Narcissistic abuse often leads to cptsd - accompanied with depression can make the healing journey feel sooo overwhelming. Sadly toxic, malignant narcissists condition and hardwire emotions like depression into your psyche - un-conditioning yourself may seem unfair, difficult and frustrating - but it's the only way to breakthrough many of the side effects of cptsd. Make sure you watch until the end to get tips and tools that can dramatically help you to shift out of depression and into feeling states like passion, excitement, joy, hope, love... to mention a few!!!! Shedding those conditioned behaviors is a victory that deserves celebrating. Please remember that if the free tips aren't helping you to shift the way you would like - my 3 month Breakthrough Cptsd online workshop is coming up and starts in November. Here's the link from my website for you to check out and see if it's a good fit for you: micheleleenieves.com/group-coaching-and-support/

I’m in recovery right now after getting out of a narcissistic relationship. Feeling so flat…no energy or joy, just wanting to rest and sleep. I’m not putting any pressure on myself, I know this season will pass and I will return to myself when the time is right.

"You are not allowed to be you...."

The abuse of narcissists is based on the fact they treat others in the opposite way of their quality. And nothing hurts more than being a sensitive person and others treat you as if you are the most toxic person on earth.

Whenever fun was had, I knew punishment for that was coming...

It’s sick how deep it goes. All this for their (narcissists) own comfort too. Nothing else. Sick.

It is absolutely mind blowing to wake up to the fact that someone you love is actively trying to tear you down every single day. It has ripped my heart out. But I’m starting my healing journey. Little by little!

My ex was a covert narcissist. After reading more about it I learned at this was. It’s so tough. You hate yourself for accepting these behaviors and still have love for them at the same time too. It’s such a crazy mix of emotions. :(

What about if you were bought up by narcissists it takes a life time to find out who you were meant to be

I have a closet full of all my old hobbies and I am never motivated enough to paint, draw, or play music.

It is hideous to see the enjoyment they get when they purposefully cause you pain.

When I run into people that I know out in public and we start talking having a good conversation and laughing. Usually on the way to the car the narcissist in my life tells me the I act fake and phony around other people. When in reality that’s just my personality around people that I don’t feel threatened by . I can be myself around others but never around him because my guard is always up around him and I have to watch what I say or he’ll accuse me of attacking him.

I remember feeling scared of being happy infront if my covert narc mom

Fantastic video!!! This is exactly what happened to me!!! I was so full of life and loved everyone!!! I was such a happy energetic person before I got married!!! Now I’m just a shell, but I’m determined to come back as the person I used to be!!! He has taken years off of my life, but my Creator did NOT put me on this earth to be ordered around and mistreated by some fruitcake who has mommy issues!!!

When I separated from the narc I went on an antidepressant. I couldn't cry. It was the strangest thing. I stayed on it for 6 months. It helped me through the darkest days. I slowly weaned off of it. I cry when I want to now and I also feel what I need to feel to process the abuse. The only person I talked to about this was a therapist. I couldn't reveal anything to anyone but the therapist. It's been a long journey but I am free to find who I am. Thank you and thank God 😊

It's funny how almost any time away from one of these people is empty and depressing at first, like a void, but within days of not constantly thinking about that person's awful comments and behavior something changes physically.

The first warning I should have heeded, (I was 20 yrs old), was when my then narc boyfriend, walked into the room when I was dancing to music on tv. He scowled at me with such disapproval as though I was doing something disgusting. He’s drained every form of joy from my life ever since. Low self esteem prevented me from leaving.

