I pray whoever is reading this gets through the pain of being dumped by someone they truly love. God bless. Thank you Craig for this video

To the ones who got dumped: Don’t be afraid to lose someone who is not afraid to lose you

“Anxiety leads to the beginning of desire.” Got it! 👍🏻

Well like the saying goes....you treat them like a celebrity, they'll treat you like a fan.

I am going to trust in this. I am also praying to God that if it’s meant to be it will be.

Getting off my ex is like getting off a drug.

Coach Craig and Margaret has gotten me through the worst time of my life. I've been watching to their videos everyday for the last 5 months and exercising no contact. The heartache has gone away and I feel like I don't want my ex back any longer, I can move on now with confidence. Thank you for all you do for us.

I don't know if I ever get my ex back.... but videos like that, makes me feel better every day.

"She needs to feel separation anxiety from YOU". True words!!!!

This is by far the most insightful relationship channel on KZfaq

So true- as a child I was raised w money but no emotional closeness, so I didn’t care about pursuing money- only intimacy.

The key is to give space, be respectful and think about their feelings, and not yours. It's actually a good lesson. Sometimes the breakup is 100% due to clingeness. The life is not only relationship. Focus on other parts, and try to balance everything. We normally suffer when we put the relationship in the center of our lives, that also leads to breakup.

That story about the other guy answering the door is brutal.

After five months apart, I am back together with my ex. To everyone who wants to get back together, don't give up. Coach Craig's advice is so important. For men, not losing emotional self control is critical as is not chasing a woman who has rejected you, and letting her come to you. I had to make some adjustments to the principles because my woman is from SE Asia and her culture is very different from ours in the west. But essentially they do work. I was in a three year LDR before the roof fell in last November much to my surprise of course. Guys rarely see it coming. So thanks Coach Craig. It feels good to feel happy again.

We want what we can’t have or what is threatened to be taken away- every car salesman knows this truck!!

don't contact them for any reason ever again lol...his face and reaction when he says that: priceless

Damn, wish I would've watched this video months ago before I started breaking all the cardinal rules.

Craig crushes every break up expert by far!!!!! nobody else is this insightful

I cried when I saw this, because I realized I’ve been doing everything wrong. Now I feel hopeless, because I want my ex back so bad. But after thinking about what you said, I stopped crying and I felt better. My bf broke up with me a bit over a week ago and I’ve been trying to get him back by contacting him and promising to make things better and work on myself. But my constant reaching out to him made things worse. I am taking your advice and I will try to accept the break up even thought it hurts. I hope it is not too late. I also realized that constantly promising to make things better and work on myself is not going to help. He doesn’t need promises. He wants to SEE the improvement. So I will stop contacting him, use the time to work on myself and hope that he will reach out to me soon.

I watch your videos daily, especially when I get needy, have negative thoughts and bad behavior. Thanks again for all that you and Margaret do on here. It truly is a blessing to hear and act upon all of what you're talking about. :)

"What does that say about your value? That means you have a low value of yourself." Truth. Thank you, Craig!!

My ex finally reached out !!!♥️♥️ We broke up July 16th, 2020 and he reached out, August 16th, 2020!!!! NO CONTACT REALLY WORKS for me!!! 💓💓💓💓💓😍😍😍

NC !!!! Keep yourself busy and work on you !!!! I’m a strong believer that you shouldn’t rely on any human being to create happiness for you !!!! If you can’t be happy together then maybe you can be happy apart😃

Coach Craig's advice was super on point! I did the no contact rule to a T and completely cut off all contact. In 4 months, my ex came back saying he missed me and couldn't bear to be another day without me. This period also helped me improve my self value and made me realize everything Coach Craig said was ideal to get me to this great place. Don't settle for friendship and be disciplined about no contact! It works! It works so good that perhaps when they do come back you might be the one who doesn't even want them back!

that guy is officially part of the gentlemens club

You just saved me from looking like a fool this weekend...thank you man!!!

