This is definitely not a race thing. I grew up in St. Louis to a single mother and can verify this. My mother is a 24/7 guilt machine (permanent victim). And when I left home to join the Military she never forgave me. Her life fell apart, she lost her job, she lost her house, and she never recovered. To this day she is still a mess and still blames me for abandoning her.

Imagine a 45 year old father doing this with his teen daughter

Many athletes who grew up poor often speak of buying a house for their mother, something that usually a husband does.

I'm a son, raised by a single mother. I can tell you how true this is, and how destructive it is for the son. It literally destroys mens' lives. I would love to put it here, but there is so much, that I doubt anyone would read it. I should probably write a book about it. Thank god for this man (Greg Adams), and others like him. This is something that only boys and men know about.. they suffer in silence, and most of the time don't even know WHAT it is, that's destroying their life. They know something is "wrong" (it usually manifests in extreme anger and violence), but usually very confused as to WHY they are so angry. They usually don't understand WHY they get so mad. I mean, you're supposed to love (and "protect"?) your mom, right? Well, not if she's a toxic narcissist, who is very manipulative in nature. These single mothers very often use GUILT. Has your mother ever said, "you don't even love your own mother!" Or, "I brought you into this world, and I can take you out, too!" Or, "I can't believe you came out of my body!" Mine has. She literally screamed those things at me, several times, before I was 9 yrs old. I developed a love / hate relationship with my mom. I couldn't stand to be around her, but I didn't have a choice. Where am I going to go? I'm a kid. At the same time, if any other kid said a WORD, bad, about my mom, we were fighting! I got in many fights, as a kid, just because someone said something about my mom. I thought it was my job to "protect" her... the exact opposite, of how its supposed to be (we're talking, like 7, 8, 9 yrs old kid.) I have been in and out of jail, juvenile detention centers, and psychiatric hospitals most of my life. I always had this nagging feeling, that my mom was somehow sabotaging my life, but I would feel guilty for even thinking that, so I would push it out of my thoughts. It wasn't until, about 40 yrs old, that I heard about "role reversal" or "parentification", and "narcissistic mothers". I knew that's what it was, but again, I felt guilty for even thinking it. I'm now, 100% positive, that my mom's manipulation of me, her GUILT trips, and the way she made me into her "emotional husband" (she would say, "don't you know how close I am to you?".. I always thought that was "weird"), was THE most destructive thing in my life. I'm now 42, and have finally cut off ALL contact with my mom. It was very hard, but I knew that it HAD to be done. I've gotten better. It doesn't happen overnight, but I am clearly doing much, much, better dealing with anger issues. It is a DEFINITE improvement! I'm starting to feel like a "normal person", now, and not a pissed off monster. My mom destroyed me, for most of my life. I may have 15-20 yrs left of my life, and I won't waste a second of it. To have contact with my mother, is extremely dangerous for my mental health. I'm seriously thinking about writing a book about it. My entire life, I was extremely pissed off, because my mom refused to be a mother.. and treated me as if, I was a "grown man", for her to rely on, and confide in (at 7, 8, 9yrs old). She literally flipped the roles on me... that's why they call it "role reversal". ALL boys NEED their biological father and their biological mother.. and BOTH have to be PARENTS, NOT FRIENDS!! Your parents should NOT rely on you, they should NOT confide in you. How can a kid rely on their parents, if the parents are trying to rely on the kid? Its not possible. My mom used to always say, "we have to help each other!" WRONG! That's not how it works. The parents have to raise the child, not the other way around! Even psychiatrists, are just starting to realize how destructive this can be... and men and boys are just starting to figure out what plagues them, and causes their extreme anger. Single motherhood is NOT NORMAL, and it NEVER will be!! Its destroying our society. My life has been filled with manipulation, GUILT, anger, violence, depression, extreme anxiety (social and generalized anxiety), and I have thought about suicide, since about the same time all of this started happening (about 7, 8, 9yrs old). Luckily, I'm an Army veteran, and can get care at the VA hospital. I now take several anti-depressants, and see a psychiatrist every few months. I'm doing better, but I can't have contact with my mother. Our relationship is toxic, it always has been, and it always will be. People like us should be studied by psychiatrists. They're going to see a LOT more of this in the future. BTW, feminists SUCK, and they absolutely destroy boys and men! The destruction of the "nuclear family", may very well be the beginning of the END for humanity. This meeds to be mainstream information, but for now, we are all (boys and men), trying to figure it out here, on youtube. That's because feminists hate to hear the truth.

Grew up in a single parent home...I left my mother at 16 years old so I could become a Man. 30 years on, it was the best move of my life...tough, but it helped shape me into who I am today. Thanks feminism, Ive learned to loath everything you stand for.

Asian mothers do this to their sons despite having a husband. I really needed to hear this.

What's even more screwed up is when this dynamic takes place in a household where the father figure is present, but she treats the son as the husband and puts the two against each other, all in the name of "family".......

