When I lost my mother at age 10, I didn’t demand that nobody mention their mother, or refuse to go anywhere where someone’s mom might be.

Story 1. When I got pregnant with my first child my mother asked me to give my child to my oldest sister because she had cancer and had to have a hysterectomy so she could not have children. In the past my family had always taken things from me and giving it to another family member so at this point I became very concerned that that was going to happen with my daughter. I told her no and went to my husband and he made sure we kept our baby.

Story 2: what kind of complex will that kid have when he’s old enough to realize his aunt and grandparents want to pretend he doesn’t exist?

Karen:"My make-up will be ruined by the rain!" Me:"You don't need to worry. Witches melt when hit by water so make-up will be least of your worries."

Last story: I’m a total bear in the morning. I would’ve lost it on that entitled mom the moment she touched my bacon or other breakfast food. She would’ve been bouncing to her car faster than she can blink.

Story 2: What happens when she sees a kid in public? That's completely over the top insane. She's not grieving, she's trying to punish others and make them feel bad. The parents are even worse.

NTA in Story 2. Op shouldn’t *HAVE* to cater to this woman’s every whims! Op is right, their child exists! *GET OVER IT*

The parents are even worse than the sister. You can clearly tell they're picking favorites. What happens if the sister drives by a school? Does the school have to close all doors and windows and hide all the children? Do other people have to keep their own children indoors because poor wittle sister can't bear to see them? This is ridiculous.

The sister is showing that she would be a terrible mother

Story 2: OP definitely isn't the A-hole. Her sister is just being completely overboard and it's definitely concerning that most of the family seems fine with just pretending children don't exist to placate her.

I've had more than one miscarriage. I NEVER denied people their not in their pregnancies and children. That sister needs serious therapy as does any person in that family that backs her! I found more healing in welcoming and loving every friend's pregnancies & babies than in hiding them away. What a crock of $#¡t. 🙄

Story 2: Are we even sure "Julie" miscarried or did she invent the story to get sympathy?

Story 2. Definitely NOT the A-hole. Years ago, I had a miscarriage. The very next day (literally), my SIL announced she was pregnant. Did it hurt? Yes. Was I angry? Only about how and where she chose to announce it. I WAS NOT angry that she was pregnant. I didn't avoid her or avoid anything to do with the baby. Loved buying things for the baby shower, which I attended. I even was asked (and accepted) to be the second family member allowed in the delivery suite; the child's father obviously being the other person present. And because SIL was so tired after the birth and bro was worried about his wife, I was the first person besides the hospital staff who got to hold my niece. It was a wonderful experience! My niece and I are still very close. And if I was like OP's sister, I would have missed out on so many years of joy.

Story 2: Miscarriages suck, but this is not how you handle it. This is how family relationships can fall apart. And the fact that almost everyone sided with her despite how outrageous Julie's behavior is and constantly making out OP to be absolutely disrespectful pretty much indicates that they are dying on that hill

I was a bouncer in a popular but kind of rough bar and later owned my own bar, I was the typical Cop owning a bar and many officers I worked with hung out there. I remember throwing out people for the dumbest reasons, people who are drunk get mad over literally nothing but I always got very amused when one or two guys would get in my face to start a fight and I got to see the look on their face when they turn around and see multiple guys showing their badges.

Last story: I would have lost it the moment I found someone missing with my stuff. I would have already read everything that is the the paperwork given to students when getting a dorm room. She would have been asked to leave and called campus security when she did not leave.

On the last story I would have made the mother pay you all back for the food she took out of the fridge and the cabinets. They should have brought their own food to make and everything.

The dorm story, I would have called the police the minute she didn't leave after getting her shit set up.

Story 2: If I was OP, I would cut off contact with their sister and parents. Julie clearly doesn't want to see her nephew until he's at least 3 years old, and the parents seem okay with doing that too. So to me, that means they don't want to be a part of the kid's life. And to rub more salt into the wound, Julie is apparently attending every family event so OP'S son can't. If she can't,(like the baby shower for example, and probably the nephew's first 3 birthdays, from the rate this entitlement is going) then it should be canceled.