Don't think about someone who isn't thinking of you. Move on. No one is worth pain and heartache.

This is the best video of his I've seen. The things he says are really powerful. When ever I've been tempted to contact my ex, I listen to this.

Even if no contact doesn't result in getting your ex back, at least you keep your dignity. Plus, to be honest, it's better to just move on from that person. If they dumped you that means they were okay with you meeting someone else and never getting you back. Let that sink in. Plus, who knows what they did while you were apart. Pretty good chance they hooked up with someone else. That innocent trust will never be there again. Let them go...there are so many other people out there that won't do that to you, will value you, and you can experience a new love.

The more time that passes by the less chances you might have if you are not actively there or in their minds. Things are either meant to be or they are not. Each party has things to work on; with the pass of time you might just become a better person suitable for somebody else

This is my favorite video ever and I watch it quite frequently whenever I need a reminder of how to behave after a breakup. "They treated you like you were on sale, you were on clearance, they were gettin' rid of you" LOL I love this! They are no longer a priority in your life. This is probably one of the best videos ever made on breakups & How to Make Your Ex Miss You (From a Psychotherapist) is also my go-to when I'm suffering heartbreak. Thank you Coach Craig & Margaret you guys always make me laugh. Thank you for all the beautiful work you do and for always being my compass!

Thank you Craig! These videos have helped me in the lowest times of my life after break up. Always honest and real with us

That is my plan to WORK ON MYSELF! YOU AND MARGARET ARE THE BEST! [I am teary eyed ] and it was hard to hear but, its all true Blessings to you and Margaret. Craig I am back in the gym and began seeing my friends . I feel myself healing. I thank you both!

you are very good & correct with all your advise. above all you speak clearly & slowly. others u tube speak like a marathon & that is stupid. you are one of the BEST

Please don't forget all the problems and issue's that lead to this breakup in the first place

My girlfriend just broke up with me last night and this was very helpful information Craig. I never heard of someone speaks such knowledge about how to go about a break up. You are amazing Sir

I wonder... I can understand why you need to maintain no contact when your partner broke up because you were to clingy or needy, but what if they broke up with you because they felt YOU weren't giving them enough affection, and they feel disconnected to such an extent they wanted to leave? Going no contact in that scenario seems like an affirmation of their belief that you don't care, and only increases disconnection further?

yall listen to coach man no contact works my ex text me today after only 3 weeks of no contact woooow this works... it really works. .... gota be strong

Because of narcissistic forms of behaviors, I ended it after 3 1/2 years. Trauma bonded I couldn’t move on. Though I reached out to him respectfully, over the course of a few years, he never contacted me again and is now getting married. In this case anxiety did not trigger desire. I never expected healing to be so difficult and moving on to be so hard. Thank you for your content and knowledge.

💯Anxiety leads to the beginnings of desire!

Just broke up with my girlfriend after 2 years + . I feel broken. I need to put focus on my self and so does she. I wish this wouldn't be true, wish we could get back together because we do love each other very much, it took us 5 hours to decide that we were both crying and wouldn't let go of each other. but deep down inside we know we are not good for each other at the moment.. I hope things will be better, either if we get back together or not.. just hope things will be better by days passing. Yeah I will do NC rule because I believe in it's pros of self healing, not just to make her "jealous" or something because I don't care if she is. And I think she will do the NC too because she knows she hurt me and she need to improve her self too. I love her, and I wish her the best in the world. I had so much fun hugging her and stroking her hair when she felt down. I so miss these moments when I protected her from her bad moments. I do hope we will find our way back together because I think that despite our issues, we did care a lot for each other. but truth to be told : I know I can't relay on that "hope", I need to move on but it's so hard, I just wanna be vanished from the world right now and stop feeling. hope to be better soon asap.

Craig, sometimes I hate how right about all this you are!! It works too too well! Thank you!

