Dealing with Shame & Guilt || How To Forgive Yourself

@fatdogasmr2189 4 жыл бұрын

You really made my day. Love you and your kind supporting words!!❤️❤️❤️❤️

@drmichelledaf 4 жыл бұрын

FatDog ASMR I love you too. You are most welcome. Thank you for your kind words

@tonyfox1316 2 жыл бұрын

i guess I am kinda off topic but does anyone know a good website to stream new series online ?

@ryu7408 2 жыл бұрын

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.a

@HeavyLiesFromAbove 3 жыл бұрын

ive made terrible choices and decisions that have hurt others but i am continuously working on healing myself so that i never repeat toxic behavior!

@drmichelledaf 3 жыл бұрын

We all have. We are humans. You are blessed because you've realize your shortcoming and have turned away from them. You are forgiven by your Creator and that's all that matters. Blessings and love

@viestamper 3 жыл бұрын

Me too. I’ve said and done a lot to hurt some of my closest friends and the shame and the guilt is so strong.

@adamcoloretti3050 3 жыл бұрын

@@viestamper Just tells me you're a good person for realising and wanting to be better. All the best :).

@UniversityofSports 3 жыл бұрын

I am so thankful that there are people who understand because I hurt a lot of people and whenever I think about it I can't sleep I just get in a stressed mood

@kayla_max 3 жыл бұрын

Me to I’m glad to know I’m not the only one

@keilah4039 4 жыл бұрын

It must have been during a sermon that I once heard, "What is worse than the sin is the shame we carry because of it." You look lovely, Mich.

@drmichelledaf 4 жыл бұрын

Yes, that is facts...makes it scar.. thank you so much love!

@sangichan 3 жыл бұрын

Omg I needed to hear this 😔❤️🙏🏽

@keilah4039 3 жыл бұрын

@@sangichan Give yourself grace, dear; life is hard. ❤

@ryu7408 2 жыл бұрын

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.a

@rosethornil 4 ай бұрын

Despite good intentions, I made a financial mistake and I have tormented myself for several months now. Your comment was a real blessing for me. I will try to apologize to myself starting today. Thank you for your beautiful comment. It helped me.

@samuelscherban501 4 жыл бұрын

I’ve held so much shame and guilt over quarantine over past actions and overanalyzing my interactions. Thank you for this video 🙏

@leratomanake9981 3 жыл бұрын

I'm going through the same shame and now it's even affecting my life relationship and my surroundings 1st 😔😔

@taharanorton679 3 жыл бұрын

Same! It's really tough some days..

@ayonnazglam9050 3 жыл бұрын

Same 😫

@amb945 3 жыл бұрын

I am going through the same thing! It’s so difficult being alone with myself during quarantine and having things come up that then plague me. This video is just what I needed to hear

@nomg563 3 жыл бұрын

Same here.

@Nazeus 3 жыл бұрын

i feel like i dont deserve to be happy anymore because of what i did

@bxnnyclay3302 3 жыл бұрын

I feel you🤧 I forgot my moms birthday and hate myself for it.

@shylosymone3714 3 жыл бұрын

Forgive yourselves... You both deserve inner peace, joy, happiness and abundance of good positive things!! TRUST I feel you both BUT we are not bad people. Forgiveness takes time...its worth the work!! Always be FANATBULOUS YOU!! Shine!! 🌞💜

@andreasam5189 3 жыл бұрын

Same lately I’ve been down on myself

@oliviaschenck5509 3 жыл бұрын

Me too, I make myself sick and feel horrible

@andreasam5189 3 жыл бұрын

@@oliviaschenck5509 u wanna talk about it?

@vanilla9583 3 жыл бұрын

I have been a toxic girlfriend to my ex- boyfriend and I have turned away from it in a year now. I have changed, but the shame and guilt is so strong. I regret hurting him so much. He has forgiven my past actions, but I have not forgiven myself. I hope to get better soon. ❤️

@missyyystacy 3 жыл бұрын

I've experienced the same thing today. It took me too long to realize how much I really loved him and how much I hurt him. Mostly I didn't know that I have deeply hurt myself in the process. And now the chance of getting back together is gone. He moved on. I have apologized and he forgave me but still I can't forgive myself yet. I pray to heal and learn form this. In Jesus name, I believe I will overcome it little by little. 🙏🏾

@nessysound 2 жыл бұрын

Same two weeks ago, hope I will forgive myself one day… 😔

@ryu7408 2 жыл бұрын

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.a

@Claudia-yc8xk 2 жыл бұрын

@@missyyystacy I completely understand how you feel, im going through the same. I feel absolutely guilty for all ive done. It haunts me.