Story 6: All this because one guy had too much alcohol and had to be sent home for his drunken behavior. I don't know what is wrong with Karen and why she took offense to Enzo being sent home, but there really was no reason for her to be involved

Story #4: If OP towed Karen's car that often, OP should cut a deal with the towing company for a percentage of the penalty 😂

I'm sure someone has actually been entitled enough to kick a grandma off the stairs.

That sister needs counseling, STAT! If she feels so assaulted by the mere mention or sight of a child, then she had way too many unresolved issues.’

Story 2: "Julie's" entitlement issues aside... The worst actors in this drama are the parents... It beggars belief that they insist on enabling this woman's behaviour... It was probably part of a pattern that started when their daughters were young but to continue to do it into her adulthood and make the rest of the family responsible for her "boundaries" and entitlement issues just screams toxicity. If anything it's the parents that need to take a long, hard look at the golden child monster they created and really question their own issues in allowing how she came to be that way.

the sad thing is for one person to take over the whole family. any family that does this is in the wrong. all should be equal.

Story 4: after hearing the makeup excuse, I would've excused myself real quick to grab an umbrella from my apartment, show it to the Karen and say, "ta-da!! Problem solved! Now here, take it. You need it more."

Story 1: the reason the sister didn't want OP to bring her baby is because she wouldn't be the center of attention there. Too bad if she "couldn't" come if the baby did. And the parents - OMG. No words. Trying to oppress one sister because the other one would be sad. They are Looney Tunes.

Story #6: OP handled Enzo _really_ well. And despite Enzo saying some inappropriate things, after coffee he did apologize and was totally not resisting as OP tried to help him go home. Sure sounds like he had a really bad day that he wanted to drown in alcohol. So I have some sympathy with Enzo, hopefully he bounced back from his bad day. Especially since OP said Enzo was usually a very nice guy. So, hats off to OP. Also for pressing charges!

2nd story: OP's aunt, the one whose house OP was visiting and the one who the birthday party was FOR, wanted to see OP's son. That, to me, seems like reason enough for OP to bring him along, and the sister can either get over it or get out.

After working a job where I am surrounded by entitled people… I choose to unwind by listening to stories about MORE ENTITLED PEOPLE! Make that make sense, lol.

My daily dark fluff therapy?! YES PLEASE!

I can't have kids but I love kids and enjoy my nieces and nephews. She's cold hearted.

When entitled mom went "maybe ask before assuming you're in charge", that's when all semblance of courtesy would disappear for me. Maybe ask before going through people's things, and stealing their food?

my sister once had her stuff paid by a complete stranger. she works at a nursing home as I believe recreational director (or something), one summer day she went to the store and a bunch of ice cream to bring the residents. im sure she was asked why so much ice cream and she said why. then a guy paid paid for her purchase.

Make sure to give stevo some water for his hard work

The third story--the neighbor exhibits ARGNORANCE: the perfect wedding betwixt arrogance and ignorance.

Ok, I have to speak up here. I wanted a baby from the time I was a toddler, i put books aside I loved so I could read them to my kids, favourite toys, all of it. But I found out I have a disease that would transfer to a child & it would cause the baby pain & physical difficulties. I cried seeing commercials, refused to watch the last season of Friends- & my long term man told me I needed to go to therapy & deal with this grief because it was out of hand. My sister got pregnant weeks later. I waited until I could be calm about it and called and congratulated her. It hurt, god it was like eating glass, but I LOVE my sister, and I love the son she had. I would NEVER take away from her joy because I am having issues. That this poor woman’s whole family ghosted her for having a child is just… disgusting. Wow. They don’t deserve to know her baby. They don’t deserve her.

Story 7: I would have sent the EM a bill for all the food that wasn't hers to cook

"I _need_ that parking space because my make-up will run ..." Buy an umbrella.

The first story, the exact opposite thing happened to me. This was in ‘07 -, ‘08 maybe. I was working at Walmart on graveyard shift when on my first break I decided to get a snack. It was a Yoohoo chocolate drink and a honey bun. No I’ll never forget it. This lady was behind me kind of acting weird, but I paid it no mind. Then some guy walked in and they see each other and started giggling. That’s when I knew “okay, she’s drunk or something”. I finally get to the cashier then I hear, “I’ll pay for you Yoohoo”! I turned around kind surprised and was like “what”?! in confusion. She was serious and wouldn’t take no for answer. In the end she bought my snack, coworkers saw it and joked about for a few days after that.

