I'm so sorry to hear that Ate Irene. Aaron is such a loving, kind and a sweet boy. He doesn't deserve that!!! But at the same time I'm so proud of you for telling this story and telling to people na sabihin how they truly feel and ano talaga ang maeexpect nila dito sa Finland (as an example). Kainis Ang mga bullies in real life man or online!!!!!!!!

Thanks for the English translations. I feel like you are a nice person. In life sometimes bad things can happen to good people even if it's not fair. I feel so sorry for your kid :( I hope he will be fine with your love and care. You are very brave to speak and take action. as a Sri Lankan who lives in Finland I should say this video and your experiences help others. in Buddhism we say, that is bad karma when a person does something bad to other people intentionally.

Very heartbreaking when our child gets bullied... You took the appropriate step to stop bullying... I was also bullied way back in high school... Sending hugs... Take care...

I’m proud of you for standing up for what is right

I think 2nd time ko naka watch na Filipina binully sa Finland. Good that both of you stand for yourself and for your kid. The other Pinay nag email directly sa company. Pinababa siya ng driver for no reason pinahiya in front of other passengers. After that incident she emailed the company not expecting would react but in positive ways. To make it short the driver fired and it was because of email send to them

Hugss mommy.. ❤❤salamat sa info.. now kailangan mas aware tayo sa mga bata kapag dinadala sa day care..

Bullying is NEVER OK! It needs to be brought out in the open. If you remain silent, you are part of the problem. You did the right thing to bring this issue up. If it happens in school, this issue needs to be escalated. This is to protect the bullied from the bully. As a parent, you have the right to monitor and protect the child from the aggressor. There’s also an effect on the bullied…the trauma, the stigma of the bullied. Support is needed for the bullied.

So sad to hear about what happened to your kid irene. Hope he is fine now. Indeed, bully is anywhere. Kaya ingat at magpakalakas tau. Keep safe and praying for your family. 🙏

That's good you share that thing because we need to observe and be curious about it.yes action is to be done.God bless and be observant about it.

I feel so sad and sorry to hear this happened to you and your son. I'm glad you took action. Children need adults to protect them and ask about their day / encourage honest discussion. As a kid I was ashamed to talk about bullying to my parents. They had no idea. Also you showcased so much bravery by standing up to your boss and handling it maturely unlike her. She may not have wanted to listen but it is what she needed to hear and I'm sure it made her think. Good to hear the management took it seriously. You inspire me to stand up for myself too. As a Finn I can say unfortunately abuse in the work place, schools and social care is not uncommon here. People are cruel. It happens to white Finns too (both me and my bf have experienced bullying at work) but I know there is racism. There are people and companies here who will try to take advantage of and mistreat you due to race, culture, stereotypes or simply you being new to the language, services and laws here. You need to be vigilant. Make sure they pay you properly and you aren't overworked. (They think they can fool foreign workers) I recommend joining a trade union if you haven't already. They can help and defend you. You have rights as a worker here. I hope you and your son will be safe and won't encounter bullying in the future. ❤

Salamat mam Irene sa pagshshare mo ng vanitong content about family.. marami po kayo natutulungan mam. Many Thanks

I feel you Ms Irene, I’m a mother too. Sending hugs

Yes we must speak out if being bullied, dont be scared of others might think. Seek help from everywhere, there will be somebody willing to listen and help.

Ang sakit sa dibdib 💔💔💔 Huggsss to Aaron at sa iyo. Korek! Bullying and microagression should not be tolerated.

Amping kabayan ❤❤❤

Feel sorry for your son's experience. Bullying is really unacceptable in any ways weather you're an adult or child. It affects the person's mental health. Its a trauma that is not easy to cure. I salute you for speaking up the management of daycare and what you have experienced on your previous work. Mahirap lang dn talaga kalabanin lalo pag superior mo sa work. It will really affect you (unless sobrang manhid kang tao and you dont care at all). Thanks for this awareness. God bless your son, hope he's doing ok now.

