It's true, my mother was horribly jealous of me when I hit puberty and started getting all kinds of unwanted attention. She accused me of flaunting myself at 12 years old, to make me feel ashamed and hide myself. It scarred me for life. It's so damaging to a young girl's psyche and self-esteem to have a mother who is jealous. It's the most disgusting feeling.

@@Quantum36911 that is so sad. She must have been badly mistreated as a child. Wishing you healing in your heart and soul.

@@noriginal2546 Thank you so much, you are so kind. Yes, her mother was and is a sadistic psychopath, I just did not know this as a kid, and would not have had the ability to process all of her pain as well as mine. When I got older and heard all the stories, met my grandmother, I understood and felt great sadness and compassion for my mom, but the damage was done. I try to find ways of healing and forgiveness, it's just very hard when the abuse is ongoing.

I am so sorry that you had to go through that with your mom. My mom is doing something similar and it really hurts me when she says how I'm going to be a fat and ugly girl when I move out because she can't regulate what I eat once I leave. I understand what you went through

@@sarahtaylor6081 That is horrible and it's a complete lie.. her always trying to control what you eat is a sign of narcissistic personality disorder.. my mom did the same thing. This is an insidious and extremely toxic form of abuse. What she is really doing is trying to make you feel you can;t survive without her, because she is the one who is terrified of losing you. It's a type of brainwashing that they do so that you don't believe in yourself.. if she can make you feel small and worthless, then she can keep you all to herself so that she doesn't feel small and worthless. The result is called learned helplessness.. they control everything you do, don't allow you to have boundaries and make your own decisions, so you don't actually believe you can do anything on your own.. but you know you can.. Once you move out, and you MUST MOVE OUT to save your life, you will learn to regulate your eating and everything else that she has been controlling for your whole life. I would recommend looking up Melanie Tonia Evans, Michele Lee Nieves, Lisa A. Romano, Also Daughters of Narcissist Mothers. These are people who really helped me understand my mother's disorder and how I could finally learn to heal myself from the abuse. It's an ongoing battle, it has taken me a really long time. I wish you all the love and independence you deserve!

EXACTLY!!

Some mothers do tend to be jealous of their daughters. I'm sad that its got to *almost* ruining her daughter in picking out her wedding dress 😔

She’s jealous

Totally agree with you there

Exactly. I wish I had her hips lol

i have to agree, it goes beyond a mom just wanting what she wants, this is a toxic situation, no doubt! This is hurtful and damaging, period and it pisses me off.

​@@dvml45 I also have to agree and have always loved Monty for this. He's always on the bride side. Okay the mom hated mermaid dresses - but I was thinking mom this isn't your dress. She looked amazing in all the dresses!

I hope her toxic mother is banned from the wedding ceremony and the wedding reception. She may make remarks on the bodies of the bridesmaids. I agree Monty is the best.

Right? This Mother is how eating disorders are born.

That's when you skip the big wedding and do something small but meaningful on your own dime.

Maybe you could have a 10 year recommitment ceremony and do it your way?

Oh sweetie I'm so sorry

@@pazza4555 The wedding was only 2 thousand as it was.

@@island.clinician l

Mom thinks her hips are too big. She's just not coming out and saying it. Instead it's all about not "showing" them instead of saying "people are going to agree with me and say you're fat." Which daughter clearly is not, and why Monty is pointing out her figure is actually model-perfect. But mom is old-school 80's mom raised on heroin-chic models and low-fat diets and thinks any bit of hips is "fat".

99% of the time people that bodyshame others have their own insecurities that they’re struggling with and project it onto the people they bodyshame. Its clear that the mother is doing so..

my mom is the same with my hips. my 3 sisters and mom have small hips but bigger busts. I have no boobs and giant hips and my whole life have been told to feel insecure about them. I ain't. 😂 I love my hips and always have 😂 I feel like this bride is the same way. she adores her own hips. it's the mom that is insecure about them. which I never understood.

@@LifeOfLily2018 i have very much a rectangle body build(shoulders, waist, hips are similar measurements). I wish I had larger hips! They're beautiful!!

@@camb1821 my friend just introduced me to corsets. I just had a baby so I haven't started yet but I already bought one. If you want a smaller waist and more hourglass figure you should try it! I got my corset from Mystic City Corsets

I love the fact that her grandma is supportive, and the mother is horrifying 🥴

Period!

