It's a nice video but I think you should have distinguished between joint and extended family in a better way. I don't think living in a family of 5-6 people is a bad thing... if it gets more then there's congestion and conflicts

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@clarityforyouth Sir aap ye to btae ki agar ldka palat gya alag rehne ka bol ke to kya kara jaae

Very well said🙏👏🙏

Same hear very courageous vedeo sir beware of so called samaj😁🙏👏👏👏👏👍🙌🙌🙌

Absolutely agree. Aur kai maa baap toh bahu ko apni aiyashi ke liye khatra samajkar beta bahu ke bich galat faimi badhakar, unme jhagde karvakar bete ka divorce karwane ke pichhe pade hote hai. Aur aaj kal ke ladke bhalehi pati achhe na ho par bete Shravan kumar jaise ban gaye hai. Baghban film ka ulta ho raha hai aaj kal.

👌👌👌👌🙏🙏🙏

Accha aazkal kya soch he😡😡mene to apne sas sasurji nanak saki seva ki mere husbend to bilkul sravankumar the par mujhe koi Javan khrab karne ka afsos nahi he sabke bacce ese hi hon ye bharat he jo jesa katega wahi wapas aayga aaz mere bete dono itnajyada pyar karte hen ham logon ko meri bahu 2 Sal ho gay shadi ko bahu banakar nahi rakhte jo cahe kare itne pyar se rahte hen sab ek beta canada men study Kar raha he ek delhi men hi mere pa's he bacce jo dekhkar bade hote hen woh hi seekhte hen

True.... ALSO... there exist some parents who even can Not digest the growth (career-wise) of their own children... "humein kaun poochega fir"😮😮 Kattu-satya... but satya hai🙏

You are right.

Thanks for your inputs

​​​@@ClarityForYouthsir when i was struggling and sitting unemployed, no one gave her daughter in marraige to me!! My love interest also left me. Only my Mom nd Dad supported me financially and emotionally in those dark days. And you are saying to separate them in a separate flat(no matter how close ) for a random girl who chose me commerially😅. Yes i will fulfill all of my wife's rights and will balance the relationship bn my wife and mother in just proportion but will never give separate flat to my mom and my wife!!!!! and if become necessary , agar dono ne jyada ladai kiya tou dono ko dant bhi lagaunga lekin separate nahi karunga😂

Sir, I really respect ur decision. I wish my husband too could understand. And anyways his parents hadnt given him a good life n prioritised their own needs above their children's. His father was a financial failure, a drunkard n gave up working to sit n eat at home on his son's money at the age of 52 inspite of being physically fit to work. Husband is a self made man. He went to a govn grantable school then did odd job to complete his graduation. He works in an IT company with a decent package. He has an elder brother who comparatively earns lesser than husband so the whole family sympathises with him n waved off parents' financial responsibility n is allowed to live in a nuclear family. Husband was made to open up a business for his elder brother's growth but the bro feared that since hubby has invested in the business, later he may ask for the share so he was least concerned about the business n concentrated on his (elder brother) own job. Hence, the business was shut n husband's hard earned money was wasted. This was when the elder bro was married n hubby wasn't married. Also, since father in law stopped earning, the responsibility of the younger sister's marriage expenses was done by husband n she visits our house every month n hubby has to send expensive gifts with her. The sister earns too. But we indians believe that even if a daughter earns she has no financial responsibility of the parents. Daughters r born only to take from the parents n brothers, never give. And husband is a great son. He never got any comfort from his parents. He struggled n became successful but spends a lot on the parents to give them all the comfort in the world. I married my husband in an intercaste yet not a love marriage thru a marriage mediator. I had my own flaws. I was 30, have health issues, had a broken engagement n my father had just recovered from a severe health issue. We had a huge house but no monthly income. Papa wanted to prioritise opening a business to start a monthly income. He had already spent enough on my previous broken engagement so this time wanted to prioritise opening a business than spending too much on my wedding. So compromised to marry husband who just has a decent job but doesn't own a house n is solely taking financial responsibility of the parents n married sister's expenses. Also, believes that the wife is an outsider until she has atleast spent 25 yrs with the husband after marriage. He curses me n my parents that they didn't give enough dowry. My maternal widowed grandmother has bought a property for all her grandchildren but would give it first to her daughters than in case the daughters don't need it for any financial emergency, they can inherit to their children, us. But since husband is burdened with so much of financial responsibilty n doesn't believe in buying a house but renting one, thanks to some stupid youtubers, he constantly pressurises me to ask my maternal grandmother to get the property on my name. My health issues don't allow me to work. So he is burdened with too many responsibilities. And doesn't want to share parents' expenses with the siblings n the siblings too r least concerned. Elder brother because he earns less n younger sister because she is a girl. Hubby is great with his blood relations but worst like many indian men as a husband. He wanted a working wife who can contribute for his parents' expenses, bring a huge sum of dowry n perfect in household. He rejected the working women for marriage who wanted to contribute their income to their own parents because if she is living n eating in the husband's house why should she contribute her income to her parents? He said, my sister earns too but doesn't contribute her income to us. Husband was bald too before getting a hair transplant. He doesn't own a house n how does he expect that he'd a perfect wife? Anyways, he did get flawed wife in me n frustrated now. My health issue is related to mental stress. It increases with the in laws politics. In laws too wanna control the house n their son to have a control on his money for their own security n tries to dominate me. My upbringing was done to live with freedom. I too belonged to nuclear family. My father was the same as my husband who held the siblings n mother over the wife. And spent all his money on them n during downfall none of his siblings nor even mother cared for him. Only my mom was there for him. Dad realised that mom should have been his priority when he lost the financial stability n deteriorating health n when mom lost all her life in struggling n saving money. Thanks to my mom who saved money to at least have our own house. I don't want to struggle like my mom n dont want my husband to realise that wife should be the priority after losing everything n wasting my whole youth in struggle. I want to move in a nuclear family, live with freedom n get over my health issues. Also want hubby so share his parents' expenses with his siblings n provide only basics to the parents, not a lavish life cuz his parents never gave him one. His parents creates rift between us n hammers on him that the wife is an outsider, never trust her, blood relations are above the wife. I'm sick. Can't divorce him cuz I too am dependent n can't move on that easily to be with someone else as I can't live alone all my life. I want my own family, my husband, my kids. N will let my kids have their own life when they grow up n plan my financial retirement. My in laws did not inherit a penny to husband.

