"The ball is in their court" - This is exactly what I told her when she reached out after 'no contact'. She wants me back but wants me to chase her again. I took away my presence and disappeared, and she started asking friends about me. I won't waste my time on indecisive person. Thanks a lot for this video.

Mine came back!! He literally said “I learned your place in my life”, which is something Coach Lee said in one of the videos. He said he learned he can’t and doesn’t want to live without me. I focused on building attraction, not addressing any of the issues (bcs I wasn’t even sure I wanted him back) and noticed him making changes in his behavior that basically solves alllllll the problems we had that caused arguments. Thanks so much Coach Lee!

He nailed it. Society pushing this agenda on people that relationships hold them back is disturbing. It goes against our nature as human beings to be single.

I followed Coach Lee's videos and did no contact for a few months. Then we ended up at the same social event and exchanged a few words. I was cordial and didn't react to his flirtation. After that, we kept in touch every few weeks for a 3-4 more months. After 7 months apart, we've gotten together twice and it's been like there was no break. Except I'm not chasing. I'm not anxious. I'm not asking. I'm back to being the person he was first attracted to (confident, sassy, intriguing and engaged yet not attached) because during the break I worked on myself. I'm creating an open, calm, happy space-- he can step in if he wants to, but it's his choice. He knows the door is open, but ... I may not be home forever.

Hi Coach Lee. My ex and i havent spoken in 7.5 months. I dont think itll happen. While i still love and miss him i wont reach out to him. He left me and if he wanted to he would have contacted me. Id rather be in pain missing him than reach out and be rejected and seem like im begging. I thank you for helping me realize this and giving me this support in not contacting him no matter how long it is. Im glad you confirmed im doing what is right

Great video - "Wanting vs Doing something about it" aspect needs to be more well known

I miss coach Lee ❤thank you always giving us to the right path and how to calmly ❤

Great vid Coach Lee, very insightful and relevant especially when dating someone in their early mid 20’s.

On point! You just talked about her Coach! 😅 Man it really hurts like hell that she bailed out, but I will keep standing on my ground. If she comes back, good. If not, her loss.

Just wanted to say to Coach Lee, you are the best. Most thorough, most thoughtful, most relatable, practical advice I've come across. Thank you so much for giving us the valuable direction and foresight many of us need in our trying, difficult times. Cheers

6 months in and nothing yet. I really hope she comes back i feel so rough and really cant imagine getting over this if she doesn't

Coach Lee's videos have helped me a lot through my breakup. I had the urge to break No contact multiple times but i held it. He first contacted me after two weeks of NC. He would contact me every two weeks for 2 and half months. Finally, when i returned to the same city he came to meet me and talk about giving our relationship another chance. 2 months later, we're back to the same situation. Going through 2nd round of NC. I'm beginning to wonder if it's even healthy? Do i need constant drama in my life? I've decided to wait till this month and if he hasn't reached out bu then, I'll ask for one last talk. Even though I want to try and make it work, I'm not sacred of losing him anymore. I am okay either way.

Coach Lee you are so write, your videos helps me confirm my feelings!!! Thank you.

Ik they are under the influence. I told him I was not seeking a relationship cuz I’m still healing from us. His response ,”me to. “ ran into him at a mutual friends after 28 days no contact. I’m confused he in rebound using doesn’t speak to me. Doing what you say coach lee, i feel he may never remember the good days we had lots. I got butterflies knowing I was going to see him until 2017 when we moved home. We both lost attraction but I truly love this man w all my being. I purchased the emergency kit , I listen to all of them over and over. Thank you for your help.

I am still a notif and liker squad, Coach Lee. It’s been awhile. I miss you and all your knowledge. Life has been tough lately, and kinda busy with work. But I don’t forget you. Watching here all the way from PH PHILIPPINES 🇵🇭

Hey everyone! It's been a while since i commented on coach lee's videos To enlighthen others, me and my ex (who is now just my classmate and no not my friend) have been pretty much doing an open-ended conversations for the past 2-3 months but we still help each other out through academics. Meaning, we're slowly rebuilding our new dynamics since me and my ex have moved passed our 2 year relationship history. And yes before this happened, we both had a clean and serious conversation. Because during our breakup. It ended badly, like really bad. Which is why we're taking things slowly from now on since we both have different goals and boundaries. And it's my responsibility to respect and understand that. Time will tell when your ex will eventually come back. As long as you both agreed your perspectives and boundaries. Then chances are your dynamics will be healthy and mature. Just stay no contact and focus on yourself guys, stay strong kings! You got this!