Story 7: taking the food would have been the first and last straw for me. Did she think the college kids all had an unlimited food budget or did she just not care?! I’m guessing it was the latter.

Story 7: I would have been so angry at that mom and daughter. I would have probably gotten into a physical fight with her over touching my things, and the daughter would have been high up on my sh*t list lol

Story 2. Julie doesn't have boundaries. Boundaries are about what she is and isn't willing to do or accept. Julie has rules that she expects people to obey. Not the same thing at all. She's unreasonable and needs to learn that the world doesn't revolve around her and if other people having babies is sooo triggering to her, she needs to do the hard work to heal by going to therapy

"Give him an inch, he'll think he's a ruler."

dorm story: I would have grabbed all the food and said thanks for making us breakfast, after all it's our food and invoiced them for it and told on mom first day by the authorities to get out!

The op should tell the parents that either she is able to take her son anywhere or they do not have a grandson.

Op's childless sister needs to face reality and accept her nephew. She could possibly become his favorite aunt. My two older sisters had two kids apiece and my twin adopted a boy (who is now 23). I'm close to him because I lived with them off and on. I helped raise him. So even though I never had kids of my own I was always happy to see them and be apart of their lives!

That first story is insane. Just because you are jealous of other people's luck, doesn't mean they have to hide their luck. Sometimes you just have to get over it.

I would have asked them to make sure they got cameras on the outside of the bar if they did to get the footage of Karen assaulting me.

OP & woman who wants him to pay for her stuff at the store: There are many times that I went to the store & came up short. Never, not once, did I ask anyone to pay the difference & never, not once, did anyone offer to pay the difference.

With the first Karen I would have offered to purchase and take her items

OP & SisterJulie: If this is how Julie acts while childless, can you imagine how she will act if she does have children? Maybe The Almighty is doing 'right' by not allowing Julie to have children???

Wow, like if I couldn’t have kids, I’d still love to see other peoples’ babies/kids!

So, story one yeah, I had this happen once. The lady didn't even LOOK at me before telling the cashier I was going to pay for her and I immediately responded with the firmest, coldest sounding "Excuse me, no the F I'm not." At this point she actually turned around and looked at what she was dealing with. A large, fully black clad goth Native American draped in spikes and chains with skulls on his headband and a wolf tooth necklace. She seemed a bit shocked at who was behind her and I just started again "no, I am not f'ing paying for you. Pay for your own s**t and get lost" she looked incensed, but at the same time I could tell she was faced with someone she was too scared of to try and fight her case. This was proven when she scurried off right after.

What does the family expect? Do they think the entire world will just pretend babies don’t exist for Julie’s benefit?

The first time I get yelled at for shoveling snow is the last time I shovel snow.

Last story you bill the karen kid and mom and drop the dime to the school. Make sure karen pays the full price so she feels the burn for a while to come, if not bounce the kid out of the school back home to mom.

Second Story: No Baby... Your aunt invited you to her birthday party. She also invited your husband and your baby. Frankly, I don't see a problem. Julie is being entirely too self-absorbed and is pushing the rest of the family away from her with her "sensitivity." Go to your aunt's party; take the family; enjoy yourselves.

Story 2: It actually sounds like Julie hates kids. I had an aunt that was infertile, and her nieces and nephews were always welcome at her home, and she would take little ones and babies for an evening if parents needed a date night. She took us to plays, museums, and movies. And provided emotional time and support that our busy parents had in short supply. Some of my most memorable experiences were with her, and I cannot imagine how much my life would be different without her.

The moment I saw MY Electronics strewn around the room, I'd have quietly left the room (so they can't hear what I'm doing) and called the Police to have Karen Arrested for Theft (of the food), Unlawful Entry and Trespass (going through MY bow of electronics) as well as what ever Crime it is to use said electronics without my permission... Karen wouldn't be staying for 2 weeks because if she didn't IMMEDIATELY pay for the stolen food, pack her shit and leave of her own Free Will, I'd make sure she was removed Under Arrest, in Cuffs... 😄😁😆😅😂🤣

Story 5: The Karen needs to use an umbrella or a rain hat to keep her face dry.

Another day, another Karen... Time to break out the snacks.

Granddad used to say "Give some people an inch, and they think they're a ruler."

