I once received wise advice from an older guy, "Don't choose purely off of looks. Looks age. But choose a gal based off of her voice. You'll have to wake up to that the rest of your life."

This is entertaining and all... but there's often a HUGE difference between what people say stands out (what they are attracted to) and what they are ACTUALLY attracted to.

I love how the one girl always just pops up with the "idc"😂😂😂😂

Be careful of the girls that just say "I don't care" when it comes to preference because there is always a threshold to what they would prefer having.

I'd like to see men 's responses to similar questions about women

Courtney: "..not necessarily what they were born with or things they can't change, but what they do with it." Blonde woman: "Absolutely!" Same woman in the other video: if he's a 10 but he's short, he becomes a 1. Irony meter just broke

watching these women speak just gives me another thought about how I understand that there are many women that are clueless to men that could honestly love them.

You dont ask a fish how to catch a fish. You ask a fisherman how to catch a fish.

0:30 Arms 2:15 Abs 3:35 Feet 5:00 Shoulders 5:50 Legs 7:06 Voice 9:22 Jawline 10:25 Smile 12:44 Hair 15:20 Butt 16:15 Outfit 18:42 Hands 20:22 Eyes 21:47 Scent 25:42 Posture 28:00 First Thing they Notice

I think having multiple opinions is nice to hear. I like how you ask “clarifiers”: the “why?” and personal preference on overall “initial impression”. Context is just as important. I appreciate this video & your content, Courtney.

Could you do a video like this with different age group girls like 35, 45 and then a grp of 55? I think it might be interesting to see the responses and how they have changed and what have stayed the same as ppl mature.

27:32 "It's so easy to have good posture" while she's slouching, lmfao.

It's been tough out here having alopecia universalis where all of the hair on my entire body suddenly fell out including eyebrows and eyelashes at age 29. Huge hit to the confidence and self esteem but it inspired me to really focus on my fitness and get into the best shape of my life since that is one thing I still have control over. Gotta do the best with what you've got! I sure do miss my beard though lol

message to all my male compatriots: as women are super demanding be also demanding you have the right why we should accept everything and have no demands take quality and stop looking for quantity

First rule about getting women is not listening to women advice

they demand everything but give nothing.

As a man who is EXTREMELY insecure about his body, I honestly respect a lot of these answers about muscles and stuff. Especially the women who are into fitness. I 100% believe you deserve to be picky about standards IF YOU ARE WILLING to meet those same standards yourself. So yeah, as long as a woman herself is heavily into fitness, she can be picky about fitness so long as she isn’t rude or demeaning to guys who don’t meet those standards Same thing, a man who’s into fitness is 100% allowed to want a woman who is as well

Having preferences is good and all, but even when I'm dating a woman who finds me attractive and I'm sitting there listening to their life story and they put little to no effort in getting to know me is a dealbreaker to say the least. It's common sense to want someone who doesn't just appreciate you for how you look and want to get to know you for you, but hey, I'm human too and that's what I also want and rarely if ever getting. Girls, just ask a guy about his passions/hobbies, and listen for once.

The "I don't care girl" interview defo saved production money

Nice interview, I think people are saying “oh they’re so shallow”, but they seem like great standards. Having Good hygiene, an inviting look with a style that suits you as an individual and being disciplined and caring about your physical health are pretty great things to look for in a partner, male or female. 😊 enjoyed the insight.

1. Face 2. Height 3. Body 4. Dominant personality 5. Status/Money

The voice part was interesting. I’ve felt this way about women too. It conveys a lot of energy. The blonde woman’s voice is really mesmerizing. You can tell she is confident and sure of herself. Men can convey masculine energy with theirs.

When it comes to the verbal expression (amidst the rest of positive features) Anytime my ear grsps Stella's voice, it immediatelly signals "is the woman available?" Haha. Indeed excessively soothing and romantic vocals.

I found these interviews of what women notice and like about a guy truthful, and also useful for men to work on their self image!

