LET THEM - JUST LET THEM

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Looking at life with Dee

Looking at life with Dee

Ай бұрын

A piece written by Cassie Phillips - about having control of 'you' - by letting those who maybe try to take over control or even manipulate you just get on with being what they are.
She has a lovely way with words. I tried to find a link to include to her work but to no avail.
Apologies for the hammering of the rain - I started, and didn't want to stop
#justdoit #control #beingyourself

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@Cheshirelass
@Cheshirelass 4 күн бұрын
Hi - message for @mirandagerson6897 - I appreciate you posting that piece. I did try to delete just the piece you copied through. This was because, as you said, you didn't have the author's name andI was concerned about copyright on YT. I tried to retain your message but I am afraid that it was all or nothing. Apologies again. D
@Barbpriestley37
@Barbpriestley37 4 күн бұрын
These Are my own words about my miss my son Jason and want prayer Never copy Anything I was not sure you were talking to me I think I have misunderstanding or Something Well Enjoy The treasure of beauty of you Read I don't want to let my dear son Jason go I need Prayers he is Definitely instate of North Carolina just ask for Guidance and Encouragement and prayers for my Son Jason and I to be reunited and be family again thank you God bless you 🙏
@theshadowsovereign8914
@theshadowsovereign8914 Күн бұрын
If KZfaq wants to give you a copyright strike... Let them.
@JasZjaye
@JasZjaye Күн бұрын
@@theshadowsovereign8914😂
@EmmeChatterton
@EmmeChatterton Күн бұрын
You cannot get copyright strikes for comments. You certainly can't get copyright strikes from someone else's comments, don't delete them that is ridiculous, unless they are offensive to you. Copyright strikes are if you upload content in your videos that is fully stolen and wholesale reposted - and not modified or commented on, like if you use a Beyonce song in the background music or repost an episode of Friends. Performing, reciting, reading, etc, are all transformative which mean you can use copyrighted work in your own personal way, just not reuse someone else's content
@Cheshirelass
@Cheshirelass Күн бұрын
@@EmmeChatterton Thank you - I appreciate that and it is very helpful - I am on a steep learning curve! D
@lanchiee34
@lanchiee34 12 күн бұрын
for whoever needs to hear this: my mom always told me “you were fine before them, you’ll be fine after them”
@Cheshirelass
@Cheshirelass 12 күн бұрын
Wise words. D
@user-vn3zf4ct9v
@user-vn3zf4ct9v 8 күн бұрын
Amen to that!!!!
@yomaroh
@yomaroh 8 күн бұрын
My mom says that as well! Or sometimes she’ll say “You came into this world without them and so you’re strong enough without them”
@nishthagupta1357
@nishthagupta1357 8 күн бұрын
You were never the same after meeting them though
@crystalperry4769
@crystalperry4769 7 күн бұрын
@@nishthagupta1357 right.. I miss it
@marijncat6711
@marijncat6711 18 күн бұрын
old people giving advice on youtube and social media is what this world needs edit: i didn't expect this comment to blow up so before anyone else comments that calling someone "old" is disrespectful; i really don't believe growing old should be seen as something negative or that there is more worth inyoung people. if you don't agree with that, that's okay. now gonna take this lady's advice, and let y'all comment what you want
@productivityproject5360
@productivityproject5360 18 күн бұрын
Literally my favorite content
@jasmineshelton759
@jasmineshelton759 18 күн бұрын
Wise *
@ramonawilliams7269
@ramonawilliams7269 18 күн бұрын
Wise, Beautiful, Experienced Souls would be a more lovely choice of words 🤍
@janelleodionu3631
@janelleodionu3631 17 күн бұрын
facts!! That is why I subscribed immediately before even watching any of her videos!!
@TysonASMR
@TysonASMR 17 күн бұрын
Yes this side of social media is great. The rest sucks haha
@farahfarzana8752
@farahfarzana8752 8 күн бұрын
If they want to come back to you after breaking you into pieces, never let them.
@user-re7wt2yc8b
@user-re7wt2yc8b 7 күн бұрын
Agreed 100%
@lauram.5555
@lauram.5555 7 күн бұрын
I‘m in this situation right now and I really want to let them eventhough I probably shouldn‘t :(
@user-re7wt2yc8b
@user-re7wt2yc8b 7 күн бұрын
​@@lauram.5555. If it costs you your peace, its just too expensive.
@farahfarzana8752
@farahfarzana8752 7 күн бұрын
@@lauram.5555 If your inner voice tells you to not let them anymore, then you shouldn't let them. Always listen to your inner voice
@sashaenglish2755
@sashaenglish2755 6 күн бұрын
Yes ❤
@AlfiansyahHendry
@AlfiansyahHendry 7 күн бұрын
The rain background, The profound message, The soothing voice, This is it! Thank you 🥹🥹🥹
@annenonymousse
@annenonymousse 4 күн бұрын
I love the sound of the rain as she was talking. I felt at peace 😌
@Merlodica
@Merlodica Күн бұрын
A gentle British woman tenderly sharing advice with young ones makes me feel warm and fuzzy
@traciprovins3221
@traciprovins3221 Күн бұрын
Absolutely
@traciprovins3221
@traciprovins3221 Күн бұрын
I really needed this. And it’s so fantastic to see something intelligent, useful and heartwarming without snark on social media. This is the only thing I’ve seen all day that was worth watching, and I love it ❤❤
@GodsSouljaa
@GodsSouljaa 21 күн бұрын
We have no control over other people’s decisions. We hurt ourselves by trying to control. LET THEM do as they please !!
@Cheshirelass
@Cheshirelass 21 күн бұрын
But far too many in relationships of any kind do control all aspects of their partner's life - including decisions they make. They do not seem to be hurt by this as it is usually their aim. D
@maryjolyons6400
@maryjolyons6400 19 күн бұрын
My situation isn’t a partner but relationship with my daughter sadly It was never like this but after her dad left us in 2006 Cracks started appearing (I prayed from first night we were in own for LOVE to be in me no bitterness as it would destroy me & my daughter , I have had people come in from then some short periods females helping some longer and few who have remained to this day and always been THANKFUL 🙏🩷🙏 As with out Universe God and ones who helped I wouldn’t be here today . But our children know which bottoms to press that unsettle us We’ve had periods of wonderful times but I always swear of changed mood in my daughter now has been in relationship 15 years grandchild light of my life 9-yr’s But it’s come again cracks Cannot talk with her about she shouts and says we can can’t spk but I haven’t raised my voice spoke quirky as we were walking outside told go away she wasn’t going awalk with me And began walking faster I couldn’t keep up Shouting as she was going she didn’t want anything to do with me I turned and went home this happened past Wednesday this wk . Now told I can only see my grand daughter twice amonth I’m a American have lived in uk over half my life Called spoke to my brother in Twincitys he said why do want to stay there You’ve put up with periods of this for past 16 years And sad should move back to the states . It isn’t that easy I’m a pensioner that’s all I have There’s so much to consider mainly cost There’s family two sets friends I’ve kept close to over years These I would have near me family friends who love & care about me 🙏 No more holidays alone (There have been erratic x.mases togetger but only afternoon home early I was greatful to be included but rest the x.mas season no inclusion ) One year went to friends don’t get me wrong I was so touched but hard to explain felt even worse Some x.mases helped at Homeless center by me . My brother has close relantionship with his kids & partner of over twenty years gets along with has them over and his ex wife all at holiday times plus the three of them attend events sometimes . He says I’d have them all around me . I have three sets very good friends here only spoke with one of what’s happened Meeting up one today and third one Saturday Unsure of spking rgds this till I find out if it’ll work out financially Pardon my rambling but wanted to say it’s not a partner but my situation with my daughter . Has anyone similar problem ? If so how have you handled it ? I would be grateful to hear 🙏🩷🙏
@pokemonpro8438
@pokemonpro8438 18 күн бұрын
​​​​​@@Cheshirelassthis was my experience, and he was sadistic. I had to change things because it was harming our children, not just me. It was very dangerous leaving and he character assassinated me to everyone with all his lies, including some of my own family, my little sisters. He lovebombed them too when we lived closer at the start. He is a very believable LIAR. I had an evil aunt do that to me prior for financial reasons. I was an impediment to her greed.