I spent 25 years thinking I was The problem in every situation that turned nasty...turns out I was raised by a narcissist, got PTSD at 17 (but didn't know until I reached 40 ) then ended up in a long term relationship with a woman that had massive anxiety and is definitely a Narcissist...I did my research and listened to my inner dialogue and am Extremely happy to say I've moved away from my narcissistic mother who was still doing narcissistic shit to me! I've moved to another area of the same country and separated from my children's mother. 7 months away and I feel fantastic all the time and have no contact with my ex and very little contact with my mother. I've lost a bunch of people I thought were friends but had to lose them to find ME!!! STAY STRONG PEOPLE 🙏 LISTEN TO YOUR INNER VOICE AND NEVER ALLOW ANOTHER NARCISSISTIC TO STEAL YOUR POWER 👌✅💝

I can so relate to the Ptsd. My covert narcissistic mother died this past March and I feel so relieved but still get very depressed

999-trillion oceans of despair and grief. Rage rapes me. I feel suicidal. I don't breathe. PTSD flashbacks torture and torment me. I am submerged in frozen darkness. My soul silently wails. I am filled with anguish and terror. I can only pray to die. I don't know what else to pray for. All I feel is misery and desperation. Grief eats my soul. I cannot, do not breathe. He left me. Discarded me like last week's garbage. The despair is truly unbearable. SO AS A REMINDER TO MYSELF, I MUST REMEMEBER: I have no trouble hearing my inner voice anymore. It works, and I never make a decision that goes against my intuition. I consider my intuition the divine voice within me. It's all-knowing. When I listen to it, it never fails me. Place all focus on the internal world. Pay attention to the sensations. Begin to ask questions. What are you? What do you represent? Why are you here now? If I were to tell the absolute truth in this situation and I wasn't afraid to, what would it be? What do you want me to know? What do you want me to do? Listen to the answers. Engage with the answers intuitively. Take the process where you feel it needs to go. Have a conversation with yourself. Practice connecting with your heart. Express yourself!

Exercise with epic music, sing and praise, karaoke of the heart, tell a story to a friend, to a child, tell a joke and just say I'm having a super dooper uber day, the best yet, no stopping it, just keeps on forever, coping with being the happiest little blessed light alive, will never get enough of it, no cure for the pure, no rest for the blessed!

It's really sad that this is one of the most if not the only absolutely consistent behavior of narcissists.

Medication helped me when I was so clinically depressed that I was suicidal. It helped me get up out of the pit to neutral ground. From there I was able to get therapy and work on stuff. Eventually I wanted to get off medication but it was difficult because I had no support. My doctor believed I should be on meds indefinitely. I went to a naturopath and over a long time weaned of meds and started vitamins and then eventually I didn’t even need those. It took years!!! Most important thing in my recovery has been my faith in Jesus. God has led me along the path of healing before I ever heard of narcissism. It’s been super interesting to learn about narcissistic abuse and I really appreciate your videos

It is like your life force was sucked out of your inner being! It is the hardest thing in the world to work through the aftermath of this abuse and to get your soul back.

He drained me of any laughter.

When dealing with narcissism, you should know that it’s not personal. “It isn’t personal” is one of those cliches used to cushion all kinds of bad actions taken by people who need an out for being immoral, but in this case it actually gets near the truth. Narcissists don’t know how to love or be a friend; they can’t afford to spare the energy to learn, because they’re always in a state of high emergency, cataloging potential threats and redoubling their defenses. When they claim to love you, it means nothing. They may even think they mean it, but they don’t understand the concept - they can’t feel it. They never attach to you or anyone else. Other people are paper cut-outs to the narcissist, like those cardboard figures of celebrities you pose next to for a selfie. Narcissist value their own children only as mirrors of themselves. When they destabilize you or attack you, it means nothing. They are stuck in an endless conversation with themselves, in which you are an inanimate object, to be assigned their own faults and used as a surrogate punching bag for their hatred of themselves. When they toss you out, it’s no more meaningful than a junkie tossing away a needle; when they try to reel you back in, it only means that they tired of the new drug and need a hit of the old. None of this is personal. They’re too terrified to have personal relationships, opting instead for extraction of admiration from a subservient partner whose range of action they strictly constrain. This is not personal. None of it. The narcissist does not know who you are - it doesn’t know how to know other people. Like the vampire or the chainsaw-wielding creature in the horror film, it’s from another world, bereft of the concept of human connection. Moreover, People wonder why they end up hurt, seriously hurt, and even killed for their own actions. Cheating is a choice and there’s simply a lot of ignorance in the process.... Thank you so much for helping me out Metaspyhub@gmail. com. Your advice and services helped me so much. You are a lifesaver !!! The information you gave me about my cheating partner when you gave me access to his phone was everything I needed to get,.. thank you very much..

