Relationships Heal When You Learn to Change Your Response to Emotional Triggers

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Fight, flight, freeze, fawn. These are four common trauma responses that you MIGHT slip into when you’re under stress. If you have CPTSD, you probably have one dominant trauma response, and the others show up from time to time. But they cause you to react in ways that can be destructive to your relationships. In this "best of" compilation, I share four of my most popular videos about trauma responses, and how they can make you react when emotions are running high.
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@user-hx3gj8pp2k 5 ай бұрын

Your work here has helped me tremendously on my healing❤ journey. There arent words that can express the deep gratitude i feel toward you. Your genuine and authentic spirit is an inspiration and gives me hope there is wholeness and healthy relationships that is attainable ❤thank you for all you do, you are a rare and precious gem❤

@CrappyChildhoodFairy 5 ай бұрын

Thank you for your kind words! I'm sure Anna will appreciate this :) -Calista@TeamFairy

@jen4yahwehsal176 5 ай бұрын

I was seeing a narcissist for a year. It was brutal and awful. I have been slowly breaking away. But finally his phone number was disconnected. I got on my knees and thank God I was relieved. He had a lot of drama in his life My temptation to reach out to him is gone now i'm so relieved He lives two hours away thank god I believe my heavenly father intervened because he knew I was Weak Praise jesus

@monicawarren3678 5 ай бұрын

At 65 I'm done with all the pressure. I'm physically broken and I find any disruption intolerable. I'm a hermit and that's OK for now because I have an extraordinary feeling we are all being gaslit by people who make our laws. I throw my hands up and I can't fight what's happening because I now know our very WORLD is run by sociopaths to some degree 😢

@mikehess4494 5 ай бұрын

Navigating an ocean of broken people. Still learning ways to deal with nasty people without becoming one of them.

@linseyorman6113 5 ай бұрын

I promise you are not the only one who can see this and understand this. Go to patrion and look into Gather. You might find some real friends and soul family there. This is what my guides are telling me. I so hope you look for them. Your frequency will send a signal and they will come when you are actually ready for the family and love. I am in the same position. Just know I see you🤗💛💛💛

@linseyorman6113 5 ай бұрын

@sherrysloan1017 5 ай бұрын

😿 sending hugs and kitten licken on ur nose. ❤ prayers my sisters and brothers! we will be together soon.... an always happy 😁

@VaughnM11 5 ай бұрын

Omg about to turn 64-I 💯 agree with this and am experiencing the SAME. 💜💙💜

@desperate1982 4 ай бұрын

😂 "we better take what we can get cause that's all there's gonna be " YOU NAILED IT 💯

@InsightsAbroad 5 ай бұрын

Man, if u can feel deep love after a crappy childhood, that is remarkable👏

@beckymichel1845 5 ай бұрын

With the daily practice and your videos I’m hoping to never again not be myself.. I crapfit my life for 32 years & the day I turned 60… I decided NO MORE! I’m sure I will suffer abandonment melange but at least now I’ll know what it is and use the tools to get thru it.. here’s to a happy life!

@CrappyChildhoodFairy 5 ай бұрын

We're all rooting for you :) -Calista@TeamFairy

@soundtravels4348 5 ай бұрын

Trying to talk to my mother about what she did to me was futile. I think it was worth trying because it helped me to see that she couldn't see it, she's not willing to face her past behavior and she will never be able to help me work through my CPTSD. It was important for me to discover this so that I could move on and try other things to recover. By all means try to talk to your parents about your childhood but please don't fool yourself into thinking that it will be a healing, bonding experience.

@Occupied_South 5 ай бұрын

As a mother who also has amends to make, may I kindly suggest you look into your own heart and see if you have any, even as an adult. Everyone, even your mom, has traumas and crosses she couldn't bear. Mercy.

@DMKarinZeeland 5 ай бұрын

Yeah. It helped me too. Hearing my dad denying everything that happened, even that the room existed in the house where he kicked me lying on the floor in front of my high school bestie (who stopped having contact after being confronted with such a horrible experience) made me realize this was futile and a waste of energy.

@soundtravels4348 5 ай бұрын

@Occupied_South I'm well aware that my mother suffered horrific trauma as a child. She passed it on because she wasn't able to heal herself. I feel pity for her, she's lived a very unhappy life but I will no longer allow her to hurt me. Hurt people, hurt people. I would respect her a lot more if she was willing to work on herself and face her trauma instead of using it as a scapegoat by saying "Yeah I had a messed up childhood" As if that's some sort of free pass. I have made amends for the mistakes I have made, she has not.