@Cheshirelass
@Cheshirelass 18 күн бұрын
@@pokemonpro8438 Well done for being strong for you and your children. Take care. D
@h0ll9w
@h0ll9w 18 күн бұрын
came in just the right time…
@Gh_Manchester
@Gh_Manchester 25 күн бұрын
I’m positive that KZfaq is the universe talking to me.
@charlynehill5999
@charlynehill5999 25 күн бұрын
Seems like it, i think it's God hearing ours hearts cry
@justinplumb
@justinplumb 25 күн бұрын
The algorithms are just getting more personal and adjustable to you. People have similar problems and you going thru them almost every day so the fact you come across videos all the time coincidentally makes sense and is the same for me
@arundhatisingh4063
@arundhatisingh4063 24 күн бұрын
God i swear
@Smellyninja11
@Smellyninja11 24 күн бұрын
Schizophrenic delusions or seeing signs that arnt there
@lapetitmimi1079
@lapetitmimi1079 24 күн бұрын
Yes. What a few days my son and I have had. Broken by bullying. Thank-you for this. ❤
@galinaatanasova1779
@galinaatanasova1779 3 күн бұрын
“Let them loose you. You were never theirs because you were always your own”thank you 🙏
@pendennis123
@pendennis123 18 сағат бұрын
Lose
@MillieAwna
@MillieAwna 5 күн бұрын
“Let them see the heart in you that didn’t harden” I felt that personally 🫶🏽
@juliemetaxa1480
@juliemetaxa1480 Күн бұрын
So did I. ❤❤
@lauravilsone5554
@lauravilsone5554 19 күн бұрын
That moment when KZfaq algorithm gives you a gem...
@veeroseerum
@veeroseerum 17 күн бұрын
It was truly the break in the chaos for a moment for me i swear
@Rachface1
@Rachface1 16 күн бұрын
Right?!
@Puerta955
@Puerta955 16 күн бұрын
just yesterday i saw my ex for the first time since we broke up while on exchange after 4 months… my head was doing ok until that point, and now its all spinning again. youtube always covers me
@piama18
@piama18 14 күн бұрын
“Total” gem 💎
@alexxyay1973
@alexxyay1973 14 күн бұрын
🙌🏽❤
@cherrybonbonz
@cherrybonbonz 21 күн бұрын
“And do not automatically take the blame and punish yourself for any of the things that they have done” caught me off guard ❤
@Cheshirelass
@Cheshirelass 21 күн бұрын
An important one to remember. D
@mamdaero_24
@mamdaero_24 17 күн бұрын
@fragrantbloom
@fragrantbloom 17 күн бұрын
I did that. Never again.
@postcards.to.myself
@postcards.to.myself 16 күн бұрын
currently enduring that stage...
@Cheshirelass
@Cheshirelass 16 күн бұрын
@@postcards.to.myself Take care. D
@goldenlele
@goldenlele 3 күн бұрын
This is EXACTLY what I needed to hear. It just hurts so bad when you love them and would never do to them what they’re doing to you
@theauthormindset
@theauthormindset 6 күн бұрын
I think the rain was a perfect backround. Rain is for cleansing and washing away the energy that no longer serves us. This video came at the perfect time. Thank you.
@Cheshirelass
@Cheshirelass 6 күн бұрын
Take care. D
@afrofaeries
@afrofaeries 23 күн бұрын
I’m 19 and I love receiving advice from elderly women! I never knew my grandma because I’m an orphan, so I thank God that He sent me here!
@lauralong6695
@lauralong6695 23 күн бұрын
This is sweet. I’d be your grandma if I could. I had an older woman as a mentor when I was young woman and mom. I loved her so much. I also had my mother who was my best friend. Now my daughter is my best friend.
@Cheshirelass
@Cheshirelass 23 күн бұрын
Take care. D
@lisabyl3240
@lisabyl3240 22 күн бұрын
Good you learned early in life in your young adulthood. Wish I had known this Truth at age 19. God bless ❤
@hdhdhd-4935
@hdhdhd-4935 22 күн бұрын
@@lauralong6695you seem so lovely may God bless u🥺💖
@mattparr3038
@mattparr3038 22 күн бұрын
I'm the same and I'm 40. So wise, and elderly tend to be more caring so you're more likely to listen. When we sense care, we listen.
@kotweezy
@kotweezy 14 күн бұрын
“let them lose you, you were never theirs…because you were always your own”
@user-ve5yg8vj4r
@user-ve5yg8vj4r 2 күн бұрын
❤❤❤❤
@jacobhansen8424
@jacobhansen8424 8 күн бұрын
Really needed this today. I hope life is treating those reading this well.
@CarlaCarly
@CarlaCarly 6 күн бұрын
I also really needed to hear this so bad, just opened KZfaq to distract from my thoughts and here it is, the exact words I needed. Life sometimes is magic
@alynarae3469
@alynarae3469 6 күн бұрын
Same on both! ❤
@wendeogden1930
@wendeogden1930 6 күн бұрын
This really hit me today. I needed to hear this. I'm going to play this to myself, and I will work on not letting others define my role in their lives. I'm so sick of it, and it hurts my spirit. Thank you.
@princesslukeia
@princesslukeia 2 күн бұрын
Not this message being exactly what I needed 😭 I’ve been obsessing & driving myself insane over being manipulated by someone I loved & whom I thought loved me back…… I’ve been trying to make myself the problem when it was never me 🤦🏽‍♀️
@mansourelhajj9968
@mansourelhajj9968 13 күн бұрын
It's hard to let them, but over time, it makes more sense, to let them.
@Cheshirelass
@Cheshirelass 13 күн бұрын
True. D
@monikapv10
@monikapv10 9 күн бұрын
True but unfortunately ultimately u have to let them because they leave u with no other choice . So then it becomes a question of saving yourself . Sad but true !
@sucubusgod
@sucubusgod 7 күн бұрын
:( mmmh.
@iPeeOnBabies
@iPeeOnBabies 5 күн бұрын
@@monikapv10 Lol, you always have a choice in this universe. Consequences will follow that choice, but you can always tell someone to Fuck off. Try it on me :P
@excusesbegone
@excusesbegone 2 күн бұрын
I have no CHOICE and there in the surrender comes
@tanja.11
@tanja.11 15 күн бұрын
Being happy is a decision. Still don’t forget that you‘re „them“ to somebody else too.
