I've just purchased your work books, so yeah one messed up soul from New Zealand hoping u can help me turn my life around x

I’d love to have your feedback on them. There is an email in the end of each volume 👍

Love the workbooks

I love this video! The empathy you show goes such a long way. I'm constantly reminding myself of that. Reminding myself that if you want to show your full and true loving self then you must empathize with your lover, not constantly be on the defense. Wish I truly understood that before she dumped me lol

@@gnnaal Keep going Papa, you'll be a fantastic partner for some lucky woman. ;)

Works for me! Some of the guys sound like they actually have their act together!

After some given time 😂

I agree most people have no idea what there love language is let alone there attachment style

Yeah, I agree, whoever is here watching all these videos are going through hard time, cheating, dump, and all, so we have experience and we can be good couples if choose from here!

Yes😂 all of us here are actually trying to improve and motivate ourselves. And most of us can’t imagine our other half( I mean ex) doing the same:D

Holly Drucker Hopefully I can one day that’s the goal. 🙂

You too!

@@user-ke3vx9ub4b You deserve it we all do.

Thank you you to!:)

@@trebalero9091 Hello Dr Johnson He can recover your relationship back permanently

Steven Nguyen fucking same.

Steven Nguyen me too it’s a fucking shame. We were great together Been dating a beautiful lady who’s three years out of a divorce with an expert gaslighter/narcissistic First 6 months have been fantastic, full of joy, great intimacy ( she’s a therapist) We have great time together surf together work in the garden, talk n laugh and have fantastic sex, she’ll shed a tear in those intimate moments and tell me she’s glad I don’t run and her heart is open to me. Then 3 weeks ago she starts withdrawing, I feel this, so we talk. She has list of things that she say causes her not to feel trust for me. Example. I say I adore her ( I do) When she shares a painful moment, I will listen, be present, then perhaps say I’ve shared a similar experience and I know how tough that can be. I am a good listener. Then she say “ there you go again, making everything about you..u say u love me then always talk about yourself.. your words and actions are incongruent, yesterday you didn’t offer to carry the heavy bag, if you loved me you would, incongruent!!! It erodes my trust, that’s why I’ve withdrawn.. “ I suggested she told me she feels safe with me so bring up matters as they happen don’t hold them inside to smoulder for days and withdraw let’s talk it out, we are great at that” She said I’m not sure how much of this is me and I don’t want to come off as a picky bitch. I said Bringing up matters will show me you value us and want to create intimacy and fix issues... it’s how we can deal with things. It’s exhausting suddenly, I really do care about her. Now I’m overthinking. That was yesterday... let her come to me? I sent a text yesterday asking about day and that I miss her presence and touch. She replied re her day but didn’t acknowledge the personal stuff. I think she has trust issues. She’s in a battle with ex who’s telling the kids she’s a bad mother. Battle to be best parents. Lot on her plate. I asked if she needs space she said I’ve had enough space from u. She said she’s trying to figure out how much of this is her stuff. And if it’s us or the ex problems that’s getting in our way. How do I handle support her. Help. She tried to break up with me. I suggested a week break to reflect. She agreed. What do I do know? Thoughts Be honest people Richard BYRON bay Australia Xxx

@@wategoslife8371 bro she had communication issues, she can't fully vent to u how she's feeling as an issue arise, ik everyone is different. And issue may arise and a person want to reflect on it before they address but ofc they can't wait too long for that and trust me I do understand been in a similar situation where that kind of communication is concern. It's frustrating when u both agree to b upfront and honest with these things and yet the other person has battled up emotion inside. She sounds like an Avoidant they tend to do these stuff. And your doing a great job by listening and I'm seeing a little distorting of reality from her. Where u r listening and trying to connect with her through your similar experience in comparison to hers and she's saying u are bringing the attention to u or someone of that nature; point is I think that's bizarre and it makes me wonder what could cause this communication issue a mean what was her childhood like? Her attachment to her primary care takers etc. I believe all this is playing a role if it's unhealthy plus I think the issue with her ex husband is stressing her and it's not fair to u that it's affecting the relationship negatively especially when u r being understanding and trying to help, if she needs space tell her u love and care about her and that to contact u when she's ready n leave her alone.

Same I miss him a lot . Even if he left me in the meanest way

Yes but you know what? If she does not have the balls (in this case, the ovaries) to come back, it does not worth your tears.

I do get that but your fears are heightened at the moment I think it is difficult to even think straight at the moment and your ex could return stay hopeful

I deleted all social media

Me too im the same

I've done the same! And for the same reasons

Im the same just the fear of the pain keeps me away

Lonely Guy she did you a favor leaving my friend. Assume she is happy with married guy and move on.

