Child Arrangements - Part 2 (with Abuse allegations)

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Part 2 of this very brief and general overview of the Child Arrangements application looks at the current court procedure (England & Wales) of an application where there are allegations of domestic abuse (ongoing or historic).
The court may not follow the exact workflow in cases where urgency or safeguarding concerns demand a different approach.

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@muhithussain3847
@muhithussain3847 3 жыл бұрын
So no help for men who is the victim but being labelled the abuser? When the woman is the abuser but playing the victim?
@jugurthanumidian4738
@jugurthanumidian4738 2 жыл бұрын
Féminist society what do u expect bro?
@catherinewren7539
@catherinewren7539 Жыл бұрын
It's goes both ways. You can use this if a man or woman.
@DnBDuBstep7777777
@DnBDuBstep7777777 10 ай бұрын
all their behaviour is ok, if we behave exactly the same as they do it is abuse.
@ione8548
@ione8548 9 ай бұрын
archaic abuse allegations are more important then a father see his child.Amasing era we live in.Past is past,the ex is in the past...the child is growing withowt the father...should be the main concern,not the abuses that happened 10 years ago.
@parvezhussain691
@parvezhussain691 5 ай бұрын
​@@ione8548 or the mere allegation of abuse. the judge can make a life changing or affecting ruling based on "feeling". this is family law or court in the uk. utterly perverted.
@nannygurumi
@nannygurumi 4 жыл бұрын
And what about in the case of my son, where the abuse allegations are false and it was actually his ex partner who was abusive but she had declared differently. She even managed to get herself into a dv refuge which has helped to back up her story. Why isn't there ever help for fathers who want to see their children
@scm4284
@scm4284 4 жыл бұрын
exactly whats just happened to me!
@limitlesspossibilities444
@limitlesspossibilities444 3 жыл бұрын
Can you find out how she "even managed" to got into the DV refuge? Take it you think they are 5* resorts with spas and all inclusive buffets, butlers and spending money thrown in... Are you for real? Why don't you stay well out if it, wait 6 months until your innocent lothario gets bored of you, and then comment? Narcissists love women who are easily manipulated and buy into their BS. Men who are respectful and innocent dont get anyone else involved and dont line up new victims immediately. Domestic violence survivors dont manage to get into refuges. Guess when he switches on you, you wont be looking for sympathy. I'd suggest asking the police for your fellas criminal background
@limitlesspossibilities444
@limitlesspossibilities444 3 жыл бұрын
Did your son say the allegations are false or have they been proven to be?
@limitlesspossibilities444
@limitlesspossibilities444 3 жыл бұрын
If your sons ex has made up a story then he has nothing to worry about and doesnt need help.
@limitlesspossibilities444
@limitlesspossibilities444 3 жыл бұрын
There is help for abusive father that want to see their children, they can do perpetrator programmes and get risk assessed then prove themselves fit to parent
@sammylaib1319
@sammylaib1319 2 жыл бұрын
Dealing with narcissistic ex wife she walked out on us me and our girls now she lied on the application making me look the abuser Bad dad and person but she left the girls with me while she was having fun and be a mother only when it suits her
@DnBDuBstep7777777
@DnBDuBstep7777777 10 ай бұрын
How come nothing is happening to someone making false allegation of domestic abuse even after it was proved as false?
@MajorSlayeer
@MajorSlayeer 8 ай бұрын
Because the women would never get in trouble regardless
@mett978
@mett978 7 ай бұрын
This is a good question. I'm a woman and my ex has made false allegations against me of emotional, physical and financial abuse! There needs to be consequences against false allegations!
@geedee7632
@geedee7632 2 күн бұрын
​@@mett978it's of a criminal offence these days class as domestic violence abuse. It's cause physical and psychological harm very depressing emotional anxiety depression even trauma storsks death 😢 God help those that suffers such abusive as manipulation behaviour. It's really evil. Wickedness. Of a narcissist.
@Amysbiblereads
@Amysbiblereads 2 жыл бұрын
I am going through this. Absolutely terrified.
@munachisoadinma5478
@munachisoadinma5478 Жыл бұрын
Please can videos and abusive voice notes be used by the abused to present evidence in a family court hearing and fact finding proceedings?
@gazza.g5776
@gazza.g5776 Жыл бұрын
Omg You are so helpful, my wife, who I am separated with has made totally ridiculous allegations saying I am violent and even trying to be sexual with my daughter, I am distraught. I have to go to court in two weeks for the first hearing and I am terrified, she has had me walking on eggshells for years. I am a big man and she is only small, but I felt like I was under control. Having said that I didn’t realise this until I moved out and although I am happier person in myself, I fear for my daughter because this woman is very controlling and I just hope that I can deal with this in court as I can’t afford a solicitor. Thank you for listening I love your videos ❤️
@haidiejago5756
@haidiejago5756 4 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video. I am currently going through this and i have found this video so much help.