Grabeh yong snow dyan sis. Bullying is everywhere. God bless

Sending hugs to you and aaron.❤️❤️❤️

Aww,,🥺 kawawa naman si Aaron,ang sweet pa naman nya,But I admire you kung paano mo na handle Mis Irene. Sending love ❤

Korek ka kabayan👍👍👍dapat bigyan ng pansin yang nanbbulying mga taong tahimik⚘⚘⚘bigyan sila ng parusa para dina sila paulit ulit..always take care and God bless🙏

Hi maam Irene this is very helpful atleast magiging aware at sensitive kami sa mga anak namin sa nangyayari s school..i feel you masakit talaga sa magulang yun 😭

Yes po. Sorry to hear that Madame. May bullying problems daw po dyan. :(

We have to always ask our kids what happen to their day not only answerable by yes or no but let them verbalize what they did and what happen to them Its good that your kids is honest because not all kids will do the same

Salamat sa pag share maam Irene. It’s very painful para sa ating mga parents ang ganitong situation..😢..buti na lng po open at nag se-share si Aaron ..

Ohh noo.. naiyak namn ako sa ginawa nila sa anak mo, but i am glad that your Child is very open to tell you , that is true you have to believe what your child tells you..

I have this kind of situation din po dito sa work ko sa finland. I stood up for myself din and hopefully maresolve nadin. Still on the process pa sa solution pero I'm hoping na maging ok na lahat and magka peace of mind na ko. Thank you for this vlog.

Hi ms irene...Nakakalungkot talaga na may mga ganyan na pangyayari pero continue to observe at ipadouble bantay padin sa daycare center until na maging ok si baby Aaron.I feel you po Ms. Irene kasi nga sa ganyan na age is makakaexperience sya ng ganyan.May.Allah bless your fam.

Hi Ms Irene and family,, So sorry to hear abt these Hopefully it will never ever happened this again to ur son.

I’m an overseas- trained Registered Nurse. Bullying should not be tolerated regardless if you are a child or an adult. You have done a good job for escalating your child’s issues. The other option is to move the bullies to another group. I will do the same thing if that incompetent Nurse Manager does the same thing to me. Your relationship with your colleagues are professional and I’m glad you put yourself on higher level by telling your manager about her unprofessional behavior. Never allow anyone to bully and intimidate us. Be assertive to speak up!

Hi! You need to speak about bullying to your child's TEACHER, talking in KZfaq is no official way to speak with them! If you can't speak Finnish, write a letter in English. Please do like this, teachers have a right to make a situation better! I hope you can do this, and take some of your finnish-speaking friend with you. 💕

Thanks for sharing ading. I really feel you.. Its gives me relief that this issue is brought up, and talk about... #Stop BULLYING, hug and kisses to you and Aaron 😔😢

Even in the Philippines, Bullying sometimes do occur. Only in workplaces that is neglectful. You really have to confront and give suspensions as well as lessons to these Bullies. They created fear to your Son. You're right that we need to be attentive and responsive to your Son's complaints. We should not sit back and leave things unattended. Can't the Teachers fail to see their students of what they're doing? They're just catering a handful of students compared here in our country that we are attending 70+ Students? Haven't they guarded and seen what is happening? They would be too stupid if they cannot see what's going on in a very close range of observing their student's behavior. How neglectful and complacent of them if that's the case! So frustrating though.

i really don't know why there's such people who do that...Johannes is also a victim of bullying, i alao talked to the right peraon...You did a good job ading ko of being calm & talking to the concerned people., i really appreciate you on how you handle things...pls hug me to Aaron & Emine, regards to Tope as well...I hope & i pray that bullying should stop...see you soon ading😘😘😘

Wow... I was honestly more shocked about the story about head nurse, the way that she treated you was just so wildly inappropriate and odd. Kids are kids, they will naturally be rude and hurtful sometimes, and the important thing is that it is noticed and fixed quickly, which thankfully you did! But your adult boss bullying you at the workplace is just inexcusable. So glad you stood up for yourself.