It's so soothing in itself to watch this video. The validation I'm getting from you feels like medicine. The fact that someone is validating what happened to me is so healing. Thanks so much.. I feel like I'm being shaken. I've suffered so much because of being so open n over giving to everyone without filter.. Because the world is full of narcissists n psychopaths. Seems like everybody has hurt me. The world is a dangerous place for ssensitive n giving people.

Thanks Michele....This is all true. I found that every time I became happy, the narcissist would do something negative in some way or form. This would create an internal disharmony in anything I enjoyed, so I would find my self sad and feeling low when I would try to relax with things I like to do. I started to associate the negativity with things I like to do, such as reading, writing, and so on. My body started working against me and would not allow me to get excited or happy. I forgot what joy and happiness felt like. When one gets stuck in the fight or flight response with a toxic person or narcissist, the body works to protect a person from harm. So listen to your body. I failed to do so for a long time and found myself dealing with full blown CPTSD and migraines for many years. When with a narcissist, listen to your body; ultimately choose to break away from such a dangerous person, took me years to wake up...I’m free now. Trust what Michele states herein. She is absolutely right. I bought 4 little neon colored (blue, green, pink and orange) furry Luv nears and a bright yellow smile face that I keep in my car. I let the kid inside me out, and at times I eat with them; causes others to laugh, which makes me laugh....Comedy and laughter heals (creates natural Dopamine).😁👍🏾 Let the kid out inside of you intentionally. It works.

A good quality magnesium supplement helps to find strength when you have become a shell. Also a natural calcium supplement. A small amount of natural iodine helps intelligence. Start exercising. A bit of Yoga. Prayer. Quit sugar for the most part. Intermittent fasting. Being in nature and faith have helped along with these videos ☺️

Once again, you hit the nail on the head with how narcissists systematically replace your feelings of joy with dread. Also, even when trying to express feelings of sadness or anxiety to a narcissist parent, those feelings are denied as well... a child saying they are afraid or sad is met with ridicule, dismissed, or an enraged "HOW DO YOU THINK I FEEL!!!". Not only are happy feelings replaced with dread, but any sad emotion is not allowed, further disconnecting us from feeling our own normal range of emotions. The result is dissociation, and suicidal depression. Thank you again for being such a good therapist! PS. I was put on heavy medication for generalized anxiety and depression that was prescribed off-label, and was meant for bi-polar disorder. At first it seemed like I was high, which actually felt great compared to being so depressed, but what eventually happened was that it CAUSED a manic episode, something I never had before. I found out this is called Bipolar lll. My doctor concluded that she was right, that I had bipolar all along. I was furious, I went off all meds, and although I have been very depressed because of so much narc abuse, I have not ever had another manic episode in the 4 years since. Now I deal with depression head on. It's not easy, but at least I'm facing my real feelings instead of being hopped up on a fake sense of well-being. I caution anyone to be very careful of misdiagnoses and over-medication. This is not to say don't get help and never take meds, they can save your life in certain cases.

Actually I took Effexor and it made a tremendous difference. And after I went off of it the good vibes continued for years until I got involved with another narc. I now live happily alone with 2 cats, with a family of choice and lots of sweet friends and colleagues. I am divorcing the narc. I have not spoken with him for 2 years since I kicked him out of my home. Luckily he still had his own home. My thoughts are finally kind and my own once again.