On the voice thing, my sister had a David Beckham poster on her wall when she was in high school (we’re old) and after she heard him on tv she said his voice ruined it and she took down the poster lol

As a guy, some ideals I've put on myself over the years: 1. Your language reflects your character. Lose the potty mouth. 2. Treat your body with respect. Exercise and eat well. 3. Control your appetites. Don't play video games until three in the morning. Be responsible with your time. Don't spend recklessly---save, etc. 4. Learn as many utilitarian skills as you can. How to change your oil, leaky faucet, light fixtures, tires, etc. 5. Learn a demographically relevant 2nd language. In the US? Learn Spanish, for example. 6. Wake up at the same time every day. 7. Dress appropriately, appropriately well. 8. Probably learn to dance.

Appreciate these girls being honest. Pretty exhausting seeing women pretend to not have standards, and demanding men do the same, only to find that we all have standards, and that's okay. The gym one is huge. It's not shallow to want a healthy partner. Great content.

Going from a 5 to 10 with just straight teeth is the craziest take I ever heard

Fellas remember this, regarding the women whom things like "abs" or a certain physical appearance is a requirement, the moment she perceives another person to better fit that description she will not hesitate to trade you in, I'm not saying be a fat, lazy, dirty p.o.s you want to take care of yourself of course but just be weary of the women whom a certain physical appearance is a "requirement"

“I don’t care” girl is lying 😂Edit* My first 100 Likes, I feel special lul

Confidence....transparency ....... At 65 I'm past my prime.... but all my high school & college friends said I was a good looking guy...I didn't think one way or the other. My current wife of 36 yrs said I was charming and could make anyone laugh. I dated a lot in my mid 20's...not that I'm proud of getting with at least a dozen women....but it did. Looking back, all a guy has to do is clean up his looks, make them laugh and let her make the first move.

Intriguing. I really appreciate and love your podcasts. Your subjects and subject matter are amazing. Please keep it up.

Most of the time when I fancy a girl, they tend not to fit into what I would automatically think i'd like. I think femininity and how a girl carries herself is the no 1 thing, from a guys perspective, if we're talking serious relationship. If we're talking "hook up" then it's different. I think people's likes and dislikes change depending on the ultimate goal...

This was actually refreshing to see just how different girls perspectives are and how not all stereotypes are the same. But overall stella an ericabwere definitely my favorite of them all just how honest she was about it and they didn't seem to care about their guys being a 10 all around.

I'm so proud of all of you guys who finally started understanding the REALITY! It's absolutely devastating but kudos to all of you who get it! 👏

I love Stella. She's has that "Here's the facts", but chill air about here. She's there to give her opinion for people looking for thoughts and she delivers. Not that the other's don't necessarily, but her attitude is "Efficient" :D

Courtney, I love your KZfaq channel and you have great videos. You’re like the only KZfaqr who has testimonies, like from real women. It helps break down perspectives and understanding what girls want and stuff. Thank you.

Girls: /have a million standards/ Guys: We don't like single moms. Girls: But why.

I totally enjoyed this roundabout deep dive into what your select panel of experts had to say about the dozen or so male aspects, and traits you questioned them on. I wished however, that they had more accurate, detailed information about their favorite fragrances for men. Such as actual brand names, and the fragrance's designer. For example: Hugo Boss Black, Eternity Red, Nautica Blue Sails, Kanøn K.O. CK Black.

This was a good format for this info great video!

Loved Erica on this one! I wasn't expecting she said "I don't care" so much 😅 My answer is identical to her : I notice face first on women. Also I combine my answer with Stella's one : Each person is unique, and has to find his own style to shine (type of clothes, colors combination, accessories | all of this associated to the body, face and hair). Hope we would have more videos like this (with maybe more unusual thematics discussed) ✨

It's always good to hear the perspective of a group of women due to differing opinions. I'd like to see more of this.

You are very warm and kind. Big fan of you and Teddy. I’ve been on Teddy’s channel for a while now. Thank you..Cheers

Random clip found by case trying to fall asleep. The blonde girl - apart from her unquestionable beauty - is astonishing. Love her attitude, as a man, I find myself completely agree with her answers. So much that I soon started skipping all the other replies, just to hear her point of view on the next topic. One of a kind, great girl.

I find these interviews with your friends really interesting. It is refreshing to hear the honesty without any hype, as well as the range of answers and where responses tend to be similar and different. Great to hear the different perspectives.

