I saw on Twenty Whatever they said, "If you wouldn't take their advice, why would you take their criticism?". I feel like that was a really awesome perspective for someone in your position being criticized often from sharing your life with all of us!!

This quote always brings me back from a spiral about someone being negative towards me: “People will love you. People will hate you. And none of it will have anything to do with you.” - Abraham Hicks

Honestly when you were describing how you feel about being a content creator as your job, that's literally EXACTLY how I've been feeling for so long as well and is still something I'm working through. Everything you said resonated so deeply with me. I really appreciate your vulnerability and I actually often would think about how admirable it is that you are so open with your viewers. Thanks so much for sharing with us, it means so much more than you know ❤❤

Girl the feeling of always wanting more you talked about at the beginning is called the Hedonic Treadmill, in case anyone wants to look into it further ❤

I totally relate to what you’re feeling. I’m 35, and in a world where you can see so many possibilities it is hard not to wish and look ahead for them. Recently I’ve been trying to “romanticize” my life by making what’s happening in the current moment “amazing”. Sometimes something as simple as lighting a candle, when I’m beating myself up for not doing enough, makes the current moment more magical and something I can appreciate RN. I hope this makes you feel less alone! ❤

My word for the year is presence… for exactly that reason. I struggle to live in the moment and appreciate how far I’ve come and how much I’ve achieved- so definitely relate! Loving the vlogs btw x

I’ve been following Carrie for years and years and I think vlog over share Carrie might be my favorite

Learning how to "just be" without having to go go go is a BIG topic for me in therapy.

I 100% feel you on the not wanting to post online! I’ve been posting soooooooo much more in my close friends because of this. It always becomes such a weird cycle of wanting to share but then feeling too exposed when I’m not even posting anything vulnerable. I would love to know why that is and why so many of us feel this way

I feel like your words are just my constant inner monologue out loud 😅🫶 anxiety really makes being present and feeling content so difficult

Don't let the negative people affect you. You are an awesome person.

Hi Carrie, i had the same feeling about life when i was in my thirties. Feeling i needed more in my life, feeling restless and uneasy. Now i'm 41 and feeling more at peace about life. I'm older now, getting to know myself better and what i need in my life. It's a process. Getting older is a beautiful thing and a gift ❤Love the vlogs Carrie.

thank you sm for talking about that feeling of constantly needing to achieve / accomplish / be MORE. It’s such a universal feeling, but nobody talks about it bc we’re taught to constantly grow and never reminded to slow down and enjoy where we are now. Remember that your younger self was probably once dreaming of being where you are right now 🥹💖🧚🏼‍♂️

Doing a gratitude list every morning and/or at night has helped me stay present. It allowed me to reflect on the current day vs focusing on the past or future.

Sweet sweet girlie-you don’t have to vlog or post if you don’t want to, BUT you are always valuable and worthy of time. You contribute and you matter simply because you’re you. Don’t forget that! ❤️

I had such a hard time getting out of bed today, and seeing this video helped so much. My comfort KZfaqr always comes through in my moments of most dire need

Thank you always for being so honest, transparent, and authentic, Carrie! I struggled with being present (and still do sometimes - it's never something that's "fixed" seemingly) and really did find that meditation helped a ton. It can be hard to do but even doing like 5 minutes per day can help so much. Also, I like to bring in one of my senses in the moment if I remember, since your body can ONLY be in the present moment at any given time. And, lastly, when I find myself not being in the present moment, I shout in my head "PRESENCE" which really does help shift my mental state and enjoy the moment. Love and light to you!

I also struggle with thinking about the future and I find that letting yourself have that thought then to recenter in the moment helps a lot. Like just look around breathe in your surroundings and re focus it helps a lot

long time viewer and rare commenter- I feel understood by you and love when you post. Life is all ups and downs! Ride them like a rollercoaster!! You are doing great Carrie ❤

Carry, I love your rants and everything you have to say. You NEVER have to apologize for being chatty. I hope you know sooooo many people love and adore everything you have to say❤❤

Re: post office ... I think they're upset from the scanning. You can pre-bulk your packages so they only have to scan one label instead of 20. It's extremely easy to do and if you use usps a lot it's a must.

