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Getting comfortable with the uncomfortable silence helps a lot when being forced to deal with the narcisists. Thank you for great advice Christina❤

That describes my mom in a nutshell. She's always gotten away with it because she's a Mormon, and no one believes she would be a horrible monster. That's the kicker. I've never seen anyone get away with as much as she has. Plus, she's a baiting, cop-calling narcissist. She is dangerous to be around and she's even turned my dad into a clone of her. Every time she would set me up, I start pointing back at her, then comes the virtue-signaling, and before I know it, I'm being interrogated for something I never even did! These people are dangerous to be around. Especially the ones that spend more time at church than they do at home. You better believe their goal is to put you in jail because you're not going along with their plan.

Learn to gaslight a narcissist ❤❤❤❤❤

1 don't wrestle with the pigs you'll get dirty everytime and once you know you go you get out and you stay out 🙏👍 thanks for the video Christina.

0) walk away.... If cant. 1) identify manipulation tactics. In real time 2) practice responding without reacting. They push emotional buttons which send you back in time to those feelings. To hard moments. Try to stay in present moment. Use physical Grounding techinques and mindfulness. You are here. And you are safe. If you dont feel that presence and safety. It is ok to exit to the conversation. 3) dont defend againest false narratives. Defending treats accusations like they have weight and make you seem guilty. Digs you into a hole. Calmly ask questions instead. "Where would you get that idea?" "Thats confusing. Can you explain?" If younfeel the need to defend yourself. It is a good sign you should sit back. Ask questions and let them do the talking. Because it will quickly become obvious when they dont have a leg to stand on 4) question their assumptions. Every does... No one does... Zone in. Pick apart. Can be better to let it sit in awkward silence. 5) keep written records. Dont record. Bit dodgy. But good tool for grounding reality if they have a habit of rewriting history. 6) deflect blame. No blame game. Shield self. Dont accept that. Dont have to explain or defend self. 7) practice saying why is that so important to you? If they know your trigger they will play with it. Dont engage. 8) practice confidence. They might try harder to knock you down. But take this as a sign that it is working. 9) leveraging 3rd perspective. Use 3rd party evivdence to counter their mean opinions. Examples people who support you and you are not alone. 10) practice selective disclosure. You dont have answer questions. You dont have to disclose everythong to them. They would practice lying by omission. But this is this healthy boundary version. 11) use the silent treatment. Not how they do. But you dont need an answer for everything. Get comfortable with silence. So long pauses can get them to speak rather then you accidentally filling silence with information or statements they can twist againest you.

I’m no longer with the ex-partner. He’s no longer an entity in my life. He can “win” all he wants. No biggie! No revenge needed. His life is a mess of his own making! Gonzo!!!

Look them straight in the eyes, call them out - using short direct words and then walk away in silence. It really works and getting your point across that you are not to be messed with at the same time. Trust this method - I’m telling you - they won’t know what to think or do with you next .

I LITERALLY DO NOT TALK TO MY NARCISSIST HUSBAND WHEN HE STARTS HAVING HIS ADULT TANTRUM!! I LEAVE THE HOUSE TO AVOID HIS DRAMA, I REFUSE TO ENGAGE IN ANYTHING DONT TRUST ANYTHING ABOUT HIM

If they validate you and your self-worth is based on it they hold the chess piece. They can smell so-to-speak. Don't get caught in the vortex, create your own. Live free xx

Run!

My Narc became so pathetic they began printing my responses to them on T-shirts that they had made up that they wear in public to try & "shame" me 😂.

It tends to get ugly in the end. And you just have to be okay with it.

I've come to terms with my Narc. My new mantra is: concentrate on the lessons learned & not the pain caused.

Thank you so much for these videos. They’ve helped and continue to help me get through my battle with a narcissist. Please keep posting. Thank you 🙏

I actually thought of that awhile ago. Decided to start documenting her behavior in the calendar. Majority of it was being stood up.