This is EXACTLY what my mom does and she was a single mother after leaving my dad.

Dear single mothers: Your son is not the man of the house or your pseudo-husband. He should not be struggling with you or fulfilling your emotional needs because you’re “too strong” to submit to a man.

My church actually uses the phrase happy wife happy life to chuckles from everyone. They seem to cater to the progressive beliefs. I took a marital problem to our marriage pastor who heads our marriage help department. After explaining the situation he said that is completely wrong, but I’m not a marriage counselor and he turned his back and walked away. A week later I got a letter from the church questioning my faithfulness to the church because my giving is down. I decided to leave the church after that.

Hoooly fuck! I never thought about it. I never saw it this way! That's a totally new perspective for me.

Me & my mother was at war due to this. Our ideas can't coexist under the same household.

damn I was literally thinking about this earlier today. in the hood the single mom shit puts boys in position to feel they need to provide or “help” they mom.. oftentimes that leads them to wanting a quick come up aka illegal means of making money

Truth is a rare thing in this day and age, we all need to stand up for the truth.

I always wondered what was up with KD (Kevin Durant). He's one of the biggest NBA superstars, yet acts so overtly insecure (see his burner Twitter account issue from a few years back).

Idk how I ended up here but I’ve been listening to every word this guy has been saying for a couple of days now

This is too deep. You did the Lord's work here. Keep grinding. And Yes, a woman cannot be the Pastor (final authority in the church)

I was expected to be one of those growing up after my folks divorced. I was called many names, guilted and insulted because I wouldn't do it. The ironic reason my mother and I didn't get along is because I was more like her than my father. Strange things personalities.

Saw all of these things in the church and my parents and aunts and uncles as a kid.

Stay up Bros

Coach Greg Adams, you are right on the money! God bless you for this truth.

The two men in the background,one can’t look,the other is like whah? The woman is like what the heck 😪😂😂 shout out 2 the coach gang

I just received your book "free agent lifestyle". Very well written.

This mans message hits like a truck!

I definitely left my mom, and for good reasoning. Her manipulative behavior showed who she is, controlling, wanting to use me as a puppet, and threatening me, stalking my social media. I’m glad I left, my life has been much better, no regrets. Gotta block them, emails, etc. It’s not worth your health, go live your life and not let them single mothers stop you.

Great content man you on point with everything.

Yepppp. This is what my mom wanted and she is always angry because I refused. My wife is competition and she can’t stand that. God bless my dad !

DAMN ! That was inspirational! Thanks coach

This a big eye opener for many men out there.

Unfortunately I learned the hard way in my marriage. My ex placed his mother’s happiness over his wife and children. This is such an unfortunate situation.

All too true! I’ve countless examples of this. It’s eerily real.

Yep. My mom polices the hell out of me & holds me back while letting my older sister run free in the name of independence smh it's backwards & sick. Plus my dad passed when I was very young & she hasn't remarried since then.

oh we're talking about "son husbands" Alfred Hitchcock's Psycho has entered the chat

Crazy to hear this said out loud my ex wife was like this. Her daughter had nothing to do w her. Yet her and her son where super strange together. Lots of creepy shit I wont get into.

he is correct on the church issue.It is even written ''I suffer not for women to preach''

Great content!

I had to check my ex wife last week because she kisses our son just like that image on the background. Big no-no in my book. The bad thing is I can only enforce common sense on the trespasses I can effectively see, I fear for the things I can't see :(

Spousification

This is such a good talk.

im not sure if CGA was the first to coin this phrase but he was def the first i've ever heard say the term "son husband."

Don't typically like your politics but Coach is spot on this one.

Well said

These are the kind of women men love!!!

I am so happy I found this channel. These talks should be heard by all boys and men.

Straight facts!!!!

Just discovered this guy. He's amazing. I thought I was the only man on earth who felt this way. Appreciate him shooting down all these nation wrecking frauds like our pastors/impostors.

damn my “sister in law” literally did this to her oldest we daughter less than 2 years ago who now has a daughter that’s a few months old all her SENIOR YEAR 😴 , she has another daughter (11) her own and my niece who’s 3

I have a friend who’s a son husband. I try to ignore it to keep our friendship going but I can’t help but to throw out an insult now an then. Btw, his mom wife is married. His dad is a high functioning alcoholic/junkie who doe work.

Pooki, Ray Ray, Chad, Tyrone, Dexter, Derek Lmfao

Facts.

Oedipus and the Devouring Mother.

This ain't just a "black thing", this happens with a lot of other women as well. The Son becomes the "Man of the House". The Son becomes the mother's little Man, to order about and control. He takes orders on command and does whatever Momma tells him to do. If Momma has a Sister or two, they share that power over the Son. I can recall many experiences some of my friends have told me about their growing up with their Single Mom and her Sister(s). The sexual, physical and mental abuse these guys went through was gut wrenching.

This is very real.

