i HEAR YA! I'M RIGHT THERE WITH YOU AND DR GABOR (LOOK HIM UP ON KZfaq) CHANGED MY ENTIRE OUTLOOK...IT'S IMPORTANT TO PUT OUR SELF CARE FIRST AND YES, I'TS A MATTE OF LIFE AND DEATH. I'M A HYPNOTHERAPIST AND SHOULD KNOW BETTER....HOWEVER, THE BODY DOESN'T LIE.......

Me too!!!! What happened to us?!?!?!

​@@Vulture-88years of decision fatigue?

Conversely, maybe it's that HUGE shift in your life of freeing up 9-10 hours per day while also having a really short train. As far as burnout -- that can indicate a lack of focusing on your personal needs. Maybe find a guided journal or brainstorm on your own about your current values and what you'd like to see out of a day to be fulfilled rather than simply so busy you don't notice the neglect.

That’s what happened to me too. Was so proud of how I could accomplish something every minute of the day. Got very burned out. Now I try to keep my time free!

The whole point of trying to get everything set up through automation and systems is so that you aren’t overwhelmed after you work your ass off all day, so you can have a functional home to count on

Yes!

Your channel sounds interesting 🤔 I just subscribed to ck it out later.😊

I also love your idea's and approach to our homes, sub'd to you.

@@AngellaRosetta Thank you! That's so sweet of you

I love being in DAR and several others! Just subscribed to your channel.

Hi! 30+ year DAR member here. I can recommend Lisa Woodruff, Organize365, and especially her Sunday Basket and Friday Workbox. You may find those useful too.

Thank you!! This happened to us.. flames and everything. I was in the next room thank God and it was during the day but now I refuse to run my dishwasher at night. So scary.

Oh wow! I had no idea. I run the dishwasher at night a lot. It’s actually going now as I’m in bed. I will definitely be mindful and run it earlier. Thank you!

Yes, I had the same experience

Don't leave your blow dryer plugged in, either. A co-worker's house burned down because she left her blow dryer plugged in & went off to work.

Omg thank you ❤

Im with you! Sounds like really overthinking what needs to be done

It's a life-changing podcast. And listening to this is like an investment for my household-the most efficient way. I’m inspired!

You missed the point.

NatickJill- Congratulations on your next phase in life! 😊

I do wish the points were more clearly defined.

I wasn't prepared for all the health challenges I deal with daily. I also wasn't prepared for the fact that if you develop one chronic health challenge and don't take care of yourself, your body will continue to build up new symptoms and eventually you end up unable to do anything. Your body tries to warn you by creating symptoms like feeling tired, brain fog, overwhelm, aching like you have the flu, having an upset tummy, headaches, anxiety, depression, etc If you are ignoring your needs for rest and recovery because you are still trying to do everything, then you are likely to develop further symptoms and trigger physical and mental breakdown. I think my biggest lesson for others is that if you get injured or sick you need a "bare minimum" plan for how to do the tasks you need to do for each of your roles and responsibilities. Spread your energy between doing active work, doing admin tasks and doing things that you enjoy and that relax you. This is both how you get better and how you prevent further problems. The things you enjoy doing become the fuel, energy and power for you to get moving again so don't cut out or compromise on having time for fun, hobbies and being social. I think one of my problems is that because I didn't have a good plan for how I did stuff I ended up keeping busy with everything that I thought really mattered and wore myself out even more. I was made to feel guilty for being unable to work and needing help to get anything done. I eventually ended up bed bound by a list of health challenges in my 30's and only started to get better when I was put on very strong medications, tried other treatment options like meditation and mindfulness, and when I stopped trying to meet the unrealistic expectations. I am slowly recovering and rebuilding my life in my 40's. I'm mostly house bound and get out to do errands and go to doctor's appointments. 20 years after my first symptoms appeared I look back at those years and feel like they were wasted. Then I realise those hard years of being unable to do anything have been my greatest teacher. They taught me to value my time, energy, abilities and attention. I look at tasks now and make decisions very differently. I try not to rush into starting something. I've realised that most things (systems, roles, responsibilities) need to be maintained. Alot of the tasks need to be repeatedly done. First step is to recognise the harmful patterns you repeat (get stuck doing), and the helpful patterns, as they are right now. I learnt to make the tiniest change I could. Learn about the choice gap so you can pause in between the thought of "I need to..." and starting the task. Use the pause to check your decisions. Blessings from South Eastern Australia, Dot

Amazing comment!

