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A bare minimum/breadcrumbing boyfriend gave me so much anxiety and self doubt completely lowered my self esteem. They don’t care about your well-being. He absolutely has narcissistic tendencies!

Don't do it, you will set yourself up for failure and loose yourself. I settled for bare minimum for 17 years of lonely while in a relationship. Time lost that you never get back . Finally found myself and my strength to leave

Broke up with my bare minimum boyfriend last night. He’s more worried about his friends than investing his time into our relationship. I refuse to ask him to take me to dinner, the movies, or for flowers ever again. His loss!

Especially since I saw him willing to move mountains for his "female friends " and I got the excuse of "too busy"

Single and alone doesn't mean lonely or unhappy, 👁‍🗨

Never beg someone for their love or attention.

You will never come close to getting back what you gave to them .... And they think they are the prize !!!

IN MY 20'S 30'S YEAH, 40'S 50'S I WILL NEVER TOLERATE BARE MINIMUM!!!

When you accept bare minimum, you are submitting to being programmed to lower the cost of what it costs to be around you.

Facts... you don't need a dependent

Same story for me to ladies, I got tired of bare minimum behavior and divorced it in 2009. Been happy ever since I'm making the 💰 and loving me.🌹🌹

Block 🚫 No explanation, no asking for anything, not even once.

If you don't know your Worth no one else will!!💯

Best way of showing your daughter how she should be treated, is to treat her mama like a Queen!!! Thats truth!!

I'm honestly dealing with this right now and heading towards a divorce. It is really draining and toxic. And I'm done!

I'm an near pulling my hair out dealing with this bare minimum person. I'm so angry at myself for getting so wrapped up in this poison.

ABSOLUTELY 💯💯💯💯, LADIES KNOW YOUR WORTH!!!

Definitey experiencing bare minimum...never thought about this so clearly-Thank-You!!!!

YOU ARE SPEAKING THE TRUTH, LADIES YOU HAVE TO KNOW YOUR WORTH!!!! 👑QUEENOLOGIST APPROVED👑

My brother buys his daughter a cake and roses on her bday and delivers it to her school.

YES! You should never have to ask for flowers ladies … don’t settle .

I’m still broken and don’t think I’ll ever feel better or normal like I was before. I lost such a big part of myself and who I was

You are so on point and you are special I didn't get anything for Valentine's Day and wasn't happy and I am done not happy and moving on

Great Post!!!! " I;d RATHER MY BABY GIRL BE DISSAPOINTED THEN TRAUMATIZED" Enjoy HER OWN COMPANY INSTEAD OF SHARING IT WITH SOMEONE WHO DOES NOT DESERVE HER COMPANY""

Great job as a dad! Your daughter will gauge her future love and expectations by what she learns from you! 👍

Thanks for confirming what I was feeling!!

I just left one of these. His Breadcrumbs and lack of emotions was just so hurtful to me. His reaction to my upset was completely immature. Thing is, I never signed up for the situation he put me in but for him, the perfect situation regardless of how it made me feel 😢

I'm picking up what you putin down. These types of Men/boys are the worst. And your right were expecting them to go hard and they go ALL THE WAY WET BREAD SOFT When I see that, I excuse myself and keep it pushing

Your right my father always showed up like you did when I was a child growing up teens and grown I always expected more than the bare minimum they would act in the beginning then slack I had zero tolerance and that's how come im in the space now and im not complaining I rather be alone happy with a lot of love to give my family and close friends then with bare minimum my words for the vulnerable if you dont do anything else pray 🙏🏿 try and grow closer to God he is the sweetest gift I know as long as you have God you are properly loved and just be consistent on how you show up for your children, yourself love yourself love you first everything you have been through In God timing things will then start to turn around for your good in sweet Jesus name Amen ❤❤❤❤

You are on point big brother concerning your daughter in pouring and demonstrating your love to her while she is young. That will speak volumes to her and when the time is right, she will know how to avoid bare minimum men. Very good!❤️

I give thanks to THE MOST HIGH for the gifts you possess to teach, educate, enlighten. TRUELY. I'm learning SO MUCH about how and why I allowed the horrific toxicity I used to call a relationship. I'm very proud to say that my healing journey began sometime back, but encountering your content has propelled me to new heights. Thank you 🙏🏼. As soon as I economically navigate myself out of this DV experience I will be signed up, so eager, and sincerely ready to take part in any CHALLENGE courses you present.

You're awesome Derrick 🙌🏽 Honest and authentic 🙌🏽

Thank you. I resolve to stop giving me bare minimum. Break bad habits, start with a new habit and be consistent; talk to me as nicely as i try to talk to other people... etc. This feels good. I am going to watch it again. Thank you. ❤

I really appreciate you Derrick for telling us what to expect in real and loving relationships. Hearing the message so strongly from a brother is powerful and much needed! xx

Love you and your thoughts of bare minimum men. I never thought of this! Enlightening!❤

Bare Minimum ❤ Limits Growth on every level.