I've miscaried 5 times and i would never ever asked annyone to do what this family's doing it's so intitled... i have 2 kids so it's water under the bridge.

OP & shared college room: Our dorms didn't come with a mini-fridge but you could rent one (it was noted in the new student pamphlet). In my second year of school, I decided to rent a mini-fridge. When I arrived at my dorm room, my new roommate, a new student, had completely filled my fridge with soda. I told her I rented it & she needed to get her stuff out. She didn't, so I took all her soda out. When I came back from class, my stuff was out of the fridge & her soda was back in. I called the rental place & told them to take the mini-fridge away. I was so pissed off because I had to go back on the meal plan.

Story 1: I had an unpleasant woman try to pull that crap with me once. I asked her what was in it for me? The look on her face! Priceless

I would have reported Karen to my RA in college the morning I woke up and found she had stolen my food!!

In the last story, I would have quietly gone and told someone that the mother has taken over the common space and gotten her kicked out.

You have to love it when people expect you to understand that everything is all about them.

Funniest thing I've heard in a drive through When Kareen is behind you ordering and being rude At the first window Say I want to pay for the car behind you order Now at the next window Show both receipts Take both orders and drive off

If I had seen that it was my food they were eating, I would have had no problem walking up to them and taking the plates out from under them.

When our baby passed away at birth from a cord accident, we were devastated. A couple months later we went to visit a friend who had just given birth. She specifically asked me to hold her daughter. I stared into her eyes mesmerized. It was as if I could see Heaven. It felt as if the baby was promising I would have more children. Two years later, I gave birth to a healthy baby boy. When a woman loses a child, it is beneficial to hold something in your arms, another child, pet…etc

Why would the RA wait 2 weeks to tell freshmen students what the rules of the residence are?

I want an update on story 4 when her friends visit!

What they should have done when they woke up to the food is just start taking everything that was there’s or made with there stuff (including what was on the two girls and the moms plates) and left nothing for them but what was there’s. If the mom started complaining just ignore her and start throwing some of the food away as you talk to your other roommates

When my daughter was born my mother in law explained she had raised her children and don't expect her to babysit ours, so we complied. After four years she asked why she only saw the granddaughter when we visited?

Driveway Karen. Just FYI according to an obscure law, only post office employees are allowed to put anything in a private mailbox/slot. Also only the person who owns the mailbox/slot is allowed to remove the items inside it. Technically Karen broke another law (trespassing, attempted grand theft auto).

I love seeing Karen's get the boot makes my day. I used to work with a guy who used to steal things from my Workstation, things like cigarettes or snacks that I would bring one time I even found my utility knife on his desk. Like dude all you got to do is ask but if you steal shit from me you ain't getting shit ever again. Long story short I set him up and ended up getting him fired but not before I got my revenge. I took a Hershey's chocolate bar wrapper and wrapped it around a bar of laxatives he took the bait and thought he was eating a Hershey's chocolate bar. He was absent from work for about 3 days after that and his first day back I set him up and got him fired. Wonder if he ever learned his lesson... probably not.

One I have, her brother's daughter, had a stillborn, or it died a few hours later. She smoked, drank and took drugs during pregnancy, so it was no wonder it happened. When the child died, she sobbed and posted pictures of the dead baby on Facebook. For the next many years, every time the child would have been born or it was a holiday she would howl and put up pictures of the dead baby. A little premature baby, with tubes in and out of him, dying, it's not a pretty picture. One of the world's worst Christmas cards. My friend's mother, her grandmother, felt bad every time she saw the pictures, and asked if she couldn't stop putting them up. She was completely turned off by that and definitely believed that she had the right to put up pictures of her dead baby. My friend couldn't handle that and more or less cut off contact with her. She later had a child who was not stillborn. But that child will probably never live up to the dead baby. It was a horrible dead baby joke. My baby is dead, so give me attention and sympathy for the next twenty years.

This kind of things never happen in my country cause if you steal someone parking spot, park in someone driveway or block someone driveway then your car is gonna suffer some sort of unfortunate and very costly accident or you can end up without a car.

For the parking spot since he has proof saying she can't park there it is considered a trespassing in witch the you can get the police involved. This would be a criminal trespass now since she was told to stay off once already, furthermore if there is any damage like lawn has tire marks or her cars leaking oil on your driveway, that could be a lawsuit for damages to private property

I wonder if the stolen food on the last story was ever reimbursed ?

