Owning Alone: conquering your fear of being solo: Teresa Rodriguez at TEDxWilmington

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@husqvarna17 4 жыл бұрын

I talk to myself, we never argue and we like the same things.

@SSJfraz 4 жыл бұрын

I talk to myself, we always argue and we like different things.

@madao_desu 4 жыл бұрын

I envy that

@rosefaulkner7565 3 жыл бұрын

love It

@rosiesrainbowstars2740 3 жыл бұрын

Lol!

@nathanmccann3452 3 жыл бұрын

That made me laugh

@lilflamingo9529 7 жыл бұрын

Eating alone doesn't bother me, I use to being alone but it would be nice to have meaningful conversation with someone.

@pebblepod30 7 жыл бұрын

Luana Robbins Yup me too, here in Australia.

@b.d7021 7 жыл бұрын

can i join you guys? what time are we meeting?

@arsensaakyan2821 7 жыл бұрын

Luana Robbins Lets have a diner.I will cook for you.

@arsensaakyan2821 7 жыл бұрын

Josh Uddin No problem

@arsensaakyan2821 7 жыл бұрын

Tell me when

@lewpal 5 жыл бұрын

I'm in a deep place of depression and this video has helped a little. I feel so rejected and used but this gives me a little hope. I'm not alone, we're not alone in feeling this.

@rosebudd5724 5 жыл бұрын

Lewis Murphy, I am so sorry you feel this way but you are right, you are not alone. Although it may seem otherwise, please know there are people that care about you that you do not know, and I am one of them. I hope you find happiness and peace of mind - this comes from within, not from outside of yourself. I wish you the very best! X

@jadealexander8233 5 жыл бұрын

Lewis Murphy, you are loved no matter what you did there is a chance of reconciliation and there is everlasting love ready to befall on you from the grace of Christ. God loves you and his children, including myself, love you.

@radermachera8204 5 жыл бұрын

Hope you’ve overcome your depression by now. Just remember - this too shall pass as there’s nothing permanent in this world, whether it’s sadness, happiness, etc. Life is like that.

@kyle-cl1by 5 жыл бұрын

I hope by now you are no longer depressed. I am currently going through just what you were feeling. It's terrible I feel alone even when I'm with the people closest to me and i don't know what to do. I just got a car for my 16th birthday, and I thought that would help but now it feels like the only time people want me around is to drive them places. But the second after I drive them somewhere it feels like they stop caring about me. I dont even know what I want anymore. It just feels like the harder I try to make myself happy the more lonely I feel, and less happy. I dont want to tell my parents or go see a therapist cause I feel like people will judge me, or tell me that I'm wrong for feeling the way I do. Being depressed has such a negative stigma so I try to avoid it, and I act as happy as possible but it just feels fake. I dont feel like I'm being genuine with my self or others. If you have any tips that helped you get over it or deal with it I'd be glad to hear.

@paulcooper5748 5 жыл бұрын

Im the same i can relate.

@Tungsten96 6 жыл бұрын

I intentionally stay alone when I can. The universe has me cross paths with people for a reason so they stick around until they feel like leaving. Being alone has more benefits than people realize. It clears your head and gives you peace.

@expertbyexperienceshared9903 6 жыл бұрын

Tungsten when it's a choice

@shannonmorgan2344 6 жыл бұрын

Tungsten I agree. When you say they stick around until they feel like leaving, what do you mean by that?

@journeyinspirit 5 жыл бұрын

Or the opposite. But yeah for the most part, it does bring peace

@katejohnston5098 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this !

@rheamaecartin7368 5 жыл бұрын

I truly agree....

@1diagram Жыл бұрын

The loneliest times I’ve spent in my life have been while in a bad relationship or in my broken family dynamic, not while I was actually living alone.

@bronyaee5874 Жыл бұрын

So relatable

@chickensandwich3398 7 ай бұрын

Same.

@HayleyJeffs 4 жыл бұрын

1. Be brave 07:40 2. Be faithful (to yourself) 08:14 3. Be wise 09:05 4. Be light (leave fear, shame and embarrassment behind) 09:36 5. Be beautiful (confidence and patience) 10:45 6. Be generous (give of yourself, give back, give compliments) 11:58 7. Be soulful 12:52

@kajalviveksinghchauhan3709 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks ❤️

@user-mi4yc7pr3x 2 жыл бұрын

actually this sounds really good.

@Swanky95472 5 жыл бұрын

the title of this was misleading. This talk is all about TRAVELING alone, not being alone on the daily.

@Jakerski 4 жыл бұрын

Swankster My interpretation is that she’s talking about traveling in your own life. Going through your life alone. You don’t have to be with someone to do stuff alone and be faithful to your own self.

