Conflict and Confrontation in Marriage (Part 1)

Conflict and Confrontation in Marriage (Part 1) | Episode 19

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Tension, conflicts, and confrontations can happen even in our closest relationships. In this episode of At Home with the Beveres, Addison, Juli, and Lisa Bevere explore the importance of establishing safe spaces within marriage.
In this first part of our two-part series, we challenge the notion that conflict is always negative-and delve into the art of resolving disputes with grace and openness.
From their first-hand experiences, learn how to navigate challenging situations, equipped with practical strategies and effective communication techniques that will strengthen the foundation of your relationship.
Dive deeper with John and Lisa Bevere's "Story of Marriage" book: go.MessengerX.com/SOMBook
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Chapters:
0:00 - Episode Teaser
0:19 - Burning Question: Surrounding Your Kids with Good Friends
6:58 - Creating a Safe Place for Confrontation
11:20 - Your First Step: Prayer
15:55 - When You're Really Angry…
19:53 - Do You Want to Be Right, or Rightly Related?
22:35 - Closing Prayer
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@NaomiSanders1982 4 ай бұрын

I love how his wife is falling deeper in love as she listens to her husband's answers at the start of this podcast.❤

@donnamarsh3474 Жыл бұрын

So needed! So difficult when 2 are not on the same page!😢

@noreenperez8666 Жыл бұрын

Teach them from an early age, and today they just hang around people with good character.

@dianasmal4687 2 ай бұрын

I just have to say that I’m sooo glad to have stumbled upon this channel. It’s been so helpful in my journey. It feels like I have a friend that I can listen to and receive advice from. May God bless your family!

@NoelleLocke Жыл бұрын

I am SO GRATEFUL for this channel--thank you SO MUCH for all the topics that you breach and discuss. The practical advice alongside the biblical instruction (that so many of us can already "know") is a game changer. THANKS AGAIN!!!!

@lubacalculli 11 ай бұрын

amen! @12:30 “dark cosmic powers..” 🔥 as per Ephesians 6 🙏

@wordsbychayil 11 ай бұрын

Love this! I think every conflict should be handled through the lens of grace and truth, what is true and how can I offer it with grace.

@josephinetwum-asare8146 Жыл бұрын

These conversations are always so funny, beautiful and relatable. Thank you the advise too.

@josephinetwum-asare8146 Жыл бұрын

Watching again

@dabeingsimms810 Жыл бұрын

Praise God that I came upon your podcast. So so good. I love in particular that your perspective is from the family dynamics. When one is not used to healthy Godly family story, the vacuum of not having a sound foundation from which to navigate these issues show up when you are an adult and have no place to face these issues without a solid foundation from which to do so. Thankfully the foundation in Christ is solid for whatever needs to be faced. With God, through his son Jesus Christ, none of us need face life alone. I thank him that he points us to the godly resources such as your podcast to get the earthly help that points to the heavenly god fearing solution. Amen

@tushabeann7027 11 ай бұрын

It’s been a blessing ❤

@sosinayirga5993 5 ай бұрын

Love, love, Julie

@bjc461 Жыл бұрын

Love these talks!! Please do some for those who are not married to saved husband or wife, that changes so much and can be hard to navigate.

@danielalimas5641 11 ай бұрын

Yes please!!!!

@mizzhelloo 10 ай бұрын

That would mean you’re unequally yoked…

@danielalimas5641 10 ай бұрын

@@mizzhelloodoesn’t mean that you can’t be in an unequally yoked marriage. You could become a believer while being married to an unbeliever or many other reasons to be in an unequally yoked marriage.

@loganfunk7897 9 ай бұрын

@@mizzhelloosometimes a spouse isn't given the option of staying equally yoked because of a spouse becoming a prodical. That's worse than being unequally yoked because they know the way, they are refusing to walk in the way.

@blessedchildofgod4843 Жыл бұрын

I love this program! Love the eye contact and just how natural everything is. And the content is soooo helpful. Thank you all so much!

@christineross7620 Жыл бұрын

Again, the genuineness, it’s so refreshing! So helpful guys

@Lovercoffee Жыл бұрын

Loved this conversation. I really think Julie needs a vacation -by herself !! No kids. With her hubby and alone. She needs time to recharge. I appreciate the honesty.

