I am so glad my best friend Mako can personally sit me down and offer me this sage advice.

boundaries people. KZfaqrs and streamers are trying to make content and make a living for themselves on the internet. Enjoy what they produce, support them if you like, or don't. But there is a line.

Its called "Para-social relationships," its a huge thing especially for streamers.

I can't believe my best friend in the world Mako called y'all out, bro imagine

This is a good message to spread out. It's never okay to idolize anybody. The relationship between you and a content creator is one way. Also fellas, never force a relationship to happen with threats. It's not cool at all.

Then there are those of us just casually watching some of the videos because found your tuts searching how to make an v-tuber in Blender (the best series on that, at least to the best of my recollection).

Mako deadass just compared himself to a lion lmao

What people really need to realize is that it's actually impossible to care about that many people, the brain can literally only focus on so many things and some people can do more than others but I guarantee you there's not a person in the world that actually has thousands of real friends

"The game was rigged from the start"

TLDR: Makoyaki is food not friend

Parasocial relationships are a very normal and common thing, happening pretty much in the moment when you become a fan of someone. The biggest difference however, that has become very prominent with streaming getting so big, is that fans are able to communicate with the persona/celebrity much more closely and frequently. There's simply something magical that clicks in your brain when that person on the screen reads out the comment you wrote and answers to it. It emulates a conversation, making these parasocial emotions much stronger.

honestly tho, too much friends can be overwhelming, can't imagine having literally thousands of people expecting something out of me

you are my friend now. we are having soft tacos later.

Internet sure made some new conundrums through the wake of mass remote parasociality. My usual approach to parasociality is acknowledging the one-sidedness of of the relationship and the social and actual distances involved. As an aspie it's very good exercise for alterity since CCs are an example of (nigh-)unshakeable alterity, since one stream we could trip on the same subject/interest, but the next they'd be on a totally different trip and you may even not enjoy the content. As with all other kinds of non-hostile relationships ever, the most important lesson to take to heart is to *always imagine yourself in the other's shoes, using the "do to others what you wish others to do to you" rule.* It is very important to leash those feelings, especially when the streamer causes you to realize things about sexual or gender identity, and even a fragile broken cuddle like me can manage to set those essential boundaries between inspiration and lust, so as the illustridelicious Wigglysiah of Sensuality and Princess of the Honeybuns Rosedoodle once wrote, " *you can do it* " ! However, your feelings of friendship are valid and can be the roots of many gifts and niceties, like being friendly and supportive, clipping, being helpful in chat, or even donating, subbing and gifting subs if you feel like the streamer would spend this money better than you would (a harder mental exercise I only partook in once), and you may feel the feedback of those actions most of the time 😌.

Society doesn't respond well to new technologies. I'm 35 and the first time i had internet was at age 14. All this online stuff just stopped making any sense to me in how it permeates peoples lives to the deepest levels, i had a partner who would be a perfectly different person to me online than in real life and i just didn't know how to handle that, i feel that I'm run over by this unending march of ever newer internet nonsense that has no real life purpose. So yeah i get what Mako is saying here, or i think - friendships, relationships, what have you, is what happens face to face between people, and the constantly growing number of channels you can reach others over the internet doesn't change that. Seeing someone over a screen doesn't make you close to a person in the way seeing them in person does, and then theres the thing that if you meet a celebrity in person no you are not friends just because you know of them. But yeah got to hear Mako sing a little song, that was nice.

Oh god he's talking about me!

I can't believe Mako is vaguing about me on his channel :weary::weary::weary::weary::weary::weary:

Really liked your 3d modeling stuff and your teaching ways. Absolutely hilarious, informative and relatable. Also love what you name your time stamps, funny stuff!

Oof, understandable. I really do like the blender v-tuber tutorial, its hard to find one in your style or just more cartoony and round, i usually can only find anime ones.