Aaron did not deserve that. He will be stronger as he grows. Those bullies should be punished!

It is absolutely heartbreaking to hear about your story Irene. You were so brave to stand up for your family and yourself, and handled both situations with dignity and professionalism. I commend you ❤ In my personal opinion, it was not simple bullying in both incidents, in daycare and at your job. It was racist. That head nurse would never have shouted at another fellow white-skin person, Finn or not. And the daycare’s preach of “no tolerance on bullying” would have been much more effective on their own white children. They would immediately notice if a group of coloured children started surrounding a white one. Even now after having talked to those children’s parents and stopped the bully, does it actually mean happiness and welcoming towards our coloured children? It can still blatantly continue in the forms of social isolation and depletion of opportunities in life. But at least we stand by each other in this country. Be strong my sister ❤❤❤ Sending you guys love from Vakka-Suomi.

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May mga Filipino na naniniwala na were lesser human beings and that we should just accept injustices as is... I'm just glad your son is brave enough to ask for help and that you're the kind of person your son could talk to. ETA: Isa rin yan sa reason kaya tinigil ko muna pursuit ko ng Finland... yung reaksyon ng ibang applicant dun sa pranka kong tanong sa teacher.

Grabe, yung pinagdaanan mo sa work place mo. i salute your courage to face it. Plus the fact pati anak mo naranasan ito. I’m sorry to hear that.

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Sorry to hear na naranasan yan ng anak mo. Ramdam ko yung pag aalala ko sa sarili ko at sa pamilya ko pag punta namin dyan. Paano yung anak ko pag nag aral na, ako sa work, makakaranas padin ba ako ng racism sa Finland kagaya ng naranasan ko sa mga katrabaho kong amerikano nuon. I guess, hindi talaga mawawala yang bullying at makasalamuha sa malolokong tao kahit saang lugar ka man mapunta, kelangan nalang natin siguro turuan pamilya natin mag respond ng tama bilang matinong tao sa mga ganyang sitwasyon. Salamat sa pag open nito saamin atleast alam ko yung eexpect ko once maka lipat kami dyan ng pamilya ko. Bilang magulang ramdam ko yung lungkot na nararanasan mo. Keep safe always sayo at sa family mo ma'am Irene. Nähdään pian.

Sending hugs ma'am Irene. Sana Hindi na maranasan Uli ni Aaron ang ganyan.

I felt Aaron's feeling because I also experienced being bullied at my school before. Naranasan ko ma sambunotan at pinagtutulongan ng mga kaklase😭💔

Bravo. 💜

Same experienced with our us in Up state NY my son in kindergarten doesn’t want to back to school because he was scared with his teachers blue eyes but we knew she scolded my son being the only Asian in the class and for sure it takes time for him to follow

nabully rin ang panganay na anak ko once. Sobrang sakit kasi wala syang laban. yung bunsong anak ko ang nagsumbong .. Iniyak ko rin un at nireport ng husband ko sa school. after nun nakabantay na ung mga teachers sa anak ko..sana di na maulit 😢😢

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Ate Irene, naiyak ako para sa anak mo ang sakit pag ganun. Lalo na sa malalayo magulang. Mabuti Ate Irene nagsabi ang anak mo sayo.

I feel you :( hugs mommy irene

Praying ate Irene

Kahit saan may bullying...mayroon din yan sa pinas...experienced ko rin noong maliit pa ako...😢...kahit ng dito na ako sa Korea...ang mga anak ko ganun din kahit ako...naka experience din sa work 😢

Ate Irene tama ka, tayo pilipino at tao lang tayo may pakiramdam din tayo.