@mitch1668 4 жыл бұрын

This is one of worst ted talks

@enhmurron 3 жыл бұрын

ty for saving 10min of my life

@blackrose4101 3 жыл бұрын

@Kevin Tewey yeah i was nice to listen to but not helpful since I have hardly nothing to my name and now stuck in the house thanks to covid i would love to travel but cant, I cant even really go in to town what are you meant to do when your stuck in the house and have no friends thanks to being isolated by your ex?

@alainapowerchick2025 3 жыл бұрын

The travel is a metaphor. She's talking about navigating your life alone.

@thereaIitsybitsyspider 7 жыл бұрын

Wow, I would never want to be rejected in the way this woman was. It's admirable that she was able to turn things around.

@lonewolf3564 7 жыл бұрын

Theitsybitsyspider she did nothing great

@sarahcox4161 5 жыл бұрын

Atul Lall Uh, what?

@pamemarald3601 5 жыл бұрын

that is bcoz u haven't heard the other side of story, the man's side. He must have gone through a lot as well :)...!! don't u think

@fancys4783 5 жыл бұрын

Spot on Pam there's two side to every story.

@pamemarald3601 4 жыл бұрын

@@fancys4783 well she told nothing about the guy, just nothing how was he to her, how were they spending time in Australia. Thats not fair just got no fair assessment about her situation, just one sided one dimensional story, incomplete, irritating

@snowleopard7952 3 жыл бұрын

Rejection is good for the ego. Heartbreak opens the heart ♥️ That’s my experience.

@beeeeeesssttttttttt 3 жыл бұрын

Great lines

@LeytonTLA1 2 жыл бұрын

Relatable

@leesykes4640 2 жыл бұрын

I feel this

@sarahskicks Жыл бұрын

Totally.

@anewloveofficial9137 6 жыл бұрын

Nobody wants to be left alone but it is when you're alone that you discover your inner strength. Learn to be tough because it's the only way for you to get the upperhand of the relationship.

@BigHenFor 4 жыл бұрын

It's not about being tough: it's about self-love and self-respect. When you know yourself, and know how to take care yourself, you can afford to say, and to hear the word 'No', and not be araid or crushed by it.

@tabithashayla 4 жыл бұрын

BigHenFor I think that’s what my lesson has been for my whole journey.

@JessMaccain 4 жыл бұрын

@@BigHenFor Well said ! Kudos:)

@JessMaccain 4 жыл бұрын

@@BigHenFor Well said! Kudos!

@thebrain678 5 жыл бұрын

Thing that sucks being alone is when you cook you know you always got to the dishes.

@pepinicico6193 4 жыл бұрын

Muy buena wey jajajjajsjja

@kateSullivan3927 3 жыл бұрын

that's what paper plates are for, my friend, LOL

@dolospears8681 3 жыл бұрын

@@kateSullivan3927 and disposable cutlery lol

@elizabethk3238 4 жыл бұрын

Divorced 30 years with never a desire to cohabit with anyone again. Love living alone. At 71 I occasionally wonder about having no one around if I should fall ill...but still no desire to live with someone.

@MsGeminorum 4 жыл бұрын

I'm like that also. I divorced at age 30 and now I am 58 and no desire to remarry. I love my peace.

@iveolovarria9390 4 жыл бұрын

Elizabeth K I feel the same. I love being alone

@rogerkomula8057 4 жыл бұрын

Darn, I really was hoping. Top of my list is 71-year-old stuff.

@marshamcdonald1475 4 жыл бұрын

Elizabeth: nothing was more Agonizing, terrifying than Marriage to the so called males I married. I was so Alone and was being abused Financially, emotionally, Physically all in the name Of marriage. Never again Will I marry . Look at the Rate of domestic violence Against women and children. The shelters are overflowing.

@sotest4427 3 жыл бұрын

But these is not being alone, you have empathy here and some kind of friendship here!!

@ichoosejoy2712 Жыл бұрын

We really need more videos like this, not ones that scare you with severe health warnings about being alone but how to live a great, fun life alone.

@lavieestbelle6068 5 жыл бұрын

Be faithful to yourself, have a plan, make it clear, be brave, be cautious, use wisdom and go do what you said you would.

@michaelj1368 6 жыл бұрын

Im a grown man and traveling alone sounds scary. I'm inspired by you brave ladies.

@sylvanafow1340 5 жыл бұрын

Come on, do it! :) Start to another city by yourself for a couple days. You can do it!

@BigHenFor 4 жыл бұрын

I loved it, I love it because travelling with others can be stressful.

@jamesvincent9135 4 жыл бұрын

They're grown women. Are you suggesting that being a grown man makes you stronger?

