Dating Scene In Berlin: Why Is It Hard To Find True Love? Real Talk With Locals

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Watch Berlin's complex dating scene with this enlightening video as residents share their struggles and insights. Why is dating in Berlin considered challenging? What are the unique aspects of the dating culture here? From the reliance on dating apps to the city's vibrant social life, learn what makes finding love in Berlin different from other cities.
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@RundfunkerOnline Ай бұрын

The problem with social media is that people think there is always someone better out there and that’s why it is very difficult. You are never treated as a catch, despite having a lot to offer.

@aikighost Ай бұрын

Yep Socials and Dating Apps help create the illusion of infinite choice, and there is but only for hookups. Not for serious relationships.

@citpelocitycit7663 Ай бұрын

They think that because they self are not the best Version of themself, or they looking for what they not have... they dont know who they are .... they dont follow what they talk make you not a strong independent person 😂😂😂thats goes to All genders

@Carlashnikov996 Ай бұрын

on point

@citpelocitycit7663 Ай бұрын

Berlin is poor thats the offer

@helloworld7818 23 күн бұрын

It's not only for hookups, that's what men say. Most girls I know using the apps want relationships. @@aikighost

@Brzusiosk8 2 ай бұрын

Dating in nowadays its almost impossible. Congarts to narcissistic social media and government you made it 👏

@Rainer125 Ай бұрын

But only because women exclusively only want 6‘4ft Chads

@rockon8174 Ай бұрын

😂😂😂😂

@Dutch_Engineer_Piff_Dahnk Ай бұрын

It's because of liberalism

@eksbocks9438 Ай бұрын

The whole point is to take whatever is logical or ethical. And go in the exact opposite direction. Just so they can keep us in a loop. And not do anything constructive at all.

@fatemad4012 Ай бұрын

@@eksbocks9438yes they are in loop😂

@paco9766 Ай бұрын

I am based in Berlin and I think it is extremely easy to meet new people, go on dates, and have a good time. For those who are also new in the city, going out on dates is a good way to explore the districts and get to know bars and cool places. The problem I see with the dating scene in Berlin is that a lot of people have mental health issues and instead of going to therapy, they go on dating apps. Also, a lot of people after moving here, went out on dates with an open heart to genuinely find someone but after 3 or 4 ghosts, people think "Well, I also was ghosted, so from now on I also don't care anymore" and everybody starts looking at people as "discardable things". This probably has nothing to do with Berlin but with the dating app culture. From what I know, my friends back home (Portugal) also struggle a lot with dating and they live in small towns. Perhaps the problem is due to dating apps and social media. People have so many options that it seems impossible for someone to commit (fear of missing out). It is called "The Paradox of Choices".

@vladcraioveanu233 Ай бұрын

Why commit? LET'S HAVE FUN!

@dontcare9005 Ай бұрын

It's definetly social media and dating apps. All the scientific evidence points towards that. It's the pure accessibility that makes potential partners an expandable ressource which can be replaced with little effort. Thus the selective pressure on each individual spirals out of control. Humans are naturally not made for this kind and amount of mating possibilities.

@aylincakir7298 Ай бұрын

really well put together 👏

@Ukri1 19 күн бұрын

It's hard to find someone who doesnt have mental health issues or some disorders which really drag you down. Better be single than being in a borderline crazy relationship

@ccccccshi 13 күн бұрын

⁠@@Ukri1 I think most of people nowadays have some mental health issues, which I think isn’t the biggest issue. The approach to it is bigger problem, and also the fact that people don’t care about it and do nothing about it. Like person in the comment said “instead of going to therapy they go to dating apps”. And stigmatization of borderline personality disorder is another problem of our society. Of course it is hard, like in every relationship, trauma is a big problem and cause here. But if the person is aware of it and is getting enough help, therapy and works on themselves, then the relationship can work pretty well. Also other person in the relationship has to be very supportive, patient and understanding. Our society and mental health system makes bpd look very bad, incurable, crazy and the worst u can have. But thats just stigmatization of it and it is actually way more complex, trauma-based than just putting label “disorder” to it. So please try do bigger research before u just stigmatize it and write off people with some mental health issues.

@mr6sg Ай бұрын

The guy holding the dog said it all.

@wien1563 27 күн бұрын

Yeah he was so on point and very true in general concerning not only Berlin i guess but also the current lack of commitment/patience towards another person in the whole of modern society

@somefiend5460 Күн бұрын

@@wien1563yeah it’s been hard to make friends for the same reason

@__moonlight__ Ай бұрын

it's not just Berlin, these problems are common all over the US and Europe

@Smartcom5 Ай бұрын

Though the Big Cities represent the pinnacle of it, especially the shallow and meaningless lifestyle.

@gabele2386 Ай бұрын

Trust me, its way more a problem in Berlin then other German cities

@melonytoni9016 Ай бұрын

@@gabele2386 I live in munich. I dated quite alot through dating apps. People are just rushing through people. You get nexted for the smallest things. People dating multiple people at once, shotgun approach.

@seahorse_rider Ай бұрын

I live in Oslo, exact same thing

@NoctLightCloud Ай бұрын

@@seahorse_ridereven in Oslo? damn there's no hope for Europe😂

@Mya-Elba 5 ай бұрын

0:55 that’s an international problem it’s not only in Berlin 😢 dating apps are a cancer spread worldwide, each person in this video seems to be nice and genuine, I wish they'll all find their soulmate in 2024

@TheMovementHub 5 ай бұрын

They make it easier and harder at the same time. I personally don't like them at all.

