Pity izzati... Should encourage her, not using things like 'if you love me study harder' She should be studying for herself, not the parents.

Despite her grades, im pretty sure izzati will turned out to be the best out off all her siblings. She is the best in manners and attitude, even people in the comment section love her in comparison to the other teenagers in this documentary even without knowing her.

The 2 malay sisters are very well spoken and independent, hope pakcik gives more rein to them over their siblings.

Feel so sorry for Izzati.. She is already so gd. So sensible. N the mum just said 'you dun love me?' I know its stressful on the mum but u cant just say the kid dun love u just because they failed their subjects. Failing subjects n love is 2 entire different things. It will be so stressful for Izzati as well. Think about her mental health.

Totally agree after reading the comments.... The Zainal family stepdad legit doesnt really care much abt izzati or the other stepdaughter. the way he conversate w the wife, shows that he doesnt care and might want to save money for his own children oni... The mum is in a wrong too... Shldnt say such words to her own daughter. You love me you shld get good grades. but i feels this dont even link. i can say i love my mum but sometimes i cant even get a good grade no matter how i tried. does it mean i dont love my family? HAISS. this kind of mindset rlly has to change man the zainal

Mother, please don't play the guilt game with izzati. You were part of the problem. Do you think it's easy to live with a step dad. Perhaps you need to pay more attention to her

Izzati and Izzah are sooooo selfless. They always think about their mom and siblings despite having their own struggles too.

Why would one bring down their child by saying "do you love me with this kind of grades?" You mean love is defined by grades? And what is the step-father doing? If his main role is to support the family by providing care and supervising the children, while the mom works, then why are the girl's results still stagnant with no improvements? When the mother wants to hire a tuition teacher for the girls, why does the step-dad stops her? And expects the mother to supervise their child while working?? If you can't support the family unit financially, at least support each individual in the house mentally, emotionally and physically. The mother has to learn a different approach to guide the girls in their studies and to be honest, besides being biased towards his biological children, i really dont know what is the role of the step dad in the family. In my opinion the malay family is really dysfunctional.

I am amazed by Zainal....the Mum is trying to do the right thing and he is hopeless!

I hate it when parents uses emotional blackmail to get what they want for themselves, making the child feels guilty for everything instead of finding positive solutions.

What, what does the Zainal family's father figure do?! He doesn't take on responsibility at all!

Let’s see if Zainal would be so laid-back if his Son is struggling in school ?

All you want is her to do well? What about the chores and baby sitting her younger siblings? You implicitly put all that pressure on her.

The two teenage girls of the malay family is real poor thing. They have to do so many things n multitask. Especially when the stepdad being a control freak. Both are not able to speak up for themselves becuz they love thier mom. U girls can do it!! Don't let negativity affect u both. You're both mature, independent and such a caring sister. God bless u both. The David's family. For the eldest daughter, girl I feel u. U feel lonley and the attention isn't towards u. But don't worry has u grow up u will be used to it till than smile and try your best to speak up to your parents!!

It actually shows how unprepared and unplanned some parents are. This short documentary is only showing others how they need to plan parenthood instead of “owning trophy kids”

The pakcik really don't seem to understand Izzati and Izzah at all. How can he decide for them if they need tuition or not and how can he just put the burden on to the Mum? Regardless of the brand or price tag, tuition helps in the littlest and different ways for different kids. For some, it may be the only two hours they revise and study the subject. For some, it can help clarify doubts. Izzati seems to be a diligent student who also puts a lot of pressure to do well on herself - to be failing her subjects this way is a alarm bell that she needs help and tuition may be the answer, not simply ask her to "study harder".

I met a Chinese electrician in Malaysia. His family was not rich and he married late. He is now over 52 years old, and his three daughters are under 6 years old. However, he still insisted on having more children until he got a son. I asked him if he could afford his kids' higher education and he said "I don't care, that's their problem". He is clearly a very irresponsible father. In general, the more children you have, the less intimacy between husband and wife, it also means the relationship will usually become worse. In my perspective, I see ZERO benefit of having many kids in modern society, it is bad for both the children and the parents.

Don't put pressure on her like that. She tried. Lower your expectations and give more positive words of encouragement.

The Hengs don’t seem to be a happy couple. They seem to be putting on a strong front for their children while suppressing their inner frustrations and sorrows.

"With this kind of results... do you love me?" Typical Asian parent XD

hahahaha i love how the dad made the itenary into a presentation😂😂😂 omg its literally as if im watching a dad making a business pitch to his own kids😂

I find that Esther has a lot of resentment for her husband and her life situation. she mentioned a couple of times wondering what if she stopped at 3 kids. and her face is getting blacker and blacker with each episode. this episode at the chalet, she is literally over the whole thing, her family, the filming crew, planning for the chalet, cooking food. a lot of attention went to zainal and zaleha's misparenting. but highlighting esther's plight, she about to break liao. she used to be a school teacher too, so all you teachers who have to face a hundred different kids each day, you learn to switch off while still doing your job. she probably switched off after kid number 3, poor thing.