Hala sis grabe yon ah kung sa akin yan ewan ko lng.anak ko paglabas palang päiväkoti tinatanong ko na kung ano kinakain nila ,ano ginagawa nila,kung sino kalaro niya kung pinagsalitaan ba siya ng masama ng mga hoitaja doon ,kung mabait ba siya d ba siya nang away.tapos sinasabi ko lgi na kung may nang away sa kanya kung may nang away sabihin niya sa nagbantay nila or sabihin sa akin tapos sabi ko pag awayin siya ok lng 1x pero pag 2x labanan niya na basta huwag lng siya manguna.sinabihan ko sila doon na sabihin sa akin agad kung mang away anak ko kaya sanay na mga anak ko araw araw dpa ako nakapag salita inonahan na nila ako.importante talaga yung communication para malaman natin kung may problema ba anak natin.ask mo lagi anak mo sis para malaman mo kung binubully pa ba siya or mabuti lipat mo iba päiväkoti.

Wag komprontahin ang mga bullies "directly" kasi babansagan snitch yung vicitm. Dapat ang makausap dun sa mga batang bully e yung mga magulang mismo nila. Ang tamang linya na dapat nilang sabihin ay "Nakita kita may sinasaktan kang bata, can you explain bakit mo ginagawa yun?" Kasi kung yung magulang mismo ng nabully kokompronta, mas lalo lang ibubully yung victim kapag wala na nagoobserve.

ang Anak ko noon , we thought him to fight back if someone hits him, he should try to push back, then when the Teacher notice na nagpush back, tinawagan kaagad kami, sabi namn sa guro, tinuruan namin ang anak namin na lumaban , tinuruan namin shiyang huag magbully, na huag start ang gulo, that is why we dont beleieve our child started it.., gayon pa man sinabi namin na kauapin namin ang anak namin, tthen it came to true na palagi daw shiyang itinutulak ng batang yon, so naubusan na raw shiya ng pasenshiya.. so we got back to the teacher and supported our child's account, they need to balance the situation, and observe, meron talaga batang start pa lang sa kamuamusan, magbully na.. and sometimes it is caused by the situation at their homes..and I am glad that you voiced it out to your bosses, well done Ading ko..sometimes we have to give ourselves some strength by fighting back..

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Wether we like it or not ma bubully at mabubully tayo sa ibang bansa at may discrimination parin kasi dayo lng tayo and they are very curious about our skins amd faces kasi hindi naman tayo kalahi nila., its sad but true., im not saying all are like them kahit saan bansa kahit pinas pag may dumayo paguusapan yung iba ayaw iba lahi na sasapawan sa trabaho.,. pag nag migrate tayo iba bansa kailangan natin makisama at syempre hindi parin natin ei totolerate na ma bully kasi it will cause to a person a mental stress, deppression and for suicidal... expect that to happen always., but be strong to your son., i hope theres a asian school out there transfer him instead or if not encourage him to be brave and strong..,😊😊💪💪💪

Hi. Kau2we klng gling duty. Npanuod ko vlog mo. Narana San ng anak ko bullying n yn. Elementary. Ang ginawa ko. On spot confrontation sa harap ng guidance councilor sa scol. Lutas agad. Hwag mong ptagalan yn kc pra di la2la. Sa work nman. Be vigilant nandyn tlga yn mga kunti prob. Bsta nsa Tama k ipag Laban mo. All of this lesson learn. Pareho tyo. Ako pg gling. Maiyak ako. Pra mailabas ko feeling ko. It's o. K. U cry. To release ur emotion. Tanx for sharing ur xperience