@Cheshirelass
@Cheshirelass 15 күн бұрын
Absolutely. D
@Ggswjn
@Ggswjn 13 күн бұрын
This needs more likes 🤧
@godzillamanstreb524
@godzillamanstreb524 11 күн бұрын
Good point
@mymoreelaine1037
@mymoreelaine1037 10 күн бұрын
@arty_mart
@arty_mart 9 күн бұрын
I've lost a few friends, sometimes because of me, sometimes because of them, sometimes because of both of us. This was my first thought. All of my flaws and mistakes in each friendship came to the forefront of my mind as she ran down the list of things to let "them" do. I realized I'm just as much "them" as they are. It makes me feel less like a villain, and more like a human. Great comment.
@annamarievalentova5827
@annamarievalentova5827 8 күн бұрын
I've lost my mother 3 years ago when I was 16 so we didn't really get to the point we could talk about this kind of important things, this really made my day, thank you
@Cheshirelass
@Cheshirelass 8 күн бұрын
Thank you. D
@karen-hp5cw
@karen-hp5cw 6 күн бұрын
i cannot express enough how glad i am that i found this video randomly. i needed to hear all of this, i thank you from my heart.
@Cheshirelass
@Cheshirelass 6 күн бұрын
Take care. D
@PACE-
@PACE- 18 күн бұрын
How yt know im hurtin rn😭
@prellalove7652
@prellalove7652 17 күн бұрын
🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
@adianajimenez9187
@adianajimenez9187 15 күн бұрын
no literally, i never even watch yt 😭
@BB-to8zm
@BB-to8zm 15 күн бұрын
Samee😭
@pn7134
@pn7134 15 күн бұрын
Same. He ended our 6 year rs 10 days ago
@adianajimenez9187
@adianajimenez9187 15 күн бұрын
@@pn7134 i’m so sorry ml, i wish you all the best in your healing journey. 💗
@thesourcepath
@thesourcepath 21 күн бұрын
"let them love you." Was what stood out most for me.
@Cheshirelass
@Cheshirelass 21 күн бұрын
Don't think you will be alone with that. Probably as many would love that to be the way - but as part of a genuine, balanced relationship - no matter what variety. D
@movingforwardopportunity667
@movingforwardopportunity667 21 күн бұрын
❤❤❤❤❤❤
@Twinkiepie52
@Twinkiepie52 20 күн бұрын
Lonely 🥺😢so alone, literally no one to talk with .
@LoveGodLoveOthers111
@LoveGodLoveOthers111 18 күн бұрын
I'm sorry you're so alone right now. Please know your Heavenly Father is only a prayer away. He's always there for us and wants us to talk to him about everything. His Son, Jesus Christ is always there too and understands perfectly all our pain and sorrow because he took it all upon him, not just our sins. I love this scripture from John 14:18 "I will not leave you comfortless: I will come to you." He has helped me and comforted me through the darkest nights.🙌🙏❤ @@Twinkiepie52
@61sunset
@61sunset 18 күн бұрын
​@@Twinkiepie52 I am so sorry to hear that. Wishing you all the very best. Treat yourself with kindness, enjoy and be grateful for the small things in life...that's how I get through, but I also speak with God Almighty and He strengthens and comforts me. ❤
@ThoughtsOfSorts
@ThoughtsOfSorts 8 күн бұрын
Letting them shows you who they truly are anyway
@TheHouseOffice
@TheHouseOffice 5 күн бұрын
Establiahing your boundaries is one thing... keeping them is another. Ugh yesss
@Cheshirelass
@Cheshirelass 5 күн бұрын
True! D
@analicearmbruster6441
@analicearmbruster6441 16 күн бұрын
"if they want to misunderstand you, let them' touched me
@Cheshirelass
@Cheshirelass 16 күн бұрын
Its often the case- and if they can - they surely will. It hurts. D
@Jidion56
@Jidion56 14 күн бұрын
Nice
@Unicornbug35
@Unicornbug35 3 күн бұрын
Yep. Doesn't bother or affect anyone. 😇😌
@tamarag9981
@tamarag9981 Күн бұрын
That touched me too!
@deewilson446
@deewilson446 22 күн бұрын
The 🌧️ rain is a perfect backdrop for your reading ❤
@Yirragee
@Yirragee 21 күн бұрын
❤ this yes so beautiful hey 😊
@nikicarrie4071
@nikicarrie4071 20 күн бұрын
@humansareslaves618
@humansareslaves618 19 күн бұрын
I found it very annoying and distracting cause I have ADHD
@erikamonique44
@erikamonique44 18 күн бұрын
I love the rain. This was my confirmation. 🖤
@Misslotusification
@Misslotusification 18 күн бұрын
Indeed, funny she apologises about it in at the top...
@alaaseada4659
@alaaseada4659 5 күн бұрын
If they take you for granted and are blind to see who you really are, don’t let them in your life. ♥️
@ChildofGod98765
@ChildofGod98765 4 күн бұрын
God hear my prayers. Having two sons with special needs is overwhelming at times because they require so much from me. As a single mother things are difficult. I keep faith in you Jesus even as I struggle to pay rent, and as I struggle to buy groceries for my sons. Every month is a battle. I want to give up yet God gives me strength. Faith is my strength.❤️💕
@becky3846
@becky3846 4 күн бұрын
I admire your faith!! God takes care of His people 💗 I’ll keep you in my prayers
@BSensu-su6rh
@BSensu-su6rh 4 күн бұрын
Stay strong Sister! I feel your pain. GOD bless you.
@yajomar4556
@yajomar4556 4 күн бұрын
God bless you!
@koolkatmi
@koolkatmi 10 сағат бұрын
I admire your strength!!
@sara.b_33
@sara.b_33 10 күн бұрын
I have no family, no siblings, no parents, no ant, no grandparents.. no adult to turn to for advice, this warmed my heart❤️❤️❤️
@Cheshirelass
@Cheshirelass 10 күн бұрын
You are welcome - thanks for joining us. D
@Tk30nette
@Tk30nette 9 күн бұрын
Same as my life 😢
@Mamayopmemama
@Mamayopmemama 9 күн бұрын
Same. For the record lmao
@maureendibari2384
@maureendibari2384 9 күн бұрын
You always have God
@asmrfoodieuk7965
@asmrfoodieuk7965 8 күн бұрын
​@@maureendibari2384😂😂😂aye mystical man in the sky who has helped the homeless so much!
@ashatan4554
@ashatan4554 25 күн бұрын
I don’t know why this came up on my feed but I desperately needed to hear this today.
@Cheshirelass
@Cheshirelass 25 күн бұрын
The vagaries of YT. I have no idea why this has happened, but wish that I did - it is I believe the first time. Do look after yourself and don't heap lots of blame on yourself. Take care. D
@ashatan4554
@ashatan4554 24 күн бұрын
@@Cheshirelass 🙏❤️
@c.kainoabugado7935
@c.kainoabugado7935 21 күн бұрын
Universal Law of Attraction. You attract what you need. It works with social media because the law consists in social/human networks and electronics does not hinder our needs and can facilitate or meet our needs as need arises. Believe it, accept it, use it. This is age of Aquarius ♒️ new ways of being is here. We are learning about ourselves who are energy beings in physical bodies emitting frequency that matches the earth. Social media n electricity are also energy, everything has energy. The earth frequency is rising causing people's frequency to match her. To match her frequency we are forced to understand energy and spiritual things where the new earth frequency is moving all humans towards. Good things to come✨️ Knowledge of Self💫 Self-Care💚 Courage✊🏾
@positiveMindset665
@positiveMindset665 20 күн бұрын
Same
@zoricababic137
@zoricababic137 19 күн бұрын
AI is reading our thoughts.