I feel sad for izzati, she has to help with chores and taking care of her step siblings, if I was her parent I would understand and try to manage her time

Dear Izzati, Izzah and Crystal : you have what today’s education and money cannot teach or buy, and that is taking ownership, gratefulness and yet having a heart for others. Everyone is dealt with different resources and circumstances in life and all we can do is to do the best we can and let God do the rest. To the mom Saleha and Esther: much respect to you as a mom. In hindsight, there’s always better ways to be a mom but being a mom is always a higher calling.

Why is the father of the Malay family not working?! His poor wife

Zainal rly doesn’t hav any sense of urgency for his daughter’s grades

Daddy Lim is really a great father ❤️ I can sense the love he has for his wife and his kids and all he does and earn is to spend on his family 😢❤️

Is there a way I can contact Izzati’s family? I’m a part time tutor and I would love to tutor Izzati , free of charge. I can the resilience in her eyes that she wants to do well. I totally understand how stressful O levels can be because I struggled with it myself as well. From 4NA to 5NA, the jump was quite big. I would love to help Izzati with her math and science if possible :)

Disgusting, does grades define who you are? No. The Malay sisters are so hard working and caring. You expect her to study when she’s left home alone with her siblings? And having to take care of them? Haiz...

is so cute to see the father doing presentation slide for a family outing

I can tell y'all: emotional blackmail can affect someone so much that when they maybe in this case, keep failing, they'll blame themselves which is the worst thing ever. I really hope that people don't have to go thru this. I don't want people to experience the bad things I did and other peeps did , that hurt us mentally.

Crystal is mature but I believe her aim might be to study hard and earn big buck so she can move out of this cluster family. 😐

It's a pity that she studies hard just to please her parents instead of herself. I really felt pity for Izzati. She's already diligent enough to study. Using "do you love me" or "you don't pity me" method will cause emotional distress to the girls which were clearly shown when Izzati felt sad to see her mother cried. FYI, even if you have good grades or study until university won't help you to secure a better future. The workforce prefers someone who has experience and lesser people who are freshly graduated. AND! The fact that the step-father doesn't allow the girls to raise their voice or scold the younger siblings is wrong. They should have the right/authority to do so as they are like the mirror image of their parents. I can imagine that once the younger kids grow up, they will talk back to the older siblings and show no respects to elders. As for Izzati and Izzah, they will drift even further away once they enter adulthood. For Ambrosia's case, putting up a defense is normal but putting too much is way off the limit. Throughout the series, I can see that she's a bit rude esp. to her mother when she casually calls her father as "Your husband". It literally shows that you have no respect for the one who endured 9 months of pain to give birth to you. It could be that she's facing a change in puberty or it's just that she has low self-confident. Whatever that I have said here is purely based on my opinions and interpretation on what has been shown in the video. So yeah.

Govt expect us to have a bigger family, look at all of them how insufficient the space is. And the children, one mother how to jaga and help them get good results.

bile anak successful, both nk claim achievement dorang. but bile anak fail, masing-masing salahkan each other.

Izzati and izzah are so good

LOL ZAINAL IS SO SELFISH!!! THE WORSE HUSBAND EVER

i really hope Izzati grows up to understand that the singaporean education really isn’t for everyone. some of us struggle to understand certain concepts, some of us manage to do better in this environment. but even if she doesn’t make it, it’s okay. how you study, doesn’t equate to if you love your parents or not. kids do struggle quite a bit too yknw? who wants to fail? nobody. so i truly hope her parents understand that sometimes she’s trying too.. and she’s just not cut out for this.. and it’s OK.

Ambrosia really needs to stop quarreling with her little brother over the tiniest things, gosh. Annoying girl.

Budak tu kena tolong kemas rumah, kena tolong masak, kena tolong jaga adik2, plus kena belajar pandai. Kalau mesin pon dah rosak sey, ni kan pulak budak belasan tahun. Kesian aku tgk Izzati dgn adik dia tu.

Hate this kind of comment... "If you love me... Study hard.. " when your child already trying hard and expect to get some encourage from your parent.. But at the end they just saying that kind of comment...

Izzati is such a good daughter, sometimes grades aren't everything.

