Not every baby likes to be held all the time. Depends on the cues the baby is giving.

Nope, not always true. My 8 month old never liked baby-wearing, no matter what I tried. She always cried and was really uncomfortable, so I didn't try to wear her anymore. She likes to be near me, lie on me and she also likes to be carried in my arms (but not too long) and she absolutely hates baby-wearing with a passion.😅

Yes i can try to create something!

Yes, medical neglect sucks. I had to deal with so many things as an adult which doctors could never understand my explanation of "Yeah, I've been dealing with this since I was [insert age under 10]" because apparently if that was the case my parents would've dealt with it. Like yeah, they dealt with medical problems that affected them (like keeping them up at night) or my ability to go to school. *Pain, fever and contagious stuff did not affect my ability to go to school

Me too!! 😭😭😭 thank you for sharing this ❤it’s good to not feel alone in it!

@waffles3629 - I had that growing up, I didn't realize it wasn't normal until my late 20s. Then I had my son. Can you believe my mom STILL harrasses me if I keep my son home, when he's legitimately sick? I took him to a specialist, an immunologist, so I could get a note to submit to both his school and my mom, that my son gets viral infections and needs to stay home from school until he is well. It helped a little, at least the school acknowledged the note. I still bring him to his doctor but everyone who wasn't a doctor, let alone my child's doctor was trying to diagnose him off of Wikipedia!!! Anything as an excuse to bring in a child with a fever of 102.3. Let me repeat that 102.3!!!!! What!?!?!? 100.3 is alarming enough, but to move it up to 102.3 as a baseline was completely ridiculous. He had to be tested over 5 times by different doctors each saying he DIDN'T HAVE PERIODIC FEVER SYNDROME. He was sick with a virus with different symptoms, and got treated and then got better. Or bacterial and then on antibiotics. Well, I stand up for my son, and I won't let him be treated the way I was. My son will be loved always. Also, I hope you are doing well. Feel better. And much love to you all in this thread. 💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖💖

@@jennajoseph893 thanks for sharing your story too! Yea, medical neglect super sucks… I only learned recently that you’re supposed to go to the ER immediately with a fever of 103… my mom used to tell me to wait until 107 🤯 so once I had a fever get to 106 and nearly died because of it… 😓 had lasting issues but hey, at least I’m still alive… looking back it’s pretty amazing that I survived, so I’ll try to focus on that and the fact that now I can be more sensitive to others’ similar struggles. Like you’re creating a better life for your kiddo now. 🙌🏼

yes! people don't realize how much our care to babies impacts the rest of their lives.

It's sad to think people would say it's "too much" to just have basic human interactions with a baby, but I know some people are... not good.

​@@FrenkTheJoy yeah, if someone think a baby can be spoiled they probably shouldn't be caring for one. It's sad.

How do you spoil a baby? It doesn't seem possible.

@@hawkfeather6802 It isn’t!! Babies need unlimited love ❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹

We all do!

The case of poor “Genie”… usually referring to the poor woman referred to as a “feral child” never developed her language and communication skills because of her neglect as a baby :(

@@zacgallenlover911 Yes! And in her case she was treated more like a science study than a human. Sure, we can’t replicate such horrendous circumstances with another child, but I feel like we failed Genie. She needed stability & a caregiver. They just ripped that from her.

@@silverdoe9477 Science study is right. I still get bad chills that one of the only things she effectively communicated through words was the fact she wanted to stay with her language therapist and be adopted, but they said no and it caused her to lose the skills she had been working almost 10 years towards.

@@silverdoe9477 Silver lining: This sparked something in me to look up the story of “The Girl In The Window”, a similar case. She has been in a loving adoptive family who works with her every day for almost 15 years now. This is why loving families in the system are needed. She’s thriving. Edit from her update article several years ago: And what does she love doing most, the girl who spent her first seven years confined to a dark, miserable space? “Just being outside,” Wilson said. Sitting on the front porch, or rocking on the swing out back.

They may never entirely 'catch up', but the most healing thing that will help them grow is caring consistent care. Such as from an adoptive or foster parent.

“You mean those able to care for them.”

@@juliamclane8319 seriously? A typo...

How about the parents that put this baby in this situation in the first place?

@@veevee306 them too After they get their butts kicked

@@CamdenakaNeptunesdaughter1213Hey man!! Lol definitely lots of parents need a Butt Kick but this mom could have had neglected her baby because of Ppd or PPP. We never know the full story!

@@zacgallenlover911 true, but still, there are some people who need it.

@@CamdenakaNeptunesdaughter1213Oh i definitely agree haha!

Based on her videos about meeting with bio parents, she seems to have so much compassion for them as well. Laura is truly an incredible role model.

thank you for being open to fostering!

Good luck on your journey! 🌼🌼

Yes I can try!! :) I have a Baby highlight on Instagram too that has a lot of info about this topic. instagram.com/foster.parenting/

Thank you for being open to fostering in the future! And congratulations on your growing family :)

I'm not a foster parent, but I am a parent (my kid is 18 months old) and I don't have scheduled nap times for my kid. If she's acting tired (eg getting frustrated easily, trying to find comfy places to lie down, getting clumsier than normal, etc) I put her in her bed or car seat with a bottle and see if she'll go to sleep. If she doesn't, hopefully she'll at least get some relaxation time. When she was younger, she'd be playing on the floor and just fall asleep where she was, and I'd pick her up and either put her in a good sleeping spot or just hold her while she slept. Also sometimes I'll take her for a walk and she'll fall asleep during or right after the walk. I also know that a lot of foster kids have disabilities. I've met several disabled foster kids when I was volunteering with kids' programs. I don't think them having a disability makes a big difference to the fostering process, but if they're known to have a condition their foster parent might get training on that condition and they'll probably have therapies scheduled to help them learn to function with their disability. It's also pretty common for foster kids to turn out to have disabilities that only get diagnosed after they're placed - they might have been too young for a diagnosis (eg an autistic foster kid I knew got placed with his mom when he was only a few months old, so obviously they didn't know he was autistic yet), or they might not have been properly assessed because their parents weren't doing a lot of the things they should've been doing, or it might be hard to tell the difference between stuff that's a disability symptom versus stuff that's just a temporary reaction to the circumstances they're living in (eg is a toddler speech delayed because his mom left him watch TV all day while she got drunk, or is he speech delayed because he's got a brain injury from when his mom's boyfriend hit him on the head? Only way to tell is to see how fast he learns to talk once he's actually getting proper opportunity to learn).

I talked to a lady about this Irl, she said often times when they go back you stay in contact even if it's just birthday cards or something, though it's not always the case.

Reunification may or may not be a goal depending on what's going on with the parents and whether they think it's likely to improve.

Fawning? It's meeting the baby's needs. It's literally the most crucial thing you can do for a baby. If a baby has a broken arm, would you rush to treat it? Of course you would. Neglect is a serious health concern for a baby too.