Breaking my own styling rules 😱

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Күн бұрын

→ my earrings are the Machete perfect hoops: bit.ly/43OrMEm
→ and Jennybird Tome Cuff: go.shopmy.us/p-1661408
→ my lipstick is Merit Aperitif: shop-links.co/ckaPmOitvGt
VIDEOS MENTIONED
→ HOW TO FIND YOUR PERSONAL STYLE (3-STEP METHOD) - • HOW TO FIND YOUR PERSO...
→ HOW I REFRESH MY STYLE WITHOUT SPENDING A LOT OF MONEY - • HOW I REFRESH MY STYLE...
reference info
I'm 5'9" and my pre-pregnancy size was Small on top, Medium on bottom, roughly US size 6-8. Right now I'm a size L/XL or US 10-12 depending on the cut of the garment.
outfit 1
→ OZMA of California Billie Dress in Manzanita: bit.ly/3OUZQKs I'm wearing size L (use code HLP15 for 15% off your first order at OZMA, even works on sale items!)
→ black arizona birkinstocks: rstyle.me/+yAJQwx5mCbUaNDq_rR...
→ altica mona lisa bag, size big: rstyle.me/+bQm00BfirSrJSEYXNo...
outfit 2
→ the crinkly peach dress is the Frame Cinched Crinkle Midi dress, which is actually from this season: rstyle.me/+2tVg4xcN2PXXACDcuU... I found it at a thrift shop (size XL) and I think mine must have been from a sample sale because it has a flaw in the underbust seams. But it looks like it's still out there in some stores.
→ these black & copper shoes are actually tango shoes by the Italian brand Madame Pivot madamepivot.shop/en/ but I don't think they carry this style anymore
outfit 3
→ embrace soft rib nursing tank in camel, size M: rstyle.me/+UPO7LFKadO1psqaHft... (it runs large)
→ unikspace jonathan trousers in white linen - unikspace.com.au/products/jon... (I have size 3 & I hemmed them)
→ mohinders slides - mohinders.com/products/womens...
outfit 4
→ ozma reva tank in cocoa - bit.ly/3XIGBGx I'm in a size L, it runs a bit big (use code HLP15 for 15% off your first order at OZMA, even works on sale items!)
→ black crane balloon pants (from a past season like 10 years ago)
→ altica mona lisa bag, size big - rstyle.me/+bQm00BfirSrJSEYXNo...
→ mohinders slides - mohinders.com/products/womens...
outfit 5
→ embrace black rib tank dress - rstyle.me/+r9CJK9P2ZvO5Hj0dAr...
→ united nude eamz pumps (looks like they aren't in stock right now, but I think they bring them back season after season)
→ mandrn wedge wallet - rstyle.me/+SbnAfVOUS68Kw0QeoF...
outfit 6
→ OZMA half moon dress in manzanita - bit.ly/3qWsC3j I'm wearing size L (use code HLP15 for 15% off your first order at OZMA, even works on sale items!)
→ united nude loop sandals (similar) - rstyle.me/+FGU5YAmIxO9pIX7Nvr...
outfit 7
→ linenfox Rue dress in milky white (I'm in size XXL) - rstyle.me/+Q7chqkOHSNvW87-E2A...
outfit 8
→ jenni kayne relaxed oversized shirt in ivory - rstyle.me/+M4F-7OiZn1B_iVl4v6... (mine is size M. It's enormously oversized)
→ my white slip skirt is thrifted/vintage
→ machete ruby sunglasses in light tortoise stripe - bit.ly/43OrMEm
→ mansur gavriel white mini bucket bag (similar) - shop-links.co/cj8I8aeW4hC
outfit 9
→ white muscle tank (similar) - rstyle.me/+D72w2o4ASps7hvn4Xm...
→ unikspace jonathan trousers in white linen - unikspace.com.au/products/jon... (I have size 3 & I hemmed them)
→ m gemi lizza nuova platform sandals - rstyle.me/+I3fsQoEN5m1hW-kmYh...
→ see by chloe hana bag: rstyle.me/+PU32U0WSkRHfhwu5l6...
outfit 10
→ eileen fisher white linen shirt: rstyle.me/+x_TKZQNeOxRC3STy24... (thrifted, size XL)
→ unikspace jonathan trousers in white linen - unikspace.com.au/products/jon... (I have size 3 & I hemmed them)
→ mohinders slides - mohinders.com/products/womens...
→ mandrn wedge wallet - rstyle.me/+SbnAfVOUS68Kw0QeoF...
CHAPTERS
00:00 → Intro
01:22 → broken rule #1
06:42 → broken rule #2
12:00 → broken rule #3
14:47 → Outro
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@porcupine_cake Жыл бұрын

I have "violin hips" but never noticed until a guy I once dated commented that it was so sexy for a woman to have "the thing with the hips." Way later, I learned that fashion considers violin hips a "deformity." Just goes to show that bodies are not fashion, and different people find all different things attractive ❤

@xariexis Жыл бұрын

The fashion/beauty industry calls everything a deformity or defect that it can use to sell us things we don't need. We should never buy into these myths, like: cellulite is a "condition" that requires "treatment," or hip dips are something we need to do grueling workouts to correct. We are beautiful and perfect just the way nature made us. All of these "defects" were invented to part us from our power and our money.

