So can we all agree mixed people should have our race ? The faster we get this done ☑️ the faster there will be peace. It’s a benefit to everyone. We won’t be on black magizine anymore we won’t be on perm boxes anymore, beauty pageants for black women . Let’s all make this happen ASAP

That’s crazy because I’m dark as night and I get compliments all the time,Fuck that I love my darkskin

It’s amazing what people hear or don’t hear. So the woman with the lightest complexion said she experiences colorism or at least receives remarks about her complexion from Latinos/Hispanics. The young woman in the middle ignores what she said to say the only way black people with lighter skin experience colorism is due to bullying from black people with darker skin. Amazing.

Rare too see a lightskin sista so honest about colorism. Usually there the most privileged in the black community. I'm a lightskin dude.People either see me as black,mixed or not. But Idc what some people think. I will admit feel like the safe black guy sometimes.

I wish more dark skinned black men spoke up about their experiences with colorism.

The light-skinned speaker in this trio presents an important perspective. Not every Black person in the US is "Black American" and living in that culture/ perspective.

And people confuse preferences with discrimination. It's okay not to like dark-skinned and it's okay not to like light skinned but it's not okay when you add negative comments to your "preference"

Well not only in black community, it's also deeply rooted in Asian culture

Different type of black girls have light skin & Brown skin & dark skin

I was not raised to be "color-struck". My parents only valued education and achievement. They never mentioned "light-skinned" or "brown-skinned" or "dark-skinned"... I surely learned that stuff once I got to school, though! With bullying and rage at me out of the box like, ".... you think you so cute cause you're _________" fill in the blank, ... 'light' or 'have "good hair". Meanwhile, i though I was medium-toned, not light. So I never got the privileged part, only the projected hate part. Every day. But I learned how to fight eventually. So it stopped because I stood up for myself. Simultaneously though, i had random incidents, while alone, with random white adults calling me "ni**er, this, ni**er" that. Incidents on both sides would continue into high school. My hs was majority white. So lighter skinned blacks get both colorism hate and racism hate. But, it feels worse from within the black community. Still im not crying a river, b/c Im sure it was worse for darker or more African featured black people. No body ever suggested that I not get too dark, that seems f'd up to me! Later in the work-place, I learned from some darker colleagues, that they experienced really scarring experiences at home; where family members (who looked like me) shunned or embarrassed and humiliated them for being darker. So that information helped put the self-loathing that was projected at me into perspective; and I felt more compassion for what darker blacks are going through. We are all black to white people is a true statement. (No matter if we keep some slavery-bourne caste system of colorism going, we are all black). One last point, AIDS, and COVID-19 do not care what shade of brown or black or beige we were, they just struck down a ton if black-raced people; and shown a very bright light on the real sh*t we need to be talking about like the disparity of treatment in the American healthcare system between whites and all other groups, especially so for blacks (of sll shades and looks). We need to wake-the-bleep up, Colorism should die in 2022 and not be resuscitated...

I loved the way that the 3 of you handled this discussion so calmly and with the maturity and patience the subject needs and deserves. I'm white myself, but I can say that Colorism exists even a little bit among white people, too. Curly haired white people, especially if our hair is curly and dark, tend to get perceived as ugly. (Anne Hathaway's character in the Princess Diaries is a prime example, her thick curly hair is treated as both ugly and a joke.) Some people treat it like it's exotic and hot, and others see it as lesser than having straighter hair that is also lighter. I have quite curly hair myself, and I've had white friends with wavy hair who regularly bash their wavy hair and say they wish it was straight! Additionally, blonde hair and blue eyes are held up to be the most beautiful, even if people try to deny it. (I mean, Barbie has blonde hair and blue eyes for a reason.) Even in the Disney Princess line-up, prior to the more modern films introducing princesses of color, Aurora, Cinderella, Elsa, Anna, Ariel, Eilonwy, and Merida all have blue eyes and either Red or Blonde hair. This is a very difficult subject, and I've listened to other discussions of it turn really toxic and angry, and I thank you for keeping things civil. I'm going to listen to a few more videos and probably subscribe!