Let's be honest. The hope and small chance of them coming back keeps us going for a while. We go into no contact and we build up this fantasy in our mind about them retuning and things will be great again. But in most cases she never does come back. We need to keep things real. Just use no contact to work on yourself, not wait for something that is very unlikely to happen.

Hi Coach Lee, 1stly Thanks a lot, whenever I felt pressurized all of your videos helped me stay calm. 1 req, kindly make videos on relationship issues and how to deal with them, when there's still relationship. Like how to deal with attraction fall, Trust issues and so on...

Hey coach i have not seen video yet but i just want to thank you before even starting this video...i have watched mostly all your no contact video on loop, specially encouragement during no contact ❤ I'm so grateful to you for helping me to stay in no contact. And i have made it to exactly 2 months now❤ thank you so much ❤coach lee

I'm not even five minutes in and I'm saying, "Preach Coach Lee, preach!"

Amazing video again bro. Thank you. Answered alot of questions that i had recently been thinking about....almost like a sign from the universe. Would you be able to do a video on the benefits of them having been with someone else. Cause i know thats something alot of people struggle with?

Great take. Hey btw, have you done an episode about ex’s with mental health issues and tend to get mad over what typical misunderstandings that a person without mental health issues would not be very mad nor take to the heart. Also once mad they leave for 2 or more weeks, block their ex or at least just unfriend them but still stalk your page and can tell you more about your page than you know of 😅 and then later they argue their way back in by accusing the other person of seemingly seeing someone or being happy without them or just any other reason to talk even if they return peacefully. And then as soon as they get mad again they leave and wants you to chase. About a month ago I asked my ex (she’s 26 I’m 40. First time dating this young) to be a job reference and she said “sure, but remember I am trying to move on…” this was after she got mad and went off on me that morning after having a great two days all because she went into her mode of still being upset that I like some girl pictures on social media the she deemed sexy 5 months ago and kept asking me “How am I suppose to trust you!!” and this was while I’m driving on my way to work and I called her to tell her the tech event I was working is gonna be all day but so I may not be able to talk much. We started to argue because this is an ongoing thing and I told her I must’ve damaged her and she should be with someone who she can start clean with and be happy. She mumbled in a one word way as if she knew she was wrong and later she apologized. We were back cool and talked on my lunch and later the event had a big hip hop concert and I’ve never seen those legendary artist in person. I posted it on social media with my co-worker who’s a woman and a guy with met and I couldn’t hear my phone. When I later looked at it she was going off again “I don’t even know why I’m texting you and blah blah blah. I chose not to respond. Later she called me and I answered and she was saying she’s happy for me but goodbye. I asked why and she said I obviously don’t want her in my life and that she also said she needed me because she was feeling down. I told her I never said that and that she’s doing that her self. She just would not believe me. So I got tired of chasing and said ok then and we got off the phone. Two weeks later I texted her happy birthday and I hope she enjoys it and she said Thank You but didn’t Like or Love my text. Later that night my dad text her the same thing and she said thank you but she Liked his comment. So obviously she’s mad at me. This is all over me liking pictures in the past and I yelled “Well what you you want me to do???” In five different occasions after saying I’m sorry for 45 minutes to an hour and she just keeps going on. She gets “triggered (new meaning trendy word)” when anyone yells because of her past with certain people. I didn’t mean to do it and I stopped months ago but she still holds me to it and keeps saying I expect her to just get over it when I never said that. I told her we have to grow from it and it won’t be overnight. So my ultimate question is when she said “just fyi, I am trying to move on” does that mean she already started seeing someone? Because this is the same girl who always accused me of it and even without me asking if she is she would make it a point to say she don’t want anyone nor a relationship and if she does she wants it with me but want to work on herself. At the same time she talks to me like we’re together until she gets made again. Sorry for the long comment haha. I just need to know the deal. Thank you for listening.