@@problemsolution267 It's such a sad and moving story. In my case , it was I who needed to make a decision. Ultimately, we alone are responsible for what we get or don't get in our life. With bold decisions, comes great risks and responsibilities. But whether you take a decision to step out or stay in, the one thing you must do is to first have a sound mental health. And who's responsible for it? Only you. Be bold. Best of luck.

Well said! Happy for u that u had the courage for all of this

It isn't humour as per say just simple fluent haryanvi style of speaking hindi

Right you are.

He is blunt and clear always. I always adore such people

I don't understand their mentality...like they are unconsciously controlling everyone...even knowing this is going to disturb whole family

​@@doflamingo7973they are habituated.

So agreed with you🎉

Children raised in nuclear family systems are simpletons whereas children raised in joint family systems are much clever.

Can't disagree more

Same holds true for men going for jobs or out station duties. That is why keep men inside homes locked up in order to keep a Check on them. Also, please seek psychiatry consult. You desperately need it.

How true. Not only child sexual abuse but also sexual abuse of daughters in law in these families which was for obvious reasons hushed up. Never ever enter such a matrimonial alliance. Life is to be lived peacefully with or without a man.

Hey , i am getting Married to this man and he lives with his parents. Should i marry him? Btw its an arranged marriage

Apart from my mom ..who catered to hostile MIL andd SIL and a very demanding husband…my father never had time for us..he was conditioned in taking the role of father for his brothers n sisters… we had all materialistic joy but no connection with either parent..on the other hand both brothers paid attention to their families..having little or no responsibility!!! We wore the brunt !!still my father is catering to his brothers families and now want his sons and daughter in laws to do the same

​@@LoveMaze-kw1lejust tell him that you're gonna live with him if he does a job outside of his hometown.

Yes

Good

You and others like you are brave. ✌🏼

Good that you separated.

Aapne ekdum sahi kaha Shaliniji... sexual exploitation is very dark secret of joint families of older times.

Haan to tum paise Wale hoge bhai...jo ek aur makan khareed liye... Yaha to parents + chacha ke sath rehna pad rha h...abhi 1 saal hua h meri shadi ka bhai...kuch solution do bhai

@@ashishraina5637earn more and make life better

I must say that you have very boldly put things in proper perspective. 👍

Are your parents staying with you now?

@@veenavarma7 Well we have two storeyed house . And my parents stay upstairs, and I opted for d ground floor. Like they planned accordingly everything . But I will b moving out with my would b husband next year post marriage at an apartment which is like 5 km from my place and around 2 Km from my husband's ancestral home🙂

Hare Krishna

I'm staying in joint since birth And what you said is true

Those films and serials made us feel pity and regret for not having those ideals which are impractical now-a-days.

Why you are living separately? From your parents?

@@ashitmukherjee5934 I am working in defence and whenever I used to come to home there was chaos and klesh as my mother wants that I should divorce or leave my wife. It makes no sense.

Never feel guilty… my partner listened to his parents and broke rishta with me… I hope he feels regret rest of his life.. he literally lost the only support he had

A big correction......my mother was right.......my wife is characterless and has extra marital affair..... bloody sucking my life

Mine stays 10 hours apart and I would rather have a joint family with a seperate room or floor for everyone. The loneliness and lack of friends in cities slowly kills you mentally.

@@rudrapratapsingh735what about your wife’s mental health!!??? Quality time is better.. have some goals and hobbies in life

Thank God ab to apko samaj aaya.. mera partner broke rishta with me just because his mom blackmailed him.. and he wants to live his life for parents ..I am damn sure vo bhi coming 5-6 years me yehi bolega.. pata nhi why elder male child wants to become Ram of the house and waste entire life… we have only life.. maximum parents are selfish

Now I have decided I will never marry the elder son of family.. they are abused by parents and such men mostly ignore wife and kids for their own parents I think such elder sons should not marry and do seva of parents

​@@mswr3351lol I'm the only son 😅 . Most of this generation people have 1-2 kids .

