Hey Fam Thank you once again to our guest Phetola Makhetha Here are her socials Instagram: @The_Makhs - the_makhs?... @_Phetola - _phetola?h... KZfaq : / themakhs
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@phetolamofokeng31952 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much sis for this wholesome conversation! Thank you for being so gracious! Absolutely loved every minute of our chat! May you continue to do the Lord’s work! You’re amazing🤗🤗🤗♥️♥️♥️♥️
@kokimothoagae95332 жыл бұрын
You are such a blessing keep up the good work
@gabimthombothi46042 жыл бұрын
You are such a blessing indeed, loved the conversation and the germs you dropped. You are so gracious, loved the way you spoke so respectful about your husband, that's love.
@ladykay40232 жыл бұрын
You are such a breath of fresh air ❤️❤️❤️ke go rata ka pelo yaaka kaofela koore go deep deep deep ..O chipi Mma Makhs.
@kgothatsopelaelo34462 жыл бұрын
You are an amazing soul and you testimony is powerful, continue being amazing...
@refilwemosase2 жыл бұрын
Maphoka you are such a gem! I love how you're such a firm believer in your marriage and your husband! You have so much wisdom its incredible 😍😍😍
@sbahlemncube92082 жыл бұрын
One thing I love about Phetola, she's honest and am learning everytime I listen to her 🥰😍
@kamo..2 жыл бұрын
I'm not even married mara ditaba tsa manyalo ke di rata!!😭😭😂❤I love you both so much❤
@samenteda85792 жыл бұрын
Sis that is me 🤣🤣 Mommy content as well and I'm not a Mom 🙈
@mphonyanamoloi83512 жыл бұрын
Yoooh sooo me 😂😂😂 lenna ke dirata habohloko
@kamo..2 жыл бұрын
We ready,re shorta fela ka di husbands bantase 😂😂
@BuliMakhubo2 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂😂 this made me laugh ! Thank you for watching sis ❤️❤️
@kamo..2 жыл бұрын
@@BuliMakhubo ❤❤
@keojansen53402 жыл бұрын
Yoh Phetola, this mirrors how my husband and I marriage started. I started following you in social media. This was happening in 2016 to date for us. He provided from our wedding, however from there, no income. This has given me so much peace, because I was the 'weird' one in my circles. My husband was great though in cooking, pick me and dropping me off from work, he would clean. He would do laundry,right now he is pursuing his dream and has started providing financially after almost 6 years. He was great when we had the baby, he was a "stay at home dad" for a whole year which gave me a peace of mind.
@_Palesa_M2 жыл бұрын
Not only does Phethola's years of experience as a young wife make her credible but also her level of authenticity! She really doesn't hold back, and she does it with such grace! I completely enjoyed this topic. I think it's very important for women to be open to anything happening in the relationship in the financial sphere of things especially! I believe in hypergamy and patriarchy but in the same breath I am aware that the sun won't always shine for men to fulfill their masculine roles specially in such volatile times.
@gracehlatshwayo27892 жыл бұрын
I truly love her transperant side so much. She is so relatable as well🤍
@ntsakomavunda90182 жыл бұрын
So so true dear, hate to call it 'reality of life' but life can always turn out anyhow and we need grace to still make it through.
