Your videos are the best out there. I am struggling to get out from under all I’ve allowed happen to me for the past ten years. I have avoided so much out of fear and I have an inability to ask for help. You hit on so many things in this video that I’m a sobbing mess. I feel at rock bottom and need to figure it out. I’ll have to give video a re-listen, it was so good.

I have been listening for several months. Have started the daily practice about a week ago. I see changes happening. It works. Anna, you are so knowledgeable and so kind, yet, also lovingly tough when you need to be. I'm 70 YO and I wish I had had this info when I was younger. My trauma has so damaged the living out my life. But I believe we are never to old to learn and change and be hopeful. I am a strong believer in God and I kind of feel like He is saying, "Do it. Let go of all the bad things and embrace what I have for you!" I am eager to see how the future unfolds for me. Thank you, Anna. God's blessing on you!

Listening to Anna, becomes my daily practice. There is something so soothing in her voice, sounds like calm music to my ears. Merry Christmas, Anna, and thank you for what you do.

I remember crying in front of my father and him yelling at me that he couldn't say anything without the water works. At 57 years old I still do not know who I am or even what I want. There is no imagine within my head for the future. When there is turmoil or feeling like I am not being heard I shutdown and leave the situation.

Anna, ive been watching for almost a year now and within that time ive created boundaries with a narcissistic co dependent parent, gotten out of a miserable job and into a much better fit for me, and my marraige is stronger than ever. I am still working through some personality traits and life stuff but i am convinced your videos and the writing technique has helped me tremendously. Thank you ❤

You are a real help in this conflict we call life. I hope this Christmas is filled with love ❤️ for you and your family. And a new year filled with health, joy and peace. Thank you for what you do 🙏

Dear Crappy Chilhood Fairy(Anna), words cannot express how truly grateful I am to have found your channel, even less can I express how amazing you are. You are top notch!! I wish I could be your friend or somehow be close to you. I wish my mom was like you. Is that my anxious attachment? 😂 Maybe. But you have been so helpful to me in my healing. In a way, I guess we are friends because you talk to me through these videos and I get the tough love even though it’s usually in response to someone else’s letter. I even referred my sister to your channel and I NEVER share anything from the internet with anybody. But I know she will love your channel too. We both have major CPTSD and I wish I had found your channel years ago. Regardless, it is priceless. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

~So much of my stress about most things can be eased by just allowing way more time to accomplish them~

This is a much needed video thank you i will listen carefully because im really struggling. This title reminds me of my housemate coincidentally. My friend from Gaza hasn't heard from his parents recently and probably won't know anything for a while. After he spoke to his brother telling him he had good news that he got a visa in my country for his parents, his brother was mad at him saying they will have nowhere to live (tbf his brother is in israel and his wife has been in jail for months for posting something critical of the government on facebook). My friend was upset because he is trying to find the positive. Thats when he said to me it is better to light a candle than to shout at the darkness. He told me its amazing he just learned this quote but there is something very similar about lighting a lamp in arabic. I am inspired by his ability to speak with the voice of peace and remain vocal.

Anna saying "No, I took a seminar, I took a seminar.." after briefly deliberately underselling herself to comfort someone is the best thing😂😂❤ I rewatched this video because I too feel that male, narcissistic space thing-i dont know how to handle it, maybe the ostrich approach or the scared animal hiding approach are both wrong and i do them constantly, i dont know how to do what you say to do but am trying again. Jaron Lanier and you are both so spot on on this, your human view of it is what Jaron himself can't really articulate as well as you-his book ten arguments to quit social media made me delete all my public account and im now wondering if i should go back

Love.

Instead of crappy childhood fairy, I think your channel should be called “the good mother/friend you never had”channel. That was so pleasant and helpful to listen to. You’re the absolute best.!!