@JourneywithMrsMilan
@JourneywithMrsMilan 5 күн бұрын
God knew I needed this. It was like a desperately needed gentle and warm hug. This is the version of a grandmother I desperately need. My inner child is so grateful.Thank you for your channel ❤
@traciprovins3221
@traciprovins3221 Күн бұрын
I agree and your comment brought tears to my eyes ❤Take care
@JourneywithMrsMilan
@JourneywithMrsMilan Күн бұрын
@@traciprovins3221 you too ❤️
@adventuresofhan
@adventuresofhan 6 күн бұрын
This is what I’ll be listening to every morning until it’s engraved in my brain!!! 🧘🏻‍♀️
@LaChicaconSuerte-1111
@LaChicaconSuerte-1111 21 күн бұрын
Here are my main mottos: 1) I can´t be bothered with people who can´t be bothered. 2) Carry on regardless 3) Be who you are
@LaChicaconSuerte-1111
@LaChicaconSuerte-1111 21 күн бұрын
Also, if you feel everything is crashing and your peace has been disturbed, look after yourself in this order: 1) physical body: drink water, eat properly, shower, put on clean pjs, and sleep at least 8 hours 2) mind: detach from social media, other media, ads, apps, and toxic people (this can include family members and significant others) 3) spirit: be true to yourself and be kind to yourself and others. Try to be near nature and the sea or at least have plants, flowers, water around. Follow the Truth. 4) Do something creative whether painting, writing, making something (crafts, baking, carpentry, etc) 5) listen to calm or upbeat music with no shouting or swear words in it!
@nightfallenx
@nightfallenx 20 күн бұрын
@@LaChicaconSuerte-1111 thank you for this, friend, i needed this. sending you love.
@LaChicaconSuerte-1111
@LaChicaconSuerte-1111 20 күн бұрын
@@nightfallenx same to you and take care x
@shondalesstudio
@shondalesstudio 19 күн бұрын
​@@LaChicaconSuerte-1111 Yes! ❤❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉🎉
@gilliankilby-gjini2676
@gilliankilby-gjini2676 15 күн бұрын
I agree with this but what about if they are your own adult children..
@lillustpotion
@lillustpotion 17 күн бұрын
Not only is aunty wise af she’s a fashion gorlllll. Pink paisley velour and minky brown?! Purrrrrr 💅🏾💅🏾💅🏾
@Cheshirelass
@Cheshirelass 17 күн бұрын
Thank you - Now, that is another first!! D
@Cloverkitty
@Cloverkitty 15 күн бұрын
Classy but sassy. Hope I can be more fashionable as I age.
@user-du4gw
@user-du4gw 15 күн бұрын
Periodt💅💅
@babieeden
@babieeden 13 күн бұрын
this entire exchange is sending me💀
@msshay421
@msshay421 13 күн бұрын
S/O to my big sissy NeeNee putting me on to the scheme REST PEACEFULLY SISSY 😘🙏🏾
@lynniekou
@lynniekou 22 сағат бұрын
Hearing this with the rainy sound just makes it more emotional, thank you Grandma, i need this so much at this time.
@user-qb6ue1gk8u
@user-qb6ue1gk8u 23 сағат бұрын
It sounds like music to my ears, that's my motto to let them go to their own way in life , their choices and truth,they have to face the reality 😢
@swaggyfatima4254
@swaggyfatima4254 17 күн бұрын
Elderly British women make me smile. Idk why they just do.
@Cheshirelass
@Cheshirelass 17 күн бұрын
I am smiling too now!! D
@swaggyfatima4254
@swaggyfatima4254 16 күн бұрын
@@Cheshirelass 🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻
@user-du4gw
@user-du4gw 15 күн бұрын
​@@Cheshirelass i love you
@Noahwalter-bs4ts
@Noahwalter-bs4ts 13 күн бұрын
I've never seen one before😭
@jessjess7608
@jessjess7608 14 күн бұрын
These videos are the reason why KZfaq should exist. It’s always lovely to find gems like these.
@Cheshirelass
@Cheshirelass 14 күн бұрын
thank you so much D
@jainasimpson
@jainasimpson 3 күн бұрын
I found out my boyfriend of four years cheated on me. I just found out a week ago. I thought he was my end goal, my comfort, my best friend, and my life partner. Sadly, since his infidelity, he has shown me a side of him I never knew was there. He won’t choose me over his job, he won’t choose me over this other girl- he says he will, but then is still acting sketchy and setting off alarm bells in my head. This video has been a great source of comfort. You very much remind me of his mother, maybe where she’ll be at your age. She always gave me advice, and this is the advice I wish she’d given me instead of staying uninvolved, though I understand why she did. Thank you for your wisdom. I am moving past this with a little more comfort than I had when I found it, and a fresh perspective.
@Cheshirelass
@Cheshirelass 3 күн бұрын
Take care. D
@jainasimpson
@jainasimpson 2 күн бұрын
@@Cheshirelassthank you.
@MysticalKitty13
@MysticalKitty13 2 күн бұрын
I’ve listened to this several times over the last week. It (has) really helped with my daily collywobbles as every time an intrusive thought starts about someone I now repeat to myself “let them”
@gretchenburton7184
@gretchenburton7184 23 күн бұрын
When they lie, manipulate, show jealousy, contempt, ill-intent, disconnect.
@Cheshirelass
@Cheshirelass 23 күн бұрын
Absolutely. Take care. D
@jomassey4207
@jomassey4207 21 күн бұрын
I had to disconnect with my sister because she has no respect or empathy for anyone. She lost her control in front of me and I saw her real self, which was full of rage, contempt, jealousy and basically a toddlers tantrum. It was so frightening and unexpected that I knew I had to cut the cord to protect myself from ongoing hurt. I don't regret doing this but it has affected our family dynamics and they are all walking on egg shells around her. I'm never doing this again. Jo.😊
@blacknomadicnurse4278
@blacknomadicnurse4278 21 күн бұрын
@@jomassey4207Love It Jo! Same with my mother
@samlewis6615
@samlewis6615 19 күн бұрын
She might be a narcissist, i just realized my sibling is a narc , conversations with him leave me feeling like complete trash it's like emotional terrorism. I've decided to finally distance myself. ​@@jomassey4207
@emilypound
@emilypound 25 күн бұрын
And this is why I have no friends. I far prefer to have none than surround myself with a bunch of fake narcissists. Took me a long time to realize that. But it's been one of the greatest lessons of my life
@Cheshirelass
@Cheshirelass 25 күн бұрын
There is a great belief that we should be surrounded by lots of 'friends'. For some maybe, whilst for others they are happy with their own company. If you feel like a bit of company from an old girl - do check out my playlists on which I take you out to lovely places and natter away. Take care Emily. D
@lifeslessons9889
@lifeslessons9889 25 күн бұрын
Noooo …just choose better!!!!
@24JJ821
@24JJ821 25 күн бұрын
I totally relate to you Emily. No more narcissists in my life, and I feel pure and authentic to be me.