@christinenareva90512 жыл бұрын
Sometime we forget that even if you marry someone with money you can lose it whilst married. Life happens like sickness, lose your job and many other factors.lets just love intentionally
@LetiMatlelemu2 жыл бұрын
Profound
@motheowalerato7012 жыл бұрын
So deeep 🔥🔥🔥🔥 2020 and beyond has shown us how nothing is certain in this life🥺
@siyamthandadlamini65232 ай бұрын
So profound hey, I am going through this phase now and at first I was angry and frustrated but am asking the Lord to help me coz no one asks to lose their job
@lesegomaine2 жыл бұрын
This has been my reality and haven't really had someone to talk to about it because of "controversies" but I'm happy to know that I'm not alone and it is conceivable and doable. Thanks ladies
@adelheidkatjiru94022 жыл бұрын
Couldn't wait for this one DreamTeam we are within 💃💃💃
@mmatebogomoitswadi2 жыл бұрын
#dreamTeam
@KamogeloB2 жыл бұрын
Si la
@Naledi_Meikie2 жыл бұрын
Phetola’s story sounds like mine. We went through same thing and I thank God for everything
@sinentokozosibeko36752 жыл бұрын
Marriage is definitely for the gracious.... alot of love n maturity and they definitely gorrit. Some of us r definitely not married because God knows we are not ready. Bless the Makhs🌠
@n_.nokukhanya2 жыл бұрын
Phethola and Lerato are such an authentic couple and brought it to this chat with her , this was so authentic , thank you for Inviting her Buli.
@BlackRose-rk7zs2 жыл бұрын
In the era where the idea of hypergamy & the word “High Value Men” (only monetary values considered) being thrown around ; this is such a realistic, much needed & different topic. Our situations are not the same & sometimes a HVM comes in good morals, hopes & dreams. It’s a very eye opening talk. Thank you ladies for tackling this because there are some women , as myself , who believe in the dreams of our partners & helping them out through tougher times.
@mabotsechoshane2 жыл бұрын
I absolutely love Phetola and her perspective… the financial dynamics of relationships are changing as women pursue and realise their dreams. Social media perpetuates a standard of living and “providing” that is not realistic for most SAns. Grateful for this honest platform Buli and The Makhs, for the transparency ❤️
@VhugalaHaweM2 жыл бұрын
Trust that every session with Mrs Makhetha is a Learning & journaling time ! The world is blessed . Their marriage IS a MINISTRY!
@reshoketswemogwaneng73542 жыл бұрын
I love Phetola soo much, I personally follow her Channel. She has one of the most wisest Husband. Im not married yet, their channel is premarital counselling for me.
@mpoomzadube14292 жыл бұрын
I love these sit downs with the wives , thank you Mrs Makhubo for obeying the holy spirit 🙏🏽
@CWMNation2 жыл бұрын
Love Mrs Makhs. She's my friend. She just doesn't know it yet 😁
@BuliMakhubo2 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂
@mrspboledi2 жыл бұрын
Phetola you are truly a great image of how graceful your family is, so much wisdom and grace🥰🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
@innoh38952 жыл бұрын
Ous Phetola though🙇♀️..you are such a breath of fresh air, so genuine you just ooze so much of classiness, gracefulness and Christlikeness.
@MrsD_20222 жыл бұрын
I felt it when Phetola said that she didn't want to have sex during those difficult times and I am currently in that situation where sex is just a no go area for me. Finances can really put a strain on marriages. Thank you so much for this conversation, it was really informative, encouraging and giving hope too.
@refilwenkosi7722 Жыл бұрын
Joooo, Im going through that situation at the moment 😢😢
@chosennotforsaken2 жыл бұрын
Honestly: not being biast or anything. But Lerato selling his car for me was more an act of obedience and Faith that Romans 8:28 will prevail. That was stubborn faith right there!!!