@soundtravels4348 5 ай бұрын

@@Occupied_South you are not like my mother, you sound like you actually want to make amends for the mistakes you made.

@louisepotier2784 5 ай бұрын

A relationship of six months is not a long time to be having this discussion. It's a drop in the span of a lifetime. This woman is 50 years old and has had a relationship of over 20 years with a previous person. She needs a break to find herself, start a relationship with HERSELF and find herself. My humble opinion. Have a great day. 🙂

@CrappyChildhoodFairy 5 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing your insight. Nika@TeamFairy

@kabel7985 5 ай бұрын

I totally agree, he was moving way to fast. Sixth months - whoooooa! You need time to heal from a lifetime of trauma. He needed to step back to look at things through your eyes. Listen to Anna, she is wonderful! Wishing you the best! ❤

@thecommonsensecapricorn 5 ай бұрын

I relate a lot to Caitlin though, and the guy I was dating is a Mark too… moving super fast and then breaking up with me after a month because he said I didn’t love him back and I wasn’t affectionate enough/didn’t share his passion for me… despite him being controlling and emotionally abusive, I did have feelings for him, I just didn’t have the time to trust and open up. After he ended it I’ve been torturing myself with the belief that I’m not affectionate enough and everyone is going to abandon me because of that. Logically though I know that I am affectionate, I am loving, I am caring… I just couldn’t move as fast as him. Like Matthew Hussey says “they can’t be the one for you if they don’t want to/can’t be with you”

@Hotmamafox13 5 ай бұрын

Absolutely 💯 been married for 20 years and I’m done with him because he continues to be hot and cold and I’m at this point that I need to go and be alone I can do it and I’m going to that’s on my bucket list

@Analysis_Paralysis 5 ай бұрын

I really hope the woman who wrote the first letter is safe! It sounds like the man pressured her into the relationship too early... And that she's reacting to his behavior and blaming herself. He doesn't sound nice to me because he's blaming her for his anger, etc. She doesn't need anyone in her life who blows up on her. Or blames her for his tears. A "self-aware" man? I don't know, it sounds like a red flag. Most manipulative men today mask as "self-aware". It's dangerous!

@lucidneptune 5 ай бұрын

💯!!

@thecommonsensecapricorn 5 ай бұрын

Isn’t that so weird? It’s true… a lot of “spiritual” men too, I stay away from new age types

@Analysis_Paralysis 5 ай бұрын

@@thecommonsensecapricorn Exactly! It screams "red flag" in my view. New Age is increasingly threatening our emotional safety. (If the men were really that self-aware, they wouldn't choose a traumatized person as a partner or a sexual mate, they wouldn't traumatize their partner even further by shaming them for being traumatized and for trying to be cautious. And their partner wouldn't be in such a turmoil that they'd write a letter to Anna!)

@PaulaBIrish 5 ай бұрын

I Love how you spoke to and advised this woman. So kind, honest and caring!

@CrappyChildhoodFairy 5 ай бұрын

Thank you for your kind words! -Calista@TeamFairy

@jsmith7240 5 ай бұрын

As a CPTSD woman who fell in love on the rebound and moved the guy in and got married, I think your writer may have had just dodged a bullet! Anyone who is talking about and would even accept half your accommodation knowing your vulnerable due to having come out of a long term relationship needs to be viewed with extreme caution. I had a child with mine and my ex cleaned me out, emotionally, financially etc, still impacting me 20 years later due to our child connection. I couldn't have imagined the damage I would cause myself by 'falling in love'. Another red flag I hear in your story with Mark is that he somehow comes with qualifications in mental health with the work he does. This makes him seem like his words are more valuable than they are in your relationship . In my opinion if he has that understanding he would not put you under ANY pressure. CPTSD aside, he heard from you that you were not a push over, even if this came out in a non direct way. The fact that he stepped away from you when you didn't move him in and behaved like a confused cautious person who had only recently come out of a very long relationship and is working through old trauma, makes me feel more convinced Mark had his own issues, wrapped up in a cloak of 'mindfulness understanding' and saw you as a way to make a buck. Sorry to say that, but I think you actually kept yourself safe and that you just need to heal so your can believe your own actions and not get convinced by someone you don't know properly. I also think that it doesn't sound like your mum's done any healing herself so her damaging values are probably unchanged, so save yourself the effort unless you just need to be heard. Good luck ❤🎉 thanks Anna xx 💫🌿💕

@kbc1883 5 ай бұрын

Yes! Agree. I’m so sorry you went through what you did with your rebound marriage. It sounds like you’ve gained a ton of wisdom since then. Thanks for sharing it with the rest of us.