Prior to my relationship with who I believe was a covert narcissist I was a very bubbly morning person. It was always important to me to be a positive riser, even by using positive mantras. I would greet people and enjoy my mornings. After I moved in with him he would ignore me mornings and not engage at all. Put his back to me. No eye contact. Grunt answers, or completely ignore me. Eventually I mirrored him and stopped being positive when I awoke and really minimised who I was from early rises. This video is the first time I realised this happened. I have now instantly reconnected to who I was before my 1.5 year narc relationship and my positive early rises will start again tomorrow to help me rebuild who I was before the abuse. This is one of many things I will journal about tomorrow to remember who I was before my 1.5 year narc relationship. Such a simple thing and you don’t know how much I appreciate this video which has helped me recall one simple thing about myself on the path to healing. Thank you, thank you, thank you 🙏

I was raised by a narcissistic father and co narcissistic mother. I never knew who I was or what I was feeling-it is crippling. I have had a failed marriage to a narcissist and almost every guy I have dated is a narcissist. I have been working on a relationship with myself for 3 years and it is radically changing my life. There is hope!! Videos like this are great! Thank you! XO

I’m doing the happy dance almost everyday and i also noticed the difference, but when the reality kicks in i would still get sad waking up the next day. All other things I could do to remain happy was to understand that I was dealing with a heartless person, that I gave all of my heart to someone who wouldn’t appreciate it. It’s painful to realize that I was allowing myself to be treated so poorly for gaining nothing. I was believing myself that this person is actually a good person. That’s also a lie that I made up to make myself feel better. I felt like not only i was lied but i needed to lie to myself to feel better. Once you realized that this person is not going to change no matter what you do, and that you were never the problem in this relationship, but you still wake up feeling sad and guilty, just believe that a person who loves you would not treat and discard you like that. Do not allow yourself to be treated awfully by someone who doesn’t even realize they have hurt you. You should trick the mind by being stronger than what you feel inside. Go no contact know that that relationship you had was nothing but a complete BS. Being nice and forgiving to someone is different than sacrificing yourself to someone. And if you are a believer ask God for forgiveness. Ask him to break the soul ties between you and them. This is why we should never trust anybody fully, all you get is disappointment. ONLY TRUST THE LORD. Once you are freed and separated you may still feel lonely but this is a very good time to reach out people that actually love you. You deserve so much better.

I went through this for years with a parent. They get angry when you seem happy. It literally trains you to be melancholy and morose. You get emotionally " punished" by these people if you seem happy.. I was then diagnosed with actual depression and took medication for 17 years. After I went no contact with the narcissist, the depression began to lift. I have been off all meds for 12 years now. These people are dangerous, sadistic individuals. They will convince you that you have a medical condition so they can keep abusing you. Anyone hear of Gypsy Rose ?

Hi Michele. I think this is a super important topic for us who have been through narc abuse. For me it was being raised by a mother with very strong narcissistic qualities. I have already made big breakthroughs in my journey to healing. I’ve noticed that now when something bothers me, instead of lashing out, I I state my thoughts honestly and in a calm voice. It’s taken me a long time to get to that. The depression is still a struggle though. Some days I’m so depressed and fatigued that it’s very hard to connect to myself. I’m full of self doubt when this happens. I’m not in the flow of my authentic energy. To me it seems like a child part of me hasn’t been healed yet. Thank you for this video.

This brings so many memories of how I was struggling as a child, young adult and now an older adult, many many times have I been excited about something and wanting to share that with my narc mother and all I ever heard was "You'd be making the biggest mistake of your life!" or "What do you want to do that for??!!". It got to the point where I wouldn't share anything with her because I knew she would "knock it down". When my husband and I got engaged, my parents were the last people we told, I had that empty nervous feeling of how she was going to react about our wonderful news, I literally had to justify my decision about being engaged and getting married. My stomach was in turmoil and no, she did not congratulate us. Today, my 88 year old narc mother with dementia isn't as mean as she used to be, but I am a hollow shell when I am around her and still don't share to much with her. I completely agree about the feelings of your subconscious mind over your body, I do have thoughts deep down on activities that I want to pursue and when the time comes that my narc mother leaves this earth, I will be able to enjoy these activities and learn about who I really am.

whew...absolutely perfect timing!! thank you Michele.

hahaha I used to wake up every day and stretch up to the sky and say "GOOD MORNING!!!!!" all by myself. Alone. Just talking to the air. I can't remember the last time I did that. I need to do that again.

