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I feel wise parents will never burden their children by asking for money unnecessarily and they will plan their retirement well. And wise children will always try to support and make their parents lives better (if they are in a better condition themselves). Because it's not about money, it's about the intentions. Giving happiness and comforts to parents bcoz they have been really understanding towards them and raised children with wisdom.

You are absolutely right Sir, 12 year back my parent's did the samething , my younger brother has given money to my father, he has purchased plot on sister's name , now he is no more and sister need equal right in father's property and deny to sign on NOC, now she has more property then my brother , relation is too bad among us. Mother is supporting Sister. Ye sab raita parents ka failaya hua hai. Pehle unequality ki ek ko diya dusre ko nahi phir ab jo bacha hai usme bhi chayiye. Better club all asset and divide equally.

Maine apni ankho k samne dekha ki ek maa ne apne bete ko ye tak ginwa diya ki maine tera jab accident ho gya tha to 8 lakh lgaye ye kiya wo kiya....i was surprised to listen this.... baki ye to normal hi h north india me तू इतना बड़ा ऐसे ही हो गया, हमने तुझे पैदा किया and frustration itni hoti h bachhe ko ki isse achha to mat hi krte paida... palne ka b ehsan gate h maa bap, har din sun sun k bcahha पक jata h. It is highly logical n sensible❤ आप समाज के नाड़ी वैध हो। एकदम सटीक बताते हो सब।

My parents became the bank since the time i went to college. And till today. I have told this exact argument with my parents. In return i got the answer that forever you have to repay. They will not put any figure bcz their want of return is unlimited. They will never ever understand. The argument reduced only after i started emotionally becoming distant from them. One instance also my mother asked me to gift a 20 k shoes. I gifted it. A few days later in an argument my mom exclaims that why do u think i asked u to gift ur dad that shoes, i was like why? And the answer just made me crumble into my bed literally.... As she said that in return of the gift i am going to get my father's ashirwaad. I thought parents blesssed us irrespective of gender, intelligence, or looks. But now i know that intellectual ability pe toh bachoan se hi inke blessings biased he, saath hi looks se bhi baised he, gender se toh sabko patah hi he kitna bais he ab paiso se bhi ashirwaad kharidne ke riwaaz chaalu ho gaye hen. Jis tarah mandiron mein business chalte he bhagwaan aur bhakton k beech ussi tarah ab parents bhi investment bankers ban rahe bache paida karke.

I want to add a little point here by giving a real example. My friend got a decent job in central government in West Bengal ( native Odisha). His salary was nearly ₹55,000/- per month. He never sent any money to his home because his family was rich enough. In course of time he accumulated a good sum of money. But the only mistake he did was he lent the money to his "local" friends in West Bengal with whom he used to play cricket in holidays. When he asked for his money, they delayed it for one year. After that when he asked money seriously, he went missing on that evening and his decomposed dead body was found hanging in neraby tower. I just want to say that parents should atleast know when and where their child is spending the money until he gets married .

My mom took away even last penny from my salary while marrying me off.. though my parents are financially strong and as such there was no short of money .. her words were "i gave my salary for my wedding and thats how it is done... you also have to do the same" I had no say on how my salary was spend on my wedding... 😢 I will never pass such a trauma n pain to my daughters... Wish this video was made earlier

Parents ko flawless dikhaaya Gaya hai Hamaare culture mein. People forget that parents are humans with flaws. And every individual has been put on this earth to survive and in a good way. Dusrin ke liye karna hai to sant ban jao. Kisi ne nahin Roka.

Your best video ever. This thing has happened with me. When I got my first govt service, my father started taking 20% - 30% of my income as his spending, that too for unaccountable reasons. So after giving him around 2.5L in 2 years of time, i gathered courage and started asking for the reasons. Then he started shouting at me, and due to this our relation had touched the bottom. Then I took a step ahead and called him to live with me so that spends become less. Now everything has started going to be good. But Amitji, your words in this video are true and absolutely reasonable. Thanks.

I spent my entire 6.5 years of savings to buy my parents a flat and am proud of it and my parents never asked for money.

True social reformer and educationalist. Pranam Amit sirji, God bless you abundantly.