@petersaternusbrazil 4 жыл бұрын

I feel the same. Couchsurfing helps

@ifkanoloshuwaaallah.2341 4 жыл бұрын

Lol I am a woman and I love solo travel. I think Its more dangerous for a woman in general.

@Restless_Vibes27 6 жыл бұрын

being alone for long enough you eventually dont feel anything anymore, it numbs your emotions, you really start to believe youre invisible to the world and that everybody is enjoying life and happy and youre just drifting through life day by day empty and nobody notices you or your pain or cares

@BigHenFor 4 жыл бұрын

That's loneliness, which is differs from being alone. Being alone is an act of agency and autonomy. You can have relationships but don't need them to feel good about yourself. If you really want to reconnect with people, it's best that you that you reconnect with who you are. What things you like doing, eating, drinking, what make you laugh, what gives you joy. Then go out and do those things. The energy you'll give off will be more attractive. Don't take things personally.

@janiskacon 4 жыл бұрын

@@BigHenFor Agreed, Being alone is far different than being lonely which can happen while in a marriage or other supposedly intimate relationship. For example, if you live with a mate who ignores you experience loneliness along with rejection which combined is extremely painful.

@moreadventure3627 4 жыл бұрын

agreed

@craiga7652 4 жыл бұрын

It's different for different people.

@keithgood7181 4 жыл бұрын

I agree with the above comments you're talking about loneliness NOT being alone!! I'm alone, never married, haven't had a girlfriend in almost 30 years!! It's been tough after I got paralyzed in an accident almost 30 years ago BUT.. I'm alone and I'm doing fine! Sure, I would like a girlfriend but it's not going to bring me down not having one!! I'm comfortable in my own skin and YES you have to be because if you're not strong minded it can destroy you!! On the other hand I'm not TOTALLY alone!!! I have TWO of the GREATEST friends in the world/universe... my best friend of almost 45 years Anthony Duarte and another best friend of 54 years (that's my age) that friend is JESUS CHRIST!!! *_GOD BLESS YOU ALL!!!_*

@BerylWalubengoAnyitiNanyama 4 жыл бұрын

Being faithful to ourselves is the most challenging part

@hotcarmel12 7 жыл бұрын

It's all about doing what works for you. What makes you smile instantly? What makes you feel good about you? And learning to enjoy your company. You enjoy your own company and other's will enjoy you. Also get out of the comparing and competing crap. Be proud, happy and love the life you have.

@KB-xs4cl 7 жыл бұрын

Best advice ;)

@joannegarlock7075 6 жыл бұрын

hotcarmel12 so true!! ❤️

@vizunip8773 5 жыл бұрын

ehanks

@dshae2293 5 жыл бұрын

hotcarmel12 well said

@vizunip8773 5 жыл бұрын

geez your hot im tempted?

@josuenunez6541 3 жыл бұрын

After being with someone for 8 years only to have her leave me and break my heart I fell into a hole of depression... it’s been a long period of grieving but this video helped a lot

@user-mi4yc7pr3x 2 жыл бұрын

hope you're better now mate

@beforethelastpetalfallz7888 Жыл бұрын

Hope you are doing great now. My husband left me last month after being married for 9 years and I am so depressed.

@TeresaRodriguezSF 3 ай бұрын

@@beforethelastpetalfallz7888 I hope that you are doing better! YOu got this! Teresa

@muna7033 5 жыл бұрын

Balance is everything. We strive for wholesomeness. There will be times that you may find yourself alone and you'll have to make it by yourself. There will be times when you need people around and they won't be there not because they don't want to but because you've isolated yourself and decided to prove that you can do fine all by yourself and you made people believe that you don't need anyone... even though sometimes you may actually want someone around... Connections are great.. Being comfortable with your solitude is also great... Both are necessary in life

@mlimun 3 жыл бұрын

Great comment, couldn't agree more!

@suelisak1031 8 жыл бұрын

I am sharing this with our Women Healing Wounds Group. Being with ourselves is the hardest step. As women, we have been conditioned to serve others. This is a true test to serving the higher self. Thank you.