@thomaseberhard9056 Ай бұрын

I totally agree! They all seem indeed kinda sympatic, so what they conclude is actually very sad!!

@aikighost Ай бұрын

@@TheMovementHub they make hooking up easier but they destroy the idea of actual relationships and give people the "too many options= no choices get made" issue. The sooner all dating apps are banned the better off the world will be. Either that or welcome in the coming worldwide population collapse.

@ronnie5329 Ай бұрын

Women who keeps meeting men, that do not want to commit, and just want casual relationships, need to understand they are "shopping" way out of their league, and it happens a lot on those apps. And men and women need to figure out how to flirt in real life again. I am late 30s in a long term relationship, and I notice it, women are not sending any choosing signals at all. And if they do, I have serious doubt that men know it, unless it is a very clear choosing signal. Also, gotta meet in local activities, volunteer for something, and if you are a woman, and find chemistry with a man there, please send a clear choosing signal to him. Looking at him will not do the trick. Smile, laugh at his jokes, and maybe even touch his shoulder. Ever since metoo i think men dont know how their advances will be looked at, especially those you actually want to be with, those who are considerate.

@thomaseberhard9056 Ай бұрын

@@ronnie5329 i feel this Statement a loot! It is very unfortunate…

@_forester_ Ай бұрын

As a German, I would never date someone who voluntarily decided to live in Berlin.

@derKosmoprolet369 Ай бұрын

As a German, I would never date somebody, who would prefer to live in Munich ( my f.....in 'hometown btw)

@CS-ox9hn Ай бұрын

Why?

@SimonB. Ай бұрын

@@CS-ox9hn Berlin is a place for pretentious hipsters.

@fnuppyfnup Ай бұрын

Berlin used to be a cool place, now it is either grimey or a playground for rich kids pretending to be troubled artists.

@GingerDrums Ай бұрын

@@fnuppyfnuptrue

@user-zf9ir8kx3c Ай бұрын

I'm 27 and have never dated or had intimacy in Germany. I was too busy with university, family, and sports. It is hard to find a partner who appreciates your existence.

@RundfunkerOnline Ай бұрын

Exactly. Nowadays due to social media, people often think there is always someone better somewhere and have little patience in getting to know each other. They want instant heat and then wonder why that doesn’t work longterm with persons who behave like that.

@mattata-san Ай бұрын

If your blonde and blue eyed shush and make children. Otherwise no loss

@vladcraioveanu233 Ай бұрын

Why A partner?! HAVE SEX. ENJOY. EXPERIMENT. THE MORE SEX YOU HAVE, THE MOST LIKELY YOU WILL FIND LIKE MINDED AND F___ PEOPLE.

@DanyLeeRoth Ай бұрын

male or female

@user-eh5zk5bb9k 23 күн бұрын

totally understand, system is broken

@nedthestaffieegan3452 Ай бұрын

The chap with the poodle comes across as genuine and sweet. He's got a healthy attitude to relationships, it must be difficult when the dating scene is not conducive to such attitudes. Hope he finds someone who is on his wavelength 😊

@JennaHasm 4 күн бұрын

Don't be fooled. Asian men ABSOLUTELY go for women way outside their league and are single because they only go for the top atractive women that pay 60/40 of the bills (not 50/50). I know several men that want women that will pay 80% of the bills and work.

@kyonkyon2010 Ай бұрын

Seems the 'Plague of Hookup' is a universal problem for most big metropolitan city. It's nearly impossible dating normally

@DelasVC Ай бұрын

Why it‘s hard to find real commitment? For a multitude of reasons. Globalization, social media - but I’d say one of the most important ones is that everybody wants to be independent these days. Men _and_ women! Society desperately conditioned itself to not be reliant on anyone directly anymore, everybody wants to do their own thing. And therefore we get the results we (or the generations before us for that matter) were asking for, simple as that..

@Hardawayfits Ай бұрын

So true. I only have youtube. I let every guy know who wants to get my number or take me on a date....That I want to get married. I'm not interested in anything else😊

@apollontheintp3257 Ай бұрын

Independence means loneliness

@sabrinagonzales4456 Ай бұрын

@@apollontheintp3257No it’s not u incel. It means freedom, making your own choices, etc. U are supposed to be independent.

@apollontheintp3257 Ай бұрын

@@sabrinagonzales4456 We are supposed to become one.

@sabrinagonzales4456 Ай бұрын

@@apollontheintp3257 No we are not, that’s prison. Freedom, peace, independence, and unlimited growth is the way. Nothing can’t compete with that.

@lizzybuzzy3669 Ай бұрын

,,Like lots of Egos nowadays“

@S.W.-td2hk Ай бұрын

I was born in Berlin and most of my friends were also born here. Most of them are in serious relationships. The problem with Berlin is there are so many tourists and that a lot of people who move here don‘t plan to stay here for long, so they‘re only looking for casual things.

@andreypopov6166 2 күн бұрын

there are also many immigrants who doesnt speak german so at least meeting locals is a huge challenge :)

@carinah2212 5 күн бұрын

I found my love in Berlin. We are happy together. Don‘t give up!!

@johannsalzstreuer5006 Ай бұрын

i call Berlin borderline city since over 20 years already. and it gets worse and worse daily. i just moved here to work as a relationshipcoach. what an irony.

