Wonderful video!
@ItsTrixTV
@ItsTrixTV 3 жыл бұрын
I think being alone is a chance for anyone to be the best version of themselves as it gives us plenty of time to rediscover ourselves, practice self care and just be who want to be freely🙂 About a couple of weeks back, I've posted about 'how to find joy in being alone' because I really do think it's all about the perspective👍🏻
@TeamTrumpUSA
@TeamTrumpUSA 3 жыл бұрын
I have observed that most people have to be constantly entertained. Social media can be quite rewarding but it can also be quite devastating. I have learned to be at ease with myself........Well, most of the time. Great discussion.
@exportexpert8
@exportexpert8 3 жыл бұрын
the truth is we are a lone from the moment we are born till the moment we die. To think we are not alone it is nothing but an illusion
@pandeyjeet1512
@pandeyjeet1512 3 жыл бұрын
Being alone means you want to be left out Being lonely means you are left out It's way different I think so I love being alone my whole lockdown was spending time with myself no frnds, text, msg, calls I am not upset with it. Hare krishna ❤️🙏
@mulkijamaal528
@mulkijamaal528 3 жыл бұрын
Alonely lion is much better than famous sheep!
@carissanami5824
@carissanami5824 3 жыл бұрын
❤️❤️❤️❤️my favourite comment❤️❤️❤️thanks, I'm feeling better
@dizzydino1
@dizzydino1 3 жыл бұрын
👍🌝😂❣️
@asadjoya8017
@asadjoya8017 2 жыл бұрын
It’s one of the best TED talks I’ve listened to. Thanks for sharing your perspective
@bryankelsey7795
@bryankelsey7795 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this conversation. It is fitting on a Friday night when alone. Very comforting talk. Tea anyone? 😊
@24737296
@24737296 3 жыл бұрын
We live are lifes like we are eternal. So live each days as if it is your last.
@hrituvarn1307
@hrituvarn1307 3 жыл бұрын
Alone or lonely..😅 The difference is CHOICE vs. NEED... yeah the things are different. Being alone is good while feeling lonely is haunting.. just matter of perspectives..😀😁
@topanokk
@topanokk 3 жыл бұрын
This is the video that I wait. Someone who can explain that not all alone was a lonely.
@jcsrst
@jcsrst 3 жыл бұрын
This is wonderful! Makes me want to do a tea time. I don't have a problem being alone! Been doing it a long time and love myself and my own company. Thanks!
@wilvekarenolojan8880
@wilvekarenolojan8880 3 жыл бұрын
Words simply can not describe how helpful to me Forwago is. It completely changed the way I think and feel about everyday things. This program is too good and it is too bad that many people don't know about it.
@paulrevere47
@paulrevere47 3 жыл бұрын
A quest for knowledge and awareness is the work of a lifetime...and a duty to that consciousness within. Man Know Thy Self, Doubt Nothing, Question Everything.
@sticmatic
@sticmatic 3 жыл бұрын
Ankit Shah: "In my dayjob, I work at facebook." Me: I'd rather stay lonely than listening to you any further, Sir."
@divinereference
@divinereference 7 ай бұрын
I’ll never forget an amazing conversation I had on a plane with the stranger in the seat next to me. It began with the regular chit-chat, as you say, then got more personal & about our lives, in general. Then came the part where we realized we had both been suicidal at times…she called those times the “toaster in the bathtub” moments. I laughed SO hard at that!! Throughout the rest of our 3-4 hour conversation, we would both interject at the hard parts “time to take a bath with a toaster!” Or similar & laugh hysterically! It was amazing. We know we will never see these people again so it’s very special to let go. But these convos need to happen with ourselves & our loved ones, if we have any, because they are truly healing & healthy.
@waryful3
@waryful3 3 жыл бұрын
_someone once said to me, if you feel alone... develop a god complex_ we haven't spoken since.
@foxbearchillinbytheriver
@foxbearchillinbytheriver 3 жыл бұрын
That made me lol. I love when people out themselves so easily that they are toxic. Can save a lot of trouble in the long run 🙂
@waryful3
@waryful3 3 жыл бұрын
@@foxbearchillinbytheriver uhu
@vaisakhrk8760
@vaisakhrk8760 3 жыл бұрын
Its hard that you love being alone and the same time missing all the funs with your friends😔
@rodfranklin9920
@rodfranklin9920 3 жыл бұрын
Lonliness is more likely to occur in early stages of life when you're looking forward and experiencing vibrant relationships as you discuss your life plans with similarly excited friends. After you've been around the block a few times and taken stock of your successes and failures, it's not difficult to spend more time alone.
@retiredusmc9090
@retiredusmc9090 3 жыл бұрын
Great simple life scenarios while connecting within yourself, this lost perspective is in need of a swift and sweeping revival. You don't have to lose technology, just do not lose yourself to it. Always make reflective and thoughtful alone time, even for just a few minutes a day to sort through thoughts.