@Arripa-777
@Arripa-777 24 күн бұрын
Hobbies are better than fake people !
@monac1504
@monac1504 24 күн бұрын
Was thinking the exact same thing yesterday!
@deniseborges6293
@deniseborges6293 26 күн бұрын
Yes! True love gives people free will! It doesn't seek to manipulate others into giving what they don't want to give.
@Cheshirelass
@Cheshirelass 26 күн бұрын
Absolutely - it's when agendas creep in that even things are a problem - and then even what once seemed to be a true love sadly can change. Take care. D
@BibleBound333
@BibleBound333 25 күн бұрын
Where was Judas free will when he betrayed Jesus? Was it not spoken of by David thousands of years before Judas was born? Did not Christ tell Satan to go into Judas and to do what he does quickly. Did not God choose between Jacob and Esau before the 2 boys were born who he would love and who He would hate. There is nothing the 2 could of done to change their fate. How do the spirits of divination that mediums call upon know what's going to happen in your life before it happens? Because our lives are predestined and predetermined just as those God redeemed where foreknown before the foundation of the world. (Ephesians 1:4) (Ephesians 1:11) (Roman's 8:29-30) Free will is a myth.
@ENTPhilosopher
@ENTPhilosopher 25 күн бұрын
⁠@@BibleBound333Christianity a myth.. hahaha
@thewishingpooltarot5425
@thewishingpooltarot5425 25 күн бұрын
Hundred percent correct 💯 Love is about freedom, giving each other freedom and letting each other be themselves. And loving each other for who they are.
@Sarah-psalm127
@Sarah-psalm127 24 күн бұрын
​@BibleBound333 prophecy doesn't mean forced will, it means knowing what that person's will will be like. God already knew the end from the beginning and the choices we would make and who we would be.
@dan5660
@dan5660 24 күн бұрын
Most people can't comprehend how powerful this really is, because many people are conditioned to act out of emotions regarding other people's actions in a vain attempt to "control" them(which usually doesn't happen). When you let others do what they do, it deprives them of any possible desired reaction from you, and they are often left puzzled instead of satisfied they got a reaction from you. This is the way to deal with negative & confusing behavior.
@Cheshirelass
@Cheshirelass 24 күн бұрын
I so agree - I have to admit, sadly from experience. Thank you for your comment - it is appreciated. Take care. D
@HeavenlyLights
@HeavenlyLights 23 күн бұрын
Totally YES 🩵🩷❤️💚🧡💛💖
@lauriecolvin3620
@lauriecolvin3620 22 күн бұрын
Right on!
@lisalee2885
@lisalee2885 22 күн бұрын
It quite the smart person who can see their own ego and decipher the feelings and actions they would normally take. It is wonderful to let them be. I often pray for them to heal and be happy. Doesn't mean they don't piss you off 🤣 You just get to figure out WHY it bothers you 👍
@camithehijabi
@camithehijabi 21 күн бұрын
I took me so much time to realize that, now I’m trying to act on it but its hard
@Sea_witch_
@Sea_witch_ 17 сағат бұрын
Currently going through a situation in my job where I am being emotionally manipulated and not being valued as I should. Not only are they misjudging me as a teacher and my methods, but they don't even pay me the basic income to do so or force me to change for their own desires. It hurts my heart and I have been crying almost everyday I return home, I am mentally and physically drained, but I love my students so much, I love my work space, and yet sadly it isn't enough for me to stay. This video came just at the right time ❤ I am so grateful and feel blessed by your words ma'am, I hope you are doing well and full of love always ❤
@Cheshirelass
@Cheshirelass 7 сағат бұрын
Teaching (as so many other things) is something in which to give the most that you can, you have to feel safe and in your right place. Take care - from a retired teacher - D
@voicevamp
@voicevamp 3 күн бұрын
Just in time to keep my heart from breaking. Thank you. Namasté 💜⚘️
@dyutibaxi6659
@dyutibaxi6659 22 күн бұрын
At 75, I have realised the wisdom behind Let them theory. I have achieved a total peace in my heart. It does work, but it requires you to let go of all the hurt and pain.
@Cheshirelass
@Cheshirelass 22 күн бұрын
that can be the most difficult D
@georginahsubeb923
@georginahsubeb923 21 күн бұрын
@cocoa3900
@cocoa3900 13 күн бұрын
Yes, I try so hard to let go of the hurt and pain. Idk what to do. I want to be content. I am afraid I will die of a broken heart.
@dyutibaxi6659
@dyutibaxi6659 13 күн бұрын
@@cocoa3900 sorry to know about your hurt. I would like you to ask yourself these questions. ‘Does anyone care about my hurt? What do I gain by holding onto this pain and hurt?’ I can imagine what your answers will be. You know that you are only hurting yourself by holding onto those feelings, and isn’t it time to let bygones be bygones, so you can feel at peace to enjoy the rest of your life? It won’t be easy, but you will understand yourself better by letting go off your hurt, forgiving those who hurt you. We would be saints if we could forget all about it, but forgiveness brings us peace. It is worth it, because we are worthy of having peace and happiness in our hearts.
@monikapv10
@monikapv10 9 күн бұрын
I totally get it . But does letting go mean to stick stick around and keep forgiving ?
@TheMirandalorian
@TheMirandalorian 15 күн бұрын
The sound of rain the background made this all the more relaxing ❤
@goxothi
@goxothi 18 сағат бұрын
This video came up on my home page a few times and I ignored it, because at the time I didn't want to let go of this person. Today is the first day in over a month that I haven't thought about getting back together with him and I finally am watching this video. "They don't value you and you deserve to be valued and to be made to feel valued." Thank you Dee, for making me realise things.
@Cheshirelass
@Cheshirelass 18 сағат бұрын
Take care. D
@sophial.6633
@sophial.6633 2 күн бұрын
Thank you a thousand times for this! I needed to hear this so badly.
@sam905
@sam905 17 күн бұрын
" Let them see the heart in you that didn't harden"❤️❤️❤️
@parisss333sm
@parisss333sm 15 күн бұрын
Love this. This is true victory
@seniorarubia
@seniorarubia 14 күн бұрын
@SolutionsWithin
@SolutionsWithin 14 күн бұрын
@@parisss333sm and it’s painful along the way, but forges wisdom.
@alexapollice3889
@alexapollice3889 14 күн бұрын
This was such a great reminder of “love me or leave me” type energy. Really just allowing yourself to be true to you. And “let them” see how soft your heart still is despite the mistreatment.
@eagleznest411
@eagleznest411 13 күн бұрын
Yes this ia golden ❤🥰
@D4NC3Rable
@D4NC3Rable 23 күн бұрын
Suddenly I'm 7 again in the greenhouse listening to the grandmother I never had telling me one of the most important lessons of my life and this will always be a blurry memory save for a few specific sentences and I'll always have a love of rain and plants leftover.
@Caareenkm6726
@Caareenkm6726 22 күн бұрын
Except for that one constant loud drip that was interrupting the steady soothing rainfall!