@frank7425 Ай бұрын

Omg a relationshipcoach in Berlin…lots of work to do I guess😵‍💫

@AnnaGrace603 24 күн бұрын

You will never run out of clients😂

@annah995 17 күн бұрын

Please leave. We don't need any more shitty relationshipcoaches in Berlin, we really do have enough. And why you move to a city which you don't like is beyond me. (I am from Berlin, grew up their, am married.)

@adeptonihilam3150 14 күн бұрын

@@annah995it’s not written here that she/he doesn’t like the city, it’s just an opinion which you took it negatively and too personal, cause the truth hurts he he😂

@wolfeater4949 Ай бұрын

The social engineers changed the system without tests. So the change did not work, and there is no backout strategy.

@Soooeren 11 күн бұрын

I live in Potsdam next to Berlin and after my last break up I dated quite a lot. I quickly realized how superficial and ego-driven the whole thing is. I remember: One of my first Berlin Dates "taughted" me, what Situationships are :D If you wanna have deep connections, Berlin is truly a struggle. Do not date there 😂

@pascalstraetmans5598 5 ай бұрын

I feel like it is a general problem for the younger generations nowadays ..

@TheMovementHub 5 ай бұрын

That, and I guess it is even amplified in large cities. Less close-knit communities, more possibilities, and more independent thinking.

@raze956 2 ай бұрын

@@TheMovementHub "more independent thinking" that last point is not true at all.

@marcusr3795 Ай бұрын

@@raze956I would say yes because there’s less community so your somewhat forced to be independent since you can only have small amount of close relationships. Look at Dunbars number for example.

@az6462 Ай бұрын

@@marcusr3795 Absolutely!

@Zi_gemi8222 Ай бұрын

I like how the guy in a brown coat speaks about trying. People nowadays change partners thinking it gets better, but not

@MrMadalien 2 ай бұрын

Hypergamy, worldwide problem.

@DelasVC Ай бұрын

That‘s not the single responsible factor..

@gmaxh4549 Ай бұрын

That's not a reason for hookups...

@jobser2k977 Ай бұрын

@@gmaxh4549 Yes, hookups arise from female hypergamy. Because women only mate with the best men. Most men who have data, however, do not have sex.

@MrMadalien Ай бұрын

@@gmaxh4549 It is! Sexuality is connected with perception of value, hook up culture is all about women pursuing men of very high value that are never going to commit to them, so they just sleep around until eventually realizing this doesn't work. Every once in a while, a lower value person will get lucky. Of course this is just a massive generalization and of course every single person is different and there are many unique forms of relationship and romance which defy this reality. However this is the trend of the 21st century thanks to phones and social media.

@patrix1987 Ай бұрын

Stop basing your views exclusively on all the red pill content out there and get some real life experience..

@godemperorletoatreidesii6971 Ай бұрын

I’ve never really participated in the hookup culture cause of low self esteem but I would rather have random hookups than take someone serious who lived the hook up life and now wants a safety net that just seems like volunteering to be a sucker.

@TV-oc4ml Ай бұрын

Exactly they’ve been independent their whole life and now that I have wealth I’m expected to share?? 😂

@eichkater6928 Ай бұрын

its funny that you mention low self esteem being a barrier to participate in the hookup culture. Its exactly the opposite. From a very deep psychological aspect -and this might hit you like a train wreck - when participating in hookup culture people objectify themselves and want to be used and thrown away. The smart ones become escorts and use money as a barrier, treat it like a business to avoid emotional damage and as a compensation for not being able to bond on the long run. Now why is that? Its because when having *low self esteem* we want to connect with people who treat us the same way we see ourselves - like trash, unworthy to love, being abandoned like parents did. Thats exactly the reason why women with low self esteem love bad guys, getting cheated on, tolerating toxic behaviour and getting bored by nice guys. Because nice guys treat women with respect, mutual understanding. Nice guys dont mirror what women - or men - with low self esteem see inside themselves so its off - putting. If they continue to be nice, eventually the partner will induce bad behavior by cheating, verbal abuse etc so they can finally be treated mean again. And attraction, albeit unconscious, increases. Furthermore, when there was no Me/mother but only Me/stranger because of no emotional connection when growing up its very easy to hook up with a lot of people, because they see the same distant parental figure in every new dating encounter. Thus, its easy use people as toys, break up and go on with life the next day, hooking up the coming night with a stranger. There is simply no " glue "

@rockon8174 Ай бұрын

????? 🤨 did you read what you just wrote.

@TV-oc4ml Ай бұрын

@@rockon8174 read it again for clarification!

@user-sz9lm9wb9d Ай бұрын

How will you ever know there past .. everyone is lying each other ... nobody can be trusted men should be ruthless in coping with lies , brkups , infedility etc ..and women should choose wisely have patience 😊

@Redangel.199 Ай бұрын

Im a Berliner and my husband dated me 3 months before he received his first kiss from me. We are married now and got 3 children… We are together since 12 years. He’s my first sexual partner and I’m his second… you can find true love everywhere. Focus on one person and don’t date multiple people at once. Invest time and real feelings in the right person. Choose your partner not only because of their looks… search for a good soul… The problem in Berlin is that everybody has sex with everyone. No one wants to invest time and feelings in one person. They always think someone who is better waits around the next corner.

@TheMovementHub 10 күн бұрын

Happy to hear. I wish you all the best!

@Redangel.199 10 күн бұрын

@@TheMovementHub thank you ♥️

@caribbeankpoplover Күн бұрын

This is so true!

@Redangel.199 Күн бұрын

@@caribbeankpoplover thank you so much ♥️♥️♥️♥️

@antonrud 2 ай бұрын

Liebe kommt nicht aus Berlin.