@nakihlomayi49972 жыл бұрын
Why does KZfaq even have an unlike button. Who unlikes this kind of video..loved this conversation. You ladies are so full of wisdom
@nandifro2 жыл бұрын
Baze babahle abafazi... Lord I pray that everyone waiting on their husbands from you receive them including myself.. you know what we need Lord and I trust you and your timing is perfect.. in Jesus name I pray. AMEN
@thandi_mtshweni2 жыл бұрын
Amen 🙏🏾
@mbalenhleshabangu43502 жыл бұрын
Amen sis
@sinazonjonga89962 жыл бұрын
Amen
@leaenongene24992 жыл бұрын
Amen
@sarahletsoalo96682 жыл бұрын
Amen
@chroniclesandbeyond.12852 жыл бұрын
I’m glad I’m watching this before marriage, so much wisdom . Thanks ladies
@sthembisomahlangu84982 жыл бұрын
Happiness is having your two FAVOURITE women in one room, on one screen 😭🥺😍❤️
@____Miss_B2 жыл бұрын
Buli is doing such a lovely job with these sessions, thank you Mama Esi 💛
@nonjabuloshongwe12122 жыл бұрын
“Take care of the now” & “Look at the character of the man” this is much needed advice ausi Phetho, thank you for sharing with such honesty. The question from you Buli were so relevant and I think you brought out the best out of Phetho. Thanks ladies
@nwabisapbodlo32462 жыл бұрын
Dream Team si la ✌
@kaonebenjamin46982 жыл бұрын
16min in and I'm a hot mess!! 😭😭Thank you so much for such raw and authentic conversations especially in today's world where men are put under soo much pressure to provide (however this looks like). Marrying for God, purpose and love is such a beautiful thing, it's definitely not easy but we trust God in the process. He is faithful!!
@ShakilKhan-eh4zl2 жыл бұрын
Tnx buli for teaching the single ladies that marriage is not all about money& material things marriage is about sacrifice&tolerance frm Ayesha in kimberley
@fearless01222 жыл бұрын
I honestly didn’t want this conversation to end . I learnt so much , that character is so imperative; love is not enough 😆. I love it here. Thank you Bhuli and Mrs. Makhs 💛🌻✨
@dimphomoyana49282 жыл бұрын
Right!!!!!!😍😍😍
@bevmwallo17122 жыл бұрын
I'm like Pheto with my hubby also in our early 20's and for a long time I worked but he wasn't but he gave me his car to get to work and made sure I had everything I needed. It was no easy for him but we got through it and it made us stronger together. We are so open with our finances
@melomagagula2 жыл бұрын
Thoroughly enjoyed this chat. I’m 22 and single but I’ve learned so much. Thanks to my two faves ♥️
@lerato_phakathi_2 жыл бұрын
I can relate to this conversation! Thank you so much for this!!! After 3 years of marriage I agree marriage is a ministry 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾!!! Financial issues really to stress a marriage but God is faithful
@katlee_ntuli79512 жыл бұрын
This conversation was EVERYTHING!!! So much wisdom! ♥️ thank you ladies.
@user-xx5hy7nj8o2 жыл бұрын
I did all of this before marriage and I’m here sitting with no ring, debt and stress, thanks for great video and insights
@moe_ramz2 жыл бұрын
Unfortunately certain things should only be done during marriage and not before. When we are girlfriends we must behave as such! 🥰
@disemellow2 жыл бұрын
I hear you and agree with you to an extent, because I'm also of the mindset I would never financially take care of a boyfriend... But then if the relationship progresses to a point of seeing a future with this person, where do ladies like M M here, who find themselves in such situations draw the line of supportive girlfriend but also being careful not to play wife.
@moe_ramz2 жыл бұрын
@@disemellow I believe in letting the man lead. His actions would have let her know if it’s safe to fully commit. Who brought up the marriage topic? Had they spoken about finances and where they’d live. As women we must normalise vocalising our needs within the relationship from day one. If I want marriage he must know and he must be given a timeline. We let men play with our emotions and efforts, then cry victim. I’ve been where she’s at, that’s why now I state my case, then watch how he responds and treats me, from there I decide on how much I should be invested.
@zamekabili66902 жыл бұрын
All I can say is Thank you so much for allowing the God to use you for the benefit of people like me. This conversation was speaking to me word for word, as I am currently dealing with this situation, thank you for reminding me that it shall surely pass, and trusting the Lord that one day he will elevate us.
@osinomhlephiri5582 жыл бұрын
Phetola is so me, we need to see more conversations like this. It's okay to start from the bottom and support your partner
@sebolelofelicia2 жыл бұрын
Wow this was a much needed video. It is important to make sure that when your man is down, you are not another cause of his frustration. We as ladies should be a source of peace when he is going through a storm. nice one ladies
@LoveandLessons_Cambles2 жыл бұрын
Shuuu my heart is soooo full!!! I listened to this with my partner and let me tell you how freeing it felt 🥺❤️❤️❤️❤️
@tinyikomokale18722 жыл бұрын
Thanks for a beautiful conversation ladies, so real. Something young wives should understand and the true essence of Proverbs 31, specifically verse 14 - 17.