My ex is a fearful avoidant. The relationship was her stress. Then it was her peace. Then her stress. Back and forth, hot and cold. She broke up with me and told me she needed to take a step back from talking to me. Here goes NC round three 😢

You are a very Intelligent person A Real Man

I would love a video about the difference between breadcrumbing and contact you should reply on

Lol, His video describes my current ex perfectly on every level!! Everything that was said is the way she is 100%

I swear to God in Heaven. If you want your ex back or even a shot back with your ex, follow everything these two men tell you. I will tell you the short version of my story. My ex fiancé left after 1 1/2 of being engaged. I was treating her badly and just like most guys, I had no idea is treating her so disrespectful. She left I went crazy I did everything I shouldn’t have done. Several weeks later I was told by one of her friends to watch Coach Lee and follow no contact. What she didn’t tell me is if she reached out to me to respond. So she contacted me several times and got no response. After ordering coach lee’s videos and watching them day, night and while I was sleeping. I followed everything I was taught. I’m not sure if we will get married and be together forever but I at least have another shot that I owe to coach lee and his wonderful team.

Thank you for the explicit information

I have been told to my family about job I will not say about marriage. If he can do this ,my family is agree .

Neede to see your video Thank you so much You put important Things into proper Perspective ❤❤❤

Coach Lee came in my life in 2020 after a breakup, he dumped me. Although hurtful, I accepted it gracefully. I desire reconciliation and can accept if it doesn't happen. Been so busy focused on myself.

This is my second time going through no contact. Only this time we moved in together. He won’t be home for a month and half because of work. If I still want to work things out one day, do I leave some things or take everything with me (it’s almost all mine minus the big stuff I’d split). I am at loss and I truly think it didn’t work out the first time we got back because it was too soon. Even if he does want to work on things, I’m thinking it could be best I still don’t stay there for a few months and be on my own. Seeking advice and hoping maybe others have seen NC work twice in a relationship.

He came back on day 40 but i didnt properly prepare for it by standing by my standards and life goals so i became upset and pushed him away after meeting because i wasnt getting my needs met. I am better prepared next time to not get so close until he gives me what i need first.

Coach Lee, is is probably a stretch, but would you ever make a video addressing the wrongs of the manosphere?

Leaving together for 22 years he’s in a rebound relationship it crushed me we were supposed be working on ourselves, but we were separated him and her are doing drugs. I think you and your contact for 30 days I guess I should just let it run its course and keep keep on do you think you’ll ever snap out of it and come back?

It was his first relationship and he gave a ton of reason for breaking up but none of them made sense. 3,5 years from one to another day gone. We were texting like “miss you♥️♥️♥️” to “I am concerned about our future…”. We had a strong bond but he seems to be depressive and late diagnosed with adhd

I wish I could read her mind. Shes hovering me ever since we broke up, now copying my healthy lifestyle, being anxious, happy seeing me at work, but then pulls away. How can one channel so many positive signs, but pull away?

She left me on our anniversary, we had an argument a week before and she just started talking to me less and less. Ghosted me after refusing to see me on such a special day then 2 weeks later i asked whats happening why am i being ghosted etc and I got dumped, she removed me as a friend on everything im still devastated a month later.Since she didnt want to see me on our anniversary I sent her the gift and love note and she just wont respond to anything. Im still in pieces. Shes gone for Good isn't she ? Day 2 on true no contact, i dont even know at what date she decided to abandon me but its been a month since we saw each other and i still cry daily.

Visited my ex yesterday to return and get back some stuff (she ended things). Offered to leave it at the door but she wasn't home at the time and mentioned that she didn't mind coming to mine or vice versa. Said I don't mind going to yours to drop it off and to see her in the process. Go over and end up getting invited in. Talked for around an hour but more so as a catching up process and even offered to leave her to her homework which she insisted was okay and that she doesn't need to do it right now. Towards the end she ended up walking me out and trying to give a gift that I never got from our 1 year anniversary. I declined saying that "its okay, give it someone else" which bothered her. Went our separate ways to which I later called saying how I wasn't trying to be disrespectful but it didn't feel right to accept a gift after a breakup to which she was understanding of. She said that she treated our "hang out" as more of a catching up and that it has been hard not to have the routine of having me in her life anymore. Also mentioned that she has certain urges or normalities she couldn't act on like being touchy, intimate, etc because of the breakup. Re affirmed my stance on how I don't have interest in friendship and that the only way I see her is through a relationship aspect or something sexual. Thoughts on this approach? Thanks!

