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Proud of you x I have always known my beautiful son. I am happy you have met a wonderful husband who is now part of my family. Xx

I am 53 and I still have issues about being gay. We need to realise that we live in a world, still, where being gay is still looked at as being 'abnormal', 'wrong', 'odd', 'dirty', etc etc....All that nastiness and hatred gets under the skin and we end up (without having any control over it) internalising this homophobia. We all must stick together, right the wrongs, support our brothers and sisters, and keep fighting for our rights. Thank you so much for putting your own personal story out there....Thank you from the bottom of my heart. Be strong young man :-)

Our coming out stories are so spot on..it's a little crazy. I was forced out when I was 18 and a senior in high school. I was terrified of anyone ever finding out in school because the handful of gay kids at my school were treated horrible and were social outcasts. Not only from my classmates, but I was terrified of my family finding out as well. I knew I was different from a fairly young age..5 or so. I didn't know what it was..I just knew I was different from other boys. As I got older..around 12/13 ..I knew that I was gay. I'm the last and only male in my family to carry on the name and I felt a huge amount of pressure to continue the line. I seemed to be the token favorite of my grandparents. I was very self aware. When I was 15 I wrote a contract out between myself and God that I wouldn't be gay and that I would marry a woman and have kids. I even signed and dated it. Lol ..I feel so sad for that kid. I've always been a good natured, loving, and understanding guy...so I never deserved what had happened to me. I started becoming popular my freshman year of high school. I was my class's president for 3years and student body president my senior year...homecoming king...etc. I made good grades...in honors classes..was on the golf team..student council..honor society...etc etc. My best friend was a year ahead of me...and when he started college we both came out to each other on the same night. It was so nice having his support and we always built each other up. I sarted going to a few gay parties with him and a girl he had graduated with was at one of these parties. Although I didnt know her...she knew me. She had a younger sister that was a sophomore at my school. Most people knew who I was from being student body president...and she started telling people I was at this gay party and that I was gay. I must have been dancing with a guy at the party...or something lol..for her to draw that conclusion. My friends all started coming to me asking if I had heard what people were saying about me. I hadnt...but the proceeded to tell me that this girl was saying I was at this party..and that I was gay. As you did...I totally just shut down and felt like the world was crashing down around me. Around this same time I had met my first ever boyfriend...I was head over heels for him. I never experienced those feelings before...its like a natural high. That's probably why I said "fuck it...yeah I'm gay...who cares?" I was hoping that maybe it wouldn't have been such a big deal to people...but I was wrong about that. I had never dealt with being bullied like I was. Guys would push me down the stairs...slam me into lockers...they wrote "faggot" on my locker...yelled"faggot" down the hallways. They would pour pop on my car...that was a brand new mustang that I paid for myself by working...they keyed "faggot" on it...drew pictures. All of my guy friends dropped me...friends I had since elementary school...they wouldnt even look at me. I had just a small group of girlfriends that stood by me.But the worst part is when they started calling my parents house phone...leaving messages on the answering machine...saying the worst things about me ever. I had to rush home every day after school to delete the messages because I was terrified of my parents or sister finding out. I would get text messages all the time from people harassing me. I even got letters in the mail from people. It was awful. :( It got so bad I was forced to tell my mom about it...she knew something was wrong..but she had no idea of everything that was happening. She said she knew that I was gay from the time I was a little boy and that she loved me no matter what...which was wonderful to hear. But when I told her about school. ..I've never seen her so upset and emotional in my entire life. She had a meeting w me and the principals...and their only suggestion was to get my last english credit and graduate early. I went from being student body president...to a complete social outcast..in a matter of only 5 or 6months. It was like my world was flipped upside down. It destroyed me...and I turned to things that would take the pain away...that I would never have done under normal circumstances. I started using drugs...and I shut everyone out of my life for several years. I'm 34 now...and those experiences still affect me..but I've learned to deal with it in healtheir ways. I've been in recovery for 8 years now and things are a lot better. I cried when I was listening to your story...because I know that kind of pain. It's the most lonely feeling in the entire world. Thank you for sharing...I know that it will help those that have experienced it...or are now just going through it. That we aren't alone...its something that should bond people together. Sorry for the book! Lol..I just had to comment!

You dont deserve to be outed in a way like that. No one should ever be forced to come out. And I'm glad that you handled it even tho what happened. You deserve goodness.

Courage is what you displayed here, my friend. Wish I was as courageous as you. Love from Texas.

Indeed. You’re better having one good friend than lots of shallow people who don’t have your back.

