The woman in the middle is CRAZY BEAUTIFUL. Damn it's unfair.

Let’s not complicate things .... When you love someone you don’t intentionally hurt them .

This is one of those topics men should have answered on have been on the panel.

Each lady looks really cute, but the lady in the middle is stunning. You go girl . . . It’s nice to see beautiful women not busting verbs and using bad grammar. Very refreshing. . . 🌸

If you cheat, you are automatically telling me that you do not respect, love, or deserve me. Actions speak louder than words and cheating would be the end of the relationship, no amount of ," Baby I love you" would work.

NO... If he cheats he doesn't love you and he ain't loyal. Loyalty is everything. I have no time for that. I'd rather be lonely.

1:40 Thats not a Black thing...wtf is she talking about? I hate when people do that, group all Black people together based on the Blacks they personally know and bcus of their lack of exposure to other cultures

I don't think it matters whether a man thinks/says he loves you. What matters is whether cheating is part of the way that you want to be loved. Personally I don't want to be loved by a person, I can not trust to be loyal to me. There are many ways to love a person and we have a choice what type of love we hold on to.

No they don't love those they cheat on. If women cheated on men they would leave them with a quickness. Why is this a debate?

Cheating just means that you are physically/sexually attracted to someone else, but you are not honest/brave enough to share that information with your spouse or significant other.

That woman in the middle is stunning...LORD HAVE MERCY. My heart skipped a beat when I saw her!

Cheating is always an interesting topic of conversation, but we will never get to the bottom line as to why men or women cheats because they're always so many different factors whether you are satisfied in your personal relationship or not...But all three of y'all black women are beautiful to the eyes so it makes listening to you all commentary even more appealing

A man will only do what the woman allows him to do 🤦🏽‍♂️ if he feels he can cheat and you won't leave then he's going to do just that 👀if he knows you don't play that shyt he will keep it in his pants😡... listen ladies don't put your health in danger trying to keep your man. 🤦🏽‍♂️🤦🏽‍♂️🤦🏽‍♂️🤦🏽‍♂️🤦🏽‍♂️👎🏽👎🏽👎🏽👎🏽 Btw,,, he has zero respect for you and the relationship... 😧

Just leave the relationship rather than cheat because your mate doesn't deserve to be hurt by you.

Also for the men in the comments pointing out no men on this discussion. The show is titled, Listen to BLACK WOMEN. If you would like you too can create a channel geared toward men empowerment, change and social topics and title it listen to BLACK MEN. Bye!

Women built up a resistance to it while men have ignored and not faced it!

A lot of sisters go after rappers, athletes, and entertainers then be surprised when they cheat lol

When a partner cheats after saying, " I Love You," and their partner takes them back, it changes from a love relarionship to a toxic relationship. This new defined relationship is now filled with manipulation for the woman, who keeps on compromising her worth by taking him back. The man on the other hand, is emasculated when he keeps on allowing a female to strip him of his manhood, by making him feeling inadequate. The way I see it, that cheating partner, whether male, or female needed to be honest in the first place about their sex addiction, or mental problem. Sometimes that cheater has their own secret fight with a void of never ever feeling loved, no matter who comes along. As a result, they need to do some introspection and find out who in their past, or childhood made them fear being vulnerable enough to give and receive love. It's a deep rooted problem. Bottomline, hurt people, hurt people, so they need to heal before getting others involved. PERIOD.

That melanin in dusty pink. 🗣

People don't want 100% honesty society will collapse

Cheating ain't cut and dry like that. And if those guys never admitted to the census to cheating, women still would think we were all cheating

To answer the question simply, NO! if a person truly loves you they will not cheat. Often times people step out and cheat because of fear...fear of self, the future or their past coming back to haunt them. A profession of love is one thing to soothe the person’s ego while they go out and actively cheat. I think what people fail to realize is that there’s self discipline required in a relationship that you should have because there’s temptation EVERYWHERE! and just because something looks good doesn’t mean that it’s good for you! Fear is not in love and if you feel like you have the propensity to cheat let your partner know and let him or her move past you since you’re blocking them from their blessing. Okuuuuuuurt.

Wow. You ladies look stunning. That's all.

Yes a man can LOVE and cheat it a choice to remain and has nothing to do with LOVE in my opinion.