@FaithfulandTrue949
@FaithfulandTrue949 3 жыл бұрын
They silence victims with the 'silver bullet' of false parental alienation allegations. www.womensaid.org.uk/parental-alienation-and-the-family-courts/ When that is what they have actually done, see DARVO Narcissistic Abuser they Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim /Offender The Enlightened Target and Sam Vaknin explains this personality disorder. Please expose this injustice, we are being abused all over again to the perpetrators delight. 16:23 Link to a quality referenced article on this above. Thank God for your voices, to help save our innocent children!
@obaapapabi9934
@obaapapabi9934 3 жыл бұрын
Can I send C1A form if it is not necessary a domestic abuse but it is a safeguarding concern when the child goes to the person?
@audfosutv2500
@audfosutv2500 4 жыл бұрын
So very helpful, thank you.
@maamenana312
@maamenana312 9 ай бұрын
Very informative and precise. Thank you so much for this. ❤
@KhadijaRehman-by5ff
@KhadijaRehman-by5ff 6 ай бұрын
I need more understanding how it works with pso? U apply for Nmo pso then child arrangement one lawyer said let abuser apply for child arrangement it saves u money other said no apply it saves u court fee? What to do?
@nickysmith6220
@nickysmith6220 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for your video really helpful and great guidance thank you so much x
@joannal2721
@joannal2721 2 жыл бұрын
Hi there, what if you do not have any police report as evidence is there any other way I can let them know my concerns. Abusers can be very manipulative especially in my case where I was groomed from a young age in this relationship at the age of 14 when he was 22 years old he was very good at keeping the reality of the situation. Even when police had been called to the property by a neighbour I didn’t say anything as I was scared to. It was so many years ago is there anything I can do.
@geedee7632
@geedee7632 2 күн бұрын
What ever evident you can get to together. Friends. Etc. Etc. Specaily her friends. And keep being a loving caring dad your kids my friend God bless. ❤❤
@KhadijaRehman-by5ff
@KhadijaRehman-by5ff 6 ай бұрын
Very specific question how long does it go for
@sephrahprecious175
@sephrahprecious175 4 жыл бұрын
I can’t thank you enough for this video. I’m currently in this situation right now, and although it’s very stressful, finding your videos is a God send! Would you say having a solicitor in this situation would help my case further? In my case I’m the respondent but funds are limited, however I’ve kept records of everything and I have my evidence.
@Survivor.Diaries
@Survivor.Diaries 4 жыл бұрын
Precious Stones Thank you for the feedback. can you find our Facebook group? (Also called Survivor Diaries). We can arrange a chat through there ☺️
@sephrahprecious175
@sephrahprecious175 4 жыл бұрын
The Survivor Diaries I will do, that would be great! Thank you.
@FaithfulandTrue949
@FaithfulandTrue949 3 жыл бұрын
They know abuse is hard to prove then silence victims with the 'silver bullet' of false parental alienation allegations. www.womensaid.org.uk/parental-alienation-and-the-family-courts/ When that is what they have actually done, see DARVO Narcissistic Abuser they Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim /Offender Please expose this injustice, we are being abused all over again to the perpetrators delight. 16:23 Link to a quality referenced article on this above. Thank God for your voices, to help save our innocent children!
@shamsideenetti
@shamsideenetti 8 ай бұрын
Thank you for this very informative video. Would really appreciate your views on scenario of where false allegations are being made against the father, how is this approached by the courts/cafcass and what does the father need to do to build a defence (especially if he's representing himself)?. Thanks again.
@geedee7632
@geedee7632 2 күн бұрын
Jyst speak the truth. Don't be aggressive in defence. Stay umble and calm as much as possible 😌. Stay strong. Be positive.
@dianecampbell7392
@dianecampbell7392 Жыл бұрын
At what age are children's wishes the overriding consideration?
@lindsaybelmokhtar3983
@lindsaybelmokhtar3983 3 жыл бұрын
What are the costs involved, I know the applications are around £250 and of course legal representation, but is there further costs
@RP-qz1mz
@RP-qz1mz 2 жыл бұрын
No further costs
@RP-qz1mz
@RP-qz1mz 2 жыл бұрын
Just the ones you mentioned
@rolandjolicoeur9854
@rolandjolicoeur9854 8 ай бұрын
Love how your information gives woman more grounds they can use to increase on ways they can keep the children from the father . I don’t think that all woman will do this but there’s a great number that will. As they say, you don’t know a woman until you meet her in court
@geedee7632
@geedee7632 2 күн бұрын
Thought the same. Despite her helpful words. It would seems she another one of these wom who j6st feministical and deacriminatinglly bisdas biasd😢agshnt against men. Too. All in favour of women rights of empowerment against men. Women liberty 🗽 huh. 😊
@girlgonewireless5359
@girlgonewireless5359 2 жыл бұрын
I've not watched this entire video just the first 2 & half minutes but I'm going through something similar with my ex partner. My solicitor has advised mediation but I have told them that my ex partner was abusive towards me & I still controlling to this day. Also my child has witnessed him be abusive to his current partner. So why has my solicitor still advised mediation?