"nothing of value to add"??? I'm constantly telling friends/fam/Internet strangers "check out Carrie Dayton she posted about a similar problem/feeling/situation". Carrie you constantly add value to my life 💕

I am the same way about always waiting for what’s next and I think part of it is social media. It’s constantly showing us what we “need” or what’s going to to trend next and showing us how “glamorous” other people’s lives our so it messes with our heads.

Carrie…I nodded along to virtually everything you said in this vlog. I can relate to you soooo much, it’s crazy. I really see you and resonate with you. Bloody hell, I love you so much! ❤❤

Wanting to throw my phone in the ocean is definitely on my mind lately. Unfortunately I live in Texas and don’t have a great arm😂

Thank you for sharing your life with us ❤

I don’t think that’s an ADHD thing, that’s just an “a lot of people” thing. As someone who is almost always content to be where they are, and have what they have, it’s unfortunate that my soon to be ex spouse was not the same and it’s a big reason for our separation. It’s very taxing to be a content and happy person and constantly have someone who is “on to the next” after they just achieved what they said they wanted for so long. After 23 years I’ve realized that these opposite ends of the spectrum just aren’t compatible at midlife ages.

Yes maam. Im in a horrible headspace at the moment having the worst anxiety about whats next in life that I cannot enjoy my current stage. Trying to work on it and so glad you brought it up🩷

What you said about struggling with being present resonates with me so much! I think for me it might have something to do with my tendency to use distraction as a defense mechanism for dealing with the pressing problems in our world. Then it just seems to bleed over into every aspect of life. You're definitely not alone!

Hi Carrie, about that present in the moment/content with where you are and what you have... I know you like to binge watch shows and i'm wondering what effects it has on your brain chemistry (no judgments at all, just an hypothesis because screen time is proven to be bad for us). I moved to a new place a couple of months ago and decided not to have a t.v. anymore. I try not to spend a lot of time on my phone also. I've been in the moment, revisiting activities I used to like when I was younger, doing things with my brain and my hands (poetry, jewelry, ukulele, etc.) and feeling that what I do on a daily basis makes me proud of who i am and aligns much more with my values. As much as it was an adjustment in the beginning, it has been really beneficial to me and my two daughters.

something I’m working on is that when I’m living authentically, it’s not my responsibility to make someone not take my intentions in the wrong way. There will be people who want to take anything someone says in the wrong light. You’re only responsible for your level of authenticity you’re comfortable with, and know you can’t please everybody! (I also say this as a chronic people pleaser so it’s a major struggle!) Good luck!

You have been one of my favorite youtubers for years...videos are always pretty genuine and simple...but the past eight months of a live-streamed genocide have been eye-opening, and the complete silence from influencers is deafening! 😏

Hope you are feeling better! I think a lot of people go through those times! Love the sumo oranges and crystal light raspberry lemonade!

Okay listen, I think the t shirts are so cute, but I was shocked you got them considering your ongoing Tshirts In Thrift Stores series LOL

From one Kari to another- here because I like you! Keep doing your thing 💜

I'm in my 40s, and i have been feeling the same way. I'm definitely feeling down and depressed and i don't feel like myself. I moved long distance a few months ago, and my whole routine is a mess now. I can't pull myself together fully. I think my hormones are not helping me either. I love being anonymous. It really makes me feel free. I dont really use social media anymore, except YT. I just wanted to say i feel you. I do think making content on days where you are feeling down would be nice, but I get why you don't or may not want to. Anyway, that's all. Thanks for making such great videos and being open. I hope you have a great (sunny) weekend 🌞

1) I love your vlogs and you have the best personality ◡̈ 2) CANNOT WAIT TO HEAR TTPD OPIONIONS BC I HAVE SO MANYYYYYY