It's valid to set boundaries between fans and content creation, but also to make sure for one's own mental health, that unless established in conversation, not to get wrapped up in slapping labels on one's self, as to not overwhelm your sense of trust in people in general, but to maintain healthy thinking for established friendships before the unexpected attention. Very often do people get wrapped up in trying to keep parasocial relations down and properly managed, but also end up evolving into business mindsets that as soon as money is introduces, even if it wasn't the goal, it'll tear friendships apart over 'who puts in the effort to make content', or 'you're too busy making content to hang out with people who don't make it, anymore.' There's a whole mess of things, but often, we do not see these events play out elsewhere in time to learn from them, before it's too late but it's important to stay humble, not just to discern proper friends from fans, but for your own mental health, as well. No one is meant to deal with people on such a large scale on a personal level, and it's great to be mindful of this, but a lot of people hurt themselves in content creation, when they isolate themselves from everyone who recognizes them. Not saying you should make friends with such people, but don't let such things blow up in your mind, that everyone is after you, or could always hurt you. Bah, long-winded explanations always seem to be a bad habit of mine, but I hope since posting this video, you've found a healthy spot of thinking for yourself, I don't like to assume things, but on the off-chance that anyone sees this and needs to hear it, as a relevant comment to the video topic, numbers don't define your value in life offline. Whether you are an extrovert or introvert, people need other people to live, even if we try to completely shut ourselves away from society and live it up in the woods or something. People left us tools/land to help us have such a life, or we get/use money to buy supplies to live off of, not everyone can do everything on their own. Point is, even alone, we rely on the effort of others/strangers to live. If you are content with those you have around you, then that's fine, but especially in the position of someone whose name is out there, how you express yourself to either a fan or just a passerby who might recognize you casually, not everyone has a sound mind or common sense to step back if you feel the need to push people away. Just be human, and take a moment for those who don't watch your content religiously or what have you, as long as it's not like a mob or anything, and just, spare a few words of thought on how they make you feel. Are they getting a little too familiar? Just tell them it makes you uncomfortable. Getting a little too close or being weird with your friends? Tell them it's not okay. Even just as simple and short an explanation as that can be enough, as yes, content creators are people, but so are those around them. Some instances of stalking and other types of general harassment is not to be excused just because someone comes off as rude or a teensy bit personal, but just showing a little courtesy in small steps at a safe distance, can prevent a lot of misunderstanding, and otherwise prevent the many disasters we hear about boundaries not being respected in a world where safety isn't guaranteed. It may come off as harsh, but the moment you put a piece of yourself out there for anyone to see of your own free will, even if you do it to make a living, you are a person, and also a persona. You are entitled to live your life out as a person as you see fit, but the persona will always follow you around if you wear it. Be human, be respectful to one another, respect boundaries, but remember to treat others how you want to be treated.

this vid is so good hahaha, from the background music to the content! glad I found your channel XD

this video reminds me of that one time i randomly dmed you because i had nobody to play terraria with three years ago lmao apologies to any small content creators for being a bit of a cringelord back in the day.

u mak bideo i wach bidet leav comet no mor no les ez

Thank you, you are probably the best vtuber when it comes to reality check 👏👏👏👏👏 I hope we can get more of these in the future to avoid getting hurt by our own inexperience

This is a certified beans on toast moment

Local femboy brags about how hard it is to be famous

That guy in the end “Ur Voice so soft” only to change they mind on it in some messages later… Reminds me of some friends I made because of my channel and positive reputation. I’m also at a point where I just don’t need more internet friends. Thanks for making this video!

Gotta farm those sweet sweet parasocials 🤣

I feel attacked. Joking....ish.....

🤣🤣you're definitely super cool & awesome💜 I love your honesty & humor. SO MUCH TRUTH👏 Some people are not fans, they're just trying to instigate, cause they don't have a life(bored). I'm taking your advice, cause I didn't know how to respond to people that wanna be my "friends." I'm already socially anxious IRL & can barely handle being a good friend to my 5 with all the overwhelm responding to dms & comments on social media for my business

Thank you for making this video.

this mix of no scrubs in the bg makes the message hit even harder..

I am very amused by some of the people actually offended from this. I think I’ve literally only watched a couple of your videos and then left it at that. Good content, but I’m not about to slide into your dms trying to be that one special guy out of tens of thousands of subscribers. KZfaq and Twitch are not platforms for making friends. If you are actually watching a KZfaqr’s content and going “yeah, I’m gonna hit them up, I’m somehow gonna be the one to magically become their friend,” then you’re on KZfaq for the wrong reasons. Get a grip, and just stick to watching things. Supporting is fine, but don’t go beyond that.

Outro was kinda cute

So does being a subscriber essentially like *permaban* you from being a friend of a Content Creator?

This isn't going to stop me from crushing hard.

an eye opening vid

Thank you someone who addresses this shit (this especially goes for one block fandom)

You acknowledged my comments on stream a couple times, that was good enough for me lol. I’m not a content creator but I relate to not wanting any more friends. I got too many as it is, adult life is hard

Don't worry I'll just befriend your friends

Haha, the ending was cool.

This came out a year ago I thought it was a couple of months?. I remember seeing it the day it came out.

he killed me. I pop in on him occasionally and I just died from laughter on this. 🤣

Of course i am not your friend..............................................i am your enemy.

