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"Should I take my ex back?" Short answer: No Long answer: Nooooooooo

If you're still in love with your ex you're really only in love with the person you THOUGHT she was not the person she ACTUALLY was.

Fellas ALWAYS remember there was a night where you were crying and longing for your ex. That same night she let another guy inside her, he slipped out, and she reached down to put it back in. LET HER GO.

Never take her back. You broke up.for a reason. Focus on your money, health and move on.

Never take an ex back. Especially if they were with someone else after the breakup. Because almost all of the time there is someone else involved. Never become someone else's backup plan or second option. If you take them back they will never respect you and they will leave you again.

I am glad my ex-wife is gone. And since my three teenage kids decided to live with me, she is basically dead to me . DEAD TO ME.

Never take them back. It is always a waste. I was with my exe for 2 years when I decided the relationship needed to end due to so many red flags that I identified. A week later my ex visited me in the state I was doing an internship in at the time. She said she was over me already and just wanted to visit. The entire visit she played "men aint crap" music in my car and pulled out all the moves in the bedroom during the 4 days she visited. At the end she hit me with the "so what are we?" My incredibly stupid self did not stick to my guns. We got back together. We were fine for a couple of months and then everything that was a problem before popped up again, and this time more problems came up as well. Long story short, she became withdrawn. The sex stopped because she "didn't feel comfortable having sex" with me. She had no problem sleeping with me on the first date. After 9 months of being back together she suggested we break up and I agreed. This was my out. Low and behold, she was cheating. Guys, getting back with an ex is a total freaking waste of your time and money. I certainly complicated my life and then justified why I did it. DO NOT DO IT!

My ex asked me where I'm moving I said onto better things

Every woman deserves a second chance. That’s why God made other men.

Ex: What's up? Me: My standards, bye!

Twice in my life I have broken up with girlfriends which took me almost as long to get over the break ups as the relationships actually lasted. In both of those cases I looked back years later and had no idea what I ever saw in either those girlfriends.

you're helping more than any other guy in my life

Relationship 101. Never get back with an EX no matter what the relationship or dating experts say.

It’s like trying the same parachute again,….when it didn’t work the first time!!! Absolute madness! Move on and don’t look back!!!!😎

This video should have been 3 seconds long honestly. The answer is no.

When you create options you don't have time to look back

"Women don't take ownership of their decisions!" Just brilliant ❤!

I’m currently going through one-itis. I plan on watching this at least once a week to help me move beyond her. Thank you, Rich, for your excellent content and wisdom. Your channel has been the most cathartic thing I found. “She’s not yours. It’s just your time.” So true. And my time has ended with her.

Thank you very much Rich and Rollo. Men helping men. Iron sharpen iron. 😊👍😊👍👍👍

Men need to learn how to be ruthless like women, I let an ex get back into my life because she made me feel guilty about saying no. Guarantee that if the roles were reversed she'd have kicked me to the kerb.

Thank you very much Rich for helping me change my life. Ever since I've been watching your content about red pill, my life shifted dramatically for the better. I have read most of your recommended books and am continuously learning more. I feel more at ease with life now. Keep up this amazing work and hopefully more lost and confused men will also find sanctuary like I did from you.

What a gut wrenching video but necessary to hear. The last 20 minutes I listened to 4 times so far. Rollo really put together some pieces that I couldn't figure out by myself. You guys are God sent. Thank you

I can’t tell you how much I respect and appreciate you guys. Excellent work, thank you!

Great stuff guys! My ex lied to me, was texting orbiters and I caught her and then she had the audacity to put the blame on me lol needless to say... I bounced & never looked back. But she still won't leave me alone today... lol

To young guys out there Rollo and Rich are on key on this one. Guys once it is over it is over. Leave. Don’t make an ass of yourself.

One of the best channels I ever discovered thank you Richard Cooper

Great video Rich! Puts a lot of your book and Rollos into focus as to “WHY” the machine is what it is. 👍

It's like reading the same book and expecting a different ending.

I will never take an ex back. Once she leaves that’s it. They only ride the cc and don’t improve and work on themselves.

Great episode Señores! Could not agree more and for that, I continue to be a fan. Just got out of a 8 month relationship and the Rules of Rollo started to kick in immediately!

I had an ex narc. She would hit me up off and on for over 2 years. Finally I had it during this pandemic. Even when I gave her ample time to own up to her crap she still refused. When I confronted her with her drinking habits and lack of maturity she didn't inquire, oh no. She blocked me. Rich is right, tell your EX to kick rocks. They seldom come back a different person. They don't work on themselves like you did. They've been riding the CC this entire time.

Women never forget anything you do that pisses them off. A few major 'relationship ending' arguments poisoned the remaining few months of our relationship & my ex made my life miserable. It was a big 'red flag' & I didn't take the hint because I thought Ioved her & let fears control me. We both would have been miserable.