One day one colleague seems depressed so I asked him what happened, he told me he took & used all 5-6 years of saving to build house in home town now his father want to give 50% shares of house to his daughter also

When I got married, we lived with my in-laws, so actually divided the monthly expense and used to give our share to my in-laws. When we moved out of their house due to our jobs, neither they asked not we gave. As you said, we had taken medical insurance for them. When we went abroad for higher education, we did all the expenses without expecting any help from them. Now that we are doing good financially and being mother of growing son, I am clear that he would live separate after his marriage, this situation would never arise. Still thank you for sharing your knowledge.

Dark reality of Indian society nobody can reveal 🙏🙏 sir u have great guts to taught new generation are suffering a lots

I faced the same situation. I buy groceries, pay bills , bought health insurance, still my mother ask for money and always compares me with my cousin telling like my cousins give x amount to their parents. My main regret is I revealed my salary to my parents and now they are like itna jyada kamate h itna bhi Nehi de sakta. Thanks for putting this issue into light. The life of a guy is very hard jitna bhi Karo last me sunne ko milte h Tune hamare liye kya kiya😢😢

Marvelous Content!! My parents have ripped me for show-off. Till I realized the back story, it was too late. Lost all relationships and am struggling broke!!

If you taught us this 15 years ago, today many of us don't live in a measurable life!

In this world of nonsense, you stand out honest, genuine and clearly helping the society. I really like the way you address the issues. Thank you Sir.

I have suffered all my life because of this habit of my husband…he was a gazettd officer but I lived hand to mouth..in-laws gave that money to their Daughter..I wish this video was there 40 years ago

The message in this video and few other videos is very layered it’s not to be taken at face value . Parents exploiting children or Wife taking big Alimony or Young generation taking advantage of parents money or boss exploiting or friends taking advantage it could be anyone. The subtle message in all this videos is simple “Be smart with your money , work smart , invest money, grow your wealth, be happy with your wife kids family “ Individual progress will lead to family progress hence leads to society and country’s progress Life mein sab hota hai but yet we have to come out as a winner always

I fully agree with this and idea of giving medical insurance premium is superb. Sir, I request your video on one important topic. Husbands sometimes get exploited by wife....he is supposed to spend all salary for family but wife spends more for herself like on parties, trips and parlour. She should be equally reaponsible to run the family.

My father in law left 6 crore of loan We are repaying till now...still no respect....but i always sayto my husband we will never give one rupee loan to our children and ruin their life

Soo logical. I am the Parent of two kids. And totally agree with you. In future I will not becoming the bank. I will give a safe and free environment to both. Thank you for the clarity.

Sir,,parents jab job mei the toh unki salary 900/- (1980s) hoti thi..aaj inflation has lead to change in this dynamic..and salary is 50000/-..they are in the impression ki humaare kharche hundreds mei hai aur kamaai thousands mei...and trust me this backfires big time..specially if you are a girl and helped parents create assets and now you cannot use them..BECAUSE YOU ARE A GIRL.!!

अरे सर हमने ऐसा देखा है कि माँ बाप बेटे के जीवन की सारी खुशियाँ खा गए। बेटे बहू को बसने ही नहीँ दिया ।इतना कंट्रोल किया। पर यह भी सच है कि सभी माता पिता ऐसे नहीं होते। बहुत से माता पिता अपनी ही संतानो पर सब लुटा कर भी अन्तिम समय में उनकी अवहेलना झेलते हैं।

Lol, my husband funded 50% of a flat my mother in law bought on her name saying she will gift him on his wedding, now she refuses to transfer the flat on his name not even 50% of it, she says mere bad sab tumhara hai, he has 2 sisters also there's no will & they are so ready to ask for their share... At the time he was buying it i wasn't married to him but i kinda indirectly told him not to do this but indian society me aisi bat karne wali bahu chudail aur ghar todne wali hoti hai now he's seen the reality, anyway i am kinda happy atleast real faces to samne aae uske.

Sir your content is amazing... today our generation is suffering coz parents act more of a bank than being a parent! Hope your video gets viral and many understand working towards clarity. We have to break this cycle! Not only sons but daughters are also treated badly and in a biased way too. Hats off to you for the clarity!