@jsmith7240 5 ай бұрын

@@kbc1883 thank you xx 💫💕

@brera2434 5 ай бұрын

Yes, choose the wrong partner to have children with and you AND the children are screwed for life. If only I could turn back time...mine was a rebound, too.

@jsmith7240 5 ай бұрын

@@brera2434sorry you had that too. I don't consider I'm screwed for life or my child, that's what healing is all about. There's the work Anna does, breathe and body work, yoga to release trauma, hypnotherapy, all sorts of work to heal, Tim Fletcher etc. It's not easy but it's possible 😊 yes it's been really tough but I got out and I'm going to be ok thanks to all the info and support out there and my determination to grow from it ❤️🙏 good luck in your journey too 🌿🍃💕

@annetteorangeGArealtor 5 ай бұрын

That man was trying to make a fool out of Caitlyn. The universe acted in her favor and removed that man from her life.

@soundtravels4348 5 ай бұрын

My dad used to tell me I wasn't feminine enough and it took me a long time to realize how freaken weird and gross it is for a father to say that sort of thing to his daughter. It definitely affected me negatively and resulted in a warped sense of value.

@sueg2658 5 ай бұрын

I am so sorry that your father did that to you.

@soundtravels4348 5 ай бұрын

@sueg2658 thank you ❤️

@soundtravels4348 5 ай бұрын

@misspeach3755 I'm sorry that happened to you, I hope you are healing ❤️ you deserve a joyful life

@soundtravels4348 4 ай бұрын

@Rileyed A: People shouldn't say that to boys either B: Let's not bring religion into this please. Satan isn't the one who messed my up, my parents did

@debrajess 5 ай бұрын

I'm 67, and I'm healing slowly with many healers....above all my higher power and the daily practice. Understanding what has been going on is half the battle. Anna is a healer with her knowledge. Gabor Mate is another, although I dont agree with everything. I have very limited funds, so I can find help on KZfaq. The body keeps the score is free on KZfaq with no commercials. Trauma is awful, but we are safe now. Please don't give up , there is hope. I see how I have made things worse. I have to control my responses. There are good people in the world.

@CrappyChildhoodFairy 5 ай бұрын

I'm so glad the channel and daily practice have been helpful! Thank you for being a part of our community :) -Calista@TeamFairy

@kbc1883 5 ай бұрын

I heard a huge red flag in the letter when Mark is pressuring her to move into her home and to be a co-owner. When you are middle-aged, recently divorced there should be no reason to rush, marriage or co-ownership or commingling of finances. That sounds a bit shady to me as far as motives.

@hollylooyeah 5 ай бұрын

You are truly amazing. This started off and I thought wow you're way of expressing and explaining with the tone and softness of your voice stood out. Then I became triggered and overwhelmed and thought I couldnt take it. I hung in there and your relayance of what's going on in Caitlin's psyche (possibly) and the amount of validation and specific wording you used had me in tears. Wow. I need to get closer to the ability to start to heal. Thank you for being here for us all

@CrappyChildhoodFairy 5 ай бұрын

I know it can seem daunting, but you truly do deserve to heal. We're all rooting for you :) -Calista@TeamFairy

@hollylooyeah 5 ай бұрын

@@CrappyChildhoodFairy thank you

@withanianight8121 5 ай бұрын

I needed to hear the apology part-about what an apology is and isn't. Thank you, needed guidance on that with the tension with my sibling. I see now where I could improve and where I'm doing ok. Thank you Anna.

@CrappyChildhoodFairy 5 ай бұрын

Thank you for your comment. Glad the video was helpful for you! Nika@TeamFairy

@janetharrison5742 5 ай бұрын

I wish you my friend, Anna. Such a beautiful, wise, soul. X

@sherrysloan1017 5 ай бұрын

😢thank u so much for writing in and sharing ur story. so touched me. I wish everyone reading things to start loving you and you will not worry about what others say so deeply. living for me today is for me then my others. I feel shame alot and isolate. I've asked for help for 30 years and now I'm trying to get help for my 15 yr old son. I have obviously f***** up with Mike just regulation because finally realized I guess in the last four years but just the last several months has it come to light that life was not so kind. but I'm moving on because damn this life is way too short and I'm going to make me and mine happy because God wants me to do that and because I want to do that for myself to feel closer to the divine to feel closer to the community to feel closer to the collective that we are all part of. if we don't love ourselves we cannot love others. stop hurting yourself. And love yourself because you know what you deserve it!!🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉 I will tell you from great experience the journey will not be easy but so worth every minute. on the other side of myself😂 I'm always crackin jokes. just wish I could remember them.... 😅