Thank you for sharing your story. A similar thing happened to me in my early 30s. Even though I was already out to my immediate family, I dated a guy who outed me to not only my extended family, but to a whole bunch of strangers. It was a very traumatic experience for my immediate family for that to happen. That relationship ended very quickly and to this day, my relatives treat me differently, but I'm okay with it, because I'm comfortable in my own skin. If anyone doesn't want to get to know me because I'm gay, so be it. This is who I am, love me or leave me.

You seem to be a beautiful man, inside and outside. Your honesty and dignity are inspiring. Your voice and body language is almost hypnotizing.

I did for a long time too, being a fireman and a paramedic really made it even harder...I was forced out too, feel ya, hang in there, so much love

Learning to love oneself is sometimes a ongoing process. This is what you struggle with.

Sorry you were outed by someone else. Not cool! One should only come out when one’s ready to do so. Live your truth. Be happy! Together for 44 years. :)

People can be so mean!! Thankfully we aren't in those kinds of situations anymore

You're so brave for telling this story! You are a beautiful soul and you need to know that! I hope you are happy, safe and healthy :)

I applaud you. Yes you had (and still might have still), Homophobia. Gay people can be homophobic, and it eats us up inside, until we can come to grips with it. I went through a rough time too, in my Coming Out, but my Coming Out did not happen until I was 42 (10 years ago). I am in a better place now, and I see you are too. If you ever need someone to talk to/with, I am here for you. You are a good man, and you sir will go far in life, so never doubt yourself. You go this.

Much respect for you for sharing such a vulnerable story. I love the advice you gave at the end with cutting out the negativity in your life. I am a freshman in college, and it is coming out videos similar to yours that motivated me to make my own coming out series to help others as well as come out in my yearbook quote: "I started high school with straight A's...now I'm not even straight! I'm still me, though!" Please keep being your authentic, courageous self!

You’re a cool guy - have a great life & never let anything hold you back ! 💕

Thanks for sharing your story. So glad I came across your channel. Love your trippin travels, great attitude, killer haircut and coolest accent ever....we Americans all fall for the accent. As a fellow Proud Gay guy, I wish you peace, love and safe travels!

Hello Sweetheart!!! THANK YOU so much for sharing your story with all of us. I have seen so many of these coming out stories and they all seem to personify what is good in the gay community. I had come out nearly 30 years ago and although time has changed since I came out....you kids are coming out even earlier than I did at 27. Although my family knew before I came out I came out for my self out of necessity and out of not being able to do it any sooner. I had come from a dysfunctional home so coming out then was not an option for me.....so later on in my life I chose to come out to my mom who was more than accepting....she knew even before I told her. Dad was never around so I told him in a letter and he was okay with it. My 2 sister's didn't care as long as I was happy and they figured it out as well. So baby, all I can say is to move forward and don't look back. Your husband Daniel is a delight and you boys are so beautiful together. DO NOT let being gay define who you are, because you are so much more than that. I tell the gay kids that I mentor as their "Mama" to not let people treat you less than you are....just move on, let go and make it the BEST life you can for yourself. You have a beautiful life with Daniel and I want you boys to ALWAYS be happy. YOU DESERVE THAT! LIVE LIFE HAPPY, JOYOUS AND FREE!!! XOXOX MAMA😊❤🐻🎶🎵🎶🎵

I'm a trans woman and also still have issues with it... mostly with the gay part cause I felt so much looked at in my gay days... I was very out and proud and my transition was quite ghetto and heavy. I tell you my fellow lgbt ... I love you. Please be strong and proud and fight for yourself... fight for your love, fight for your body. We can have a chill life, but our emancipation isnt full yet. Power 2 u

Well said, don’t hold back your life because your afraid of what others think.

So proud of you and Daniel! Keep doing what you do.

Thank you for sharing your journey with us.

That 'guy' was an a@@hole to you. No one deserves that treatment from anyone. You're mother sounds awesome! So glad you found your husband. Live your life your way!

Thanks for sharing, not only your story, but also your vulnerability and your hard-earned wisdom! Hard not to feel ❤️ for you.

👍 love you dude! Hope your well, always good seeing you when you back home

So well put! You lose the negative in your life. My fam have taken a while. Lots of travel left. These sorts of vids always encourage me.

Impressive. Lots of heart. Some lucky person will treasure you.

Be proud of who you are. Never let anyone put you down xx

Thanks for sharing your story. There are so many similar stories out there that should never be. Good luck with your new move and on your marriage. Many years of happiness to you and your husband.

Sorry to hear that you were forced out but I hope you were able to stay true to yourself since then, happier on who you are, with your husband too. You have some good advice too.

I didn't see your fire until the end. It's very attractive to be your authentic self so keep it up my friend. You are full of wisdom and strength and I love it.

Thx for sharing your story 🙂. Continue to grow your confidence daily. BTW you have beautiful eyes!

