this crossover definitely "HITS different" compared to others 😎

Yessir

I hope Connor and Joey get interviewed. If they want to.

Cultural cross-pollination

@fabulousJejmaze 🐝 SO TRUE

why is that important? Im out of the loop but does Garnt not like the mix up?

@@classyjohn1923 Just an inside joke.

Im in both bubbles and this is gonna be a ride 😄

@@classyjohn1923 meme that no one says his name correct

I saw it and I was like ah shit

And his cut scene hating behavior

And his dogwater takes about Oshi no Ko.

honestly though i find Connor such a fascinating person I would love to see dr k take a dive into his philosphy

And his unique opinions

and his hatred towards oranges

Fr fr😂

we´re sending garnt everyone, he has earned it hahah XD@@Raiyan66.

I thought we settled the fact that Garnt is the MC.

The Protagonist.

I was wondering if you or anyone else could elaborate on this point a bit more. I didn’t really get it the first time K had said it.

same@@danielpintard7382

@@danielpintard7382 I think he was talking about people seeking acceptance by putting on a front or by hiding their true self. You get good feelings from being accepted by the group, but in that case it's not the real you being accepted so it doesn't lead to happiness.

@@danielpintard7382 I used to smoke weed because it made me feel good but in the end it made me unhappy and now that I stopped I’m way better for it. We have to give up many pleasures to build a happy life. We all know that watching videos on KZfaq all day and playing a bunch of video games to avoid our responsibilities is gonna make us unhappy, but even so we still choose to do these behaviors. Atleast for me, I often do these things knowing full well that I’m sacrificing my happiness for short term pleasures. Now some people may not be aware that some behavior of theirs is making them unhappy but many people like me can be fully aware of it but choose it either way. I choose it because I usually just want to feel good in that moment

​@@danielpintard7382well the extreme of this would be addiction, alcohol heroin what ever, we would rather trade happiness with feeling good, feeling good isnt feeling happy, one is a short term thing(feeling good) and happiness is a long term feeling or more of an umbrella thing. Not going to school will feel good as you play games at home all day but you trade happiness, youre not making connections witu friends irl, ur not setting up ur future and youre not gonna become happy in the long run, just because faking ill to get off school feels good doesnt mean it makes you happy. In that scenario you chose feeling good over happiness.

It's actually Garnt.

It's actually Gig-UK-Arizona.

God

@@MystiqWisdom No, it's grarnt

​@@dwallace67No, it's PATRICK!!!

especially when asking the gender of his partner !

@@ElitePlays1 yes, definitely. that was the most important part, actually. years upon years of experience in psychology and working with people culminates in being able to ask things you don't know.

​@@ogsus5773haha well said

​@@ElitePlays1reflective of the woke tomes...😁

@@TheKb117 are these woke tomes stored in a library of sorts?

lmaoo

when he said the thing about Garnts anger I was genuinely blown away

@@elliotw.888 timestamp?

@@armaanb.6566 around 1:26:00

@@elliotw.888 I was actually dying laughing when he told Garnt he's "making lemonade left and right"

Capital 101 ( )

I wonder if it could be replaced with: you create your home. Because no place will be perfect, but if you have a place where your friends and/or family is and you are settled, didn't you create it ?

Also: the home is where the heart is

@@autohmae also there is no place where everyone will accept and appreciate you. And if you´re under nomads they won´t be there for you long. Since they´re also nomads and will also search a home that might look different than yours.

Very much feel that. Finally got settled down with someone in a new place and it’s so very true

Absolutely spot on!

I'll give you the credit!

Its most likely a coincidence, but we still thank you for your service! :D

Lets believe, since Garnt is a person that is collecting constructive advice, its not unlikely he got interested. Maybe smb else read that comment, got inspired and that found it way to Garnt. I Thank You a lot for this Idea 😊

Do u know which episode it was?

@@itzcryptecz1261 I think it was the one named about loneliness or something

Hi mate! That's perfect english, certainly as far as youtube comments go 👍 I'm sure you'll catch up 😁

There is no need for comparisons who is how far ahead. You started YOUR journey and that is the hardest step. Which you conquered!

You could pass as a native speaker, easily. Most English people have 0 English skills xD

dude your english is better than the majority of native speakers you see online 💀

Lmao hi ! I am so terribly sorry for my awful English !

Which is why we need Connor next

@@markhaus I think Connor had a talk with him last week

Where's the link, I'm curious

Mostly new to Dr.K but is he into these two things?