@@ginamenday5491 gramma is really shifty too. She is allowed to like whatever dress she is looking at. And "mamaw" is being a jerk

I wish the grandma is great and everything but I wish she would have addressed the mom and told her to shut her mouth!

Something tells me she's paternal grandma!

Honestly, all of those dresses looked fabulous on her. But the 1st and 2nd were amazing!

No pelvis for her, her femur is supposed to be attached to her rib.

@@noomre9105 For real 😂

Hahahah

I'm plagiarising this to use on my mom. But for my butt

Like bro, you should be thankful she HAS hips Me sad with hip dips xDDD

Yup

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This comment made my day

seaoson 47 episode 923 😂

@@nathatleue 😂😂

She is against sexy on a wedding and she is not the only one by far. A wedding doesn't have to be a "showstopper" it can also just be a wedding

you nailed it- instead of celebrating her daughter.

@@ang5798 yes, but it's not her wedding. So her opinion isn't the most relevant one.

I mean I kinda agree with her.I think that on your wedding day you shouldn't go out of you'r comfort zone becuase you could love it at the fitting and horrible at the wedding.So I believe that you should stick to what you like

Just the fact that she's so young and getting married tells me they're probably really traditional and religouse, I come from a similar back ground, and am very happy I didn't have arguments with my mom about the dress I chose- but I think she looked wonderful in both dresses!

Maybe it’s her daughter in law 😂

I’m thinking she is. Dang it.

My grandmas were very vocal and not shy speaking their mind.

Me,too! Go,Bride.

i was expecting her to

Truth. The bride is literally the exact figure that mermaid dresses are built to look drop-dead gorgeous in.

Me too. I don't often gasp at these dresses but her figure is the perfect hourglass, a rare thing. The first dresses showed that. If her mother puts her nonexistent "flaws" down like this in public, what does she do in private?!

Stop perpetuating that this body type is the goal for women. It’s not.

@@kirbyhatesincels917 I'm not gonna take that from someone with incel and r*pist in their username.

@@kirbyhatesincels917 how u gonna speak for what every woman’s body goals are? 😭

her figure is literally amazing. grandma was right, mom was just jealous and projecting.

I wish that the parents were more excepting here

I agree it huged her in all the right places

i hate mermaid dresses but when she came out i said wow, she looked stunning

You’re right but she was rocking every gown, I mean grandma be right flaunt what you got, it’s not super revealing and she rocks the hell outta it

So sad. I’m offering to pay for my daughters but the dress will be HER choice.

Oh yeah - I know the song... (totally LOVE that movie too! Finally the Disney princess that resonates with me...!!) Sort of had ocassion to have that very tune buzz around in my head a number of times since hearing it

@@pamscruggs2660 God bless you, dear. Any proper decent mother would. Do not quite get what the deal is with this mother toward her daughter, unless maybe just to be controlling...??

My Mom had bought my wedding dress that she had not seen since we live in different states. All that she wanted to know was if I loved the wedding dress. I had said yes and she said that is all she had ever wanted to hear because if I love the dress then she would as well. When she had saw my wedding dress, she was smiling with tears of joy and love. I had gotten beautiful expensive wedding dress that had huge lowered price off sale rack. It was very first wedding dress that I had tried on and love instantly. I was untraditional with wedding dress shopping by doing it with my hubby of over 28 years now. We had fallen in love with same wedding dress that we had saw separately.

@@pamscruggs2660 You are a good mom. My mom was the same for my sister. She paid for my sister's dress but let my sister pick her own dress.

Exactly! These moms forget that!

I would have said “On you…you hate them on you” lol

I absolutely love the mermaid dresses. When I get married one day, I want a mermaid dress

@@seniorqueen08 I prefer ballgowns, generally. But a bride with such a figure would commit a crime if she wore anything else than mermaid.

Who wants her as a mother

You described my mother in one sentence. Damn.

Yes- absolutely. It was done to me growing up and I never got over it.