@thecommonsensecapricorn 5 ай бұрын

Also, being soft as opposed to not is subjective to the man you’re with..despite myself thinking I’m more harsh/masculine, one of the ways everyone characterizes me is “feminine” and soft… but I’ve dated very sensitive men and they saw me as harsh because of my bluntness and my more serious temperament. We’ll never be right for the wrong ones

@tennesuze 5 ай бұрын

AMEN! We will NEVER be right for the WRONG person!!!

@ingridn222 5 ай бұрын

Thank you for adding the information that shows its a compilation of past videos that were posted. Keep up the great work Team CCF. We love your work.

@CrappyChildhoodFairy 5 ай бұрын

Thank you! Glad you are here. Nika@TeamFairy

@shiny4him29 5 ай бұрын

Excellent content! I’m noticing big strides in my healing since starting the daily practice and listening to your videos. My anxiety rarely shows up I’m calm and more confident and I’m sleeping through the night! I’m so grateful for you, Anna. Thank you so much!

@CrappyChildhoodFairy 5 ай бұрын

So glad to hear it! Keep up the great work! Nika@TeamFairy

@tomtbi 5 ай бұрын

I got tired of all the heartbreak and put my efforts into my model car hobby and believe it or not the hobby has taught me a lot and think that I am growing from it in a way...

@antiprismatic 5 ай бұрын

Gift of presence? Maybe another gift might be helpful? Presence sounds like self abandonment and a freeze response....

@Ihatecommies42 5 ай бұрын

Thank you!!!

@CrappyChildhoodFairy 5 ай бұрын

Thanks for watching and taking the time to comment :) -Calista@TeamFairy

@patriciapiper6294 5 ай бұрын

Being loved is great but I can go without all that if I could just get some help!!! HELP WITH THE CAR, THE PLUMBING, THE MOWER. JUST HELP ME!!!!!!!

@fijaystudio 5 ай бұрын

This was really interesting. I’ve begun the daily practise, only once a day just now, but am finding it useful.

@CrappyChildhoodFairy 5 ай бұрын

Wonderful!

@unox12317 5 ай бұрын

I cannot continue listening 15:14. 2 weeks ago I have found out I might have an CPTSD and after I sunk myself into information about it, I know it is almost a guaranty now. This story is extremely triggering for me as a man. I feel so sorry for the fellow CPTSDs. The worst thing I have realised is that I am most likely propagating it further onto the community.

@goblinsRule 4 ай бұрын

The truth is always liberating, very hurtful, but allows you to look at the trauma with matured and resourceful self, gives us a window to our habits and addictions, this video was very helpful along with others of her to see why I am this way and certain things are triggering

@tomtbi 5 ай бұрын

I have both pushed people away and clung to people in the past... Now I just have very few friends,just keep to myself,drive for the car dealership I drive for and work on my model cars as a hobby...

@lightbluedev 5 ай бұрын

The description of your haircut at 13yp was so dang funny 😂🤣😂. Sounded horrifying. I could feel the misery. Sending retro hugs to her 🫶.

@GeometryMatters 3 ай бұрын

OMG...this guy! I'd say...RUN! Something is afoot, for sure! It sounds like he tested you, "Kaitlyn," and you had enough boundaries to resist him, as you should have. Give yourself plenty of credit for that. It seems to me that he saw that he wasn't going to hook you, so he made up some problem...WITH YOU! I'm not sensing that good things would have gone on with your life with him had you not resisted him. Well done. You likely dodged some major trouble. Somehow guys like that sense vulnerability in a woman and that's the state of weakness they want you to be in permanently while under their thumb. I hate to have to say that, but control freaks are out there.

@kabel7985 5 ай бұрын

Anna, you mentioned a past abusive work experience - I have had many situations that were devastating in my childhood, work, family - nasty & mean people that want to humiliate me . Can you discuss how you dealt with it?

@tomtbi 5 ай бұрын

Friends constantly come and go.. It is the circle of life...