There is good bullying and there is bad and there is over reaction. Yes the bad one we need to get rid of(I have seen this and yes its bad when they target the same person every day, girls really choses their targets for life while boys picks the loudest victim to make it squeal more), the good bullying teaches you how to behave in a group(sometimes 2 boys fighting also is a positive thing like siblings usually fight but that teaches em both how to live together and usually one sibling is stronger). For the over reaction part, parents react to a thing like that in a way a that is faar fron neutral. In daycare there was a boy that spoke Fin and I spoke Swe, one day he kicked my arm out of place and if I rember correct it was because he didn't understand me and got an lightbulb idea to kick me(I have talked with him as an adult and he did not feel any need to kick me). There was another boy there too and we never got along, still now 40+ years later we do not get along but we do share friends still. When I first started in school, we did fight a lot about stpd things and yes some times someone got targetted by everyone but when we were at 4th grade there was no more fighting between us boys and we all were more like a group. So the balance between boys finding their place and bullying is hard to see some times. Then 2 boys from another country joined our school and we even gathered money to buy em stuff, one of the guys was probably used to being the "boss" so when he didn't understand or we didnt do as he wanted he went to fighting he picked on the smaller kids and everyone just tried to ignore him. One day we had enough and he got beaten a bit so then the school forced us boys to sit every day 1 hour after school so that the poor bully would dare to walk home without getting bullied(funny thing how he turned it around). At 7th grade we changed to another building and that other guy that moved at the same time here was 1 year older so he followed there with us. I had never spoken to that guy before but somehow we ended up playing chess like 2 times a week for 1 year until that "boss" boy moved to our building and all hell was lose again us being the Bullys and him being the victim until he went a beat a young kid and the older boys showed him how its done. When I was around 19 we had a boy(17) in school, the first thing his classmates told me when I moved there and had to work with him was "Don't hit him then, he is a bit special". So we all tiptoed around him being an insulting a$$ even saying that he felt bullied if someone got angry and said a few well spoken words back. Yes everyone should be allowed to be themselves but about 10 years later when I met him again at a childs birthday party the room he sat in everyone else avoided. So I wonder if someone would have "showed him they way"as he was growing up would have teached him to accept that other people have other views and not been avoided as an adult. Its a small town that I come from and still today when I go there I can hear complains about him for being soo damn "himself". Hes smart as fck so no hes not a special boy in that regard just full of views of the world that most dont share and unable to look at thinks from other angles than his own. Like he even as an adult has said he was bullied when he is still an a$$ and more of a bully himself because he can really say awful stuff to people. I'm not saying that all bullying is good or all is bad, just that even if it looks bad it can be good and even if it looks good it can be bad. Maybe bullying is always bad and we have included things that ain't really bullying to it. I will not tell the story of the kids that got really bullied because theres personal stuff I know because they trusted me or someone that trusts me but I can tell you its not good and I can say nothing was done to stop it because the bullies parents were respectable people and their kids were so pure.

Ate, I feel sad about what happened to Aaron 😢 Mabuti at nasabi niya sayo na sinasaktan sya ng ibang kids. Hope they would do something about bullying in that daycare

We are too timid and shy

Ano cause po kaya ng bullying, sa race? Sa language? Planning to get my family papunta dto FI. Iniisip ko kc ung language barrier at adjustment ng kids. Thank you

Nurse Irene u have to monitor the situation, same yan dun sa case sa korea yung mga kaibigan nya mesmo nambully sa kanya,pero walang paki ang mga teacher.. Ingat.

Worried dn ako ky Joni đi pa nag sasalita 😢

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Hello my dear kabayan👍👍👍tama ka na dapat tayoy magsalita👏👏👏⚘⚘watching here in israel to sending you support😘😘😘ang bago mong Fren nakapasok sa bahay mo Si AMIGAS⚘⚘⚘THANKS FOR SHARING YOUR STORY IN THIS VIDEO👍👍👍

same reaction mommy ,magagalit din ako pag ganyan...

When my daughter was bullied in school, i was there the next day even bwfore classes started, if i will not stand for my daughter who will? I always encourage my kids to tell me everything, because i don't want them to suffer on their own.

But we went right away and told her teacher so he made it thru

if you already reported it and nothing happens maybe you need to transfer him to other school..

Uwi na lang kayo sa Pinas dito masaya pa kayo makakapamuhay.