Thanks for shattering my dreams.

Thank you, friend

Psh, someone's not getting invited to my birthday party.

❤️🥰Even if we can't be friends I'd still beat myself up BECAUSE your super cool awesome & amazing🥰❤ Btw the sound of ur voice makes what u say feel genuine so when I think about how life could just be a simulation with fake interactions it really hurts... Your kindness already made me cry so I just want to say ily & thank you for all you've done💞

I know exactly who this video is for and it saddens me that the people who caused it did what they did

reminds me of my parasocial relationship with Jerma

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Such great advice what woud i do without my Friend Mako

The way I would've framed this is; "I only have so much mental capacity to keep up with about 10 or so friends. A thousand is a bit much." It's called parasocial relationships and I can see how some people completely gaslight themselves.

How does he get his voice to Sound that way? Its so calming

Yes!.

Can't wait to do a video like this in the future

recently that has been happening to me frequently, I don't have friends so it is welcoming but it is sort of scary to socialize. I don't know how to tell my viewers I'm autistic and I don't have any social skills so it is a very unnerving experience for me sometimes.

But I want to be your friend.

That's true unless you actually personally know them.

No this is embarrassing to watch because I actually did this in grade school

🤣 why mako why!🤣

Also lmao what are those DM’s. Kids like that are the reason I left the Mako discord server, and I mean no offense, there’s nice people in it too but holy shit. The darker side of this audience is so...idk. Lotta depressed/anxious 15 year olds and such. Not really my scene.

People actually trying that huh. well, the more you know people, the more you know.

That freezy sunday dude is clearly in an altered state of mind, pretty disturbing stuff having to deal with those kinda ppl in your dms X3

so real

TMW: you have not watched him in months and he drops this, lol

👍👍👍 True

oh damn that dm is so weird tf

gratee video im big fan from tel ahim🥰

pushing 🅿️

so true

This video feels like he's trying to explain to a child/younger teenager why other people not giving a shit about you is actually somewhat comforting for peeps who are a bit more mature.

A wild lion... OwO

Creator and fan is like a busness transation, viewer ship = money Also Friends dont exist. I dont want friends

I can relate to this. Where IV had the same problem is on Xbox. Iv talked to people for a few days. And they thing I'm their best friend

Thanks m8 good to hear 1 million and 1 times.

Opinion on bread

People need tips on how to make friends in real life.

Edit: You don't have a terrible memory.. far from it. "This part was for Mako Ray the rest is for whoever reads it" You see that person should have asked a person like myself to help "Fix" their vehicles transmission/gearbox many ppl like myself try and lend a hand... yes even for free, but you know kindness is looked upon as a weakness so they one can sit trying to buy friends instead of just asking for assistance I could mumble on about feelings but oftentimes those things only hurt more than they fix. cherish what you have, be infatuated with whom you want to... it's been called Puppy Love as well as many other names.. still not asking for friends or friendship /wink.. try being happy "even for a few minutes each day" everyone, now more than ever!!! selected my tool I need to drive to the salvage yard to grab some parts to fix a car door that froze this brutal winter... sheesh!... and yes I have engine parts in my kitchen EJ207, V7 Sti Cylinder heads, for a future build.

Based and redpilled

2006 Toyota Sienna LE

But are we bros

I bet people hit on his avatar all the time and forget there is a real human behind the avatar.

Ain’t it common sense

Are you my fried?, in all seriousness how the hell you get hand tracking like that

🅱ASED

Cat boiyyy

Who poked the the bear or in this case moody human who is a vtuber

:O

XDD I have fun here

It's understandable to not want to make new friends, I mean, doing that is kind of annoying; especially when it comes to people you haven't even seen in person. There are people you don't care about and neither they do for you, there's nothing wrong with that; It's common sense after all.

alright, you're correct, but tihs "becoming friends with a youtuber you're a fan of" does work BUT ONLY WITH REALLY SMALL KZfaqRS. Like me. I did be friends with people who watch me. but, when you're a really big "content creator" , its not okay in my opinion

So what you’re saying is there’s a chance

What the fuck is a Content Creator and why don't they wanna be my friend >:^( But yeah there is no way to have a huge number of real meaningful friends.

Lots of ppl lonely af these days.

It’s true though

seeing that leak was like seeing a fan girl lusting over a pop star and the star is like r u ok dud chill i dont know you and the girl is like wym i wanna know the real you daddy this kinda shit i will never understand unless you are like on the verge of homelessness and you tag your fav creators a go fund me but that made me unconfortible

Alternate title: STOP SIMPING, DWEEBS

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