Your parents are not your emergency money, your children are not your retirement fund. Build your own wealth. Unfortunately our previous generation was not familiar with this gyan. So, we have to support them. But, we should not expect the same from the next generation.

Truely 100% practical and unbiased approach. In Maharashtra we read "manache shlok" by Ramdas Swami which says "nako re mana dravya te pudhilanche" means dont expect money/property from next generation and old generation. Yes we should expect love/care from old and coming generation in return of love/ care from them. Truely eye opener for old age society. Sidhi baat no bakwas

Very good content We r facing this situation from 40 years वो कहते हैं कि चाहे चोरी कर के दो लेकिन हमें तो चाहिए ही चाहिए , क्योंकि हमने तुम्हें पैदा किया है He has good pension , retired from a guzeted post हमने उनसे कुछ नहीं लिया है , We make house by ourselves He has a narcissistic personality

Sir aapne jo jo bola hamare life mein bilkul wahi fit baith raha hai... Kal hi mai aur meri wife yeh sab baatein discuss kar rahe thhe aur aaj aapne clear keh diya. Thankyou very much sir to help us be free from any so called guilt imposed by the society.

Very good video sir, i as a parent do not expect anything from my children once they become financially independent. I believe that we should save enough for our old age so that as parents we dont have to ask our children for money and they can live their own life on their own terms, burdenless..and if they want to give it should be from their own free will and not forced.

Yes, you should give money to parents if they really need it and are financially not secure. But I thinks it's the parent's responsibly also to have a comfortable retirement saving and lead by example for their children & not depend on them. There are cases where parents invest their whole life saving to get their children a fancy abroad education. In such cases, it's the children's responsibility to help their parents financially once they start earning. It's the youths responsibility to ensure their parents don't lose their wealth in getting them an education. And if that is the only way, they must take responsibility for that and share the financial burden with their parents once they start earning.

This thinking will take time...but if parents are not having pension or any source of income...money needs to be given...

First of all, thank you from the bottom of my heart for bringing up this topic. Nobody I say nobody in India talks about these sensitive topics. They are like 'forgive your parents and all'. My father told me once 'I have spent 3 lakh almost to raise a kid like you'. I told him 'Who asked you to have me in the first place? You should have thought before marriage if you even want kids or not '. He came to beat me. My father is one of those who purposely badmouths about his daughter in the society. Mere father sabko bolte phire ki I don't give him money. Mother bhi waisi hai. I don't have any respect left for them. They only talk to me because they need money. Main jitna na burden bani unpe, woh mere pe burden baan e rahe aur aaj bhi hai.

I always give everything to my parents as they have gone through very tough time since my childhood but after few years I have observed that their expectations are increasing day by day 😮...and now I am feeling it is like burden for me I also don't find appreciation or satisfaction coz anything I do they became judgemental 😢...love between us vanished and there is only relation for money exists 😣

My husband gave their 8 year income to their family before marriage, after marriage we faced so many financial problems but parents ab bhi happy nhi h😢

Not even 24 hrs ago my mom told me that we spent so much on your education and you are still not earning. You shud get married because if you're a woman and youre not an IAS or a Doc/Engg then you're worthless in this society. Not a single man will marry you and me and your dad cant keep taking care of you financially forever. Its our money which we earned through hardwork. Marry any 'rickshawallah' you can find and get off our chests. The fact that you mention the gender lens parents wear when they look at their kids....its like.... it opened my brain like...what the hell, Ive never thot about it that way.

I am proud our country has you. ❤ I don't know you will read it or not, but I watch every video of yours and you're indispensable. 🌟

My parents have not even asked for a single penny from me, they don't even know what my salary is. Even when I voluntarily gift something with my choice to them, they always feel bad that the gift is too expensive and money should not be wasted. 😅 They even ask me that if I need money, leave alone seeking any monetary help from me 😅

😊i am exactly with this thought. Not taking money from children though they are quite capable. When people say that you have successfull children so you may get financial support. My husband is no more and i was housewife officially still i want to remain financially independent and self sufficient. I don’t want to bother my children as I believe that they worked hard for their's success. I was only service provider. I bless them for their success ahead.