The driveway story. I hope that OP has 'Private Property, No Parking' signs up.

This is the perfect way to start the day! Thank you so much!!!

No, that sister is nuts. When she starts on OP again, tell her and the rest of the family she, Julie needs to see a therapist to help deal with her loss. NTA!

I have terrible trouble with my weight due to medical conditions, but I don't disallow slim people from turning up to events that I'm at, just because I have difficulty losing weight. She needs to get a grip.

What's really bad about story 4 is her guests will have to pay tow bills for something they have no clue wasn't permitted to begin with. Hope they sue her.

As someone that might not be able to have kids, I would NEVER demand people not have their kids around me, in fact, I found out when I was 5 I might not be able to have kids, AND BABY SAT MY FRIEND'S CHILD when she was like a year old, while both of us were barely 18. I took that kiddo to the park (close enough to walk, and I'd carry her if she got tired) and enjoyed the time I had with her. I might not be able to have kids, but this lady who demands no one bring kids around her, needs to get into some psychiatric help to help her through her feelings, instead of stuffing them down and demanding no one have their kids around her. Other people's kids are actually much nicer to deal with than your own, cause at least they go BACK to their parents and you only have to deal with them for a short bit. I wouldn't want to know the kids she'd raise being THAT entitled.

Story #4: I would've bought the woman an umbrella and said, "Problem solved, don't park here anymore."

I think Karen had the hots for Enzo and couldn't bear to see him leave!

If Karen's guests knew about that letter, about using your driveway they'd be embarrassed. They wouldn't park there.

First story: The woman who miscarried needs therapy ASAP. If she doesn't, the anger and grief will fester and possibly erupt into violence. It wasn't said whether she was entitled prior to this issue, but her behavior is telling. How do I know? I always wanted a large family. I went through 3 miscarriages (1 second trimester) before carrying my first child to term. Then 9 years, and 2 more miscarriages before my second baby. That's a LOT of heartache. Yes, at times it was very hard to deal with, but life goes on. I had some therapy and did a lot of reading on the subject. I hope she gets the help she needs.

Story 6: Doesn't matter how nice Enzo usually is. The OP basically told the women to take the abuse because he's usually so "nice". Um, no. Abuse is abuse, no matter how "nice" someone has been in the past. That's bullshit.

Last story: You dealt with with Karen for 2 weeks!? Nah, I would've had Karen gone the day I found her on my Xbox. I would be raising ALL kinds of hell, and due to the blatant disrespect for my belongings, I would make sure the entire campus knew about it and how much Katie let's her mother control her. What Katie and her mother did goes beyond disrespecting her roommates. Katie showed that she dousnt respect other people enough to live with them without her dorm mates worrying about their items being used without permission. We dont KNOW that everything happened because of her mother. But we DO know that Katie let it happen, and didnt take the necessary steps to stop her mother. That makes Katie just as much at fault as her mother. And that makes her dangerous.

Story 2: It's time to go NC with the fam. That's beyond ridiculous.

My sister had similar issues with having children. When I was pregnant she was nothing but happy for us. She loves my daughter and wouldn’t miss a birthday for anything. She now has children of her own which was an ordeal in itself. I give my sister kudos for going through what she went to and remained strong.

Story 1: I would have said "if you want me to take care of your things, you take care of mine. On your knees." Story 2: Only way to overcome the trauma is to face it. The more you hide from it, the bigger the trauma becomes. Exposure therapy FTW. Story 3: high five to OP. Story 4: I would take that first day off to give one heads up to her friends, point to the ring doorbell, and explain that this convo is recorded for when their friend makes them accessories to theft and trespassing, in case they wonder why the eventual court summons. Story 6: old story, so updates? Story 7: hope Katie enjoys eating Ramen as she pays people back for their food, or asks her mom for $100 to repay the stolen food she's now on the hook for.

OMG 2WEEEKS, MY FOOD HELL NO

If I offer to do a favor for someone and they complain that it wasn't enough, they get nothing from me ever again.

Story 2: Sister, at this point I think you need some major therapy. It seems that our attempts to help you grieve your losses has not helped, and you need to professional help.