Costume College 2019 || The Introvert's Guide (ft. Bernadette Banner)

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4 жыл бұрын

Costume College is an exciting, inspirational event, but if you're an introvert, it may also look very overwhelming!
Here's the behind the scenes edition from #teamintrovert, showing that you can get huge value out of live events too... even if you're travelling thousands of miles... if you just know a few tricks and tips.
More about Costume College:
IG / costumecollege
THE COSTUME COLLEGE 2019 PLAYLIST
(Including Noelle’s daily vlogs and Morgan Donner’s Q&A session)
• Costume College 2019
Let me know if I’ve caught you or someone you know on camera and would like to be listed here for others to find.
Roughly in order of appearance:
Bernadette Banner:
YT / bernadettebanner
IG / bernadettebanner
Marika of Enchanted Rose Costumes (Victorian bathing suit, constellation Worth gown, making video with Morgan and Bernadette on Sunday):
YT / enchantedrosecostume
IG / enchanted.rose.costumes
Colleen Crosby, Docking Bay 94 podcast (interviewing me, Friday):
www.kryptonradio.com
Jalea Ward (Pink Shindig dress from Firefly):
YT / @jaleaward
IG / jaleaward
Lauren Morgan (White Sailor Moon gown, hugging me)
IG / dalareyn
Chris DeAngelo (Persephone from Lore Olympus):
IG / thelacedangel
Abby Cox (Hera from Lore Olympus):
IG / abbyelyn
Lauren Stowell (Hades from Lore Olympus):
IG / lauren_stowell
Nicole Rudolph (Hecate from Lore Olympus):
IG / silk_and_buckram
Together, these four are the mighty American Duchess (also seen signing books, Friday, and teaching with me on Sunday):
YT / @americanduchess1
IG / americanduchess
Noelle of Costuming Drama (Iron Ma'am):
YT / costuming_drama
IG / costuming_drama
Constance MacKenzie (Brave recipient of tea, intrepid Suffragette, maker of the 1812 riding habit I wore as Gentleman Jack):
IG / stanceymackenzie
Marlee Maher:
IG / threadedthistle
Morgan Donner (resplendent in modern 16th century in red):
YT / morgandonner
IG / morgandonner
Laurie Tavan (glorious blue and white 1830s gown with hat):
IG / laurietavan
Katie of diystopia:
YT / @diystopia
IG / diystopia
Angela of Burnley & Trowbridge:
YT / @burnleyandtrowbridge
IG / burnleyandtrowbridge
Adam Lid & Karin McKechnie-Lid of Lily Absinthe Gowns & Corsetry:
IG / lilyabsinthegownsandco...
Katherine Caron-Greig aka Koshka the cat (red gown with flames):
IG / koshka_sews
SuperMrsMar (blue dress in the background next to the Gala ballroom doors)
IG / the_dancing_mare
Cynthia Settje, Redthreaded Corsets and Costume:
YT / @redthreadedcorsets
IG / redthreaded
Massage therapy in your home or hotel room: soothe.com
The Midlands' leading voice coach Mark Graham, available via Skype worldwide: www.markjwgraham.co.uk/
Yoga classes with Cameron Gilley and many other awesome teachers at gaia.com
(not sponsored)
Style:
The pants with suspenders everyone's asking about: www.emmydesign.se
Edwardian underwear and corset made by me with help from foundationsrevealed.com
Meetup:
Original 1880s watch from Fine Times Watches:
IG / finetimeswatches
Moriarty:
Hat with veil by Farthingales Historical Hats:
IG / sherrithehatter
Gentleman Jack:
1812 riding habit and all underpinnings by Constance MacKenzie:
IG / stanceymackenzie
Most of my shoes and stockings, American Duchess (linked above)
Everything else is vintage or thrifted
Join my mailing list and ask your own question:
eepurl.com/ciT6hT
You can also follow me and see my own sewing on Instagram:
/ cathy.hay
Music:
“Shape Shifter” by Vieveri, epidemicsound.com (Pool party scene)
“The Ingenious” by Arthur Benson, epidemicsound.com (Making tea)
“Big World for a Minnow” by Trevor Kowalski, epidemicsound.com (CosTube meetup)
“Refined Enlightenment” by Howard Harper-Barnes, epidemicsound.com (Friday night Sherlocking)
“Firefly Trail” by Trevor Kowalski, epidemicsound.com (Gala)
“To Clarity” by Airae, epidemicsound.com (Ending)
Dedicated to my long suffering KZfaq coach, Bernadette Banner, without whom this video would be a lot less interesting. Thank you for your patience, everyone!

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@CathyHay 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for your patience, everyone! This is my longest and most complex video to date, and it was a labour of love. Many thanks to my KZfaq coach, a certain Ms Banner, who cheered me on, gave me valuable feedback, and saw me through to the final upload! Oh, and btw, the pants with suspenders that everyone's asking about: www.emmydesign.se/en/webshop/shop-by-collection/spring-summer-2019/pants-jumpsuits/the-miss-fancy-pants-slacks-black.html

@TessaOswin 4 жыл бұрын

Cathy Hay if I may ask. Knowing people can really help me with the stress as they can help me understand the social conversations of the event. If you wanted to find internet friends before. Where would you go to find them?

@CathyHay 4 жыл бұрын

@@TessaOswin Great question! We answered this exact question in @morgandonner's Q&A video last week, in much more detail than I can here!