Hope you're doing better

I honestly want him to be stronger, because he suffered mental health issues. Hold nothing against him

This is a long distance relationship X 3 years . Been apart for a year but only broke six months ago. I've been working on myself n still in no contact. Has he given up and no longer interested since covid is still around. I felt better after six months n confident so u sent a happy new years greeting. He replied in kindness signing off 'all the best'. he no longer follows me on Insta nothing. that doesn't sound weak to me or any signs that he wants this again.

I'm on 7 month....nc

That's so relieving hear when each day seems like passing through death.... It's so painful can't express in words of losing a relationship in which we had so much hope in....

Wish I could be this lucky

That's a beautiful story to hear 💕

That’s amazing but since going on NC I really just want to be the best version of my self so that I don’t repeat the same mistakes.

I am not hoping and waiting 5 years for my ex to reach back.

Fantastic..... My ex cannot even now see my Dp on wattsapp which I used to change often.... Total vanish.....

A reason doesnt always mean its theyr real reason either. Experienced it several times that they were actually looking for excuses , some reasons were such a bad lie ,nobody would believe that BS. So... the reason may not always be the real reason.

It would i beleave to move on if we new there were with some one else so hard in long distance we have brocken up 6 times in 4 years i woukd never go back if i new

That is true.

​@@Faxtronare you in long distance

Same thoughts here.

Call me 🤙🏽

But I know it's stupid to love someone who cheated and left. I know she'll never talk to me again. But it's ok, I'll go no contact and get over her. I pray karma will come back to bite her.

A lot of people are in the same boat.

Mine did the same. Told me she love another guy, she regret dating me, she swear to call for if I contact her, dare to tell her parents. And even say she will definently cheat on me if she is with me. Blocked me too so pretty sure my ex is with someone as much as I hate to think about it.

@@jupiter-walk5461 I guess you never really know a person till you see how they dump you.

@@connormitchell8048 yep...she was my first and I was her first though... I know it'll be hard to move past that.

Ash Mo thank you. It has been such a hard month. I was in a year long, long distance relationship. We had an amazing relationship- we were always laughing and always communicating and never fought. As things got more serious (we saw each other for at least a week or two a month - we would take turns traveling to each other. My family loved him, and his loved me. His son had just started calling me Mom - his mom isn’t in the picture at all.) we decided we didn’t want to be apart anymore. Due to some family issues (he takes care of his ill mom), there was no way he could move here... so, despite how much I loved my job (I’m a teacher) I gave everything up to be with him and start our lives together. Fast forward - two weeks before I’m supposed to move (not to mention my parents/my biggest support system, were out of state for a few weeks which he knew)... I’m getting ready for a normal night - we would spend every night together doing something, whether it was watching our favorite shows or playing games or whatever - and he sends me a long TEXT breaking up with me. He tells me he doesn’t think I should move, in fact we need to break up. In short, he felt complacent and just “wasn’t feeling it” anymore. He said his romantic feelings were gone and he felt like I was more of a best friend. I called him - our talk was about five minutes of me just being shocked and him saying sorry. It felt like my worst fear, that he would get bored of me, came true. I couldn’t and still can’t believe it. It’s been a month now and I’m going strong with no contact and slowly trying to work on myself, but I still feel so crushed. The life I was about to have got ripped away, and I’m left jobless, in a house full of packed boxes. The worst part is just how much I miss him and his son. I miss my family. But thanks to Craig’s videos I feel like I’m aware now of my anxious attachment style due to my past, and I feel my ex was terrified of the commitment- of the reality that I was really moving across country for him in a matter of days. He most likely felt trapped. And in his family, where they all ignore their problems, it was easier for him to just end it. Hopefully in time he will realize that we were and still can be an amazing, happy couple and family... but with or without him, I need to find my happiness.

smollybellies wishing for the best for you. Sounds like a real shitty situation. These videos help me but sometimes I feel like this is becoming my new addiction. It’s hard now for me to turn away from breakup videos.

Try viewing Bernardo Mendez.. he’s. Good too!

smollybellies Ash Mo what happened to your relationship now. Are you back together? Did the no contact work?

@@Bnk2907 Hello Dr Johnson He can recover your relationship back permanently

Me too I really love his channel make me feel better

Did he ever try to get you back?

@@ameliapeach3029 no, he's still with the one he left me for. I still see him at work though.

@@aliacoo wow that must be tough. I hope you meet someone more secure soon!

@@ameliapeach3029 I have, but I still look at my ex every day and feel bad about what happened after twelve years together.