They’re nothing wrong with the light skin girls nose , it’s smaller than the big girl that mentioned it . That’s again another darker skin woman throwing shade out of jealousy . The girl is clearly humble , why would you do that ? The jealousy needs to stop

I love this conversation. Sitting here learning & realizing I might have grown up more privilaged than I thought because I'm a lighter toned MAN. I have always fought the black-man's typical fight but now that I hear the struggle my darker skinned brothers & sisters get it slightly worse than me. I know that because I'm black, the world wants me dead.... if I was dark skinned & black, the world would HATE me & want me dead then; so this is deep.

Three beautiful women 😍

It was so nice to listen to young women speak so intelligent this is what we need in the community I am a mature woman and a dark skin woman yes life can be hard but it's not only about skin is it no matter Who we marry eventually you don't see skin colour just look at the statistics on marriage an interracial marriage that if it is true love Most times it's usually about the media indoctrinating many young black men and a lot of hate towards their own colour especially if they're dark skinned this is so sad That our skin that is dark is so hated in the community even through there mothers black it is really strange how The black men dehumanise black women but forget how black women also was Suppressed stimulate to them self Now black men have become the second oppression that black women have to in injure become a second oppressor to black women it is 2022 We have to have more empathy more education in the community and stop believing that white is better and started loving been black It is beautiful

That U in the brackets made me laugh 😹😹😹. But I do get your point😌

In school I remember other kids calling dark skinned kids ugly. And now that I'm a little older, men that date/marry dark-skinned women they normally get questions like "don't you worry that your kids are going to be ugly?" or "don't you worry that your kids are going to be dark"

Colorism is for sure a thing. However some woman who look like the "gross sisters" will blame them being darker and not acknowledge that even if they had drake skin color they still would be considered not pretty.

I grew up a shy, quiet lightskin bookworm in the Bronx and lived in constant fear of being jumped and worse by dark skinned strangers. I got jumped several times, I saw other girls getting razored in the face over it, especially if they're pretty. And I when I moved to a predominantly white high school later in life, I was welcomed by all my peers and didn't have to fear for my life again.

This was great discussion- popped up in my recommended….. some roots cause from the “Willie Lynch Letter” circa 1712 ❔

I enjoyed this ! Waiting for part 2 !❤

Just admit it in a hundred years we still will be gathering around tables and discussing colorism. They are many bright and aware women and men trying to end color bias in our race but after 400 years, trying to destroy colorism is like taking one hand and trying to push over a giant redwood tree. We got screwed in our passage from Africa to America long ago and we will always be SCREWED. Bravo to the ones who aren't color struck and God help the infected ones who are! We are a psychological mess!!

1. sis...even in the latino community you are not a "negrita" at all...you are still favoured within the latin community. 2. Colorism is ALSO practiced by white folks as well because they feel more "secure" with lighter people than people that are darker and unambiguously black. 3.I feel like the darker women were holding back in a way maybe not to make the lighter lady uncomfortable and that's why we need our OWN spaces. 4. I noticed that the light skinned lady doesn't fully accept her priviledge and light skinned priviledge...its not about white people seeing you as black or a few black folks feeling disappointed that you dont have a certain hair type it is about you being able to maneuver through so many spaces because you are not a "threat" and you are the "safe" one and also the fact that no matter your hair texture, your skin tone makes you the default preference and aspiration of the black community and fluidity and advantage in other communities as well due to your unambiguousness. Systemically, you are favored and thats the issue. 5. The colorism conversation is SYSTEMIC thats why it should be focused more on those its affecting which is darker skinned people just like you have some Europeans who are discriminated against by fellow white folks but we never say or try to focus on them when talking about racism because their issues are not SYSTEMIC. 6. The whole "self love" thing is such a facade because self esteem isnt built in a vacuum...how do you feel beautiful and get to love yourself when you never see your image being loved on? when you see your image constantly belittled, self love goes out the window.

Oh you finally put Joanne in YOURE video! Lol

Very smart women. Spot on. One thing the light skinned woman did not mention is Hispanic is not a race. She is mixed race with Hispanic Heritage. If she had an ancestry dna she would most likely be close to biracial. She was correct about having light skin is one advantage but also having hair closer to white peoples…and facial features. I have seen biracial people with darker brown skin but if they have hair like whites or have lighter eyes and small facial features they are still treated better than a very fair skinned mixed race person with African 4 c hair or broad facial features. JayLo may be seen as ideal in the Hispanic community…but in a European Spanish community she would be seen as dark and less white than a blue eyed Spaniard.

