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I would love it if you'd post a few videos to help non-bipolar people deal with bipolar relatives and loved ones. It's not just the depression that's a problem, it's when bipolar people go on the attack. Give us some tips on how we can protect ourselves without getting draw into the fight. Give us some tips on how we can heal ourselves from the hurts we've suffered as a result of being related to someone who suffers from this disorder.

Trying to understand bipolar disorder for a friend that I care about a lot. She's going through some stuff but I'm determined to listen to her and make her feel better.

The fifth point, "When we push you away, that's probably when we need you the most" is incredibly helpful and important. Being pushed away can cause pain, which can make it more difficult to be compassionate. But remember that the pushing-away is caused by suffering that often has nothing to do with you.

My sons are Bipolar. When they're well you can't imagine them not remaining well. Until.it happens. And It's difficult to remember it will happen again. And again. It affects the whole family unit when one of them is ill. We all just hunker down best we can until the storm passes thru. As it always has in the past. They're twins and 24-yrs old. Nice lads. It's just endlessly heartbreaking. And hard. But I try only to think of them and how difficult it must be for them at their age. And not knowing how to deal with what the future may have in store. But we safeguard them as best we can. And try to find the best medical options available. Your channel really helps. Thanks for all you do. You're amazing.

I've was diagnosed 25+ years ago and I do take medications that have not cured but have helped keep me on the planet. I have one suggestion to some people with bipolar...don't go looking for validation all the time and never, never, never disclose to your workplace. They will see you as a liability and not an asset. The boss will resent you. Accommodations may need to be made but remember...A Lot of people suffer from various diseases and mental illnesses and show up to work everyday. You are not exempt. You HAVE to meet people halfway.

After years & years of dedicating myself and caring for one woman who was not open to professional help, I have moved on, left her behind and have come to the realization that some people will never change even if it makes their own life better.

The 1 tip that stood out to me was that my boyfriend who has bipolar said when he angrily episodes and is lashing out verbally to me calling me names and blaming me for things HE himself did he wants me to love on him. Cuddle and hug him. And I'm thinking that's really hard since his episode puts me in the self defense mode at the time. The last thing I want to do is love on you! But I learned to do it as soon as I recognized it. I didn't always recognize it right away but when I did I would just walk away and let him rant til he got it out of his system. What I did realize is that most of the time it really wasn't something I had to fight back about. He was just using me as his verbal punching bag because he couldn't control it at that moment. Then when I figured it was safe I would hug on him and say I'm sorry whether it was my fault or not. Then he would calm down and apologize and say, "I'm sorry love. You didn't deserve that....." And he would seemingly level out. We were together for 5 yrs. And just recently broke up. But I love watching your videos!! OMG I wish I would've discovered these sooner! You're gonna save so many lives and relationships Robert! Thank you so much for doing these! It's so hard to find good help for this! I know it's a bit challenging for you but what a phenomenal way to help others! You are better than any psychologist or counselor we ever went to!! And we've been thru 4 years of them!

I like them all but the one that stuck out to me most is just be there to listen and not give advice. I have a tendency to automatically put my two cents in. I'm gonna do better and try to just be there ans listen. Thank you for this channel.

My ex wife, who had bipolar, crashed and kicked me out of her life and wanted a divorce. She pushed me so far away it was beyond repairing. I had to divorce her but I still want to understand this disorder to this day.

The destructive behavior of someone who is bipolar cannot be tolerated. My wife was diagnosed as bipolar. She constantly did horrendous things, like going into our bank account and spending every penny we had. She also stole $12,000 dollars from my father who kept it in his house. She spent it all somewhere. She would never tell us where. She would impulsively shop lift. She would think that people in public were talking badly about her. She wanted to viciously confront them. I had to physically restrain her on several occasions. That was just a few of the things she did. That kind of behavior cannot be tolerated. It was as if she had a complete lack of conscience at times. Yet she had a high IQ. She had worked her way through school to become a nurse practitioner. And after all that struggle to become one, on her third week on the job she used someone else's DEA number to order herself drugs, and got arrested at the pharmacy. I had no idea how destructive someone with bipolar disorder was until I married her. It was 20 years of hell. Now I have to deal with my daughters who inherited bipolar disorder from their mother.