@LuthandoLuyanda2 жыл бұрын
As a single 24 turning 25 year old, getting into the dating scene as a virgin who is serious about her purity. Listen ladies this is vital conversations that you ladies are ministering to us. Thank you Ous Buli & my fave laugh and beautiful Ous Phetola. I love you both bo big sis❤️❤️❤️
@chaks44662 жыл бұрын
May God give you strength in your journey of purity my sister
@chosennotforsaken2 жыл бұрын
@JustLu - so proud of you. Please babe keep it that way. If there is something I wish I could regain it would be my virginity. I am new in Christ. But living positively with HIV. Thanks to not keeping myself for my husband. Be that as it me. In my 6 years with HIV. This God has kept me. But I always say to Him "thank You Lord for the Blood of Jesus! Because WOW: I am now a virgin again who saves lives using my lessons. Stay away from sex before marriage. I will pray for you. Being celibate is so sexy in my eyes. I am also now 💯 percent celibate and so proud. Regardless of my past. God has forgiven me and I have forgiven myself and the perpetrator. So keep the cookie 🍪 locked up babe. Not until God recognises your marriage my love 💯💯💯 You are goals 💞💞💞💪💪💪
@chaks44662 жыл бұрын
@@chosennotforsaken wow you have a great testimony
@chosennotforsaken2 жыл бұрын
@@chaks4466 thanks so much hey. Think of Genesis 50:20 - when Joseph said to his brothers: "your intention was to harm me. But God used the pain for my good and His Glory!" That would be my story ☺️☺️☺️ Also: taking accountability for my contribution in all this liberated me. It freed me so much. I so love being Christian. The Holy Spirit teaches me so much daily. Even in my time of feeling lost, pained and forgotten by God. I always remember how far He has brought me. He is an amazing Father and once we know that. Obeying Him becomes oh so easy 💞💞💞
@chaks44662 жыл бұрын
@@chosennotforsaken that's so powerful having a relationship with Jesus is the best thing one can ever do. Wow your testimony blesses me.
@gracehlatshwayo27892 жыл бұрын
Mrs. Makhs is so wise and beautiful ❤️❤️
@leratomathenjwa77612 жыл бұрын
Thank you Buli for bringing Phetola to your Channel. I will be watching your videos also. For Phetola, your experiences are so much like ours. There were time I had to hold the fort. But now he is taking care of me. It is such an honor to walk the journey together in love.
@fikileassah10262 жыл бұрын
Thank u so much for the topic, personally I experienced it and now things are fine. Respecting and end ensuring that the man doesn't loose his dignity is very key.I can relate to most of the things Phetholo said, the likes of sliding the bank card in the shop to makes it looks like its him paying and many more
@misstadiwa20112 жыл бұрын
"the green grass could just be astro turf" 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
@kebohlale21012 жыл бұрын
Wow Phetola the level of honesty and vulnerability is inspiring. Thank you for sharing the reality that many women face and being authentic. Loved this video ❤️
@mbalimthethwa56182 жыл бұрын
I have no words, just LOVE for you both ladies. You ladies are doing the Lords work for real.
@Jojothespy2 жыл бұрын
Phetola is so authentic. I love how you always own your truth despite what anybody would say or think. Your wisdom and maturity leaves me in awe all the time. Your honesty is so refreshing. “We are blessed to be in the kingdom because we know that it’s a phase. We know that it’s going to pass” - This was so profound. “To be born into the family that i was born in was a blessing. “ “Nowadays people want the finished product. People don’t know the amount of work that went into that finished product” “When God withholds something from you, it’s not because he hates you, it’s because the timing is not right.” Buli when you said “The green grass could just be astro turf” 🔥🔥🔥👌🏾 Hheyi because we are likers of things and checking what’s happening in our neighbours yards instead of removing the wool from our eyes to truly see what’s happening in our own backyards. Laughed so much at fraaishing ama chips 🍟🤪😂
@lesedisekhu15422 жыл бұрын
These wife talks are really blessing me..you guys are doing a great job. I do wanna get married one day and these genuine talks are opening up my eyes and shifting my perspectives. Thank you guys.