I grew up with narcissistic parents, married a narcissist psychopath for 28 years. Never felt loved.

I literally and figuratively walked through a lot of pain. No meds. While going to talk therapy frequent walks outside with coffee and wire to ear listening videos such as this one. This process is gradual, we do not feel all of our pain in a day or a week by the grace of God. Good videos, Michelle.

I’m still suffering 4 years out after 17 of narcissist abuse. I need to do something as I’m becoming more ill than before. Divorce, child court orders, lies, it’s tough. I hope your videos help me x

I’m going to wake up tomorrow and sing praise songs with my kids as we get ready to go to church. Something I haven’t done in a loooong time. But this video has inspired me 🙏

I’ve been diagnosed with PTSD and use medical marijuana. It has helped tremendously before that I was on medication and gained over 67 pounds. Thank you for your videos in the near future I hope to do the workshop.

I'm 4 days out of my relationship with a narcissistic after a year and a half...and physical abuse as well. I'm going to start waking up and moving and trying this. Thank you for posting. Searching for hope and help to move on and get back to me. Appreciate you

You described my family growing up to a T. Nobody was allowed to have feelings, be happy, make plans or anything.

Thank you for the thought of provoking my body out of this depression that my narc wife is putting me in.

I’m suffering from depression had to get on meds these people are sick I’ve cut off “friends n family” all toxic narcs are gone. But the pain is still there the suffering I’ve endured in my life hopefully can help others one day. The journey is long and hard but each day I know I survived a gang of demons in human form. Absolutely disgusting individuals

Thank you!! This gives me a little hope. I'm so depressed

Thats the reason why i dont like to talk to anyone!!!! People really do wanna comunicate with me frankly speaking but never give anyone a chance i see people as wicked and toxic for real ...... I love alone . ....... I love people with all my heart but i dont like to talk to anyone becauae of the trauma that i have been experiencing etc........

The wall I was standing in front finally has a name! My stomach dropped at the "you're not allowed to be you" part, he literally said to my face "I'll raise you into a better person" in his eyes I was deeply flawed and needed to be changed and thanks to the wise asses around me, who kept my parents' brainwashing going (bullying = love) I didn't run when I should have and stayed until I had completely lost myself.

Yes, please more videos on getting through this depression in alternative ways! You are onto something!! And I find it disheartening and frustrating that people think you are naive, dumb or easily duped like how could you fall for that guy/gal and why did you stay so long, put up with so much.....I am so incredibly grateful for people like you that can summarize what happens and how easily it happens.....and help us put our lives back together. You are truly a blessing in my life.

Suffered 6 years by a covert narcissist women in so called relationship. Tired of those insults, abuse and controlled. Finally came out months ago. Luckily with my empath psychologist, who helped me overcome depression and PTSD. Now m happy with her.

Yes, body and mind are equal. Where your thoughts go, energy flow!!!

She said I have become jealous and paranoid, I started to be stressed I was trying to be good but she was changing and I felt it and the more I tried to figure out what was wrong she blames me and fights me... But see this has only been happening 1 month. She downloaded a new game on her phone and suddenly boom our 2 years are over just like that I'm so blown away

My mother, who raised me alone, has NPD and borderline personality disorder(BPD). I’m an only child and therefore the only punching bag. I was depressed all throughout my childhood. Yeah.. I can relate to this video. What this lady says is spot on accurate to what it’s like. I’ve been lost and depressed lately because I’ve realized that I have to cut my mother permanently out of my life. I am appreciative that this video was made because I’ve been wondering how to move past these subconscious body-held feelings and finally become happy like the young child I originally was before my parents got divorced.

Hello Michele you know when you have been with a stupid person you need all the help that you can get because nobody should have to be mistreated by anyone , however continue to help people as you do and you always do a great job at it and keep staying safe you and the family.😊😊😊😊😊😊.