आपको ये वीडियो 10 साल पहले बनाना था। कुछ माता-पिता ऐसे भी होते हैं जो पेंशन पर अच्छी लाइफ जी होते हैं, फिर भी आवारा बच्चों के लिए जान देते हैं और जो बच्चा लाइफ में अच्छा कर रहा होता है उसके ही जीवन में कलेश करते हैं।

You're doing a great work Sirji 🙏🏻 There is also a common trend among parents, they put money into our studies and expect us to choose the career of their choice. And they always choose the obvious "UPSC" and pressurise us to give exam amd waste our life in it's pursuit. I myself has WASTED many years of my precious youth due to my parents and family pressure to go for UPSC. Can you please make a video on this topic, addressing parents of this country: "की भैया अब सरकारी नौकरी का मोह त्यागो". Your previous videos has helped me a lot 🙏🏻. Please continue making more such videos on UPSC and Govt jobs. When such videos will go out in the public, someday our society will be free from the clutches of "Govt Jobs" and "Exam Culture". Thanks again Sirji 🙏🏻

Bhai waah!!! I am impressed because I have been there, done that, and now I resent my parents. I learnt the hard way that Adharmi ke saath Dharm nahi nibhaate. Kyunki unko oongli dete hai toh woh galaa pakad lete hai. I almost always never comment on social media, but Uncle, please accept my appreciation. Great job!

I can recall discussing the same things with my husband 6 years back sitting in a crowded park and speaking slowly to avoid anybody hearing it as such things are not accepted by society. That time I myself was not sure whether I am thinking right but with time and maturity, I was able to evaluate my thoughts and started having a strong conviction in them. Thanks for sharing such useful content and coming from an experienced professional, it really means a lot.

Sir.. In South India.. Many parents don't want to get their working daughters married.. Because... They want total control... Of their daughters... Salary

👍🏻my straight answer - Bilkul Nahi dene chahiye. Unke paas already unki savings aur property hai. Youngsters ko apne paise apni "Wife" aur apne Future Plans ke liye sambhaal ke rakhne chahiye. Parents ne Youngsters ko bahut pareshaan kar ke rakha hai

Excellent Sangwanji. I recently discovered your videos and I found them extremely honest. You are the one holding a mirror towards the society and showing them their true faces which obviously people don't want to see. I can vouch for this video because I myself witnessed this in my own family as well as my relative's families. I have gone thru enough pain in my life due to parents expectations. My mistake was that I kept giving the money for initial few years when I started job and wasn't saving anything for myself. And then a couple of friends have imparted some sense into me and I started saving for myself, so I started asking for the purpose when parents asked for money and I only gave what I found genuine and reasonable. I also took the medical insurance for both my parents..but just because I started discussing and openly questioning them about the purpose of asking money, my equation with them was suddenly changed. I, who was the best child became the bad one. So this is the reality of life , thanks for showing this up. I am now living my life on my own terms but it's not a very happy one because I don't share a good relationship with them anymore. 😢 My younger brother who was a student that time and I contributed a big time so that he could finish his studies but he doesn't even know who gave that money for his course because it was between myself and parents. Eventually, parents now only love him and his kids, I am more of an outsider.

Sir please make something for new parents. I am going to be a mother soon and sometimes I feel anxious by thinking about what kind of parent I'm going to be. I don't want to pass any trauma to my kids knowingly or unknowingly. I don't want them to feel the same things we face with our parents.

If parents are financially dependent on you, then only you should provide them

Such an accurate assessment of Indian society. The soul of the country is that of money lenders. It is a bloody gerentocracy.

Correct Sir....I am a parent my kids are young but I have no expectation from them I only pray for my child to be happy successful n healthy ....very true what we are doing is our duty our responsibility so we should not do it thinking about the return let them live their life wisely n happily

Very practical and eye-opening video for the present society...Neither the parents nor the children should go out of their way to help each other for the sake of showing-off their contribution in future...Help should be totally unconditional from both ends without any expectations...Parents should understand that we children are not their retirement funds and since they have brought us into this world,it is their responsibility to take care of us...Also,we children should understand that our parents are not bound to fulfill our each and every desire and hence,we should respect whatever little things they are doing for us for our happiness and survival🙏🙏...

