Thanks for saying this. I'm 37 so I have a lot of life experience, but haven't been in a relationship with a woman yet (just hasn't panned out, but trying) so my heart sank when the guest said "ghost." But I completely understand that some women will not be into it and I'm excited to find those who are open to giving lesser experienced but emotionally available/mature women a chance. :)

What I've realized is that most people succumb to our culture's obsession with romantic love and rush into ultimately unhealthy relationships. Later in life you hear serial monogamists with 4 committed relationships under their belt talking about how this new relationship is the first healthy & happy one they've experienced. My goal was always to become so self aware & confident that I wouldn't project my own issues onto other people. Over years of being single I would often wonder, can you even know yourself if you were always tethered to someone else? I wish we could stop shaming single people and rather praise them for not dumping their baggage onto other people on the path to self love.

​@@uscitizen3252 Myself 34..a lesbian with almost no experience of relationship with anyone....can relate to you ....all the best

Getting married after knowing someone for 11 months is wild xD

I agree with ya!

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😊😊You spoke my mind out....

Everyone does have to start somewhere, that is true. I’ve seen both sides. Women who have been hurt by used-to-be straight girls who are not sure and sometimes go back to guys and sometimes say hurtful things re being with men vs being with women. And then there are lesbians who enjoy “turning” used-to-be straight girls, which feels more about ego and internalized homophobia plus a dash of misogyny, to me. But I digress. It’s all about the maturity of person A. Are they patient and strong enough to ride the ups and downs of someone’s coming out phase (telling parents, friends and coworkers)? Or have they reached a point where they know what they want and only want to be with someone who’s been out for a while and is comfortable with themselves. Making out with women when intoxicated is very different than moving in together and spending holidays around the family table together, perhaps even having children, being different, attending pride, changing perspectives politically, spiritually, etc. It’s that transition period. So many emotions with very little in the way of guidance other than lesbian movies which are 67% sad endings. Podcasts like these are great but looking your mother and father in the eyes and proudly saying, “I’m marrying a woman” is not easy for many. According to a quick Google search the IRS reported 60M straight couples married and lesbian and gay married couples, ready for it? 500k. We should take over a small town and turn it into a gaycropolis 😆 Anyway, be yourself, comfortable in your own skin. Women will gravitate towards you. I have heard from friends that hitting on women is the hardest part when you’re not masc or femme but something in between. Best of luck to you ❤ Val from NorCal

Yeah, I'm in the beginning phase. Just came out to my friends and parents. All this is very new to me. In retrospect , there were so many clues along the way, I just didn't figure it out until the last two years. But in the end, like you said, just be comfortable in your own skin and go with the flow. @@kylorenthehusky2584

@@kylorenthehusky2584is there a statistic that compares the ratio of married and single gays and straights? i think without taking population into account, the statistic you provided seems a bit weak because obviously theres more straight people than gay

this makes me SO happy 🥹 thank you so much for listening and for being part of the MIO community 🫶🏼

Curious why you didn’t want to live in Switzerland?

Loved what you said here

100% agree!

Follow your hobbies and do what you love! Single living isn't a bad thing....I'm also single and accepting of this moment

I'm 29 and same. But I have decided to go traveling (on an almost 0 budget), pursue pottery (doing it for free at the moment just to learn) and meet as many new people & gain genuine friendships as possible. There are times when I feel sad and almost a sense of grief at not having had the experience that my close friends had in terms of young love, teenage flings and everything that comes with it - but I cannot change the past by dwelling on it, and it only clouds future possibilities. I try to write about the grief of missing 'milestones' and just focus on doing now what I wish I'd done when I was younger. And maybe that'll include falling in (requited) love - maybe not - but at least I'm going out of my comfort zone and spending time in nature and new places while I'm 'alone'.

@@livewithintention1625damn that’s exactly what I’m through right now, me too sometimes I feel like I’ve missed out a lot

Hina is so dope!

@mathildegoncalvespereira2422 yes, she is. 🫠

this is your signnnnn💫

yessss!!!!!!!

Hina is so dope!!

our place!!

I am pretty sure they meant "need to cook" as in the slang that means time to develop, not literally cooking food. I think these 2 people struggle with a lack of self awareness so have relied on a partner, or relationship ending, to realize there is something wrong, or replied on those external catalysts to be able to identify a flaw they need to work on. I don't think this is a healthy approach and I would hope when they are older and wiser they will realize that you can learn so much from so many different facets of life and create self improvement from so many different things and people, not just your romantic partner.

omg awk but thank you for paying such close attention!!

i love you 😌😌😌😌

@@hiportugal guess what? I love you more 😀