And they say men are shallow…. 😂 😂 😂

Blonde girl with the reference on Jcole’s crooked smile had me happy for a minute. Love her 😊

Hey Courtney Thanks for your videoes - really appreciate your work :-) Quick request: A video like this one, but with women that are not so young, but more into their 30s-40s. That would be amazing - for us guys, that do not really go for the young, not super experienced girls 😊

Lexi comes across as so genuine and unfiltered, which makes her incredibly attractive. :)

Here's the real list of what women notice: 1) Biceps 2) Tattoos 3) Tracking anklet 4) Crimal record 5) Weapons hidden on their body 6) Meth face 7) Jewelry that's not theirs 8) Stump leg 9) Beef smell 10) Leaving backpacks near a US embassy

​someone mentioned to " compare how their mom/dad is to know if you'll like them when they're older". I'm glad you mention an older relative because I actually have a take on the psuedo-sociology aspect of this. So if their dad got mean with age (and its not your fault if thats the case but i wouldnt like it if he thought that was admirable behavior), I'd be afraid they get that way too. But if their older relative is humble/emotionally-intelligent and likes to read and caring, I like more. Like I'd really like to get to know someones relatives because that someone like it or not has aspects of them and if I hate their mom or pop and they love their mom or pop than its an insult to them so yeah definitely if I get along with their parents/parental figure/whom they look up to is really important to me at least.

It’s consistent with me, ALWAYS- the very first thing women seem to notice about me is my very big… heart ❤️

Really enjoy the panel format and believe it is definitely something you should keep doing along with your regular format.

this all goes back to what we've always known from the start before society muddied the waters to confuse us. even as a teenager I knew to having big arms & abs, then be quiet (so they realize you wont tell), feel good about yourself, keep your head up and look them in the eyes and you'll get wonen

How about balding. I spent most of my life having thick, dark long hair and wore it well. It's significantly thin now right in the crown. From the back it's gone. Woulda shaved head nullify the loss of hair or should I keep it long?

Interesting video! I´d recommend, you give the participants an anonymized questionnaire. The answers are heavily biased because the participants are questioned publicly. Also they aren´t interviewed each one individually, so peer pressure plays a big role too.

The take away from all of this is we as guys need to understand that you just need to show you care about your appearance. Your appearance is like the tip of the iceberg in that it hints at the more important and deeper personality attributes and traits. Showing you have just a tiny bit of muscle says that you actually take the time to go to the gym or are active. You don't have to be the best dressed or have the biggest muscles or be the best at any of it you just need to show that you're trying to always improve in all these areas and that you care. This shows girls that you have motivation, discipline, attention to detail, etc. It's like the old cliche that a women wants a many with a lot of money. It's not because they want all his money it's because they're attracted to his motivation, drive to be successful, financial discipline. On the surface these subtle details seem shallow but in reality when you put them all together it builds a really accurate picture of who you are deep down inside.

This was a great session! Great to see the variety of preferences.

Basically, everything matters. Take care of yourself. Improve yourself. Don't care about pleasing other people's preferences.

They were asked questions and provided honest answers, publicly. That, in and of itself is not shallow - it's courageous. I think they showed a range of traits and what I noticed most was that they were sweet, driven, confident, intelligent, and yes, accepting of others in their own ways. There were some differences in standards, and that's okay. Either way, a person is entitled to have their own preferences, to choose, and they don't owe the world a justification, nor is it fair for others to judge another on such things (having a view on something does not necessarily make you judgmental). Love yourself, accept yourself, and have some self-compassion. If you do, you'd gain the confidence and contentment that comes with knowing your own self-worth is not dependent on others' opinions of you. That is, you'd be internally validated, rather than externally validated. Learn to let go of the question, "am I good enough?" And know that the answer is, "I am good enough." I could be unattractive to 95% of women, maybe all women, but if I know that I got up this morning and gave the day my best (even if some days, my best seems to me like little more than a step back), there's no reason for me to beat myself up about the day, nor should I believe that I'm inferior because another didn't find me attractive. I am who I am. I do the best I can. I'm human. I try to improve, to live a fulfilling life, and to care deeply for others (even if they showed little care for me). One day, near the end of my life, I'll reflect on my imperfect life without regret, and with the understanding that I did all I could, I tried my best, I showed love such that others knew how much they mean to me. Etc. ...other's' preferences are of no real consequence. Instead, I think judgmental behaviors are more likely your way of coping with insecurities, immaturity, and perhaps past rejection (I'm sorry, if this is the case. Respectfully. Really I am). You don't need everyone to love you. First, learn to love yourself (or at least begin with learning to accept yourself). And have some empathy and compassion for yourself and others (because you never know what hardships, traumas, or other things might have led others to having the preferences they do, and certainly it would be wrong to hold that against them). Take ownership over everything that happens in your life, instead of relying on excuses or blaming others. Do all of these things and you'll find yourself less judgmental, happier, and -wait for it- probably much more attractive to the women you say are shallow.