For me here's the problem: the dress really doesn't fit because it's pulling and showing a pot belly. You can see they don't quite get the zipper up in the back on the first dress. So that's problematic because you really don't know what the dress is going to look like with a correct fit and/or alterations. As far as the dress goes, I don't think it's excessively revealing. I think it doesn't fit well enough to know what it is actually going to look like. The second problem is who is paying for the dress? The owner and staff is always putting the emphasis on what the bride wants. If the bride wants it that badly, then she needs to foot the bill.

@@susantescione8007 Well, if someone offers to pay for your dress it should be given as a gift. It should not be the grounds for controlling your options.

@@imamirrorballxo My relatives would like to know what color is the sky in your world? You mean there are actually financial gifts without a myriad of conditions attached?

Well said

facts

Felt the same way!

Yeah I got gas lighting vibes when she said that. Clearly her daughter wanted to show off her body and wasn't ashamed of it but the way her mom said that she knows how she feels about her body almost made it seem like mom was trying to bring back up old insecurities to make the daughter not like the dress

Right?! She's trying to tell her daughter how to feel

True, she is really gorgeous, her figure is amazing and while the mom called herself conservative, the bride's boobs were pretty out there too in every dress and the mom didnt say a word about it. In the end it was all about the mom's insecurities and never about not showing the body.

Not one damn thing. That mom is delusional.

She has the hips, Her mom is stubborn

Wide hips are biologically attractive. The mom is JEALOUSSSS!!

It's not her hips that's the matter

Spot on

Preach👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

Why wouldn’t you? It’s the truth. I call this bullshit out everytime I see it. Too many toxic verbally abusive parents on this show....

@@brooklynbound0 same

Exactly.

I agree, it's not like the mom is going to wear it .

Exactly, not to mention the fact that her daughter is an independent adult fully capable of making the best decision for herself, because SHE is getting married!!!

I'm sure the mom wouldn't have let her own mum decide what she was going to wear for her wedding. Yet forgets now that she is a mum that it's her daughter's dress and she should wear what she likes🤦‍♀️

I mean, if the fact that the mom wore an all white outfit to her daughter's bridal appointment wasn't a huge indicator that she's jealous, I don't know what is.

I’d be told my mother that I’m wearing jeans and a t-shirt if she’s gonna be like that! Mom’s being a B

same!!! like the first dress looked like it was MADE for her body, she looked gorgeous 🥺

My jaw dropped at the first dress-

Same!

You are sooo right.

100% all the time!!

Thank you!

There is some issue mom has, she is projecting on her daughter. Mom needs therapy.

It's so selfish of the mom,it's sad

Mom is supposed to be a cheerleader and guide, not a stumbling block

Exactly! Said that too. She knows its gorgeous 🙋🏽‍♀️⌛️

I don’t think mom was jealous. If she was jealous, she would have been talking about her wedding and make it about herself. I think mom really just wanted it to go her way so she was manipulating her daughter to feel insecure of her body and get her to not want to show it off in a mermaid and instead go for a ball gown or something. But she failed. Her daughter knows what she wants. Mom needs to respect her daughter’s choices.

Thalia Del Toro so she is jealous of her figure AND doesnt want everybody to see it on HER special day. Thats jealousy right there.

Yep.

I totally agree! The price point is understandable if the mothers paying but every else should be the daughters choice! Also you sound like a very nice mother!

You’re a good mom. My mom did the same. She gave me a budget and let me pick what I loved and felt comfortable in.

Absolutely! I just wanted to jump into the scene and just tell this girl I'M buying the dress - pick out whatever you want.

Maybe that's why she offered in the first place?... just a feeling many mothers seem to give off

You're a great mom!!🥰

The mother needs to do something about own hips!

narcissists

Unfortunately it's not that uncommon for mothers to be jealous of their daughters and to attempt to ruin things for them.

You are correct she's mad that her daughter looks good and everyone is giving her the attention . I hope that bride gets what she wants.

i dont think shes jealous just projecting her insecurities onto her daughter

My grandma raised me while my mom ran away. Some grandparents really deserve a heroes medal I swear.

Try on different styles..... different fabrics... it's the bride's choice...time out the peanut gallery...

Shame on her Mother.

That's what narcissists do. No one else can be happy if it upstages them.

I think the correct term is, a sea witch

The burn!!!!!

lmao, she’s Ursula

I don't exactly call it subtle... lol

This. Perfect.

I like you

Yes Besfran😩

SAY IT LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK!!!

