Clinginess is only a by-product of lack of connection which avoidants are known for. I was known for being clingy and 'insecure' because I wanted more time spent with my partner. She'd put up these boundaries and rules to limit the amount of time we could spend throughout the week. You'll end up making yourself more anxious when your needs aren't being met just to satisfy the avoidant, which will make you more clingy.
@lokidarkbeard26478 ай бұрын
Good advice. This is why I watch your videos.
@ApolloniaPonti8 ай бұрын
Thank you so much for watching!
@GlendonGross8 ай бұрын
Excellently presented and clear. I'm in a relationship like this right now, which has been platonic so far. I really appreciate the help. I've been reading about attachment styles, and I know that I tend towards anxious/preoccupied with this particular friend (and other past relationships) and my friend is definitaly on the avoidant side. I've been learning to take my time and give her the space she needs, and it seems to be helping. Thanks for everything you do to help men like me establish lasting relationships.
@4hinson7778 ай бұрын
I've cross paths with a few women that meet this criteria, it makes sense now. Know what to do moving forward. 😉👌🏽
@ApolloniaPonti8 ай бұрын
Perfect!
@rankupofficial14246 ай бұрын
This is exactly what I needed to hear. I almost sent her a long message with warnings and ultimatums, good thing I took a pause to take time to study her. I didn't know about that Avoidant thing before this video.
@Jimmy911ism8 ай бұрын
'Relationships often dance to the tune if those who care the least'. So relevant to my recent failed relationship.
@robodobro8 ай бұрын
great videos. I think yours are way more informational then all the others ive watched combined.
@ApolloniaPonti8 ай бұрын
I appreciate that!
@TomFox18 ай бұрын
Sorry ap but it’s not possible. I have tried, it was not last long, she will leave you. Not possible for heathly nor long term or marriage. she is simply avoidant cause she has problems.
@officialtriggadkins23608 ай бұрын
No body should dated them I date one she’s leave me 2 time now u say enough
@TomFox18 ай бұрын
@@officialtriggadkins2360 Exactly! Just a good hit and run. seriously.
@TomFox18 ай бұрын
AP respond.
@tarekdib33182 ай бұрын
Great video and so accurate! Thank you Apollonia
@Brendan-058 ай бұрын
Another awesome video. Learning heaps but no opportunity to use yet. Not having much luck getting a woman to go on a date with me. Tried to talk to almost 30 women over the last few weeks and not one date. Asked women at work if they can set me up with a single friend and nothing. Appears I’ll be spending Christmas alone again (no family), I was so confident that I’d get a girlfriend. No choice but to keep trying, couple of weeks left 😊.
@rendeverance8 ай бұрын
Probably because you're trying too hard, desperation is something women can pick up on right away, and it marks you as low value... The moment you stop trying you will probably find your luck changes... Be comfortable being you first 👍
@Brendan-058 ай бұрын
@@rendeverance true and thank you. Done that for the last few years with people telling me it will happen naturally, but even at dance classes where I went to learn and have fun, and women were 4 to 1,I had no luck. Trying to plan next steps. Would settle for just a smile at the moment.
@russgrimes55318 ай бұрын
How to date an avoidant: DONT. Let them be lonely until they decide to grow up and heal.
@TomFox18 ай бұрын
Yes
@maxwell-cole8 ай бұрын
This is absolutely one of the most informative and excellent videos. Excellent post.
@ApolloniaPonti8 ай бұрын
Thank you so much!
@romarioyazeembenting46545 ай бұрын
This video was perfect, can't believe ifound a video that caters to exactly my situation. Thank you so much ❤
@ROBERTDAVis22715 ай бұрын
Wonderful video 👍🏿
@LastEarBender8 ай бұрын
Well, this kinda sums up my 14yr on again/ off again relationship...
@Geschwurbel8 ай бұрын
I often have the feeling that something that beginns with M, ends with A and has DM in the middle could help those woman a lot. I fu*d up my brain completely over this year because I dated an avoidant girl after being alone for 13 years and having no clue about relationships and stuff, the only thing I got right was waiting to reply....
@Jimmy911ism8 ай бұрын
I feel you, but please spell it out. Bad enough the riddles from the women.
@Geschwurbel8 ай бұрын
@@Jimmy911ism MDMA ^^
@elcarlitosj83048 ай бұрын
Hi AP
@ApolloniaPonti8 ай бұрын
Hi there!
@PrezidentHughes5 ай бұрын
So men have to initiate most things EXCEPT with this sort of person. Tell me that's not confusing. 😵💫
@TheRealPdro8 ай бұрын
You cannot allow an emotionally unstable or emotionally immature person guide or lead a relationship as you get older she’s gonna become worse and naw bruh she ain’t giving you no sex Better hit up the sex shop!!!!!
@TomFox18 ай бұрын
Yes
@Jumpmaster19908 ай бұрын
These people have a lot of trauma and baggage usually. They will lash out at you when you try to get close to them. Stay far far away.
@Johnwickslittlebrother8 ай бұрын
😎
@PedroDVC7 ай бұрын
Best way to date one... don't date one!
@teleshyam268 ай бұрын
Really nice video! i was wondering if i could help you edit your videos and make them more engaging as well as create short content out of them.