Birthing a 10lb baby, raising three boys & life as empty nesters with my parents

Birthing a 10lb baby, raising three boys & life as empty nesters with my parents | Ep. 46

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This week Matt's parents joined the podcast again to share more stories about Matt's childhood, the experience of giving birth to Matt's older brother Caleb & how they're adjusting to their new life as empty nesters.
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Chapters:
00:00 - Episode 46
02:16 - Getting in a fight before our wedding
06:16 - How our marriage thrives as empty nesters
10:19 - Confronting my parents about cleaning
15:07 - My parents listen to every episode
19:46 - Why my parents waited to get married
23:20 - My dad never wanted to have kids
27:58 - Why I quit engineering to be a stay-at-home mom
30:34 - Questioning my parents as an 8-year-old
44:36 - Why my mom doesn't cry
48:57 - Giving birth to an over 10lb baby
52:31 - My birth experience in 1996
55:53 - My mom publicly roasts me
01:05:20 - Getting a vasectomy
01:09:27 - Why being a grandparent is the best
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@Sarah-um6tt 6 ай бұрын

Matt's parents could be on the podcast once a month and I wouldn't get tired of them.

@user-bl9bh6xq4q 6 ай бұрын

me too

@sloppyslurp35 6 ай бұрын

Me three!! Such a lovely couple x

@CourtneyZoeysMommy 6 ай бұрын

Yess I agree a thousand percent

@OctoberGirl16 5 ай бұрын

They should have their own podcast. They are so funny and interesting.

@behaooy66 Ай бұрын

Same

@courtneyweekes1650 6 ай бұрын

Matt's mom is so humble, I hope she knows how awesome she is and that her accomplishments are amazing! The civil engineering degree and saying others are prettier than her, she is just so kind and that is rare!

@sarahmarie5660 6 ай бұрын

Matt’s dad is so like Matt 😂😂😂😂

@alexdoharty8432 6 ай бұрын

You can say it's the other way around...😂

@tabathabrown6508 6 ай бұрын

They ARE your number 1 supports. It's really sweet to see. I can imagine Abby's parents are equally as supportive. Huge blessing

@bethanytwiddy4862 6 ай бұрын

Love that she discussed women who have successful careers choosing to stay home with their kids if that’s what they want to do and are able to do❤️ It seems like “giving up” your career to stay at home is mostly seen as a negative thing in society but she was so well spoken

@user-we8kg7ib6i 6 ай бұрын

Coming from a divorced family, it's crazy the effects divorced parents have on the children's ability to create friendships and relationships with people outside the family and also within the family. It's a blessing to see this unified family and how it has influenced the future generation

@ksc743 3 ай бұрын

My parents are still together and have a fantastic marriage. What hit home to me is that Matt's mom taught their eldest child Caleb, to be kind to his younger brothers and that, plus good parenting, trickled down to all the boys so that for the most part, they get along well. My parents didn't do that and as a result the 3 of us never even see each other, never mind talk to one another and we live within 20 mins of one another. My mother's way of coping with being a parent was to send us to 3 separate boarding schools so that she could prioritise my father so I guess it's not that surprising we're not close. In our case it's how NOT to parent 3 kids.

@ashleyspianoprogress1341 6 ай бұрын

If Matt's parents wrote a parenting book, I'd buy it so fast

@kristinaarp9144 6 ай бұрын

Same!

@emmaLouise.. 6 ай бұрын

Absolutely!!!!!!! ❤❤

@HomewithLibra 5 ай бұрын

Yes agreed! And I would by it for our sister in law as well 🩷

@liahhope2959 6 ай бұрын

Matt show’s love by physical touch in the EXACT way his dad is you can see the mannerisms in the video it’s very sweet how healthy both their relationships are 🙌🏼

@madisonsena5522 6 ай бұрын

Abby looks sooo tiny on the couch next to Matt😂❤️

@brandonjohnson7559 6 ай бұрын

Lmao underrated comment, I was dying when I read this, she looks like a baby 😂

@kymoo4949 6 ай бұрын

Everyone else's feet are on the floor and Abby's feet are just dangling away. 😅

@mheuphoria 6 ай бұрын

Haha so cute!!

