Presence of ego?

nice cave man dialogue, Dr. K. Great content <3

So basically, don't fail 😂

Early on in my training as a therapist I had read something about anxiety being largely perpetrated by overly being self aware. I've noticed it's very true.

When I have trouble with my partner, then I just go ride my snowboard for a couple of hours, and when I come home I don't even care if she makes spaghetti, or lasagne

what’s the full video?

If you’re a straight man who has been pursued, objectified, hit on, inappropriately touched etc., by a gay man, then perhaps you can understand how women might feel when men do it to them. Unwanted, unsolicited, aggressive sexual attention is frightening

hey when you say "full video:" in the description, can you link to the stream VOD? We're looking for the answer on how to remove needs and desperation from the equation.

1:43:50

My brain is way louder when it's quiet. Hence, always listening to something. It's not like a thousand voices all at once for me, though. It's more like a radio dial that i can't control scanning thru the stations too fast trying to find good signal, so you only hear like a half second blip at a time. All my unhealthy coping mechanisms are desperate attempts to get it to STOP

So what’s the point of going to therapy?

So what’s the point of going to therapy?

So what’s the point of going to therapy?

So what’s the point of going to therapy?

Can confirm as a "Gifted child" I never studied up until the tenth grade, where I still very vividly remember memorizing one of the speeches from Caesar over a lunch break. As someone who finished high school with all 80-90s while working part time instead of attending. The burnout was real and going into college made it very difficult to succeed because I had no studying experience.

It's not that we've stopped trying to understand. It's that we've gotten into a habit of only feeling like we need to understand the in-group. Understanding the out-group is much, much harder because we don't really have that neurology by default. However, since we _are_ wired to understand our in-group, we can take that existing circuitry, and modify it to incorporate the out-group, as well.

personally found reading Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl to be an exercise in helping one out their problems into perspective if he could recover from that… surely you can get through till tomorrow

I see no value in people at all. People are always fighting to be the alpha. I really have zero need to socialize. I find when I have to be around people I'm just reading the room and playing the game. You can literally have the outcome you want. I have no interest in what people do or think. I have the dream life.

But what if you cant see or find solutions or alternatives when your stress levels are low?

I’ve had severe ADHD but I’m still skinny and lean as hell. And my appetite is like 📈📈📈📈📈

After decades of being in depression and making blunders at all decisions, now I am identifying my patterns and learning to find a way that works for me. I realised I never gave myself grace and never did problem focused coping strategies.. I realised "I was blind walking all my life". Your content is so helpful Dr. K, you are saving lives.

If you can hold up people other than just yourself you are automatically high value because most men and women are parasites. Selflessness is the greatest quality anyone can have and it takes the greatest amount of endurance of the mind body and spirit to maintain. It also takes an insane amount of forgiveness for yourself and others. No other quality is that broad in scope to maintain. Peoples opinions don't determine your value your actions and how you interact with others does. Anyone that says otherwise is just a classic manipulator. People already know who they are and what they are capable of and what they have done the value is determined by themselves not others. Even if people are aware of a specific individuals value it has 0 impact 99% of the time because if the individual is drunk on ego nothing matters and strong individuals have their reasons and the only way to change the scope of said value in your eyes is to inquire. If you aren't interested in asking said individual you have an assumed value with no validation. Concrete is concrete assuming is assuming no way around that logic unless you want to indulge in yourself and that's lowering your value because no effort is no effort and stagnation isn't worth anything. Labels mean nothing to me Actions matter to me because they are fact and written where as words and assumptions are devoid of everything. I cripple the Hyper Sensitive easily and by that I mean individuals that try to assert label dominance over logic or Hyper Emotinal states. When you already fight for others and are selfless they are powerless especially when you expose that they want respect courtesy kindness etc in exchange fir nothing. Social Tyranny is simple to deal with.

You read me like a book :|

so what would you recommend the little things be

Isnt this the story himmler told the nazi solders to not feel bad abt the crimes they were doing ?