@amankumar5602 Ай бұрын

Durch die Nase ins Herz

@bugra320 Ай бұрын

I don't think it comes from Dusseldorf either

@gabele2386 Ай бұрын

Kann dem zwar zustimmen, allerdings kenne ich hier halt auch hunderte Paare und Ehen, die das Gegenteil beweisen

@mattata-san Ай бұрын

@@gabele2386 generelle Aussagen mit Ausnahmen widerlegen. Der 80er iq zeigt sich

@unregierbar7694 Ай бұрын

@@gabele2386 Gut für die hunderte Paare unter Millionen von Menschen. Wow.

@kennywon 8 күн бұрын

Found my husband in Berlin on tinder 😂 after 5 Date 🎉🎉🎉 got married after 11 months now is five years together still happy everyday ❤❤❤

@TheMovementHub 8 күн бұрын

Congratulations 🎉🎉. Best of luck to you

@paulsmith5611 Ай бұрын

The fact that people move around so much and there is so much diversity, both cultural diversity and diverse lifestyles, contribute to the decline in long term relationships. We are all strangers living close together that have very little in common, except sex and maybe one or two tv shows that we watch, and long term relationships are rarely possible when that's all you have in common. We really don't care about the people around us and why should we? They have nothing to do with our immediate lives and offer little to no emotional value.

@marcusr3795 Ай бұрын

Yeah I’m think towards the future this will not end well looking at the macro scale IMO.

@NoctLightCloud Ай бұрын

exactly. hardly anyone cares about neighbourhoods and societal cohesion. Berlin is just a stop amongst many for a significant amount of residents.

@natasciaceci5475 Ай бұрын

I like the guy with the dog! I'm here :)

@lamariposa5919 20 сағат бұрын

He seems homosexual

@Tanya.Tsarkova 2 ай бұрын

How is it that everybody is bragging about that everybody wants only hookups? Where are those “hookupers” if the only people who answer the question are looking for a serious relationship?

@Smartcom5 2 ай бұрын

Where are the ones of those people who only want hookups? *Open your eyes!* _They're standing in front of the camera!_ *These are the very same, just at a different time.* Since the majority of _young_ people going to big cities to study, are going there, to experience the carelessness of the Big City Lifestyle, study and nothing else - What is always expressively attached to the Big City Lifestyle, is hookup-culture, and it always was ever since. Yet *no-one* actually dares to put it that way and keeps that part left out on purpose, to gloss over degeneracy. So when saying they're only going to study in Berlin, Munich, London, New York, L.A., Sydney or some places else, they're actually *genuine* and saying the truth, though only _half_ of it … Since what they're all quite eager and about to go 'studying' (next to their claimed subjects and pleaded area of studying), are actually _The free Spirits and Subjects of carefree sexual Carelessness_ and the resulting hookup-culture, which is their actual field of interest, and was from the very beginning. _The carefree _*_sex_*_ itself is their main field of interest and _*_actual_*_ subjects to go studying!_ Everything else like the pleaded 'fields of study' are just a lame excuse for it, and that's how it's often treated, let slide and oftentimes failed. Many of them even go so far and make their main interest and resulting sloppiness a habit, which results in acute sloopines, letting slide their claimed areas of interest to the point of actually failing it and and in life and get expelled from their universities for being too miserable to participate. This giant spring break of carelessness over years, is _always a _*_wanted and absolutely intended break off and break-up from their former familiar surroundings_*_ and familiarity of the small town they're coming from_ (which is *judging* them), to circumvent societal restrictions. It's a deliberate break from familiarity of their own home-towns into the anonymity of the big cities. That is maintained until everyone of them (especially the women) are running out of time and have to find a long-term solution for going forward in life. … and that's when they're often get back home into the familiarity of their home-towns, just to find a clueless guy or gal to get with - Just to act as if no·thing ever happened and constantly tell anyone how awfully tedious and boring it was studying in the big cities (… all that in noble hopes no-one ever finds out anything of what ever happened prior to that in the big cities). The worst ones, who deliberately broke off with their families and ruined all ties forever in favour of the lifestyle they urgently craved and wanted under all circumstances back then, are the ones who have to _stay_ in these big cities, since they have no longer any place of familiarity to go for - The Big City Lifestyle has become their most familiar surroundings by then. Before it was the unprejudiced anonymity and necessary open-mindedness they were looking for, to engage in bodily degeneracy without being called out for it … All this happening is nothing new and is going on since the full last blown century and started even around 1850 … Nothing new under the sun. *So where are the ones actually wanting all those hookups!?* _Ask the younger versions of them they were, when they came_ - Not only into the big cities but other casual acquaintances' beds! *tl;dr:* Sex and The City was never a movie, it's a documentary and it always was and never anything else - Just tailored into a movie-length film format for the big picture!

@Tanya.Tsarkova 2 ай бұрын

@@Smartcom5bro, I’m not reading your dating PhD dissertation 😂😂😂

@Smartcom5 2 ай бұрын

@@Tanya.Tsarkova To bad, you might have learned something new! Ignorance is bliss, right? Though don't come crying later on, where all the good men would be hiding. 🥰

@Tanya.Tsarkova 2 ай бұрын

@@Smartcom5I guess they’re all busy writing longreads in the comment section

@arian5126 2 ай бұрын

Good men write long. I give you a short one. Wanna hook me up?