@hummingbirdenthusiast1481 6 ай бұрын

Her tiny feet at the end of the couch 😂

@bkessinger94 6 ай бұрын

100%

@SolsticeBeautyByJessica 6 ай бұрын

I loooove Matt’s parents!!!!!

@Sarah-sr8zw 6 ай бұрын

I really respect matt’s dad for not taking the higher pay job so that he could prioritize his family

@truthtalker4038 6 ай бұрын

Your parents are literally my favorite guests above all others!

@Sansa1999 6 ай бұрын

I love the fact that matts parents address each other as "Mom" and "Dad" ❤❤

@cassidybrewer 6 ай бұрын

My grandma and grandpa did that and I remember thinking it was weird as a kid, but find it very endearing as an adult ❤

@bkessinger94 6 ай бұрын

Thats how my husband and I do too

@aliciaharris18 6 ай бұрын

My parents do this 😊

@amandaprice87 6 ай бұрын

Mine do too lol

@opulentmissopal1123 6 ай бұрын

I do that with my husband but he doesn't quite. He says your mom. Close enough I guess lol.

@briamateo 6 ай бұрын

Matt’s mom is a badass. Engineer is my dream job. You can tell Matt looks up to his mom for her career, as I do with my mom! I want my kids to feel this way about me too.

@truthtalker4038 6 ай бұрын

At the end, when Matt said well you are amazing parents, I don't know why, but I suddenly teared up! They really are amazing parents, and It's so beautiful!

@trishasullivan9513 5 ай бұрын

Matt’s dad is now literally my favorite human being

@carmen-kdippenaar3820 6 ай бұрын

“We’re gonna be good to each other in this house” .. I just love that ❤ I can see the goodness and kindness throughout your family and it is just so endearing! The love is just so incredibly tangible.

@Smiley-yk7vw 6 ай бұрын

BRING ON ABBY’S PARENTS PLEASEEEEE🙏🏾

@kymoo4949 6 ай бұрын

I could listen to this all day. Every time your dad cried I started crying.

@kategrossi8717 6 ай бұрын

As a 29 year old woman... I can relate to Matts dad.. I live in NW Pennsylvania and I get so much joy from watching the deer in my back yard and I love all the seasons and the winter time especially. I wont ever leave PA.

@Mmmm-wr2kf 6 ай бұрын

When they talked about going around the table to point out good things about others is so great and it shows in Matt because in every episode, he does a good job at complimenting others without making it awkward and he’s good at lifting others up! A lot of people struggle with that.

@lashawn1709 6 ай бұрын

Matt is a direct copy of his father LITERALLY😄

@amandaprice87 6 ай бұрын

Matt- your going to have these videos when your parents are gone that your gonna look back on and love that you did this and have this to have forever Abby- I know your parents don’t like to have a camera in their face or don’t maybe want to be on the podcast as much but maybe you can record one of these episodes but don’t upload it to the internet. It would be only be for your own personal archives so that you can look back and have the same when your parents are gone.😁 I hope you all have a very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Years!

@AS-go5cx 6 ай бұрын

i love matt’s parents!! they’re such fun people!

@ChloeDezz 6 ай бұрын

I really enjoyed this episode. Matt’s parents seem like really intelligent and humble people, such a solid family all around🥰

@Natalia_72 5 ай бұрын

This episode just showed me so evidently why Matt is the way he is 😂😂😂

@1961beams 5 күн бұрын

They are just the sweetest parents ever! It’s so obvious where Matt gets his sweet loving personality…..which makes him a great husband and Father. Thank you guys for raising such a standup loving guy. You guys get an A+!

@saraedwards3066 6 ай бұрын

This is so valuable ❤ I love hearing from parents with grown children. So much wisdom

@skillabration-school 6 ай бұрын

I love episodes with your parents and grandparents! It’s great to hear from different generations and see the bond you all have. Merry Christmas!