me and my ex broke up almost a year ago (december 2nd) he reached out a few times but i thought he only wanted to be friends so we only talked for a second. in august he reached out again but i finally stopped holding a grudge and decided i am fine with talking to him..secretly i wanted to get back together. he asked if we could be friends and i immediately panicked. i overthought it and i told him i cant "just be friends." then he said that he wants to be more than friends at some point. i said i was open to it and we were in a talking stage until we both realized that i cant give him what he needs (physical touch) he lives 40 mins away but i cant see him because of my family. i can give him what he needs in 1 year and 6 months. im afraid he wont wait for me but he has said before that he will.. im just not sure if he'll keep his promise. i know deep down this man is worth it but i am terrified he'll find another girl.

I broke no contact after 2 and a half months,got tired of waiting and thinking about them.And I told them I waited for them too, doesn't matter anymore.I can't wait for someone longer than that

I’m still listening, but why does it seem like people think life is career and relationships, or careers or relationships. Some people aim for self actualization through their art, community service, or anything else. It’s strange to me. I’ve never thought relationship OR work and I’m considered “successful.” Sometimes you need to break up with a person just because their personality/values suck or don’t align

Man I’m going through a lot. My ex gf left at the end of July. She just fell off the map. We moved to UTAH together and she left went back to her moms. We do share a child and it’s pretty much been silent because I’m doing no contact. I think she’s moved on already:/

It was her family that caused the stress. So, there was a lot of stress, but nothing that we brought up. I stayed for almost two years, we did therapy for a year, but nothing changed, she kept risking our relationship to please her family, so I left. Any chance she could realize that the love & care I gave her was worth the effort and try to come back? Last time we talked I told her I'm done fixing things and the ball was in her corner. It's been almost 7 months since we talked last. I left, but she caused it by not prioritizing our relationship. Do you think she'll have a wake up call?

My wife walked out 3 months ago and I blocked her on social media because I didn’t want to see reminders. She hasn’t reached out and I feel like I’m in no man’s land in NC.

the thing is that nowadays one can be so busy with self improvement (like myself), that hanging around with someone instead of focusing on your goals and solitude will feel like someone is holding you back. best thing is not to fall in love and just have a few hookups here and there. you won’t have to deal with the headache, meet their families or friends (because you wouldn’t want them around if it wasn’t for your ex anyway), and just focus on earning more money and staying fit.

Thank you for you work!❤

Awesome video

My ex of seven months broke no contract to say happy birthday. I asked him why he texted. He says he wants to be civil. He says it was an extremely difficult decision, and he's still broken hearted and grieving the loss. But is making no effort to get back. What should I do?? We were together eight wonderful years.

Mine always comes back as well, but she acts like she’s the victim and clearly she always tells me to go to hell

Coach Lee, do you have a video or any opinions on when an ex left 8 months ago and hasn't reached out since? I'm ironically still on her apartment lease and get notified but i haven't heard a word from her since she left while i've been working on myself in therapy and just growing as a person. Thank you!!!

Please please Coach Lee - base this on a spouse. My husband won’t come home after 14 months separated. Though he says it’s because of conflict, I believe it’s more because of perceived freedom, peace and another person involved as needed. Even though he loved me so much and may have lost belief in our relationship I still think it’s because this other person is easy and a distraction and there is no baggage there. I have tried everything including your free marriage course. We have two kids who want their dad back at home and not go from place to place 😢. It’s getting scary. I don’t want a divorce. Thank you

Hey coach the first scenario that you discussed.... My ex left me for his career on his father's influence ...will no contact work in this case.... I'm in no contact since 1 month and i got to know from his cousin that he was asking whether i was asking about him or not...and 4 weeks ago when i blocked him from my parents no. His cousin told me he was very upset about it... And 5 days back i saw him changing his dp ...he has uploaded a sad pic on him on his whatsapp dp... He has not blocked me anywhere... So is NO CONTACT working in my case??

Hey coach What do you think about replying to a breakup message with an emotionally attractive text a few days into no contact saying you respect their decision etc

hi, do you have a video on some tricky situations like your ex asking if you miss them? I don't want to hurt her but also don't want her to know I'm suffering

Coach ,I posted some pictures me out in the city, last time she saw me I was over weight, I lost 30lbs. I was dressed nice and all that on the pics. A day later after I posted, she deactivated her Instagram. Am I reading into things??? Does it mean anything????