Lonely Guy me too. I pleaded and texted her incessantly for a month just to show how much I cared and loved her. She broke up saying that I don’t love her. She never tried to ask what’s going on in my life before dumping. When I chased her, she did exactly as these guys say, that is, frustrated and annoyed her in the process. I couldn’t take it anymore and went into NC for my own well being. Everyday was torturous when she didn’t read or reply my texts. Only God can pull me out of this tribulation. You stay strong, coz I believe one day the tables will turn. Like they say, everyday can’t be Sunday 😊

Lonely Guy I hear you bro. I’m in NC for over a month now. During my begging and pleading, she really got annoyed and she turned her face sour when she saw me. That sight of her face I couldn’t take anymore and I decided that I will not bother her for some time until, hopefully, time heals her attitude towards me. The only problem is, she lives 2 hours drive from my place, and there is no other way to track her moves unless I see her at train station when she goes to work. I feel terrible to go and chase her like that. I also feel the same way as you are feeling right now. Hopelessness, fear, anger, etc. I try to forget and try occupy myself into different things hoping to forget about her. But you can’t shut the thoughts out of your mind. It’s a vicious cycle. Sometimes I feel ok and sometimes it comes back out of nowhere. I’m not even sure what lies ahead. But I have faith in God that keeps me in check all the time. Else I would’ve been broken down completely. BTW, as I had promised you that I will pray for you and relationship; I did put you in my prayers this morning. And I believe that God will surely hear my prayer for you.

Lonely Guy I feel your pain bro, as I’m going through the same. I myself cried during this time so much that I must have never cried since the day I was born. Hopefully, one day I look back on my moments and think why? And hopefully you too. Days are also hard for me. I stopped going out, esp places where you see couple together, hand in hand, such as malls etc. coz they remind me of my time with her; and that sight is torturous to look at. That’s the reason why I stopped going out much apart from work and the gym. What I have realized is, when I’m sitting all by myself, those thoughts about her haunt me and gets me crushed. That’s y I keep myself occupied most of the time, and that way it’s good. Sometimes I wonder how some people can be so callous and merciless. If I think deeply about our breakup, I believe that she is half responsible for it. But I never argued with her about that, as that would infuriate her. I accepted all of the faults as my own. So you also do not argue with her, but humbly accept them as your fault. Eventually humility will triumph and bring her to senses. I can imagine how much you must have cried, and how many tears you must have shed. Trust me bro, all of those shed tears will never go to waste, as they are accumulated for your ultimate joy one day. I see your pain in those comments, and if I could be of any help for you apart from prayers, please let me know.

I'm with you on this!

No point in being angry it's an emotion that takes a lot of your time stay positive and see what happens

Jack Gaul's Fitness Vlog good on you brother. I’ve been following the same path for 3 months now 💪

Did she contacted you some time?

@@aronchas nope lol

Did your ex ever reach out to you???

@@archangelelmo nope

This is so true, putting it as a lifeline is like the most perfect way to describe the comfort these videos have brought me as I’ve been trying to go through my breakup

So true.. I’m going through a break up after almost 4yrs..

Me too, I often listen in the car. Thank you for videos.. I've bought books but they just sit there.

I know of someone who can help you get your ex back Because he helped me too 🙏🙏

Via...... What'S

+ 2 3 4 8 0 7 7 7 5 1 6 9 5 🙏🙏🙏

Try talking to him? Bring your feelings to the table....confront gently .

No,do not try talking to him.He knows what he did to you.I strongly believe that some people leave u with no choice but to break up with them that is just as good as them breaking up with you.Know your worth and understand that if you reach out to him he will never change.let him realize for himself what he did and decide for himself that he wants to make a change and that he wants u in his life.I know it's hard but it will get better

There is a video by him that describes when a relationship is not worth saving...basically, it's not worth saving if he has an addiction or mental illness or is abusive.

I know exactly what you are going through I have had 5 months and counting of this totally look crappie cause of lack of sleep I'm broken hearted I admitt to waking up in cold sweats panic and heart racing but the saddest thing is all we really require is our exes having one conversation with us just closure i guess if we can't work stuff out you know it seems they're holding all the cards at the moment and this NC rule is getting some power back but how are you supposed to do this wen you have been blocked? So childish this action I think

So mine, she is the monster of Cheating! Cheated me thrice in 4months

Ajay Singh iam so sorry

Thanks Marsha! Sorry for you too! I am from India nd you?

iam from America

He just lost feelings once he had for you. . . Sad but true!

Thank u Ms Design 🤓

Coach Craig Kenneth no Craig thank you! I’m sending you a cyber hug. :-,D

Same , I left Italy in March , he said think of me when u look at the ring have faith on us ,5 months later he broke up with me 👀👀 I cannot see him because the border control he is Italian and I’m chinese we are long distance due to the covid , I’m in NC 11 days after 2 months broke up 😂😂 Any updates from u ?