@jevasamy
@jevasamy 3 жыл бұрын
Most of us agree ....
@attaullahkhan4742
@attaullahkhan4742 3 жыл бұрын
I find solitude a beautiful. While in a group the one question in my mind is" how will they react ?". While alone, I know well how I will react to my thoughts. So...... This video was of little use..... Although good job👍
@girlcalledk8
@girlcalledk8 3 жыл бұрын
I’m so happy this video has been made.
@colilaobalioca
@colilaobalioca 3 жыл бұрын
I've chosen to be alone even I were surrounded by lots of friends and people, it's great to be socialized, but spending time alone it's far better to me cuz it's my valuable time to improve myself in range of improving my particular skills. It works well I bet that. For another reason, I've token advantages of that time to find my own mistakes that I never figure that out during some parts of my life that led me to feel guilty and incomplete and then I found and fix them, making me being a better version of mine
@user-nq9bz6iz6l
@user-nq9bz6iz6l 3 жыл бұрын
So nice. It worth all 20 minutes, and more, more, more.
@LucidaBrightakaDiggs
@LucidaBrightakaDiggs 3 жыл бұрын
Wonderfully eye opening!
@Simon1985_
@Simon1985_ Ай бұрын
Loneliness is awful. I really hate feeling alone. I can have everyone around me and I still feel desperately alone.
@Tenacious-Tiger
@Tenacious-Tiger 3 жыл бұрын
"A wise man can always be found alone. A weak man can always be found in a crowd." - Bruce Lee
@milkywaystar7760
@milkywaystar7760 3 жыл бұрын
I am taking both way to keep balance....sometimes prefer being alone and sometimes feel meet someone to talk or having fun otherwise I will become a social misfits
@nihalbhat9853
@nihalbhat9853 3 жыл бұрын
Thankful to have listened this talk and Thank you!😇
@manoharpaes4443
@manoharpaes4443 Жыл бұрын
due to circumstances in life and marital issues i am living alone...at the age of 55 with a heart attack three years ago...at first i felt odd...it is been two and half years now and I do feel happy living alone...but always feel a partner would be better...joined tea with strangers today
@johnpowell7829
@johnpowell7829 Жыл бұрын
Sorry, loosing a spouse is horrible.
@maryjaneabalos
@maryjaneabalos 3 жыл бұрын
The greater degree of perception of being alone is greater the detail of Ted talk the retained impression or experession and recolate the goods of many things about yourselves. I'll go for the place that you prepare for a life
@dondgolfnut
@dondgolfnut 3 жыл бұрын
The best friend and love for you resides between your ears.
@billscott9045
@billscott9045 6 ай бұрын
There's only one thing worse than being alone, and that's wishing that you were.
@olarky1
@olarky1 3 жыл бұрын
I was married once and found there are worse things in life than beening by your self and I have more money to do what I want too . Bad me HA HA
@bygrace3113
@bygrace3113 3 жыл бұрын
I'm married and wish I was alone. I'm planning my escape.
@simplyredislandgirl
@simplyredislandgirl 3 жыл бұрын
Insightful and enjoyable talk!👏👍🙋😊
@bygrace3113
@bygrace3113 3 жыл бұрын
I don't like the silence of being alone but I do like my own space, it's a dilemma.
@JadeTrading
@JadeTrading 3 жыл бұрын
Whatever you do, you’re not alone.
@patriciaferrini8652
@patriciaferrini8652 3 жыл бұрын
Oh yes you can be alone even i you do something.
@joelhockin281
@joelhockin281 3 жыл бұрын
I really appreciated this. Thanks
@Dalszielle
@Dalszielle 3 жыл бұрын
I am happy being alone,,,I find peace and quiet so important that when I go to work with people I can understand better and even if I have to work alone I don’t mind at all...is this strange?_🤔💭
@pratyakshbanerjee6523
@pratyakshbanerjee6523 2 жыл бұрын
I needed to listen to this.THANKS.
@tommasinibafford7272
@tommasinibafford7272 3 жыл бұрын
This makes sense. Thank you!
@steevrawjers
@steevrawjers 2 жыл бұрын
the thing about loners is Loners are always alone However alone does not have to mean lonely in my book great talk thank you
@ColorWaters
@ColorWaters 3 жыл бұрын
I’m not familiar with this type of loneliness. I enjoy being alone and I’m comfortable experiencing life alone. Every now and then I would like a connection, a friend, or even a best friend. A Tea with Strangers sounds great but what about building friendships?
@downer_dave
@downer_dave 2 жыл бұрын
I agree. I really enjoy being with myself, too. Just like you, I sometimes think I would like a connection of some kind, but then I'll be around one of my siblings and their spouse and think "no thanks" that doesn't seem enjoyable. I go to bars once a month and meet people but it's only for that night.