@@iamtheaceupmysleeve1687 SAY IT LOUDER FOR THE MOM

I'm sorry that you had to experience that - especially from your own mother. I hope that you've been able to heal from her hurtful words, cut out the toxicity, and build yourself a happy life 💕 Your beauty comes through in the empathy and compassion of your comment. Don't let anyone put you down again - & certainly don't give jealous bullies the power over you that they crave. Wishing you good health and happiness x

Is being 115 Ibs at 12 overweight…? I’m not even 5 feet yet I don’t think.

@@brookemcb You sound young (no offence 💕), so please let me give you a big piece of advice that I wish someone had given me when I was younger... Only take advice on what is big or small from health professionals. That's because we're all built differently, with different fat and muscle ratios, so height and weight is an awful way to tell if someone is healthy - it's more complicated than that. For example, muscle is heavier than fat, so if you just judged on height and weight, most Olympic athletes would be technically obese, or even morbidly obese, when they're some of the healthiest and fittest people on the planet. You said you're not 5' yet, which is why I'm guessing you're young. When you're growing you need lots of extra energy, vitamins and minerals in order to grow healthily. So please don't even consider a diet without the advice of a doctor or dietician. If you want to be careful, just eat healthily - a bit of everything, lots of fruit and veg, and limited fast food/sugary snacks. Don't compare yourself to others. You are you - your body is unique and so long as you are healthy, numbers like height and weight are not important. Comparing yourself to others, on and off line, from such an early age can lead to eating disorders and really knock your confidence completely unnecessarily. It really isn't healthy. Keep fit and active, eat well, speak to your doctor if you're worried, and you will be the healthiest, best shape possible 💖 Keep smiling x

@@brookemcb Im not much older than you so I don’t know if my advice will be right or help lol but if I were you I would just not worry about it until I’m older and it actually become a problem, you aren’t that heavy anyway, and if you are actually worried you can join a simple school sport, idk that helped me but I know that sports aren’t for everyone

But to be fair, you really don’t sound overweight to me

100% she just lost heart after the mother's controlling behaviour knocked the self esteem right out of her. So sad i hope she finds the dress of dreams and mum doesn't see it until the big day

@@lexawinter7725 agree. That mother is just awful. It's not her wedding.

let´s just hope it will be just one wedding experience.

Completely agree! (Exactly like 1.1k!)

Right disgusting 😒

I see this all the time on any episode of Say Yes to the Dress. Bride wants mermaid and mom wants ballgown.

In the words of Mother Gothel “Mother knows best.”

@@Zoethechoirkid lol

This mom needs to leave,

To me the worst part was when she had that last dress on her mom went "I love the way it accents her hips" honey no that dress hides those hips, the other ones showed and accented her hips

You are spot on there. I couldn't work as a consultant and do what they do I wouldn't be able to stay quiet when narcissistic mom's steam roll their daughters.

Sad but true.

Should have left her at the nursing home

Unfortunatly she paye for it , nasty jealous invious mother!

She looks great in the mermaid....

My friend has a small waist and straight hips. Having 2 kids didn't change that.

Love Monte in general

Alli Markel Fr having big hips is like the “popular” thing everyone wants have. Man I wish I had big hips. I’m a SQUARE lol.

@@x3no841 you could try a corset for waist training

Zanillani wait i have a waist trainer how do i use it

Hello wonderful mum! The world needs more mums like you in it! I told my mum that when my sister gets married, I'd be a supportive big sister in helping her pick out her dress. I know what I want, but it's not MY wedding. It's my sister's , and what she wants is what matters!

Wow! You’re literally the perfect mom - the mom that every child deserves to have. Thank you for sharing your transparency and your honesty. 🕊✨

Well done!👏👏👏 You're a great mum for doing that for your daughter. I hope she realised how wonderful you are.❤️❤️ I'm a mum to four beautiful children❤️❤️❤️❤️, one of whom is my angel girl. I hope I'm as supportive of her and her wedding as you were of your daughter's. God's blessings to all xx

You're a Wonderful Mother💐👍

Thanks momma

Same here!! That bride was absolutely stunning!!