@elsacouto209 Жыл бұрын

I have it, too. It's really common. And it's not about fat as many people portrait. There are very skinny women that still have it. Like the very beautiful actress Kaya Scodelario.

@porcupine_cake Жыл бұрын

@elsacouto209 exactly! I think the difference is because some people have longer thigh bones and/or higher hip bones, so the muscle sits across the bones differently. Exercise isn't going to change your bones!! Lol

@somacarr7528 Жыл бұрын

I have them too. I have not liked the bulge at the top of my thighs that sticks out. I am learning to accept it!

@dragamboazulinqiacupuntura122 Жыл бұрын

I've always wanted big hips and a big booty but I have been working on loving my body with it's very tiny tush lol

@fave525 Жыл бұрын

the thing about hip dips is that it's another artificial beauty standard that forces women into being ashamed of their bodies. i HATE this. people have had hip dips since the dawn of time because that's how bodies are and nobody has ever said anything until recently. your body is beautiful, hell, you're creating life as we speak. the power the female body holds is unmatched and people who shame women for simply having a body know this. also, you look stunning in that black dress!

@NewRiverSelkie Жыл бұрын

So true!!

@ashlovesblush13 Жыл бұрын

I honestly love my hip dips!

@vladavslife Жыл бұрын

I admire how thoughtful and caring you are of your audience. It feels very genuine too. Thank you!

@rendleshetheywilliamskat-r9068 Жыл бұрын

Modeling your own fashion journey publicly is even more helpful for me than your advice :) It's about the emotions, awareness, and thought process.

@JennSarracenia Жыл бұрын

I’ve been doing a ton of work around loving my body for a while. The other day, my friends said “that girl has realistic body goals” and my brain immediately said “my body is my body goals!” automatically and with excitement! I didn’t even bother looking at the girl they were referencing. That was a whole new level of self love 🥰

@annahubbard7495 Жыл бұрын

This feels like such a “you have to know the rules to break the rules” kind of moment, and I love it! I love a confident rule breaker! 😆

@paulachristie7807 Жыл бұрын

The trainer I work out with called them hip dimples. She thinks they are a sign of good muscle tone. So show your hip dimples, shows you have good muscle tone.

@eddyaaaaaaa Жыл бұрын

Such a wonderful reminder that a genuine comment/compliment (re: the violin hips) can open doors and be just what someone needed to hear! 🥰

@peytonb1443 Жыл бұрын

Fashion hasn't existed in my life for the last year or so (bc of my drooly child). So the main fashion rule I've been breaking is that I no longer care if the formality of my dress and makeup matches. I still do my version of full glam make-up while wearing a spit up covered grubby tee and leggings. This used to make me feel self-conscious. I want to be able to express my love of beauty somehow, and I dont care if other people think I look silly.

@montananerd8244 Жыл бұрын

I've noticed since COVID ( & the "high glam eye" paired with a bare face & mask), that this is pretty normal now! I've been doing it too, and I started realizing that lots of women do a full face or color/shine/glam and wear simple athleisure or straight-up grubbies! I agree it's a fun way to add some beauty and creativity, esp when trying to be "fashion" just isn't working... Full time child care and elder care (my situation til recently) does not mix well with fancy clothes or just anything without pockets lol!

@AthalieM Жыл бұрын

fwiw, I love that sort of look so much more than a beat face + a full fit situation.

@dagnolia6004 Жыл бұрын

as someone who rarely wears any makeup (sunscreen tho) i ADORE the look a glam face and casual clothes. very chic!!!!

@s.a.4358 Жыл бұрын

The pairing of glam with casual is really beautiful, in my opinion. It’s a way to elevate the look without it being too much for everyday.

@elizabethschrimpf3117 Жыл бұрын

I have a 6mo old whose little forehead often has lip marks because I will NOT stop wearing red lipstick and I will NOT stop kissing her!!! 😂😂😂

@loissage3630 Жыл бұрын

Not only have I discovered today that I have violin hips, but I am declaring them Stradivarius; out and ready to play. ❤

@Gorditavont33se Жыл бұрын

I have always been self conscious of my own violin hips, too. But ever since having my baby last year, I’ve gotten comfortable with showing them off because they’re just sooo feminine. I never thought I’d say this but I love them now.

@samiansley5740 Жыл бұрын

The kindness you’re showing to yourself in these choices are key to getting through a lot of parenting moments. There will be spills and messes and chaos and they’ll all be okay. I love the Brandi Carlisle song where she says her daughter “broke a thousand heirlooms I was never meant to keep” bc it’s all true and good. Sending you well wishes!

@backyardbiologists7492 Жыл бұрын

Somehow I've been sheltered from the 'hip dip' thing, and this video was my first time hearing about them. I agree that they are beautiful and so feminine! The little gripes the fashion industry chooses to focus upon are incredibly arbitrary. You are glowing!!