I think there's a serious issue if there is cheating within a Serious Relationship... Communication is definitely the key, so communicate before you think of cheating. Looking Great Ladies 😍

There’s levels to love and it can shift like seasons, but it’s all love. Today you may be head over heels with your lover, can’t get enough of them. And another moment in y’alls relationship, you may love them, but not as into them. Heck sometimes tired of them, but you still love them. That’s the difference between being IN Love with them, and Just loving them as your partner. Making it easier to cheat, in my opinion. It’s levels and shifts. ✨

These woman are beautiful...All different tones! #BlackBeauty...

"They cheat with what they ACTUALLY deserve". This is so on point!

Loving the hair Keyaira 😍❤️🔥

The sad thing is everything being said, works both ways. Cheating is not gender bias nor is emotions and feelings.

I love Africa's whole look! Hair, sweater, everything. She looks so cute! ^^ Also I believe it's complicated and depends on the circumstances of the people involved. A man cheating once, being open and remorseful about it and actively working to be a better person and partner moving forward might love his partner but have some issues with himself that he needs to work out... and other men (and people in general) are just serial cheaters who enjoy deception and the power or fantasy. Now... in no situation is their partner required to be understanding and forgive them, cheating can really hurt a person so regardless of the reason I think it'd just be a lot better to avoid doing it.

It all boils down to men practicing and WANTING to learn self discipline and control. Most will always be turned on and curious about other women but knowing how to suppress that and put it into your woman is key. Learning to just smile and walk away is so key.. Its not worth losing your relationship or family and etc over lacking self control.

We don't cheat , we got codes & black woman are beautiful 😍😍 specially the one in the middle hmu!! 😋

Black men don’t cheat it’s a science thing .

First of all, KEYAIRA, SUSSSSSS YOU LOOK STUNNINGGGGGG in that baby pink!! Whaaaaaat.

Came here for the girl w/ natural hair in dress😍

We treat the things we love poorly every day. So yes it’s possible to love someone and cheat. You won’t cheat on someone you’re loyal to! Love isn’t enough

love this conversation, the tv show, and you girls. Great job

Love Kiarra hair!🥰 I believe in open relationships 🤓

Yes he can. Cheating for a man is physical not mental. However for a female cheating is different because she loses all emotions and respect for a man by the time she cheats. Nevertheless cheating is wrong

The answer is hell no. Ms Africa hit the nail on the head each time she spoke

How can you cheat on someone you love and respect? You wouldn’t wanna hurt your partner so to me, cheating is a weakness and lack of self-discipline. Any guy who’s cheated on me, the relationship is over no excuses!

how is this even a question when yall cheat more than we do??? rich black men cheat because all of you throw yourselves at them. NORMAL black men dont get as many offers and thus cheating is not as favorable as staying home and playing 2k

Yes because us men can compartmentalize between the emotional and physical aspects of sex ,when we cheat we don't want to "BE" with her we just wanted to be with her ...not justifying jus stating facts...men cheat,women have affairs...big difference because affairs involves the heart💯

Naw, love is unconditional! Love is loving someone, regardless of how you feel you should be loved back. Now, you can choose to love that person from a distance if you feel you are putting out more than you are receiving. ✨

You ladies all look beautiful but Keyaira! Lord, you look delicious! Much love sisters. Keep up the good work.

Short answer is yes because we like having sex with multiple women and can separate sex and love. Monogamy is a CHOICE a man makes for whatever reason he has.

"Can a man really love you and cheat", but ask women?!?! Seems to make more sense to ask the man if he can love a person and cheat.

Men are not meant to be monogamous! If not for the social norms..we would have been running wild. We men have been holding back our urges and natural instinct to sow seed everywhere.

When I eventually found out my ex husband was cheating. I filled for a divorce but made every effort to get us both into counseling. He denied the current cheating relationship to the end, looked at the divorce as me getting revenge but refused to enter counseling. He eventually said he didn't want counseling, he wanted to be alone, and he loved me but was not in love with me. He later got married to the same woman he denied being with and had a child with her in the early stages of the divorce process. After the divorce I confirmed my suspicions that he w was cheating all throughout the marriage by stories that came forward. If I was not satisfying he should have communicated this and sought ways for us to improve our relationship. He was not satisfying me and fulfilling my marital and family needs either but I didn't go out and cheat. Communication is key relationships can be mended if the two people commit to work on it.

Love is an ACTION word. There is a difference between having an emotional bond vs. loving someone. Too many people confuse strong emotional bonds with the action of loving. You cannot violate people and actively love them. Violating others is not a loving action. Cheating is a violation of trust, bond, and respect for yourself and significant other. Therefore, you cannot love someone and cheat (violate) them!