When I ask questions, I just get, "Are you serious? You dont know what I am talking about? If you are seriously saying that you don't know what I am talking about then I am going to leave right now." 😣

Dear Christina. Wow. I had to listen to the video twice. Really good advice. My narcissistic wife is extremely good at love bombing and manipulation. Even as narcissistic expert in the mean time, I still fall for it. I do not make promises to her normally and say “I will check if it works”. But to check means always “yes” for her, as she knows, I am smart and find a solution in most cases. Therefore, I changed the strategy now, I still say I check if this is possible, but the result will always be worse, than what I suggested to check. Thanks for making my life easier. I still have a tendency to be the nice guy and not the strong boxing fighter I always wanted to become in my life 🥊.

WALK AWAT PERIOD! THEY ARE NOT WORTH THE AIR THEY INALE OR EXHALE.

Use the discard phase to run away and go no contact !

Often whatever accusations narcissist doesn't about you, it is their confession... They only bark judgements, accusations, blame shifting, negative assumptions about you, put all relationships responsibility on you, their emotions is also your responsibility...

About the voice, I'm a soft spoken guy. Lately in the car, after moving from a restaurant, I told her straightly :"take the main street then first at right!". Like a precise order (it wasn't intentional). She activated herself with a huge smile while :"haaa! That it's a clear instruction 😃". BUT... She didn't know the way to go back home. With the same voice if she knew a road even longer, she would have be bitter 🤷🏾‍♂️ A real narc though

I love being quiet... Park an earbud in put on these videos and enjoy the silence!

Took me 2 years to realize what a narrsasist even was, wasn't ntil doing lots of research to get out of the relationship 😂

Journalling you triggers helpt me. Also you see what he does to you and what to do about it. 1 what happened 2 how you feel. 3 how you react on it 4 what you can do and say the next time and how to evade it. And live your life like he isn't there. And you live like you are alone

So helpful!!! Found some ways in this video that I have not been able to find in other videos.

Great advice. Thank you Christina :).

Yes it is a full time job when you have a spouse that do manipulate lies twist accuse blame you for the good you are doing every day

Sold my home ❤we too big hearted ❤😂Ty Jesus

Thank you beautiful ❤

Im married to my narcissist 😢

I dont care about the game anymore. I just want her gone. I have walked away but she isnt accepting it very well. Came to my job when i wasnt there. And a few people just couldn't wait to tell me about it. I said oh? Snd that was it. Shes really trying her hardest to get a reply from me. Its not going to happen.

Thank you!!!

Is gaslighting always something cruel they say or could it be disguised as a compliment or something kind they tell you or want you to believe? Does any of that make much sense to you?

I detoxed and got rid of all the parasites attached

6:00 Could you feasibly record the narcissists behaviour and conversations with them, then transcribe that into a journal, and delete the recordings? Or might that still violate recording laws?

Heal the trauma

So i have to be a narcissistic person too?

I am super tired of this mess.

But what happens Christina when they dragged everything out of you and things that you didn't even know how to answer when they bullied you for an answer. . . after they discard you they know everything about you

YOU CAN'T SELL YOUR SOUL BCSE YOU DID NOT BUY YOUR SOUL. Christ bought us with His blood.

Blame you for something, when you say that it is not so nice of you to blame me. When other people are there the covert doesn't know where to look. Also smile when they blame you like you did this on purpose.

How to deal with a narcissistic father and a covert mother.

I’ll never respect you or convert with the system up and running and that’s final. Scrap religion or live a scrap life. I’d choose scrap anyway.

Dont get married without a pre nup, just in case.

😊😊 M

And your profession is? A plumber’s arguments and insights on the subject are untrustworthy, because he/she lacks a proper education and practical knowledge regardless of their life experience. Personality disorders are much harder to analyze and understand than most people think. I think it’s important to state your profession at the beginning of your videos so that people can decide if you’re trustworthy and reliable to watch or not.