@katibarrett8779 Жыл бұрын

So timely, as usual Hannah! I want to preface the rest of my comment by saying that I am coming with the perspective of a fat woman (and using fat intentionally--it's not a bad word, only descriptive!): One of the things I have admired about your fashion content is what seems to be a concerted effort to be inclusive in the imagery you share, with body types, skin tones, gender presentation etc. Being fat, it always makes me gleeful to see other fat folks being presented as fashionable. One of my personal rules that I am working to break away from, is shying away from a Visible Belly Outline (VBO). I have an apron belly, and it is not what society currently considers attractive, and my own internalized fat phobia has spent years hiding it. The decades of work by the fat liberation and body positivity communities is starting to pay off, and as I see more VBO out in the world, the more comfortable I am in experimenting with it. I hope that your forays into not hiding your violin hips does the same for someone else. Your vulnerability aroud your body is also great to see, as it shows how much fatphobia ad body shaming hurts EVERYONE.

@eileencarroll6418 Жыл бұрын

I agree with you on the inclusivity of Hannah's examples. I am having my own VBO awareness from being overweight plus recovering from hysterectomy swelling. Right now I have to avoid stiff or tight waistbands. I am finding myself evaluating each outfit to minimize volume added by the garments. So I am wearing bike-short style shorts instead of shorts with legs that having loosely and add volume. I am also leaning toward tighter fitting elbow length sleeves to minimize volume. I love elbow and 3/4 length sleeves because they hit lower than my busy line. When I wear a short or cap sleeve, the sleeve hem floats above my busy line making me look heavy and saggy. I have been adding cardigans to help balance my 65-year-old proportions. Conversely, I still enjoy the silhouette of wide leg pants or culottes when paired with trim fitting tops with the longer sleeves for balance. Loose dresses that allow the fabric to move are comfortable for me. Avoiding boxy clothing that adds unnecessary volume helps me feel most comfortable about my curvy swollen belly. One exception is the gorgeous caftan that Hannah showed in her last "shop with me" video. I think the movement of the fabric as it conforms to the body and then floats away communicates the difference between the volume of the body and the volume of the garment in a breezy, flowing gesture. So cool and comfy looking. Beautiful colors. Fabric stretch, fabric body and weight all contribute to my belly comfort and inconspicuousness. I don't know how well these ideas might work for you but they might be worth trying. ❤

@eileencarroll6418 Жыл бұрын

"busy line" was supposed to be "bust line".

@bryonyvaughn2427 Жыл бұрын

1) I appreciate your content note about pregnancy body showing and welcoming folks to pass if that could be troubling to them. Your thoughtfulness and compassion not only makes your world a better place, it models for the rest of us another example of how to show up with consideration for others too. Thank you, Hannah! 2) Also, I'm so glad you're amplifying the "violin hips" phrasing. I have always had "hip dips" but didn't know they were a thing until you mentioned it. (It sent me to the full-length mirror to make sure!) I love the loving language of "violin hips."

@JenniferSmilesNow Жыл бұрын

Being 50 my body is changing and for the first time my body is moving from hourglass to box…. So I’m focusing on remembering that confidence is key and that attitude is the most attractive… so bodycon dresses and outfits with white minimal sneakers and huge attitude have been my thing lately. Also, putting pretty dresses iot Hawaiian shirts under my service dog harness has also helped me with the mental issues that come with needing a service dog and the world being informed that I have a disability.

@kraft3898 Жыл бұрын

My only real fashion rule is that I have no rules. I have been constraining myself on so many level for so many years, feeling insecure, not pretty enough etc stc. Now I am at a point where I need and want to feel the freedom to be me 🥰 And I mean me with everything thats me. Its daunting but I am talking small steps 🤗

@alamedadanceparty 11 ай бұрын

Amazing and inspiring!! 💪💪💪

@gracenurse3365 Жыл бұрын

When I’ve gone through periods where I felt like I had to make everything about my appearance shiny and “perfect,” I haven’t had a very good time. There’s a nagging undercurrent of resentment at the back of my mind, even though I’m the one who’s doing it! Maybe we all need to read ‘The Velveteen Rabbit’ again: by the time you have been truly loved, and when you have lived, that all rubs some of your fresh-out-of-the-box, factory newness away. And that is when you become real.

@petitepatate2222 Жыл бұрын

The rule I've been breaking is that I allow myself to overdress because I only so many occasions to wear my nice clothes but these are the ones that I love the most.

@jengirl2 11 ай бұрын

“When you’re living your life…” and not being static like we all do staring in the mirror. What a concept. Brilliant. Inspiring video. Thank you for sharing.

@morganryan1319 Жыл бұрын

I absolutely love your thoughtfulness and the way you present outfits. Every outfit is like a story--and there is such a poetic approach to how you compose the textures, shapes, and colors. Also: you rock those gorgeous violin hips!

@rondawiebe1505 Жыл бұрын

That white dress is amazing on you! I have hip dips, not pregnant belly ( I look about 10 months lol.), and I'm over 60. I'm so glad youre relaxing a bit about your rules. Curves of all sorts are frowned upon in our society and its a real shame. There are some truly beautiful women out there who are curvy and ashamed of those curves. I hope for the day when women will allow themselves and others to be who they are unashamedly! The greatest gift we can give ourselves and our kids is acceptance as we are, not as we hope to be someday. When we hate something in ourselves our children learn to hate that as well. We create the shame for them. Lesson I've had to learn the hard way. I'm praying for a healthy pregnancy going forward for you and the baby, and a smooth delivery. Be blessed.

@gailjacobson7088 Жыл бұрын

What a wonderful concept for a video! I love your fashion videos. They go hand-in-hand with your philosophy about not overspending. I have found things in my closet that I had completely forgotten about and I’m deLighting in them again.