@Epoch-vu8cj Ай бұрын

Dating apps are majority male users. People are hooking up via social media, it's going down in the DM's. That's the reality. Getting rid of dating apps won't change anything

@sebbedelle Ай бұрын

Nice program- serious and informative - good work

@TheMovementHub Ай бұрын

Thanks a lot :)

@mosalami1548 Ай бұрын

Berlin is a STD. People confuse it with a city often, no shame about it.

@user-kv3rj4cv8i 2 ай бұрын

I disagree. It s also hard in countryside to date-people are also busy there. I see it as a dynamic in the society because of the changes ( families are not anymore simply pragmatic, roles of men and women are luckily not anymore split in one is earning money and the other one is emotionally and financially depending on the other one ), media changes a lot, but also working life and mentality of course. It s not only Berlin, I experienced it in small towns and in villages too and I know others make these experiences too.

@Kmy-karlin 2 ай бұрын

What you said are truly right. So thoughtful. Actually everything are changing and some people will find way but some people can not. But i think love is alwYs needed maybe it changed into different forms but yes some old days love seem more romantic.

@user-kv3rj4cv8i Ай бұрын

@@Kmy-karlin Old day love actually was not more romantic-it was more toxic actually: more dependency, more standards, more pressure of norm, ,more pragmatic. There will be new forms-there are already

@opa8928 Ай бұрын

I live in Dubai, have watched those daring videos about NYC and Berlin and Scandinavia, and I see the same pattern everywhere.

@sibsibx 19 күн бұрын

So how is it in Dubai?

@Kmy-karlin 2 ай бұрын

Thank you for people who took interviews and I have some confusions/questions: that are all true (in their mind) but are you not equally same person or are you really a better person ? Did you really take first steps or just gave up really understanding and truly loving that person? The conditions and difficulties and differences you said are the root problems? Are/were you really be honest and do/did you really stand at the same positions to really understand yourself? ( lf it were right that what they want to express / see those are negative to themselves. So here "better " i mean more open minded or deeply want-to-know and people who try all they can to always find ways to make opportunities or efforts if you REALLY want)

@esahm373 27 күн бұрын

I'm a born and raised Berliner and I never had a hookup. These "Zugezogene" must live in some parallel bubble from my reality.

@christianhabermann6527 14 күн бұрын

same brother, same

@E.Mulchi 5 күн бұрын

I mean they make up more than half of the population and probably much more in the younger demographic at least judging by how surprised people are when I tell them I was born here. I think two or three people in my workplace out of 50 were born in Berlin haha

@sichtbeton 13 күн бұрын

I am from Berlin. Almost everyone I know is in a serious, long term relationship. These people are Expats and tourists and they work / party/ line in their own distinct bubble. The problem these people in the video describe is a problem of this bubble and this only.

@moneybunny4502 Ай бұрын

May God guide all the young people in berlin

@Bishlambo Ай бұрын

Social media and dating apps ruined it for us. Girls started thinking they’re all models because of the constant validation of simps.

@M4nNfR3D Ай бұрын

@@bugra320 simps can be incels too..

@Bishlambo Ай бұрын

Yes i meant simps. I corrected my comment.

@aikighost Ай бұрын

Indeed Social Media and Dating apps create the illusion of "infinite choice". But its only infinite choice for hookups, not serious relationships. Think of it this way. Who profits from hookup culture and not many serious long term relationships? Its not a conspiracy theory to just follow the money. The apps are engineered to keep you on them for as long as possible.

@ronnie5329 Ай бұрын

Women who keeps meeting men, that do not want to commit, and just want casual relationships, need to understand they are shopping way out of their league. Someone needs to tell them, because other women will not. As they see them as competition.

@melonytoni9016 Ай бұрын

@@ronnie5329 Everyone who tells them is labeled sexist or incel. The thing is women are not honest with themself in their circles. They gassing each other up how beautiful and pretty they are. Men jump in on it in hopes to get laid. So women never really face reality the way men are in the dating scene. If you are unattractive as a man, you will know very fast growing up.

@1La2La3La4La Күн бұрын

love this video and information shared. Thank you.

@TheMovementHub Күн бұрын

Glad you enjoyed it!

@lightoftheworld417 Ай бұрын

I fell in love in Berlin. Her name was Berliner Pilsner.

@user-gs8jv4oq6w Ай бұрын

😂

@TheMovementHub 10 күн бұрын

😂

@uve_viktor_doom 9 күн бұрын

Very accurate the guy with the dog. Everyone is busy and mostly in their own world.

@Meyouletsgo 18 күн бұрын

People are saying Berlin and Germans I’ve moved to 5 continents and the dating crisis is everywhere ! 😮people are flakey and it’s weird etc same stuff happen everywhere from America to Middle East ! 😮 No place is ‘immune’ now ! With globalization the standard is the same ! Worldwide !

@lucyblue7057 Ай бұрын

Damn apparently this is international...

@ammolator Ай бұрын

The more advanced the people are, the more ego they have and the harder it is for dating. Visit any underdeveloped country and you see people there are living happily as couple.

@NatavanQuliyeva 14 күн бұрын

Couldn’t agree more👏🏻👏🏻

@Mircea020 Ай бұрын

Dating world is fucked. Most people are selfish and it's all about backstabbing and who does it first. There are alternatives #mgtow

@Alazar654 Ай бұрын

live on, mgtow!!!!!!

@barryrahn5957 Ай бұрын

It seems very fragmented and lonely - do a lot of people here die of loneliness and alienation?

@az6462 Ай бұрын

Yes, they do :/ By su*cide. Lots of mental health problems in big metropolitan cities nowadays.

