Being RIGHT vs Being EFFECTIVE: Why Being Right May be Bringing You Down | Dr. Rami Nader

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Dr. Rami Nader

Dr. Rami Nader

3 жыл бұрын

Have you ever found yourself focussed on doing something out of principle? Because it is the right thing to do, or it is within your right to do it? We all do. The problem is when we are so preoccupied with being right, that we lose sight of being effective - actually accomplishing what we want in a particular situation. We can get so caught up in being right that we actually move away from what we intended to achieve in the situation, thereby making us unhappy, discontent and miserable. In this video, I discuss the difference between being right versus being effective and how focussing on being right can actually contribute to feelings of depression and anxiety. I also discuss how you can recognize when you are getting preoccupied with being right at the expense of being effective and what you can do to change that.
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@yuvalshlush7846
@yuvalshlush7846 3 жыл бұрын
Great topic! I end up far too much in situatations when I am sure I am right but arguing about it rarely helps and usually just destroys relationships. I never looked at it from your perspectives but I will try that. Tnx
@DrRamiNader
@DrRamiNader 3 жыл бұрын
The key is effectiveness and knowing what it is you actually want in a situation.
@Katreeontree
@Katreeontree 2 жыл бұрын
When I saw the title I immediately felt exhausted, because this is my weak spot. Combined with short temper it has made me a lot of trouble in social connections. Sadly I usually don't really feel that exact moment, when I have to beware or step back. I'm trying to take an extra time to decide how to react, but life is dynamic, more often decisions have to be made immediately. I've found your channel recently and I really like your videos and how you speak, thank you!
@DrRamiNader
@DrRamiNader 2 жыл бұрын
Welcome to the channel and I'm pleased you have found the videos helpful!
@guldenakdemir2493
@guldenakdemir2493 Жыл бұрын
I definitely see how many times I took the "right" road and ended up being in a more chaotic situation and losing sight of what I really should have been focusing on.
@DrRamiNader
@DrRamiNader Жыл бұрын
Exactly the point of the video. Glad you found it helpful!
@5erytfshfjo97r7dygkpu
@5erytfshfjo97r7dygkpu 2 жыл бұрын
Someone I know is in pain and lost money because I was right. I tried to convince them to help them, but I didn't try hard enough so I changed from trying to help them to, "Let's see who is right in the end." No one say thank you for being right. They say thank you for convincing me to do the right thing. In the end, both party loses (if you care about them) when you are right and you didn't convince them.
@angelahall4332
@angelahall4332 2 жыл бұрын
Dr. Nader, I have learned so much about dealing with long-term depression from you! That said, I am remembering another video in which you said to think about the long-term results of a situation. This helps put the present problem in perspective. The client in this video could have thought about why in the world his bottle of water will make any difference in 5-10 years and how his wife and friends will remember him and this situation in 5-10 years. So not worth it! I look forward to all your videos!
@DrRamiNader
@DrRamiNader 2 жыл бұрын
Hi Angela - I am glad you have found the videos helpful and have been able to generalize information from the videos to other areas, which is great, as these are therapeutic skills that can be used in a number of different situations. Thanks for supporting the channel!
@ladyj5682
@ladyj5682 11 ай бұрын
I feel the same Bout Dr. Nader! Years of wasted money, time but these videos have down more to help me on this journey of struggling with depression
@rabiabelani1184
@rabiabelani1184 10 күн бұрын
Wow! This is really a life lesson, I'll make sure to work on myself to stop trying to always be right
@DrRamiNader
@DrRamiNader 10 күн бұрын
Glad you found it helpful.
@thelmaviaduct
@thelmaviaduct 3 жыл бұрын
Brilliant video, thank you 👍🏿
@DrRamiNader
@DrRamiNader 3 жыл бұрын
Hi Thelma - you're welcome, glad you found it useful! Thanks for supporting the channel :)
@thelmaviaduct
@thelmaviaduct 3 жыл бұрын
@@DrRamiNader you break down the complex, which makes it easier to understand. When behaviour is ingrained, it's difficult to identify the issue, and as a result, the fix 👍🏿
@Hend3077
@Hend3077 2 жыл бұрын
Very beneficial Thank you
@DrRamiNader
@DrRamiNader 2 жыл бұрын
You're welcome!
@plantmama7442
@plantmama7442 2 жыл бұрын
Essentially you can either be happy or right. Pick and choose your battles wisely! The embarrassment and misery you cause yourself or others isn’t worth it !
@DrRamiNader
@DrRamiNader 2 жыл бұрын
I agree - the key is picking and choosing your battles and remembering what your ultimate goal is in the situation.
@McInerneyEoin
@McInerneyEoin 3 жыл бұрын
Looks like Im screwed then. I see no point in succeeding if I have to give up my principles to do it. I'll hate myself for giving in to something I disagree with.
@DrRamiNader
@DrRamiNader 3 жыл бұрын
Hi Eoin - thanks for your comment. It's not about a person giving up their principles all the time, but rather understanding what their ultimate goals are and ensuring that they are being most effective in achieving those goals. It's in a rigid adherence to principles that people lose sight of what they actually want.
@Alberts_Stuff
@Alberts_Stuff 8 ай бұрын
Good asmr voice 👍🏼
@DrRamiNader
@DrRamiNader 8 ай бұрын
Lol, thanks
@johnrainsman6650
@johnrainsman6650 8 ай бұрын
I still don't understand. What's wrong with being right? Why do some people make being right so complicated and "underrated"? It's simple: you're right, the other person is wrong. The person who's right has nothing to own or be responsible for; that only applies to the person who's wrong. There is no deeper, more insightful meaning to the whole right-VS-wrong thing. It doesn't need a complex philosophy. Being right is right 👍and being wrong is wrong👎 It's equivalent to good guy VS bad guy. Some people actually say that being right doesn't matter, that peace matters more. If I didn't know any better, I'd say they were suggesting the _right_ person should apologize to the _wrong_ person, but that can't be, can it?
@DrRamiNader
@DrRamiNader 8 ай бұрын
Nothing wrong with being right, but when having to be right interferes with ultimate goals and purpose, then being right isn't great.
@johnrainsman6650
@johnrainsman6650 8 ай бұрын
@@DrRamiNader Well, if you and your partner (or whoever, I don't care) were in an argument and they were wrong and you were right, would you belittle and dismiss that truth?
@zacharytowey6989
@zacharytowey6989 5 ай бұрын
The explanation was way too long at the beginning. Completely lost me.
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