@HannahLouisePoston Жыл бұрын

awesome!

@senseofwonder4734 Жыл бұрын

Love your content so much! I've been curating my KZfaq subscriptions, which include mostly self-improvement and science, but you have a well-deserved top 5 spot! You create mindful, intelligent content in what we think is the "beauty" community, when really you are providing encouragement to live a wonderful life WITH beautiful things ❤❤❤

@HannahLouisePoston Жыл бұрын

aw, thank you so much!

@sea_g0at Жыл бұрын

i had no idea that the hip dip thing was even a thing until recently which is so interesting to me? i’ve had this thing happen many times with friends where i’ll be like “oh i’m insecure about this thing” and they’re like “not to invalidate you but i have never even stopped to consider that thing” and it’s happened the other way around too! and of course it’s not like oh immediately all my insecurities are gone. but it is interesting. and it does plant a helpful little seed. and it shouldn’t matter what others think but it still does ya know? also violin hips is fabulous i love that term

@yazosoyo 6 күн бұрын

I agree, I don’t think I ever seen hips dips, although I’m sure they exist. It’s like not wanting to repeat an outfit, we have to realize that most people are not paying attention 😊

@jmdagger10 Жыл бұрын

As a mom, I am watching this video with such a mixed response. the first response is - wow- I need to really pay more attention to what clothes make me happy and what makes me feel good. Additionally, how the last few years I have prioritized my children over myself and logistically wore clothing that couldn't be ruined by small hands and messy mouths. I think about how much I used to love wearing white and now there is nothing white in my closet. The transformation of becoming a mom is so complicated across so many spectrums. And clothing and fashion is certain one aspect I think I could spend more time considering as I come out of the young kid fog.

@montananerd8244 Жыл бұрын

There's a lot of fun things you can embrace again, once the kiddos can dress themselves & do a lot of independent things. It's hard for some moms when kids become less dependent, so it can be nice to look forward to white clothes or whatever you love. Life is long, you can't do everything at once, but you certainly have plenty of time for so many phases of your style!

@elerigriffiths183 Жыл бұрын

Breastfeeding has meant a lot of my favourite clothes are languishing. It's gonna be a long while before I can wear body con dresses as they're not practical for whipping a boob out. I just hope I remember to wear them again once I'm out of this baby phase, and hopefully make them work with the grubby hands and messy mouths 😅

@andreabeth Жыл бұрын

When you are in the "kid fog" it is hard to remember that there will be a time when you come out the other side and your body will be yours again. It is a joy to rediscover yourself and your style once kids aren't using you for a kleenex anymore!

@clairekookoo Жыл бұрын

What's wild is I was never ever consious of my violin hips until 2021 tiktok pointed it out. It hasn't held me back in my modeling career, so I think it is all in our heads about it being disatisfying to others haha

@user-hp3ld4nr3l Жыл бұрын

Here for embracing the violin hips- and for the term violin hips. It makes me love this part of my body (which i associate with women in classical paintings and THAT sheer dress from "The Thomas Crown Affair" ) even more. As always thank you for the fun, supportive, body positive and budget conscious content:)

@helindove2237 Жыл бұрын

Hip, hip (pun intended) hooray for actress René Russo in that dress. Your reference to classical paintings made me think of back dimples or dimples of Venus (dimples of Apollo, for men). The name comes from the Roman goddess and the Greco-Roman god of beauty because the dimples were often associated with beauty.

@marilyns6043 Жыл бұрын

Berry stains - hot water. Cold will make it set in. When I preserve jam, I throw my kitchen towels in the boiling canning water after the last batch is done and the jam comes right out.

@montananerd8244 Жыл бұрын

Summer 2000, I was 6-8 months pregnant & very bountifully-bodied (I looked like I was carrying a full size watermelon lol), and I liiiiiiived in cotton and linen maxidresses! My mom recently gave me her very shapeless handpainted linen maxi and I'm shocked that I don't care about having a waist if I can be that comfy & swooshy.

@CRUDE360 Жыл бұрын

Isn't it beautiful how we can always learn and change? ❤

@karinapalazzo7549 Жыл бұрын

First, you are beautiful. Just gorgeous. Second, I just love your fashion content. Its so thoughtful. Meaning your concepts are very easy to apply to real life in my own closet. Thats priceless. You've single-handedly changed my whole fashion outlook. Another great video.

@MaryintheCLE Жыл бұрын

Some rules were made to be broken, even/especially if they’re your own! 😅

@MillieMaa Жыл бұрын

My redhead lodestar! The colors, the fits, the styling, the makeup - elegante!!! Violin hips are indeed beautiful and love that you are not xing out clothes that show them off anymore :)

@oritigra Жыл бұрын

oh Hannah, the violin hips bit made me cry! once again you're showing such kindness to oneself and this very human niceness about things. thank you 💜

@JocieFire 11 ай бұрын

Loved this. Accepting the reality about yourself. You sweat, you eat, you have hips. It's all beautiful.

@gailjacobson7088 Жыл бұрын

Third comment of the day, I’ve had both my hips replaced, and I have diagonal scars across my hips that create a very significant digit on both sides. I’ve been very shy about cleaning fabrics, but after watching this video, I’m feeling a lot more comfortable. Thank you.