@bjulianaleo3025
@bjulianaleo3025 3 жыл бұрын
I'd love to meet this man ... have a conversation about How Great being Alone can be. I've been married, and felt alone. And yet, have lots of girlfriends that put meaning into my life, at time. But, as long as there is a Creator , I am truly NEVER alone. Now...IF I needed someone to help me cut the trees in my backyard...THEN I feel lonely...because no one wants to help me. And I've been more than willing to help others, not be alone. Just wish it was returned once in a while. Juliana in Woodbine NJ (Now, WOODBINE IS one Isolated town...and people in New Jersey are NOT very friendly!)
@bjulianaleo3025
@bjulianaleo3025 3 жыл бұрын
@@MsMoonpriestess ❤️❤️ I always wanted to live in North Carolina. Thank you for your thoughts ❣️ we'd make good neighbors 😊
@bjulianaleo3025
@bjulianaleo3025 3 жыл бұрын
@@MsMoonpriestess Say, are you on facebook? I'm under B.Juliana Leo - who knows, maybe a new friendship?
@MsMoonpriestess
@MsMoonpriestess 3 жыл бұрын
@@bjulianaleo3025 unfortunately no , I got off FB 4 yrs ago. Too much negativity & family drama. I try to concentrate on Peace. I'm on messenger though, I'll look for ya there.
@bjulianaleo3025
@bjulianaleo3025 3 жыл бұрын
@@MsMoonpriestess I hear that.. I do appreciate the ease of connecting with friends in other states (I've moved around a lot) But even then, who has the time keeping up with every one. :-( I work as well, and manage my own household, two dogs, and when I sleep at night...I Sleep! lol I also have a veg. garden so I'm outside every day, and then go to work at a Senior Center. It pays the bills! I used to live in Richmond Virginia, and travelled to NC about once a year. I love NC! But ended up in NJ to take care of my Mom. Wow, did not see that coming... thought it would have been the reverse, hoping to move her in with me. Stubborness, she got her way. So here I am. I don't like living here, but one day, I will find a way to move....anywhere but NJ. lol
@gamezswinger
@gamezswinger 3 жыл бұрын
"It is only the man dwelling in isolation who is not forced to respond, through defiance or submission, to the commands of others." --Peterson J.
@davefisher1840
@davefisher1840 2 жыл бұрын
Very interesting and well stated 😊
@smileyface702
@smileyface702 3 жыл бұрын
Great talk! You are a cool, brave person :)
@AmbersSweatyChoker
@AmbersSweatyChoker 3 жыл бұрын
Loved this!!!!
@gozdeyldrm8392
@gozdeyldrm8392 3 жыл бұрын
Really good content, like it very helpful thanks😊👍
@mohammedmusa8240
@mohammedmusa8240 3 жыл бұрын
😊😊 believe me being lonely is good for health
@thevoicejb8898
@thevoicejb8898 2 жыл бұрын
Grew up isolated never had friends. In school i only missed having a human to stand side me made me weird /loner but I've never missed out on friends. I love alone time with myself ive never felt alone. My brain feels like a theme park that changes the rides out frequently.
@asisqueezylovediary6474
@asisqueezylovediary6474 3 жыл бұрын
When I'm not in relationship I'm alone and I feel alone bc I don't know when I will I'm gonna meet someone again so I go crazy but i am good with my beliefs and with myself so I just calmly going on with developing my life and having my eyes open for the future. Indeed the feeling is there but fear is much less now. Is piece full so time going on and isn't waisted bc I have worked on my life, so the relationship will come when is good moment for it without me knowing it
@piyushsingwariya4021
@piyushsingwariya4021 3 жыл бұрын
I was stuck in life, playing games all day and doing nothing, and then a friend introduced me to this program called Forwago. Now I'm on a clear path forward and enjoy every day.
@minihamster8526
@minihamster8526 3 жыл бұрын
I live alone because i have chosen to be alone. Probably because of my introverted nature, maybe because of my hobbies. I can still get friends if i want through my hobbies but less is better on my case. Relationship is something i would like to try sometime in the future but the current dating scene is just ruined with different apps and unrealistic desires majority have.
@Toobzhere
@Toobzhere 3 жыл бұрын
This is such an informative talk. Thanks for uploading. Thanks for inspiring us. Thanks to channels like these , i made my own one. Please show love and support if you like it. Thanks everyone ♥️
@secondgrave142
@secondgrave142 3 жыл бұрын
Hey i visited your channel and i must say you're doing an amazing job! Keep it up girl
@secondgrave142
@secondgrave142 3 жыл бұрын
More power to you
@secondgrave142
@secondgrave142 3 жыл бұрын
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@darklight1816
@darklight1816 3 жыл бұрын
Hey ur channel has great content. What's your age?
@Toobzhere
@Toobzhere 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much everyone i didnt expect such a good response 😭
@meriahcharles9279
@meriahcharles9279 3 жыл бұрын
When those questions came up i became so emotional its incredibly hard for me to answer i had to pause the video
@jackmack5918
@jackmack5918 Жыл бұрын
'The viewpoints, opinions, beliefs and interpretations of other people are strictly their own and have nothing to do with me.' Anon.
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