@zyen1206 Жыл бұрын

We are all the same and it hurts a lot😭😭

@neelykirksey4415 3 жыл бұрын

I’ve been struggling so bad with mental shame and guilt. This video did so much for me. You are amazing and thank you.

@drmichelledaf 3 жыл бұрын

I am so thankful to hear that my dear. You are most welcome!

@ryu7408 2 жыл бұрын

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.a

@lets_ENJOY_LIVING 3 жыл бұрын

I hate that I act before i think. I have a hard time letting go of my mistakes. I wish there was a way to forgive myself easier because the guilt is very draining mentally. I hope this videos helps me get that together. Thank you for this

@andreasam5189 3 жыл бұрын

Same I’ve been very down

@ryu7408 2 жыл бұрын

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.b

@zyko9399 Жыл бұрын

this is me aswell I don't think how it affects me or others

@lets_ENJOY_LIVING Жыл бұрын

@@ryu7408 good to hear I'm not alone on that. It is definitely mental torture I get all what you're saying bro. How do you think you'd handle apologizing to someone who won't accept it or forgive you and they just ignore it? Do you think youd get over that? I'm having the issue and confused as hell.

@plamenag8856 Жыл бұрын

stay strong brother!

@Brownsthewaytogo 3 жыл бұрын

I betrayed my family by lying to them and got so scared that I lied even more and hurt so many people I’m having such a hard time forgiving myself especially when I see the affect I had on them, thank you for this video 🙏🏽

@manal4852 3 жыл бұрын

Me too

@drmichelledaf 3 жыл бұрын

I understand. I have done this too. You must forgive yourself because you are forgiven. You have to move on. This is why Jesus died. He knew you would do these things and didn't want you to feel the way you feel now. So don't hold on to those feelings. It is the enemy trying to keep you in the same place.Much love to you!

@SHINY_STAR73 3 жыл бұрын

Same but I hope everyone will be blessed and loved. 💞

@ryu7408 2 жыл бұрын

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.a

@fitforfreelance 3 жыл бұрын

self-forgiveness is crucial to self-compassion and reaching your goals!

@ryu7408 2 жыл бұрын

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.a

@fitforfreelance 2 жыл бұрын

@@ryu7408 thanks for sharing that. Have you heard of ho'oponopono? You basically repeat "I'm sorry, please forgive me, thank you, I love you." Over and over again. It's powerful and empowering as it seems to change context and understanding in a session

@ryu7408 2 жыл бұрын

@@fitforfreelance you are welcome. That sounds like a great mantra or affirmation.

@jupiterskiss3473 2 жыл бұрын

Words are powerful. Don't use the word "I'm sorry" because you are not a sorry person. Say, "I apologize," it's the wording.

@fitforfreelance 2 жыл бұрын

@@jupiterskiss3473 I think the important part is to be humble enough to apologize without it meaning you're less valuable as a person

@jorgelara659 3 жыл бұрын

If it wasn’t for this video I wouldn’t have found Jesus in my life. Thank you for this amazing message. Guilt and shame has been holding me back with everything in life to the point I wanted to end my existence. This truly gave me another opportunity to change. To not only change, but to forgive myself from my past and to heal my damage wounds and repent to God of all the sins I’ve committed. This was a life changing experience and I am truly blessed because of this. Thank you 🥺❤️

@ryu7408 2 жыл бұрын

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.a

@tana1659 3 жыл бұрын

thank u sooo freaking much. 9:59 " Forgiving yourself does not mean you think it was ok " I really need this because every time I tried and wanted to be a better person, guilt and shame attack my brain, possess my mind and body so I struggled A lot and broke down so too many times. There were always these thoughts telling me I don't deserve to know happiness ever again and honestly it led to " so why should I be alive? if unhappiness and punishment are going to be the only words I know. " For all the people I've hurt along my journey, I truly am sorry and know better now, I wish I could take all the pain I've caused you back, and I'm hoping I'll have a chance to apologize and make it up to you in person one day if we meet again. What I can do now is... - finding a way to heal myself in order to become a better version of me. - living my life carefully and trying my best not to hurt anyone. - be patient cause it takes time. and for those who are still struggling about your past, I just want you to know you are not alone although most of the times you might feel like that or worse.