@MB-gv3zs 11 ай бұрын

The brown and peach are very lovely colors on you. Glad you are wearing them.

@meghanmagowan2101 Жыл бұрын

I also have the violin hips plus minor spine curvature/scoliosis AND a rectangular, straight shape with no real defined waist. It's definitely something I've struggled with in the past because I do love a sleek look on me due to my stringbean-ness. It really helped to hear you talk about it! Thank youu. Annnnnd... Tide to Go pens in the purse for wearing white or light colours out and about ;)

@kamloopscruiser874 Жыл бұрын

The colours and shapes are LOVELY on you and I’m so glad you’re loosening up your personal rules. I think one of the benefits of aging past the early 20s is the growing realization that other people’s ideas on body shape,size and taste don’t matter. You’re beautiful and human. Humans sweat, aren’t all built the same, might have hip dip and the odd breakout. I think that harsh plastic ideal image - the perfect body that doesn’t sweat, have a skin breakout, or have violin hips is a terrifying thing. When I hit 40 I suddenly realized I didn’t give a rat’s posterior what others thought (I am blessed with a hypercritical judgy family of origin) and what freedom it was. You’re doing that much earlier and it makes the years to come so much more fun. I’m 67 and it just intensifies.

@TheLunarFire Жыл бұрын

I have definitely broken the fashion rule of "dress your age" for things that I enjoy. Harder to do at work, but in my off hours I really enjoy experimenting with different cuts and colors and fun glittery make up or hairstyles that feel a little out of the box for someone in their 30s

@northwoodfalls1403 Жыл бұрын

Your content is so engaging, Hannah, that I end up typing an entire thesis paper as a response because I am just so excited by the ideas you are sharing 😂 Then I realize I can’t possibly hit “post” on something that long. So, know that you, once again, sparked much thought in my brain and I am over here cheering you on and saying, “YES!!!” to all of it. I’m most especially glad you have a new perspective on your violin hips. The entire event that “hip dips” was for however long that clung onto our social media spaces like a nasty barnacle was so aggravating to me. I mean, I cannot adequately communicate to you how much the entire concept of “body trends” riles me up …. Body trends need to be summarily executed, full stop, no clemency granted. To the eternal garbage heap of bad ideas they go! There is nothing so riveting as a woman who is so unselfconscious, so comfortable in her skin that she confidently carries herself in whatever she likes to adorn herself with even if everything about her choices is “wrong” or “unstylish”. I have met women who are bare faced, hair simply existing atop her head as it happens to grow out of her scalp, wearing nothing remarkable whatsoever, but having such a force of personality that I am nearly breathless in their presence. Oh, to be like that. It will forever be my number one “style” goal. Now, I am also always going to want to dress and adorn myself in ways that I feel harmonize with my own bodies particular configuration and my personality…. But I remind myself every day that what matters most is how I FEEL. Oh, I just adore you, Hannah. What a treasure you are ❤

@whitneyscoon6262 Жыл бұрын

As for your third rule, funnily enough I found white tops and dresses to be my favorite postpartum clothes. Spit up and milk/formula doesn’t show up on white! It also made me feel significantly more put together in an era where you don’t quite feel so fabulous 💕

@laura4457 Жыл бұрын

Me too! I also have a pair of off white loose jeans that I really enjoy wearing and getting a bit scuffed...enjoyably wearing what I liked prior to baby makes me feel quite stylish and myself, if that makes sense!

@mrsladybugnz 10 ай бұрын

Your completely right about your hips not being noticeable when you move. I honestly had to really stare and rewind the video to even try and see what you were talking about. You rocked the dresses, beautiful! Keep playing those violins!

@gailguinn95 Жыл бұрын

Mindful dressing is such an interesting topic to me. I find that since I reached my 60"s I am really making an effort to make sure that my exterior (clothing) really matches who I am inside. I am really on a journey to being totally authentic, following my true aesthetic, and not competing with, comparing to, or following any one else's sense of style. I can feel when I am wearing something that does not truely express who I am. I become stiff and uncomfortable. My personal constraint that this video helped me with is identifing my personal costraint of not showing my stomach. I'm not big necessarily, but I do have a tummy. I want to just embrase who I am, and not feel I have to "dress around" showing my abdomen area, but dress as authentically as I can, and accepting that , Yes, I have a stomach, but that just also a real part of who I am. Thanks for your thought provoking post.

@lizg6084 Жыл бұрын

I appreciate your openness about the hip dip issue. Makes me want to examine what sort of constraints I’ve put in place for myself based on features I may not love. Possibly without even realizing it!

@cynthiarome1356 Жыл бұрын

Again, another great video Hannah! Rules! I have rules for myself too! One of them is a rule about wearing my "good" clothes only for "good" occasions. I have very few "good" occasions that come around and so my favourite clothes just sit there, unworn. Now, wearing heels while vacuuming...maybe not for me but who knows, maybe I'll come around to that. But why not get nicely dressed to do my life? Why am I saving these clothes just for other people to see? By not doing it, I'm relegating the life I mostly lead to "not good enough" for my favourite clothes. Just by writing this down for myself to see has shifted my perspective. Heels with my housecoat, here I come. 🤣

@mackennaj Жыл бұрын

That brown dress with one of the oversized Babaà sweaters would be such a dream in the colder months!

