Can you break free from a toxic mom? 😢 | Hush Podcast

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itsclarityco

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@itsclarityco
@itsclarityco 8 ай бұрын
Navigating a difficult relationship with your mom? You're not alone. Let us know some tips that have helped you 💕
@iNeed2ppp
@iNeed2ppp 8 ай бұрын
Saw a quote on Insta the other day and it hits me hard "Be nice to your mum, it is her first time living too"
@marcusong9321
@marcusong9321 8 ай бұрын
I am a father to 2 beautiful girls. I am glad that I saw this video......I learnt a lot....it's going to help me to navigate my way on how to build my relationship with my growing teenager daughters'. Thank you very much.
@mingyuhuang8944
@mingyuhuang8944 6 ай бұрын
So relatable. It's always best for a young adult to live their own life and stop attachment to mum
@daphnefaeTV
@daphnefaeTV 8 ай бұрын
This is a relatable episode. I've had a toxic relationship with my mother for the longest time. She used to cane me or make me stand outside the house overnight as punishment. During my teenage years, she kept accusing me of having a boyfriend outside school. She would also control what I wear, how I expressed myself, what I ate. She also wouldn't let me go to a hairdresser but would cut my hair the way she wants. She didn't allow me to buy my own clothes, wear makeup, dye my hair, travel overseas, go to friends' house etc. During my low times, she has told me that she doesn't care if I commited suicide, also accusing me of being satanic. Even when I was hospitalised several times, she never came to visit me. Basically, if I didn't rebel against her badly, I would have never experienced life. I was heavily mocked by friends because I did not have much real life experiences and often cooped up at home at my mum's request. Till this day, my mum still accuses and criticizes me all the time, and would never respect my boundaries because she still takes away my room items or clothes. But I have learnt to love myself and let go of her. The hardest truth was accepting that not all mothers love their kids and I had to raise myself.
@twirsula
@twirsula 8 ай бұрын
It sucks that you had to go thru that, my mum was quite similar so I can relate. Just yesterday I cried cuz it's so tiring having to reparent yourself. I'm glad you managed to break free - younger you would be so proud. I hope you can move out one day and have your own safe space. ❤
@Paestrio
@Paestrio 8 ай бұрын
thanks for sharing, well done making it so far, you did an amazing job, please stay strong even though I know its been so tough, we'll pull through somehow
@libraries144
@libraries144 8 ай бұрын
only my mom could make me feel all sorts of emotions. maybe because she is extremely emotional so it affected me emotionally. Shes blackmailed, death threat and manipulated me and others so many times my emotions are literally fried. Growing up i was taught to not cry because "what's there to cry. If you can cry, i can cry more than you" and i couldnt be sad. When i was happy at my achievements, it was looked down on or compared, or it gets torn and thrown away. Until now i still have a lingering feeling that whenever she gets angry she would just wreck my room and everything i loved. i'm 22 now, and ive started to see her not as a mom because i cant respect her as a mom, but more of her therapist and friend. She trauma dumps on me about things a child shouldnt hear from a parent and i had to suck it up and give her my best advices. Same goes for my dad. being the youngest child and having to stand in between both parents hearing their nasty comments about each other disgusted me, but i couldnt do anything because if i exposed even just a tiny bit, i might cause a divorce. Ive already told them i wouldnt mind if they get a divorce now since im already grown up, but when my dad told me about it so nonchalantly i got the chills. Seeing them as a human rather than a parent really helped though.
@itsclarityco
@itsclarityco 8 ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing your story! We hope you're healing on your own terms with everything that you have gone through. Sending you love! ❤
@Paestrio
@Paestrio 8 ай бұрын
please stay strong, i know how hard it gets when the people we want to lean on most are the cause of our suffering. we can be better
@vhalia
@vhalia 8 ай бұрын
Azura's final comment @32:29 ..."You do what's right for you". This statement is so true in any age, and any gender. As we grow through our lives from baby to old age, our perspective changes through time. Our POVs and understanding with compassion, hopefully will make us a better person.
@trufflefries1534
@trufflefries1534 8 ай бұрын
My favourite podcast to date, really hit close to home and I like how comforting the hosts are.