Man ur videos r useful af for us that have no idea bout something that is totally new to us

The one blonde girl said “once you take your socks off.. that’s who you are” 🤣🤣🤣🤣 I’m crying. That shit was funny.

God, women are just absolute gems. Erica doesn't care about single thing that defines gym addicts. Not arms, not shoulders, not abs... But if he has a neck that is fit... Oh boy, she's in! Stella, who seems most grounded throughout the interview goes to say style is the most important, immediately followed by saying some people are mich nicer on the inside while not necessarily looking the best .. How would you know though? If they have failed at #1 thing for you? So it's the most important thing, but not a deal breaker? Still loved a video and found it helpful, more of this please!

23:09 - the girl talk about "pheromones that work with your pheromones"... I never heard about this, where can I learn more about this? Is there a video anyone can recommend? (channel name, and video title)

This was interesting. I appreciate the ladies taking the time to share their perspective and opinions. Two things immediately came to mind as I watched and listened. 1) I've never even heard of a woman who didn't like/demand/require a man be stylish, well groomed, straight white teeth, fit and (bottom line) attractive in their eyes. 2) 99.9% of women have never held a labor intensive outdoor job leaving them clueless regarding the effects such jobs often have on many physical features and other aspects discussed. To my ears, everyone of your guests described a white collar man. This reinforces what most men have known the majority of their lives, women don't see 80%+/- of the men in the world. Ask any man the same questions you asked your guests and 90%+ won't care about any of the specifics in your questions. "As long as she looks good to me" is what you'll hear from men. Modern women have too many unrealistic expectations/demands and tunnel vision regarding men. The perfect recipe for disappointment.

It all changes as you get older, including the texture of the skin. Wrinkles on the face, arms, hands, feet etc. Hair loss, receeding hair line, it all changes, some faster, some slower, depending on your lifestyle. The goal is to be healthy, within your normal body weight and physically active. And you attitude makes a huge difference. Bigger than you might imagine. I've met some extremely attractive women and their attitudes were a turn off. However, some average looking women with average builds had great, outgoing attitudes and they were a turn on for me! Externals will change but the heart of the person is much more significant!

This video really opens my eyes. Jesus. Thank you Courtney.

What a great video. Thank you so much. I have a lot to work on myself 😢

Courtney please continue this interview series! It’s so entertaining and insightful.

This videos amazing. We need more women willing to be featured on your channel like this👍🏼👏🏼

Deja: "Like if a guy has on like a...a like the muscle shirts...?" You mean a WIFE BEATER, lady? 😂 😂 😂

All in one, ladies: you like us to look well-taken care of, tidy, healthy & fit. Smiling and good style is just another bonus.

Stella, particularly, seems so put together, physically and emotionally. Every response of her is so on point and mature... She knows what she wants and knows very well how to articulate it.

Thank you for this video. Really reassuring and really takes of a lot of wondering of “do they care” and questions all guys have but not many can straight up and get get an honest answer like this video. I really enjoyed straight to the point transition and flow, thank you.

The lady who knew about "Crooked Smile" by Cole made some solid points. Bonus for the song.

When some women told me what they find attractive at me, they scared me. Those things were so superficial, childish, not true or simply weird, that I instantly knew it would not last long. All that matters is one's perspective, thoughts, and impression. Which could be way far from the things are. They make me wonder if there is any chance of having an authentic connection/evaluation

Never dated or really pursed girls but always find videos like this interesting

If a group of men were saying this sort of thing such as they don’t date fat women or women with fake boobs etc etc we would be labelled artificial, shallow and sexist. But it’s ok for this lot to do the same?