​@@mswr3351do not generalize , not every parent is selfish, yes there are bad, selfish parents but there are good parents as well. So please do not generalize.

U r true.. kind hearted members will be manipulated exploited by selfish members..

Happened with us too

In exchange, he can trust his family members much more than any randoms.

So so true

I agree

Even I am watching still this 4:00 o clock routine in my family..

So what ? it had it's own benefits when it comes to things like stability and trust. It is just incompatible with the economic and political realities of our time.

​@@rudrapratapsingh735what stability and trust, elders if they have big ego will made your life hell, specially younger generations. You have to cater to there whims and fancy all the time. There are good joint family as well where people have respect for each other but there are joint family one member blames and insult other member all the time. As for women joint family is a mess, you have put up any nonsense of elder women's in the family, mother in law, grandmother, aunts , nanad etc for no real reason. These elder women think that they are some kind of devi or goddess who can't be wrong.

​@@rudrapratapsingh735raat ko 4 bje uthkr Kon si stability aa rhi h?? It's all about control and nothing more than that maybe pehle k time pr jb bijli nhi hoti thi to log suraj ki roshni k hisab se uthte the kyunki unke sare kaam uspr depend krte the pr aaj ye sb krne ki koi zrurt nhi h.

Yes the same fukin situation everywhere... Nobody helps instead create problems... India me husband wife ki koi private romantic life hoti he nhi.. It seems like ur marrying his family not him. One of the reasons behind frustration of wives.

Please tell me you left that hell hole

@@misscat4433 they came to my home. They left. And will never be welcome here again. And i will never go to them again.

​@@Crispr_cas9thchutiye log hi shaadi karte hain 21st century mein . Previous generation ke baad hi marriage stop ho jana chahiye tha, but koi baat nhi dheere dheere waise bhi marriage rates kam ho rha hai, hope upcoming generations iss marriage chutiyapa ko khatam karde.

@@AbhishekKumar-xh7ic don't call people chutiya... Bas system thoda kharaab h.. Parents think that humari life kharab ho gyi to apne baccho ko bhi jeene mat do.. Too much of family interference in married couples life just destroys the love n bonding.. In India people who cross 55 yrs of age feel that they are too weak and should be fully dependent on kids and this cycle continues..

Right

So true.

You explained very well 👍

Yes right.

Mere sadhi ko twenty years ho gya joint family me sab sooakh chula me jal gya ab to dhyan bhi nahi hai ki mujhe kya pasand tha

May I add 1 more important point... :-when you have to take decision on any topic RElated to you and your partner, just decide it YOURSELF... kisi aur ki salaah mat lo..... the 3rd person is Not Capable and none wld ever be capable of understanding the Bond, the Gravity OF Your relationship. Thankyou🙏

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As they should, allowing weak people to have authority is bad, which might happen in nuclear families.

@@rudrapratapsingh735 OR those dominating people will exploit those runt of litter.

Right apna man ka kuch nahi kar sakte

Pehle k time pr ye zyada tha, isiliye to ghr mai glt kaam hote the chhupate the log.

तो तुम लड़के के घर खेती करने क्यों जाती हो?

@@learningworld8405kheti karwayi jaati hai. Ever heard of slavery. Ye modern day slavery hi hai.

Sharma sharmi me Puri life secrifice kar do bas

Yes jitna jaldi samjh le utna acha ..... Is Sharmaa sharmi se jitna jaldi bahar ayee utna acha apne liye bi or bachoo ke liye bi .... Buree to waise bi hai hee

Quite obvious, ladies are mostly the breakers of families,

​@@rachnayadav612बधाई हो आपको । ❤

@@nipunarjundhruv3852 for what?

Same to you

Also expect the same from ur children when u ll in ur oldage

​@@kundu.M12🤣🤣🤣 but, he probably meant within joint families rey baba.. Not in general.. Lol..

Depends on person to person 😊

Father ka khana n care kse hoti h frr🤔🤔🤔

Same my case, he says alag rehne ki aadat daalo, but I can't live alone

@@kusumrastogi5672Actually no one can live alone

You have to learn ya apne ghr mai seperate ho jao ye umeed Mt kro bahu bnake degi ya vo mere hisab se jiyegi. Ldki k single maa baap bhi rehte h akele. Of course ye jindgi bhr k liye nhi bol rhe 70's mai aap phir sath mai rehlo pr kuchh saal sirf bahu bete ko akele rehne do. Aap apni hobbies create kro, call kro unhe, apne friends, rishtedaro se milo, hmari generation to bahut kuchh kr skti h movies dekho, alg alg type k khana bnana sikho, games khel lo. Me bolti hu koi aap bnni chahiye sirf budhe logon k liye jahan vo dusre budhe logon se mil ske dost bnaye. Baat ye h ki jb vo kuchh saal alg rehte h to dono ko hi apni boundaries smjh aa jati h.

Generation gap is huge.