@Cindy-vx6us
@Cindy-vx6us Күн бұрын
I just had a 3.5 hour conversation with a friend on this subject last night. I needed this! Thank you! You read it profoundly, with passion, sincerity, emotion, with understanding! Thank you for sharing! ❤
@Steve_0299
@Steve_0299 Сағат бұрын
Thanks for share this amazing message ❤️
@7Jennifer
@7Jennifer 23 күн бұрын
I am almost 54 and have zero actual real friends. A handful of acquaintances. No more family ties. I want the kind of friend that I am (have been) to others. I don't think that's too much to ask. I also believe in meeting people where they are, and I do but when they either start to take more and more or just show up only when they are in need, I'm out. Over time, people show who they really are, and I am choosing not to settle. I'd rather spend time alone, with my best cat, my books, the outdoors, great movies, my plants and so on. I am always open to real friends; they just seem to not exist in my realm at the moment. I'm okay with that.
@Cheshirelass
@Cheshirelass 23 күн бұрын
Jennifer - if you are ok with being alone, as many of us are, until you find friends who remain friends, have you thought of joining a club - maybe crafting, gardening, walking - whatever you fancy. You would then be meeting people with similar interests. You do say in my realm 'at the moment' - so maybe the time just hasn't been right for you to meet with people with whom you gel. Until then, do join us on our video walks to lovely places in nature, places of interest. We'd love to have you along. Take care. D
@elainerobertson1988
@elainerobertson1988 23 күн бұрын
Me too. Well said.
@7Jennifer
@7Jennifer 23 күн бұрын
@@Cheshirelass I have considered that but haven't dipped my toes into meeting up with other groups of interest yet. Maybe someday! I'll check out the walking videos.... thank you, Dee!
@Cheshirelass
@Cheshirelass 23 күн бұрын
@@7Jennifer It would be lovely if you could join us. D
@cicerodiello1
@cicerodiello1 23 күн бұрын
I’m the same age and have moved from Australia to Italy. I am with my Mum and her little dog. I don’t have friends. I know many people and my family are not available. I am not unhappy. It was very easy to make this decision. I can only take one day at a time and teach myself to LET THEM.
@kathrynschumann5254
@kathrynschumann5254 24 күн бұрын
The rain added poignancy to the message i needed to hear. thank you
@Caareenkm6726
@Caareenkm6726 22 күн бұрын
Except for that one non ending heavy drop you can consistently hear! But the gentle rain in background was nice! I actually listen to rain on utube to go to sleep! 🙂
@sxlxk3
@sxlxk3 13 күн бұрын
@@Caareenkm6726ur very passionate about that raindrop💀💀
@sxlxk3
@sxlxk3 13 күн бұрын
@@Caareenkm6726ur very passionate about that raindrop💀💀
@carolkonyha1586
@carolkonyha1586 2 күн бұрын
Thank you for taking the time to share your wisdom with us! Sending love from the USA & ❤ Canada 🇨🇦
@IBSSnapey
@IBSSnapey Күн бұрын
I teared up hearing your advice, I really needed to hear this. I never knew my own grandmothers, thanks for being my internet grandma for 7 minutes.
@Cheshirelass
@Cheshirelass Күн бұрын
My pleasure _ I hope that you join us again. D
@HollyHargreaves
@HollyHargreaves 19 күн бұрын
I love finding older women on YT. It's comforting.🌟
@jewellove4797
@jewellove4797 18 күн бұрын
Me too!!!
@carosgarbagecan7828
@carosgarbagecan7828 15 күн бұрын
I am 16 years old and this same phrase “let them” has changed the way I view myself and the way I view the world. It helped me heal from ugly relationships that I was trying so hard to keep while I was completely ignoring ME. I let these people control the way I valued myself and since they never saw my value, I didn’t either. Let them go. Let yourself grow
@Cheshirelass
@Cheshirelass 15 күн бұрын
Well said. D
@ruthbowman5928
@ruthbowman5928 10 күн бұрын
Learn early to say, 'Do as you please. But know that I will, too.'
@DolphinsPlayingInAquaMoonlight
@DolphinsPlayingInAquaMoonlight 10 күн бұрын
You are wise for a 16-year-old. I wish I knew this at your age. I am 39 now and I have let too many men hurt me both physically, emotionally and mentally. I have learned to value myself and my peace of mind now, but it has taken a lot of time to understand that I needed to see my own value and love myself for the amazing being I am, and not let these cluster B personalities determine my value. I thought I had learned in the past, but ended up with the same person in a different wrapping, just because I was in love. But I was in love with his potential and not who he really was. I ignored the red flags because I wanted to see the best in him and I saw his potential so clearly. But this person wasn't living up to his potential, and you can't force another person to grow. He put up a great act and was very charming, but in reality he was vibing low and not willing to grow and evolve, and he used me and cheated behind my back. So if I could give any advice to younger people out there, and there are probably some older people who need this advice too, it would be to never fall in love with someone's potential. See them for who they are right now, not who you think they potentially could be one day. And don't ignore the red flags! Listen to your intuition when something feels off, even if you can't put your finger on it. If you are constantly feeling unsure and questioning their behaviour in your mind, something is most likely not right. And another advice is to stay away from people with big anger issues. You don't need that drama in your life, and they will never change. I wish you all the best in life. Never forget what you wrote here today. Some people are so charming and slick that they can make you forget the wisdom you thought you had learned.
@Sharon-ud4ke
@Sharon-ud4ke 8 күн бұрын
So good to know this truth at 16 years old 😊
@HealthyHairJourney
@HealthyHairJourney 5 күн бұрын
Wonderful encouraging words from a 16 year old for me as a 50 year old. Thank you
@mich.andrade98
@mich.andrade98 Күн бұрын
I put one of your videos every morning when I wake up, to start my day. Thank you for giving me peace in the caos that my life is right now Dee🫂💙
@Cheshirelass
@Cheshirelass Күн бұрын
Take care. D
@ratyzezele1683
@ratyzezele1683 18 күн бұрын
As someone who’s been suffering from very low self esteem for years it feels very warming to see these kinds of videos. I wish I could hug you grandma 🫂🫂🫂
@Cheshirelass
@Cheshirelass 18 күн бұрын
Please do keep joining us - do come along on our video walks too - they are relaxing and we need that! Taake care. D
@mamabutterfly9778
@mamabutterfly9778 25 күн бұрын
I feel like the universe sent me this video to watch just at the right time.
@Cheshirelass
@Cheshirelass 25 күн бұрын
I aam so pleased - and hope that you found it helpful. Take care. D
@heather_5
@heather_5 22 күн бұрын
Same! Timely message! First time discovering this channel along with this video :)
@Richmond_Hill
@Richmond_Hill 21 күн бұрын
@@heather_5me too
@cameron.cobalt
@cameron.cobalt 19 күн бұрын
Me too, I’m crying right now trying to deal with my girlfriend breaking up with me. Your comment likes are at 111. Bringing me back to my spiritual phase I had a couple years back. I would constantly see reoccurring numbers all day long and I was tapped in to source of the universe. I need to get back into it more. :(
@heather_5
@heather_5 19 күн бұрын
@@cameron.cobalt Saw your comment at 11:11! :)
@mereanahemopo4436
@mereanahemopo4436 2 күн бұрын
Omg this changed my life 💕✨️ From today,I choose me.xx Thank ypu Thank you Thank you✨️🙏🥰
@Jo3lBorbor
@Jo3lBorbor 18 сағат бұрын
Thank you so much ur a loving woman may God bless you❤
@carolndl
@carolndl 12 күн бұрын
Just imagine this being your grandma… what a guidance you’d have in life 🥺
@AIGINI19
@AIGINI19 11 күн бұрын
The sound of the rain, the wisdom that you speak and all, this is so wholesome
@Cheshirelass
@Cheshirelass 11 күн бұрын
Thank you so much. D
@BenHartwellGuitar
@BenHartwellGuitar 15 сағат бұрын
Wow. This hit hard, amazing, thank you ♥
@Giggs.01
@Giggs.01 9 күн бұрын
One of the most chilling videos I’ve ever watched,the background rain noise was a bonus
@RebeccaO619
@RebeccaO619 20 күн бұрын
KZfaq algorithm must know what I’m going through right now. I am 33 years old and am learning the ‘let them’ theory in therapy right now. Thanks for sharing.