Rich, As always very good show. Thanks for all you do for the betterment of men.

This was one of the best videos I've seen on this channel.

That bit at the end from Rollo about the new alpha imprinting on the female's psyche and thus going back to the beta being hamstered as cheating on HIM is pure GOLD. Holy shit I never really saw it that way.

Long story short I dated a girl when I was 23 she was a train wreck very narcissistic cheated on me we cross paths when I was 33 she swore she was different and a better person gave her another chance it was even worse this time so many girls are narcissistic psychopath’s master manipulators never take back an ex Took me years to get my life Back in order

This is a great episode. Thanks, Rich.

Excellent and very very Powerful Video again..This was one of the very best one..Thank you Mr Rich

It’s always interesting hearing the theory & reading the comments. ‘Do The Work’ is surely the key. On the job learning counts the most. Make the mistakes, assimilate the lessons, live thru train wrecks, account for your losses...then you will be bulletproof. Too much other shit going on in the world to be concerned about female behaviour. I feel for the younger chaps who seek the advice to try & circumvent the crashes...but are still going to be moths to the flame in reality. You have to live the experiences to learn & become Iron Man!

Crazy how my ex fiance left me after i bought a house for her and stood up for myself because she crossed my boundaries. Now she has to move back home 4 hours away and live in a cramped apartment with her sister. I dont get how she thinks she can do “better” when I literally couldve offered her everything. She was a single mother, so I didnt really lose anything by losing her yet she would rather lose everything and start all over than be with me. If thats not a kick in the balls idk what is.

So true...we are suckers for the rubber band. After I left my marriage and reconnected with a girl I was engaged with from 27 years ago...we had an awesome time for 9 months and she imploded from guilt and we had to part ways. I thought she was a unicorn and we did try to get back again, and again....I finally said enough was enough and went my own way. I needed to find my new self and glad I did. She has tried to get back and I have refused her efforts. I'm soooooo beyond that nonsense now and it's thanks to your show and others that have helped me. Thank you brother!

Thank you Rich. I needed this today. Pursuing Excellence, leveling up is the only option.

In some ways seeing an x again after a period years is nearly always a good thing, it reminds you how lucky you are to have escaped. ..None of them improve with age. l've had women that in the space of less than five years have become unrecognizable ham planets or crypt keepers.

Man this content is beyond fantastic...TRUTH spoken to a T!!!

Guys respect from the UK now going through divorce, age 46 getting in shape etc spin plates at my age? don't want another LTR amazing how many woman pop up now! Cheers guys

Got your Tshirt DO THE WORK delivered today..Level Up, Stand Firm, Maintain Frame, Your Own Man..

Absolutely gems, appreciate you both

Spot on as always brother. My most recent ex, who you literally "wrote the book on", (tattooed single mom) lol checked every red flag you listed when it came to that. I broke up with her twice, and as you described in this video, she really turned it on and "fought for us". 🙄 Waited till I was 100% emotionally reinvested, then like she flipped a switch, she just went completely cold, broke up with me, and being empathic, I could really feel she meant it! Bahh well, lesson learned. I'm on to better things and she can enjoy being alpha widowed.

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I was in a relationship with a girl for about 8 months and we could both tell it wasnt going well towards the end. I was overly attached to her which lead to myself feeling like I needed her and thinking that she was going to help me with all of my problems. We came to the mutual conclusion to take a break however, she ended up walking away from the relationship. It broke me. I was worried and would constantly try to call and text her asking if and when we were going to get back together and she was just not interested anymore. Eventually we broke up and were on good terms. We would talk like friends a bit after we broke up until one day she got rude an ugly with me over something insignificant. I was still very attached to her and I realised that. At that point I cut her out of my life and completely walked away. I havent spoken to her in about 4 months and dont plan on it any time soon. It is the best thing I could have done for myself. I ended up with so much clarity and self empowerment in the wake of it. I still suffer from a bit of “one-itis” but I am fully aware that there are plenty more out there and I’m commited to making myself the best version of me that I can. Thanks for the videos Rick! Love your input!

The bio chemistry aspect is such a difficult bond to break, especially after 11 years and 3 kids.

Rich your laying down some priceless knowledge i have become a new man since watching your content

Great episode fellas! Thanks!

Short answer NO! Long answer, never the same, what ever the issue was 1st time it will always be an issue, One of you will never really feel the same about it. Save your heart ache and just learn from it and move on.