This is what I needed to hear. Thanks for giving me the strength to make the decision of 'no contact' from someone who after 14 years decides to leave the house without making the leaving for good or not decision and just leaving me waiting/hoping for her to come back... thank you

I was broken up with. I sort of followed the no contact rule. My ex is coming over and it was her idea. I want to make sure I am not just friends with her and I make her attracted to me. I will be more masculine and more emotional stable and less attached to her and less showing her that I still feel for her. Wish me luck, she comes over tomorrow.

This is the best decision I made coming across your channel

Can he feel that separation anxiety if he is happy without you ? and besides, he wants to be free from you in the first place so how can he feel that separation anxiety? Im confused now.

Guys ,Stick with Craig kenneth advice ... After 8 months of no contact after he broke up with me now my ex reached out and try to win me back.. Everyday i watch the videos of Craig and Margareth,dont give up guys ...thanks so much you really help us, Godblesd ...awesome ♥

Staying strong with no contact. Thanks Craig! Gonna be taking your course! Self betterment is the truth!

I don't want her to feel the pain that I have. If she wasn't happy with me it's hard to take but I'd rather her be happy then just being with me because I'm not happy. I want her back but you can't be selfish in situations like this. You have to take into consideration what the other person wants.

Please make a version of this for women on getting an ex boyfriend back! This only has female psychology :(

My wife of a little over a year left me said she needed space and time to figure things out. I just found out last night that she moved out of state and moved in with another older man. I had no idea this was her intentions. I'm so devastated and so upset.

help me.. i very depressed about this break up .it feels death

If you're want to talk with me just sign up for a coaching at AskCraig.net

And another guy answered the door! LOL LOL LOL. This made my day while I am sitting here depressed over my own loss!

It's not true that a woman would never leave a man if her attraction level is is high and she loves the man. She will leave a man she deeply loves if she feels there is no real commitment from the man, no future. This was the case for me.

This stuff is gold! Thank you.

Ya know what the problem with people these days is? No one drinks from the skulls of their enemies.

Thank you Coach Craig and Margaret. I truly appreciate your words of encouragement and support. I also appreciate your wonderful advice about relationships. I've been through alot. Let's just say 2019 wasn't my best year. All i can say is that, I'm working really hard to get back on my feet. I'm also working real hard on personal growth. I love watching your videos. God bless you and take care of yourself.

Love all your stuff...Thank you for helping me become a better man at 64.. We’re never to old to learn. Good luck to all. Stay the course

My ex-partner reached out (crying in the phone she's missing me) in 48 hours after the breakup and 3 weeks later broke up again. Probably the worst position to be in. We didn't have time to work on ourselves after the breakup and the 2nd chance is wasted at the same time... Every positivity I do (she's checking my social media all the time) does not affect her, not enough at least.

Craig you are the most amazing therapist and coach I've ever listened to. I'm a 43-year-old male and I thought I knew everything about relationships and break ups. Boy was I wrong after listening to you. I just ended a three-year engagement three days ago because she moved in some guy she works with into her house to rent out a room. Next thing you know they're texting each other all the time and deleting all the text messages so I can't read them. I'm very hurt right now and lost emotionally. I've been searching the last two days for someone to help me with some great advice. You are way beyond the most knowledgeable person I could imagine to come across. You are a godsend and I am very very thankful to come across you. I'm looking forward to doing a one on one coaching session in the next couple days.

All women are different. It's a personality thing. My experience with men shows that they often like women whose feelings are unclear. I on the other hand hate and I repeat hate men whose feelings about me are unclear.

I haven’t really talked to him in about two months. So glad I’m watching this today. I’ve been watching your videos after totally trainwrecking my introduction to his avoidance issues. I hope he gives me another chance now that I know all this information. I hope me reaching out a couple days after to smooth things over didn’t ruin it all. After that I haven’t made any initiation and have only replied to a comment he made on a Tiktok I posted but I only “liked” the second comment as to not give too much of a hit that it would ruin the growing void of me.