I think once u start earning comfortably, 1. Set aside a fixed percentage of your salary for your parents in case they require money (5/10/15/20% depending upon how much u earn) and pay them monthly, 2. Approval of your spouse is necessary for the same. 3. Take health insurance for parents (best investment) as health emergencies could cost you a fortune.

First time literally first time I'm seeing someone speaking my heart out.... Thankyou Sir for vocalising such a serious issue....

This is exactly happened with me sirji. my parents kept on asking money 💰 🤑 and my father splurged and my mom gives people money on interest who don't pay her back. Basically they are using my hard earned money and wasting it and again they make faces that they are poor.

Sir meri saas meri shadi ke baad muje sunati thi ki me tumhare pati ki padhai ke liye apna FD tor di thi. Mere papa ne khafi dahej diya tha fir bhi muje sunati thi.😂 muje lagta tha jaise vo apna beta nhi padha rahi mere pati ko padha rahi thi. UP me jab ladke wale aate h arrange marriage karne to bolte h ki hamne apne bete ki padhai me itna lagaya h to itna dahej to milna hi chachiye. Raj to apki beti hi karegi 😂😂. UP ki saaso ko apni bahuo ka raj karne ka bahut dukh rahta h. 😂😂. Mere pati to apne maa baap ka kraj utarne ke liye apne chote bhai ka kharcha pure 11 saal uthae taki vo IAS ya PCS ban jaye lekin jab hame apni beti ko foreign bhejna tha to koi udhar bhi money nhi diya. Upar se mere husband ke bhai ne unpar aarop lagaya ki vo LIC ki kist bar rahe the kya jo ab paisa maang rahe h. Sab logo se anurodh h ki jinke maa baap bacho ki line laga kar apne bade beto per apne chote baccho ki jimedari daal dete h vo jimmedari mat uthaye. Vohi chota bhai kal ko aaka sabsa bada dusman ban jayega

Never thought I would hear this bitter truth. There is a shloka in Durga Saptashati which underlines this very selfishness of human beings. I also believe in this. I give analogy of birds who take care of their yong ones until they learn to fly and leave the nest to make their own. We humans should learn from them

Life is ruined when husband gives money to his parents n his brothers n sisters, all life n all not satisfied n very bad bahu. This is our society. Parents are also like this want all money n yet not satisfied. Thanks for this topic.

Why only parents, elder siblings who have helped in building career of younger siblings, to whatever extent, they also expect lifetime returns and parents also keep reminding younger ones about it.

mai 19 ki age se job karna start kar di thi now 21 year old mai call centres mai kaam karti hu meri almost pura paisa ghr pe le lete hai or naahi meri study ke liye kuch karte mai chid ke apne gayi jagah job chodh di or har waqt mujhse paise mangte mere rakhe hue paise bhi mangte hai ab toh mere pass 500 bhi rehta hai toh usmai se bhi mangte hai mai tang aa chuki hu ekdum

My brother's also gave money to my father when he is alive for spend extra expenditure and my father was a pensioner...😂😂but my father deposited all money to Rd and fd coz he knew kids may not saving...

You give such logical explanations to problems no one wants to talk about....👏👏👏

Sir u r right. Mere saas sasur toh shadi ke baad hi bolne lage ki ab har mahine aadha kharcha dena padega. Hamse to 8 saal tak paise liye. Jab tak unke sath rahe. Par dusre bete se toh koi paisa nhi maanga. Par ab sari property par woh kabza kr rha hai... Aur woh uska sath de rahe hain... Hamare sath rehte the toh kahte thy hamaare pass paise hi nhi hain jo hain woh apna jeena marne ke liye hai. Jabki pension hai phir bhi. Kaise badal jate hain. Ek bete se paise lene aur dusre ko sab free mein. Par hamari koshish hai ki hum apne bachhe ke sath aisa kabhi nhi karenge.... i

I think your idea to reform the Indian society toward the western way of life and thinking is great . The new generation of indians and the blame game parents /children you mentioned should smoothly disappear with assertiveness of the new generation. I feel sorry for these young couple living in very basic condition in Australia and still need to send money every month regardless they survive with their low pay wages otherwise they start getting txt message call from their elders regarding money.Your topic is very interesting.