@jilllingenfelter4682 Жыл бұрын

Parents should absolutely safeguard/protect their kids/teenagers from people who aren’t safe at all!! I don’t allow my nephews to play inside the next door neighbors home when I’m baby sitting them my nephews are allowed to play with the next door neighbor’s kids outside in the front yard and I sit outside and monitor my nephews while they are playing with the next door neighbors kids :)@ at home with the Beveres

@TerryCollinsP31Lifestyle Жыл бұрын

There are those who are genuinely going through things and some who create the things they go through

@shanonboos2421 Жыл бұрын

Love, love ,love this!!! I am 3 time failure at marriage. 4th time got it right. HONOR AND RESPECT are crucial. Love the "Rightly related" comments. I have literally told my husband we cannot have this conversation without help. (Our premarital counselors moved to FL) so I told him if he wanted to continue that Convo he needed to find a Christian counselor or someone strong in faith he would trust and we could have the Convo with them. He is very sensitive and I am less thoughtful and careful with words than he. I grew up in family like Lisa that fought daily. (and unhealthy) I had/have so much to learn and heal from about disagreeing respectfully. Can't wait for more episodes!!

@godmomentswithtomi_ Жыл бұрын

Omdsssss🥹, this family podcast is literally an answer to my prayers ❤️. I have been binge watching for 2 days now and i didn’t know I clicked on such a recent episode 😭😭😭. I was out here looking for part 2🥲🫠. Anyways thank you soooo muchh!!! For being such awesome examples,can’t wait for the next episode 🤗.

@TerryCollinsP31Lifestyle Жыл бұрын

That’s good. Don’t attack each other. Attack the problem.

@tayshavargas4547 Жыл бұрын

I can relate. My neighbor across the street has two girls and my girl always want to play with them. I have heard one of the girls taking about Halloween, they are big celebrating Halloween. Plus the mom has mentioned how her oldest ( only 5 at the time) loves playing video games. They homeschool and I quickly learned that a homeschool family is not equal to a Christian family. The mom always give me a negative feeling and I decided to not allow my kids to play with hers… I feel bad but I just can’t trust My intuition or something tells me no

@rikim1693 Жыл бұрын

There is your answer .You have no peace. Also pray and ask the Lord to connect t your friends with Godly friends and disconnected with ungodly friends. You can't connect with everyone even people that live in your street and neighbour. Not everyone is is your connection.

@natalieohlsson7777 Жыл бұрын

Love these! And I love that John and you have been so open about the arguments early on. I have had a boyfriend that was very controlling and dominating and forceful and it was so stressful, not of peace, and not life-giving at all! It’s nice to see that you guys were able to work out some of that intensity that you guys have talked about.

@ericajackson2380 Жыл бұрын

I love how bold Addison is 🔥

@jessicaladd85 11 ай бұрын

I'm glad I stumbled upon this podcast!!! So much wisdom ❤

@carlibasson2410 Жыл бұрын

lol Juli & Lisa, I'm so much like you in my way of handling conflict. Thanks guys for sharing your wisdom xxx

@sarahcollins7322 11 ай бұрын

So many good lessons we are implementing in our home through these table talks. Married 11 years and have two boys. Thank you for all of your biblical advice. God Bless!

@sherralgrossi 3 ай бұрын

Thanks guys for being so real on this topic. very helpful 👍

@pattyselah3 Жыл бұрын

This material is very helpful and I just thank you because in the 16 minute is what the most of Christian are. Wow, I appreciate this teaching and all the glory is for Christ.

@TerryCollinsP31Lifestyle Жыл бұрын

That’s so good. There are some things to bring to God only.

@karinarinarina Жыл бұрын

i can tell the two of them are each individually passionate as people! i could see where the two of them were lightheartedly bumping heads by the looks at each other 😂. Honestly was refreshing and seems like they have a beautiful marriage so far.

@Feseta456 Жыл бұрын

Love!

@ngpaz2916 Жыл бұрын

Sooooo good. Thank you

@charlenejulius8501 Жыл бұрын

I love real talk. We live & learn all of the time. God knows our fragility and He knows we don't always get it right. God in our boat makes the difference

@lorikayv 9 ай бұрын

I am so invested in this

@pictures1978 11 ай бұрын

Very grateful for this episode. Saw my siblings doing this with their children.

@Choochie333 Жыл бұрын

Love it

@anywhereadria 11 ай бұрын

Phew, this was good! Thank you for sharing your experience, and what you've learned from it.

@claudetteplante9381 5 ай бұрын

Thank you for this it,s been very helpful!Shalom from Canada 🇨🇦

@denisejones2639 Жыл бұрын

I thoroughly enjoyed this episode of practical parenting and marriage/relationship advice - chuck full of great take-away nuggets. It was definitely time well invested for me. #loveTheBeveres ❤️🤓

@anelizsoto7474 11 ай бұрын

I am really enjoying these talks. Thank you so much for sharing God’s wisdom with us.