Wow that mother talks of failing but so far she's failing as a mother! The level of guilt she's instilled into her daughters is disgusting! They wanted to move with their father yet they felt guilty at the thought of their mother and step father who they don't even like being in the same room as, struggling with the kids, that's not their problem! I'm guessing the mom knew they wanted to move with their father and lectured them on what would happen if they do! Cried and asked why did they want to leave her? Did they love her? Used the I'm gonna have to quit to take care of your brother and sister, I just had a baby so it's gonna be harder and we we're gonna struggle money wise! She mastered in the guilt trip!

If I got 58 first my mum say alhamdulillah at least pass hahahha can go next level already good one

Izzati's actually really good already though.....she's so well-mannered, helps out with all the house chores and even after her mom says these kind of things, she still can think well and wants to do better. I feel like the parents should not say these kind of things but instead understand where she's struggling in and help & encourage her.

My auntie divorced and married to an English man many decades ago. He was a very kind person. He chose not to have more kid and he took care of his step kids as if they were his own. In my opinion, the step father of Izzati and Izzah did not treat these girls like his own kids.

the guy doesn't even hold the umbrella for his wife and wants so many children because he desires it. Yet, it's his wife that's bearing all the responsibilities. Typical Singapore man...

The reason condoms exist. Some people shouldn't have kids.

"No I don't need tuition. I need time to study, I have none. My free time is used on house chores, and baby sitting my siblings, one whom is a toddler. And all because you and step dad wanna go out and have fun."

To mak Izzati, what your daughter needs is ATTENTION & LOVE. Ape guna dia study pandai-pandai tinggi-tinggi dekat university kalau tak rasa kasih sayang from her own mother who busy working everyday. Sorry saying from my own experience 🙂

Izzatti is super mature! If I’m her mum I’ll be so proud of her! Parents should speak to her teachers to find out more. It may not be as bad as they think.

Izzati's mom reaction when seeing the report card is truly the same with my mom's reaction when seeing my report card tho,i know how it feels

parents of izzati are so mean to her. the way the mum said “i just want her to go the poly route and do something that makes me happy” was questionable.. shouldn’t izzati be choosing a course that she herself likes? why does it matter if u like it or not? also not u studying? and just because izzzati’s results weren’t as high as the amount of effort she put in, was it necessary to ask “with this kind of results, do you love me?” that’s CRAZY! to relate high results = love for parents. so every time i fail a subject i hate my parents. every time i score well i love them? as if results are that easy to control? poor girl i hope some day her efforts are recognised. she’s doing the best she can and deserves the best.

She failed because she’s looking after your other children and she’s very unhappy

The mom is putting too much on the oldest daughter’s shoulders. Just because she didn’t do well doesn’t mean she didn’t try bc I can tell she worked rlly hard and it was stressful for her. I can relate bc there will be so many subjects I try my best on but the results aren’t as what I expected but it doesn’t change the fact that I put my best out there. Instead of making her feel bad about herself the mom should’ve comforted her and encouraged her to do better in the future

Despite the grades I think Izzati will become a successful person

So,the malay family... only the mother work? The step father only goyang kaki? I'm a malay also.. but looking at the malay family... smh!!

Lol better you ask your daughter if they have problems not asking “ if you love me?”.

Blowing up that swimy thingy was so funny 😶 😂.

He wants a sixth child...😂 And what's up with the dude saying there is no point arranging for tuition. At least give it a try. There r many places offering free tuition.

Heng's Family, the day will come you, as a father, will look back to see your lost time with your children and how much you would want to redeem those times you hv lost but couldn't. Appreciate your time with them, and appreciate and be thankful you hv a wonderful n great wife, and mother to your children. Wealth n prosperity cannot be bought, prioritize your family n children, pay attention to the eldest daughter, have individual times with them to talk to them heart to heart. Bring them up well is the most successful n fulfilling thing in life. You are doing well, keep your efforts up, appreciate n cherish them

Izzati & her sister are awesome girls. They are well composed and well mannered. They r a big help in their family but bear in my mind that they are ur kids too, d eldest 2... god bless these 2 ladies❣️

At 6:32, u guys forgot to blank out the child's NRIC number on the report book. Take note.

why do Malay mothers always say, "do you love me?" when teenagers are expressing their thoughts?

My father is the Lim family. Love the dad being the best provider of them all.

GOOD LUCK IZZATI!!! I did my olvls last year ~ tbh my mid years was quite bad too but it's okay!!! there's still prelims and the most important is olvls itself

hey sis, you should totally leave this man with your two daughters. you don't need this man and can do so much more on your own.

be strong izzati..you have far more potential in the future, with those kind manner and attitude you will go far. Don't let few poor exam results get in your way.

“But im in ur Instagram right?” “But i got alot of accounts what” LOL

I was very very very turned off when Izzati's mum asked, "Do you even love me?" when she learnt of Izzati's exam grades.