@kristenbradley7040 6 ай бұрын

Your parents are so supportive of you, Matt! Love that they came on the podcast again. 💗 The parenting tips are phenomenal.

@amberj3941 6 ай бұрын

I freaking love Matt’s parents literally my favorite guests!

@Zacsmom 6 ай бұрын

My Dad has been gone for Almost 9 years and my Momma for almost 5 years. Their 54tj anniversary was this past October, I miss them so much and most marriages don’t last that long anymore. Theirs wasn’t easy but it takes work and a lot of give and take. I wish you and Abby all the best in a long and loving marriage. My take is holding on to your values when your partner is going thru it, and they doing the same for you. Basically when life gets in the way of love you have to give more in order to hold onto what you value (your partner) it’s never 50/50, but it is so rewarding. I wish I could have the same but well life happens and you make the best of it. 😊❤

@genesisgutierrez1 6 ай бұрын

I love your parents, they’re so wise ❤

@kathleengates 6 ай бұрын

I love love love when you have your family on the podcast!! Parents, grandparents, siblings…they are all fantastic!!! You can see why you two are so grounded, lovely humans 💕

@alyssarosalez2 6 ай бұрын

I always love when Matt’s parents on podcast! Such lovingly sweet people. ❤

@mirandadiazlegge 6 ай бұрын

I absolutely love your parents! So wise and logical and you can tell your parents really care about each other and you! Such a blessing!

@holdingontohope23 6 ай бұрын

love Matt’s parents!! They’re hilarious! Merry Christmas 🎄

@lifeviz28568 6 ай бұрын

I'd absolutely be down to listen to Matt's parents having their own podcast. I don’t mind listening to them all day long!! You guys have passed the best parenting and relationship advice that I can implement for my future partner and children down the road!! Merry Christmas and Happy New Year y'all!! ❤

@ginervs 6 ай бұрын

These two are the best, love hearing Matt’s parents speak!

@clairesnelson9961 6 ай бұрын

Matt's parents are the best!!! I absolutely loved this episode! As a mom of 3 ( a 5 yr old and twin 2 1/2 yr olds) ive been in the thick of it for a while now. I loved hearing thier perspective of family first and staying positive through all things. I truly admire them, please let them know how much they have motivated, inspired and moved me ❤ Hope you all have a wonderful Holiday season!

@SageRosemary 6 ай бұрын

I really enjoyed this episode. They all have such wonderful relationships with each other. Lighthearted and joyful!

@ChampTheDood 6 ай бұрын

Matt’s parents are so humble ❤️ so sweet to watch.

@alexis_253 6 ай бұрын

Really enjoying this! Your parents are awesome Matt 😊

@sarahfindlay6860 6 ай бұрын

I absolutely LOVE you both and this podcast ❤️. Since my mum passed away I have struggled extremely badly 😢 and you both have really been helping me get through my day a little. I am suffering from extreme depression, ptsd and severe social anxiety due to losing my mum 😭 and i can't go out and be around people because the anxiety is that bad it makes me pass out which is really difficult to deal with and you have both been helping me in a small way but to me it's an ABSOLUTE MASSIVE WAY SO THANK YOU BOTH FOR YOUR HELP ❤ Xxxx

@LilyBlossom50 6 ай бұрын

I love this podcast! I listen to it when I’m cooking dinner and I start laughing or crying. ❤

@nwanyibuifeobiako162 6 ай бұрын

I love this episode! Your parents are awesome and so enjoyable to watch! Tuning in from Abuja, Nigeria🇳🇬🙌🏾

@SarahJeanDeger13 6 ай бұрын

My favorite guests that you guys have on your podcast! Matt's parents are such wonderful people. I could listen to you guys talk all day!💜

@unapologeticallyromel7096 6 ай бұрын

Love the show and I love seeing the interviews with the parents it gives us a inner view of your family.

@MyrandaSevier-gc5fy 5 ай бұрын

Matt’s parents seem so sweet! I love when you have them on! You guys are very blessed!