@poeticlovee
@poeticlovee 19 күн бұрын
You’re not alone. 35 year old woman over here learning the “let go, let be, let them” theory as well. ❤️‍🩹
@daliakarakutly3575
@daliakarakutly3575 18 күн бұрын
Same
@zelihagokce
@zelihagokce 18 күн бұрын
27 year old and I'm joining y'all 🤗
@Findyourcall
@Findyourcall 17 күн бұрын
Understand you very well! Choosing 'to let' over 'to control' is an art of life not easy to pursue but worth of practice until it becomes a habit
@comradeleppi2000
@comradeleppi2000 17 күн бұрын
I am 23 already doing it
@jacintaparris7210
@jacintaparris7210 12 күн бұрын
Let people do what they WANT TO DO, so you’ll see what they’d rather do!
@sashasashonah9378
@sashasashonah9378 4 күн бұрын
I came cross this video when I needed to hear something to make me feel good.. and the sound of the rain made it perfect.💌
@wendi4418
@wendi4418 Күн бұрын
I can't imagine anyone abusing you! They must have done ,for you to have such insight into a narcissistic relationship.I 'm with you.Thank God you got out.Love to you!
@Cheshirelass
@Cheshirelass Күн бұрын
As a therapist, sadly I have had to work with many in abusive relationships. D
@kirstenp3875
@kirstenp3875 10 күн бұрын
As someone who got chronically ill due to covid, people really show their true colours when all of a sudden you can’t people please them anymore. So they turn their back on you. The grief is horrible. This video has done more for me then most therapy sessions. Thank you
@Cheshirelass
@Cheshirelass 10 күн бұрын
Take care D
@maureendibari2384
@maureendibari2384 7 күн бұрын
God loves you always
@aLightShines
@aLightShines 6 күн бұрын
❤️❤️❤️❤️🙏❤️☝️
@EmmeChatterton
@EmmeChatterton 6 күн бұрын
You lose the things that weren't meant for you. This happened to me, people don't even remember or care how they abandoned you, years later they will say, oh we all wondered where you went, why did YOU disappear, how rude of you. They are not good people and never were, your life is fuller now with less dark matter.
@HL-qv3yd
@HL-qv3yd 6 күн бұрын
Same here, I'm going through it now, devastating 😢
@Cheshirelass
@Cheshirelass 25 күн бұрын
Please can I say a huge thank you to everyone who has subscribed, liked and especially taken the time to comment on this piece and to support other folk. That is how life should be as far as I am concerned. It really means so very much to me and I hope that your visit isn't just a fleeting one. I have currently replied to every message but am closing for the night as my eyes are a step ahead of me and are half closed already. Thank you again - I have a feeling that when my cat leapt onto my keyboard and that I lost a message. Apologies - he likes to help! Dee xx
@HzFvr
@HzFvr 24 күн бұрын
Just discovered you and subbed. I love the rain banging! 🌹
@CoachSarahNicoleB
@CoachSarahNicoleB 24 күн бұрын
💖💖💖💖💝 also, my cats do that too! Especially my Torti girl!
@lovefortruth3414
@lovefortruth3414 24 күн бұрын
Lol, I love the kitties. All 4 of mine could be off into different areas of the house when I'm sitting on the couch, having my quiet time. But as soon as I Crack open my Bible or another book, or get on my tablet, one of them will come up and plop itself right on top of it! It's a cat thing lol
@Cheshirelass
@Cheshirelass 24 күн бұрын
@@HzFvr Much appreciated. Take care. D
@maryjolyons6400
@maryjolyons6400 24 күн бұрын
Ty Ty Ty I replayed twice then again as each time tears engulfed me Its morning and I just switched on your site it was first thing I saw the TITLE caught my attention That I tapped to listen going through a situation difficult Tapped like & subscribed Appreciate greatly what you shared 🙏🩷🙏
@jordanwilliams9984
@jordanwilliams9984 17 сағат бұрын
I sincerely thank you for posting and sharing this. I saw this exactly when I was supposed to. The rose colored glasses are officially off, and I am grateful. Thank you sincerely
@Cheshirelass
@Cheshirelass 7 сағат бұрын
Onwards and upwards! D
@skippy7208
@skippy7208 Күн бұрын
Dear Dee, there’s been a void in my life since my beloved mother died 8 years ago and she would likely be about your age were she still alive. I haven’t come across your videos before but I found this one incredibly comforting and reassuring in a motherly way. Thank you for that 🙏 The words weren’t your own, but you read them so perfectly because you fully understood that they reveal a deep truth which reflects your own wisdom. I immediately subscribed 🥰 x
@Cheshirelass
@Cheshirelass Күн бұрын
Thank you - I did add in my own words after the poem. D
@bestovvus
@bestovvus 22 күн бұрын
One of the very few cases where the algorithm sends me love and light. You give, they give. You give some more, they chose to pull back; let yourself let them.
@quantumfineartsandfossils2152
@quantumfineartsandfossils2152 26 күн бұрын
5:00 "You are the only one who has control of you" yes angel..
@Flx-zh8ze
@Flx-zh8ze 26 күн бұрын
I read this comment right as she said it ❤
@Cheshirelass
@Cheshirelass 26 күн бұрын
Hard for far too many people to recognise this, to accept this - and to use for their own good - and hopefully that of others too. D
@Cheshirelass
@Cheshirelass 26 күн бұрын
@@Flx-zh8ze Take care. D
@rakenroljesus
@rakenroljesus 18 сағат бұрын
​@@Flx-zh8zeSame thing happened to me
@user-il4ec9iq9m
@user-il4ec9iq9m 3 күн бұрын
This is going to be one of those videos that I come back to play as a reminder, thank you.
@AnimeMovement
@AnimeMovement 18 күн бұрын
A very toxic person just came back into my life, and I’ve been struggling with it. It all came to a head last night, and then I woke up and this was in my feed. I’ve never heard of this lady, and I’ve never searched this topic on any social media. I feel like God just knew I needed to see it. Thank You, and thank you, Ms. Dee.
@Cheshirelass
@Cheshirelass 18 күн бұрын
My pleasure. Take care D
@sam-fx3fx
@sam-fx3fx 15 күн бұрын
As someone with zero meaningful friendships or relationships, this really helps. I need to learn to enjoy my own company first, change my mindset, and learn contentment, as it is better than fleeing happiness...because happiness mostly depends on your condition, while contentment is a mindset that you have control over.