@dilyanadecheva8178 23 күн бұрын

I think the problem comes from having lack of understanding of our values. Majority people today , regardless of their location, are lost in knowing what they care about and what they want. Our basic human needs are more than covered and humans do not need to try so hard to make money in order to survive. We have all lost a purpose and a meaning, which is reflected on our job and and on our relationships. Some people might really not want to have a relationship, but they just need to face themselves that this is the case. We do not know ourselves and the focus on ourselves became more after the introduction of social media and peaked around Covid times. The more people get to know themselves, forgive and forget, the better it will be. But it takes time, effort and self awareness.

@felixg.6493 Ай бұрын

02:20 complete delusion. Loves hook ups and wants to find a partner through short time dating, but doesn't have the mental capacity to recognize the contradiction why her life is not working out.

@shambhavipatel9183 Ай бұрын

She doesn't want anything with anyone. She is a part of that exhaustive crowd.

@az6462 Ай бұрын

Exactly

@az6462 Ай бұрын

Exactly

@Valkyri3Z 12 күн бұрын

I was planning to move to Germany from Canada until I met a bunch of people mostly immigrants ,who left Germany and came to Canada ,said it is impossible to make friends with Germans. I cancelled my plan for the time because Canada is bad enough but at least there are willing people and social groups where you meet friends , maybe not too close but still better than nothing. What i heard about Germany that it was worse. It killed my enthusiasm.

@TheMovementHub 10 күн бұрын

Try Spain

@Valkyri3Z 10 күн бұрын

@@TheMovementHub I could but they don't pay well.. lol also i think immigration rules are more complicated there

@TheMovementHub 9 күн бұрын

Yes that's true. Only if you have an income from outside it's worth it. But if you could manage that, it's an amazing place to live in Europe. The immigration process is tedius but doable.

@Laura-ic7ps 9 күн бұрын

Its true, i live here

@DutchinBrazil 6 күн бұрын

Same for Dutch people

@MrElectricSkittles 3 күн бұрын

I think the dating scene in Berlin has less to do with Berlin and more to do woth modern day dating as a whole. Short attention span, dating apps, instant gratification.. people and their time have become completely expendable which is absolutely the wrong approach and leaves people a very bad taste in their mouth after a couple bad experiences

@sotiriaxan1203 Ай бұрын

A lot of well thought comments here. I think boils down to that people nowadays are overly narcissistic without even realising and too much diversity around us, different backgrounds and waiting for the better deal that never appears .

@Rainer125 Ай бұрын

Honestly dating just sucks because of womens unrealistic insane standards. Not 6ft can’t date, not a 7/10 can’t date. Average men literally can’t participate in dating whatsoever anymore.

@nicolerodrigues1107 Ай бұрын

true

@AsgardTheFatcel Ай бұрын

Exactly.@@Rainer125

@tantemarianne1677 13 күн бұрын

If you want to date sexually active men and women who are easy to take home after a night out, Berlin is your go-to city, but finding love or at least someone who is mentally very stable, try again somewhere else

@airgaborpara3824 Ай бұрын

The guy with the dog was freakin right

@marvinlouis11111 Ай бұрын

08:40 She says random encounters with other people don't really happen but If you are an extreme extrovert like me you can meet new people all the time and it does not stop. Maybe my experience is just very positive because I live in a different kind of dating scene. Overall I am just 19 years old.

@citpelocitycit7663 Ай бұрын

They order fast food but expect a 3 star dinner 😂

@gintonicx6 Ай бұрын

Moldy bread more likely 🤣

@citpelocitycit7663 Ай бұрын

@@gintonicx6 moldy bread is in Berlin 3 Star

@citpelocitycit7663 Ай бұрын

@@gintonicx6 as a Berliner i like it shady but now it its bit rotten

@Donnld Ай бұрын

Im not dating rn but i live in Germany and this seems horrible

@globalone2819 16 күн бұрын

One of the main reason is: choice overload or called otherwise the paradoxe of choice.

@joejeb988 11 күн бұрын

Hey guys please tell me how is dating in FRANKFURT?

@airgaborpara3824 Ай бұрын

Join to sport teams and find friends , partners with the same interest. Escape from cities.

@SimonB. Ай бұрын

Because Berlin is full of pretentious people

@mikloridden8276 Ай бұрын

Everywhere now, but for sure the Europeans are the worst when it comes to ego. French especially.

@venomrx6442 Ай бұрын

Sounds like NY

@miamiheats9655 15 күн бұрын

What about London

@soulstar3342 Ай бұрын

Love is not something that you find it's something that you have ...

@jordanleiva5562 Ай бұрын

The way they describe it seem like the same thing in any others western country to me

@christianhabermann6527 14 күн бұрын

Impossible to date anybody in Berlin, it's so hard. And to be honest, most women are not attractive there, it's crazy how much lower the standard is compared to most other metropoles. I've never seen a women in a cute dress with long wavy hair in Berlin, not even in summer.

@jadwigajadwiga 10 күн бұрын

thanks!

@TheMovementHub 10 күн бұрын

You're welcome :)

@Pssst.ByTheWay Ай бұрын

5:19 did she really say “ lets be friends” and see what happens from there…. I mean its an option but im kind sure. For the right huy… she will know Dont be put in the friendzone , if you want more. Be honest with yourself. Sure maybe friends can get tobe more. But way too often, one person is holding out hope.