@elizabethlovell9997 4 жыл бұрын

What a wonderful book! My grandfather was born in about 1895 I think, and brought up in Lincolnshire. I cannot wait to buy the book for myself! Thank you for highlighting it.

@TessaOswin 4 жыл бұрын

Cathy Hay thank you.

@FaerieDust 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you SO MUCH for the link!! It's quite a challenge for me to find pants I like in my large sizes, especially ones that aren't fast fashion - I was so happy to see that these (and many more on the site) come in larger sizes! I'm quite in love with the brown wool/silk blend ones...

@shaidabegum. 4 жыл бұрын

Every time Cathy and Bernadette put their faces together i think they're mother and daughter. They look alike. Your friendship gives me warmth.

@lindapesnell5723 4 жыл бұрын

Cathy looks too young to be Bernadette’s mother. They are more like sisters. ❤️

@angee9996 4 жыл бұрын

I'm still convinced that they are the same person... Though I haven't yet come to the conclusion which one of them is the time traveler

@dcinrb8538 4 жыл бұрын

Sisters ♥️ My sisters are 22 & 18 years my senior. A family friend commented on how we don't look alike but we each resemble our mother(?) Hmmm, what is this woman insinuating about our parentage...

@designdoctor247 4 жыл бұрын

I just found Bernadette's channel! This video just popped up. wow. I felt the same way... thought they were mother and daughter.

@ceciliacecilia7841 4 жыл бұрын

I'll be honest, I'm a new viewer, I thought they were partners (as in girlfriends)

@shepherdessinthefray 4 жыл бұрын

"Not that we don't want to see people, but that we want to see people strategically." - introversion in a nutshell. #relatable

@chaoss5 4 жыл бұрын

I want a T-shirt with that text!

@daraghmay 4 жыл бұрын

Basically introverts in a nutshell

@amandaspence8167 3 жыл бұрын

Yes! For me part of the stress is dealing with all those feelings coming at me at once. I pick up on other peoples’ feelings and it is exhausting.

@super_siri 3 жыл бұрын

SO RELATABLE!!! And I'm an extroverted introvert, I like people and being around them, but I can still get overwhelmed, and need way more time to myself than non introverts.

@super_siri 3 жыл бұрын

@@amandaspence8167 Being an introverted empath is the WORST! I actually had a panic attack at a party because I was unaware of how much of an empath I was, and everyone at the very large party I was at were basically drunk, so their emotions were more open than they normally would be.

@katieyeti4420 4 жыл бұрын

Oh Bernadette's face when you both realised it was over and you both have to go your separate ways again. Never mind the talent both of you have, you're friendship goals encapsulated in two wonderful people. I need to call my bestie now. I'm not crying, you're crying.

@hopenield8234 4 жыл бұрын

Cathy and Bernadette are transatlantic twins!

@DebraKadabra 4 жыл бұрын

@@hopenield8234 I'm thoroughly convinced that the lovely Bernadette is a time-travelled, equally lovely Cathy. They're not twins - they're the same person.

@TarynToday 3 жыл бұрын

I adore Cathy and Bernadette in the same videos and hope they are staying in touch during the pandemic.

@jennyormrod2288 4 жыл бұрын

As a fellow introvert, thank you for all of the tips and tricks. I sometimes feel like I'm surrounded by extroverts who don't understand that sometimes after a full day at work surrounded by people I don't always want to see anyone. I also get many people saying things like:- "Oh you're too young to be tired!", "Oh you can't possibly know what tiredness is, you don't have children or a husband!" "Oh are you sure you should live alone? We don't want you becoming a hermit!" I'm extremely grateful that there are people like you who assure me that being an introvert is normal and that it's okay to not want to be around people all the time. Thank you.

@Sailor_S 4 жыл бұрын

I think the amount of time you can spend with Bernadette compaired to everyone/everything else really captures how introverts have different levels of...tolerance? to stimulation from outside sources.

@ragnkja 4 жыл бұрын

Spending time with one person you know is definitely different than spending times with lots of people you don't know all that well, especially when that person is also an introvert and doesn't mind if the two of you just sit quietly together, doing your own things.

@AliceinDisneyWorld1125 3 жыл бұрын

The way I've described it to my boyfriend is it's having a gas tank, and some people take way more gas to deal with than others. (And then once you run out you have to go and hide by yourself until it refills) Bernadette doesn't use up as much of Cathy's gas as an entire convention full of people.

@JenniferGallion 4 жыл бұрын

I just adore the way you and Bernadette look at each other. There's such warmth and love between you two. :)

@toniroche-simmons2238 4 жыл бұрын

The friendship between you two is awesome. The closeness between you two. You must have known each other in another life! Xx

@Victoria-hs5bm 3 жыл бұрын

I’m late but absolutely this. I want what they have. Haha

@jotsntittles5783 3 жыл бұрын

@@Victoria-hs5bm I too - that special someone (of the same sex that is similar to me, of whom I get and they get me)

@loganj.harrison6315 3 жыл бұрын

Its a sister like kind of bond that is just extremely comforting

@AH-cy4md 4 жыл бұрын

Introverts unite! We’re here We’re uncomfortable And we want to go home (or back to our rooms)! But seriously, this was great. Once you accept yourself as an introvert and/or highly sensitive person, you can more easily enjoy socializing in small bits, leaving when you’ve had enough, and not feel like a weirdo. 🥰☮️

@oliviahitz6602 4 жыл бұрын

I hope everyone finds someone who looks at them the way Bernadette looks at Cathy. 17:56

@cryingeyeslove 4 жыл бұрын

13.09 too

@AgentPedestrian 4 жыл бұрын

"Nope! It's gone." I have never felt such relief in relating to a person. If you can't chase the thought. It has to come to you. No remorse just carry on. As a person with ADHD this happens to me all the time. Often mid sentence. Thank you for putting that in the video.