I complained about everything you spoke about and he never put any effort in the relationship; he just complained i was trying to change him and said his exes didn't have a problem with his personality.

Thankyou for the confirmation of this truth!

When those BMM come into my life, I’m loving kind and respectful, and I request what they should be willing to give matching my energy efforts, etc. they bless me when they just disappear out of my life

Been there too many times unfortunately lesson learned

Married to one ... Smdh. Valentine's Day is just another day.

Yes, a Queen will protect his manhood/not cheat...loyal🎉

You’re a blessing, Derek. Thank you for this reminder of what we all know but convince ourselves to excuse.

Excellent talk. Needed this. Watching again.

DO GOOD BY YOURSELF!!!!!! GOD WILL SUPPLY OH YEZZZZ HE WILL♥👑

Oh yes! He was and still is a NIGHTMARE!!

I said “when can we spend a minute” He said “stop pressuring me” I silently gasped. I said “i want someone who feels that I’m their happiness-not their pressure.. and I said..”I mean this in the kindest way possible- “we.are.done” and I fkn meant it.

The only bare minimum I will take, at the very least, is minimum wage pay not men. I’ve learned to just keep walking and don’t turn back around to men like that.

💯 brother ❤ the truth.

I asked for my fiance to sing to me and dance with me for my birthday a couple years back. He gave the first excuse that his leg was still hurting, "you know I dont sing because it makes me miss my fav aunt ". The final one was I had a conversation with a mutual friend trying to make him feel better about that happened with his gf and used us as an example and how he can move forward/fix it. He said he didn't do what I asked for my birthday because I was spreading our business with someone who isn't my therapist. I can't talk to anyone about him/us. Mind you that was the last adult I had yo have a conversation with besides him or therapist (got 3 kids). Still waiting on that gift 2 years later

Just what I needed to hear 🙏🏽

People place TOO much emphasis on being in a relationship. In particular, Black individuals are carrying historical environmental, and emotional trauma. Please read Post traumatic Slave Syndrome by Joy DeGruy. Black people HEAL, HEAL, HEAL! which means you need time alone to develop into your best self.

Sir,OMG SPEAK FACTS

Iam going to be a much stronger woman watching your vídeos. Thank you! From Brazil

THANK YOU FOR YOUR VIDEOS! YOU KEEP IT REAL ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS!

He never sacraficed a dam thing...n hell never be there in the hard times

Sure would.

Putting a word in for your baby girl 🎉🎉😊too cute and real! Keep up the good words

Yes n yes. N thank got he's out. ..I pity his current so called girlfriend....

Check how he treats you 365 days a year and compare it to valentines day too. You’ll see the facts once you do a proper analysis.

Why you soooo on point

Everything you said is true...

Amen.

Yep

❤ Keep doing all that for your daughter, so she will understand how high her standards MUST be. ❤

I need this kind of wisdom....daily ✌🏾

Dropping FACTS, once again!! 👏🏻

Nothing wrong with bare minimum men, just give the bare minimum as well and level the playing field.

I’m late to your videos. But you speaking facts!! Thanks Derrick

Amen to this I love your passion and felt as though you was telling me directly 😅

I would love to get a copy of that book. I am struggling in my relationship

🙌🏽 FACTS

I'm in a bare minimum relationship now ..smh

Especially when he went in the store and came back out with him a new tumbler cup and his dog new stuffed chew toy and me… nothing.

That’s also something I don’t like when he says to me he wants me to lead .. 😑

You are the absolute best! Thank you

Stay dropping 💎's

Gotta listen later I'm in school building a beautiful life 💓🧬🧬💓🎉

I....use to....hell....No...More!!!! Thank you God and Jesus 🙏🏽❤️🙏🏽

Bible ...never settle

The church day amen 🙏 🙌

I was waiting till Valentine's Day and he didn't show up again not in person but in any other way. All he did was reciprocate an I love you text.

A Jerry Springer relationship 😮

I’m done with accepting less I’m not going to have you give me any excuses I’m in my 60s you better have your A game when you come to me now I ain’t no joke I’m not dealing with the bare minimum I’m done

Ooohh wee that would be me! I’m with one right now!

❤ Never Too Late:)

Yes sir

Good channel following de about dating

I def had one

Yes several times

Facts

My Daughter just started dating someone like this!!!

Let the church say 🙏 🙏 🙏

This 🙌 💯‼️

Yes, I did.

Oh my goodness have you ever heard a relationship coach be more real and tell you go ahead and be you and deal with what you're accepting and think it's alright and you know in your heart it's not because why else are we watching these videos anyway ladies????

Amen

Wow! So true.

Every Valentine's day I buy my son and my daughter an "unrealistic" gift... Really big bear and a cool candy..