Currently feeling ill im led in bed, making my way thru your vlogs and your other videos im really loving your thrift videos and your changing room try on videos,

Thanks for being my comfort channel. ❤

This vlog was.. relatable. ❤ You’re one of my absolute favorite KZfaqrs. ❤️

Hi! I also struggle with tummy troubles. Undiagnosed, but in the same boat with foods that suddenly don’t agree with my body. I recently had a 5 week tummy flare up and during that time I had the worst anxiety that I’ve had in years. I did a lot of research on the mind/gut connection and saw very similar connections to what I was feeling. I worked hard to heal my gut instead of being afraid of food. Remarkably as my tummy started to feel better, my mind did too. I also incorporated yoga instead of high intensity workouts, which also seemed to contribute. I hope if you heal your tummy, your mind will heal too❤️❤️❤️

When we tell ourselves we should then we start to do it. As a watcher who loves you. STOP shoulding all over yourself. You good.

You’re totally allowed to not love your job all of the time. That doesn’t make you ungrateful. Your feelings and experiences are valid. You’re not taking away anything from anyone else by being real about your experience. Suffering is not a contest, so please don’t feel bad about “complaining” just because others may “have it worse.” You’re doing a great job! Just keep showing up unapologetically for yourself. ♥️

The clock says 3:15 when you say it’s noon! 🕛

Can 100% relate to living my dream life but always looking forward to the next thing and having a hard time being present

You can schedule free pick usps at your house as long as it’s more than 24 hrs

The way that short chain echos the horseshoe holes on the sweatshirt is chef’s kiss 🤌

Glad to see you proactively working on getting out of a funk! This happens to me a lot (not sure if it’s an ADHD thing, which is weird bc routines really help me, but then I miss a day and I get derailed). I just had about a two week success streak of sticking to a pretty good routine, then I got some kind of stomach bug this early in the week and although I’m feeling better, I’ve just been so tired! But you have once again inspired me and validated that stuff happens and you just have to get back up and show up for yourself. ✌🏼 and ❤ from Texas.

Relatable! 💯 I’ve been in a funk lately, too, and I need to get out.

I can also relate to what you said about being in the funk/hitting the “fallacy of the plateau.” I would recommend brining it to prayer and seek the Lord, especially in times like these!

As a fellow ADHD girlie who is also going through a funk, I feel this to my core. You've got this Carrie! ❤

My husband has adhd as well and listening to you talk about being present sounds EXACTLY like him! I wish I could offer some tips, but he’s hasn’t figured it out yet either 🤷🏻‍♀️ you’re not alone girl ❤

UGH YES. I've been in a funk too, been really feeling very "there's gotta be more than this". Stuck in a routine I feel I have no control over changing (but I do) and like I def need to get out of the house more but the xiety KILLS me + everything is just so expensive 😩.

Weird thing to say but thank you for mentioning your sibo, literally reminded me to take my antibiotic medicine that I just started for my sibo. I couldnt believe how much I relate with not being in a great spot both physically and mentally right now. Our gut is super connected to our brains so sometimes I have to remind myself of that and be forgiving with myself, and remember theres always a light at the end of the tunnel. I'm seriously crossing my fingers that this antibiotic (that I had to jump through hoops to get affordably 🙄... how the hell just a 2 week regime can cost a couple thousand dollars is beyond absurd) will help, supposedly its the most affective one for sibo. The energy that its taken me to have so much dietary restriction has been the hardest thing. I hope you find things that work for you to feel better! Heres to hoping, just sharing so you know you arent alone

I feel that way too, I always struggle with being present because I’m always thinking about the future and what I could be doing more of or better. But we’re all human and sharing this experience together, so I thank you for opening up and being vulnerable because sometimes we all need the reminder that it’s ok to do so. 🩷

I think social media helps us to not live in the present moment and always compare to others.