@CathyHay 4 жыл бұрын

It's good to let go! If it's important it'll come back to you. I'm so glad that resonated!

@roseleathem2884 4 жыл бұрын

Ok so I finally get it. After months of watching everyone and being like omg that's so cool i wish i knew how to sew or had the patience to complete a project I took it upon myself to go out and find a pattern so i could use some fabric that mum had that i loved. And I get it, the excitement of having made something that is wearable is amazing. It's not historical and certainly not hand sewn but it's a start and I'm proud of it. The first item of clothing I've ever made and will most certainly not be the last.

@sc0ttishlass 4 жыл бұрын

CONGRATULATIONS ! It is an amazing feeling, right?! To create something, to alter it to your own desires and shape and then wearing it.

@canucknancy4257 4 жыл бұрын

Awesome job. That first leap of faith is always the hardest. Well done!

@mmw55122 4 жыл бұрын

Wonderful! You GO!!

@andinarizkia 4 жыл бұрын

Your comment gave me courage to statt sewing for myself. I dream of having a good quality coat with super material that will last me decades, but buying it sounds impossible with my current condition as a college student. I can, however, save up for the wool/tweed fabric that I want and will certainly try to hand sew it once I'm comfortable enough to handle a harder project. Thank you!

@toniroche-simmons2238 3 жыл бұрын

I'm late in the game in commenting on your comment but I too remember the first time I ever sewed something that I could wear! It was in the early 80s and I made a top for myself out of a bed sheet!! It was bright yellow lol and I loved it. Since then I've made a piece here and there. But I've always given up because I never thought I was good enough. This time I've made myself a 20s style "one hour dress" that I drafted myself. And I made it from a single duvet cover!! Watching Bernadette and Cathy and a couple of other people who I love watching, I have decided not to buy any more brand new clothes from stores. But I will buy from charity shops and online that pre owned. Xx

@HearthandSickle 4 жыл бұрын

That’s it. Saving my pennies for costume college in 2020. Ms. Hay, you have put my introvert heart at ease to attend such a gathering. Ms. B

@SarahBent 4 жыл бұрын

This is really great. I'm an ambivert, but I also have chronic pain and fatigue. This way of setting goals and breaks works really well for those of us with Chronic illness as well.

@JNPrettyOnTop 4 жыл бұрын

Sarah Bent Yes, this right here!! Same, same. 💜💜💜

@angellinafosse1936 4 жыл бұрын

I just wish I could figure out the balance between between too much and too little. I seem to over do things and make my health worse.

@michelleross9782 4 жыл бұрын

I so wish you & Bernadette lived a little closer at least to do a project together. Maybe reconstructing a Dior Haute Couture gown to see what historical ideas & practices were used. Maybe to do an amazing reconstruction of a French or English garment of nobility. (Coronation or Wedding garments)

@erin-eh2sl 4 жыл бұрын

whenever I feel lonely or need a friend, I just come to costube. What a wonderful group of people you all are.

@lasphynge8001 4 жыл бұрын

"I'm extremely chilled out... or just tired, I have no idea." I relate, that's totally me! I need lots of sleep and there's a threshold of sleep deprivation, which I attain fairly quickly, beyond which I like to say "too tired to get upset". Always see the silver lining, I guess! But more seriously, lovely vlog, you did an awesome job at sharing the experience! Thank you!

@mollykatew5655 4 жыл бұрын

I just smiled for 30 minutes straight.

@elizabethlinehan2576 4 жыл бұрын

Me too!

@antonstroms407 4 жыл бұрын

Couldn't have said it better =)

@sywilliams 3 жыл бұрын

Ditto!

@ukehimesama 4 жыл бұрын

The high floor thing is an unlikely tip, but as someone who when tired tends to fixate on annoying noises it would be a big snapping point for me. I think knowing those little things about yourself is really important when you are going to be pushing yourself. Knowing when it's time to hide out in the toilet to catch your breath.

@APrimbun 4 жыл бұрын

Just started watching but I have to say I loved that "we've successfully peopled" comment. It's so me. 🙂 So I've now watched the entire video and I can only say that you distilled everything I've learned in my entire life on coping as an introvert in a world that doesn't necessarily suit our style. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and experiences. I intend to share it to some people who don't give a hoot about costuming/historical dress but are also introverts. It's that good, in my opinion. Thank you!

@kbrandt4015 4 жыл бұрын

I'm an introvert and I'm going to use the phrase "concentrate the people-ing" from now on!!! LOL!!

@lotuswildflowers 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for making the time to make this for us! I love the camaraderie you share with Bernadette (it was her obvious love for you that pushed me here where I could fall in love with you too). I am not a historical costumer but it seems like an amazing little world and I love peeking into it with you.

@JNPrettyOnTop 4 жыл бұрын

lotuswildflowers This. 💜💜💜

@TheAgeofFabulous 4 жыл бұрын

I’m an extroverted introvert. I can do presentations and speeches but once I’m done, I need my room and down time. I have a group of online girlfriends, we’ve been together for 12 years, and we have an annual get together. Often there is 4 to a room, I can only do ONE other person at most and that person must be a fellow introvert. And they know that I only do one group event a day. That’s it. Also, Cathy, I could listen to your voice allllllll day long. I don’t do ASMR but your voice is magical.

