Don't date for potential. Also don't date men that come from the slums. I'm telling you, I spent my 20s giving men chances because I refused to believe dating men that had less education, less money, come from bad neighborhoods etc because I swore people were being too hard on them. I'm telling women in their 20s, only date men who match you or better. Date UP. Every now and then a man that has less or come from less will come through and suprise you but not often. Most of the time, they dog you out and you're left embarrassed because he was a dusty lol. You will save yourself a lot of stress dating someone on your level

As someone who was divorced by 22 my biggest piece of advice is do not let red flags go just because you love someone. It's better to be alone than to be with someone who doesn't appreciate you.

Shes mentioned this in another video but if you go out on the first date or two and they start bringing up their ex when you havent asked about their last relationship.......run

seeing this as i contemplate leaving my boyfriend of 4 years. i feel like this is a sign and i’m sad lop

When I first started dating in the 90s, we didn’t have text messages so we had to talk😂😂😂😂❤❤❤❤

Something my mom told me to do when u don't know what u want in a person. She said to make a list of all the things I want in someone and be that person and make a list of the things u don't want.

Not knowing how it feels to be wined and dined and only being offered situationships is so common for anyone dating black men. You've been warned 😭

I think the point about knowing what you want is great, because what I want isn't what others may want. Being wined and dined is okay, but not my favorite thing for dating. Being treated "like a lady" doesn't mean that much to me. Being treated like an intelligent conversationalist, an interesting artist, and an admirable activist matter SO much more to me, so I look for relationships that will provide that, and will inspire me to feel the same about him.

I just started dating after 26 year marriage and I’m 54 and I need those lessons now!!💯

Boundaries and high standards and expectations are a must. They might find it impossible to reach you, but what matters is that they try, and if they can't reach high enough, you leave them down there. Edit: to clarify, because I already see some crusties trying to be edgy, but I do not mean with materials. I mean with basic human decency and respect. The bar should never be low, and you cannot fix nobody, nor will that ever be your job.

This spoke directly to my 31 year old heart!! So much growth 💪❤️

You need to make this a series

another thing, stop telling people everything you want in a partner right out the gate, I promise you almost every person you've done this with had seemed perfect at first until yhe mask comes off, don't tell them until y'all are official.

Has anyone ever told you you kind of look like Tia and tamera 😁

You're over your 20s? 😲

If you can’t define the relationship there is no relationship 🙌🏾 that one right there!!

Meanwhile I’m thinking sis is in her 20s… you look good to be in your 30s

I never considered that last bit but I just got done doing that with a man and now he's MIA. I can't explain it but you ain't lying.

Girl you look much better without makeup, I know it's unusual but true💜

Girl I thought you were 20!!! I'm 42 and watch all of your videos keep stay inspired and keep them coming!!! I actually follow your tips!!❤

I love your tips they are soo helpful

No lies told ❤

I love you girl this is great advice ❤🧡

I love you so much girl!! Thanks for all of your advice.

#3 & #4 - I felt those hard. Partly the reason why I’m single again

SUCH great advice!! 💕

Omg I'm early-ish right? Anyways I love your channel, great advice!! 💞💞

I love the blunt haircut. Lovely 🌹

Loved the second one! Thanks dear!

The last one 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

Omg yes yes yes yes. Such great advice!!!

This is great advice. I’m dating in my 40s and it still applies ;)

Non related but the hair and skin 💛.

Oooooooh my goshhhh!!!! I did the last one shocks!!!

I had to date a player to find out how it felt to be wined and dined. Best experience ever cuz they know how to arrange dates. Crappy Bfriend material thoughb😂😂

Brilliant you literally make me feel I have a sister

Great advice❤️

Well said sis! ❤

i don’t really agree with the wine and dine thing. some people really can’t afford fine dining and expensive dates, especially now with inflation. but a good parter will try to take you on a romantic date without going broke

I love this video.