Excellent video, I belong to Jatt family, there is a big problem in my community that when they fix marriage of their son they show all my farm land is his,but they didn't give a single to him till his retirement, if he oppose this they said we will give to only your part. Boy willget all or small part should be cleared from the starting. They exploit the girls and their parents.That farm land becomes Gale ki Haddi for girls

Many present day parents are using hardened money of IT emplyoed Son's in a very very Laxuarly way. This poor bachuars sending without questoing. A good advice for all. Thank you sir.

very well said!! Respect to u sir...I would like to share my story, my mother asked money for taking care of me and my babies till they were 3 years old and Now I have lost respect for her. Its not about money if she would have asked nicely but she demanded like she had done a favour. I have spent a lot of husband's money on her needs from last 16 years, paying for my brother's cancer treatment, his alcohol rehab and his depression treatment. I m tired of all that...Now I know she is surely a selfish women who doesnt care about me but only her son.

Excellent video sir! I agree with every word you said. One should help parents when there is emergency, take out health insurance for parents but paying monthly emi is very expensive for couples with kids. For our parents in Mumbai the expenses are so high, paying 15-20k a month for both parents and in-laws is like paying to bank :) . It is very sensitive subject, most will disagree with you due to their emotions/love for parents. But truth is always bitter and mindset change is a must. Unless you know someday that money will return in some form, one should count and contribute for emergency or basic necessities. Anything beyond that make no sense. Also we have to prepare for our own emergencies , care for kids and retirement fund as no one is going to help us during our old age. Paying this monthly undisclosed emi is an unfortunate monthly stress to finances.

Great content, Sir. Can you do a video on the parents showing favouritism and unfair property distribution

You are a true legend Sir. It seems like you are saying what my heart always feels but kahin guilt me rehti thi k soch galat hai meri because society k norms se opposite soch hai. But your thoughts which are aligning with mine gave me the relief that yes its true and valid. I hope every parent gets the chance to listen to you. Thank you.

Sir everything you explained in your talk is reality,I am agree with you 100% . It’s parents job to raise their children and provide the best they can until their children are independent and on their feet. It’s not children’s responsibility/duty to pay back or be financially responsible for the parents. Children have their own responsibilities and needs in their lives. And when they get married, they will have the same responsibilities as the parents had once. So it’s a circle, let it move smoothly. We are in late sixties Totally independent by the Grace of God! And so proud of ourselves.

Very nice advice. Many parents need this advice because they exploits their children throughout their life and they don't understand that they're exploiting their children.

Don't have much expectations. Just give 15k per month and that's all. Will keep it that way till it becomes 10% of my income. Currently it's 20%. Have medical insurance for them. But that's all. Nothing else. Needs and not wants.

How to deal with statements like “paise kya Kama liye.. Khud ko parents se bada samajhne lage ho”..

Such debates are need of hour. Indian parents exploiting their children. In my case, they didn't nothing for me. I got success due to my hard work but they always ask for money without any reason. Mostly, they spend on my nikame siblings or such activities which i don't like so it's unbearable. But, kuj nahi ho skta

Topic is really worth to discuss upon , you are playing a great role in bringing clarity to life

My parents do not accept my money bcz I m a girl and they do not do any auspicious work by spend my money I m discriminated all the time yet I feel happy and I want to be the best daughter May God make me stronger .