@Cheshirelass
@Cheshirelass 15 күн бұрын
If you treat yourself with respect and love - people pick up on this. If you don't care about yourself ....... D
@lbvsb
@lbvsb 13 күн бұрын
I feel you on this. I've lost the only meaningful connection I had, and now all by myself. We'll learn how to be happy with just ourselves, I truly believe we will. Hang in there. Sending big hugs.
@emme_nt
@emme_nt Күн бұрын
I certainly Thank You tonight💗🙏
@MillenialPerenial
@MillenialPerenial Сағат бұрын
You remind me of one of my grandparents, unfortuantely none of them are alive anymore. I wish I was told this advice before my family destroyed me (and continue to try and destroy me). Narcissistic families are evil incarnate. The fact I am still alive and fighting makes me proud.
@AthenaGubbe
@AthenaGubbe 8 сағат бұрын
So reliant in my life right now. Thank you for sharing
@TheMartyrsMilitia
@TheMartyrsMilitia 12 күн бұрын
Finally, the algorithm has led us to the right place.
@takoyakeith
@takoyakeith 16 күн бұрын
This is exactly what I stand by in life. People want to do what they want to do. Let them.
@jadajcampos7593
@jadajcampos7593 2 сағат бұрын
This was something i really needed to hear, thank you ☺
@shadedillon1307
@shadedillon1307 6 күн бұрын
Her voice is calming with the rain in the background it’s perfection
@Talithasings
@Talithasings 11 күн бұрын
Coming here after a betrayal that hurts me to my core. God's timing is impeccable.
@k3ndre
@k3ndre 9 күн бұрын
Amen
@louisa7034
@louisa7034 8 күн бұрын
same here.. then I allowed them back into my life and they broke down my boundaries again. This video was a needed wake up call
@Mochimaker333
@Mochimaker333 8 күн бұрын
I'm so sorry. I've felt that so hard too. Hope you are doing better 💌
@Talithasings
@Talithasings 5 күн бұрын
@@Mochimaker333 Thank you. A little bit. Switching back and forth between anger and acceptance but better than I was the first day I found out. ❤
@Talithasings
@Talithasings 5 күн бұрын
@@louisa7034 I was actually thinking of doing this. Then a pastor told me forgiveness doesn't mean you have to let them back in to the place in your life that they violated. changed my whole perspective. I hope you've been able to put up impenetrable boundaries this time around. I'm trying to do the same.
@shakea1439
@shakea1439 25 күн бұрын
This is Divine intervention ❤ The answer to my question, what to do in this situation... I am 70 and dealing with my daughters estrangement. Thank you my friend for uploading this message.
@Cheshirelass
@Cheshirelass 25 күн бұрын
It really isn't easy and hurts so much when it is someone you have cared for. Letting them .. go is far from easy - even if under positive circumstances. When an estrangement - the hard part is not to try to get back into 'good books' as the offspring often seems apologetic but then gradually - or in some cases almost immediately they are back to treating you as before. Baby steps - working on you and building your self-esteem by recognising that, ok, maybe there are things you could have done differently. But be honest and recognise what others have done. Take care - look after yourself - sadly, I don't have the space on here to go into any greater details. D
@KAZHE63
@KAZHE63 25 күн бұрын
I am in the same boat with my youngest daughter. She stepped out of family and nobody knows why. There was no big fight or any of that. It’s devastating.
@Fegga1955
@Fegga1955 24 күн бұрын
Same here with sons,think we spoiled them when young❤❤❤
@katie7748
@katie7748 24 күн бұрын
​@@KAZHE63 I walked away from mine because they are ridiculously dysfunctional. Often, when you are part of the problem, you can't SEE the problem. Not saying this is why, just that it's a possibility.
@rochellet1333
@rochellet1333 23 күн бұрын
@@KAZHE63 My son did the same thing. Let em! What you sow, you shall also reap.
@namsuchanan4861
@namsuchanan4861 7 сағат бұрын
This comes in the right time. I really need to hear it. Thank you
@KenMalia-xr7jn
@KenMalia-xr7jn 25 күн бұрын
Thank you Dee for your wise words, here is a Poem specially for you and the person reading this : Have you had a kindness shown, Pass it on, It wasn't meant for you alone, Pass it on, Let it travel down the years, Let it wipe anothers tears, Till in Heaven the deed appears, Pass it on.
@Cheshirelass
@Cheshirelass 25 күн бұрын
That is lovely - thank you for sharing with us. The more kindness we can share, the better in this funny old world of ours. D
@Fegga1955
@Fegga1955 24 күн бұрын
Beautiful ❤❤❤
@Rose-nd1lj
@Rose-nd1lj 24 күн бұрын
Thats beautiful.
@pamelatheado6484
@pamelatheado6484 24 күн бұрын
Thank you so much for the video. It really hit home for me. You are a lovely person. I am new to your channel and can’t wait for more.
@virginiahilman7786
@virginiahilman7786 23 күн бұрын
This was meant for me 💖
@clint120
@clint120 24 күн бұрын
The poem has an important message. Let them, that works with a little bit of quid pro quo. You give, they give. Extend yourself, but a true friend will be extending back. if it’s not reciprocal, let go.
@Cheshirelass
@Cheshirelass 24 күн бұрын
Yes, it can - as you say - if not, plan B. Take care. D
@ananya551
@ananya551 6 күн бұрын
Im so sorry that i can like this video for just once...your words hold immense value
@Kay.m_
@Kay.m_ 2 күн бұрын
That felt like a comforting hug, thank you.
@VictorB.Henrickson
@VictorB.Henrickson 18 күн бұрын
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to move on, I really loved her so much i can't stop thinking about her and the memories we shared. I've tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail. I'm frustrated, and i don't see my life with anyone else. I've done my best to get rid of the thoughts, but i can't. I don't know why I'm saying this here, but i really miss her and i wish i could get her back.
@RichardK.Turner
@RichardK.Turner 18 күн бұрын
have been in such a situation. My relationship ended about three years ago, but i could not let her go. So i had to do all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring her back. We are back together, and i must say i am enjoying every moment.
@VictorB.Henrickson
@VictorB.Henrickson 18 күн бұрын
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?
@RichardK.Turner
@RichardK.Turner 18 күн бұрын
Her name is queen stella laveaux, and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
@VictorB.Henrickson
@VictorB.Henrickson 18 күн бұрын
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
@pn7134
@pn7134 15 күн бұрын
Same boat: 6 years and he left
@farahhussein9446
@farahhussein9446 17 күн бұрын
My bf broke up with me last week, and I have been feeling like shit. Now i feel like this is a sign. I needed to hear this.
@mimvsa3521
@mimvsa3521 16 күн бұрын
I'm in a similar situation. He told me he can't be having a relationship right now but want to remain friends. He has shown signs he would want me back in the future but I'm not a Netflix subscription you can cancel and reregister to. He's also making me know he would want to see me but unless he asks, I'm not coming. I'm letting him do as he pleases. I really do hope he sees the true value of me some day but I can't control when that day comes and it's not my responsibility. With or without, I'll be going on.
@farahhussein9446
@farahhussein9446 16 күн бұрын
@@mimvsa3521 people need to lose us to know our value. That’s what i believe.
@katrinakaye7997
@katrinakaye7997 13 күн бұрын
@@mimvsa3521 similar situation to what I'm going through, plus I have to work with the guy, which sucks even more.
@anjakersten
@anjakersten 15 сағат бұрын
Wow, I love this! Such an important message, thank you!
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