​@@karanmavi4793 disclaimer: some of this might be inaccurate as this is from memory, and I definitely forgot some things, and other parts I just have not heard yet. So beware, but this is what I know: Alok was raised in the US, but his parents are originally from India. When he got to college he was addicted to video games, wanted to be a doctor and had generally no idea what he was doing (his words). This led to a serious conversation with his father, who told him that he should travel to India to figure some things out. Alok - being generally pretty unhappy or discontent with his life at that point - agreed. Now I'm not completely sure to what the proper timeline is, but to my knowledge - for a couple years he ended up traveling, visiting and spending time with monks at different monasteries and communities, learning about a wide range of traditions, beliefs and philosophies. He then made his way back to the US (with the aim of becoming a doctor again) and proceeded to get rejected by like 130 med schools over the next couple years. However he did not give up, ended up getting accepted somewhere, became a psychiatrist, got into a Residency program at Harvard and generally became one of the biggest chads on the planet (heavily biased personal opinion that I feel no shame about). He worked with a lot of gamers and a number of people from a diverse set of backgrounds, and sorta realized that he was having the same kind of conversations over and over, and wondered if recording and sharing these talks could have a similar positive effect, but with far greater reach. Turns out: yes. And so - HealthyGamer was created in 2019 by Alok and his wife. TLDR: Yes, Dr. K is into Buddhist beliefs and monks.

@@karanmavi4793 Yes he talks about Buddhist and Hindu principles all the time and how they relate to mental/physical health. Also if I’m remembering correctly, he went to India to study things like Yoga and meditation. So he has some commonality with Garnt in that way

dr k was gonna be a monk at one point before he changed his mind!

probably frustration for him

It's like that one meme I'm not angry I'm just disappointed..

That is... How could one not see that it was the absolute worst timing to do that? Maybe in their head Garnt was dumping Sydney or something????

I think what was learned here is that Garnt does experience anger, but either suppresses it or fails to identify it. I'd guess he'd have a lot of anger there, but idk how he reacted to it.

I'm a man and it is the exact same for me!

Movies can be tailor-made for a crying situation, life just… happens

They were talking about anime but I think this is just one of the roles that art in general plays and always has played. Stories are just mirrors of the human experience; they allow us to see ourselves at a distance and help us to feel emotions without the restrictions of social conditioning.

if life had a sad soundtrack it would've been different.

ooh love this. i think it'll make me look at all art slightly differently@@Ergoperidot

As a fellow second generation immigrant I can confirm that it's literally like being isekai'd in my animays.

Same

Bruh same... I have so many things to be happy about (without realizing it) but tend to weight the negative things way harder than the postive ones and can'tlet go of them :(

Being aware of when you make those trades and what it really costs you each time you make them is a great start dude

Infinitely more so considering that this is something he's obviously struggled with a LOT in the past. Props to him.

Same here

... me

Rejection sensitivity disorder.. Attachment styles.. Anxious avoidant.. Anxiety and depression.. Negative thoughts and beliefs..

Thank you for posting this! I can def. relate to what you're saying, and it took me some time to figure out. I was actually a loner for most of my youth and a large part of my adolescence, so I share you pain. I just want to preface by saying I'm not a professional, just someone who has spent many years learning about this stuff, so if you want practical tips then I've listed them below, but if not and you're not ready that's okay too, take on life at your own pace; I would start with journaling your past experiences regarding social interaction, the types of experiences that make you cringe and instantly shut down and try to forget are ones that hold you back and is what Dr. K would call Samskara (or an emotional ball of energy). Write them down, in detail, namely what happened, how you felt, and just be honest about your emotions, and as you feel your emotions well up, let them, take your time processing everything, and once you're done, let it go as you breathe out. Another thing you can consider is reading books on social interaction (this could be beneficial if you feel anxious about how to navigate social conversations and make friends easily (or get people to like you in general), I actually ended up reading dozens of books, many hours of video etc, on socializing and making friends, but I don't think you need that. The only book I recommend is How to win friends and influence people by Dale Carnegie. Just read this book and implement it in your daily life, and the things I'm about to suggest. After reading a lesson or perhaps the entire book, go out of your way to try them out in real life. I believe you said you're in college? Try using them with your classmates after class, or join a club of interest and just give it your best shot. Doing this is like racking up EXP points. I don't know if this seems daunting, but just do it once, to see for yourself if it's really that scary. Lastly, let yourself be you! Ofc this is cliche, but I have gone through something similar that you have, namely putting on a mask and acting in ways so that people like me and want to be with me, but like you said it's exhausting and when you're finally alone you feel more lonely that ever. For that I suggest thinking about who you are, what you like, what your interests are, etc. and just being okay with that (easier said that done, I know...). If you're in college right now that means you have tons of opportunities to talk to people, so don't miss this chance. I left a lot out, but if you have any questions or anything like that feel free to reply :) I wish you all the best and please know that there's always greener grass on the other side of the wall. - A friend 😄

@@niftybaker5967 Thank you very much for your reply, I'll definitely think about what you said and maybe try to find that book. In some ways I already know who I am and what I enjoy, but I've been afraid to embrace it. I realize that I just need to make more of an effort to do things that make me happy, and go to events without being so scared of other people's judgements. It can be difficult because I do get drained of energy so easily, but I've been trying more new things lately like excercising and art with my family since I've been home for the summer, and I think it's helping me build up some of those metaphorical social muscles.