This is a tough topic, as someone mentioned it is for various reasons. I have known beautiful women inside and out to get cheated on. In my personal opinion do not get married if you are not ready and that includes in spirit and mind.

The answer is simply, yes.

Everyone looks great but I really love the curls of the lady in the middle. 👍🏽 ❤️

I feel like us as men we do love we but we seperate emotion from sex... i use to be a cheater and it took me a long time to self reflect on myself

Glorious Keyirah

True love comes from God and if a person Loves there wife/ husband/ spouse, fiance, they will not truly Cheat.

What she said at 8:40 is 100% how I feel

Cheating has nothing to do with the other person. It has to do with one's lack of self-image, self-esteem, self-respect and self-belief.

I’m sorry if you are cheating especially constantly cheating you obviously don’t know how to love what love is that’s not love at all

All 3 look stunning.. I really like shamika look a lot!!!

So, what do you do when words don't work, but you are slightly or very trapped by the circumstances of a relationship?

Is not Monogamy the working out of Life with your LIFE partner? Not at all excusing cheating, but the understanding that the partner you chose has the capability to do Good and Bad, that you must work it out with no matter the what. That’s why it’s important to choose the right piece to move across the board to win the game!

These girls are crazy. Love doesn't prevent people from cheating, its all about respect, your values and willpower.

Keyaira better serve in that rose quartz!

In addition to what I stated earlier, I realize that this discussion is about Black men cheating but let me state the obvious. Most men are not cheating with other men, they are doing so with other women. If more women stuck to an agreed upon cultural code of not cheating it would reduce the cheating considerably, but we all know we are no where near a consensus on that either. I'm not putting the blame on either gender I am just furthering the point one size fits all relationships never did work completely in the past and have far less chance of succeeding in the future. If you are still interested in this subject I suggest you read any book by Dr Ester Perell. She is the best researcher on the subject I have ever found.

How do you MATHMATICALLY explain the notion of men cheating so much than women? I mean, who are all these men cheating with? *Martians?*

So this 9 minute discussion is a nice little microcosm of the modern issues at hand. Most people say they want monogamy but I believe it is just a combination of a desire for security and cultural bias that perpetuates this idea generation after generation in America and most of the Western nations. To the point: we as a society don't actually believe in true monogamy. That being one man and one woman for life. We actually mean one person at a time when ever that time may begin be it at age 15 or age 35 or when ever Cupid hits us with the arrow of love and of course we make a whole hearted commitment. Not even these well meaning panelists can agree on what is truly okay and what isn't. Why is this? Because, human sexuality has never and can not be one size fits all no matter how convenient that would be for society. Should people cheat? No! But they do for hundreds of reasons not the least being the fact that a partner may not be capable of meeting all the needs of the other person. No one really wants to accept that but it's true often. There are no perfect people, there are no perfect marriages, there are no perfect sex partners. All of this sounds hopeless until we consider the real issues of honesty, forgiveness, what faithfulness really means and what it will cost each of us and most importantly what love is actually about.

Yes. Next question

I'm with Keyaira! How can one type of relationship fit the entire world? And when it comes to sex did you ladies know that women typically have had more sexual partners than men have had?

Im just here to say....YES!

Women just take it to the grave. And if you eventually catch them they will blame it on you.

All of the women are beautiful but the lady in the middle is really outstanding. She is classy and her smile is so natural.

Keyaira has spoken from a very mature lens on other topics, but I highly disagree with her victim blaming in this discussion. Both sides having their needs met IS very important in a relationship, but there is no excuse for transferring blame when it comes to cheating. You either honor your commitment by staying faithful with that person until the fulfillment is back, or you leave the relationship because your needs aren't being met- as you should. You don't get to choose to stay in the relationship, cheat, then blame the other person for your cheating. If I wasn't enough for you, you should have left or been honest about it so we could make improvements. I know someone in recovery for a physical injury; she'd be damned if her boyfriend tried to use her injury to blame her or justify hurting her and disrespecting their relationship. Only the people who are cheating together are to blame, full stop.

No! We have to stop tying hurt, betrayal and lies to love because that is not love nor is it what love is about! Cheating is a chose!

I think that romanticizing the idea of love is an American idealistic fantasy. Love is in spite of, not because of. Relationships are not ownership. Sex has very little to do with love as a man. Cheating has nothing to do with self-esteem. We really need to study the nature of a man without cultural influence. What's the biology of a man? If more men cheat than not, what does that say?