@ryu7408 2 жыл бұрын

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.

@jaeden2806 3 жыл бұрын

I over analyse every single thing I've said or done. I feel ashamed and guilty 247, none stop. OCD only preys on it all and makes it 10x worse than it needs to be. I feel totally trapped, completely. I really wish we could turn back time. I know people say you learn from mistakes but all I'm learning is that I'm a horrible person and don't deserve to actually enjoy life and be here.

@Forit26 3 жыл бұрын

It happened, accept it and moved on. We can't make new beginnings, but we CAN make new endings

@jclyntoledo Жыл бұрын

Please work on accepting it and forgiving yourself and now going forward just take the lesson. Remember you aren't who you used to be and at the time you did the best you could even if it meant bad coping mechanisms and staying in bad situations. Self sabotaging, pushing ppl away and picking the wrong ppl are all apart of bad coping mechanisms and familiar circumstances that once made sense. Perhaps you should look up inner child work/exercises.

@denno7998 11 ай бұрын

Same for me I hate life and I feel like I want to die. The guilt and shame I’m feeling is horrible and I hate myself for my past mistakes

@Bluebird776 9 ай бұрын

Same ı'm not ready to forgive myself . I'm drowning in it.

@lolaapelt8616 3 жыл бұрын

I think sometimes guilt and shame can really become a way of life for some people, especially women. I love how you emphasize that seeking out and having a strong relationship with the Lord will help to free us of these destructive mindsets. It's so true. Condemnation comes directly from the enemy and keeps us trapped. Conviction comes from the Holy Spirit, and helps us to understand our wrong doings and turn away from them. It's so beautiful that we are told that our loving Father forgives And forgets our sins when we cling to Him 🌺

@ryu7408 2 жыл бұрын

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.b

@guyanesegal280 4 жыл бұрын

It's hard to forgive trust God give God the ugliest cry down and dirty cry surrender all because without forgiveness you can't see the way. I know this from experience.

@drmichelledaf 4 жыл бұрын

Yessssss!!!!!!!!

@ryu7408 2 жыл бұрын

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.c

@guyanesegal280 2 жыл бұрын

@@ryu7408 I had to go God in prayer to help me realized their orgiveness was also for myself so I can better myself so I allow God to help me see my way through

@ryu7408 2 жыл бұрын

@@guyanesegal280 God forgave me as soon as I apologized to myself

@ryu7408 2 жыл бұрын

@@guyanesegal280 I wish you well

@Shanaevaz 4 жыл бұрын

thank you your such a sweet person this helped me to forgive don't speak about what happen and speak on what you going to do to better yourself. you can't change the past just focus on making a better you.

@drmichelledaf 4 жыл бұрын

aisha haidara thank you so much honey. I'm so thankful that this was helpful to you. Much love to you ♥️💕

@ryu7408 2 жыл бұрын

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.b

@fridakraft 3 жыл бұрын

i made many mistakes this year. i’ve done some stupid things that involve other guys while with my boyfriend. i love him so much and he forgave me for it. my forgiveness matters more to me and i feel like i’m on the right path to forgiving myself❤️

@Nour-mx3uu 3 жыл бұрын

I did the same thing, the key is to forgive yourself and actually make the effort to change. I’m still working on forgiving myself

@ryu7408 2 жыл бұрын

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.b

@Sage_Chatwin 3 жыл бұрын

A lot has happened in my past that i thought that I forgot about. But it came rushing in all at once and it made me cry. I see that me not forgiving myself has put me in the hole to many times. Now I know where to start on my forgiveness, and what I need to overcome on my journey. Thank you.