I have 6 children and when they were little I micromanaged my whole life and theirs. My houses were awesome. I cooked and baked and decorated. They went to private Christian School. I now live alone in a gigantic farmhouse alone on acreage and I haven't the same level of organization at all. What happened? Get that PhD and please let me know why I went from highly efficient to bum. Please

@@Vulture-88part of it has got to be that you had little live in, built in alarms that wouldn’t let you go too long without doing certain things because you were getting up every day, you were making meals and moving things through your life because you had that oomph behind you. I suspect this and I also suspect that you may be the type that needs to feel justified in the things you do so that you don’t think you’re being “selfish” and so the kids were good justification for baking and doing all of these things that maybe now, having spent so much of your life maybe where you personally weren’t as important as the kids, you don’t have a reason compelling enough to motivate you. I have a couple cheats for that, the first one is the easiest and fastest one, but it doesn’t fix your issue- and that’s Swedish death cleaning. You are thinking about the experience that you’ll be leaning for your kids to experience while they are mourning you. You don’t want them to have a million things to sort through, a ton of crap they have to come and deal with- you want to leave them the least painful situation possible. That’s not ideal bc I think ultimately you still need to value yourself and your own space and time in such a way that it’s worth being as on top of your game now and you were then. Cass always says stuff like, when you’re trying to get rid of stuff but can’t, she’s like, that stuff is costing you. Would you rather hang on to stuff or would you rather make room for your own chance to thrive without being buried under all this guilt and shame for having it in the first place I recommend looking into organize 365 bc Lisa takes you one at a time, room by room, and legit walks you through every step of the way

Thank you so much for saying this!!! I've got 5 kids and the youngest just turned 1. I'm working on implementing a train system but I need to give myself grace too. Thanks!!!

@@heatherdembkowski4782Definitely give yourself grace When my kids were little they could make a mess in 10 minutes that took at least 30 to clean up and I was usually too tired to do it. Now they are older, I can clean somewhere and it stays clean for days if not weeks.

Very interesting perspective. love it!

As a fellow Charlotte Mason Mama, I l 25:32 oved your comment and quote. The whole time Lisa was explaining about trains and rails, I was thinking of that wonderful book by Sonya Shafer, "Laying Down the Rails, A Charlotte Mason Habits Handbook." A great handbook for teaching both our children and ourselves the valuable tools of habits and routines. Love the discussion! Thx for having Lisa as your guest!

💯 % this

Totally, I found once I've de-cluttered and have started some non-negotiable habbits I now have the ability to be creative again. I'm kinder and more patient with my children too 💞

@@ndoch9988ty for sharing it’s inspiring to see from people in the comments I hope I can have this some day soon

good for you!

She is so inspiring. She says things that just click with me and get my mindset back on track!

I know. Waiting for other people to do something just creates so much inner turmoil for ourselves.

I’m curious about this because I’m being told I need to delegate some household chores to the kids because it’s good for them and helps me lol . I agree but you know I find that giving them chores for the purpose of teaching them ( rather than focusing on helping me or considering fairness ) and choosing which chores to give them so that , if they don’t get done , it won’t derail everything else or bug the mess out of me lol . I haven’t watched anything but this video so far but now I’m curious.

This. Thank you for sharing. ❤

My mom was very organized but still created the drama. I think we humans often create drama instead of facing trauma. If that helps any.

@@tammyhavlik1015 exactly!!

I have ADHD also. I do meds, but feel the same in support of your choice to not take them. Just an aside about Temu: there are actual class action lawsuits against them, so just be wary. I avoid them and Target (for the same reason you do) like the plague. Lastly, I have also learned so much from Cas, Dawn & Dana. I take what I need from each one. We all need to do what we need to do to cope and move forward!