You are “right on” in so many ways. Especially this video. ❤

Thank you for this video. With my younger adult son plunging into full-on narcissistic victim despair and bitterness, having to face that except as a money supply (which I can't and won't do), I'm irrelevant to him now, with 45 hanging his wet dream of a U.S. dictatorship over our heads, and with my brother and I not being ready for the next catastrophic fire in our high-risk area, I needed this to quiet my mind and handle things one at a time. First stop: new local coach who takes Medicare. Thank you again.

I want to thank you Anna, and thank your listeners.💜🙇‍♀️🙌🏾 You are, in my opinion, fantastic and amazingly helpful. You are extremely insightful and your guidance is is really what so many of us are lacking... Your listeners are amazing! They themselves are amazingly insightful, whether they know it or not! Thank you for having a safe space for folks like us, and. ☆Blessed Be ☆

The workplace is unsafe and toxic. Bullying is rampant and a terrible problem. Because I need a job and it’s very hierarchical, it’s very much like the abusive home I grew up in. I have my ways of getting through my day, and it’s been a great opportunity to set and manage my boundaries. Agency will get you fired these days. And no, there’s not a lot of choices in this economy.

Wonderful vid!!! I struggle with feeling demoralized and disempowered both due to my trauma symptoms and also the things going on in "the world". I will continue to push on because I know there is a happier and more honest life that I am capable of living. ❤❤❤❤

I’m so confused about how to judge character and choice friends. I’ve embodied this weird non judgmental personality that makes everyone feel good even when they are just wrong and this was my childhood defense. I don’t want to judge anyone but I also don’t agree with their behaviors. What do I do? I just want to run away.

Thank you. Tons of wisdom here. Learning and gaining...

You’re right, Anna…these are the scariest times I’ve ever experienced and I was part of the duck and cover generation. These times are worse and it’s so hard to get out into the world everyday. Thanks for your help!

00:00 🌟 In chaotic times, societal division can resemble dysfunctional family dynamics, triggering trauma responses in individuals. 02:14 🌱 Trauma healing involves transitioning from being defined by past pain to stepping into personal power for positive change. 04:29 🧘 Avoidance of stillness hinders emotional processing, leading to cluttered thoughts and emotional disconnection. 07:30 🤝 Lack of presence in interactions due to avoidance of stillness can lead to profound loneliness despite being around others. 10:27 💪 Avoiding courage limits personal growth, self-expression, and may result in conformity or people-pleasing behaviors. 14:48 🔄 Resentment stemming from lack of courage can lead to blaming external factors, hindering personal growth and agency. 20:08 ⏳ Avoidance of patience can lead to impulsive decisions, hindering thorough evaluation and understanding in various situations. 22:11 📝 When signing agreements or entering relationships, exercising due diligence is vital-take your time, observe behaviors, and assess compatibility. 23:46 🧐 Due diligence in relationships involves observing behaviors, handling stress, and assessing care during tough times before committing further. 25:38 🤔 Skipping due diligence in major decisions might lead to feeling stuck in the wrong life, emotionally tied to unchosen relationships. 29:06 📚 Continuous learning, exploring various viewpoints, and researching opposing opinions fosters understanding and respectful conversations. 31:00 ⚠ Engaging in division or attacking others brings consequences, impacting reputation, well-being, and hindering trauma healing. 33:20 🛑 Feeling trapped by damaging situations emphasizes the importance of initiating change from within, even when facing hopelessness. 35:12 💼 Evading learning and persisting leads to feeling small, possibly limiting financial growth and hindering personal accomplishments. 38:25 🌟 Persistence is key-meeting others' obligations but not your own goals can hinder personal growth and achievement. 40:00 🙏 Lack of humility disrupts relationships, creates defensiveness, and hinders personal growth and facing moral truths. 42:09 📝 Reflecting on what you're avoiding doesn't require immediate action-observe, jot down thoughts, and consider them without pressure for instant change.

Crazy, that this comes across today, when all of these emotions & responses were at full power and I was ready to withdraw (further) from the world. Thank you! 🙌 🙌

I feel like you are reading my mind, Fairy. Mainly while we are approaching Christmas holidays, everything about family life gets worse. Thank you for your help!