@BlouBear77 "I know how you feel about your body" saying she wants her daughter to hide her hips, when possibly for once the bride loves her hips and wants to show off her (PERFECT) figure? THAT'S odd. It's worse than odd. I see nothing wrong with Jenn's comment. EDIT to clarify: it's hard to know in what way the mother meant her statement, but one of the ways it could be taken was "I know you're insecure about your body so you should hide it", as if to remind her daughter that she was insecure during her moment of self-love. I'm sure it could've been meant in the "I know how much you love your body, but-" as well. We'll never know, but the point is this mom is not being supportive. If she knows how much her daughter loves her body (unlike hundreds of daughters who get ED's because of their moms), then she should be supportive!

YeS! I loved the second dress on her. Just beautiful!

Insecure mom is so disgusting

Has the mom ever seen the hips of beyonce and kim k?

I couldn't believe it when she told her to hide her hips...

I agree

Or maybe just jealous...

meme bean mom is jealous of her daughter.

garotadagavea seems pretty accurate actually

At least set boundaries and ground rules

She's a real b word

Terrible mother

Yes, she’s on track to lose her daughter. What a terrible mother.

Honestly, I want to hang out in these stores just to pass those poor brides information on how to go no contact with toxic people, along with the promise that it's OK to do it.

OMG right ? something must have been wrong in the upbringing :D ahhahaha

Natalie Lear I agree totally with you.. I hope this daughter moves away from that controlling mother. Grandmother was very supportive. Australia 🙂🙃

Ikr

And that mother will have robbed her of all happiness and success. It’s pretty much impossible to undo that damage.

"The saddest thing about betrayal is that it never comes from your enemies"

we all can blame “the hips”

This is literally my favorite comment

@@carlamcewen2361 Oh definitely Or maybe she never looked like that to begin with 👀 That would definitely make her extra bitter

Oh, absolutely. It was disgusting to watch her tear her daughter down like that. Just awful. This girl looks gorgeous in those mermaid dresses, they are literally made for her body.

And that " I know how you feel about your body manipulation" I mean wtf

The mother is jealous of her daughter's absolutely amazing figure, she has a perfect mermaid figure, I'd love to know what she eventually gets.

She probably had to listen to her mother all the way home about not getting that dress.

It so strange....how could you be jealous of your daughter?

Seriously, the bride could throw on a burlap sack and be total knockout! 😍

@@ivorysmith8020 most of these narcissistic Moms are, it goes with the turf.

I was going to say this. I think he mom is envious of her body.

Mom is stuck in the 80's with her tripping on those average hips... mom was giving her a cause for concern. Who can get excited in those conditions???

My mom acts the same. I have a pretty pear shape and my mom always tells me to not show my curves at all like its a bad thing. Like when I wear something tighter my mother tells me how bad I look and that I shouldnt show my curves.

Do you hate apostrophes?

Glad my mom won't be part of my wedding pheww

My grandma was the reason my mother couldn't get married in anything but white

Me too, specially when they had 80's haircuts. They can't overcome their age

Hopefully that girl's new husband can undo the damage her mother is wreaking.

Yes, I am a huge fan of A-line, but that was a drab number, and very blah on her! She's got it, so show it!

@@deepblueinthedark9856 A-line is great, but a shame on such a perfect body!

@@deepblueinthedark9856 Exactly✨.🙂

She looked amazing in the first 2 dresses. The one Mom liked did nothing for me. I'm glad the bride didn't cave and get it.

Exactly!

I thought you said she was the thing no one wants to see😅

If we're hiding what we don't want people to see, where can we hide mama.

I reckon you don spoke the truth!

Mom was paying .

I would have just waited longer and payed for it myself. Would not have brought a mom like that.

Along with the clothes...

Horrible insult, I don't know what rock you crawled out of, but throwback haircuts are very popular right now, and the 80s are IN. Shags everywhere. Comment on her personality, not her looks.

@@smellmych33z you mean like the dragon of a Mum has constantly been doing to her own daughter?????

😆😆😆😆😆😆

@raissa kalama gtfu 🤷‍♀️

This mom is obsessed with her daughter’s hips. It’s weird and sad. She’s made her feel self conscious in her amazing body.

@@isobelmcarthur6761 : I agree. And, that comment about, " I know how you feel about your body..' suggested weight insecurities.. Mom should simply re-enforce her sense of beauty. You made this child!! She is gorgeous. Be proud.