@talyabeyers Жыл бұрын

"Violin hips"! I love that! Mine have become more pronounced in recent months and I've been insecure about it, but using this term will certainly help me feel better. I adore romantic names for things that aren't always seen as flattering - I heard a menopausal woman refer to her hot flashes as "tropical moments" and now I'm a little less afraid of ageing.

@voneyeva Жыл бұрын

I tried the deodorant you recommended and I love it. I never thought I'd find an aluminum-free deodorant that I like. Crazy!

@dianabanana7394 Жыл бұрын

I loved this! 💯 It's definitely worth reconsidering how many of our personal fashion rules actually serve us versus how many are us trying to make ourselves smaller trying to fit into society's beauty standards.

@elisebrisson Жыл бұрын

Very cool to watch you grow- I’m trying to do the same. As a plus sized person, who has always been insecure of my body, I’ve tried to branch out and embrace myself lately. One simple thing I did recently was that I wore a dress in a shorter length recently, and I didn’t wear bike shorts underneath. That’s something I’ve done for years because of “chub rub”, and just not feeling cute. It has limited me from all sorts of styles so I’m trying to just try out different things.

@ghouliegarou Жыл бұрын

Body glide or deodorant on the thighs can work wonders!

@lexislome1250 Жыл бұрын

This is a really thoughtful and inspiring video! One thing I want to play with is wearing outfits I love that are, at least on the surface, "not my style." I notice, especially in summer, that sometimes I don't wear outfits that I love the look and feel of...because they fall outside of what I perceive as being my style or as fitting my personality. When it's really hot and humid out, this often involves sheer fabrics, less structured silhouettes, more "revealing" clothing, and similar feminine, potentially sensual, qualities in an outfit that are not in line with my typical personal style for day-to-day (which is pretty sporty & grungy & layered). When you mentioned potentially "shame-based" preference constraints, this is immediately what came to mind - I doubt I'm the only one who has shame/discomfort around expressing sexuality that I typically keep covert. I love when I see people wearing the hell out of clothes like this, but for me personally, I always policed it because I don't see as in line with my quiet, unassuming personality and I worry about people's reactions. But who says outfits always have to match your personality? Or that just because you typically see yourself one way, that's the only way that you get to express yourself? Thanks for the thought-provoking and confidence-boosting content!!

@adventurousmagpie4598 Жыл бұрын

I have been going through something very similar recently! I think of myself as having a fairly tough, tomboy style, but I recently moved to a city with a much hotter climate and I'm surprised to find myself drawn to high femme and overtly sexy styles. I'm actually extremely into it? It is a weird feeling, almost like it's hypocritical or somehow betraying my butch winter aesthetics, but at the same time, what exactly am I ashamed of? Having a flexible gender expression? Maybe its internalized misogyny talking, and I just feel like I should be ashamed of dressing "like a girl". I'm really enjoying exploring this new realm of fashion though!

@franceshanna3724 Жыл бұрын

Owning your violin hips makes it sexy, it's all about confidence. The brown single sleeve body-con dress looks gorgeous on you btw!

@sofie.h Жыл бұрын

‘Violin hips’ is such a dreamy moniker 🥺

@TheYoghurt42 Жыл бұрын

That brown dress which you show first suits your colouring so nicely! It looks really beautiful on you, definitely more striking than black would be.

@oli3.14 3 ай бұрын

I've been traveling Europe and one thing I've noticed is the statues of women generally have violin hips, not to mention they tend to be curvier as well. I loved hearing you talk about allowing yourself some room to grow more comfortable in your own skin - it truly is freeing. Thank you for the time and care you put into the content you create.

@lisacombs4634 Жыл бұрын

I relate to this so much. I feel like all my life I’ve been a magnet for food and wearing my meals on my front. My mother complained about my laundry situation all the time as a kid. I still feel I spill on myself way more than most people. I realized after your reflections that I do indeed think of myself as a hot mess who cannot control the path of my lunch or dinner. And I not only think of myself this way, but speak of myself this way, too. What if I change the narrative and decide I can be more mindful and control this after all? Thank you for sharing your perspectives and giving us fodder to chew on personally!

@kellie_y Жыл бұрын

I too am a sweaty beast but don't sweat at all in my underarms; but my back sure does sweat 😤 Can only do black or white in this hot, humid southern weather without looking as soaked as I am lol TBH I never understood the negativity with "hip dips" because they are so common. Like with cellulite, it's just a feature not a bug.

@silkehuybrechts7832 11 ай бұрын

I absolutely LOVE that you saw a comment calling them 'violin hips', which made you appreciate your own hips more, and then later I saw you calling your hips 'violin hips' on Instagram, which in turn made me appreciate my own hips more. What a beautiful corner of the internet this is. ❤

@Safaura Жыл бұрын

I love that you allow yourself to change your mind. It's so healthy and a great reminder to role model for us all ❤

@BadIzzie Жыл бұрын

I never noticed hip dips until you pointed them out. I have things that I think are irregular and bothersome. Like I think my head looks too small on my body. I guess that goes to show just how critical we are of our bodies. I’m glad you felt free enough to shine in that beautiful dress.