@tanvikhare9710 4 жыл бұрын

So you're a confident introvert. Good for you😁

@bonniehyden962 4 жыл бұрын

Ms. Cathy...I do believe this Texas Girl has fallen in love with you, M'am. You and Bernadette are such a beautiful pair of human beings. I do believe I'd pay money to have the chance to hang out with the two of you...even though I am not anywhere near as seriously interested in sewing or historic clothing as the two of you. I do believe, though, I shall have to put the possibility of visiting you on my Bucket List. ...for no other reason than to enjoy a cup of tea and some quiet time with you, soaking up some wisdom and building an honest relationship. You are a rare human, Ms. Cathy. Rare and real. Thank you for being just who you are. (deep curtsy)

@jamessamuel1255 4 жыл бұрын

Bonnie Hyden I couldn't agree more. Such a genuine and intelligent and beautiful character with a creative mind like no other

@DebraKadabra 4 жыл бұрын

Howdy, fellow Texan here! I wholeheartedly agree. I don't know how, but I fell into the rabbit hole with Bernadette's videos, then Marika (Enchanted Rose Costumes), then Noelle (Costuming Drama), and then Cathy and Morgan. I've never sewn anything seriously beyond ripping the seams from a Hallowe'en mask to restitch it back up into a cap of sorts... and thanks to The Peacock Dress I've done some digging and I have two "pets" - the lovely red and black jump dress Kate Winslet wore as Rose in Titanic (I'm a fan of the old ocean liners and the Edwardian era is my jam) and just literally within the last few days Worth's 1898 Butterfly Gown that was donated by J. P. Morgan's longest surviving child Frances Tracy Morgan Pennoyer to The Met in New York City (which I've been to - once, when I went on a lovely weekend getaway in 2015). I don't know why I resonate with these lovely ladies and the OG haute couture but I do. It reminds me of a simpler time, and reaffirms a lot of things that I believe spiritually. I'm rambling and teary-eyed, but I just wanted to drop my tuppence to thank Cathy for being who she is. You are a beacon to this more introverted ambivert. x

@skully6223 4 жыл бұрын

I agree as well about the paying money to hang out with the two of them. I'd be ok just sitting in the corner listening to their conversations or soaking up Cathy's wonderful advice.

@aestheticallyaspiring2692 4 жыл бұрын

A 30min vlog from Cathy Hay!? What have we done to deserve such sublime content!?😍 your videos are spectacular, and truly uplift my mood when I need it most, thank you💕

@celiahaddon4087 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you Cathy for this wonderful guide for introverts. I have booked onto a sewing retreat weekend in October and I am already feeling anxious about it. Your video made me realise that it’s the “peopling” that worries me. Setting my objectives in advance will be really helpful I’m sure. Your advice is always pertinent and constructive. I’m a UK sewist but I am very much alone with my hobby/obsession. I feel better about that when I watch you.

@louisechristinelarsen2248 4 жыл бұрын

Such a beautiful and wise guide on how to get the most out of life while protecting ourselves within. We introverts take out time to do our very best when we do a talk or lecture, and as we do not tell anyone, it does so good seeing you, sharing your experience. Thank you so much!

@brissygirl4997 4 жыл бұрын

If I'm ever in a room full of people I don't know, I'm usually sitting off to the side not talking to anyone. I don't find being around people particularly difficult, but I don't go out of my way to make conversation and interact with people. Thank you Cathy for sharing your knowledge and experience on how to tackle such big events.

@angelal6700 2 жыл бұрын

Or DragonCon, Atlanta GA. Try going in costume, found it freed me from the shyness stapling my lips together.

@lunamorte155 4 жыл бұрын

I don’t know why but I felt quite emotional at the end of this video. It was done beautifully and I know that next year I’ll be there because no matter what I can do this. Love from Missouri. Thanks Cathy!

@stayingmyself 4 жыл бұрын

Watching you and Bernadette interact is so wholesome and makes me incredibly happy :)

@thebarefoottealady 4 жыл бұрын

I love that you left the documentation of the specific events to others and focused more on the time spent in your room decompressing. This is how I handle the scientific conferences I attend for work and it’s so necessary.

@nikakozar832 4 жыл бұрын

Every time I see a new video from you or Bernadette I'm so excited, and you two together in one video is a special treat hahah!

@e.urbach7780 4 жыл бұрын

What great advice! I tried some similar techniques this year, too, after being too tired to do even the things I thought I could do, last year. I brought my electric kettle and a small bottle of milk to the hotel for the first time, after getting tired of the coffee-scented tea with powdered creamer that I made in the hotel room last year, and going back to my room for a cup of tea in the middle of the afternoon really helped me rest. The tip about ordering room service so that you can have a real cup and saucer, though, is genius! Last year I called the front desk and asked them to bring a cup and saucer to my room (because they wouldn't let you take them out of the dining room or the Friday Night Social room), and they brought more styrofoam cups! The other main thing that I did this year, that saved my energy and sanity, was to wear regular daywear (jeans and T-shirts, in my case) to classes on at least one day, only make one completely new costume for the whole weekend, and wear old costumes the rest of the time. I definitely recommend it!

@Moon13Dreams 4 жыл бұрын

I think your video was my favorite to watch from this years Costume College. I don't think I'll ever get to go to, but I liked seeing it from another introvert's perspective and I was just smiling the whole time

@maisoncourouge 4 жыл бұрын

I LOVE your “intention” idea. I’m getting ready to go to an annual needlework seminar next week...and I am DEFINITELY putting the tips in this video to good use!