@rachdanielle
@rachdanielle 8 ай бұрын
this is such a great episode and i truly relate with podcast a lot!
@whilewaitin
@whilewaitin 8 ай бұрын
This was a great episode and i love the friendship you 3 have. At times we need to go through the discomfort with our parents for us to live the life that we want without hurting them.
@itsclarityco
@itsclarityco 8 ай бұрын
Agree with this wholeheartedly!
@yagababa522
@yagababa522 8 ай бұрын
many relatable moments and it was a really cathartic episode for me... thanks clarity folks!
@itsclarityco
@itsclarityco 8 ай бұрын
thank you for listening! 💕
@JtubeYouTube
@JtubeYouTube 8 ай бұрын
Don’t have a toxic but maybe unhealthy relationship and I think it is especially difficult if the mom is a elderly single parent without a spouse for support. I am mid-30 years old male and have a single parent mom who is over possessive (maybe because lonely/single parent). She will always question where i’m going and why am I out late, etc, unable to spend a night at friend’s place without good reasons, even at my age, and always has an opinion on any decisions I make. This affected my social life in my formative years where I cut down on many social interactions, relationships, and now at this age, I feel that I have not lived a fulfilling life to date. Moving out is not an option since I need to take care of my single parent mom and she will guilt trip me by suggesting she will move out to stay alone in an elderly HDB or nursing home and that I am not filial, etc. I love my mom but I see no way out of this but to endure till she passes on and maybe thats when I finally get to live my life, and sadly half of my life is already over by then.
@Heinrizon
@Heinrizon 8 ай бұрын
It's mentally tormenting, so much so I am afraid of my upcoming wedding. And it aint easy to break away in asia culture, today gonna be my fav episode
@milkydubu12
@milkydubu12 8 ай бұрын
Really enjoyed this episode! My mum passed away when I was a teenager - right at the period when we're often rebellious and prefer to spend more time with our friends than our family. I wouldn't say that my relationship with my mum is toxic, but it wasn't the best either 😂 We had quarrels, we were both flawed human beings who were once hurt by someone else, but I was grateful to hear her say that she's proud of me before she passed on... I don't know Azura in real life, but I've heard bits and pieces of her sharing regarding her family/childhood from the previous hush podcast episodes, I often feel very deeply over the things she shared because she always verbalise EXACTLY how I feel regarding these topics 🥹 Thanks Azura, and I wanna give you a big virtual hug if you're reading this 🫂💖
@itsclarityco
@itsclarityco 8 ай бұрын
We'll make sure she receive your virtual hug - and thank you for sharing your experience with us 🙆🏻‍♀
@janicechen595
@janicechen595 8 ай бұрын
Our mom become mom when we are born. It is also a learning journey for them
@GiiandRuMusic
@GiiandRuMusic 8 ай бұрын
❤❤ nice one 😊
@madelynn_18
@madelynn_18 8 ай бұрын
19:59 - 20:49 👏👏👏👏👏 well said
@joshualee8151
@joshualee8151 8 ай бұрын
i didnt have the close relationship with my mom since she died in 96 n i was born in 85... as for mother figures it was my grandma... would i describe my relationship with my grandma? well she past now but i was close to her... so much i can say more but its not a exact thing i can tell towards the masses... cuz she went thru cancer.... so much things happened inbetween
@JuzNicky
@JuzNicky 8 ай бұрын
I want to break free!
@applepie4847
@applepie4847 8 ай бұрын
😢
@applepie4847
@applepie4847 8 ай бұрын
It's so painful watching this. I have to learn to let go.
@melissalee8423
@melissalee8423 8 ай бұрын
I am ok with my parents
@joshualee8151
@joshualee8151 8 ай бұрын
its also wierd that me n my grandma works.... she likes me with a woman older but near my age n im 38 yr old... she understands it but i think she dislikes me being with a "asian" but i think she knows also im going to do it anyways... she is old old old school n say i rather u with her then a african man.... dont call her out she old school... my dad was where ppl starter ed a movement where it about african american over anything.... he as a child went with a spleen rupture... till him understanding from a point where ppl say that is amazing..... sooo yaa ppl say good things n also bad things
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