THANK YOU. I hear men explaining this but it hits different when it's coming from a fellow woman. It feels like.. honestly the best way I can put it is emotional torture. Not namecalling per se, he avoids the common derogatory words flung at women but degrades my character, gaslights, etc. It has taken a toll on my life, as he starts these text wars around midnight, knowing I work early in the morning. I then get an apology the next day, and by the next night he's back to rage texting.

I'm just curious if narcissists ever show up for treatment.

Im narcissist and we are WAYYYY smarter and more intelligent than ANY of you combined. So dont sit there and blame us for your own stupidity as to how you been treated by us ok? Read it again

I am not anymore

Let me ask "Do Narcs, know that they are narcs?" 🤔

Omg-- I never knew, I lived with this for almost fifty years. My husband died last year and I was basically his nurse while he self destructed. I simply stopped caring about his rages. I walked away and there was nothing he could do. But I still trying to understand myself. He’s gone, but there’s still pain

You are the one stupid if you don't recognize that you are w a narcissist. So then don't blame them for treating you bad if you stupid enough to take it

I'm in this cycle as well

So what if pple believe them? They can add ketchup to it as well Only gonna make me happier :)

5 main symptoms of complex PTSD that hit home 6:20

You have this video out twice but under different titles?!

Yes I experienced a malignant narc. This video is spot on!!! Now I can spot the red flags within 20 minutes of talking with someone. I now trust my gut 100%. A lot of self healing, self like, self love and no contact. At work, stick to work professionalism, and don't give them attention.

Oh, and i seem to have all the signs damn it. I need help, and the shrink is not enough. Australia's care for men sucks. Not that i don't support women of course, its just not an understood subject here. This vid is helping me more than most would understand. Bless your soul. Any advice or support would be welcomed. I am starting to fight now. For my puppy. The guy in my puppy vid is my dad. He wont even look at my channel or even comment to support me. And in the vid, he is on a high because i paid him money just to leave me alone. Thanks for listening to a goner like me.

I didn't know what I was dealing with. His whole family was in on it. It feels like my life was just a game for them to suck me in, drain me, take on my traints and spit me out. They are literally behaving and are involved in things they bashed me over. I looked crazy as I reacted poorly. Be careful of false Christians. They do not love God and will do everything to deter you from Christ while they look Christ like. The spiritual warefare is no joke I've just deleted everything like numbers and photos so I don't hold on to what's not real and won't be tempted to reach out as I process what in the world even happened the past 2 years. If you're dating a narcissistic man who has parents who worship him (he is perfect and does nothing wrong in their eyes) just run!

You’re amazing Michele. Thank you. I’ve healed so much in such a short period of time.

Its like a cowboy who " brands" his animal herd

Omg I have all this going on , I thought I was going crazy! 😱

so what I notice is never tell the narc what you don't like or any plans, they will use that as a tool of torture. For instance say you tell them that you hate mayo on your burger. So what do they do. Play around with it, like mine bought me some food on mother's day and of course my sandwich had mayo on it. So I tested it out to see if it was done on purpose and I said my food was soooo delicious even with the mayo and his reaction to what I said, was all I needed to know that he did it on purpose just to ruin my mother's day meal...but jokes on him I scraped all the mayo off, but told him my food was soooooo delicious even with the mayo🤭

Thank you, so good!❤

After 13 years of absolute torment, I’m finally finding my way back to freedom. We share a child, so it’s complicated. But he’s out of household now. Healing will take years. I will never fully be free of him and I worry for my Daughter. But I will navigate this the best I can and finally break the cycle of abuse and dysfunction.

The most insightful information I have heard yet. Thank you.

I'm just learning the man I was with for three years was a narcissist. He constantly was insecure n accused me of cheating , he would call me a slut continuously and I knew it was wrong but he blamed it on his ex saying she cheated. Over the years it turned into it was my fault for reacting crazy due to his bad behaviour. I broke away many times but was always guilted back hearing him tell me how much he loved and needed me and how could i abandon him like that and the cycle repeated. Long story short I shut him out n wouldn't let him back but we were still talking, a few days ago he told me he went n slept with someone said it was my fault cause I was a lying cheating slut blocked me and moved on with her just how things ended with his ex and how we hooked up , I felt like I was going outta my mind trying to convince him for years I loved him n never cheated. I'm completely devasted and so messed up right now. I lost myself and still feel punished for things I never did. I knew how he was treating me was wrong but he always said I made him be that way. I needed this video I'm just seeing him for the narcissist he truly is. I'm messed up n heartbroken right now. Ty for this video I don't know how to feel I'm so confused just subscriber to your channel ♥

My husband has narsasistst traits. He has physically abused me in the past. He will ask me what is wrong and I tell him he get irrate and then blames me if I speak out. Now he has control over my whole life. Money,car and family. I'm so insecure anymore and he is supper paranoid about me going to a counselor. I am depressed most of the time.

This is so spot on. All of the points. This helped a lot.

Some will never stop hunting us.

“I went so long without laughing” hit hard. Standing with all survivors in unity. The best is yet to come.

You are so weak of course you ended up with narcissist its your fault

We narcissist aren't attractive to strong we are attractive to weak. So if you are so stupid and weak then its your fault, nobody makes you to be with us, its your own weak personality. So dont cry later lol 🤣

22:41 I did exactly what you described. I unburied all of the things from childhood and everything through my marriage. It overwhelmed me and my state of mind was not good. The anger, the pain, and resentment was unbearable. I had to forgive them for everything in order to start finding peace. The only one that I haven't fully forgiven is myself but I'm getting there.