@VaughnM11 5 ай бұрын

YES!!! 🙏💜💙💜

@givingpresence 5 ай бұрын

I’ve been following your advise and I find most of it to be helpful. I will say that I’m not fully comfortable with all the darkness of the trauma in me. A part of me is very hurt and at times it struggles to accept that it’s safe to heal. EMDR is only successful when a person feel safe about their traumas when they’re alone. That’s not the case for me. I don’t know if it is because I am young(27) but I think it’s important to talk about uncovering layers of trauma. It’s also important to uncover layers of trauma associated with generational trauma and trauma related to racism and privilege which is prevalent in everyday life. Thank you for all your advise and I hope this serves other people who have been struggling similarly

@tammygallagher976 2 ай бұрын

Love you reference to the STRONG goddess of love.

@InsightsAbroad 5 ай бұрын

Sadly, 'he's just not that into you'. If he left you, that's not on you. Love yourself and the right partner will WANT to be with you, flaws and all. Stop beating yourself up🙏

@tomtbi 5 ай бұрын

I think I have done all of these at least once...

@HappyWetPants 5 ай бұрын

An issue I’m running into is that one of my partners biggest triggers is feeling responsible for my negative feelings. So I end up not being able to talk about my problems.

@tennesuze 5 ай бұрын

Listening to the letter from “Katlin,” I wondered-is this guy Mark, an asshole or not? Being in a similar foggy mind set, I thought too that maybe Katlin’s self criticisms were accurate.. So I was SO GLAD when Anna nailed it! “You’ve done nothing wrong, Katlin!” What a relief! The guy was too controlling!!!! ❤

@patriciamorton9605 5 ай бұрын

I need that DATING COURSE , what is the link please ❤

@CrappyChildhoodFairy 5 ай бұрын

Here's a link: bit.ly/CCF-Dating -Calista@TeamFairy

@bondvagabond42 5 ай бұрын

I think the fawning was a survival benefit, hundreds/thousands of years ago, when we lived in smaller groups/tribes, and we couldn't just leave, because if we left our tribe, or we got kicked out of our tribes, our chance of survival plummeted, and it was hard to get adopted by another tribe, because of constant small scale tribal conflicts over hunting grounds and stuff, tribes were distrustful of outsiders. Now it's not so bad, not that its not traumatic to leave an abusive family, but you are less likely to die from it, as an adult at least, I think the survival statistics for teens who run away from home still aren't great, but so fortunately, as adults, we don't have to fawn or die any more, hah.

@suesue2610 5 ай бұрын

If I may comment on the femininity subject. I learnt the hard way that saying to women just to be who they are many times isn't going to attract the person they really want. I mean I have always been a tom.boy but I always wanted to marry a strong masculine man (non toxic masculine man ) and guess what a "manly man"!would want a feminine woman . If the masculine woman keeps being the way she is I am afraid she would keep attracting feminine guys with all that it entails(it's an energetic rule). This is just a personal observation of course.

@karinglowski9391 5 ай бұрын

When u read the letters they r most often about dating relationships. What about friendships that are sometimes cruel?

@CrappyChildhoodFairy 5 ай бұрын

Anna provided a lot of content about friendship as well. Here are some of them: www.youtube.com/@CrappyChildhoodFairy/search?query=friendship Nika@TeamFairy

@tomtbi 5 ай бұрын

Sounds to me like this was more of a Therapist/ Patient relationship rather than what I would think a relationship should be...

@pamelacaballero6111 5 ай бұрын

43:23 apologies

@mikehess4494 5 ай бұрын

Thank you. Yes, Fight, Flight, Freeze, Fawn, Flop ( Faint). The narcissist has a dictator personality.

@sherrysloan1017 5 ай бұрын

I so didn't know about the fawn. it just clicked on my head. you really can retrain your brain. ❤ to all!

@sherrysloan1017 5 ай бұрын

an what the heck there's a flop an faint. shot😮 yeah I been there too. it is such an eye opener to watch each one of your videos 😍 crappy childhood fairy! 🎉 may you and yours always be blessed... 💞 🙏 as well as u readin this too🙏😇

@mikehess4494 5 ай бұрын

@@sherrysloan1017 Flop, Faint, Passout. All three meaning the same. Losing consciousness.

@Rxin-dragons627 5 ай бұрын

20 seconds ago!

@thecommonsensecapricorn 5 ай бұрын

My ex has come back into my life after I ended things months ago. A month after I ended it with him I started dating a guy who quickly became abusive, but of course I was smitten with him and felt so passionate towards him. He discarded me. My ex was not perfect but he has a good heart and good intentions and loves me unconditionally. But I don’t feel that passion. I don’t know if it’s because he treats me well, or if there’s really something missing with him. It’s so hard. I just wish my life was easy like other peoples. But my internal world feels like a war zone.