@deldilla9307 Жыл бұрын

This was a word for me ❤

@davestephen8679 11 ай бұрын

Lots of wisdom on this marvelous podcast this family

@Cleusa_usa Жыл бұрын

Amém! ❤

@marlynstucky7052 11 ай бұрын

Thankyou for being real...

@Psalm5110 Жыл бұрын

AMEN

@vyomcruise 11 ай бұрын

👏👏👏so deep and relatable. I dont know why my eyes filled with tears the moment she started to pray at the end ❤

@athomewiththebeveres 11 ай бұрын

We're so grateful that God used this conversation to speak to you!

@nanaaddae8623 10 ай бұрын

I wish i had these tools the last 13 yrs of marriage. Ive carried a lot of hurt

@jessyjonas4988 Жыл бұрын

Amen

@dermanydelgado9043 11 ай бұрын

yes rightly related

@kianawalters5006 Жыл бұрын

this is good

@isaacj8175 Жыл бұрын

W discussion, coming at perfect time for me, bout listen to part 2 rn

@patriciasheehan5734 11 ай бұрын

Choose your battles. Don’t sweat the small stuff

@TerryCollinsP31Lifestyle Жыл бұрын

Oh my gosh. They are so cute

@gorgeouswales9635 11 ай бұрын

Good/Truth

@TerryCollinsP31Lifestyle Жыл бұрын

#replay Tuesday June 6, 2023

@elizabethquiles1085 5 ай бұрын

I need prayers. I’m dealing with the addiction of my partner and sometimes I attack him instead of the situation. The reality is that I don’t know how to deal with this

@jennifer94954 Жыл бұрын

Exactly! It sounds to perfect and is not reality , i agree with sister in law

@jacquelinejimenez2208 Жыл бұрын

Gosh I wish I had this in NY suburbs here where a group of dads get together to get to know each other. I just don't have it in my millieu. Something to pray for.

@dermanydelgado9043 Жыл бұрын

yes train not control

@tommyzzzzzzzzzzz 9 ай бұрын

Humor helps break the ice. I've heard be right or dead right

@melithajueanville-gairy3513 Жыл бұрын

God bless you and your families for sharing on such a real and Christlike level. Please guide us to or create more content about Peace Makers and Peace Keepers...how do we navigate such a dynamic?

@MaryOnyango-yn4hb 6 ай бұрын

♥

@HabibtiRo Жыл бұрын

great conversation with a lot of practical wisdom. interruptions were distracting though....

@FishRFrenzNotFood Жыл бұрын

Hey guys, I was wondering if you could do an episode on parenting children through teenage relationships. Especially, if your kid is dating a non Christian.

@inchristalone25 8 ай бұрын

What age?

@jainerajangeorge1419 11 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for working hard to keep it real!! So relatable even across continents..God bless you to keep going strong for Him!

@simonadobre7100 Жыл бұрын

Do you know narsistic husband healed?

@rikim1693 Жыл бұрын

God 1st. You can idolize your spouse. Your spouse is not God. Wholeness before marriage is so important. Its a life ling Journey. Only God can heal a person's heart. Man is not God.

@frankc-k3q Жыл бұрын

Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement. - 1 Peter 3:6 KJV Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; - Ephesians 5:25 KJV Marriage/covenant is only for Christians.

@inchristalone25 8 ай бұрын

If that is true then Paul wouldn't have had to address an unbelieving spouse.

@oralpowers7932 11 ай бұрын

Many relationships are based on a bunch of things like sex, food, friendship, dependancy, family but what happens over time is things breakdown causing conflict. Sometimes the balance of these relationships is lopsided, for example someone loses a job or your partner has to pickup the slack because your ill. And it's so good John isn't in on the discussion because we can blame him for everything. You're in charge so what's the plan? We don't like you're attitude so go and pray about it. You're not perfect so we won't even listen to you. I just said "I do", I didn't say "I love you" or I'll work on building a family together but it's totally your problem when things go south. I think John should find relationship and covenant with God. The priority for John is to find what John needs to make his life fulfilling in his relationships. Having others make their problems your problems by challenging your faith all the time is ridiculous. Workout your own faith by carrying your own cross, look after your own body, soul and spirit everyone. Find out what makes you happy and brings fulfillment. Were in the final days, sing praise and worship to God for all eternity.

@simonadobre7100 Жыл бұрын

If is husband is a narcissist you can do nothing