@CathyHay 4 жыл бұрын

Ooh wonderful! Let me know how it goes!

@immoralq 4 жыл бұрын

I am watching this as i rather clumsily sew frogs onto a brocade waistcoat that I made for my partner. It is absolutely by no means perfect, and certainly not historically accurate in anyway; I was just so determined to try after watching you and Bernadette. Your obvious love for sewing shows in every stitch and i thought, "I want to see if that's for me."

@peanutsandberrys 4 жыл бұрын

I never met you but from this video you seem like the nicest and most loveliest person to be around. I am sure everyone could be happy to have a Cathy in their live. Lots of love from Germany!

@SuperMrsMar 4 жыл бұрын

19:15, yay, that is me in the back in the blue dress! My roommate had gone to bed early and I found myself alone and not knowing anyone, but not willing to call it a night yet. I saw this lady sitting by herself and asked to sit with her. I figured I would either end up taking a break and rest, or striking up a conversation. The latter happened and I ended up making a new friend. As much as I loved the classes, it always feels so good to be surrounded by so many wonderful, like-minded women. Thank you for this video and for the big hug when I got up the nerve to meet you!

@CathyHay 4 жыл бұрын

It was so lovely to meet you! Ooh, tell me your IG and I'll put you in the description!

@SuperMrsMar 4 жыл бұрын

@@CathyHay @the_dancing_mare Hopefully I wrote that right

@lydiaderhake2532 4 жыл бұрын

"This is the point where I start tidying."

@susanfrank7897 4 жыл бұрын

Cathy you and Bernadette are so wonderfully amazing and so much fun to watch.

@kirstine8286 4 жыл бұрын

What a lovely, sweet, endearing, wise, well-paced and beautiful video!! You and Bernadette put such a smile on my face; as a fellow-introvert, I so enjoyed vicariously experiencing costume college through both of your channels - and I think I shall be borrowing the term "peopling" for my own use!

@dpr6582 4 жыл бұрын

Yes, peopling is certainly a buzzword for me now.

@leeoughton7551 4 жыл бұрын

i was a flight attendant. im british. i had a travel kettle in my suitcase and a mug. never knowingly without tea

@velvetbat 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you very much for this video! It was super helpful! Being an introvert who also has asperger's and chronic illness (chronic pain and fatigue), I always felt like multi-day conventions were no option for me. I still don't think Costume College is possible for me for now (I'm from the Netherlands, so the trip alone would be too much for me), but I will keep your tips in mind and try to apply them if I ever dare to try a multi day convention more locally. :D And it's also very eye-opening to see the other side of a convention. I love watching videos of costume college and other events, but when people show only the excited stuff I never realise people can (and do) take breaks in between too, to recharge.

@anon2129 4 жыл бұрын

Thanks for making it easier for introverts that are only just joining the community and aren't sure how to go about it.

@celticgoddess81 4 жыл бұрын

I totally agree with you, Cathy. I think I tried to do too much this year. I went to the tea and had to leave because I had a full-on anxiety attack. For no reason other than a lot of people. That' hasn't happened in years. When I attend again I'm going to limit how many costumes I bring and how many things I try to do. This was the first year I tried to go to the tea.

@CathyHay 4 жыл бұрын

Oh no! I'm sorry to hear that. But this is an experience that'll help you hone your own Costume College method just like I have. Years ago there was a racing driver called Gilles Villeneuve, who used to get to know a new racetrack by overdoing it and spinning off every corner until he found its exact edge; he then knew exactly how far he could push the car to go at maximum speed, whilst also staying within his limits. That's what you did this year! ❤️ It was lovely to meet you!

@celticgoddess81 4 жыл бұрын

@@CathyHay I completely agree! And it was lovely meeting you as well!!!

@AG-lg2uf 4 жыл бұрын

Costum college is basically a giant crossover episode

@AG-lg2uf 4 жыл бұрын

Currently sitting here in a restaurant screaming internally because Cathy Hay liked my comment and Bernadette Banner replied to my comment!!!!! I love you guys!!!!!!!!!!!!

@AG-lg2uf 4 жыл бұрын

Also how did I spell costume wrong wow much smart

@celticgoddess81 4 жыл бұрын

You ladies Sherlock outfits came out great. :D I loved the video Bernadette did of you three! Great job!

@michelleross9782 4 жыл бұрын

Oh how I would have wished when I was forced to endure work conferences that I could follow your instructions. They demanded you attend (sign up sheets to prove attendance) meetings from 8:30am to 4:30pm which included a group lunch with some "Big Wig" in the agency. Then at 5pm you were expected to network from 5:00pm-6:00pm. The evening was many times spent fine tuning a presentation you (and co-workers most times as a "group project") for the next day. I many times ended up leaving the next early afternoon with a headache & nausea caused by the stress & anxiety of it all. [SO GLAD I'M NO LONGER THERE!!!]

@CathyHay 4 жыл бұрын

Ouch, what a nightmare!

@CATcatCATwoof 2 жыл бұрын

I hope you both can reconnect in the future after wounds are healed are you're both in better places. You're kindred spirits.