@erinespinosa9739 EDIT 2/22/24: 1) Diapers negate the need to tuck, so that alone should be the clue the story is FAKE even for people who don't believe in the mainstream news outlets who've debunked it (Associated Press, Reuters, USA TODAY, etc.). 2) These kind of fake stories are used to manipulate people into outrage that pressures institutions to STOP inclusivity for minority groups. That IS political and it's harmful to real people. 3) I'd never heard of this story before your post and fact-checked it for myself because it seemed both unlikely (diapers!) AND harmful, and that's what we have to do these days with all the misinformation out there. 4) The trans community is facing major backlash culturally and politically, including horrific physical violence. Whatever one's personal beliefs, I believe bigotry and violence are wrong and that it's important to speak up to stop it, whatever the venue. *If it's really true that you're "not at all against [the] community," you still have the option to edit your comment (or repost it as a new one) to prevent a lie that harms a minority group from being seen by more people.* - ORIGINAL POST: Can we keep politics out of this forum, please? No one deserves to be surprise-slapped with implied criticism of their identity while reading comments on an organizing channel (or anytime). *The information you cited is also FALSE (see below).* Please edit it out so your otherwise encouraging comment isn't removed by KZfaq. From the AP: CLAIM: Target’s Pride collection features a bathing suit for kids that is labeled “tuck-friendly.” AP’S ASSESSMENT: False. The “tuck-friendly” swimsuits are only offered in adult sizes, according to a spokesperson for the company and Target’s website. Kids’ swimsuits in the collection do not feature this label. THE FACTS: Target’s seasonal collection of clothes for Pride month collection has been the subject of several misleading videos in recent weeks, with social media users claiming the retailer is selling “tuck-friendly” bathing suits designed for kids or in kids’ sizes.

​@@bellaluce7088I really wasn't trying to be political! I wanted to let people know, if they wanted to buy supplies, that Temu is a good economical choice in this economy! I have seen so many people shamed for shopping at Temu. And I stopped shopping at Target last May, when I saw those bathing suits for baby boys 3-6 months old with my own eyes. I have a gay daughter. Totally supportive from day 1 when she came out to us at 14. Wonderful girl, so proud! But tucking a 3 month old boys penises is abusive! Sorry if I offended your beliefs!

I didn't think her statement was political at all. I too have been put in the position of making a personal choice of where to spend my money and have had really woke people flip out on me. She was obviously just trying to justify her Temu shopping before the craziness ensued!!!! She is obviously in total support of LGBTQAI+ , but against child abuse. Hope she doesn't change her post, people should not be forced to only support your views Also, awesome job putting in 5 years and transforming your entire home!!!! Congratulations!!!

I agree she was not being political at all - you made it into something political! Shocking! She is against abusive practices against children! She has a gay child. But far left, ultra woke people lose their crap if any opinion that is not pushing your agenda is expressed. Maybe you should edit your post seeing as she saw these in person. It's always the most woke agenda pushing people who can't handle any opinion they don't agree with. There was nothing political in what she said, only in what YOU said!

I re-listened too! So much good stuff and inspiration! 😃

Me too

Love that idea!❤🤗

Like Rosanne Barr called it! 😁

I'd love to hear more about that. I need to reduce my grocery spending.

Love this

I write it down in my planner. 🤣 With my working opposite schedule to him, I have to wake him up when I get home. Now, I personally would want to hit someone for waking me up for that, but he insists it's a perfectly good reason for an interruption in sleep. 🤣

That hit me pretty square also

Sending you a big hug, friend. You've got your hands full. Might I suggest finding another home for at least two of those cats . . . .

Give yourself credit for doing all this you deserve it and you'll get to a better place! Joanne read my mind, get rid of extra cats and look at all the places to cut out wasted time

My husband too! But he watches Cass with me and is helping.😊

Great to hear you find this of interest 😊.