Gao Ang we were together for 3 years and I was planning to move to her this year until COVID happened. I’m in the US and she in Germany. She broke up with me in late august and I gave her about a month of NC until I found out she’s now dating a new guy. That was September 29th. I blew up. She’s now blocked me on everything and I’m back in NC. I’m really hurting right now.

Adrian Ross wish the same luck for us , he didn’t date anyone but he said he is afraid to marry and when he was with me it’s working like drugs , he loves me but my love blinded him ,and he doesn’t know when will us meet , it’s impossible blah blahhh .. he didn’t delete me but I unfriend him on Instagram we only hold connection via wechat ,it’s hurt as hell , I’m like addicted on KZfaq video these days ,🤯

Christian Castro did you reply back to her?

Christina Lewis I did reply two days later after her initial text. I kept it short and sweet and business as usual. I didn’t disclose too much information about my current everyday basis or lifestyle, I only responded with the basics of me doing good and being happier. That’s all!

Sounds like me here. 3 weeks ago gf of 11 years dumped me when I was going to propose to her on this Christmas. Im broken completely but I gotta be a better person and get healthier mentally and physically. Im not over weight Im fit skinny but want to pack on muscle. I wanted to do no contact for a month but shes the one who suggested it ughhhhh

@@rottingrage7805 same here man I begged and recently broke no contact after a week when i found out shes been talking to this guy her friend set her up with. Now i gotta restart

@@TheMartymcfly88mph shit.. Id go absolutely mental, but she knows it, if she spoke to any other guy she'd make sure I don't find out, I'd lose it. But then again she used to think I didn't trust her even though I do, so I don't think she'd be doing that. But yeh I struggle to go 1 day without messaging, I'm shit at no contact haha but I need to do it to see if it works, everyone is telling me not to text her and eventually shel text me. The thing is, they test us. If we try no contact they say they still don't want us to get a reaction, and dumb arse here takes the bait... They then have power and reassurance again. Need to stop been an idiot and do this no contact stuff lol

Have you thought about therapy?

@@rwentfordable Thanks for your comment. I’ve been in therapy for the past three years or so but my trauma remains unresolved.

Not true.

I think it depends on whether you are serious about taking him back he could come looking for you even months down the line try not to think about not forgiving just try and believe in him returning to your arms stay focused on that (that's what I'm trying to do)

Christine Lynn yes please

Petros Giorgallis is this a link or a comment

Petros Giorgallis this whole channel is basically about us being dumped and trying to avoid reaching out by going no contact, so there’s a chance they could. Especially when the only reason I broke up with him was because he said he loved me, but he started treating me like crap...so if he actually means what he said than I’m hoping no contact will make him appreciate what he had when it’s not there anymore and clean up his act. Unless of course it was all lovebombing and he’s a narcissist.

matrixband12 thankyou for understanding. Well I guess we are at an impasse then because if I were to reach out and try to reconcile it’s basically telling him that I accept him treating me like crap, so it will feed into his ego. I’ll just cut my losses and accept that he went from being this amazing man, to a totally different person. I’m not just going to accept his breadcrumbing anymore.

matrixband12 I did that before. This is the third time now that we have broken up. The first 2 times he broke up with me but always came back saying he was sorry and things would be as they used to be for a couple of days. This time I had the exact discussion that you are suggesting with him, but it’s almost like he wasn’t listening and was just waiting me to finish what I was saying so that he could turn it around and try to gaslight me with it. I got so frustrated I told him that if he’s not willing to try and even to listen to how I’m feeling than I’m walking. Which is exactly what I did. Now I’m in 3 weeks no contact, and other than an angry text he sent me on Thursday night at 11:30 pm, I haven’t heart from him since.

Did your ex ever reach out to you???

Good one.

My name is my ex is the same he likes to avoid thoughts and avoid any sort of feeling that’s why he sleeps a lot and try’s to keep busy this year I accomplished a lot he just recently got a job but at the end of the year -_- so I know I can do so much better I’ve done great things with my life I’ve grown as a person he on the other hand has this dark twisted mind of blocking things and going numb I prefer to feel than to ever destroy others with my self egoistical and selfish ways

Did he dump u or u him?

Couple editing glitches but we can look past that ;)

Now?

@@yanabi83did your ex ever reach out to you???

Any update?

I agree! Definitely one of his best videos!

Me too! It's happy!!😊💟

Why would you even want him back if he's heartless?

In a similar situation, caught her multiple times. So I just told her rebound that he was being cheated on with evidence. Atp, I didn't plan on getting her back so I didn't care that she blocked me afterwards. I just needed that closure that I cannot be with a serial cheater, even if I was so attached and thought I was so in love with her. Months of sleepless nights and being depressed opened my eyes after a while.

Cool! Not many people have mentioned it

Be strong. What meant to be will be

Thank you.. I just wish everything would turn around