This really resonates. The legal/court system really needs an education to identify this and how huge of an issue this is causing society.

Nearly 11 years and 2 newborns. I used to love to workout, associate with friends, read up on self improvement, medicine, diet, culture and such. She slowly picked fights and got negative everytime i was engaging in my positive pursuits. Anytime i had good news she'd turn it negative. Sooner or later i associated most people and pursuits with negativity, it drained my energy. It made me miserable, it kept me at odds with everyone, it cost me a lot. Once i started to wakeup in the worst parts of my depression and assert myself she completely shut off from me and pushed for divorce. After two years of her persisting, i gave it to her. I have a long road ahead of me, im working out, cooking healthy food, and trying to be better each day, its not easy, but its doable.

Thanks SO much for being a light in a world that can be so dark and cold. ALL of your videos are so enlightening and your voice is soft and soothing. I've followed you for a long time and I'm both inspired and amazed by your journey. You are a godsend 😊 It would be great to have more information about how the subconscious mind can impact healing from cptsd. I've had to cut contact with so many toxic people and I'm quite lonely. This is the hardest job for me not to get depressed.

Thank you. This video spoke to me. Healing is so difficult after you’ve been rewired by narcissistic abuse. I keep asking “WHY” as well, it’s almost become an obsession because I want to figure it out so badly and just fix it. Depression has a way of making us feel stuck. Especially when you’re suffering from CPTSD after narc abuse. This video gives me hope. Thank you.

Thanks btw. You have helped me over the last few years realise what ive been through. I researched other aspects of life and narc abuse ties into it... thanks again Daniel. Leicester. England.

Thank you! Why didn’t know of this 30 years ago

Thank you so much for this description of a narc abuse. I’m 2 months out of the relationship and this is exactly what I’m experiencing. I’m going to use this tactic.. attach to all my happiness. Thank you again ❤

That's so true that they condition us to be depressed... it's infuriating to hear it laid out like this. we deserve to have our own lives our own energy our own joy

In my experience, medication is good to stop the extreme highs and lows. It serves as a stabilizer. It’s not necessary for everyone but for people like myself who manage mood dysregulation disorder and major depression with anxiety- medication is a literal life saver. As a patient and therapist- I also know you cannot depend on medication alone. Lifestyle changes are a must! This includes but is not limited to: diet, exercise, healthy boundaries, positive social engagement, developing self compassion so you speak to and respond to yourself with love. I will also recommend practicing forgiveness and gratitude. These changes would almost be impossible for some people without the use of meditation. However- once you get a handle on executing these changes- over time you may be able to come off of the meditation under a doctor’s supervision.

That’s crazy I was doing the tips u just gave me the other day without ever knowing that it was a apart of my healing until I came across this video. To any else on they’re healing journey good luck!!

Emotional intelligence is very key to life

I'm obliterated this hurts so much .I knew I was going to be discarded,I felt so worn out and I told her I cant deal with the way she was changing I know she has found someone else. It's only been a few days ,I have my best friends wedding I'm the best man I feel so overwhelmed... I knew this was coming I must remain strong please help me

This is so right on! I’ve have never heard it out so well.

I feel like this right now: flat affect, tired all the time, left figuring out just exactly what happened in that situation. I must say, completely distancing myself from that abusive person has been helpful. It doesn't take away the pain they caused, but it at least stops them from getting to me again. I only want healthy, supportive people in my life now, no chronically envious narcs. I am proud for choosing better for myself, better single than in a one-sided, controlling relationship.

Thank you so much, Michelle! This video really helped me. Looking forward to more.

Thank you kindly Michele. Every video you make is so important to everyone dealing with this! Keep up the great work!

Interesting information Michele! depression is an interesting feeling, my remedy?.....LIVE, don't wallow, you hit the nail on it's head! the body does seem to "hold on chemical producing depression" depression seems to LOVE hunkering-down in our body and spirit/soul matter. It is a state of mind, when love is involved...wow! makes it harder to get rid of!...is there a short-cut, is love/depression intertwined so tightly, you can't lose one with out the other? suppose the injured person is not ready to STOP loving their abuser but wish the depression would go away?...I think you should do a part 2 on this one...it's really helpful and thought provoking and should be explored further, Thanks!