My favorite tip was just be there and listen. Honestly, just knowing someone is there is all I need sometimes.

Wow, I have a bipolar partner. I desperately want to help. I feel so sad listening to this video. It must be hell for anyone going through this disorder, let alone their loved ones. Thank you

I’m learning about BP because my niece suffers from this illness. I particularly gravitate to the friend sand family members who say “where are the resources to help US???” . I feel continually abused and manipulated !! It’s been years now even thought she’s on medication ! Her mood swings are profound and I have to say …..VERY HURTFUL to me over the years !! Her actions and words are completely opposite and I get very confused ! I recently expressed this to her and am about to have an “intervention “ with her and her mom . I cannot deal with this emotional abuse anymore ! I feel I need to put up some boundaries finally. She’s always “sorry” and feeling bad but then she will say or do something yet again to hurt me. I’m exhausted . It’s very wearing. I am searching for some assistance for US….the friends and family members who are “the real “ victims here !

#6 is my favorite. When I'm crashing and someone tries to give me advice, I completely lose it! It makes me feel like they think I don't know how to do things right. I know what's the right thing to do, but I just can't seem to get there....no matter how hard I try!!

My sister is bipolar and is going through a crash right now. Thank you so much for saying she still loves me. I know it's true deep down, she just can't express it right now.

When we are wiped out and unable to do much of anything please listen when we tell you this. It is not an excuse to get out of things for we would gladly do them if we could. Instead of making a face or getting mad if we can’t cook a meal please be kind and go the extra mile and cook the meal with a good attitude. Please be kind to us, but mostly please still love us.

sometimes we feel like we're bothering you or may avoid your call and get scared to call you back because we feel like you'll be upset with us. that is me thoroughly. Holy hell

By the way all of this that was just said is true , sometimes all they need is friends and family and love , don't let them kill themselves pls 😢

#12. My husband of 35 years who suffers from bipolar says that it’s painfully lonely for him when I’m away, but when I come home he will just sit in the same room as me and not talk at all. Thanks for explaining in #4 that all his feelings are super intense and even painful. This makes more sense now.

I’m so greatful for my people And that’s why I wonder “I have the best life. Why can’t I get better?”

Forgot the #...but when we isolate..dont answer the phone....or texts...or emails...or dont visit....we just can't handle that at that particular time..don't take it personal. Also..we do need you family and friends..just to be there and know we love you.

Hi Rob. My favorite is trying to get ppl to understand why we isolate. I know I definitely pull my self away from everyone when I am too overwhelmed. Ppl don’t always understand that sometimes everything is just too much ❤️

Doing my best to remember that the hate being given directed at me isn't her real thoughts...I hope anyway.

My wife is suffering from postpartum depression and psychosis. Turns out it stems from bipolar, I always thought maybe she had depression that would come and go. I didn’t take her seriously, now I’m doing everything I can to get educated. I didn’t know how to help before and what I needed to do. I know I made things worse. Thank you for all the videos, everything you say are things we have experienced, everything. Your videos help and everything out there does make me a better person for her. Thank you.

I learned that it’s okay to reach out to him, even though he broke off the relationship, by blindsiding me, in a very cold and mean way.

Thank you so very much! I was just diagnosed 4 days ago with bipolar 1 disorder I also have bad anxiety. I’m 48 and it all makes sense now. Your videos have brought me some peace to know I’m not alone... I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings!! I don’t like feeling this way!! I have started taking meds and hope they start to help soon. I shared this video with a few friends and by doing so I have found out I’m not alone!!! Thank you again!! You explain it all so perfectly! ~Juanita~

my favorite tip is the one that says the BP person still loves the family/friend under all the profanity and slamming doors and the "I'm done's" and the "you'll never see from me agains".

12 tips sumed it up well for how my BP is. My favorite tip: Dont abandon me after a meltdown. Me: I'd endup bringing flowers trying to understand why so many people are mad at me when I'm one who is SICK.

The 3 best things someone can talk to me about: drink water, eat a sandwich, and take a shower. Simple but really helpful because I forget about these little things when I'm depressive or manic.

I like the listen and to stay even when the person is pushing you away... know one gets how important it is to be with our loved one during this time... it is de officially but sticking it out is worth it....