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That's an awesome line

@@stargazerequiem what do u mean "leans towards mental stuff"?

@@stargazerequiem yeah, the fact that Garnt was a monk and cares so much about mental health is why I think he's less likely to need to talk to a therapist lol. I think Conner and Joey are less balanced than Garnt in their personality. I just noticed those types of people are usually the type to go to therapy more.

This is more of a interview than an actual therapy session. Garnt was a monk and has worked with the BBC so he would have a lot of things to share with the mental therapy stuff, so he has to be the first out of the three imo

@@madensmith7014 Dr.K's sessions are between therapy and interview imo. He still uses therapy techniques during his sessions, but still doesn't cross the line for him to be using his psychiatrist license unethicaly.

It's not that weird. What's weird is if those two got a session first with dr K instead of him

Yeah i don't if this is even true or not but maybe it's because we as humans are always wanting validation and acceptance in some way, so seeing a story similar to our life or certain event in our life could trigger that and we feel like oh so it's okay to feel these emotions and this is okay to feel sad or cry about. This could be totally wrong though, just an assumption i made

would be so cool if Dr K came on TT and be like "chicken is mid"

@adventuretimedaily9335 nice to see someone interested in that ability too

Absolutely, it's important to be understanding and loving to your kids and try to learn what they find interesting or relatable but always remember to not seem too persuasive with it where they feel uncomfortable or bothered about it. I think a great way would be to watch her fav anime or play her fav game with her and try to talk about it that way

Unless it's one of those isekais where the MC is immediately OP, has a harem, doesn't actually have to work towards anything, learn zero life lessons, or even gets laid, all in the first 2 episodes. But those are just the overly abundant and terrible isekais imo. Hai to Gensou no Grimgar however immediately comes to mind as an isekai where the MC(s) have to legitimately make a new home and friend group in order to survive and it's very endearing and relatable, highly recommend if you have not seen it.

@@hangry3102 mushoku tensei which is unsurprisingly Garnt's favorite isekai is exactly what Dr. K describes.

Its not encouraged, however I think its arguably more allowable. I just want everyone to hopefully be able to get help to handle any anger or sadness. Many well wishes to you.

Every time I've been angry it has never helped the situation for the better and generally it made it worse so over time I kinda just stopped being angry at things or people. It gave me a real big "Sometimes shit just happens" attitude.

This sounds like a really interesting case 😮 Usually I only hear about people being less productive when simply angry and more productive when “channeling anger.” This is the first time where I’ve heard about someone preferring anger due to productivity in an addictive, for lack of better terms, way. You have confounded me! The only time I’m productive when angry is when there’s tons to clean. Although there’s a change in mood afterwards, I never feel accomplished/fulfilled/rejuvenated/any positive feelings. It’s usually calm, maybe empty, and even a little sad 😑

@@bubbiccino Interesting. Yeah, when I clean angry it also leaves me feeling like "what's the point" after. It leaves me more frustrated. Maybe it's because I can be productive in an almost antagonistic way against an outside force. Like a giant middle finger to my bosses or something like that. Maybe that is channeling anger, or how I subconsciously interpreted doing that. I think I might just be naturally spiteful or vengeful in a way when I feel I have nothing left to lose. It really is something I'm still figuring out for myself. I will say, since watching this video and letting myself get angry at work, I've been a lot more productive and smiling a lot more at work too. Like letting out the anger is also letting me appreciate the good parts more too. It's been an enlightening few weeks

i would assume he's probably developed a broader perspective of the human condition and i think that's always beneficial, especially for Dr K's field of work

That would be hilarious. Trash taste special : Group therapy 😂😂

​@@mma93067honestly... Would be an interesting idea. Also very personal though lmao.

@@mma93067 Todays topic: Why Connor is so Normie :D

He was on the steaks and eggs podcast so I see it happening

Do you mean "that's sick" in the capacity of the saying you use when something is really cool and nice, or are you saying that Garnt is mentally ill for having a bit of an escapist desire?