@NewRiverSelkie Жыл бұрын

It takes courage to become a parent. You winnow down insecurities to focus on strength and love. I picked up my then 1st grader pregnant with his little brother wearing a cotton bodice and over skirt from my 18th c. reenactment wardrobe because it was comfortable in the heat and the only thing that fit my huge belly, lol! I got some raised eyebrows and smirks but didn’t care. Truth be told I got sweet smiles too. Congratulations to you and Joe!! Also, I love that clay pot colored Grecian/Fortuny pleats thrift store find on you. I adore a thrift store gem. All the best from a fiddle hips gal from Virginia❤

@littlegeo1 Жыл бұрын

The points made on violin hips were exactly what I needed to hear right now as I'm currently bathing suit shopping for the season and I'm having a tough time reconciling with recent body changes. ❤ Thank you for a fresh perspective.

@sophianachtigall3598 Жыл бұрын

It is great that you haven’t turned your pregnancy into a content. It shows integrity. Keep up the good work.

@d.-beck7205 Жыл бұрын

Hannah, I noticed your hip dips when you wore the black dress in the other video and instantly thought "Wow, she is rocking that look!" I found it awesome. ❤

@calathea81 Жыл бұрын

I’ve noticed you breaking the anti-hip dip rule and I love it! Also, I too wear a lot of white and agree that most stains are just not that big of a deal (even tomato, red wine, oil) if you treat it quickly.

@Deem57 Жыл бұрын

I always enjoy your videos because I appreciate how articulate you are. You also make me think differently about some of my own self-imposed restrictions and ideas. One of my own fashion "rules" that has been limiting is my requirement to cover or camouflage a large, ugly keloid scar on my chest. I hate people looking at it and the occasional blurted question, "What's that?" My stock answer to deflect them is, "Alien abduction." But now I am rethinking, "Why shouldn't I wear what I want and what otherwise suits me?" If a garment has a v-neck and I like it otherwise, why shouldn't I just wear it? If people ask about my scar, I can either deflect or give them a short answer. Who cares anyway?

@naamahnotorious955 Жыл бұрын

If someone asks about the scar, you can always answer that it's your victory on life. I see scars as the roadmaps to the story of ones life!

@karahudon2829 11 ай бұрын

I once saw a T-shirt that said, “Scars are tattoos with better stories.” I decided that was the motto I would adopt for all of my scars. I’m alive because of them.

@annettehinchliffe4198 Жыл бұрын

Love this. Bottom line, be kind to yourself. I'm still working on that at the age of 63. I also tell myself, if not today, when? Telling myself I absolutely don't need to worry about other people's opinions when it comes to how I want to present myself. It's a continuing journey. xo

@maryam.m 11 ай бұрын

Those rose gold/copper-y shoes you wore with the peach color dress were so flattering and pretty 💕

@HHHH-iw5td Жыл бұрын

Oh yes “the needle can move “! is such a lovely understatement of the day…cannot wait to see how much the needle will move once that sweet Bebe enters center stage😂 Life is such a majorly twisted & messy detour…so good!

@estherestelle7920 Жыл бұрын

I love white clothing too, I love a Tide stick, it always works.

@Beading_Kate Жыл бұрын

❤ happy self-freeing journey everyone

@SharrellKline Жыл бұрын

Finding fashion freedom! I'm inspired to explore my own self-imposed limitations via video and movement instead of just standing in front of the mirror. Great topic!

@elizabethschrimpf3117 Жыл бұрын

I learned to love my violin hips ( LOVE that term!) while pregnant when my bump just made me feel less conscious and afraid of body con clothing. Now that my lil Nugget is here, I still love those dresses and skirts and have no plans to go back!!!

@catherinelynnfraser2001 Жыл бұрын

I did want to add that you should wear all the white you can now, because when the baby comes, white is going to be the most frustrating choice 😂

@sophiaazevedo4013 Жыл бұрын

Growing up in California, I used to never wear long sleeve shirts because if I got too hot, I wouldn’t be able to take if off because there wasn’t another layer underneath. That changed when I moved to the colder climate of Oregon. I wear a lot of long sleeves in the winter, obviously, but now I want to add cooler flowy long sleeves to my wardrobe to protect me from the summer sun.

@melaniemcneil407 11 ай бұрын

I actually think you could wear the peach dress for anything from very casual to reasonably dressy -- maybe not a formal wedding, but a somewhat more casual one. It really would show differently depending on what accessories you use with it. Good choice, and esp fun that it was thrifted!

@heidikarpa2278 11 ай бұрын

LOVE LOVE LOVE 🎻violin hips as a descriptive phrase. It’s not on my lexicon. And our violin hips represent our commitment to good health and body health. I agree it’s time to flaunt them. ❤

@useallthemakeups 11 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for talking about hip dips! I have always had them and thought it was a sign that I was overweight. A year and a half ago I started intentionally using weight and I was excited at the prospect of also losing those stupid dips. I was so disappointed as I got closer to my goal weight to see that they were still there. I made a comment on Instagram about it and someone pointed out to me that it was a very common thing, so common that it has a name. At that point I decided to embrace pencil skirts and more fitted clothes. Who cares if they're there! And now that I know they are also called violin hips, I'm even more excited to put on one of those form fitting outfits and rock my violin hips! 💚