@mealmoth8369 4 жыл бұрын

I absolutely agree on the importance of quiet times and calming down when you're in an ongoing social situation. A few years ago I was part of a six week scientific expedition in the Arctic Ocean, with the ship fully packed - about 50 crew and 50 scientists. Because I was one of the three youngest ladies on board, we were assigned the only three-berth cabin (two being the norm), and one of us was on a different team and a different schedule. The only private, quiet time I could make for myself was shifting myself into the night watch, so I'd at least have our lab to myself between 11 and 3 am. Our chief scientist however was a pretty extroverted person, and she very much encouraged parties and socialising... I really learned my boundaries with "peopling" then (but I made a few friends, too) ^^ PS: I really love your videos, and this one absolutely shows off your editing skills! And it also takes us from high energy to low to high to low and perfectly underscores your point.

@albinocavewoman 4 жыл бұрын

What a cool story! I have a friend, definately an extrovert, who used to be a fishery observer for NOAA and had the most hilarious and insane stories about being at sea. I loved hearing them, but was always overwhelmed by the thought of all the social interaction involved.

@CathyHay 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you very much! It's sometimes hard to imagine how we cope when other people force us into these situations, isn't it! But we learn so much from those hard times.

@agypsycircle 4 жыл бұрын

My mundane job at the moment keeps me fairly isolated from most people, and I’ve found that I crave solitude whenever I’m actually home with roommate. It’s funny because most people still think I’m an extrovert because I can approach people and get into weirdest conversations with others! But I honestly have to hide in my room and just unwind and calm myself down and some of the tips you showed are ones I’ve used unconsciously for years! Hugs to you and Bernadette and my pocketbook willing, I hope to actually meet you both at Costume College next year!

@alabamalisa3872 4 жыл бұрын

"it's possible to be proud of your accomplishments without it being perfect" thank you. I just started sewing again last year. Not doing a comparison to what I see is hard. Social media makes learning easier but getting discuraged easier also.

@aurorad3522 4 жыл бұрын

This was my first time at Costume College. As much as enjoyed it & especially meeting you, Bernadette and Constance, I needed a reset afterwards. I went to Sequoia National Forest and hiked 4 miles up a mountain to camp out.

@catzkeet4860 4 жыл бұрын

This pointed up something that i think a lot of people dont realise about introverts. It was what Bernadette said, about how during her first CC she spent a lot of time in her room feeling lonely even THOUGH she needed the decompress time. Introverts DO like socialising , and we DO enjoy the company of others, particularly those who have passions in common, we just dont want to do that ALL the time, and selfishly or not, we need to do it on our terms. Personally i work in a job where im dealing with people all day........when i get home my cats are about all the conversation that im willing to partake in!! Thank you Cathy for reminding us that while we extroverts might not be the life of the party, we still have something to offer in social situations and others can still offer something to us, we just need to take it in digestable chunks. And that its ok to do that. Oh, and no i dont sew (tho i can and have done before) and am highly unlikely to ever end up at CC given that i live in NZ, but Cathy, your words of wisdom apply to so much more than just CC so cheers for that

@Quietcloud 4 жыл бұрын

Such a lovely bit of advice on how to respect one's introversion! I love it.

@courtneywalsh9780 3 жыл бұрын

Bernadette talking about doing a 50s Dior look from the perspective of Victorian Dressmaking and now I’m just imagining her doing her own spin on the ‘Bar Suit’ from the New Look. I feel like it could go pretty seamlessly into her wardrobe!!!

@Faefire 4 жыл бұрын

Seeing this made me very happy. It is unlikely I will ever have the means to attend costume college, but there are similar conventions in my own country and attending them might be possible (if I have the courage). In the meantime I enjoy sitting in front of my computer with a cup of tea and my cat, working on my embroidery and watching the vlogs. I'm alone in my room but not lonely and really... that is all I need. Also, can I say, that you look very handsome in the suspender-trousers in the beginning? You wore them before in videos and I always thought they suit you incredibly well. I might need to sew myself a pair. :) Thank you for the wonderful vlog.

@shannon2711 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing all of these beautiful, soft, and gentle moments! An event like this would cause me deep anxiety and your sage advice makes it feel possible. Additionally, this video makes me wish you and Bernadette lived closer, cause oh wow, friendship goals. So thank you again for this delightful and inspiring video 💕

@Nephthys_Nile 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this video. Not only did it compliment the other videos from CoCo so nicely, but it also added to the weight of my counter-arguments to not wanting to attend next year (I’m not sure my bank balance is thanking you for that). You have such a calm and down-to-earth way of presenting rather complex topics, and for that I will be eternally grateful. Also, both yourself and Bernadette are just delightful when you’re in shot together.

@Berumira 4 жыл бұрын

So wonderful! I hope one day to come to CoCo! I think I am an "extroverted introvert". I enjoy my time alone for the most part, but once I am comfortable I can talk someone's ear off about the strange things that interest me (clothing from La Belle Époque, insects, plants, and other misc things in my encyclopedia of a brain). My social anxiety also propels me to be a bit loquacious. I love watching your videos because I feel less alone in my desire to dress in historical clothing! Your passion and love on the subject really is inspiring. Your advise is wonderful and I feel so lucky to have found you amongst many other marvelous women on the internet who share this passion! Thank you X infinity!

@LateMarch 4 жыл бұрын

This introvert is taking a well anticipated solo vacation to France and your neck of the woods next month, and I’ve been slowly convincing myself that I don’t have to have every sixty seconds planned out with things to do-so I’m feeling well justified from your words of wisdom. And I’m quite pleased to add to that your technique of asking myself to decide on my top priority for the next day instead of holding fast to a serious itinerary!

@AdelaideBeemanWhite 4 жыл бұрын

This video has made me (as an introvert) very excited to come to Costume College next year!