This makes SO much sense! Thank you 🙏🏼 I’ve been struggling with making the physical & emotional connection 😐 and this is so on point for me 👍🏼♥️ appreciate your videos and your knowledge. Thx 😊

Thank you for taking time to reach out Michele. Little by little all the confusion has come together and that alone brings a little peace. Keeping my eyes on leaving this abusive family situation of mine, have a great day!

Yes! The body/mind connect is SO fascinating! Please do videos like that.

I appreciate your genuine approach to discussing these topics.

I agree ! Running and walking helped me a lot . I started going to therapy also . Therapy gave me understanding that i am going through a lot . Walking everyday helps me from destructive thoughts . I hope lesson is being learned and i will never fall for narcissist again

Thank you so much for this. This is exactly what I'm going through right now and it was so helpful to hear someone talk about it.

Impressive, and so True. Thanks Michele.

Right on target in this video. Thanks Michele.

Truly inspiring! Thank you, I really needed to hear this tonight

Thank you so much for this. I needed this! To hear this .makes total sense to me. Us abused children need Parents that care and teach us how to grow to maturity.

Amazing - thank you Michele, what a great help🧚♥️♥️♥️

Can’t love these tips enough! What a blessing! Thank you!

Double like.... Possibly the most profound answer I've been seeking in all these years going through PTSD....... Wow .... Please post more on this subject Michelle 🤗

Hi Michele! Thank you very much for another great video! I would like to see next video you mentioned regarding neural pathways. Thanks a lot! ♥️

I was always very against taking medication but I got to the point where I would try anything and found Effexor took the edge off. Allows me to function as I am full time employed and a single parent. It isn't a replacement for therapy but is a good bandaid while I heal.

You are SO right about how you see happiness as negative over time. Anything optimistic or positive ALWAYS causes them to attack.

Thank you, Michele! Cathy and I have been married 19 years. What she does is very subtle. She calls it offering suggestions. I call it arguing, especially when I have my mind made up. 😅 It negates my opinions, decisions, preferences, etc. After about 15 years of her insistence, I grew my hair long. You can kinda see it in the thumbnail. I kept it clean and groomed. Got a lot of compliments on it. That's all it took. She was just going to "trim" it. She really took a whack out of it. With everything else, that was the last straw. I feel like I'm dragging around 1,000 lbs. No energy. Pretty much housebound at the early age of 69. I'm going to change my environment soon.

This is one of the best videos about narc abuse. Thank you!

I love you Michelle. You seems to be like my mom like my well wisher, mentor/guide, friend, enlightenment giver, disillusionment giver, etc., You almost always speak truth that are helpful. You made an impact in my life positively. Thank you.

This video is a Godsend ❤️🙏🏻 Timely too! Thank you so much!!!

Michele Thank You, this is the Breakthrough I've needed to Shake that Depression.....it's almost like, if you Feel Happy, you have "Guilt". This Video w/ the Tips is "EVERYTHING", JUST WHAT I NEEDED TO BEGIN MY HEALING JOURNEY....... THANK YOU, SOOOOOOOOOOOO MUCH!!!!♡♡♡♡

This is exactly what I am experiencing! Thank you!

Thanks for helping us to heal and find peace. You're the opposite of a narcissist. You're a real life angel.

It is such a satisfying yet Erie feeling when someone is describing your life without ever knowing you so I want to say thank you very much for validating my life and how I have been treated and how I feel about myself afterward and where to go from here because this video has definitely put things in perspective that other videos haven't and I have watched close to 100 by now thank you

Thank You! Michele

Thank you so much for this video. I have been researching Narcissism for a few years and you have mentioned things I haven't heard... Love Light & Healing ❤🙌🙌🏿👏🏼💪🏿