@everythingineverythingwith26422 жыл бұрын
This is a beautiful conversation. I enjoyed the conversation and just looking at two beautiful ladies teaching and sharing.
@hlalewisdomthoabala16392 жыл бұрын
Loved every minute of this talk, love you both so much. Good to see such young, married and saved phenomenal women in our generation, God Bless you both so much💛
@vuyonombila9582 жыл бұрын
This was so good! Every marriage has a purpose and a kingdom assignment. 🌸🙏🏽
@sanelemjoli48772 жыл бұрын
Mrs Makhubo and Mrs Makhetha siyabonga. May God bless you both and your lovely families. The Great I AM loves you
@gabimthombothi46042 жыл бұрын
Yes its good to get involved in the finances even if you not contribution so that you are aware of where the money goes and what costs what. It also helps to not drain the breadwinner in expectations
@mpumemazibuko33072 жыл бұрын
I love this so much and I can relate to Phetola’s journey in marriage. Ngathi you can organize a married women’s conference so much wisdom shared🌸
@temasrapz2212 жыл бұрын
Even for us the single women please... Preparation Preparation and more Preparation @Mpume
@anitamhlongo44432 жыл бұрын
Becareful ladies as well... Transparency is everything, know his financial position before you invest in him, because you will use all your resources with a marry go round person... Some men who are "starting up or businessmen" are parasites and users especially in Johannesburg...🌺🌸💐
@simphiwemunyaka47682 жыл бұрын
Love this! much needed talk! Real Relevant issues! Thank you so much ladies for the bravery and wisdom to address it!
@tarirokambeu59072 жыл бұрын
I enjoyed this conversation! Thank you ladies for this offering!
@MsRebekahofYHWH2 жыл бұрын
Phetola is so matured.... thanks for the nuggets ladies 💞
@HerHighness1602 жыл бұрын
Argh I love you ladies. 🥺🤲❤ Phetola's transparency 🙌🔥😭
@OscarineMlisana2 жыл бұрын
Mrs Makhs you are my fav ❤️and you are with another Of my fav Mrs Makhubo❤️🇬🇧
@mrspboledi2 жыл бұрын
Absolutely excited for this, I love love Phetola and how wise she is🥰🥰🥰🥰
@nothandomthembu59982 жыл бұрын
Really enjoyed this. It was very real, open and honest. As someone who is having their eyes open to the possibility of getting married, I truly appreciate such conversations.
@fearless01222 жыл бұрын
This collab is everything 🥺🔥🔥 so much wisdom from Phetola 🥰🥰
@antoniajohnson72842 жыл бұрын
I truly enjoy this videos!! so much you can learn, the transparency and authenticity
@asamtakati40342 жыл бұрын
Mrs Makhs in the building 😀
@nondumisosibiya78972 жыл бұрын
The definition of joy is your two favorite youtubers together
@siyandamdluli40602 жыл бұрын
I truly enjoyed this conversation. I really loved the authenticity and openness. Thank you ladies.