I have shot relationships with my ex,one month of super love,sharing ,going out,we were working together in same job,so just now am in two weeks no contact, she is 18 years,so she still teenager,she just text me that she does not want to continue, out of nowhere, was left surprised, then first week after break up,she was viewing my Instagram stories a lot because now i go to gym etc,then she unfollowed me but am still following her,she didn't removed me,please do i have any chance or just to keep no contact? Thanks

He says he broke up with me because his mother has had mental health issues for years, she gets overly emotional and then becomes verbally abusive toward his dad, makes up lies, etc., and I believe she is also showing signs of dementia, she is in and out of hospital and they adjust her medications. He is afraid I will become like his mother and he does not want to go through the struggles, stress and hurts he sees his father going through. A few times in the past I have become triggered and gotten emotional when we are talking about our relationship (maybe 4 times in 3 years) and yes, I cry when I am emotional, but I don't raise my voice, or act out. He hates when I cry because his mother cries all the time. He is very emotional avoidant. He used to say I was his peace, now he says he just wants peace. Post break up I realized I have an anxious attachment style and am in therapy working on my past trauma attachments and learning new responses etc. The break up wasn't angry, no hard feelings and when he broke it off I was calm and didn't even cry. My issues with insecurity & low self-esteem/anxious attachment is NOT the same as his mother's mental health issues but I don't believe he understands that. He admits life is better with me but that he just doesn't want to be in a relationship, any relationship. He wants to still be friends and go camping together, on trips and adventures etc. (I said I don't think I can be just friends). I have been in NC for 7 weeks, every so often he sends me a text like gas discount coupon, an article about a mutual interest, I respond with a polite "thank you" nothing more. As you advised, I am NOT giving him the custom Christmas gifts of photo book from our trip and custom belt. A friend told me he still has all our photos up around his house. We were planning to get married and both have lots of our belonging at each others house. My big worry is do you think he can ever get his mind past the fear that I will become like his mother mentally unstable? Otherwise I have serious doubts he will considering getting back together even though he wants to and may miss being together. Any suggestions @CoachLee

Hey coach lee , I’ve Come here after a long time almost a month now , I have a question please answer because I’m confused .. I broke no contact last month after 4 months of no contact with my ex but was left on read and I think I did a mistake by breaking it ,I lost hope and tried to move on and started no contact once again now it’s been a month again of no contact but my question is :- Should I keep hope that she might return one day or just lose all the hope ? I still can’t get over her and if I tell u the truth if she’ll come back I’ll accept her :( I still love her and idk what to do … should I continue with the no contact or try to contact once more or should I lose all the hope ? Please tell me how can I get her back ? (It was our first relationship and it was a 7 year relationship but she fell out of love )

My ex has id say "broken up" with me 3 times and kinda 4th. After my third time i kinda thought that this time is kinda finalized, i stayed in NC for about 2 weeks, then she reached out and contacted me. We talked and everything, long story short she wanted to meet me. Then she said that she wanted to work on us and take things slowly, and we did and everything was going pretty swimmingly i must say. All of a sudden i get a call about 2 weeks later saying that she dosent know what she wants (again). Because the thing is that she has been like this before and always seems somewhat confused on what she wants. And the pattern ive noticed with her, is that every time somethings happening in her life, she always seems to react by "breaking up" any chance that she comes back Coach Lee? Because this has happened before, and the thing is that i dont know if i believe her. Any chance she comes back?

Thank you for knowledge and wisdom brother.

Split after 9 yrs,have kids and still live in the same house..im giving her 10 days now,shes reached out a few times..i took it the breakup bad,said hurtful things..got drunk..smothered her for like a month..shes being sweet but has said a month ago shes done w me but maybe in the future..any advice coach lee?

Man this is exactly what I’m going through

My ex said to me that the reason for breaking up was #1 in this video. I didn’t believe him then

Hey i broke up with my bby dad going into 3 weeks now and he barely calls to check up on our bby but when he does he also ask me if am good. I also throw out his clothes and now i regret it because i am a family person. We lived together until the break up. Coach plz help me get back together with my family but i think his mom doesnt like me and is telling him things that make him dont want to come around me again

Coach lee, my ex reached out asking how im doing.... can u please show me a video with a response to that???