@alljenniferis6394 6 ай бұрын

Matt’s parents are awesome. They always give great advice. 😊

@bella1708 6 ай бұрын

Abby-not a doctor here but I do have a thyroid condition & your headaches that seem to go away with pregnancy follows how sometimes thyroid conditions can go into a hibernation mode sort of. Some women with thyroid issues experience severe headaches/migraines, and then also perhaps dry skin, GI issues, etc. you might consider asking for a “full thyroid panel” from your doctor (t3, t4, TSH, and the antibodies also). Just some thoughts, and like I said, I’m not a doctor, just recently was diagnosed and that diagnosis has helped me incredibly. Wishing you health and wellness in the new year!

@user-fj2un8ct3n 6 ай бұрын

Matt and Abby are my favorite! Their podcast is one of my favorite ways to wind down and something I look forward to every week! Love you Matt and Abby and John and Teresa!

@BrockyPranks 6 ай бұрын

I have always watched your KZfaq shorts videos, this was my first time watching the podcast.. it’s amazing. I haven’t been this drawn in to a podcast for years! Keep up the great work! Amazing camera and microphone set up!! 🫶

@WhichGospelSavesU 6 ай бұрын

My absolute favorite guests!! You should definitely have them on more often!!

@aprilgembeltran6399 6 ай бұрын

this is always my favorite whenever you are with your parents!! i just love their dynamics and seeing your dynamics with them it just makes me feel good about family and life and dream about being parents!! ❤❤ sending love from spain!!

@tundeunger8900 6 ай бұрын

I NEED them to be on the podcast regulary!!!! Love love love them!!!

@elainehardy3502 6 ай бұрын

Matt , you have had great role models with your parents. It shows in you with how great you're doing as a dad.

@Vegas052209 6 ай бұрын

Matts parents seem so genuine and kind. What great people. ❤

@melissamoskau5667 6 ай бұрын

Absolutely love when family is on the podcast! Love you, Abby and Matt!

@amanda.c.ice. 6 ай бұрын

One of my fav episodes yet!!! Matt’s parents are the best! As a fellow Missourian and mom of two boys who are 19 months apart I totally related to this episode! They give me hope that it’s gets easier when kids get older (my boys are 1.5 & 3 yrs old now). Thanks so much for having them on the podcast again!

@bella3265 6 ай бұрын

Your parents are the sweetest! I love the episodes with them. Please a episode with Matt’s little brother. Also, Abby’s brother.

@sararichardson279 6 ай бұрын

Definitely fan favorites! Love your mom and dad! So down to earth, realistic, and just seem like great people!!

@cassidybrewer 6 ай бұрын

It’s so sweet that you guys both come from families that stayed together and maintain closeness with their adult children. My parents are divorced and so am I, and I don’t talk to my bio mom. I have no siblings. As a result, I have always envied families like yours ❤❤

@jamiehubbard2825 6 ай бұрын

Loved it. I always enjoy seeing you guys with your parents. Thanks to them for giving birth to and raising such amazing children. I enjoy when you all play games too. Thank you also for all the laughs and smiles that you bring my way, sometimes they are so needed. I'm sending love and hugs to you all. Keep taking care of each other. 🤗 🤟🎄☃❄🌟I hope you all have a very Merry Christmas and a Wonderful New Year!

@raynaroy157 6 ай бұрын

You’re so sweet!!! I just thought you deserved a merry Christmas too!!

@jamiehubbard2825 6 ай бұрын

Thank You! Merry Christmas to you too.@@raynaroy157

@tairiortiz 6 ай бұрын

I love Matt’s parents !!! They are so cute ! Matt looks so much like his dad . ❤

@beily1 6 ай бұрын

Matt's parents need there own podcasts! They are so supportive and sweet ❤

@Sarah-sr8zw 6 ай бұрын

matt’s parents are the sweetest wow i love them🥹

@amberceballos6708 6 ай бұрын

That “peace out dude” was the best one yet! Love y’all and y’all’s wonderful parents:)

@tazzie_m 6 ай бұрын

I have recently started watching your channel, I love it! Love your style and how at ease everyone is. You guys are GOLD!