Love your comments! I'm delaying my retirement because I know I need a "plan" before I leave. The only structure I have is with my WFH job & it's easier for me to do "work" than deal with with the house, etc.. I need a huge train to get me on track & to reconnect with those hobbies & activities that I gave up after having children. ❤

⁠@@MyOver50Thank You! Well I do not want to back to work at all! Think I just have to stop feeling like I have a holiday 😬 I have no routines and loove sleeping half the day, reading the newspaper for an hour and just do nothing. Maybe I should get more productive like I used to be. I just feel bad when my husband comes home and best case senario is that I have planned a dinner so he can cook it 🙃🤪 We are both quite minimalistic so not much clutter and everything has its place and you will find it there. But I would like to have a plan with exercising, healthy foods, grocery shopping and other things that I easily procrastinate. I feel like I have all the time in the world but actually I don’t! I have less as I get older and need to rest more and everything takes longer time to do…. No I need to build those tracks again and hop on that old lokomotiv and get going 😊 Well that have to be next week as Tuesday I am going to Athens, Greece for a real vacation! 🥰😂 But when I get home…

@@MyOver50 Well take your time to figure out what you want! I know what I want I just have not understod that I needed to make new tracks. The old ones is gone as I moved and we made so much changes. So I need to figure out how to lay the tracks I want! Good Luck!

This podcast is very interesting and does make me realize why I hated my job in a big corporation right out of college .... all those corporate rails were built to benefit others! It's important that the homemaker or small business owner is working for herself, striking the right balance between automatic, habit-based work, and impulsive choices. The perfect balance might be achieved when synergy is achieved -- the routines (the tracks) free the mind and create the time for artistic pursuits, laking KZfaq videos, engaging in crafts, studying a foreign language, whatever!

@@latulipenoire3759 yes! Exactly! I had ”old tracks” that doesn’t work and to figure out everything using up my energy on ”basic” things have draned me so I have no energy left for things I love doing. Like designing and building my new garden. The creativ side of me sort of dissapered after our move. Now I realize why and have started to create ”new tracks”. And when they start to work I will have more time over for my creativ side of life. 😊 Love this pod and the synergy of these two ladies! 👌

As a recently diagnosed adhd person, I realized that having systems in place is probably what got me stable for most of my life... Only with recent changes in hormones did it become crazy stupid for me... The overwhelmed was a constant feeling. I caught Cas's clutter ugh, then a friend recently shared about Dana K whites...her "contain" er concept mind blowing. I have a business degree...and I've always felt the relationships are like contracts between two companies merging...so running your home like a business ..with roles responsibilities defined, assignment given and agreed too with deadlines...LOVE.

@@reneechristensenpillow8373 Congratulations on your diagnosis! 😄❤ It helped me so much! I found Dana's books on Dawn's Amazon page (have Cas's too) and am looking forward to reading them! When I heard Dana say she sweeps the kitchen floor daily to help her "see" anything accumulating on the floor that needs to be put away I thought "now this is a brain that gets my kind of challenges!" ; - D Cas's ADHD videos and the How to ADHD channel have helped me so much! So grateful that we live in this era of easy accessibility to life changing information! Best wishes to you! 😀

You've taken the words right out of my mouth. I'm so relieved and re-assured that it will most likely take 3 years to get my house / train up and running. But that doesn't matter because after 40 years I now know how!!! Hallelujah 🖐️

@@ndoch9988 Yes! 🤓

I like the Minimal Mom and Dana K White. Cass has a lot of other videos that teach you.

Yes, the link to Lisa's tracks & train podcast in the description for this video.

Talking about the theory of being productive what a, waste!

I agree, I felt like this was word-salad without any real guidance. All I got from it is to pick your goals & habits and lazer-focus on doing them.

The system is practiced habits. It seems like many people just didn’t even listen past 10 minutes.

😂 I listened twice on Spotify and listening here as well. It is so good.

@Clutterbugpod do you have a routine for maintaining yourself or is it just me? I've just written a timetable/laid train tracks to help me take care of myself as I used to put myself at the bottom of the list I was the to do that was just too much. Would love to hear your thoughts on self care. ❤

We're the same- we use all the meat we freeze.

Plan one meal a week or plan for a whole day. It doesn’t have to be all or nothing. Start small.