This made me cry. Family and friends don't understand. I tried therapy but it was sterile, cold, and all that they wanted to do was push pills on me. I needed someone to talk to more than anything. The only place that I have found answers is with these types of videos. It just hurts that no one understands what is going on. I have, however, recently started going for walks again. Thank you very much for putting this video out. God bless you!

Anyone here ever dealt with someone who used to abuse and miss treat you suddenly change? I feel so confused now. 😖

Yes. I have had a strong defense reaction. 13:42

He told me i was a control freak if i wanted my boundaries to be respected. He told his family, my family, and even the police when i had to call them, that i was trying to control him so that was what was making him lose his temper. So, eg I asked him to help with jobs around the house because he wasn't working but he just wanted to be on the internet from around 7am right through to midnight onwards. He was getting worse and worse. So instead of asking him to come off it, I asked if he would please just stick to a more reasonable time frame of 9am to 6pm. And even that wasn't going to give him time to help in the garden. But he was furious at me. He stopped using the computer all together and instead began drinking even more, sitting outside smoking and drinking from lunchtime to gone midnight. ..and he told everyone i was bullying him and wouldn't let him go on the internet! How could i prove what was actually going on? He finally showed his true colours to the police and eventually they made him go to his parents and said he wasn't to come into the house here again. I was so relieved. Even the kids felt like they were finding themselves. But i still feel really damaged. Trust is gone, my drive and motivation are virtually nonexistent. I never want to go anywhere. I still struggle to make decisions yet i used to be fine with it before I met him. Nothing i don't feels up to standard so i even struggle to make a card for someone! His influence is losing it's hold on the kids so that at least makes me feel a lot better. But its a long process.

10:18 not sure my trauma response but I don’t think I’m a fawn? I am hyper aware of how he’s feeling even when he doesn’t say anything. I’ve been told I’m in fight or flight a lot

All these are what im going through especially abuse amnesia and drug abuse I want to quit but every time im ready to quit he brings it around even more ive tried leaving him ao many times but i keep coming back to him i do love him but i also know i need to leave (started to cry as im typing) but i can't. on top of it i ger extreme stress exema on ny right foot whenever i get the curouge to leave and am away for more than three days my foot stops itching ( it gets extremely itchy down to the bone itchy) i don't know what to do 😭

Watching this video makes me feel like I missed out on a life of happiness and freedom of expression. In 22 now and still experience the same patterns and guilt-tripping tendencies my mother used on me from an early age. Makes me sad but I not know I’m now alone

Well, 17/23 strongly relate to. Yet I still struggle viewing them as a Covert Narc, despite friends and therapists and everyone telling me she is. I'm just using this knowledge to help our kids to flourish despite their other parent having these issues.

There are even NPD among non-family friendships. I tried so hard to replace my first childhood friend with another friend, but it was not to be. I did not know what it was called, but early on I noticed his sickness. Over the years I tried to distance myself from him. He even stalked me to a public venue where I was participating in a business meeting. He began dating one of my ex-girlfriends and flaunted that until he realized he met his narcissistic match. When he finally married a woman, that was the beginning of the severance away from me - thank God - but so late. He'd go on to marry three more times. His one and only daughter spurned and estranged him. About three days after he died, after years of kidney disease, his widow had a new boyfriend. I smiled at that because he had to have been there for her while the Narc wasted away in hospice the last year of his life. NPD seems to be the most prevalent mental/personality disorder out there. I was surrounded by it - my two parents and older sibling too - all mentally, emotionally abusive. All the aforementioned are dead now. But man, the damage they left in the wake of their lives.

Michele, This sounds just like my life. I have just left a 32 year marriage. Thank you, for your help!❤️🙏

It seems like these are strategies to deal with a narcissist, why not leave? That's really the only solution.

I finally see myself and what I've been through with a narc husband clearly. I'm currently working through a lot of guilt. At the end, I was not a good person and I feel very guilty about that. I'm very ashamed of how I acted though I recognize that my extreme response was a response to an extreme situation, I'm having a hard time forgiving myself. I'm a widow now and this presents other life challenges but it has given me the freedom to see my 40 years of marriage clearly. It's all very sad. What a waste.

Saying a therapist pointed out she was in an abusive relationship… that would have been amazing. I never had a therapist do that for me.

Impactful analysis, information and actionable steps to help those going through abuse.

Thank you so much. Thank you so much. I really need cause. I tell you I'm tired all of this. Tired of the Crying and then the fighting all the craziness. But I think you

In Kansas we women were all abused by narcissists by what the Freemasons and Illuminati secret society people did to citizen for their Covid agenda. I used to do ballet every day of my life, I was born in a ballet pose, my dream from age 3 was to be a professional ice skater, which I gave up by age 8. I haven’t been able to dance since the first year of Covid, nor do anything but hide in my closet.

I’m thinking poor people might be in a narcissist relationship with America bc people won’t hire, your success is dependent on if you have secret society on your side. Regular people don’t have a chance.

What if it’s not narcissistic abuse but instead from missing your dad when your parents split up? Father was abruptly removed from my life. There was some chaos when he was with us, but we loved him a lot.

As it was said on a reality show - one woman said “She didn’t steal my man, she saved me from my problem”

Good to hear and learn. Thanks!

Yes! my core self is beautiful and I can heal and unlearn unhealthy behaviours or those who treat me with blame, contempt or an attitude of worthlessness. I never lose my worthiness, self love or intrinsic self acceptance. So I already know projections are happening or something very unhealthy is happening when this is occurring. I will try to have boundaries in unhealthy situations of blaming and shaming, as they indicate to me, an unhealthy relationship. Blame is one of those huge red flags. Usually this is a signal to me the relationship is or could become abusive <3