@DanaQuinn88 6 ай бұрын

I love your pods with your family on! You both scored in the parents' department 🎉

@staysafewithyami3449 6 ай бұрын

Matt and Abby, you’re going to be so extremely grateful to have this podcast to watch over and over again one day (far in the future) ❤ I can’t imagine having such a beautiful conversation to revisit of me and my beautiful mom who is in heaven ❤

@johannaac5097 6 ай бұрын

You have such wonderful parents! I enjoy listening to them and you guys talking about life.

@laurenskee2665 6 ай бұрын

His parents are such a breathe of fresh air.

@Dollyuno 6 ай бұрын

Matt how blessed you are to have such awesome parents!

@katrinapecht4914 6 ай бұрын

What sweet and down-to-earth parents.☺️ Loved this episode!🥰

@heathermartin8918 6 ай бұрын

Absolutely one of the BEST episodes you guys have done!!! Love your parents ❤ and obviously love you & Abby but there's just something so geniune watching you interact with your parents!!! Beautiful!!

@sarahmarie5660 6 ай бұрын

I love seeing your parents on podcast keep having them ❤❤❤

@jessicaosborn5449 3 ай бұрын

Thank you for having Matt's parents on. As a mom of 4, I find them very inspiring and although I relate more to "no emotions mom," I appreciate hearing about how you both embrace each of your children and their strengths differently. I have now created a new mom goal to do more of the same.

@karaduke8362 6 ай бұрын

I really have enjoyed this one so much.. my husband and I are quickly approaching this stage of life. Our last two are 17&18 our oldest is 20 and out in her own home.. year 23 coming up for us.. at year 15 we had to start to really focus on us.. its been a real learning curve for me as a mom. Really enjoyed this episode!

@kenadeet383 6 ай бұрын

I love your parents!! I could watch them all the time !

@Clairewitmore 6 ай бұрын

You guys are hilarious. Matt’s dad “yeah you were getting on the school bus still nursing” IM DEADDD. ❤😂

@LisaBlevins00 6 ай бұрын

Abby is ABSOLUTELY glowing . Skin and hair look incredible Abby . Love Love Matt’s parents , hope you have them on regularly ❤

@user-ij1ts9fe2o 6 ай бұрын

Very nice interview. Your parents are wonderful people. Matt, you look like your mom.

@user-zi3lh8wv2i 5 ай бұрын

It's refreshing to see a couple committed for life.

@rachh4682 6 ай бұрын

Your parents definitely need a podcast!! I would totally watch/listen!! Haha love them!!

@hannahwinchell6106 6 ай бұрын

Omg I loooove Matt’s parents!!!! can they be guests on the podcast each month ?!? ❤️

@jademartina 6 ай бұрын

This is so refreshing to listen to honestly

@margaritehausser1178 6 ай бұрын

I love Matt's parents, they are the best. You guys are so lucky.

@katelynnk2795 6 ай бұрын

Your parents are the best ❤ I love how real and honest you all can be I hope to create this environment for my son

@Stampertribefamof5 6 ай бұрын

Matt's parents are amazing. I really enjoyed this episode. My husband and I are in the thick of things with our children. We have a 14yo, 10yo and 6yo. Such great advice. ❤

@Sopherl146 5 ай бұрын

Matt's parents are so wonderful human beings and amazing parents. I love the 4 seasons also very much.

@alexisblake1889 6 ай бұрын

Your parents are awesome Matt!! You're so blessed!

@MissGettysburg 6 ай бұрын

I love your podcast. It is so great and I love how you guys keep it real❤ It’s so hard to find that these days. Also I love Matt’s parents and I always enjoy seeing them in the videos.

@amberj3941 6 ай бұрын

Listening to Matt’s parents talk about their favorite memories of their kids, made me teary eyed. As a mom that was so sweet. I also wiped my tears with the hand I cut jalapeños with cuz I forgot lmao so if someone needed a laugh 😂