Stay strong, always be yourself. If people can not accept you as you are then leave them behind. Always move forward. Best wishes.

I commend you for your awesome courage boss!! Especially while still dealing with the so called stigma... You won’t believe how many other people you have helped with your story!... For the record I love the sound of your voice!!

Awesome video - sorry you had to go through that, thank you for sharing your story. Also, nice tattoos!

Proud of you, mate. ♥️

You are the winner. Periodt!!

So much love!! One of my biggest fears but I’m working towards it xx

Wow that guy was terrible... a gentleman shouldn't kiss and tell.

A serious story , beautifully told. You are a genuine treasure and your final words of advice will strengthen the resolve and comfort many young men who are lucky enough to see your video.

Bravo James! J’adore tes conseils.

Thank you for your courage and fortitude in posting this video with excellent advice! You're a beacon of Light and an angel, helping others.

I'm happy for you and thanks for sharing your story. :) 10:50 that's the spirit. Be who you are and enjoy life.

Thanks for sharing your story ❤️

love your ink !! thanks for sharing your true story !!!! really appreciate it !!!!

Moving story. Motivated as well. You are a beautiful person. In and outside 😉

Great story and message!! Stay strong/kind. 🙂🧡

It is so stressful how much society puts pressure on things you can not control. Sorry you were bullied when you were younger. People have to be educated and have empathy. Most unfortunately are neither. Live your best life. It's clear your values are solidly grounded

Lovely story and good advice in my opinion. you seem to have emerged successfully from the challenges. Adversity often builds resilience. You and Dan seem to be a sweet couple.

Will said, kid. Just enjoy your life, as being a Pretty boy , Your life is Pretty as will. Love you guys. Be Strong, and stay Strong. Peace ✌.

Thank you for sharing!

You are an Amazing man hun. I completely understand your side hun. Hugs

All love and support ♥️♥️proud of you ❤️❤️❤️

Just be yourself, youre a great guy x

Thanks for sharing you history with me. I'm proud for you. I'm here, to listen, understand, and care you. I love you.

You seem like a really nice person and I am sorry you had to go thru that, but it was a nice video, thank you for sharing it.

Lovely story... be proud...and I ❤love your tattoos

Thanks for sharing your story and your honesty. Every year you grow stronger and more resilient against the constant hatred that exists. You have a loving relationship, and through that, you find strength and will, at some point, find a self love that exceeds the discomfort the world thrusts upon us. I’m 53 and have been with my hubby for 21 years - I no longer care what the world thinks - I only want what is just and right! Stay strong! ❤️😘

Glad your life is getting better. You are a likable nice guy. Your cute as well. Thanks for posting a great video.

You are strong, courageous, and brave. I’m sorry that coming out was not your choice, but sharing your experience can help so many others! Thank you for sharing your story!! Remember to love yourself and be kind to yourself. ♥️

Thank you for sharing this video. You are awesome 🤘😎♥️

Coming out is really hard. And I am proudly out. It takes a lot of courage to be vulnerable.

The end of this video is one of the most powerful things I’ve ever heard. You have much wisdom and an obviously beautiful soul. Please take care and thank you for the FANTASTIC words on getting negative people out of your life. We do chose a new supportive family when needed. Wish I’d had you as a friend when I came out.

Thank you for sharing your story. I'm so proud of u for being yourself and accepting who you are!!!! Lots of people care relate to what your saying.

Congrats on being married - just a shame your already taken! Thanks for sharing and stay strong xxx

I'm glad things are going good for you. It anger me to no limit when a person is forced out. I wasn't forced out but I told me grandmother and she told me to tell my mother. I know several people they have been forced to come out. One person it damaged the relationship between him and his family for about 10 years. I have another friend who was outed by a then straight friend and three years later that friend got divorced and my friend gave him a place to live and they been together 5yrs now. This is what people don't take into account when they do that especially the hurt it could do to another individual. Good luck and best wishes to you.

This is so powerful. You put into words things I've felt my whole life. We were born into a world that wasn't built for us, and I'm so sorry you still feel that at 32. Sending love, good energy, confidence, and support your way.

Thank you for sharing your heartfelt story with us. You are a wise young man and it's very refreshing that you are passing down your own life lessons and experiences to the next generation, just as my partner and I have tried to do for decades now. During our life's journey we continually change, grow and evolve into the people we are today. Glad to learn you have found your significant other and are now married. Best of luck to both of you.

Do we ever get used to it? Probably not, but maybe it's best not to try to force ourselves too much in the label. Just surround yourself with people that loves you! Nice video, best of luck to you! Keep it up 💙💙💙

I luv this dude. He's so super cool.

love and respect for you !!!!

Thanks for sharing the pictures of when you were a kid. You were indeed very cute. You are are still beautiful. Sorry to hear how you were outed (sp).