@ClaudiaThor Жыл бұрын

I also have „violin hips“ and am still sometimes very self conscious about them. I didn’t even like myself in high waisted pants and a cropped top, because I have broader hips at the top than the beauty standard we see everywhere shows us. A few years back I met a girl while travelling who has a similar figure as i do and she wore longer high waisted skirts and pants. She always seemed so confident that I finally had the courage to wear a skirt i bought years before but wasn‘t brave enough to wear. I‘m still not at confident enough for tight dresses, but maybe someday. So it helps to look for people with your body type as a reminder that if they can wear it, you can too😊

@verushka_ooak Жыл бұрын

I had been avoiding clothes that show sweat for ages, since my teenage years when you’re especially vulnerable and your peers tend to be meaner. Then in my early 20s I discovered botox/dysport injections for hyperhidrosis and never looked back ever since. It was one of the best decisions I made in my life and one that was incredibly liberating and confidence boosting, not to mention I no longer have to deal with the dreadful feeling of damp cold fabric touching my skin (when it’s a social anxiety thing you sweat all year long, not only when it’s hot). Maybe having a Tide pen or a small wine stain remover stick in your purse can help with feeling more relaxed while dining in all white? I love the way you’re embracing your body, this is beautiful and inspiring.

@anastasiamorrison Жыл бұрын

That peach dress is supremely beautiful!

@miyoshin1250 Жыл бұрын

Violin hips look so elegant and gorgeous

@bethvanhorn3200 11 ай бұрын

Wow! Violin hips! I have them! My tailoring teacher said they were very common with cheerleaders and athletic clients. Her recommendations was to tape washcloths in the dips to make a smooth line! Or - wear fit and flare designs.

@jazzjoancater Жыл бұрын

I have that 'violin shape' too and never considered it a problem until social media told me to... learning the word violin hips makes this way better :D thanks

@BuyLessJess Жыл бұрын

When I started going grey, I avoided wearing warm tones and getting over that has been liberating.

@annepapillon Жыл бұрын

Your hips look great!

@JenniferSmilesNow Жыл бұрын

Since you are so informs regarding fabrics and garment care- I’d love to hear how you clean armpit stains. I think vinegar is supposed to work, but I’m still learning.

@raining-tulips Жыл бұрын

Recently went on vacation and brought my white clothes (because that’s what I normally wear). I got purple alcohol stains out of one top, and red-dust stains from hiking the Grand Canyon out. For anyone nervous about white clothes, just know how to use baking soda, vinegar, rubbing alcohol, and lemon juice to your advantage!

@ghouliegarou Жыл бұрын

I love this! The fewer "rules" the better, I say! I recall my first boyfriend being drawn to the hip bulge. At first it made me self-conscious, and then I realized that the exact thing I was insecure about was part of what he liked about me. It made me think about my body differently, for sure!

@NoDecaf7 Жыл бұрын

Violin Hips. I love that.

@CallaLily40 Жыл бұрын

I’m so glad you made this video! We have/had a lot of the same constraints. Your newly found confidence and exploration is exhilarating and encouraging. I think the body con dresses look absolutely amazing on you!

@SuperClare Жыл бұрын

I love violin hips!! Enjoy them now because your body is going to change. As I’ve aged (55 now) - I realized that I’ve always highlighted the parts of my body that I’ve loved at that time in my life. That changes just as the decades have. Focus on what you love about yourself. Someday those hips might be your favorite part!

@eventingbyjulia 11 ай бұрын

The brown color looks just splendid on you!

@1960genius 10 ай бұрын

EVERY SINGLE concern that you mentioned in this video has been mine. Thank you for talking about it. You are so beautiful! Congratulations on the new baby ❤❤

@brokenmolar Жыл бұрын

I made myself a pair of 1940’s inspired shorts last summer after *never* wearing shorts and being worried about my thighs and my knees… it’s just silly. I love wearing them so much and I get compliments on them a lot. I’m a human with a body!! It’s 3000 degrees outside and it’s a fun and comfortable option to have, and still totally in my style (I used a 1940s novelty print circle skirt with a teenaged-size waist for the fabric so it’s vintage but not)

@augustmoonrae5407 Жыл бұрын

I have hyperhidrosis so I have similar rules for clothes in relation to sweating and I have tried multiple treatments to try to get a grip on it - but ultimately the less I decide I care about some sweat showing, ironically, the less I sweat! I think the anxiety about it spins it out of control. The one rule I do stick with though is no silk.

@emilykathryn88 Жыл бұрын

Wear white and carry a Tide pen at all times. Works like magic!

@Oliveaceous Жыл бұрын

In the summer my style leans so much more colorful and boho while in the fall/winter usually all black with only small pops of color. It's nice to not have such strict limits and embrace what makes you feel good in that season. I think it is also so highly dependent on the weather. It's currently a high of 104 here today then in the winter gets down into the 40s. Such a swing in temperatures basically means you have two closets (and two skincare routines! lol) Also, so important to have a reminder to embrace the curves! 🎻❤‍🔥

@playafifi9198 Жыл бұрын

Thank you, Hannah, for this reminder to appreciate our beautiful bodies! I tend to obsess about my not completely flat belly, which is not getting any flatter with age. Like you, I've had the experience of loving clothes that show this part of my body off, and loving them enough that I wear them anyway. You are inspiring me to allow that belly to be what it is, and to let it live its best life!