@soundtravels4348 5 ай бұрын

I relate to feeling like your emotional life is a war zone. I get sad when I think what it would be like to have grown up like a well-balanced individual but I try not to dwell on it for too long. I persist. I will keep working on myself, the pain of doing something about it is easier to bear than the pain of staying the way I am.

@garyr1934 5 ай бұрын

Careful with this attraction to toxic men common sense Capricorn ( meant to reply to you directly ) I understand this well I’ve been in relationships with a few women who were attracted to me only to lose attraction as I treated them well They were much more aroused by the bad boy type They would think I was because I had the New York City edge, muscular and was a musician They would tell me I deserved better as they lost interest All excuses for the truth that they desired being unsure and on edge and even mildly abused Exciting for them I do understand this allure very well I’ve played the role to a minimal degree when younger and seduced women as a but of a bad boy superficially I would not be able to maintain the detached pretense for too long as I really only ever longed to pair bond do you really want the bad boy in a long term ? Or even the short term ? If not then be prepared to invite drama into your life And as you get older You risk not being able to pair bond Two people that pair bond get the rewards of being loved and loving deeply Sex is less exciting But it doesn’t have to be Spiritual level sexual energy is just as powerful Just different Less tortured Be very careful And seek higher ground

@thecommonsensecapricorn 5 ай бұрын

@@garyr1934thanks Gary. I know. The way I see it is I chase these intense, passionate connections and I’ll just have short term relationship after short term relationship my whole life. OR I choose the safe person who cares about me and have the life I say I want, which is a life long companionship. But that’s where growth comes in. Am I ready for the life long companionship? I don’t know. I don’t think so. 😔 I’m still addicted to excitement.

@thecommonsensecapricorn 5 ай бұрын

@@soundtravels4348same here sister

@hanahhaydari Ай бұрын

28:00

@lindaclark1002 5 ай бұрын

Yikes

@tumbleweed6492 5 ай бұрын

Don’t confront the mother, for God’s sake!

@richiekock8835 5 ай бұрын

I have to note that the lack of responsibility from the writer is glaring. It is obvious that this woman has lots of fault that led to her mother kicking her out for, example. However, radio silence, no mention whatsoever of her own bad actions. My opinion is that women tend not to take responsibly for their actions. I know, it sounds sexist, but it is time and again confirmed.

@CrappyChildhoodFairy 5 ай бұрын

I see you're new on the channel, and you do'n't have a sense of what we do here. We are all about taking responsibility. What we're not about is berating letter writers, who courageously ask for help and accept their answer *in public* so that you and thousands of others can benefit. So when people insult them, berate them, or make broad sweeping generations about categories of people ("women can't take responsibility," "men are all just a bunch of pricks,") we understand they are mimicking the abusive culture of the internet, and maybe the way they were treated as kids. But we don't let them treat people like that here. Consider removing your post?

@richiekock8835 5 ай бұрын

YOu are giving her too much credit and leeway. I think you should call her out for her lack of responsibility.

@mollywest4773 4 ай бұрын

Good lord caitlin you met a big baby man. He's just manipulating you to bits. "You made me able to cry again but now you make me cry too much"??? Cry me a river Mark. Theres a water shortage ya know

@drsandhyathumsikumar4479 5 ай бұрын

I learn from your video but here i think you r justifying victim mindset and not highlighting a life time of lack boundary habits

@barefootjamie143 5 ай бұрын

This is something that I can relate to to my core. Been working on it and all the good advice and understanding is so impactful for the rest of my life. People just have grown to annoy me and the troublesome people used to be drawn to me and I accepted the attention because I thought something was better than nothing. The last few months I have been trying to come to terms with my contributions and the fact that I am me and so much more. Forgiveness is key. The fact that there's guidance like what's here is absolutely liberating and it's imperative for healing and growth to joy. The annoyances ran deep and asking me the right questions while in therapy and while journaling. Becoming older and younger at the same time 😆 Thank you Crappy Childhood Fairy channel 🫂🫂🎉 Wanted to let you and others know that you have the goods to get some serious and impactful help 😀😀 HUGE gratitude and respect of you 💗🤟 🐸 🕊️🧬🫂

@CrappyChildhoodFairy 5 ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing these kind words :) -Calista@TeamFairy