All three of these ladies were very attractive to me light skin dark skin brown skin doesn't matter

This was great convo

The solution is stop talking about colorism . Stop making it a thing . If you are dark skin and you have dark skin kids stop telling them they are dark skin . If you have light skin kids stop telling them they are light skin and let people live and be themselves . Because the rest of the world is going to remind them of the worlds perspective. But if your child is confident and loved and was never taught this , then the world opinion will never matter to them . And they will Always love themselves.

Shit I don’t get privileges if I get in trouble they lock my light skin ass up each and every time so I don’t have the light skin privilege

I gravitate towards more light skins but its that one dark skin who looks better than most light skins. What I'm trying to say is if your cute skin color has nothing to do with anything

I think weight also comes into play with some of this too. If one is not taking care of themselves, and they're rejected as a potential whatever, it may not ONLY be, because of colorism at all. Some people just want a particular 'look" they find captivating. That's that! Let's be realistic (I won't answer this question), would most single Black men in the New World, despite the tone of their skin color, prefer to go on a date with Gaborey Sidibe (As she looked when she made the "Precious" character) or Normani? No explanations! I really don't need it, nor is it being solicited. If any man wants to answer this, I would just need a name. Chosen one? My chosen One is Yashuah.

I have heard older black people say that two dark skin people should not marry for the sake of the children. I also think dark skin is more of a challenge for women. Dark skin men are promoted and most desired by most women. That is me in the picture with my husband of 25 years. Our two sons and daughter look like me. My daughter enjoyed all the attention she received but my boys not so much. Howler they are all married now. My daughter married a man that looks like my husband her father. One of my sons married a woman that looks like me and my other son married a brown skin woman but she has very long soft hair. Colrism is stupid because trust me white people see even mixed race Obama just as black as anyone else.

That’s a lie I got chosen over my light skin step sis in a modeling competition I love my dark skin

Some North African girls and south Asian girls have light skin

America has a big influence on colorism tho

It is wat it is im just glad im lighter brown skin i would never be on bp team or be pro black thats a joke i laugh at them i could care less bought wat bp been through i jus use tjem jus like everybody else in the world n yeah im black but not black i dont like that word period

They have no clue on what they are talking about the girl that's speaking for light skin isn't a good rep I'm sorry - the ONLY time lightskin women don't feel the brunt of racism is when it's compared to a darker skin woman and you are around whites. Other than that we take on the same racism and maybe more because we get it from bothsides. A lot of what the darker skin women are saying is their reality but it comes from a feeling of inadequacy but light skin women feel that also because we have to go even harder to prove we aren't white washed in the head. I just felt this dialog really perpetrated the same ignorance. The fact darker women think we get a pass is insane lmao we do not.

I got 8 beatiful lightskin yellowbone daughters i thought they will ge dark because i am but they turn out to be light and i love it but they get hate for being beautiful 😍😍 😂😂😂😂😂 and they super thick 😊😊

Latina, girls and Hispanic girls speak Spanish

Wait, who are these beautiful women??!!🔥😭😍

Brown girls and black girls have dark skin and light skin and Brown skin

How come every time a light skin girl was “bullied “ it’s cuz the darker girl was “ jealous “ lol or it’s always a dark skin girl maybe just maybe ya shorty period lol ion kno

I think colorism is in the black community because we don't have a culture that every black person knows and can be a part of. We have American culture and in American history the lighter you are the better. I would more or less say if this is a problem for women/men it is action/mindset that we have grown to become a part of Black Americans' culture. We should know that we are a people of many skin tones because black is a combination of colors. Having color in your skin is a blessing it doesn't matter how much color you have or how little color you have. The understanding of having color in your skin is beautiful. This frees us in some ways.

That’s not true! You don’t know someone else experience to say it’s worse or not.