I feel deeply, too, and am tired of being attacked. I have depression and am suffering too. She pushes me away and she won't go on medication. Never ever is there for me but I have to be perfect in my support of her.

People won't believe us and they won't even try to understand us. Thank you this was a great video. I hope you people can find a person who can undestand and willing to help you.

My partner is bipolar 2 and I can relate to all of these.Just yesterday he felt good after 7 days of being ditached..learning how to get along,be in his support and not to misunderstand him for hurting me.

My favorite is we don't want pity. If we talk about having bipolar and what we might be going through, it is not because we want you to feel sorry for us. We may just need to talk about it to someone who is close and cares. One thing I would add to this is don't be afraid to ask questions. If you want to know about me and this disorder I have, don't be afraid to ask. I will do my best to help you understand. But, keep in mind, I may have a difficult time understanding things myself.

If it hadn’t been for your videos, I’d given up on my bipolar friend long time ago. Thank you for your education. You make things more clear than some doctor with a PhD degree. You’re so valuable. Don’t ever stop making videos.

The hardest part is being judged by others. The knowing that when I begin to have feelings for someone, or them me, I have to push them away. I love them too much to hurt them and I cannot be in a relationship. I've resigned myself to being alone because it hurts less to have hurt someone. I can only be friends, for a little while... never anymore than that. It is less painful for everyone, to have only very few, people in my life. I try to be kind in all things, knowing I'll end up alone and probably be just the neighborhood cat lady. 2 cats and me, is all I can handle! Anymore than that, I get too stressed out which throws me into the cycling. Stress is my enemy, and sleeping for hours alone, is my only cure. I sometimes get horribly lonely and I cry alot, but when I can't stop the pain or tears, it's a couple aspirin and a sleep med. That's when I'll sleep all day and night. When I wake up, I'm ok in just a few hours. Loving at a arms length is kinder... Life, goes on. In my deepest depression, I no longer want to live, but I know it's only the disease talking. In that knowing, I can cope until I am emotionally exhausted. Then I can sleep, heal and start all over again, until the next time I cycle. Funny, it gets worse as one ages. Being a bp2 with cronic, manic depression (but medicated), it's the only thing I know that works for me. I am thankful, I know how to fix me, that I will survive. Riding that dark horse of depression, is hard. I have survived! (Have been doing it for 70 yrs, only diagnosed 8 yrs ago.)

My favorite tip is when you said that we those who are the loveone are important in your lives that y'all love us and y'all are sorry for what y'all do I don't hear that as much because he is more on the depressive side than the Mania side. He's not abusive at all he's just agitated quickly and depressed. I have learned through your Channel to be patient gentle and more loving towards him. Thank you so much for what you do is really helping our relationship.

My mom developed this disorder after a stroke ten years ago, and really, she's the most unpleasant person to be around, and most of the family has gotten to the point that we're ready to put her in a home, and forget that she exists. I'm sorry that she's suffering, but we don't all have to suffer along with her. Help me to not give up on her.

I sent this one to my sister who has NO clue what it's like to live with this brain

My tip is for people to stop being passive aggressive understanding and forgiving. Either forgive me and understand or not. You can't say you are then emotionally sucker punch me at will because of a past which you forgave/understood me for. But i am starting to heal more once i realized that some people need to hold on to that hurt that i caused them. That i can't be so ego and demand they forgive NOW! That like me they need time to process their feelings. That they should communicate their negative feeling with me instead of staying silent for fear i might break. That they cannot punish me for things they don't say to me. I need for them to understand that i understand. That they don't have to punish themselves in order for me to feel better. Because when i see how they suffer how can i feel better? That as i am making them responsible for me, They should make me responsible for them. We need to not be afraid to teach one another.

I have bipolar and #12 made me cry. You rock.

My grandma has bipolar disorder it's so hard to keep her happy for a day. Most days she just yells at me. And I have no idea on what to do.