@lonewolf3564 7 жыл бұрын

sue lisak no one has conditioned women to serve others, only sheep follow the herd

@lonewolf3564 7 жыл бұрын

I can totally understand what you're saying. I'm from the USA, but of East Indian ethnicity. Indian culture treats women very poorly and has halted their progression for centuries. I do agree that in the past women were conditioned to only have a homemaker role, but today it's very different. I'd say those old gender roles were done away for at least 20 years now. Women get paid the same, and actually have a lot more rights than males today. Just look at sexual harassment cases/domestic abuse/sexual abuse/divorce... Men have far less rights in these areas. However, I'm very glad to see strong independent women making a life for themselves; but I also see a lot of overcompensation/false feminism/man hating from women -particularity millennial women, but crazy millennials are a whole different issue in their own. I just felt the lady in this video was tooting her own horn too proudly when what she went through was just a rough break up... I showed my mother this video and she laughed at this entitled white woman and said she never seen real suffering. My mother also said only spoke of first world problems and that far worse things can happen to a woman than being left at the alter. I see a lot of this "the world should cheer for me" attitude from a lot of white women, particularly in the Silicon Valley area where I live in CA. I mainly feel this is becasue white women, like white males generally have it a lot easier than people/women from other cultures; and so when they encounter any minor hardship that most women from another country/culture would find trivial, they're very quick to throw a parade for themselves. Like you so eloquently said, women from other cultures have had a rough time breaking the mold. My grandmother had to deal with war/civil unrest/genocide/famine/domestic imprisonment during the partition times in India; being left at the alter would've been the easiest thing to deal with for her. This is TED talk so I think only people who very extreme/unique stories should be called to get up on that stage, and for me this lady really had nothing spectacular to say; and this talk just felt more like reaching for attention and that she still didn't really learn much from what she went through. From what you wrote, you sound like a very sweet, wonderful and intelligent woman... I think you'd be better suited to go on that stage and talk over this lady. Being alone is not easy for anyone, whether woman or man... No woman "needs" a man, and no woman is less than any man. I wish you all the best and thanks for sharing your viewpoint.

@sculder85 7 жыл бұрын

What if the woman is a never-married single mother over 25? Is that even worse in the Russian culture? Just curious.

@PsychoLogicalGrl 5 жыл бұрын

I'd love to be a member of your group. Is it online?

@dorcasphoebe8062 5 жыл бұрын

sue lisak can you please add me

@pattymarquez1063 6 жыл бұрын

I am currently visiting San Antonio with myself. It does feel a bit odd and yet liberating. I just got out of a one year relationship that was tearing me up and this trip could not have been planned at a better time. I am meeting the coolest people. Air BnB is helping me afford this trip. She is a bit scattered..however I get her point

@lynnsottak4512 5 жыл бұрын

Be brave, be faithful, be wise, be light, be generous, be soulful.

@user-dj7gc1wo7b 4 жыл бұрын

I love this!!!! Thank you!!!! Strangely, despite me being alone, I do not feel alone ❤️

@shizzle1903 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your story Teresa. You are a strong woman. I’m 43 man and although my struggle is not with someone else, but a struggle with myself. I’ve lost my way but working towards finding it. This was a helpful piece to add to my stash of enlightening videos.

@TeresaRodriguezSF 3 ай бұрын

I hope that you are doing better! Thank you for sharing! Teresa

@lisaguerra4577 4 жыл бұрын

Ouch! Poor lady thank you for sharing your growth with us. You are a great lady. Bravo. I know that hurt so badly. I’m so proud of you for your victory!

@deborahbattle-og4nz 2 ай бұрын

I thought it was just me. I'm happily single and about to turn 62. I've had many relationships, but so much more comfortable in my skin. People expect me to be a "bitter old lady", but the only expectations I have to keep are my own. I'm glad to know others are out there like minded as me.

@nata3467 Жыл бұрын

I am alone but not lonely. I love traveling solo. I love my small cabin and my time in the quiet.

@bluesign3034 Жыл бұрын

Me too. ❤️

@elhadjdiallo633 4 жыл бұрын

Frankly speaking being alone is the best thing that has ever happen to me biblically speaking .... Iam in love with myself , self love is the cure to self loath ....

@madebyluv 6 жыл бұрын

She's so strong. She's such an inspiration. She gives so much hope!!!! ❤️❤️

@eyesee1212 4 жыл бұрын

Years ago I had my heart broken, (had quite a few broken hearts before this one) but after 7 months I sat in my car and realised I wasn't in love with no one, I didn't hurt anymore, and you know what? for once in a long time I felt exactly as she said, it was like I was a child again in the way I felt free, no broken heart, not even lonely, only happiness and delight, it was the best feeling ever. it's nice to be free. yes I'm happily married now.

@user-mi4yc7pr3x 2 жыл бұрын

how you realized that ? i dont get it? i miss being that happy as when i was a child...i really really crave for that feeling of simple happiness...i can't even smile anymore...

@eyesee1212 2 жыл бұрын

@@user-mi4yc7pr3x I don't know what happened at that stage it's like I just got over it. it didn't last for long once I got into another relationship and then life gets to you, but in the end you have to find inner peace, do you remember what made you happy as a child, was it nature or an animal that made you smile, are you holding grudges against people, because before we can heal we have to forgive, not what action they did but just as a human being. I grow a veggie garden that makes me happy seeing that seed grow into a big veggie, just to cuddle my little dog makes me happy when she is happy, and my husband makes me happy when he is laughing and happy.