@jagannath9038 6 күн бұрын

This city is horrible in every way possible. People don’t respect each other, elevated egos, unrealistic expectations, people drain your mental health and energy, women crave for attention from other men even though they have a boyfriend, hook up culture, everybody thinks they are the main character, STDs, Drugs, living life solely for the sake of attention and competition without a self driven purpose or ambition to enjoy what real beautiful things life offers. I regret moving here from Galway, Ireland which is such a charming town and full of friendly people where people lived their lives to the healthiest and happiest. Lost 2 years of my life into this shithole.

@kolise_koll 2 күн бұрын

You can get a lover easily in Berlin. It is totally up to you. I suggest you to go out and don't use the apps. You can meet people outside or invite them to your house and cook for them. The problem is that you don't know what you want!😂

@user-gd1rb5mm2e Ай бұрын

Idk why I clicked on this video, I've never lived in Berlin. It just seems to me every big city in Geemany is like that. I'm only glad I've got my husband and don't have to go through the monstrosity and idiocy called dating anymore.

@neverokay8 12 күн бұрын

berlin is hell, you can't change my mind. you can't pay me enough to move there.

@Jean-Jaures Ай бұрын

Es ist immer locker bis man jemanden trifft, wo es sich von Anfang an natürlich und gut anfühlt. Eine Beziehung ergibt sich ohne es von Anfang an darauf zu forcieren. Das Problem der Protagonisten ist, dass sie versuchen eine Beziehung herbeizuführen, obwohl es offensichtlich nicht so gut passt. Einfach weiter suchen, reflektieren und lernen wer zu einem passt. ;)

@michaelsonntag6792 11 күн бұрын

In a culture in which the marketing orientation predominates, in which material success is the highest value, one should hardly be surprised that human love relationships also take place according to the same exchange methods as those in the commodity and Labor market prevail. However, machines cannot love. They're just hoping for a fair deal.

@noreason7587 3 күн бұрын

You have to fall by learning to walk. A few times , then you know how you want to walk. Relationship is like that, who told us ? Nobody , who know their limits , their real self ? You learn it in extrem connection where someone can trigger it. Those who wait and not try, they will have it hard. And ones you find the right feeling don’t fucking let it go or destroy it. Many people are afraid then. You feel the real person. Everything will feel right. Like you can really solve everything.

@ty-zc6jh 16 күн бұрын

I was planning to date casually in Berlin but somehow the first man I dated ask for a relationship after a night together, he was so much younger than me so I quitted. Second man I dated he asked to marry me after 3rd date I had a relationship with him for a couple of months then I thought he is not for me. And then the 3rd man I dated, we are together for almost 2 years we got married a few months ago. So I do not relate to this interview at all. I see especially in Berlin men are so open to commitment and stability in their life. They are kind of tired of women who only wants casual things. That is my observation.

@raveenjaya5573 2 күн бұрын

I think expectations are high from both sides.Especially women get lot of attraction due to social media and they go a kind of celebrity level.So its hard for a normal working guy to match that

@preciousmousse 12 күн бұрын

Because people go there to write angry slogans all over the walls, to do drugs at weekend long parties and to explore their sexualities in large groups and networks, that's why.

@papapavlov5407 Ай бұрын

sounds dystopic omg

@toki513 5 сағат бұрын

People in Berlin live a solitary live. Berlin is attracting with superficial stereotypes those who fall for that. Find true love in big cities is hard.

@Judah132 Ай бұрын

Born in Berlin. 23/m. I dated girls and guys, both on apps and by chance the last few years. I'm a nice and patient guy, but that's the problem, cause I'm not interested in hedonism, though I am quite open minded... I just favour sobriety. Love to me is reversed depression, i.e a sense of joy you cannot explain, just as you cannot explain the root of your depression. Being full of hedonism and lust is a very predictable move. Love however is wholesome while depression is melancholic. Too many Berliners fall in love with melancholy and romanticise misery - they either fill that whole for hedonism, or are hedonistic due to narcissism : I used to be the same, and used to have an urge to become narcissistic. But falling in love for the right people lifted me mentally up, despite the fact, that I never had a relationship.

@rg2613 Ай бұрын

Glad I met my wife and married her before dating apps were invented. Life was much simpler then

@d31m07y1988 2 күн бұрын

So many smart people

@michaelsonntag6792 11 күн бұрын

Isn't it surprising that the increased levels of freedom that people have fought for through various movements have apparently not led to greater happiness?

@diamonddewealthhorn4954 6 күн бұрын

I argue that. I have found two true loves already!

@Pssst.ByTheWay Ай бұрын

8:01 Do what you like and meet like minded ppl. Solud advice

@krzysztofbosak7027 Ай бұрын

Perfect way to go to jail. There are all likeminded people there.

@LamelKendrick 2 ай бұрын

In big cities in Europe and spreading to smaller ones the women now have most of the power in dating/reltationships. They are the choosers and keyholders. It's amplified in the 2020s. This is like people said Sweden was this way first, with more female led dating culture, but now its everywhere in the West, because women dominate online dating...also the marketing of culture is tailored towards women. Average Men are only providers and that nowadays. the bottom 40% of men are basically unable to have short term relationships these days, and women can whenever they want

@raze956 2 ай бұрын

"and women can whenever they want" that is only true for pretty woman in the range of 7-10. all the others have the problem that they can only get men who they deem undesirable, and thus are dissatisfied. its only the prettiest girls who hold that power, a small percentage in the overall population of woman. and even that small percentage only has a few good years of that power, because beauty fades rather fast. in conclusion, the dating market is not that bright for woman either.