Incredibly poinient. Really hit a new level of 😮 with this one! This is the most important message of our time. 🌞💛🌞

Oh, this is so helpful. I literally came online to avoid things. Some bad stuff going on, but I am still a little hopeful.

This is one of the most meaningful and powerful messages I’ve seen on any channel for years now. Real depth and transparency. Thank you.

You're a lovely person speaking light and truth.

I love the bit about division and don't discri minate. So true and often this trait is not recognised enough

Thanks Fairy for bringing so much common sense, healing and brightness into the world. ✨🙏

Thank you !

This is a much needed video during these topsy turvy times!!

Everyone has circumstances. Once you recognize what’s going on in your life, it is a choice to stay exactly where you are.

Thank you for this brilliant video 🙏

So happy to watch this video today- it’s especially comforting and meaningful since I’ve been finally going to therapy these past few weeks. I’m getting better at handling difficult situations in my life, and being able to give the best of myself to me and others. ❤

This is just what i was needed to hear right now! Im always trying to stay busy and occupy my brain with nonsense. Trying to avoid the deep sadness and loneliness inside me. You help me be a better person, and handle these terrible feelings yet so kindely and gentle. Where have you been all of my life?

Another excellent teaching. You have been such a big help to me and my family. Thank you, Anna, for all that you do.

Too anxious to date and be intimate with a romantic prospect, let alone just a friendship. Too depressed to be isolated and alone with no support. Vicious cycle..... Should I stay alone and try and heal (been trying to do that all my life) Or should I try and date so I feel supported and loved - nah, il only end up going with another someone who makes me feel worse and unworthy. Such an unfair vicious cycle us c-ptsd folks have to go through! Yes I'm bitter as I watch those who had easy loving childhoods with tons of family support, also getting the good partner experience. It.isnt.fkin.fair!!

I outgrew my friends and haven't replaced them. Feeling shitty. Thank you for this.

What a beautiful and strong woman you are) 💛

Its difficult when your closest friend of 13 years gaslights you and goes into denial so your forced to end the relationship.

God’s giving it back to you. Thanks for giving it out.

Thank God for YOU. X

This channel is so good. I've been learning so much this year. Great resource to start off 2024! Thank you!

We used to trust ... leaders, politicians, pastors, and even police ... but today ... we know these very same people lie, have lied for years, and lie constantly. So, who do we trust? I only trust myself today! My Truth: I was repeatedly terrorized and traumatized as a child for over 10-years. Three years of my life, between the ages of 9 to 11, are almost completely missing from memory. The obvious questions are 1) Why and 2) What happened? I fear the answers to these questions and have not attempted any kind of recall. Anna speaks of avoidance in this vlog. That is something I can control and oh boy, I rate myself as an "Avoidance" professional ... hahaha. I had to laugh at myself yesterday. Following Anna's recommendation to declutter I was purging files. What I learned is I've been keeping receipts since the 1980's just in case I need to return something I've bought. But in reality I actually fear social interaction and have almost never returned anything in my life. My journey to sanity continues. Thanks Anna.

"Those who can make you believe Absurdities can make you Commit Atrocities"

This is an AMAZING video. Just reading my mind

Your videos are always so helpful to me. Once I started to take ownership of the decisions I've made in my life, everything started to change for the better. I still have my struggles, but your videos help to ground me and keep me focused.

Excellent message! We each NEED to heal at least enough to bring Light, to bring loving and kind compassion, instead of reactivity; not easy, but very important! Thank you, Anna! ❤

Something as simple as sugar-free sunshine, socializing on the dance floor, six-minute hugs, and slow sensual intimacy with true listening ears can mean a world of instant healing. Our brains can work magic if we allow it…

Thank you

You are really a very insightful person

Stillness & Courage is my mantra this week ❤🙏

Wow! Just what I needed! Thank you

You are such a wise woman, Anna! I love your style, you're very smart, nail the situation perfectly, not one word/sentence you say is unnecessary and above all you don't come across as patronising, that can be off putting. I have known a few psychologists and life coaches who I considered very good but you outclass them all 🙏

God just when I have never felt more alone, thank you so much Anna God bless you beautiful soul!!