@user-mi4yc7pr3x 2 жыл бұрын

@@eyesee1212 yeah it's always good to find another gf/bf. But if they are a strange person it's only gonna make it worse

@trentlong1796 5 жыл бұрын

I needed this it’s ok to be single and even if it’s forever. It’s ok to...This is a touching reminder nothing is forever..

@markaldredmagtibay1775 3 жыл бұрын

Words simply can not describe how helpful to me Forwago is. It completely changed the way I think and feel about everyday things. This program is too good and it is too bad that many people don't know about it.

@mr.jeeva.s8829 3 жыл бұрын

if anyone needs some motivation, start right now because if u don’t, a year from now u would’ve wished u started earlier. do it so your future self will thank u!!

@brittanyjackson6432 5 жыл бұрын

Hello, this is remarkable and refreshing to hear thank you so much! I'm so glad you bounced back Ms. Teresa I can relate to your story.

@gaber6382 7 жыл бұрын

Holy shit. This made me realize that I have been living my life on neutral.

@mitukur2120 3 жыл бұрын

I was stuck in life, playing games all day and doing nothing, and then a friend introduced me to this program called Forwago. Now I'm on a clear path forward and enjoy every day.

@patrickceaserwalugembe7183 3 жыл бұрын

thanks a lot

@kikonyc68 5 жыл бұрын

I have NO CHOICE but to do things alone.

@claireoconor7986 4 жыл бұрын

P R little B.

@wenilynpastolero 2 жыл бұрын

I recommend a podcast called Solo by Peter Mcgraw. It's empowering and I'm encouraged to not be afraid being single my whole life and being solo.

@larryjones9773 Жыл бұрын

I have found that if I am working out, things like fear of being alone, are greatly diminished. Solution: a long walk or jog.

@bluesign3034 Жыл бұрын

I needed this. Thank you a lot. 😭

@lindaredlick8821 6 жыл бұрын

If you change your scenery even if it's just the next town you change your perspective therefore changing your mind.

@_Fredinator_ 3 жыл бұрын

This is true

@marcuservin9990 4 жыл бұрын

Solitude is Truly brave and beneficial

@amandawhidden6844 4 жыл бұрын

And involuntary, therefore pointless. It doesn't give us what we truly need or want. It's just business. Business is not fulfillment. 💔

@Liz-em6nj 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing your journey with us. It was beautiful and uplifting.

@dark_architect1644 4 жыл бұрын

Im 23 years old, just got divorced after 1 year of mirrage, car broke down, and lost my job all in 2 months. Being alone is scary but i think its my best chance to grow as a person and be happy with no responsibility.

@davidbolha 4 жыл бұрын

Don't forget to go MGTOW. 😉😎🖒

@aprameyaananda8046 7 жыл бұрын

Great and challenging subject for many! I was in absolute denial of the fear I had around being single. It surfaced when by my own decisions I found myself on my own. What 'saved' me was my beloved Guru and the spiritual solutions he offered. This was a turning point in my life. I have decided to dedicate my life to Nithyananda's mission and now am a Hindu monk.

@tejaswinilakkaraju258 Жыл бұрын

Good to see you here🙏. What better life than that of brahmachari.

@dorcasyoga8137 4 жыл бұрын

Love this! I’m a nomad and my family don’t get it! You experience growth with every country, culture and person you encounter!

@olganadal9775 5 жыл бұрын

Great topic, so happy people are talking about it now

@fatifleur-hp6jr 4 жыл бұрын

We come to this life alone we will leave it alone this is a good lesson👌

@mayaalsir9986 4 жыл бұрын

fati fleur big facts

@claireoconor7986 4 жыл бұрын

fati fleur. THE ONLY PERSON YOU CAN GUARANTEE TO WAKE UP WITH FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE IS YOURSELF, SO GET TO KNOWN YOURSELF, LOVE YOURSELF AND TAKE GOOD CARE OF YOURSELF. I LOVE THIS QUOTE BECAUSE IT IS SO VERY TRUE!

@c.9850 5 жыл бұрын

It's wonderful. Don't be afraid.

@FlowerOverviews 5 жыл бұрын

Wow! This video truly inspired me. It’s funny how sometimes we judge things too quickly. At first I wasn’t very interested in keeping the video rolling but a few minutes in and I felt very connected to what she was saying. Beautiful words.