I don't like the step dad. He just don't want to spend money on his step daughter

Just grind out past year O Level papers, especially 2018's Math paper. Know your weaknesses, make sure you got your strengths on lockdown then you can focus on your weaknesses, topic-wise then subjects-wise. Mid-year and prelims are usually one of the harder exams for a good scare so definitely don't need to worry but don't let your guard down because Cambridge can drop some questions from 15 years ago which you've not seen in the TYS. Also, pray for the bell curve to not mess you up cuz that thing can pack a punch. It's a good thing that the mother shows her true emotions because it serves as a pushing force for her child to get that last bit of effort into studying.

manz,, i wanna give izzati a hug,, i did rlly badly for my exams in sec 3&4 and i still did okay for Os and went into poly,, shes receiving too much stress just to live up to hers and her parent’s expectations. :(

If you guys didn’t see, the grades ( top to bottom) was, C5, A2, F9, F9, F9, E8 and C5. (SA1)

izzati and izzah's parents... no words

It’s ok izzati try harder the next time round I also scored quite bad for my exam 2 F9 and a D7 in my report book still haven’t settle the situation plus my F9 is below 20. Don’t be sad

i feel so bad for izzati, at least she tried

im blessed my parents arent like that :,))) i hope izzati will stay strong

mY CUPBOARD HAVE A HOLE!

lol, that zainal guy. just lol. sorry, i feel the need to make the obvious slightly more obvious.

I think when the mom said "do you love me?" i felt that.my parents use to say that....

This is my 2nd comment about the stepfather and in this episode im here to say that he's hopeless + useless as a (step)parent. Wants to be a househusband but 0 for effort. Lol. Hello uncle wake up your idea! 🙄🙄

Don’t see this enough in the comments section but good job David! Guy is really trying and it’s really heartwarming to see :-)

astounding that nick has the ambition to buy a house for each of his children

it is strange to say the malay family has the wrong way of parenting but yet their kids turn out to be the most polite, responsible and connected. apart from crystal, i find all the other kids and teens in the other two families problematic. laziness, attitude, health problems, fighting, rudeness etc. obviously, the malay family is doing something right.

Okay the stepfather is a monster

mom:how do you feel about having your own room? melody: i need a new cupboard..my cupboard HAS A hole!

I feel bad for Izzati. I feel her. She studied but she still failed and her mum said that she don’t study hard enough because she dont love her..... Although Izzati’s mum is like this Izzati still feels bad and blame herself. Childhood aren’t supposed to be like this :( and the stepfather gosh... no words for you man you obvly don’t care cause she’s not your biological daughter. A good father is someone like Bryan’s father (the father speaking mandarin near the end) he just wants his kids to be happy and he works hard without asking anything back from them. That’s how a parent should be like you should know when to stress on your child and when to comfort them not always stressing them and blaming your child.

these forms of parenting are questionable. your kids are going to grow more distant with you in time.

Izzati tried her best. you cant just SEND HER TO TUITION. Be like my mum. She's strict but kind.

Oh my goodness the fathers in this show need to stop trying to control everything and give more practical help. All of the older children seem so depressed and overwhelmed and need love and support not constant criticism. This is why I think having a big family is not fair unless you know you have the resources. Children are a lot of work, time and money. The fathers don’t seem to be making an effort to understand how the other members of the family feel. I struggle at times with two kids who are generally well behaved so I can’t imagine how challenging it must be with this many. Once you have children I think you have a duty to consider how your decisions will affect them. I felt sorry for Izzah who is trying and wants to do well but is obviously struggling and finding things hard but her parents berate her rather than love and support.

Setiap anak punyA kemampuan masing masing.kemampuan setiap anak berbeza.begitu Juga dgn anak anakmu.aku tahu cakap mmg senang aku Juga pernah mengalaminya.apapun itu aku doakan kejayaan yg terbaik buat mereka.

Man this 4 part series rlly made me realise how lucky I am to be the only child...

Maybe the mother should throw the whole stepdad away...

WHAT is Report card got to do with "LOVE mama?" school report card?

the children need to appreciate what they have

How could the mum ask “sayang mama tak??” just because the daughter got bad grades. Like, she’s very patient with her step siblings the step dad, she studied already. It’s likely because she’s experiencing the kind of stress at home, what do you expect shiaa? Don’t love what lahh?

The heng family is almost like the loud house 7 kids 1 boy 6 girls lol

I feel so sad for the young girl failing her subjects. Educational standards today are far toooooo demanding and stressful for a young person. My heart goes out to her. She should be encouraged not given a choice for conditional love.

Poor family's daughters become the mother's free maid. Rich family's daughters have freedom like the sons. Poor family always sacrifice the daughter. Poor family treasure the son. Rich family treasure the son.