What a great talk! Here's a summary of the main points. For people with bipolar disorder: 1. It doesn’t define who we are - we’re NOT bipolar, we HAVE bipolar 2. We are not using bipolar as an excuse - It’s a serious life-threatening illness 3. When we're crashing, it’s really important to know specifically how to help them, when we are feeling well, ask us the top 5 things that can help us; it’s as important to know what NOT to say as what to say 4. We feel everything deeply, sometimes to the point of physical pain 5. When we push you away, it’s probably when we need you the most, gentle loving-kindness 6. When we're falling to pieces, pleasant company rather than advice 7. Bipolar is a 24-hr fight to stay well 8. Sometimes we might not reach out because we think we’re bothering you or isolating from depression. Still, leave a message or send a text. 9. Don’t judge or feel ill-will towards us if we're isolating because things too overstimulating. We will get back to you when we feel better. Just be patient with us. 10. Please don’t pity us - sometimes the best thing to do is listen to us rant and ask us if we need anything 11. Please learn about bipolar disorder, get educated about it, check out videos, read a book on bipolar disorder 12. It can be achingly lonely without our friends and family, not just the big stuff but the little stuff too.

Suffering from type 1 BPD. Been a brutal run. Thank you for this video. It's incredible!

Loved all and best is the listening and not judging after the verbal / texting dumping ... still be there to love and support ❤️

I have recently lost a 53-year-old brother. He was screaming for help but due to ignorance of everyone of us, and the professional who was treating him, he killed himself. Two months later while talking to a student, she called my attention to bipolar disorder. I myself was absolutely ignorant on the subject, and as I started researching I realized the terrifying truth that, what for everybody who knew and loved my brother was "normal" is exactly what killed him. He was always unstoppable, from making many plans and dreaming high to doing lots of things at the same time. He started using marijuana and drinking heavily, and his life took a big turn from cheating on his wife to becoming irritated and nervous and nice and explosive and nice and so on. And as everybody in my family is somehow like that, we all considered that "it's in the blood", "it runs in the family". And now that I'm searching and reading and learning, I want to shout aloud because the pain is too terrible to bear, and because I want other people to know about that. Oh, how resistant are people to talk about it!! Thank you for your video.

The Thank You's to those who support and Love...

My friends bi polar. She went off her meds for a week. Went back on them. I took her to Safeway. She yelled at me to: "Shut the fuck up and hurry up" (I was crowing at a crow that was cackling). Then in the store she kept talking way louder than normal. Almost yelling. At me and everyone else. I'm half awake and have ptsd. I usually wake up pray and meditate. I don't get up and go go go! But I did for her because I received a text that it was urgent. Anyway. We get out and I tell her. "When you yelled at me in front of the people you embarrassed me and killed my vibe. I was happy and felt great. Was trying to wake up and be thankful. Then you yelled at half the people in the store. If you're going to go with me you cannot yell at me or other people. You embarrassed me). She denied it. Said she had her ears checked and wasn't changing for anybody. I said if you want a ride again. Just please be a little gentler. I have high estrogen. I'm getting my trt protocol worked out. Maybe I'm being a little extra sensitive." She snickers and laughs. I call her on it. She denies it. I figure I've done every positive thing I can from a place of love to try to explain my boundaries. I look over. She's crying. Then she tells me I can never hear her voice again in real life. We can only text. If she sees me. She stops talking. What do I do? Let the abuse continue? Block her phone number and move forward? She was a good friend. Not perfect. But good. There was a fire and I left for 2 months. She went back to her abusive ex who used to be a pimp supposedly? I hate him! But I can't control her choices. I used to call him her abuser. But I stopped because she doesn't want any of us talking about him. He degrades her and uses her. He's a loser. Anyway ❤

When my wife told me that she wakes up angry and wants to fight I was totally lost. It wasn't until her sister was diognost a paranoid schizophrenic that I now knew where it was coming from. The mood swings can happen at any time. That's why in my previous post to your other video I said I limited our lives to what I can manage and control.

Your spot on getting education. I wish I found your channel sooner. Several years ago I researched online what bipolar is. I found blanket terminology, not indepth answers and info that you put out here. I pray my wife comes back as I'm much more educated thanks to your videos. Your mild tone and modest explanations are absolutely wonderful for helping me to understand her better. I couldn't thank you enough for what youve taught me. God bless you sir with what you have struggled with and your ability to explain something that is very hard to understand! I couldn't thank you enough!