Taking ex back is like breaking In To Jail 😂😂😂

Wow... Described word by word exactly what my narcissistic ex did, I also felt guilty like a MF because she always said I am a manipulator, toxic, misogynistic, Weak masculinity man... She manipulated the s**t out of me and made me feel every kind of guilt and sense of self doubt that is humanly possible... She broke up with me 3 months after we moved togheter from Europe to Mexico... Literally one month in and she met a guy for "dinner" but he was just "an old friend that she met during the erasmus", she lied to me, she said she wouldn't go meet him and then she went anyway... Couple of months later and she left and came back to Europe, I went no contact and she freaked out and she recontacted me to come back togheter, I refused and I dodged a bullet... 2 weeks in now and I feel PTSD symptoms, anxiety and almost 0 self esteem after 3 years of intense relationship... Fellas, never ever depends on her, be the mental point of origin and never trust her words

Ex boss, ex job, ex lover.. all have the same thing. Ex = past tense. Ex means it is over. Why look back? Did work the first time. No! Why do you want to look or go backwards? It is over!

Rocking the vending machine analogy is from a Seinfeld episode lol

I have never taken a X back in my 38 years of life. I also have never been married. I burn bridges and never cross them again. I’ve really dodged the bullet by being the way I am. People often wonder what’s wrong with me because I’ve never been married and stay single all the time while I’m also a tall good looking guy. There is nothing wrong with me…I just don’t like the idea of being divorced like everybody else. It’s a nightmare I knew from a young age i never wanted to experience Unles she’s Amish I will likely never get married or live with a woman again. I’m cool with that

The MBTI types may not be the be-all, end-all but it has often times helped me simplify the vetting process of my plates. It’s just one of the tools that you incorporate with the grand scheme of TRP praxeology instead of a stand-alone filter. Like if you’re an INTJ man in his early 20s without strong LMS, even an ESFJ in her late 20s would be a total nightmare for you.

Juice ain't worth the squeeze, it never was.

Thanks Rich this was very insightful 👍

Nailed it! You can't eat or sleep after a break up when you have oneitis

I have a few ex’s who are Facebook friends of mine. I’m 55. The wall has been very evil to these women. One of them doesn’t look like she hit the wall. She looks like the Great Wall of China fell on her 😂

Love the flag on the wall, God bless our two nations 🇺🇸🇬🇧

Had an ex break up with me because I called her on her BS. (Legit tried to have a genuine conversation to get to the bottom of what was going on) Instead of owning it and growing, she chose to avoid the topic and told me that I kept saying I wasn't happy with her, and that I would be happier elsewhere. When I accepted the break up and went cold Turkey, she got stalkerish. Had to scorched earth her out of my life. One of the best decisions I've ever made, I can think clearly again, I have a peaceful life free from drama. DO NOT fill up her cup. If she refuses to fill her own, get out!

Relationships end because there are problems. The same problems that ended the relationship will still be there. In the interest of story time- 8 year marriage that ended two years ago with the discovery of an affair surrounded by heavy drug use. She was always a heavy drinking and when I stopped tagging along the affair started. When the party ran out, she knocked at my door wanting "to try again". 9 months into the "try again" the drugs/substance abuse and looking for other guys started again. One of the guys was a good friend of mine. She played nice until the need to return to those problems overtook her and I became the enemy again. Had to learn the hard way there was nothing wrong with me after working on myself. She was missing something inside and refused to seek help. As he said, if you're not seeing a genuine change in the problems, don't waste your time.

I’m surprised it wasn’t “no” *roll credits*

This is absolutely essential stuff after breakup. Guys, listen to Rich!

I don't even have to watch this to know the correct answer!

Absolutely not. Did anything good ever come from that?

Hi Rich another great episode . If your looking for new topics to discuss. I have a thought., with a lot of men now taken the pill . And are improving the frame life choices and money. I would like you to cover some ways to combat loneliness as all the above pursuits are solo improvement. Human nature tells us to socialize and dependent on personalities some more than others. Your thoughts your ideas thanks Rich .

I loved what you said about breaking up for a woman was final but not for the man. There's a episode of Seinfeld where George was trying to break up with a woman and the woman wouldn't let him saying that breaking up was like launching missiles where both people had to turn their keys. Then him and Jerry were talking and Jerry said that breaking up was like tipping over a soda machine. You couldn't do it at once it took a few times of rocking it back and forth

You’re killing me! “Teaching slaves to read” 🤠

Yes. Definitely yes to counseling from rollo.

Can you do a show topic on healthy diets/proper exercise for parents so their kids don’t turn obese. It really jut baffles me how most parents lack this crucial education.

My cousin once told me, if you take a drink of milk, and it’s sour, and put it back in the fridge, do you think it won’t be sour when you go back to it in a week?

This is excellent as usual, but one thing with always spinning plates is that when do you know it's time to just take a break and go Monk Mode for a while and not deal with women? Like when would you say is a good time to take a break and for how long? I think now would be a good time for me personally to take a break, but when I come back I don't want to have regressed as far as game or sexual skill in the bedroom.