Yes one should give some money to one's parents ... But some children are helpless... They always want to give some financial assistance to theirs parents.. But now our country India is going through some humdrum of unemployment, especially west Bengal state, here is no proper option for a student to earn money as the whole state is going through corruption, syndicate, politiCal crisis and money laundering cases... Once west bengal is a superior state in India... But now this state 's condition is so unfortunate that the youth of bengal' s dream perished.. They are very very helpless.. They did not get any hope now... How they could help their parents as they are not carry their own burdens of expenditure... The situation is deteriorated day by day... Please sir give some hope of ray to west bengal 's youth

I am 30. Married. My maama, mausi and all maternal side relatives ask money from my mother. I have 2 maama and 2 maami. Both couple (i.e all 4) have jobs. My mother is naive and always gives money. My masi also has a job, although the salary is not good just 30k a month at the age of 50. But they have house in Delhi. They have property in ancestral village also. But they don't manage money well. And when in need they ask us. Same with maama also. They recently bought a 8lk car whereas they could afford 4lk car. Now they ask us money. Me and my sister also wish to lead a lavish life. Go on foreign trips. But we save money. And when we say to our mother that we are planning to go for a trip. Then she lecture us about saving money. We can easily afford a couple of foreign trips, buy luxury items. But mom don't allow, not even with our own money. But she doesn't lecture her relatives. And our cousins enjoy a lot. They don't save money.

Only one way- parents should have retirement fund intact, and property. Nominal education like graduation tak support karna chahiye parents ko "with a budget" warna laye hi kyun bacche? Paida karke child labour banane k liye?? Par higher education that child should do by taking education loan and on his/her own merit. Then parents bhi nagi keh paengi "tere liye itna kharcha kiya" and would stop looking at children as a bank or source of return on investment.

My opinion 80 percent youth are dependent on parents😊 particularly govt servents with pension

Agree but its hard to convey this to in_laws that we want take care of them but not at the cost of our children's future. When you speak to them in this fashion where you refuse to honor their undue demands usually receive sentimental whatsup videos.

We'll be the upcoming parents so take a oath if your single or getting married or in a relationship that you'll not ask money from your children....make them to be independent emotionally & mentally financially apne aap ho jayenge

What parents have sacrificed in their own time can never be compensated on excel.

America mein old people also work partime because social security money is not enough....Indian mein oldies sit and eat at home .

Aaj kal bachche selfless aur unconditionally pyaar karte hai parents se aur parents selfish ho gaye hai. Ladki achchi wife ho na ho achhi beti hoti hai aur ladka achha pati ho na ho achha beta hota hai. They can cheat (infedility) each other. They can leave each other for parents. Common dialogue heared these days from the kids - husband wife ka divorce ho sakta hai par bachcho ka parents se divorce nahi ho sakta. Spouse is replaceable but parents arent. Baghban ki opposite movie banane ki zarurat hai ab. Jaha ab husband wife ke relation ke value ki baat ho more than parents. Kartik Aryan monologues and luv Ranjan ke films gumrah kar rahe hai aaj ke youth aur 30s walo ko aur isiliye jyada divorces ho rahe hai. 90s ke zamane me divorces kam hote the kyunki middle class families jyada tar tab nuclear families me rehti thi. Hum 30s walo ke grandparents hamare parents par financially dependent nahi hote the. Unki govn job aur pensions hoti thi. Ye 90s wale parents jyada irresponsible the. Apna retirement beta paida karke secure karte the. Humare grandparents ne hamare parents ko bohot kuch inherit kiya tha isiliye unki izzat hoti thi. Par hamare parents ne daru juve aur irresponsible attitute se unki wealth to udai hi par hume bhi kuch inherit nahi kiya. And yes jaise jitni moti dowry ho utni izzat damad sasural walo ki karta hai vaise hi aagar sasur ne pati ko kuch inherit kiya ho toh bahu bhi izzat karti hai. Otherwise, sab lutakar bete par boj bano aur apna control na chala jaye bete ke upar se isiliye ghar me roz kalesh karvao aise parents bohot selfish hote hai. Maa agar financially bete pe dependent ho aur bahu aa jaye toh ghar ke kharche ke paise woh bahu ke hath me nahi jane deti, bete bahu me zagde lagwati hai, bahu agar dominance sehne wali na ho toh bete ka divorce tak kara deti hai. Use koi matlab nahi hota bete ko stress hoga aur bete ko aur milegi ya nahi, woh akela pad jaega par maa ka control uske salary aur ghar se nahi jana chahiye. Kyunki maine tujhe paida kiya hai aur pala hai. Aur bawakoof bachche apni selfish maa ke liye apni grahasti barbad kar rahe hai. Buddhe honge aur akele hoge tab samjhega life partner kya hota hai. Beta agar garib ho jaye to dusre amir bete ke pas bhag jati hai maa. Apna comfort nahi compromise nahi karti maa. Biwi har halat me sath deti hai in middle class scenario. Kisi bete ka zagda maa ya baap me se kisi ek se roz hota ho toh kya tumhare liye woh ek dusre ko chhod denge? Woh tumhe nikal denge. If u r above 18. Toh tum kyu chhodte ho apne partner ko unke liye?