@EvanAnnaNave 4 жыл бұрын

I just got so excited when I got this notification 🧡🧡

@BexxiM 4 жыл бұрын

Coming home and seeing this in my subscription, made a very dismal day so much better Ms. Hay. This has eased my worries about attending Costume College and I am looking forward to and now inspired.

@viralhangover 4 жыл бұрын

It’s been so interesting watching the different CC vlogs and getting the different perspectives people have of the event. I haven’t decided if I want to try to go next year, but I feel a lot more confident about it than I did when I first heard about costume college. One thing I’ve found that really helps me when I go overboard and try to do all the things is ask myself “Do I actually want to do this, or do I think I ‘should’ want to?” It helps me center myself and not overdo things too much.

@lovoniaparks 4 жыл бұрын

is that a "gates of hell" medieval sailor moon outfit?!? YES!

@emmachisholm8718 4 жыл бұрын

Captions!!!! Yay. I’m a new viewer so I don’t know if you caption all your videos but thank you so much. Most longer vlog style videos aren’t captioned so I don’t get to enjoy them so this is amazing. Also being deaf on top of being an introvert can make socializing super hard so these tips are very helpful!

@CathyHay 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for saying so! I do make it a priority. Apologies if they weren't super accurate yet when you first viewed this - as soon as the video goes up I have an outside company do the subtitles and auto-deliver them to the video, but I've just gone in and edited them now so words like "Dior" and "couture" come through correctly!

@denisegratteau1747 3 жыл бұрын

I am also deaf and dearly love the effort put forth for good captions. People always comment on your calming voice, which I have never heard, but I feel it in your words of wisdom and facial expressions. Thank you.

@traceej4685 4 жыл бұрын

As an introvert myself I like how you plan a schedule when dealing with days packed full of events and socializing. It’s very helpful to me and I think others when trying to maybe an effort to get out there when we don’t want too! Thanks!

@kvein834 3 жыл бұрын

Am I that emotionally drained that I started crying because you and Bernadette are just so pretty sitting on a bed with your long hair out....yes, yes I did.

@dominiquecurran1941 3 жыл бұрын

I am so envious of your friendship with Ms Banner. My best friends are both extroverts and so I am often overwhelmed alone. Having another introvert to hide with must be lovely.

@rebeccaude4412 4 жыл бұрын

My goodness, I watched Noelle’s vlogs daily, then I watched Bernadette; Morgan & Marika’s Q&A came next & all the while I kept thinking that I was so similar to Noelle which in personality, is 100% true! However: I have multi autoimmune diseases with Chronic Fatigue, & I felt this big let down due to being in a flare here at home & realizing I could never attend CC b/c I want to do it all, which is how I used to live. My husband & I don’t have children, plus we both studied & worked hard to afford the lifestyle we wanted not only for ourselves, but my niece & nephew who call me “mom”. It is vital to me that they experience the world & things that their parents (mainly my older brother) don’t care if they see or do. So we did what we wanted, when we wanted! Now; my whole life revolves around how much I can accomplish in a day without going so far that I ruin my next day. I explain it as though I’m walking on a tightrope & trying not to fall off where there is no net, only a flare that will end with me stuck in bed for a week or more. I guess I’m just trying to say, your viewpoint on CC, the way you approach it, the idea that I don’t have to do it ALL to gain something spectacular out of it: maybe I would be able to attend? Plus you & Bernadette should make it a much longer vacation, fly to our home in Indiana where we live on water & have a multi-level deck, a large fire pit down on the “beach”, a ski boat & pontoon boat (adrenaline vs. picnic & relaxation 😂), then the flight is less than 4hrs!! Honestly, I very much appreciated your advice, tips & tricks. Even extroverts have anxiety, I have ever since childhood. We just all deal with it in different ways. Thank you for showing another side to large conventions. Illness can take over your life however; I can be miserable at home or I can go do something I love & enjoy which usually makes me feel much much better. You are as wise as you are beautiful Cathy Hay! 🤗💜😘🦋

@flibbertygibbette 4 жыл бұрын

I find it helps to make a BFF at any conference or convention who is similarly introverted, and with whom I can really connect. I need a lot of space but I also find in-depth one on one conversations very restorative after the chaotic energy of the general conference and meeting lots of new people, etc. Can be fun, and always good to meet interesting and talented people, but also exhausting when it's so many people and not much chance to really deeply connect with people.

@MaigaVidal 4 жыл бұрын

This has to be my favorite vlog. I really needed it. Thank you. ♥️

@skabs508 4 жыл бұрын

The way Bernadette looks at you is lovely. She’s so in that headspace of I love this person next to me, this person next to me is lovely and I adore her. ❤️ I think the way you look at her is the same. You are just wonderful people and I am so happy I found your channels.

@leonapage 4 жыл бұрын

You & Bernadette are so adorable❤️ your interactions are like mother and daughter

@MorganDonner 4 жыл бұрын

This was such a beautiful video, thank you so much for making it! So many parts of this are resonating deeply with me right now, I appreciate the advice, and will definitely need to rewatch this before my next CoCo trip!

@bertuccigirl 4 жыл бұрын

This is really lovely. And I don’t think just for introverts. There are a lot of valuable tips here for everyone, going to any kind of highly charged event like this. Thank you for sharing, excellently done, and definitely worth waiting for. I so wish I could just sit and chat with you and Bernadette and hear what you think about where your ‘people’ are going, what you saw in your 30,000 foot view.