Thank you for this video. It gives me something to pass onto family to help them understand what my beautiful son, who was just diagnosed, is going through. I know it is hard on the people who get lashed out at but we do need to remember that the person with this disorder is hurting more intensely than we can really fathom and is so in need of love and understanding.

Thanks Rob! Your videos are great. You have a very genuine caring energy about you that comes through the screen. My son has bipolar and I'm always studying the best ways to help him. Even though we may not understand why some of you wonderful souls get afflicted with this illness I know God Loves you and has a very special purpose on earth for all of you and your sufferings. Remember this life is a split second of eternity and when we are with God at the end of our human journey you souls that have suffered will have an incredibly special place and honor in heaven. You guys are so incredibly tough (you keep getting back up when down), brilliant minds, and survivors. These videos will help many many people. Keep up the good work!

I don't remember what number but our difficulty with phones was good to hear. I never thought that was part of bipolar. Thank you for your videos.

Your videos are really giving me hope right now when things are so ugly. You’re definitely right at those extreme moments when I lash out or push away I really do need someone the most. And these feelings are painfully lonely for sure. Keep up the good work brother. I appreciate what your doing.

Oh my goodness this hit home, he did so well. I’m so glad someone shined the light on this!!!

I LOVE all of these tips . They really help with understanding a person with Bipolar disorder more and helps to take away the pain in misunderstanding from when they can lash out. Thank you so much.

What you do is changing lives. Thank you! You have been saying all the things I have been trying to explain to my friends and family.

Thank you, i have so many people in my life with this disorder, and im so glad that you are here to help people like myself, who want to be compassionate and understanding.........Great Job!!!

Thank you so much. As a friend to someone who is bipolar, this means so much to us. I was searching for help because it is confusing sometimes. ♥️

Well said. As usual ;) I'm gonna send this to a few people right now.

All this is great... but it’s no vacation for the person dwelling with the person with bi-polar as well ... it’s extremely draining and sometimes seems not worth the fight

Although i have done a tone of research on Bipolar Disorder since my diagnosis i have found your videos very helpful because there is so much more to it than just the hi's and lows. It's good to have a reminder of what not to do or what to do with the people in our lives. I live with my mom and i know i have put her through hell and every once and a while i forget about how i am affecting her. I have been trying to not take things out on her or drive her crazy so thank you for the reminder and this is a excellent one for family and friends to watch. Good Job!

exactly. it doesnt define who we are. so so grateful for your words and the way you put things. you are absolutely wonderful. I never knew anyone / thing could help. you have. thank you. I hope you have things to do the same for you.

This is the first video I’ve watched and subscribed straight away! This is something I should have done a long time ago as my partner is diagnosed but chooses not to use medication, I know nothing about and it leads to a lot of misconceptions and thinking I know how to deal with it in the right way but actually I have no idea and I’m ready to throw myself into learning deeply about it - thank you

Thank you so much for this video. I'm glad to know that there are videos like these for people like us. I don't feel alone anymore :)

Thank you for all you do with this channel. You are helping alot of people. I have bipolar and as i listen to you , i feel not so alone.Thank you for shedding light on this topic.

Wish my husband would remember he has it This last manic episode he went through has totally put him in denial and he refuses to be mediated or even get help :(

Very helpful ty Rob ! #12 is my favourite . I need my family and friends , and truly sorry for the times I lashed out at them while I’m crashing . Bottom line is I love them like you said. It was a good reminder for me to appreciate those who truly love and care for me . Needed this today ty again Rob

Loved the information and you have a genuine way of giving us tips. I have subscribed because i have been dealing with my older sister for years now, and as she is getting older, it's getting a little worse, but it's good to learn on what to do and also what no to do. I will remember to bring her chocolates !! Keep it up Warrior

Oh my God that scenery!! 😍😍😍 This was so informative. My friends and family are still learning about bipolar so these videos are fantastic!! The couple that I correspond closest with are when I'm isolating myself, I want people to understand I don't dislike them, sometimes I just need a day to calm down and relax. A difficult thing for me too however is say I tell people i want a mental health day, but then I feel so alone and reach out to my friends, and in the end go out with them but when I get home get frustrated that I didn't have "me time " Does anyone else feel that way??