I miss my grandfather, who is late since 2007. I am going through a difficult phase which I wish I had a my grandparents to share with. And my grandmother.

Uttrakhand k logo ka ghar bna k samaj ko status dikhane wala bilkul sahi hai😂

I agree with you , some parents think that children cannot handle money and they want to invest or spend their way. Now-a- days children also pressurise parents to finance their studies abroad with their savings. I have seen many cases where parets spend all the money and end up spending miserable life because children dont repay them.

Sir ye sab par laagu nhi hota ..kuch parents bahut mushkil se bachon ko kabil banate hai toh bachon ko parents ko paisa dena chahiye.

On point. Very nicely explained. So much clarity of thoughts you have Guruji

Sir plz make a video on the topic : 5 yrs bahut saas ke taane, abusive language , comparison with jethani sab saha ab 6 months se hum alag apne 3bhk me teh rahe hai , jeth jethani 2bhk me snd saas sasur jo 60 yrs ke around hai wo apne house me rehte hai 10km distance hai , same city. Mere husband ko guity feel hota hai ki wo maa papa ko sath ni rakh rahe ,mujhe ni relive karna wo sab firse, sabka khane ka time alag , no me time , taane marna , jhagde and lots of things which i dnt want my kid who is of 3 yrs to see, wo bhi fir waise hi behave karega mere sath how his grandparents behave and talk to me . Plz plz plz aisa ek video banaye mere husband aur unke jaise aur logo ke eyes open ho and thoda clearly bole ki unke dimag me ghuse , he want ki mai bus sehti rahu pehle jaise aur he says ki aisa hi hota hai sasural mai , meri jethani ko koi kuch ni bolta as they have 2bhk . She got blessing in disguise. Meri productivity kum hoti hai , i am a youtuber, newly content banana shuru kiya hai , in laws ke nakhre pure karte karte time hi ni milega kuch productive karne ke liye. Plz help sir .

So deep n bold. Well said.👌🙏 My two sons earn good now but we parents never ask for money from them. As love n respect they sometimes spend on us on birthday s or etc as their duty because they stay with us. People ask do they give money, I say we don't need it, we live according to our income. They have to make up for their lives. Parents r all love, support n guidance for their children not banks. This way the relationship grows sweet not bitter. Parents should be self depending but this is not always the case.

We are living in interesting times. Financial security is challenging. Ensuring adequate Medicare to the aged parents should be the prime concern of each and every ward.

I'm proud of parents they never asked me money till now and they work very hard in agriculture even though they don't need to work. Not everyone get parents like me

Hi Sir, I am from Hyderabad aur past 6 months se apka content follow kar rahin hoon. This video made absolute sense, bilkul sahi bataya apne. Previous generations me jab employment kam thi aur earning jyada nahin hoti thi, most parents never made an attempt to save for their retirement during working years. May be because the families also had a large number of members and money was spent there completely . Youth like us should now start planning and investing for retirement so that we do not cause suffering to the next generations. We should set clear boundaries with parents righy since we start earning, so that there wouldnt he unrealistic expectations from them. Please make a video on how youth in their 20s and 30s should plan and build their retirment corpus.

Paise dena band karne ke baad , education ke hisab ki baat jaroor niklengi😅

Main early 40s mein hoon chota beta hai 7 years ka , mere parents ne kabhi kuch except nahi kiya hai kabhi bhi , kuch le liya un k liye to bahut khush hue hain hamesha. Per aap ki baatein bhi practical hain . 👏👏👏👏👏

This man is fabulous and progressive ❤