I feel like this video wouldnt be this confusing if perhaps you guys got a light skinned African American … not biracial… but like an Aaliyah or Beyoncé type. This Latina girl can’t really relate bc it’s so conflicting when you grow up in the Latino community… there’s colorism in the Latino community w the white Latino people and the black Latinos. Culture does play a major role. I feel w a light skinned African American … growing up w similar history and culture, it would’ve been more conducive. No jabs, but I was cringing bc as a Latina I get how she feels. You’re either looking like salma Hayek or white like Cameron Diaz to be considered a perfectly beautiful Latina. After that it’s a step down it’s almost like whites and black in the US just way worse bc Spanish dudes will only date white white women. Whereas black dark men would “go for” the light skinned black girl… a Latino man would not go after a light skinned black girl since she would be considered way too “black” and what their kids to come out as white as possible. (Of course of note, not all Latino people share this mentality) Also, and maybe it falls along the lines of just hurt feelings, but I was at work and two dark skin women came late to their appointment, our receptionist (whose dark BBW) told them they had to be rescheduled. She was met w a lot of hostility and demanded they got seen (they were two hours late). The receptionist came and got me (a light skinned) and oh boy the second the saw me all hell went loose. They instantly felt I was giving them an attitude, called me a conceited light skinned “bitch”. All I did was let her talk talk talk, explain why she was two hours late and nod my head and when I reiterated what the receptionist said I was automatically cussed out. I got another co worker (whose a 6ft blue eyed white man) to go settle these belligerent women, boy how they’re attitude changed, oh they saw this white man and shut the hell up quick. He came out and gave them our managers number and told them we weren’t going to see them and had to reschedule. Nothing different other than my black lookingness, yet not being dark is what triggered them. Nothing I said would have made them happy I feel in the US America (not speaking for the Latino culture per se) light skinned often have to do this “humbling” bc there’s more privilege than someone whose dark, but when it’s the opposite end (white people) it’s not the same. I used to work at Boston children’s hospital and out of 100 respiratory therapist only 5 where black and I was one of the darker ones. Patients family requesting they didn’t want to have me care for their child bc they questioned my abilities bc I’m “not white/Asian/Indian” so I can’t be smart enough or professional enough to care for their kids. I started w this brand new grad from Idaho, white blonde blue eyes, she didn’t have to work very hard to get promoted to a level two respiratory therapist. I had to almost “prove myself and work harder” to even get a morsel of respect from everyone I worked w (me and my other darker/black coworkers)(excluding the Asians and Indians bc they’re automatically considered professional). Just feels like being light you get shoved into this unknown category bc others receive it worse. It’s like a weird limbo state. Yet I understand it, but it feels like how a light skinned feels is invalidated. Yet receive micro aggression from both dark black and white people

From the beginning of time men have always gravitate to women that's lighter than them, it's a natural instinct yall can blame eurocemtrism, but colorism has been apart of black civilizations before white people were even around, from killing albinos to picking lighter skin mates, lighter skin women are seen as less of a risk because they appear less dominant, and even if not thats not true for all. They appear more feminine both in physical qualities and attraction more likely to pass on those symmetric traits to put their possible offspring, in a better position of standing out and being even more desirable, natural selection.

Your my fav yter I’m in sa I’m so angry you left I wish you didn’t but life is life

lol, colded blooded. Interesting how people use Black people to build their self esteem and why are you saying dark skin Black women? Only dark skin women are Black.

Omg some of these ideas from the girl in braids 😱 this mess is in your head do we feel like we get picked more? Uh oh no. The color shade is making you think we are that far from like darker women????? 😂😂😂🤣🤦🏽‍♀️ we think identical to anyone else but not the rappers girlfriend is light 😂🤦🏽‍♀️ it's not because she's not dark-

If the debate is about colorism in the so called "black community" , why would you have a discussion with a woman who identify herself as a "latina"or "hispanic"? I'd understand if she said she was afrolatina but she didn't.

Naomi Campbell is beautiful

It just hurts our feelings? Ya ok

Yellow girls is Chinese

She’s mixed not light skin stop getting that confused

Light skinned is not black lmao when will ppl wake up and see the truth

I wish they would of used a light skin black person, instead of a Latina

The woman on the left is multiracial. That's not colorism, they are different races.

That totally wrong omg am from Africa and The Gambia the dacker the better

The woman in the middle is Thick she dark skin and????? I take it, I disagree with her weather u dark or light you black u will be affected discriminated against

A mess.

light skin woman are far more prettier than DSBW and white woman...mixed people for the win...the real beauty standard

There's 5 shades of Blackness

The mixed girl shouldn’t even be in the conversation

White shirt the prettiest