@designdoctor247 4 жыл бұрын

I have moments of needing to be alone and chill out. Loved your video! I've never been to costume college however I relate to your strategies for survival as an introvert in a crowd. During a cruise I was concerned that I might have a panic attack or feel catastrophic. I discovered if I went to the opposite places as the large crowds it helped me! When the crowds were at the parties i went to the Spa. Interestingly only a handful of people out of 5,000 are in the spa during meal times :) :) :) like you after each time I did join a crowd I went back to my room to have tea and do yoga.

@mariemakesstuff 4 жыл бұрын

You both raise my favorite introvert tip around 26:00 - go with an introvert buddy! Having someone at an event with whom I'm comfortable, and who understands the introvert life, is so important. I love that you are both one another's introvert buddies.

@kottaraislapsi 2 жыл бұрын

The connection you and Bernadette have is just overly heartwarming and you just absolutely saved my horrible, miserable, depressed day. Thank you.

@DartmouthProductions 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you Cathy for a lovely video. I found this to a very moving video. I have been thinking a lot the last week about how I as an introvert and a person with chronic fatigue and anxiety interact with people generally and I have found this video to be incredibly helpful. Also I love that the Worth gown was lined with TARDIS material.

@canucknancy4257 4 жыл бұрын

That was another wonderful take on CoCo. As a used to be extrovert turned much more introvert after 15 years of slowly adopting many of my wonderful autistic son's quirks, I appreciate all the sharing and tips that you impart. They work not just for events like this, but also just in regular life. It was lovely to see all of the other You Tube ladies (Bernadette, Marika, Noelle, Morgan etc.) in all their grandeur and your scandalous undergarments, Lady Moriarty, and Gentleman Jack costumes were amazing. Thanks again for your advice and wisdom. Take care of you.

@marthab1875 4 жыл бұрын

It's so inspirational to see that even if one is the sort of person who gets worn out by crowds and "doing all the things" like you're expected to at events like these, it's possible to attend and get something out of it and feel like you get your money's worth - because I think that would maybe be my biggest concern. Thank you for showing us it CAN be done!

@Godelieve2005 4 жыл бұрын

Times like these I need that option to👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻 and maybe a 🧡 also. Thank you for a lovely video crammed with great advice. Please never stop. You have so much to share.

@k1tkat-kate 4 жыл бұрын

I didn't know Marika's gown had TARDISes inside it!!!

@dogdonut3 4 жыл бұрын

I'm also an introvert. Your tips here were so appreciated. The thing that comes through this video so strongly is the bond introverts can have. It's so good to be understood and supported for just being yourself. It's such a lovely feeling.

@zuriagaski8912 4 жыл бұрын

You actually answered my most burning questions around attending: how will I ever survive the crowds? And how will I have the courage to leave my hotel room! Thank you!

@CharlieSerena 4 жыл бұрын

PJ's and tea.... heavenly.

@margaretmyres5626 4 жыл бұрын

I've been waiting for your video. I've watched Bernadette's as well as Noelle and Enchanted Rose, Morgan and a few more. You all give a pretty nice overall view of the whole event. I enjoyed seeing snips of the classes offered and everyone's different experiences. Thanks

@bonniecolleenpappin8807 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for making this video for us. As an extrovert married to an extreme introvert you have provided a glimpse of how I can help my husband survive such occasions. And you and Bernadette are so like sisters. (Not that I have a sister for reference.) So refreshing!

@CathyHay 4 жыл бұрын

Oh that's wonderful! I'm all for helping extroverts understand how we tick and what we need!

@januzzell8631 4 жыл бұрын

Love the fun you two have together - such glee in every shared thing, very precious

@TakingTimewithTasha 3 жыл бұрын

you two are just absolute friendship goals

@erincarr9411 4 жыл бұрын

Community can be so important. It gives so much inspiration

@sc0ttishlass 4 жыл бұрын

This vid is pure everything. Thank you for the introvert's guide.

@user-bf1zr2wh6d 4 жыл бұрын

Such a calm and peaceful vlog and lots of sound advice I wish someone gave me years ago! I attended a few events and had a meltdown the very first day every time. But having seen your vlog (and, of course, quite some certain other ones) I now feel inspired to try and go to Costume College one day!

@DanielleStJohn 4 жыл бұрын

"Nope, it's gone" hoo boy that is a whole mood

@daisanders82 4 жыл бұрын

This is such a lovely way to see a different approach to appreciate and be part of such a big event.

@cindyneel328 4 жыл бұрын

I really enjoyed every moment of this video! It was so fun to see you girls together and all the fabulous creations! Thanks for all the lovely chats!

@emiliekatrina 4 жыл бұрын

I started following your work as a wee lass on LiveJournal back in 2006! I remember when you launched Foundations Revealed/Wardrobe Unlocked and, as a teenager with no checking account, I couldn't partake in all of the glory... time changes all things, thankfully! Until just recently, I had taken a hiatus from sewing, and my friend re-introduced me by linking to Bernadette and subsequently to your amazing videos. I'm so grateful you are still around being more amazing than ever and I finally get to participate in Foundations Revealed & Your Wardrobe Unlocked.

@Sarah.Bonnie 4 жыл бұрын

I have been so excited to see this! It has been such a joy to get to all the perspectives of costume collage🥰

@Makam2893 4 жыл бұрын

It's nice to see my favorite 2 KZfaqrs together.

@munka214 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you Cathy for this video and seeing how an introvert can conquer large gatherings. Thank you for all the advice and reminding me to calm down, take it easy, and relax. :)