@misskhanyisa_m83612 жыл бұрын
This was such a great segment! My husband kept asking who are these wise ladies. You raised great pointers😊😊
@lethabomahwayi59412 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for the conversation ladies. Very informative! I wish you could do more of these. You are both amazing ❤
@LETSOALO_LIFEest20132 жыл бұрын
Mara Phetola.... you responded so well shame. God is working through the Makhs. Thank you for this Buli
@alungilesomtsewu77822 жыл бұрын
argh man this is so beautiful, my favs in one space... I LOVE IT
@KarabotheMillenial2 жыл бұрын
This was such an informative and enlightening conversation♥️ Appreciate the honesty. It's so good when two people who love eachother also put effort to make things work
@delisilemashabane19702 жыл бұрын
My two favorite women! Thoroughly enjoyed this episode. The wise and gracious words. ♥️♥️ should look into having part 2
@Nthaby_2pa2 жыл бұрын
I’ve been waiting. I am so happy. I can’t wait to watch this
@katlegopooe2892 жыл бұрын
Thank you ladies for such an insightful conversation and for being real. I am looking forward to marriage and knowing how realistic you have to be in what you want and what kind vision you want to achieve is so important.
@JuliaSakman2 жыл бұрын
I'm not even done watching but I've already learned so much. Loving this wholesome conversation❤️
@pfanomukhodobwane16662 жыл бұрын
Marrying a potential can go either way but I think it was easier for them coz they were young. I don't recommend anyone marrying a potential in their 30s.
@BuliMakhubo2 жыл бұрын
Right ! It honestly seems like a gamble. It either goes really well or really bad
@ZieannaTheElephant2 жыл бұрын
At Pfano Mukhodobwa l definately agree with you
@pemelamatjekane38302 жыл бұрын
Potential that doesn't work towards the end goal....
@naledibuthelezi84362 жыл бұрын
You 2 KILLED this conversation.So real and informative.Thank you.
@wewemhlaba75932 жыл бұрын
Mrs Makhetha😍😍I just loooove her...Thanks for this Buls love you lots
@bonginodoba75512 жыл бұрын
Thank you, Queens!!! I've been waiting for this collab.
@hazelelizabeth88812 жыл бұрын
What a brilliant conversation 👏 👌 🙌 I loved this can we have more of these ladies talk
@thutompho98832 жыл бұрын
This was such a great conversation, Thank you ladies🙂🙂
@mrsmakhonjwa10582 жыл бұрын
Thank ladies for sharing your experiences, and am so grateful because am currently going through that and am motivated and I surely know that it will come to pass.
@thembakazi_n2 жыл бұрын
Really loved and enjoyed this topic so much. Thank you ladies for being open and genuine.
@ntsakomavunda90182 жыл бұрын
Such a real talk.....thanks Ladies for sharing this with us!!
@feliciangoveni11772 жыл бұрын
Iam here for the dream team... Beautiful and informative talk ladies. Love you both ❤️
@onenkosisimilemkize31912 жыл бұрын
My favorite ladies!!! ❤️ Thank you for this conversation.
@desledwaba22152 жыл бұрын
Been waiting for this video ❤️❤️❤️ Beautiful ladies 😍😍
@Samantha-bc2uu2 жыл бұрын
DreamTeam I am here for the collabs, keep them coming fav💃💃💃💃💃
@mologadihazellegodi86262 жыл бұрын
Loved everything about this video, you guys touched on very important Points. As a single person I really appreciate these talks. Thank you sistaz♥️♥️♥️♥️
@KamogeloB2 жыл бұрын
Dream Team OG signing the register
@roselineuiras86032 жыл бұрын
So much information, and such an eye opener. Thank you.
@theepicfour19222 жыл бұрын
i personal love an enjoy conversations where i can gain and grow when i listen to. Thank you Ladies and love you.
@thoriso67982 жыл бұрын
Thank you Phetolo for sharing this.. Thoroughly enjoyed it..And it's amazing to see your personal and marriage growth..
@reoikantseshuping92692 жыл бұрын
Finally ❤ I have been waiting Yooooo sisters this so profound like I have no words🙌🙌 May the Almighty continue to bless you tlhe ❤❤❤❤
@snazzy4432 жыл бұрын
Beautiful conversation Buli, I love how you just gel with your guests. I didn't want it to end, Mrs Makhs is a phenomenal woman. Thanks ladies ❤️
@sunflowerpalee2 жыл бұрын
Unconditional love is what this video was all about...I love it