@TeresaRodriguezSF 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you Angel Rose. :-) You made my day. - Teresa

@laurashay7740 Жыл бұрын

Such good words and Ms Rodriguez makes alot of good scents. Here is a flower for a fabulous lady like you. ⚘

@TeresaRodriguezSF 3 ай бұрын

Thank you! I hope you have a beautiful day!

@lovedandhighlyfavord 4 жыл бұрын

I believe there are no accidents, upon just leaving my love, I have been diving into sadness, coming across this video may very well be an intricate part of changing my life. Thank you so much !

@mickymouse2222 4 жыл бұрын

She's amazing. Thank you for sharing the journey you were on and the lessons learnt. Over 6 years from getting your talk posted on KZfaq, your story is still bestowing practical knowledge to those who see this video.

@TeresaRodriguezSF 3 ай бұрын

Thank you! I hope that you are doing well. ~Teresa

@cheekyfox4123 7 жыл бұрын

lesson learned: don't trust ANYONE.

@lonewolf3564 7 жыл бұрын

Cheeky Fox you clearly didn't learn anything at all

@brianbeeler1715 6 жыл бұрын

Cheeky Fox "Trust but verify." - Ronald Reagan. Never trust anyone over yourself. Always be open and a skeptic.

@jamesgentry13 6 жыл бұрын

Atul Lall I don't even trust myself

@tehsafura5371 6 жыл бұрын

Dont trust anyone even your own self hehehe

@farhita6282 6 жыл бұрын

Omg yessss

@chrissylyles7884 5 жыл бұрын

I loved this. When she started talking about traveling alone it really spoke to me. I’ve been having a lot of anxiety about going on trips by myself. This helped a whole lot

@princesslve 5 жыл бұрын

This is one of the best talks I’ve listened to. Your words made me feel humbled and reminds me that no matter what you’re going through, there is always room for perseverance. Thank you for sharing your experience.

@lavieestbelle6068 5 жыл бұрын

Yes, the key is to live in the now. Enjoy each day, tomorrow will take care of itself.

@sanakoamin3996 3 жыл бұрын

The one thing that really made me feel better, energized, and determined to reach my goals was Forwago. Thank you so much !!!

@budiantahadimartana1740 3 жыл бұрын

I tried Forwago way back in a private group, don't know if it's publicly available yet

@amrice62 3 жыл бұрын

I'm doin' it!!!! Just sold my house with no idea where to go BUT, have great ideas... I just had been getting freaked out and this timing couldn't be better🙏

@Saffron.Aerowyn_07 6 жыл бұрын

Well said ... being solitary is underrated. 🦋

@jnick4218 5 жыл бұрын

Love yourself, that is the only solution to everything, if you know how to love yourself first before love someone then you will have no problems at all, even if you get betrayed cos the first reaction you should have is to love yourself and make sure you're not hurt.

@rosebudd5724 5 жыл бұрын

J Nick, you are spot on!

@iiAngelic 4 жыл бұрын

I solo travel often, but this video really put into words what happens when you commit to your dreams and vision for yourself.

@tanyaattarwala 5 жыл бұрын

Nice talk👍🏽. Things happen for a reason in our life and a positive attitude can make all the difference! Thanks for sharing!🙏🏼 Marz

@ruianna5875 5 жыл бұрын

She reminds me on how I used to travel by myself. I just dont do it anymore because I am busy looking for someone to travel with. I should start packing again. Thank you :D

@emilythesongbird2306 7 жыл бұрын

Beautiful talk! It seems you are addressing the Hero's Journey, the transformation that occurs through the willingness to leave what is familiar and take risks that force you to grow or die. Thank you for sharing your story. It is empowering and encouraging for us all to follow a deeper impulse in us to be the true spiritual travelers we are. Thank you.

@iAmTheSquidThing 9 жыл бұрын

Maybe wanderlust is part of human nature. Perhaps we're supposed to be a bit nomadic, and having a fixed home is just a side-effect of the agricultural revolution which is unhealthy for some people.

@carolynmerritt7100 5 жыл бұрын

I totally agree, Andy Brice!

@l.obinduka6791 5 жыл бұрын

agreed

@trooper744 5 жыл бұрын

Perfectly said !

@simonesolandres1866 4 жыл бұрын

I get attached to places

@kateSullivan3927 3 жыл бұрын

@Christina Reynolds That's called a comfort zone, not commitment

@MDN418 7 жыл бұрын

There are places on earth where its worst to be a woman. Once you meet them kind, you will feel sorry for them. You will cry with them as they say how lucky you are being careless and free. I am thankful that I wasn't born that way. Freedom is everything. Being alone sometimes will take you to a place where not everyone have been. Cheers to #strongwomen

@juliand.l.4310 3 жыл бұрын

“I was alone, but I was alone in London.” Hahahahaha!