This is the best video ever

This is one of your best well thought out videos yet thank you

Thank you! This is so beautifully said. Every word is pure wisdom❤

Thanks for this video Anna

Fairy, that was amazing! So much really important stuff to digest. Gonna listen again but take notes this time!!!

Thank you for your kind service Anna, I love your precense and wisdom, you have helped me so much, thank you

Anna, thanks for the work you have done in your own life that has allowed you to have the achievement of this channel and these videos that in turn help others following the same path. So often what seems simple on the surface is only the result of a long and complex journey of growth. Your example is encouraging.❤

Kind and powerful message right on time! What am I avoiding? Courage! Thank you so much❤

aw thank you for sharing your light

Anna thank you. You are an inspiration. Keep up the good work healing is available.

This one really hits the deep places.... it's the deep dive (yeeehaw!). Thank you Anna so much for helping to navigate this wild and crazy road !!

TRUTH ❤!

What a beautiful video. Thank you Anna.

Yes. Thanks❣️

Interesting point about "reading the fine print" in relationships...in some instances might even take that metaphor a step further with "learning to read/decipher what is _unprinted_ " , esp. when the other individual leans toward manipulative or disingenuous behaviors.

Wow I love all of your videos but this intro is the most wonderful I have ever heard ❤

Anna, you’re a gift to this world. Thank you for sharing your experience, strength, and hope. You offer what you’re doing with the best mix of humor and humility! It never sounds condescending or pretentious.

You may not use your degree but you’re acceptably branded.

Oh, I've got "stillness" covered, lol. It's called isolation and not by choice. I'm 58. Statistics and reality tell me that I will never be loved before I die. It's impossible to enjoy life this way. I love your content, but all things are not possible for everyone. Hope kills. This is my 9th holiday season, which includes my birthday, where I will not receive a card or gift from anyone. The fact is, not everyone is gonna have a good life even if they've done a lot of work for it. It's hard to believe that I don't matter to anyone but that's the facts. Yes, I do feel sorry for myself. Nobody can successfully be so isolated and uncared for.

Kudos Since I began following you, my healing has accelerated! I now do resentment and fear "Practice" inside, as a prayer Practice, on the spot when something comes up. But, it is Precisely because I am blessed with time to be Still and work on it.

The idea of not staying in rage for a long time has me so confused. I've used it a lot to get myself out of a rut and not towards anyone else, but towards reaching my goals in an energized way. Like, I've gotten angry at the idea of my upbringing leaving me in a pattern of self sabotage. That anger has propelled me towards getting further away from learned helplessness and acting on my dreams. But whenever I've mentioned this method to anyone it has nearly always gotten some sort of dismissal because being angry is seen as something negative. Slowly it has fizzled out from all the rejection induced shame and it feels like I've lost the keys to the engine again. Why is anger so difficult? Sorry for the rant, this has been on my chest for a while. Your videos are enlightening and helpful. Thank you!

I love you fairy, thank you for what you do, godspeed!!

I have shown agency. I started working at age 15. I’m 28 now and I have had over 20 different jobs and absolutely hated them all. They all made me want to kill my self literally. Finally I up and decided to be a barber. Put myself through a one year program, completed it and passed my test. I’m a barber now and I’m proud but after a life of trauma and just already working too damn much, that program took every last bit of my (idk the word..energy? Soul? Life? Which is crazy cuz I already felt like that before anyway). But My head has been spinning ever since. And my cptsd symptoms have I think turnt up to an all time new level. And of course people can always feel it and see it. Now I do love my job but I still have not had a moment of stillness. I see myself getting content with the bare minimum that I need to get by. I do see it as a way to spend more time with my kids but at the same time that’s almost more exhausting and I could be making more money. But idk it’s like I’ve found a way to make the same money I’ve always made but by only working like half as much or less. I could make a lot more obviously but idk. Work more or don’t, either way I never get stillness whatsoever. My son is absolutely amazing and is obsessed with me and I just feel like I’m just slowly showing him how to turn into the next bad parts of me just like me and my dad

This is an amazing video and just the motivation and encouragement I needed hear today. I feel extremely validated and heard. Thank you so much for making this video. I'll need to rewatch over and over to keep myself going on healing.