@geedee7632
@geedee7632 2 күн бұрын
Yh they would do that for ur money 💰 🤑 💸. Thst what they they only there for tske your money 💰 u need for ur children then call u dead beat dad. Huh. Lol 😆 🤣 😂
@geedee7632
@geedee7632 2 күн бұрын
Practice Direction 22. How nice.
@hindbnsd
@hindbnsd 4 жыл бұрын
If he was violent and my child witnessed it and and if he's using my children to stay in the country what am I supposed to do please advise me
@limitlesspossibilities444
@limitlesspossibilities444 3 жыл бұрын
If you are in UK and the violent party has conviction go to one stop shop and get legal aid to take appropriate steps.
@limitlesspossibilities444
@limitlesspossibilities444 3 жыл бұрын
You can get advice from one stop shop or womens centres if you are a woman. Citizens advice also
@jamesw9971
@jamesw9971 3 жыл бұрын
Hi. Would you be willing to do the same video but from a father’s perspective who is an applicant of a c100 but who has been physically and emotionally abused by the mother please. I am one of these people and it’s not as easy finding videos to help people in a situation similar to mine.
@jamesw9971
@jamesw9971 3 жыл бұрын
@Gemma Dann yeah like covid deaths
@gcmarcal
@gcmarcal 3 жыл бұрын
@Gemma Dann NO it is not rare! Women can get away with abuse much easier than men. The society is clearly biased against men ( unfortunately!)
@geedee7632
@geedee7632 2 күн бұрын
​@@gcmarcalthat a fact.these days theybtheybsaybtheybeqaual to men. But men can never be equal to a women. Cause they are mothers and go through months labour. Huh. 😅😅.
@vixen1143
@vixen1143 3 жыл бұрын
Wow I've just had my second hearing today and no one has mentioned anything about the c1a form I filled in about the abuse is suffered apart form my ex denying it all in his statement. I'll be contacting my solicitor tomorrow to find out why they are not doing the job right. My guess is I'm getting legal aid so they are doing the minimum. I've not brought it up again as no one else seems interested in the abuse and keep telling me it all about my son I fucking know that's why I left him. If it had of just been me i I would of put up with the abuse a lot longer.
@TJBPlays
@TJBPlays 3 жыл бұрын
What about drug use, does that fall under domestic abuse?
@Beaumirabel
@Beaumirabel 3 жыл бұрын
Hello! My child's father, does microdoeses of magic mushrooms on a daily basis, and smokes cannabis daily to stay high, how can I prove this to the judge, as ex just says "you have no evidence" I know this because his sister and his ex girlfriend have told me, and a mutual friend x
@alexaanderson6173
@alexaanderson6173 2 жыл бұрын
Ask for a drugs test cauz am sure if this was u doin this he would b wanting u to drug test..
@Beaumirabel
@Beaumirabel 2 жыл бұрын
@@alexaanderson6173 judge isn't interested
@kyleparker2139
@kyleparker2139 2 жыл бұрын
You don't have any proof or evidence. You sound like just another lying "mother". As usual no proof, no evidence and just allegations against the father.
@Beaumirabel
@Beaumirabel 2 жыл бұрын
@@kyleparker2139 the evidence is his ex girlfriend and sister telling me you idiot.
@natashachiware4882
@natashachiware4882 3 жыл бұрын
Hi God, I never ask you for much but I'm asking you now, please god 🙏 I'm in a situation were I feel uncomfortable and I'm begging you to change things please in the name of Jesus. Can we start working towards getting my son back permanently and not just visits.. I just want to do what the court said for me to get my son back permanently. Please lord. Please help me win this court case I have amen
@robburdick
@robburdick 3 жыл бұрын
hope god helps out, but I think this video might be of more use to you than the lord!