As you & I share the same BP type 1 - I have said this to you before: you are so "on-point". It's as if I could conjure up exactly the right feeling to say to my loved ones...you say it here. And so well. In fact, I'm sharing this video with my friends and family! I really think they will enjoy and benefit from it. Thank you for your dedication.

The reminder of the pain and struggles that bipolar brings. He can't always express it. Thank you so much for being out there.

Thank you have been watching but also learned alot just by watching what my fiance goes through.Positive support is key and also patience at times!

Thank you, you are so brave. I wish I would as strong as you and pass this light to others too. Also thanks for everyone who are still here, aside us. I know it is hard, very hard sometimes. Thanks for keep trying and don’t give up together no matter how hard it is. Thank you!

Get educated for sure is the most important tip & listening with no judgment. I have a friend who has bipolar and she's such a sweetheart. I'm trying my best to help her through it and these videos are really helping. Thank you!

Thank you so much for this video! I can see now all the things I have done wrong for my friend but now I can be a better friend. And as a type 1 diabetic, I know what it's like when people think you are just your disease and that's so not true! Big hugs for you!

Thank you Rob. These all are important.

I have bipolar and this site was referred to me, I appreciate it. It feels like everyone has left my life, i get sad so thanks for cheering me up!

Definitely have to say this channel is by far the best iv come across....being bipolar is so incredibly hard...as you get older and realise this is how its going to be .....wow what a hard thing to swallw.... Your vids are so good keep them coming and thank you :) for newzealand

Thank you so much you help more than you know dude! My spouse is bipolar and your videos help me understand bipolar disorder and how it affects the one going through it

Thank you for this. I cried at #4 - finally some one puts it into words :)

I am so grateful for your channel. Your content always explains a lot about what I'm going through...

Yes, I do thank you for having the courage to share 👍

I love your vids, it truly helps me in my day to day with a bipolar daughter... I truly loved her and would want to educate myself so I will have a better understanding on how and what not to things, God Bless you!

Amazing advice, thank you for taking the time

thank you for these! I desperately want to help and understand my significant other when he is struggling with mental health.

The call to educate and showing love in spite of the difficulties ❤

i just subscribed i just found out my significant other has bipolar disorder which explains a lot of the difficulties of our communication and your videos are really helping me approach her in a better way!

The listening. It's amazing how much better you feel when someone just listens.Feels good knowing someone actually cares enough just to listen. Those moments I don't want advice or it to be fixed. I just need to get it out before I can see the other side of things.

Hey thanks for sharing your thoughts and experiences. I have someone close to me that has been diagnosed with Bipolar affective disorder...she's like all of you, very specific and beautiful people, behind the illness. I appreciate your advice and support.

Thank you for another tremendously helpful video. The most enlightening one for me was when I don't receive an answer to my calls. It is these times that I get really worried that something is really wrong. Knowing now that my family member may just NEED some space and time alone to heal means I will be less anxious in future.I am learning soo much from your chanel and feel more positive about giving the right care and support . God bless.take care 😊

you are awesome. i have a friend suffering from bipolar disorder and depression. she is having a hard time and sometimes, i dont know if im doing anything right to help her. your video helped me a lot in order to understand and know how to accompany her better through this journey. God bless you!

Get educated, because if you don't understand the condition, then others can easily make things. Worst

Very many thanks Robert, for your wise words. It`s helping me to understand my daughter a lot more. I have watched many of your videos, and I think each one of them is a treasure. How nice of you to think of us, the family, so we can understand our beloved, and not to give up on them. Thank you so much. Take care.

Well said, and beautiful scenery!

That u said you loved and needed us because sometimes we as family feel so far away and dont know how to help..thank you for clearing that up and helping me understand that as much as I get pushed away ..I am still reaching you

Number 6 is one of my favourit tips, that I have told my friends and family alot. Just listen and be there is so important & a few have a hard time with it, because they really want to help even though they cant.. I really love this video ❤👏👏

Love your videos ! They are really helpful and for the first time in my life I don’t feel alone with my bipolar disorder it’s good to see someone like you helping not only people suffering from bipolar disorder but also people around them and how to handle it. Thanks for making my days better and life a bit easier

I have created a few videos of how I live as a person because of you. I really wish my wife/partner wanted to be a better supporter. You save my life daily