Carrie you hit it home when you talked about being present and adhd. I have adhd and struggle with that as well. Right now I’m living in my own space which was my goal for a while and I have a good job but I’m thinking a lot about my next move (out of state) and my next job in that state and I can guarantee you when I get to the next move( that I have dreamed of for almost 4 years now) i will be thinking about the next big thing. It’s exhausting. I have trouble sometimes with mediation too bc I can’t sit still. I’m not unhappy I’m just kind of moody and irritable lately and I don’t like it. I have a great life. I really relate to this. Thank you for sharing ❤

Just sending you lots of love Carrie ❤ mental health has a lot of ups and downs. But you are doing great 😌

Therapy may be a good next step. Can relate as a 30 something.

Being afraid to post online out of fear of being misunderstood is so real. I recently just had this happen to me, only with a good friend, and it was awful. We were able to work it out, but it was not a fun time.

def feel the same issue of not being able to be present (reminiscing the past or planning too much for the future). being in a permanently sometimes long distance relationship isnt helping the future part either. my future oriented is more my love of planning tho not goal oriented (and i definitely do not have adhd).

The bananas yasss rofl!!! You always make me laugh.

The best mantra I've ever heard: "What people think of me is none of my business."

Not being present and always looking for the next thing is definitely me too! You explained exactly how I feel about it I don’t think I even know where to start on being happy in the present moment and not looking ahead 😅

The weather is the same here in NYC - beautiful during the week, awful every weekend. There’s theories out there that pollution from car traffic due to commuting during the week “blocks” clouds from forming rain and then when there’s less commuter traffic on weekends, there’s more rain. It’s apparently been disproven but someone plz explain this phenomenon if that’s not true lol

Love you and all of your videos so much! 🖤

I understand how you're feeling about social media. I'm not a content creator but I'm going through the same thing, in my own way. People in my life seem to like me better when I'm quiet and not making any noise of any kind. And it's heartbreaking. And then, in your case, you also have legal repercussions to worry about. I can just imagine the stress you're under.

I’m a huge advocate of wearing loop earplugs for everyday noise. Would recommend if the construction drives you crazy!

Ugh, so relatable 😩 I constantly struggle with being present

@CarrieDayton, I need to make sure you know that not only is it okay to take daily medication, sometimes it needs to be adjusted. I had covid in January for the very first time and afterwards, I felt like all my mental health progress I had made with my dr and my therapy had all gone out the window and I didn't know why. I told my drs and they both told me that this round of covid attacked people's nervous systems and that even people who never had anxiety issues were having issues now, and people that had issues were getting them worse. She increased my normal med dosage and within 2 weeks, I felt like my old self again. This might be one of your problems. Try the meds again and find a good therapist, little sis. I'm here for you. Much love. Beth. xoxo

I can totally relate about the constant struggle of being present in the moment and focusing in the future. At least for myself, my anxiety drives those thoughts. I try to do things with hands like creative activities that have me focus on that moment and even if it’s a second calm that helps me. I know it seems simple to do but it takes time to do it, it’s like a good habit and/or habit that I have always work on it everyday. The struggle is real sometimes and feeling like down and stuck is totally okay, my guess is we are allowed to feel those moments and moving forward can be hard but by you sharing these moments with us the fans makes us not feel as alone in the moment, thank you sharing this with us. =) Hopefully I’m making sense here. 😅

I think all of us find it difficult to be in the present - always looking forward and thinking of the next thing. It isnt unusual or strange.

Oh I am constantly struggling to stay in the present moment. And now that I’m a mom I FORCE myself to stay present because I never realized how fast time goes until having her. It’s hard when things are difficult because I just want to get through it but I always look back and miss things.

Stomach issues are so frustrating! My GI said it’s still so hard to treat SIBO, and that the treatments can cause other problems 😅 not something that you need to answer, but have you been tested for bile acid malabsorption? Took me several months to get it figured out, but the treatment seems to help with my issues!