HOMETRUTHS 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾. THERE ARE TOO MANY SON-HUSBANDS IN SOCIETY TODAY

Government subsidization of unwed mothers was not an accident. It was intentional. The son-husband is just one outcome of the policy.

This is truly sick! These type of women a user. She probably would keep her son away from other men in the family or any woman that would be a threat to her or a perceived threat.

I'd say it's adjacent to a pathology what takes place in the relationship.

I just thought about LeBron and his mother. She knows who his father is.

Black and Latina single mothers do this alot.

My father died when I was very young and I was raised by my mother. I don’t remember her ever trying to kiss me on the cheek, let alone on the lips. That’s just strange to me.

This reminds me of Colt from 90 Day Journey

Daughter is competition!!!! Feed her Daughter to the Streets!!!! Facts!!! 💯

Crazy how big y’all will get

Facts Facts

Preach

God fearing people don't do these confusing and wrong things

"choir director with femimine energy" lol that describes *exactly* the youth choir director we had when i used to go to church (conservative protestant back then...i imagine these days they're all about blaq tranz lives etc). we assumed he was gay (closeted) but he turned out to have a wife so we figured he was a very "sensitive" hetero male

A friend of mine can’t stand up for himself and His mom has a say in who can he marry is crazy to me. We were on a trip this pass weekend in I found out how beta he was. A son husband to the max ain’t left the crib yet that I know of 28 years old.

My Caucasian mom sabotaged almost all of my relationships. My BLUE-PILL dad sat quietly and let her screw up me and my brothers..

Coach be giving away the enemy's secrets.

My ex wife 12 yeaes ago had a son who never saw his father, I saw how she treated him at the age of 16 and 17. She will talk to him, be submissive, let him talk like he was 40 and won't punish him. I told her the man of the house is the male who lays in your bed and pay the bills. He's not your husband, he's your son. She told me I was crazy and wrong for saying that. Single mothers are the worst.

Truth

My nephew is like this. 🥴

Finally some body telling the true about whats really going on

I don't kiss my mother like that!

😬 speak in it coach

What can you do about it.

Kd mad as hell haha

This is rampant in the African-American community. See it in others too but not so much. There is a difference in respecting your mother and being a mature man/son. A son supports his mother/parents as they age but he does not become "partnered" with his parent as this is EMOTIONAL INCEST. It is creepy.

100%

It takes a black man to step up and speak this truth. Nobody else could do this without getting ripped a new one and be taken seriously.

🔥🔥🔥🔥 #coachgang #freeagentlifestyle

As always, coach is dropping truth bombs all over the place. People got to wake the hell up!

Coach Greg is the next Kevin Samuels! May he RIP.

Coach Greg Admas...you have another disciple in me. I have a son from my previous marriage and 3 sons from my current and last wife I will make sure to learn from you I didn’t have a dad Or a role model I became a little bitch little man boy Bad times woke me up and I can still save my 3 little boys...my eldest it’s gone It belongs to her She have made of him...that photo

I use to be one of these. I would rub my mama's foot because my father didn't want to do it, lol.

I remember Jesse Lee Peterson talking about mothers hot for their sons.

This is real

Great observations Now what? Sadly Future is bleak

The best explanation I have seen of this

Awesome video! Too many son husbands. KD is a beta!

Real talk...that's exactly what his daddy wanted to see. Daddy wants mommy to know that she's an idiot. She's evil. She's faulty. She's toxic. She's wrong. In daddy's eyes mommy is the problem and daddy wants mommy to know that she is no good. Daddy hates mommy. Daddy wants mommy to know that he hates her and she is trash. There is no fixing her. That man made his son into a mama's boy on purpose. It is his intention toward that man, toward his own son. This is what his father made. That is what his father wants to see his son do. It's not mommy's fault. Mommy is reacting to the guilt she feels that daddy wasn't there, is not there. Mommy is trying to fill a void in her consciousness - she doesn't want baby boy to feel unloved or unwanted by women.

I am super against this son-husband stuff I stayed much longer in my abusive marriage than I should have. I am now a single mom and I do not wish to date at the moment. I don’t want to make a bad choice specially with kids now. I have my friends husband and her teenage sons pretty involved with my son and I’m signing him up in martial arts where he will have male figures. What else can I do?

He's describing (my mom) Ms.Jones, one of the laziest person I've ever met. Young men in this position by no effort of there own, may they have the strength and knowledge to hurdle over these trash cans.

the Sonsband if you will

Met one the other day, there was a strange undertone of being a bit too comfortable with each other, telling his mother about how he needs room to sit for his " junk", like he's bragging to her about his junk size.. Sorta weird.

@2:54 - Dunno if Coach meant real prisoners, but, I understood from it that the court system in a divorce creates life long financial prisoner dads that have to pay up for years. Being enslaved to the system. Thoughts?

POOKIE AND RAYRAY!

Yep, why do you think KD is one of the greatest players ever, Rich and still single. I've only seen him with a woman twice, obviously momma don't play that

Jesse lee Peterson talks about the same stuff this man does. All relevant and true.