Any time I didn’t do no contact. I never heard from her. No contact worked almost always

Success story here!! My ex bf and I are back together. We were broken up for a little over a month. He said he still loves me and everyday he thought of me and everything made him think of me. I was in NC for about 25 days until I reached out about money I needed from him for concert tickets I still had. He sent over the money and we had very sporadic and random chill conversations every other day for about a week. I really felt like he only replied to my texts to be polite because we didn’t really end on bad terms. His replies were casual and seemed apathetic. So finally I asked an open ended question and asked how he was doing. Then we had a whole day of good conversation then that same day he asked me out to get boba. That same night but he said he was scared that I was going to move on and had to tell me he still loves me and missed everything about me. We both agreed to work on ourselves and push each other to be our best and be a strong couple. I said we can take it slowly and I’m open to it. But ultimately I told him I loved him still too!

My ex says I cause him anxiety, I don’t think more anxiety would help 😬

If someone isn’t sure or can’t commit, they’re probably not someone you want to get involved with.

Hardest thing is maintaining high attraction level all the time. Its like u cant have a weak moment at all.

The way Craig teaches no contact here is the ONLY real way to do no contact. It means you're ex never ever hears from you again for any reason possible. You have to absolutely go stone cold silent and make them feel a sense of loss or you don't stand a real good chance of reconnecting with them. Don't listen to the "30 day no contact" coaches out there that teach you to keep chasing your ex like that. I have rarely seen that work in the way people wanted it to.

how they can have anxiety about losing you when they have no attraction for you???????

Im amazed at how spot on he is! Im dealing with being separated from the woman ive been with for 17 years and the pain is so bad it's become physical. Everything he says not to do is exactly what I've been doing! Lol. I just feel so lost and alone. Thanks for the advice

Thanks again for such great content. I have noticed that while I may feel inside some of how I used to, I can now take the time and remember some of Coach Craig and Margarets responses so that when I respond it's from a better space. Even now over a year and a half later I am still learning new things from the videos. Much appreciated.

Oh all these little games. I wish I would meet a man who doesn't play cat and mouse. If you're interested be consistent, show respect, I'll do the same and it will all work out. In a consumerist society, we have come to consume people as well and then throw them away, just because you got to have the "new". Until that turns old and then the whole thing all over again.

What if the girl gets in an immediate rebound relationship and forgets about you as a way to deal with it?

I want her back. But I feel like a looser if I do. I'm angry, I feel hurt. I love her so much. Been a month since we broke up.. Only 5 days into no contact.. Feel like I'm going insane. I already texted her, but I wouldnt call it begging, more like questing her If she made the right choice.. Now I'm going silent, and I want to move on..

Just got the dreaded news, I haven't freaked out and will follow this plan and keep you posted. I really love her but have been through hell before her and will be OK without her. But! I definitely want to work it out. Thanks for the awesome service you are providing us fellas.

I almost lost it when you began talking about, "...not wanting to be in a relationship 'RIGHT NOW'". I figured she lost attraction to me, but she said that, "everything seemed to be so undecided about what we wanted." She also told me that she didnt have the time or energy to be in a relationship. I've lost about 12 pounds in the last months from the anxiety and struggle of this. Going to try the NC, because we are a part of the same group of friends. To anyone going through this, please be strong. If I can't, you need to.

im going thru a breakup as well as we speak with the father of my son im doing the no contact rule please pray for me im going thru the anxiety but im not caving

My gf broke up with me and we called and said he can never see someone as perfect as I'm and I told her not to keep pitying her and I said I will never tx her again ..and I accept it as fate and I don't want us as friends and I blocked her everywhere.

Very important video! One of my favorites! Thank you Coach Craig! Glad I saw this before making a mistake.