@natashachiware4882
@natashachiware4882 3 жыл бұрын
@@robburdick amen
@neilgrace9147
@neilgrace9147 4 жыл бұрын
Wow, but am taking from a male perspective, but still this applies and was very informative..thank you
@neilgrace9147
@neilgrace9147 4 жыл бұрын
Don’t give up Dads!! ❤️ manipulation and coercive control is real and damaging for women and of course against men! I must have faith in the courts
@Survivor.Diaries
@Survivor.Diaries 4 жыл бұрын
Neil Grace Thank you ☺️ 🙏
@neilgrace9147
@neilgrace9147 4 жыл бұрын
The Survivor Diaries again thanks and the 3 times requested non molestation order was refused by the court..I held to the truth..it’s the only way..now can focus on C100..cafcass and all the next steps ..it takes time Dads,..but hang in there..keep going..your children need you to be stong❤️❤️❤️
@davidflavin
@davidflavin 4 жыл бұрын
@@neilgrace9147 don't have "faith" in the Family Court because there is no rigor. You have to work hard for the justice. Good luck 👍
@neilgrace9147
@neilgrace9147 4 жыл бұрын
David Flavin David, I appreciate that, in times like this..to keep level...is important,..faith is one thing,..ok statements trying to not react to provocative and deliberate misleading allegations are painful, yet ..objtivitie..level to the. Truth...vital...I stand by the truth...if you are the same,,,keep it simple - an look up Alexander Solzhenitsyn...gulag archipegio,..we have a duty to stand to the truth..I wish you all well..this is life changing stuff,..go with it,..adapt..for them...for you ...Siempre Fe!
@clauderukamiza4755
@clauderukamiza4755 2 жыл бұрын
Why you do not mention when there is fact-finding and they find the allegation was made up, you seem to suggest that fact findings are only to find out whether the allegations are true and take action and when they are lies the law does not do anything
@kyleparker2139
@kyleparker2139 2 жыл бұрын
Same thing happened to me. Delayed contact for 4 months to do an investigation, investigation comes back that she lied and the courts did absolutely nothing about her lies but instead made a new hearing for 12 weeks later. The whole system is a broken mess.
@TheRealTopcat
@TheRealTopcat 3 жыл бұрын
Reported for hate speech. I'm a man fighting for my kids against an abusive woman
@sanjayojha377
@sanjayojha377 3 жыл бұрын
Hi there, I liked your both the videos and listen them very carefully. But I am disappointed because every where it seemed that law favours women heavily. What if strong women in the society, tried to implicate husband in false cases of domestic violence. what support is there for husband. If husband truely says ''No' to all the false allegations made againsit him by his wife, they why will law still ask him to go for a course and force him to accept what he never did. If there is no evidence in support of wife's false allegations then why will Court not trust on husband? I will highly appreciate your next video asap on this topic as Children Arrangement law of UK seems to be highly against men. Regards
@TheBILLOFRIGHTS1688
@TheBILLOFRIGHTS1688 8 ай бұрын
Bill of rights says any court should have a jury so if it isn’t right and untrue then you you need to wind your neck in bet your old man leeeps with your sister😊
@geedee7632
@geedee7632 2 күн бұрын
No help for men while the The law grant narcissistic mothers primary carer rights. Who then uses the child as a weapon to domestic abuse men. And who moreofton get decriminated against on false acusation allegations of an abusive controlling manipulating mother.becaause as mentioned in this video men seemsa always get viewed as the perpetrator of domestic violence of abuse. And be of coercive controlling abusers.this is feministical biased descrimination voilation of human rights. Which suppose to equality right of law as parents. How is such thing acting in the best interests of the child. Why did logan that little child die.. undervwhat circumstances. Family law is full of deception and corruption. Is is used against fathers. This legal system is bs.
@geedee7632
@geedee7632 2 күн бұрын
There is some help but it's very very limited. Next to none. 😢😢
@paulgibbons2320
@paulgibbons2320 7 күн бұрын
Molec. Utterly shameless way to make money.
@geedee7632
@geedee7632 2 күн бұрын
Like eve caause adam to sin eat the forbeden ruit like a fool. Forbhe loved eve. Huh lol 😅😅😅fruits
@lovemykids7679
@lovemykids7679 3 жыл бұрын
she always seems against men in her videos , she says was apparentley domestically abused and it shows in her videos she is biased against men , shame though she obviously intellegent just probably in some sort of deniel that it takes 2
@limitlesspossibilities444
@limitlesspossibilities444 3 жыл бұрын
😂 how about not watching her videos then mate? Or switching genders rather than becoming a misogynist transfixed on your misperceptions? Perfect excuse for your type to make a dig at a woman you dont even know who is putting out content anyone can choose to access or not...very telling that you go out of your way to have a nag as if she had a gun to your head and you had paid her for her advice
@kyleparker2139
@kyleparker2139 2 жыл бұрын
She's definitely biased. This is exactly what's wrong with the system. You just know that in court she will attack the father's character with no proof or evidence to protect her female client rather than focusing on the child's best interest.
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