No contact works on men but not women. It's been 3 months since my ex girlfriend ghosted me. Why doesn't he do a new video on no contact vs ghosting?

If the reason for breaking up was #1 , is there any hopes for them to realize and reach out after no contact?

Does no contact work if I told her to move on? She did end the relationship but than reached out and still wanted to “keep me around”. We still hung out at times and talked on the phone a lot. We were still intimate at times but I just got tired of talking on the phone and not being in a committed relationship. One night I just told her that I wanted to move on and she should too. I told her I wasn’t happy and I wasn’t making her happy. I have not heard from her since and it’s been almost a month. I told her that because I was getting fed up with the hot and cold and basically being friend zoned but I still love her and miss her. Do you think she might reach out even though I told her to move on?

Does no contact work in Situationship? I have feelings for the girl but the girl is saying she doesn't, but sometimes she act like I am so close to her and then other time I'm just a normal friend.

Hi Coach Lee, I just come across to your channel. I have a question to ask you. My boyfriend we break up for two years. I let him go what he ask for. Two years later he came back . We get back again. I been help him and support him with financial and support babysit his kids. He said that he was serious and want to built have a family with me.. since I get back with him he bring up his kids and stress. He always carries his phone with him. Every time I ask to talk he always said it's not a good time. I haven't talk to him for three days now. Its I do the right things or not. I still have his house key. ?

coach please help; what if they broke no contact a few times then agreed to meet but led to a drawn out friendly (often flirty on his side) conversation for a month) whilst watching stories then after discussing meeting a few times flaked though still texting back and forth in a friendly way. Then suddenly stops watching stories and doesnt reply to messages anymore

Thanks man.

Honestly, it's gut wrenching at the moment as only been spit for 6 weeks and she cancelled the wedding But, after seeing she has all the jewellery For Sale that i bought her and the Wedding dress, over $6000 worth and only asking $1100 I DON'T WANT HER BACK

My ex after 28days did send me a text via messenger but I had notifications turned off so I didn't noticed. When I noticed there was msg from her it was already deleted. That's a bait to break no contact right? That was first reach out from her. I ignored it coś that looks to me like a breadcrumb and bait to break no contact. We broken up after serious argument. What do you all think?

27M 37F Ex boyfriend dumper wants a second closure talk in a few days but the first talk ended on good terms. He asked me to think of more things and so will he. I’m confused, any advice?

Should you talk it out or should you forget the things that he does that are bothering you in order to focus on building attraction?

I wish Coach Lee was my "ex" lol, but I think if that were the case, he wouldn't have been my ex in the first place haha. He'd have been more responsible with my feelings and more MATURED! Less prideful and arrogant!

Sadly my ex of 10 weeks was dismissive avoidant so he will never come back. He ended me out the blue with no explanation or reason.

My Girl Left me for career and is since 2,5 years in another country. We had a bad breakup. I tried to speak to her, but no chance. She dont want any contact, and had a difficult time. But. She is often looking my Stories from her second account… Never interacts but it seems she wants to see me she is looking….Go figure

I have problem so i found today that my ex is starting to date but not in relationship yet but i texted them about dating did i lost or there is still hope?

Coach lee Great work you are doing. Need a help here. Two days after breakup with my ex she sent me three instagram reels which is quite vague in meaning but I didn’t respond to it, because the reels didn’t make sense to me. I don’t know whether that was me ignoring my ex, should I respond to it

During 1 month of no contact, my ex suddenly unfriend me on facebook, and deleted me on instagram. I feel weird as why do they need to do that as i don't even post at facebook nor contact them at all. Does that mean there's no hope in getting back together, as her actions look like she want to move on 😢

I have suffering from breakup since 4 months😢😢😢😢and i want him back....i do no contact bt i failed he didnt come back 😢😢😢😢i love him soo much bt i think i m gone from his heart what should i doooo😢😢😢😢

Coach help my ex didn't told me her new location after we decided to gave space with each other. I thought she will fix our problem as she says. I didn't feel any improvement and i feel less value😢. BTW we broke up because she cheated on me but still gave her a chance as she said she wants another chance. I'm confused now😢

Dear Coach, my ex broke up with me and reached out after 3 days, although I told her I did not want us to stay in contact because it would be healthier. She sent me some irrelevant info, about the flat she lives in. She was texting for three days with some irrelevant stuff and asking about the event we were going to take part in the following week. Firstly I answered politely but at the end a bit harshly. She stopped and after six days we met in person during the event which took 3 days, I talked to her casually and politely, I was making some jokes. Then she asked me by text if I am going to a pub with our group of friends (we both are in the same folk enseble). The next day we went, there were some girls, she seemed a bit jealous when I talked to her and said they were cute. She writes or sends me something almost everyday, not much but still. She said she will probably take part in singing workshops I am signed to. I do not reach out first but I answer politely when she writes. What can I do? She's got a pattern to make her exes friends. I don't want that to happen. Should I tell her to stop and go full no contact?