@ryu7408 2 жыл бұрын

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.b

@radhikagandhi8483 3 жыл бұрын

wow this helped me so much. resonated so hard with me. i was a toxic horrible person i used people all the time for my own gain, but now I will do nothing but use myself to HELP others unconditionally. Its hard to let go of that guilt and shame, but I will let go of it and do only good. thank you so much.

@drmichelledaf 3 жыл бұрын

I am happy it helped love. You do have to let it go and move forward to live your life. Much love to you

@ryu7408 2 жыл бұрын

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.a

@sweetpotatoee 4 жыл бұрын

This is so true... Forgiveness makes space for healing!!!! Much love everyone .....

@ryu7408 2 жыл бұрын

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.b

@ShaysWay 3 жыл бұрын

I have so much shame and guilt not for how I’ve treated others but for how I allowed others to treat me. I’m so uncomfortable thinking about the shit I allowed 🤦🏾‍♀️

@drmichelledaf 3 жыл бұрын

I am sorry to hear that but know that the shame and guilt will go away once you repent to the Lord and accept Jesus in your heart.

@parinpatel9675 2 жыл бұрын

This is so true, I was too kind and too naive and I let people step over my boundaries. I didn't stand up for myself enough. And I obviously cannot blame others for stepping over my boundaries if I allow them to and don't give them clear instructions. As I result I ended up being hurt and socially withdrawing. I ended up cutting ties with the people who became unhealthy and toxic for me and I have forgiven them but I seem to struggle with forgiving myself a lot. Because I did some inner reflection and realized I was the one who allowed all the mistreatment to happen. It's hard to accept but I am learning to remind myself that If I had known better, I would've done better. And know that I know better, I am not going to repeat those mistakes. I realized by no means I am perfect and hence I deserve to give myself room to make mistakes and learn from them. I tell myself that I had pure intentions and it all happened because i was simply naive and I needed to learn a lesson. And hence I deserve forgiveness. May God help us all to forgive ourselves and make room for mistakes, make room for growth and more importantly make room for self love and love for God🙏❤

@ryu7408 2 жыл бұрын

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.a

@ibecameeyeconic9048 Жыл бұрын

I feel the same way

@queen-ki9wj 3 жыл бұрын

I was in a toxic relationship but I think I was the toxic one ☹️

@lopyj5982 3 жыл бұрын

I understand what you're feeling :( the best thing we can do is try to change, to be better everyday. We can't change the past but we can try to accept it and do better

@emilopucci8962 3 жыл бұрын

I felt this one I had something good and I didn’t realize

@crone514 3 жыл бұрын

You're not alone and I want you to know that the interpersonal issues you experienced and/or caused do not define you as a bad person. As painful as it is the fact that you have reflected on your own actions and are possibly confronting a painful truth rather than turning away from reality as many people would choose to do, to shelter their own emotions and ego, shows that you are already in the process of healing and changing. Best wishes.

@emilopucci8962 3 жыл бұрын

Update: 1 month later .. it wasn’t as good as I thought . They were just better at hiding what it was they were doing . I’m glad I’m done with that

@patriciawarigia717 3 жыл бұрын

I fell in love with a man who i later found out was married but still continued with the relationship believing his lies that he n his wife have issues. So I decided to be blind and to enjoy the time we spent together until it started becoming toxic..so I broke things off. Trying to move on from that relationship and at the same time trying to forgive myself.

@baileyjones5127 4 жыл бұрын

I accidentally clicked on this but i needed it more than you know 😭

@drmichelledaf 4 жыл бұрын

Bailey Jones there are no accidents love. I'm so happy you did ♥️🦋

@jobinabien-aime1858 2 жыл бұрын

I have been beating myself up and condemning myself so much and this video reminded me that my life doesn’t end when I mess up and that I am not my mistakes. That there is healing on the other side of forgiving myself. That life can and will get better, in spite of my shortcomings. Thank you so much for this very powerful video. ❤️

@Sir._Mack 4 ай бұрын

I loved her so much. I didn’t realize I was hurting her. She asked for space I didn’t give it to her. I asked her for way too much and Burnt her out and now here she is still helping me with my feelings after she broke up with me. She’s all I want in life and I want to die because of how guilty I feel every second of every day.