I don’t condone cheating.. but it’s never actually about the other person... but I’m also ethically non monogamous and I feel like not enough people talk about this as an alternative relationship model

Can a man love you and cheat? Maybe. A huge factor in the strength of a relationship is conflict management. As a man if I’m with you I expect a certain amount of goodwill and respect, and I’m committed to giving that. If we have an argument and you say or do something that shows me there is no respect or goodwill. That there is contempt or dislike. It changes the chemistry, bond, and relationship. You go from man she got my back to hmmmm she’s not happy or she don’t love me like that. So you come to grow distant. Cheating can happen with this as a premise. The love will still be there for the person he first got into the relationship with but the belief in her will be gone.

Yes,As human beings we tend to personalize things.Many times a partner can cheat and it has nothing to do with what you are doing in a relationship or not.Everyonevdoesnt have the same value systems.It isn't about necessarily how much they love you.Its about an individual s values.

If a woman cheated on a man he would never know , she takes the secret to the grave . The act itself is not meant to harm because it's done in secret hence the term "cheat" . Many love their partner but they feel something is missing within themselves that they can't compromise on.

This is a complex subject but in general cheating is usually a symptom that all is not well with one of the parties or the relationship as a whole . Having said that, I think that nothing could be more potentially more toxic and chaotic than the “ethical” non monogamous relationship model being proposed. It would most certainly worsen the situation

Cheating doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you. It’s not about you, but THEM.

Communication is key.

There is an easy answer for these questions. I have always tried to be the best person i could. Do on to others as done to me. That's fair. This has taught me that most mainstream dating people weather men or women are generally selfish and have nothing good planned for the other person. Just after what they them selves can get out of the situation. No one wants to do for anyone for fear of being used. We have HUGE persecution complexes.

Just because someone loves you doesn't mean they definitely should be sexually attracted to you. A man may not cheat but at the same time may not be sexually satisfied with you. Its always a blessing when someone loves you and he is sexually attracted to you at the same time. But love and sex are two different things. Love can be triggered by different things, being nice, polite, humble, caring, honest, etc. and so does sex. A man can love you and would lose the drive to want to be with you sexually by nagging at him all the time.

Only a year lol, women are amazing in so many ways.

Real men don't cheat. Real women don't forgive cheaters. Real men don't forgive cheaters. Real women don't cheat.

Yes indeed

Who are the men cheating with? We must also look at their partners and the women that allow this behavior to continue. Men a cheating with women that are not happy in their current situations and relationships. It’s time for everyone to be honest in the game. Men will do what a women allow them to do. Hold women just as as accountable.

I have said this on many occasions. Women know absolutely nothing about men because they ask other women about why men are the way they are. Than when men say woman have no logic, they get offended. Its logic that tells a man "dont ask a plumber about diamond clarity and carrot. This is one of the reasons women always get the short end of the stick when it comes to relationships. Great video tho... dont mean to sound like a chauvinist

In Today’s Society Promiscuity Is Being Promoted Through Mass Media Via Music, Movies, Tv Etc... & Due To This Many Ppl Both Men & Women Have Someone On “The Side”... & This Creates An Unhealthy Notion That All Ppl Are Not Trust Worthy... At Some Point We All Need To Be Honest With Ourselves & What We Really Want Deep Down Inside... Because No Matter What A Man Says His True Intent Will Be Shown Through His Actions... Any Man Can Tell You He Loves You But Outside The Act Of Sex Does He Show You He Loves You??....

The lady in the middle is glowing 😍

Not only can you love someone and cheat on them, you can also love more than one person at a time. Let’s not forget that these men are cheating with women who are often times in a “committed” relationship with someone else.

I read the comments first. I agree it's not just a 'Black thing'. Is this really just about Black men or ALL men? What's the difference? 2. You should rename your channel ONLY listen to Black women, because a man's perspective could have been quite useful on a topic like this. Though there are men in your comment section, there's no exchange of ideas. Relationships involve two people. This is an important factor in many relationships. So why not involve the other half of the subject being talked about?

seems funny that a group of women speaking on a topic involving men with no male representation

If you feel black men are paying lip service to their wives and marriage vows by cheating, the same can be said for black women. Seeing that they file for divorce 80 percent of the time and it's mostly over money, can it not be stated that they don't honor their vows very well, wasn't it something in there that said for richer or poorer? Who gets to point the finger of ridicule?

Keyaira Keyaira..... looking like a Goddess!! I appreciate your beauty

Cheating has nothing to do with a persons gender. If you're dating someone who is above average in the looks department, who is approachable and friendly, they will have more dating options and choices. It's just that simple ladies.

These women are beautiful 😍😍😍