A couple of these women are just freaking adorable when they respond. That's all I got.

Love these videos. I see in the comments some guys who don't like being told what they need to have or do. What I learned here is that some women do care about looks, but others just care about what you do with what you have. I feel this is of incredible value to guys who actually want to be better men to the women in their life. So Thank you :)

"Women don't care about your looks" _ The one who came out of a dumpster being pissed on by a dog

Hi Courtney. Can you do a video on non-english accents (non-american, non-english speaking countries accents) and ask ladies which kind of accent they prefer and why? I would like them to be honest with their responses. For example: Asian accent versus western european accent verses spanish-portugese accent versus french accent versus eastern european accent versus african accent versus italian accent... I hope that you got a point. :)

I think you should have Teddy and the boys do the same type of video about women.

Stella is a REAL one! Ngl I pay closer attention whenever she is on screen. That J.Cole reference was 🔥.

The level of insight that this video offers: "if its well kept, yeah-- its nice--"

Hi, I appreciate the insight, but I believe and have experienced that as people mature, their standards can change. I'm twice divorced and early 60's. Dating has changed and what attracts a woman to me is much different than when I was in my 20's

"Make sure to have a nice hairline." Bet let me just rewrite my genetic code real quick...

These girls have made me feel GOOD, like REALLY GOOD, like REALLY REALLY GOOD.

I love this content. I am a many yeaars married man but, this is helpful to make me better for my wife. Thank You so much!

Girls make the rules for guys but will break them for the right one

Posture is a physical thing that depends on a persons muscles, bone structure etc. It is not "easy" to all of a sudden have good posture if your body structure doesn't allow for it.

Just come across your channel for the first time a few minutes ago and listening to it in the background as I sort out admin with my business. I will be watching more of your videos. Three things in a woman are very important to me and these three things put a woman streets ahead of other women - loves to cook for her man and children, keeps a reasonably clean home (does not have to be spotless), and is pleasant to live with and smiles easily. I am a divorced mature age man, father of two teen sons both about to enter adulthood and the work force. I have been a business entrepreneur for many years now building up my third manufacturing business. I want to meet a good woman, with marriage in mind and have more children (at least two). My buddies tell me I am nuts for wanting kids at my age, but when you know what you want, you know what you want. And every one of us has to be true to ourselves and not live a life others expect of us.

Very informative and positive. Great job. My only advice would be work with the volume before posting. I had to have my ear on the speaker most of the time then pull away quickly because the laughter is so much louder. Other than that great work.

The girl that said “I don’t care” about almost everything is my type of girl 😂

I think with these types of videos, it'd be helpful under their name to include a brief profile. Like age range and what they're primarily looking for in a guy, i.e. casual dating, serious boyfriend, potential husband, potential father to their children. To give context to what they're looking for. There's a difference between a woman in her 20s looking to get married and have kids, than a woman in her 30s who plans to be child free.

Maybe that's why I got rejected my whole life, I'm trying to be fit but with so much preference I'm always prone to failure. One thing that definitely changed the way women looked at me was getting more money, but after being rejected for so long getting a girlfriend is still hard for me.

When that one girl said she doesn’t care about looks, I roared with laughter😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

Can confirm toned arms are a real turn on. Notice I said toned arms, not huge arms. My arms aren't huge, just lean and muscular. Recently started dating girl, she straight up told me before we started dating she noticed my arms one day when I was stretching. Can confirm on scent as well. My girl (and others too) almost always complements my scent (and I figured out which cologne she likes the most). I wear cologne almost all the time, but a nice smelling deodorant works too. Side note: black men (and probably hispanic men too) can't get away with not dressing well. It's a culture thing. Style is a must. Most of us been putting together outfits since middle school.

Bald man here... and for anyone else out there that has very low self esteem because they lost their hair at a young age, please don't trouble yourself with sadness. Women may say they like hair, but I can contest that isn't true. I ended up dating very attractive women that originally said they don't like bald men. Its a lot of factors from personality to how you are as a man and how you treat others. Be yourself and you will attract the right woman that you'll also be attracted to and build an amazing relationship. On my way to get married to the most beautiful woman, and so happy. Much love everyone.

Your channel is wonderful knowledge. Keep on keeping on ;)