Great! Now im motivated to not be motavated

sabotaging your emotional circuitry is literally the absolute key here and what was my biggest problem, which is extremely hard to see and understand on your own. I was literally overloading myself with emotions which do not belong into my life because they do not stem out of my life. I was simply not interested in the real people around me and was always wondering why others liked to talk so much. Now that I DRASTICALLY reduced my consume of media I feel a natural urge to engage with people and i couldnt be happier. Also my frustration tolerance went up sky high and my anxiety generally went down. One principle that helped me was „consume less, produce more“ to get out of overconsumption. And i absolutely do not mean it in a toxic hustle culture sense but in a very basic sense. Instead of doing something passive like watching videos, do something active such as drawing, playing an instrument, workout, go for a walk, read etc all those things will bring you down and readjust your emotional compass. It is probably extremely uncomfortable in the beginning but accepting suffering in life is important. If we are truly honest to ourselves we exactly know what is the right thing to do in life its just probably uncomfortable

Is this guy related to Vivek? I get so many false signals that it is vivek speaking, in my brain :D

I think kids of emotionally unavailable parents are all just looking for that apology that they weren't there for their kids cuz life happened. It's not as if we wouldn't understand and want to repair the relationship. It's the fact that they can't even apologize is what sucks. And unfortunately for some people, can't really talk to the parents anymore cuz they've crossed over

You feel like that because you are. You are great and meant to be so, do not let bugmen bring you down.

Basically, it's all in your damn head and nothing of it is real. Or, you won't know unless you try.

Even if I don't work in the field, I am so glad I studied sociology. It helped me to understand myself in a social context, the expectations and why what is going on as much as therapy did. It still helps me navigate the world on a daily basis. This talk was great, it put the relationship my mother had with her siblings in a bigger picture, but also why they all came to 20-year-old me for motherly advice after she died. It's also a piece of the puzzle why I don't get along with my brother and my father not getting why. So interesting!

I'm sure glad I never had to deal with this 👍

Would love to hear your thoughts about how fatigue and stress affect these systems doctor. Thanks 🙏

Lol that's the reason why my niece always cries, but they don't believe me.

I thought it was me writing the post..

pretty enlightening!

Hey Dr. K, i think a nice conversation with the creator @Horsemeet would be pretty nice as he's got a lot of interesting views on being young, sexuality, and life in general, and he's also dealing with multiple qddictions such as Porn, Caffeine and the like

Atomic habits I guess

can anyone explaine what he means with "learn to be ambiguous"? does he mean innuendo and so on?

I realized a LONG TIME AGO that being stressed out DOES NOT help me be more productive, and that's when I decided I will never be stressed out ever again. Whether it's an upcoming exam, a job interview, or whatever, I know that if I fail, I'll still be alive... and I know this because I have failed a lot of times and I'm still here... ...and this is why I no longer care about failing, and whenever I catch myself being stressed, I tell myself: STOP! BE PRODUCTIVE INSTEAD! Remember, the difference between a master and a beginner is that a master has FAILED more times than a beginner has tried.

Why is this the funniest video I've seen in a while? 😂

I call myself an asexual. I don't know if I'll ever tell this to anyone in my life that isn't directly concerned with my sexual life, I'm not particularly bummed out about this because ultimately I'm hetero romantic so from the outside I'm just the average Joe. I've decided to not out myself mainly because I've heard friends and people I know talk about asexuality with a negative connotation, for example a person that is unlikable is or deserves to be an asexual in the eyes of quite a bunch of people I know. I'm sure my friends wouldn't care about what I feel or don't feel on the sexual side but hearing them talk about lack of sexual attraction as a negative aspect made me uncomfortable enough to make this choice. I have to admit I've come out to one person in my personal life, that was exclusively because I kept being pestered about "needing to find someone to have sex with" and this person wouldn't believe me no matter how many times I'd tell them I didn't need to find a sexual partner, so I guess I got worn down

I like how he explains it, using video game terminologies is a good way to explain things in a much more simpler way, I should take notes when I teach new things.

Sound advice, wish I got it when I was younger.

Let me simplify it as someone who overcame this: the reason is being alone (in miltiple ways) which becomes too much for your soul. The answer: The Bible states that Jesus is God with us and that with God we are never alone. We real men MUST go back to our Creator to be free from sin which created all the mess in the world. And this is coming from someone who was about to commit suicide in a rare, vengeful form and God stopped me. After my story was studied and it changed laws in the country I am and made helpcare and pedagogy better implementing tips I gave them and ways I overcame it. Go read the Bible, start in Matthew, TRUST!

I wish I could stop being a gifted kids because the expectations are massive and it impacts my mental a lot