@beejo9485 5 жыл бұрын

This is scattered. Are we talking about being alone or going on a vacation alone?

@crossroads670 5 жыл бұрын

😂😂 yes, she was a mess? Wtf

@emmiedelweiss 4 жыл бұрын

Exactly.

@samanthachildress1091 4 жыл бұрын

She used that as her own personal example to show the importance of being alone. Traveling was the platform she used to express this in her talk. Can you not connect the dots? Much like mythology uses stories to express the deeper meaning of how life events effect us on a soul level.

@amandagarten9793 4 жыл бұрын

Galaxy’s Animations Yes! Thank you so much for saying that. I wish that everyone with negative thoughts would keep them to themselves. Spread positivity not negativity.

@vinylninja 2 жыл бұрын

in 2012 as a young 21-year-old, I backpacked around North America on my own for 3 months. My only plan was to enter the first pub I see as soon as I leave the airport and I did. My life changed, I lost all of my depression and the world opened up for me.

@user-mi4yc7pr3x 2 жыл бұрын

how you're doing now mate?

@vinylninja 2 жыл бұрын

@@user-mi4yc7pr3x Never better in all my days haha thanks for asking. Actually going solo on an ayahuasca retreat in less than two weeks as it happens

@user-mi4yc7pr3x 2 жыл бұрын

@@vinylninja found some love in the meanwhile also?

@arlinegeorge6967 3 жыл бұрын

Lovely talk . inspiring. Thank you, bless you. All your dreams come true.

@monikatamang2562 6 жыл бұрын

Every time i feel alone i listen this

@sadhusai5645 6 жыл бұрын

Yes dinning alone is most scariest thing. Your speech is inspiring.

@louchieamartinez6878 2 ай бұрын

I love this talk it feels like I understood it since it's the same as the voice I hear in my head.

@tmr2320 7 жыл бұрын

This is not about owning alone. It's about traveling alone. Unless you're privileged it's not realistic to "travel the world" as a means of therapy. Also she said this happened in the 80's but she referenced a book by Elckhart Tolle which was written in 1997 as if she had read it back then. ????

@PsychoLogicalGrl 5 жыл бұрын

I got that traveling made her feel she was in the now. A concept she had discovered for herself before the book was written.

@t3xmex165 5 жыл бұрын

THANK YOU

@NoName-qc3ms 4 жыл бұрын

She meant the 80s wedding dress.

@sensitivestronger337 3 жыл бұрын

7:00 Create space for yourself for something New by leaving ALL labels about yourself behind. 👍 Be Brave (committed) Be faithful (individual happiness = world peace) Be safe, be light (fear says no, You're not allowed to, no it can't happen...) Be Beautiful, Be Generous, *Be Soulful (share *encouragement, understanding & wisdom with others).

@allysghost1254 11 ай бұрын

Not going to lie, I mastered this at an early age due to being an only child. However I have a friend who could really hear this right now. Great advice, spoken with true wisdom. Thank you!

@zachbaker5259 4 жыл бұрын

Career in the service industry working with many other human beings every day helps me understand the value of being alone, which I think is really just a state of mind anyway. Most of my free time is spent with myself, doing whatever I want and whenever I want to.

@manalani3724 6 жыл бұрын

Beautiful and meaningful. Deep and expansive

@gina2032 7 жыл бұрын

you are so strong & great and what a good advice. thanks for sharing your experience

@sunroom7 6 жыл бұрын

Thankyou Connie! I needed to hear this!

@noraanderson367 6 жыл бұрын

I've been alone all my life. being alone not only within romantic relationships, but also platonic. I hid within groups of friends to hide my loneliness throughout elementary, high school, and now university. I live on my own with a roommate, but the emptiness within me continues to push me further away from making any connections with people.

@anastasiab7030 5 жыл бұрын

I totally understand this. I feel the same

@Amber_Lunenburg 4 жыл бұрын

Me three.

@justinlee1237 4 жыл бұрын

Misery loves company, add another person to that pile

@emmiearnold5431 5 жыл бұрын

I appreciate the general sentiment of this so much, but the precedent of throwing out inpatient paperwork and flying halfway around the world isn't a one-size-fits-all policy - it's pretty dangerous. I'm so glad it worked out for her!

@kathykonkle1097 Жыл бұрын

Yeah. Ted talks only apply to the able-bodied who are struggling with mental issues. Nothing can help a person not feel lonely if they aren't physically able to get around and if no one has time for them.

@TZach1987 8 ай бұрын

This woman is on to something. I need to come back to this

@Shaniloka369 5 жыл бұрын

I'm so glad you conquer that hurt in your life. You have made me stronger today. Thank you.