Will being afraid of "embarrassment" by being a couple again stop the dumper from coming back? Like if my ex came back but is embarrassed to face my parents because they know he broke my heart? I don’t know if I’m making sense, but I want to know if that also affects dumpers from coming back.

I'm confused...LOL...He broke up with me....came back in 6 months....(10 yr relatonship) and I THINK now I broke up with him because I told him not to call me & I would not send anymore crazy texts or phone calls, I said both of us....no happy holiday bullshit...Period...he told me to F*CK OFF and we hung up....I think he said that because he was so frustrated he didn't know what to say.

Hi Coach, what if as the woman I broke up with him because he broke promises, let me down and did some very negligent things whilst we were still together? Its absolutely not because I stopped loving him or simply just wanted to go out there and explore my "options". Leaving the relationship was very difficult and not a decision I took lightly. Now we are back in contact 5 months later and he told me he misses me and still loves me... Are you still saying my expectations that he should be the one to try to make things right is misplaced? The dumper is not always the guilty one, sometimes they were left with no other choice at the time and are experiencing profound grief.

Coach lee i maintained no contract for 14days today she messaged me saying `how are you able to move on so easily?‘ and suddenly she became angry and cursed me I was polite though out the conversation, she even said that she will find a better man and will let me know what should I do now ? Help me It’s been 1 and a half month of break up

My ex and i were working to get back together but he he suddenly became distant and ghosted me....... what does it mean

Hey coach Lee, I’m here again to ask you, my ex was talking with someone at the end of our relationship and is now in a relationship with that person less than a month after the breakup. Is that a rebound? Also this person is half way across the country from her and doesn’t live here, and they’ve never met in real life. What are the chances it won’t work out? She’s online most of the time so they’d be talking significantly. Hope to hear from you. -cisco

Hello, coach Lee The reason my ex boyfriend of 6 months not reaching out to me. He, not dating anyone, he thinks he need no one and has me blocked for 2 months. What the chance of him changing his mind?, we aren’t in contact, I don’t stalk him or bombard him I don’t go where he go.

Exactly

It’s been almost 4 years since my ex and I broke up. I don’t even think about her anymore. She still has my spare keys too and she never got back into contact with me to bring them to me. I’ve been in no contact with her like heavy. She broke up with me, not the other way around. My life has changed so much, I’ve changed so much…honestly she and I would be super incompatible right now. I hope she’s good but my life is changing for the better. I’ve endured alot of pain that life has thrown my way but now that pain is slowly turning into blessings. I thank my ex for the man that I am today.

My ex has been saying to me she loves me , trusts me and knows I’m loyal but went back to her ex and wants to remain friends , literally no idea what think because she keeps telling me she still loves me

a couple of months after my ex broke up with me. i began to get no caller ID phone calls. i know it was her. it’s been a few months now and i haven’t heard anything. but she did try to log into my icloud recently. what does all of this mean? 😭

She text me back after 2 weeks but blame me for it by sending a song which blames everything on me. I didn't reply, i replied the next day casually and polite, She wish me again on Christmas and new year Im giving up now

After 3 months of using the No Contact rule, my ex-girlfriend, who dumped me, requested to follow me on my Instagram account. I followed everything that Coach Lee said, and IT REALLY WORKS! Right now, I am undecided about whether I should accept her back into my life or not. I think I need to take things slowly and not jump to conclusions. At the moment, I don't know what to do, but I want her back in my life, although I believe it might not be the right time. What should I do? Thank you for always being there, Coach Lee.

I've been doing no contact for 2 months (except for 1-1 conversation here and there about our shared dog). There were no issues (she just lost feelings) and we were together for 5 years. She keeps telling people that although she misses me sometimes, she is very sure about the breakup. Should I give up?