**rewatching now** 🍿🍿🐣

Thank you for these videos. I started watching them to help me understand my husbands CPTSD but I have found that a lot of the stuff you recommend doing, especially the daily practice, is helpful for me to get through the hard times.

It's clear to me that trauma-driven thinking is on both sides of the political spectrum. The way I see it, something is more likely to be true when you have an acknowledgement of "both/and". I appreciate that you acknowledge the unhealthy and constraining systems we are a part of, but you also emphasise personal responsibility and agency. After all, we can't control other people, only ourselves - so that's where the focus of change should be.

Beware (fearful animal talk), my first yoga teacher overwhelmed me so much, I never want to be in another yoga class, again. And I've tried several, thereafter, with patience.

Still loving ur videos 🎉❤

I thank you a great bit. My roof was leaking yesterday again, but this time it was only raining and I had no snow on it. Made me laugh. Hahahaha

Reminds me of conformation bias, where you seek information that supports your belief and discard everything that contradicts it. Thank you for the insight, "i pray that you and your staff have a Merry Christmas, may the lord Jesus Christ bless you, AMEN" 🎄 ❤🕊 ✨ 🎉

Something just keeps draining me.

If you want to know the truth, i have been avoiding watching your videos. I came across oneof your videos about 6 months ago that felt like you were speaking directly to me, and i subscribed - but ever since i have beem avoiding your videos because I guess im scares to confront my issues, and the huge amount of stress it will cause me. Im already full of stress, and i always feel like its very easy to tilt me into he rhelm of wanting to harm myself, so i avoid your videos. Please don't take it personally, you seem like such a great person just based on what i have seen from you, its me, i just can't bring myself to press the play button on your videos. Thanks for being here to help people ❤

Im avoiding everything. I can barely go outside most of the time.

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This is exactly what Holy Spirit has had me working on outside of watching your stuff. Ive been watching so as to edicate myself being The Spirit is focused on healing (as He is). The trith is, we dont ha e the power to change these subconscious scars given to us, but Christ does. Because when we believe in/on Him, He gifts us with the Spirit of God who can and will do all things. We are sealed and He will finish that which He begins within us. This is for those who have tried to do it through self and found either no change or unsatisfacoty change because you,y dear, are right in saying we are to be a light in this ever growing darkness. I hope this sheds some light on those who are ready to hear the Truth. Ask and you shall receive, seek and you shall find, knock and the Door will be opened to you. He cannot lie for He is Holy.

I stay on my property. Life is good away from the sickness of the darkness of politics.

It was like Jordan Peterson vs someone psychologist says i look out the window see people able to walk there dogs ...in turn your saying loucky outside. He also said people take it for granted walking thee animals.

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Please, what are some good books about setting up an online business?

I wonder why other things are truly sorting themselves slowly as I have re-regulated but romance remains that dark area as if it resists any real change unlike the ither areas where I can see and deal clearly.

Sitllness solitude. I am Frozen always alone ( I have a cat) ( I have God my Father is always with me .. but but no family to speak too or of. ( 20 + yrs. ostrazied) and one is in control of my finances) so there's Fear in disclosing my mental state. (anxiety heightened senses to noises motions outside my room where I sit day in day out my one room ground floor apt. tense not able to move even to go to fix food or wash up. not able to function at all (today) I expect to be somewhat functiional tomorrow. 2 Tim 1:6-7

Please make this info known to high school counselors.

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