🫂i hope that will never happen again Ms Irene 🙏🏻🥺

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Hello po sending hugs to you po 🫂 may bespren po ako krrting lng rn po diyan.. sna maging okay sla jan fight fight lng😢

Until now binubully parin ako😅 lalo na ng kapitbahay naming matatanda na, walang magawa sa buhay kundi ang mangbully, kaya isa sila sa ginagawa kong inspirasyon para magpursigi sa buhay🥲 Soon makaka abroad din ako❤

ipagdasal mo ni god ang lahat kasi pariha tayo ang karanasan ang mga anak ko ganyan din pero ngayon hindi na tinuroan kunang lektion dinala ko ang mga bulliyeng sa prensipal

Nakakalungkot naman mga pangyayari na yan.sana ilipat una lang ng school kase malaking factor ang impact sa baby mo nyan po

Magtanong lang po. Paano makapunta ng finland . From bahrain po

Bigla ako natakot para sa anak ko sis, lalo hindi makapagsalita ng finnish anak ko. Minsan sinasabi nya na ayaw na nya pumasok sa school. Kakalipat lang namin dito nung September 2022. Masakit talaga na malaman mong sinasaktan anak mo gayong tayo hindi natin sila masaktan.

Na sad nmn aq…. Buti nlng po sinabe ni Aaron sau.

Pray for wisdom and guidance.

im not a bully and doesn't bully before noong bata ako, pero takot nila akong e bully, kasi bukol bukol sila, kaya ganyan din itinatanim ko sa mga anak ko, wag bully pero pag na bully? banatan nyo na....well im a father eh 😊

Pag bulling marinig ko madam sometimes mawalan karin ng respito sa iba.deep inside nasasaktan kna eh.

I enrolled my son to taekwondo to gain more confidence

hi Ms. irene..

Aw😌poor boy. Aaron is a smart boy Miss Irene. He knows how to handle the situation in that age naisip niya magsabi sayo hindi yong malaman mo na lng nakipag away na siya sa school. You're such a good mother to him🙂 at sa case mo so sad 😔 d maiwasan talaga ang importante you know how to handle situations like that, kalma kung kalma pero kung sobra na need mo na din talaga lumaban pero kung likas na mabait ka din talaga iiyak na lng at mag dasal 🙂 take care always Ms Irene 💪🙏🏼

SARCASTIC YANG MGA FINNISH AT LALO NA SA MGA LAHAT NA MAYAYAMANG BANSA..KUNG SILA PIPILIIN AYAW NILA SA PILIPINAS NO CHOICE SILA NEEDS NILA NG WORKERS 😆..KAYA MGA PINOY TRABAHO LANG WAG NA KAYONG MAG STARIRAY O MAKIPAG CLOSE. TRABAHO LANG.. MAG STAY KAYO SA LAYUNIN

Send your kid in a self defence training like karate! 👍

Ate Iren

OFWs should be open to different and even harmful environments as a consequence of staying, working in a country that is not yours.

Hi madam! Been following your vids, Nakaka inspired po kasi. Madam nag apply po ako sa silkroad, nkapag download nadn ako ng studykit and consent form. Ask ko po sana madam ano po next kasi nkarecieve na po ako ng email yung jotform po.

Sorry to hear that, Finland is considered as a good country, but it's not totally true. Almost everyone has to go through the bullying #&@" in school. I don't know why these people who see the problem, wont do anything about it.. Bullying will always continue here in Finland, sad but true. You have to be a bully to gain respect. Same stuff happens also among adults, people in Finland are often times really childish and rude, like the bully's. Even the elderly does it.. "Happiest people".. yeah right :)) I hope your son will step up, that's the only way to get rid of bullying here basically..

I feel u ate..ganyan din nangyayare sa anak ko😥

Hi po mam irene ...

That is an insult to your Boss to confront her. She has an malfunctioned ego of taking it against you. Always stand up and clear things to the person who have hated you. Usually Bullies strikes to people whom they see as weak and looks at them as stupid. It's a wise thing to confront her and your Son's Bullies. Always look out for his everyday struggles and complaints. This is survival of the fittest. Use the quiet and not the combative way. But if it got worse, do the appropriate action immediately. ✊👊

Big hug po 🫂

That's is effect of democracy

finnish kids po ba yung mga nambubully mam?

Maam mg ka kilala b kayo ni karya..

mahirap daw makakaroon ng kaibigan sa finland.. why not lipat ibang bansa na may worth na respeto sa pilipino?