I’m sorry but being wined and dined does not matter in the grand scheme. Stability and worrying about things that truly matter is more important. When that car break down and y’all having to figure it out, no one cares about flowers

Also, please don't waste your own time or let others waste your time. Your biological clock is real and even if you didn't have one, your life is finite and all too short. *It takes time to figure out what you want and don't want, go on dates, have a relationship that doesn't work out, break up, get over someone, be alone for a while, work some things out before going into another relationship, go on more dates, find another person you want to go beyond a few dates with, build a serious relationship together, get married, start building your family... All of this takes time. It can make you feel like you should stick with the person you're with because you've already invested so much time in them, even if the relationship is bad or you don't really align or it's just going nowhere. Or you can do the opposite, which is to not pay any serious mind to any of the above. You haven't given any considerable thought to what you want in life and love and/or you haven't made any real efforts to make it happen, or you've put it all off in favour of fun in the moment or building a career, telling yourself you have plenty of time and (if at all) picturing a future in which everything has just fallen in place. Before you know it you're yearning to start a family but you've left it quite late, maybe even too late when you factor in how much fertility can vary and how long it takes to go through the process I mentioned above (*). I don't say this to encourage you to stay in the wrong relationship or grab the nearest man and run down the aisle with him, or even to discourage you from having a career. I say it because often we really don't have a great sense of our individual biological clocks, our own reproductive health and how quickly our 20's will fly by. We're also prone to the sunk cost fallacy and wasting time. Just something to really think about.

See my experience I've only ever been treated to wining and dining because the guy expects you to give them some coochie after every time.

How about this: most guys your age, and I'm talking like 90%, do not care one bit about you. It's not worth it to date in your 20s. Date someone older, because men start to mature usually after 30-35.

Don't let others influence you to date someone you're clearly not interested in. It's ok to say no (you're not being difficult or a b**ch). A real friend would understand. Second, don't date for potential. See people for who they are the first time.

Oh my god, and people get surprised when I say I have never had a relationship but I call people exes bc it’s easier than saying “the man who led me on for a year”. Men will literally do anything to keep you in the closet, but they’ll give you the world if they wanna keep you.

That’s so crazy because I live right across the street from a church 😂

Facts!!!

How do u have such a clear skin😮

It's not that hard to find a good husband if you make that your focus, and you are a natural queen yourself.

Talking about marriage through text for Long distance relationship for a short period of time before meeting , it s good otherwise you can't talk at all plus like this you know if the person is serious ir not nased on its reaction

Don't date on-line

The truth!!!!

I actually made a mistake of discussing about marriage with my partner without meeting him and now that I met him is the opposite I wish I didn't get to make these decisions right now I don't know how to get out of it he has already paid my Bride price 😢😢

Would have

Okay sis but what’s the blush?

So true

Could u do dating in ur younger teens I’m 15 and I just got into a relationship

Accurate

Facts

I love you, honey! 🔥

Huh and here I thought I was getting into dating pool late as I'm 27 and haven't dated in yrs. Loved being single in my early 20s and just didn't find any point in dating back then n was secure as I was. Just wasn't boy crazy back then. And everything listed here is exactly what I always knew abt anyway so I guess I didn't miss out anything. I'm however confident n interested in getting into a long term relationship. My luck is just super bad. 2 guys I crushed on back to back turned out none single then this third guy isn't interested in dating atm as he wants to focus on himself now 😐 Update: the 4th one is single n open! And now we're talking.. He just takes super long time to reply

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I wish I knew

Best

Advice: Please wear your finger and toe nail polish either all the way on or all the way off. You are cute as can be!!!

100%

How old are you

Your how old ??

Absolutely nothing wrong with dating for marriage but I'm I the only one who just had fun and went with flow during early 20s without any serious expectations?

some good advice there but I don't like your comment about not being "wined and dinned" = not normal (the idea that is being treated like a "lady" is a bit problematic in its self). perhaps say instead being treated like you're special, being treated to something nice, being shown a good time and these are things that we can do for each other and yes, it can include being wined and dinned

Are you still dating?

Get married in your 40s !No kids!

Ummm, I thought you WERE in your 20s.....

What eyebrow pencil is that please

Why not have relationship goals over text?

Bunch of salty men haters in the comments 😂

date with purpose... a man just wants one thing, so level up always. looks are the main reason why they choose you. * Take care of your youth because that is your leverage when dating.

You didn't have to read my younger self like that. 🫣... But, I can at least say that I didn't let it go far.