@crismeloearth 6 жыл бұрын

Not "every" girl. I never wanted the white wedding.

@bunnycat4153 4 жыл бұрын

This whole talk is actually problematic from a “white” narrative standpoint, unfortunately.

@rorororo4950 5 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this ted x

@caligurl2027 Жыл бұрын

I have no problem with it just being my dog and I. She’s my best friend. I talk to her and let her know how much I love her….she’s well loved. I will always have a dog that’s my one and only friend/best friend. I guess I’m considered an introvert/extrovert. I have no problem talking to people…I just don’t want to make any friends. I love my time with just my dog and I. I’m very independent. The downside of not having friends is that if I ended up in the hospital or something where I wasn’t able to take care of my dog I don’t know who would. It couldn’t be just anyone so that is my fear. I love being single and alone. I can do whatever I want anytime whenever however…. I talk to myself and my dog all the time. When I’m at work and I’m thinking out loud, I really have to watch what I say

@maaryxart1170 7 жыл бұрын

Elephant and Castle sounded magical.... I nearly spit out my tea laughing. Anyone from London knows it's anything but!

@heyimalice8633 7 жыл бұрын

Maria M anything but?

@BeaDem 5 жыл бұрын

Mav Mav hahahahha agree E@C is the last place to be magical

@sonjak8265 5 жыл бұрын

The name is magical. It is the place where I spent a night at an abandon building with the London homeless when I was working illegally in London.

@kiwifruit0074 5 жыл бұрын

That magical place Elephant & Castle lol. I knew it in the 90s...maybe its improved.

@anthonybalarkas118 4 жыл бұрын

Mav Mav my thinking exactly 😂

@missmann9327 2 жыл бұрын

fear of living alone? i lost count of how many times i have looked around my home and thought "WOW this is awesome" look at what all i have and i can do what i want, when i want, and how i want. no arguing, being controlled, manipulated, etc. no wife = happy life.

@sirajansari4496 Жыл бұрын

Fantastic speaker!!! Tks!!!

@catalinojrdazo809 2 жыл бұрын

This made me cry. Thank you. 👍

@dosesandmimoses 2 жыл бұрын

Being alone is not so much a problem as long as one has friends and family or even coworkers to give support. But it is tough without a support network; think of tom hanks’ character in castaway. It’s not that one can’t survive, it’s more that having people in your life can enrich your life.

@wami6328 4 жыл бұрын

It's the space between the notes that makes the music.

@reillybab1 4 жыл бұрын

So beautiful.., thank You 🙏❤️

@smythpearl1 4 жыл бұрын

I went on my 1st loaner trip and surfed in California. Turned out to be awesome! My best memories were when I was single. I was single twice for 10 years total. Turned out those times were the best times of my life!

@janeenmpellicane956 6 жыл бұрын

You are a great teacher! I love your examples

@heatherwiner2883 6 жыл бұрын

What does traveling alone got to do with people who are perpetually single and lonely? I have been dateless for 19 years. Traveling to another country alone is not going to change that.

@Gwisemua 5 жыл бұрын

Heather Winer My thoughts exactly. Being alone and being lonely are two completely different things. I've had many coupled up people tell me that being alone is not that bad, that they themselves do many things without their significant others from time to time. "I go to the cinema/have a drink/travel by myself sometimes and I enjoy it". I'm like "Yeah, fine, but you do it because you need some time alone from time to time like mostly everybody and because you know that there'll be someone waiting for you when you get home". Ironically, all the people who give me this, tend to be the most codependent, change-averse and needy people I know. Many of them stay in shi**y relationships because they'd rather be miserable than lonely. You know... Do as I say, not as I do.

@darrendehahn5269 5 жыл бұрын

Exactly. The video title is slightly misleading. Also not everyone has the capability to just travel to another country or city which is largely what her talk is based around. I think her attempt was less about finding someone and more about finding yourself although still, even this attempt in my opinion was not that great. She then made it seem as though going to a clinic is a bad thing which is tremendously problematic. I stopped taking her seriously after that statement.

@SpaceCattttt 5 жыл бұрын

At least you've had dates, so you don't have to feel unworthy of love.I'm 41 and have never dated anyone. So the reason I don't travel is because I'm too depressed to move my bodyfrom the couch...

@robyndismon394 5 жыл бұрын

@@SpaceCattttt Do u have enough strength 2 go outside, meaning just outside your front door and take a dozen purposeful breaths? This small exercise is a good start.

@SpaceCattttt 5 жыл бұрын

@@robyndismon394 Sure. I just don't see much point in it. I need somewhere to go, but there is nowhere to go. All the maps have been burned.

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