Hi Craig, First of all i want to let you know that your videos are very calming. I am going through severe anxiety due to my break up (GF of 3 years left me for another guy) and watching your videos tend to relax me, at least for a while, which is a breath of fresh air, because in moments of complete darkness a bit of light can certainly make the difference! So thank you for that! I will be definitely signing up soon, as this ordeal is unbearable, but i just wanted to ask about the NC, specifically for social media. Should you refrain from even posting new pictures or from even being active on Facebook? Wouldn't her seeing you in photos, your ''likes'' etc cancel out the Separation Anxiety that we are meant to try create within her, due to the fact that she sees you? Wouldn't complete absence work better in order to create the ''missing you'' effect? To have her wonder what you are doing and if you are ok? Thanks again Craig and i look forward to getting in contact with you soon J

One thing I saw not covered here is what to do when they reach out and won’t make dates to come to your place - after they reach out twice and won’t commit to a date you must stop asking them. At this point they must be the ones to bring it up. If after 2-3 messages back and forth and they haven’t asked you then you must tell them you are busy and you have other things to do. If they do finally bring up making a date make 3 consecutive dates at your place and let them do 100% of the contacting and pursuing until they bring up that they are ready for something more.

I've seen other coaches good ones but this guy's take is straight on point. I guess that's what therapist does. Kudos!

Yes I’m a Minecraft youtuber. But gamers can feel love too. Anyway I dated her for about 16 months and she had a rare anxiety disorder. I did the best I could to support her, but she felt it wasn’t enough. She started to believe that it was me, likely because she felt her self distancing from me. I knew I could be too much with the support, it was probably suffocating at the time. I’m doing no contact now. It’s only been a week, but I’ve been handling it greatly. Working out, I’m learning piano, rediscovering the social element I had years ago when I met her. I can only hope that she reaches out, but right now self discipline is my first priority. I do care about her, and I know that anxiety will likely catch up to her. I miss her, but if she doesn’t reach out, I’ll be prepared to move on. Wish me luck!

How about she only me contact me for taxes or electric bill . So that's the only reason to talk just for Bill only. Please help, I want answer, I cry all day

my girlfriend dumped me on Monday I haven't called or text her at all hope this work

My ex and I broke up recently. I told him we should take a break bc the things he was doing now didnt show that he wanted to be in a relationship. The break lasted a week. But after the break, he said he wanted to break up for good.... He didnt get separation anxiety. He said he felt relieved, instead...

This video is gold. I wish I’d watched it 6 weeks ago.

This is similar advice to Coach Corey Wayne -- I've been following both of you guys. The movies definitely teach us all the wrong things!

i hope there was a button for a million likes

Not even sure who dumped who now... heartbroken...tired of long year of avoidant games..

Craig I’ve been listening to dozens of your videos, but this one is one of your BEST. Will apply your recommendations. Thank you!

I broke up with him because it felt like I was doing all the chasing 😭😭

Hey Craig, I've been separated from My Love since December 28,2016 and I've emailed him continually and have had little response from him. He's only responded twice through email saying"I just don't have anything to say!" Recently, I've watched your KZfaq video and I'm going to take your advice not call at all. Today is January 9,2017 and I hope that it's not too late for me! Hopefully your advice works in my favour! I LOVE this man with my WHOLE heart!! I miss him dearly and I just want this work. We were even engaged and he wanted his ring back, it broke my heart! I'm going to take your advice on this!!! Wish me luck!😎😎😎

This is my first time seeing your video craig and i truly love it. and now i learn that even tho i might have gone in a deep depression with my ex-fiance dumping me and you truly gave a true meaning of anxiety and how to stand strong and let them come back to you by letting them go.

Ughhh this is so hard!! My ex has been telling me he wants me to be his wife every weekend for the past month. Now we don’t talk and more! I’m so devastated tbh. Only time will tell

Hmm why do I feel like this strategy works on girls not guys? Feel like my ex bf wouldn’t think this way

what if your ex didn't think you gave her enough attention as it was. I'm trying the no contact right now. I'm afraid this will only help prove her point that I didn't. Which isn't true, I did care I just have trouble showing emotion.

Anxiety is the beginning of desire. Anxiety triggers desire.

Her contacting you sounds good. Up to now the dumped have been doing all the relationship work. Nice to see balance.