I don't comment but just know your my absolute fave 💜

I think you have to listen to yourself. Share when you want to and don't when you don't want to and keep that privacy. You are entitled to share every single thing with us. Go with the eb and flow of life ❤️

I love seeing your grocery hauls❤❤ and agree and in the same mental place. It's rough out here

Carrie, please consider reading "The Three Pillars of Zen." It helped me to discover how to live in the now, to understand the beauty of the present moment and how to focus my attention there. So glad I found this book in my 30s! Can't recommend enough.

Not feeling present, I 100% feel you on that. I want to put the blame on social media and how quickly we become bored these days but I feel like it's deeper. This constant need to live in the past/future and be reaching for the next thing is wild. I don't know what the solution is to that but my only way of feeling connected to the present moment is to be out of reach of my damn phone lol 😅

Felloq ADHD girly and definitely struggle with being present! I actually use having something to look forward to as a depression coping skill, so it's not entirely bad. But it can definitely be frustrating to always be in your own head. Also every time you said "you get it" I was like "YEP" 😂

I feel ya girlie... P.O.S. is actually one of my major no nos to call myself and I know I'm sliding into a major slump when I start referring to myself in that way again. I spent so many years, way too many just thinking of myself that way constantly and have spent many more working on not calling myself that and actually trying to believe it. My heart goes out to you especially when in those mental states. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ Go you for working on taking care of yourself and being kind to yourself. *Fellow add/ADHD queen😂

Thank you for showing the cats! I needed that.

Thank you for being so realistic and sharing❤

I feel like we all need to give ourselves more permission to not be static and to let our feelings and motivations ebb and flow with time. It’s totally okay to feel chatty and like sharing one week and then feel more private and hesitant the next week. I can totally understand that being frustrating with your job being to post but I’ve seen commentary about how the current media age/ capitalism encourages us to brand ourselves into neat little definable static packages because it makes us more marketable and easier to market to. But we are humans, not brands and we all should give ourselves the grace to ebb and flow, and so should you! Thanks for being vulnerable and sharing with us

I need to do this with my closet bad! Thanks for the inspo!

Awww the cats are so adorable! :)

Does your usps have at home pick-up? I know if I have a return or something I can schedule a pick up online. Idk, maybe they don't offer it from apartments, but it'd be worth checking out.

carrie you are one of my favorite people on this planet and we don’t even know each other or have even talked!!! just know the real ones are always going to understand you and know what you mean, because we know who YOU are as a person 💛

Haha, Twinelle was at the Rose Bowl that day..🌧🌧🌧🌧

Thank you for blessing my Friday morning 🤩 Now I have something to watch while I’m drinking my iced coffee and cleaning house.

Even though you’re much younger than I am, you are definitely one of my favs. I get excited to see a new upload. Much love!

I don’t think you’re too loud or too much at alll, you’re the perfect amount of you ❤

Also: show us your and Drew’s tuna recipes!

I just got the Tru lemon strawberry lemonade for the first time too and really enjoyed it

struggling to be present leads to that wistful nostalgia we also struggle with! like oh that time was great... because we couldn't enjoy it at the time!!

Carrie, you are just so amazing! I feel so happy when I see you've posted. I don't know you personally but I feel like I do. You give me comfort if that makes sense! And yes, TTPD just came out & I stayed up to listen with my daughter & we were so in love with it & then I almost had a heart attack when I woke up to the second album. Can't wait for the Fortnight video tonight!!

Ok something I’ve always been curious about is if you have any bad return services with brands because I hear you briefly mention you returning things and I’ve always been curious lol cause I have had nightmares personally lol also you are definitely not alone with feeling unfulfilled with life, and not being present 💓

Those Ranch vege poppables are delicious. 😊

Oat malk is my fav! That brand has no shitty fillers and flavors in it 😊

The ADHD spiral is a real thing!!! Don’t feel bad about it or think you’re just blaming it on ADHD. You’re so valid for this