@DelasVC Ай бұрын

@@raze956Agreed. Also it‘s easy to just blame „women“ for everything. Yes, the market is tailored towards them - but most men don‘t even know how to dress properly, let alone talking to strangers anymore.. It‘s not easy - but it‘s also not supposed to be easy..

@Rainer125 Ай бұрын

The bottom 90% of men literally can’t participate in hook up culture at all not even once in their life the bottom 50% of men are all Incels now and will be forever virgins or maybe luck out and find one or two gfs over their entire lifetime it is literally that bad now.

@Rainer125 Ай бұрын

@@raze956a 300 lbs extremely unattractive woman will still get thousands of matches on Tinder with guys way out of her league while average guy can swipe 10.000 times and not get a single match.

@fatemad4012 Ай бұрын

@@Rainer125so guys are less attractive than overweight women guys should work on their looks more just like women

@candygrabber 10 күн бұрын

Depends on whom you ask 😂❤

@earthq3945 Ай бұрын

Well online/ digital dating is the wrong place to start 😂

@michaelsonntag6792 11 күн бұрын

if you don't love loneliness, you don't love freedom either: because you are only free when you are alone.

@elresplandor1476 19 күн бұрын

That is not only in Berlin is a Global problems in occidental mentality. Im not German but I came from America and live in Berlin and is the same problem no one can be exclusive.

@Endlessstory 6 күн бұрын

I think looking at Berlin and concluding the city is an accurate representation of Germany or Europe is very wrong. Don’t let social media discourage you. I lived in Germany all my life and people are definitely looking for serious relationships. European cities are culturally built so differently meaning there’s a lot more bars, cafes and places where you can meet up. Lastly I think hooking up is not a huge deal like it is in the US. Women aren’t shamed nowhere near as much, I’ve never been asked my body count and definitely barely anyone waits till marriage. Less incels because sex is just not seen as this huge deal.

@DutchinBrazil 6 күн бұрын

Cold approach 😅

@DM-wv6to 26 күн бұрын

💯

@ghrzsljy Ай бұрын

Finding true love in Berlin is a challenge, I feel like people confuse sex with love. The Berliners are not open😅

@bugra320 Ай бұрын

3:34 An example of a modern feminist woman

@dgmobbdeep Ай бұрын

Yep

@slimisslow244 Ай бұрын

Agreed shes for the streets

@zjaeger1800 Ай бұрын

hopefully she will soon understand how unhealthy her thinking style is. The german guy accpeting her 'sexually free lived' past cannot really respect her as a potential wife. But the sad part is, she herself cannot even respect her boyfriend bc he lets all slide and doesnt constructively criticize her. He doesnt point it out, if she does mistakes or behaves immature or degenerately. He doesn't lead. Women sincerely do not respect men like that. The dynamic of the relationship is not as healthy as she thinks it to be. It's much more like: "He accepts everything and I am allowed to be less responsible". A lack of responsibility for your own choices and trying to live life on easy mode will ultimately fail with a huge impact.

@krashdummiez007 Ай бұрын

I caught that tooo😂 she’s independent but I bet she still want you to pay for everything and be traditional😂

@isaakasimov2456 Ай бұрын

@@zjaeger1800 Das hast du wirklich perfekt beschrieben - danke dafür.

@patriciavandevelde5469 Ай бұрын

I m 63! Was married in 86 guy stole my money,lawyers ripped me off,and i just feel nothing anymore for men!i have my dog,sport and traveling and i m ok!

@sirstyle-qt1ur 16 күн бұрын

I can understand you as a man and i want to say god bless you

@HellshireHill Ай бұрын

People are just not honest about what they want. Simple.

@gabele2386 Ай бұрын

The problem is, that you mostly interviewed expats. Germans among each other act differently. Expats have a hard time connectinf in general, thats our bad German hospitality.

@NoctLightCloud Ай бұрын

that's the case in every country. it's a human mentality and has nothing to do with German hospitality. Also, I hardly know any country that is more accepting of foreigners than Germany.

@unregierbar7694 Ай бұрын

"bad German hospitality" Stop the self-hate it´s getting pathetic. You voted to invite millions of them in and now you barely see any Germans in big cities. Foreigners are having the time of their lives in Germany feeling home. Meanwhile the homeless people in big cities are almost always German. Germans are left behind in your hospitality for foreigners.

@SonyaUsmanova2020 Ай бұрын

Good point, it’d be interesting to know how this works between Germans and if the challenges are similar to that of foreigners

@JeBusInYoutbe 4 күн бұрын

@@NoctLightCloudyou have to be kidding Germany is infamous for being unfriendly

@NoctLightCloud 4 күн бұрын

@@JeBusInYoutbe what does being friendly/unfriendly mean to you? and show me a country that is in its whole current system more accepting of foreigners.

@sandra8991 17 күн бұрын

I live in Berlin. It's easy to meet people. Probably it really depends what kind of vibes you send out (subconciously). As it was said in the video, here are so many divers people. So it is important to really stick to what is important for you and not get sidetracked, which might be one of the biggest challenges :-)

@christianhabermann6527 14 күн бұрын

how do you meet these people? i lived in different countries and cities, mostly in Berlin, and in Berlin i was by far the most lonely, as it is so hard to meet people

@sandra8991 6 күн бұрын

@@christianhabermann6527 meetup, sitting in a café at someones table cause its full otherwise, on walks, hobbies, work, voluteering... it's easy to meet but not many stick, I guess that's normal