My own mother broke up with my father when they were in college because my father refused to ask her to marry him. She started dating another man and months went by. My father finally found her and challenged her new boyfriend to a fight. Long story short they married and stayed together for over 50 years until his death. So that is that. My girlfriend and I split up a few months ago because I still have not divorced my (ex) wife. She said she would come back when I divorced my wife. I am not sure what next move is with my ex-girlfriend but I think after 4 years of separation I need to finally once-and-for-all divorce my wife. With my separated wife I left her after many years of staled loveless passionless marriage and went back 10 months later due to guilt from my children etc. I was never so miserable and hopeless. I left again after a year of that.

You tend to remember the good and forget the bad. For example, in the USA a lot of guys played football in high school. They remember the good times but forget that for 6 months a year they were in pain, sometimes a lot of pain. Bangs, bruises, pulled and torn muscles and ligaments, sometimes broken bones and concussions. By the time they are 50 years old, all those old injuries show up again. Taking back an ex is just like trying to continue to play the game. The cumulative effects of something bad takes its toll the longer you pursue it. In sports it's physical problems. In relationships it's emotional damage, financial problems and sometimes psychological abuse. Just ain't worth it. Even in the 1960s and 1970s the pop psychologists would always ask "What makes you think anything is going to change?" And for people with behavioral issues, 85% never resolve them.

I did this 3 years ago, my one ex girfriend i really valued because i loved her and i still had underlying feelings for her, we had a relationship in our 20s it was the most beautiful relationship i loved all my girlfriends but this women i really valued the most, i was being pragmatic this time and wanted a more serious relationship and possible marriage and children, this had passed and she chose not to go out with her ex boyfriends as much as it really hurt me because i wantied more im single now at 35 this april 2021 and i let her go and i believe she found someone else but im happy for her as long as shes happy only thing i wanted for her, is her happiness, im just keeping preocupied with my work, home upkeep my gym and lifestyle in cape town ive moved on and just learning to become a better single bachelor and improve on my life. I have my qualities, my principles and values, and to grow as a better man and enjoy my life.

Min 57 theres a movie call “how ti be single” (i was watching with a girl) but the Funny part was that exactly what you talking happened to the woman ask time and then come assking another change and the guy dump her (the rest of the movie is crap, but is exactly) man really good video

Great video. Most guys, myself included, don't learn all this stuff til its too late.

man these vids really good

How about texting to because you want to text them? No to rekindle but I just want to know what happened to her? Is that cool?

I am 46 and just learning this. I thought I had a unicorn, but now after 20 years, 4 kids etc. She wants to move on. I'm addicted to her and having a hard time letting go. Going through all these feelings. LoL so tough

I was young, stupid, selfish etc.. I was 21 got my 18 year old girlfriend pregnant, was having sex even though I didn't want to be with her anymore, we broke up and got back together multiple times, we wasted 23 years on a horrible, horrible relationship, went sexless after 7 years, I would get sex once, maybe twice a year for the last 16 years, I was considered an 8-8.5 even by her friends, I'm 5'9'' 195lbs 8% body fat at the time, she was a 6 at best, 5'6'' 230lbs for the last 16 years, I had one-itis for her, she cheated after 23 years and I was finally free, Don't ever get back together you will lose yourself and maybe never find yourself ever again

Some relationships are doomed from rhe beginning and the woman will know sooner when that is the case.

It always ends up like you never split up after about a week or so. The same problems and feelings that caused the split rear their ugly head.

No. Next question.

Keep them at arms length and only as a FWB unless they have violent history and victim mentality then keep far far away. Taking an ex back is showing you do not have healthy boundaries.

Real food. Not just stuffing your face with random fast food & mass gaining shakes. Props man

Rich and Rollo dynamic reminds me of Spock and Kirk.

The answer is almost always nooooooo. There may be a few (very few) exceptions, but I can only think if the both of you are more mature. Ex-es who've had problems/addictions, don't get back with them, ever.

No she's not the only one I could have. She's the only one I should have because I chose her or married her. It's about morals man. Just because she doesn't have the same morals I do doesn't mean I should change mine. This is literally the only problem I have with the red pill thing. Should I take her back? No.. your right. But I can't get down with the hole spinning plates thing. It should be only one if your going to get married.

Pretty much. Ex noticed I was making some serious money, contacted me after 5 years out of nowhere, we spent the night together and then I found out she was cheating on the guy she was with. I had some serious oneitis with this one so the whole deal hurt me badly. Never again.

So how are females supposed to get over oneitis without getting on the CC or going to a foam party?

one of your better videos,..

I tell my ex that nothing, that she left, has changed.