Thank you for sharing so beautifully your story 🤩🌈🌈

Proud of you....🙂🙂🙂.... always live the life that truely makes you happy🙂🙂🙂🙂🙂

I came out three times in my life; the first two when I thought I was bisexual, the third and final time when I realised I was actually gay. I can definitely understand that it's not easy as the words are there on the tip of your tongue, it's just actually vocalising them is the 'bigger' part of it, mainly cos you're nervous as the what the potential reaction will be. Ironically both my older siblings told me that they'd already guessed I was gay before I actually told them which actually made it a lot easier. My immediate family unit aka parents and older siblings, all know now and have a greater acceptance of it so it's not much of an issue with them now. Also they're okay with the fact that I'm dating a guy now (though we're still in the dating part, we're not actually a couple yet). Hearing stories like yours are just further proof and reason that equality inclusion needs to become part of the national curriculum in all areas of education. My reason for saying that is because it'll educate people more on the facts on the LGBT+ community and history. Also, it'd help immensely in abridging greater understandings and relations with other minority groups and communities.

Big beautiful eyes just like me... I am 47 and still struggle ;( My guess, like me, your issue is probably more with loving yourself and self-esteem. The struggle is real, but it will continue to make you stronger and wiser. Good luck!!!

be proud - stay positiv - the future is yours

Good stuff My Dude...

Keep movin on @TheTravellingBarber with courage and determination. Enjoy your life together with @danielxmiller. Kisses from phillipines

Sup, new subscriber here. Thanks for sharing your story bro, it helps a lot.

Positive message 👍

Great personality.

You are brave that's why you can now be free to be the person you are longing to be. Love and support to you from The Philippines.

wonderful video. thanx for sharing

The more you share and talk through this the more closure you will bring to your continued issues with it. You are a beautiful person for doing this and I dare say FAR more better off having done it. Do it more! On purpose! You will benefit yes, but think of all those suffering who will be encouraged and strengthened by your effort. LoVe this. ♥♥♥♥♥

A big hug.

We love you James 💜💜💜💜💜💜 You deserve to be happy and loved for who you really are ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 I wish you well and that you always can be happy and remain being the amazing human being that you are ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 I will always support you James ❤🧡💛💚💙💜

Great video.

.... very moving to hear your struggles... the bit I can't get my head around is that you dated the AH that outed you.... for 2 years!... I wasn't there, I don't know you (but really happy for you that you've found Dan) so am amazed you would even talk to that AH, let alone accept the 1st date or even go get a social drink with him.... you be you, you and Dan make a great couple, wishing you a lifetime future together, and loving this channel..... UK guy, full of admiration for you.

OMG!! Your story is wow!!! Sorry for that !! :(

Wow. ! you look Great for 32. You look a lot younger hope you have a wonderful life. Happy Newyear🎆🎉

Your advice is spot on. You were absolutely right to get rid of the toxic people in your life make new friends. Yes it hurts when you lose old friends because of who you are who God created you to be you absolutely right I found my soulmate that means the world to me, he’s my fiancé Keep sharing your videos they help kids from committing suicide. You have no idea the impact you have the number one killer of teens is suicide. No one should feel bad about themselves, especially if their parents don’t approve that’s their parents beliefs. That does not have to be your beliefs keep doing what you’re doing you’re doing good things.

"You lose ur negativity in ur life" Big Salute for ur move on positively attitude my dear 🍭boy #Jamesross 🙋👏👏👏😍💕feel so Glad watching ur this video 😍💕Wish you all the very best in ur future undertakings & May god bless you abundantly. Regards Theeban KL Malaysia

awwh you are so adorable.. people are the worst!

You're gorgeous and I love the tattoos

You're beautiful and loved.

Beautiful

Its Bullshit to be forced out! Back in the 60's and 70's in was a whole different world. Especially on a ranch in the west. Guys liked messing around at night with the lights out. But, in the morning back to being a straight cowboy. Not like Broke Back Mountain. When you were alone with another guy, then they wanted to "have fun.." Two minutes later if our buddies showed up, then we acted super straight. Super straight guys would invite me to spend the night [with no hint of anything.] Then once alone, they would create some reason to get undressed [i. e. swimming] but then once naked the wrestling began, and things progressed rapidly. You live in a much better society now. I would have enjoyed growing up now, instead of then. Sorry, you were forced out. In my day, and community you would have been beaten several times. Even by guys who hooked up with you a week earlier. So, take it as a blessing you born when you were.

it's so unfortunate that this is even still an issue in this day and age. Whether you are gay or straight it's OK and perfectly normal . That there are still bigots in this world in this regard is amazing, because you do NOT choose your orientation, it is just part of who you are .