@20vannesa 2 ай бұрын

I feel similar to how you are feeling! I still love my ex 🥺 I hurt every day thinking of the good memories we had 😭 it’s been 4 months of the breakup (I also feel like dying) but God doesn’t want me to be with him (at least not now) maybe God is trying to work in you and I know it hurts because he wants you to grow and learn from this 🙏🏼 maybe if it’s meant to be he will bring me back to my ex and also for you he’ll bring you guys together but in the meantime God wants to heal us ❤

@oghosa-star Ай бұрын

So relatable. I'm in a similar situation.

@myjourneythroughgrace 2 жыл бұрын

I grew up in a home with a nasty father who had playboy magazines laying everywhere. It made one of my other family members take advantage of me. I have always placed the blame on myself for not stopping them. I now forgive myself for just being a little girl and realizing that yes I could’ve screamed and cried to get them off of me but I didn’t and that’s okay. I will raise my children to be better and to never subject them to such things.

@GhostPlatypus 3 ай бұрын

I’m happy you feel better

@divasamai2251 3 жыл бұрын

Move on and forget about it! Forgetting is powerful!

@marissarodriguez8737 3 жыл бұрын

You can forget and move on but it will be in the back of your brain but if you keep focusing on it then it does bring up the memory and the pain. The best thing to do is pray about it and give it to god and forgive your self and this person even if they never apologized

@divasamai2251 3 жыл бұрын

@@marissarodriguez8737 Trust me the other person or persons have moved on and forgot about it. So should you. Being cut throat is a wonderful defense mechanism. You are dealing with people who don't give a damn. Stop caring.

@ryu7408 2 жыл бұрын

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.b

@imsorry3217 2 жыл бұрын

I deliberately hurt someone that I admired and loved. I wanted to meet him and I did! But I did something that was selfish and childish and I never want to do it again, however, I can't forgive myself. I need deliverance from this demonic spirit that has had a stronghold on me. And I let myself hurt him. Moreover, the issue is not normal and it's been hard for me to tell God because I'm insecure and ashamed of myself deeply now. 😔💔 I'm currently going through the motions and God is dealing with me, I honestly feel like I should be killed now. I'm single and I don't want to be with anyone but him. My heart is forever broken.

@ShaunHolden Жыл бұрын

Sorry to hear you are going through this. Have you managed to solve this problem and finally forgive yourself?

@yuh.1990 Жыл бұрын

I've been a toxic person and my mental health is really messed up. I lie to people just to feed my ego, I've done it a lot of times and it has made me really guilty, yesterday a friend saw right through me and knew what I was doing. Guilt, shame, and thoughts haunt me afterwards so I am finding a way to get over it.

@MyeshaB 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for adding the part about stepping away from but also not glorifying it.. a true conviction for me .

@drmichelledaf 4 жыл бұрын

Myesha You are most welcome love. Now you can be more mindful ♥️🦋

@elias-eg4rl 3 жыл бұрын

thank you, so much. this video genuinely calmed me down and helped. i’ve been struggling a lot with guilt from insensitive things i said years ago, and it’s been making me nearly bring me to harming myself, but this video helped, and i hope it helps long term. again, thank you so much. ❤️

@ryu7408 2 жыл бұрын

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.b

@user-yx5ev3hg8e 2 жыл бұрын

hey, how are u now? im dealing w the same thing rn. do u wanna talk?

@nxtalia_mxdrigal1171 2 жыл бұрын

@@user-yx5ev3hg8e Hey! I'm dealing with some guilt, not for the same reason, but I just hope you're doing well.

@jetpok 3 жыл бұрын

I m grateful to this quarntine cause it gave me time to deal with all of my unresolved feelings and move on

@drmichelledaf 3 жыл бұрын

I am grateful for that for you as well. We all needed this pause. Much love to you

@ryu7408 2 жыл бұрын

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.b

@TheIdeabaker 4 жыл бұрын

Everyone has a future... such wisdom, and something so many will benefit from learning or remembering. Thank you for this, Sister. 💕

@drmichelledaf 4 жыл бұрын

Idea Baker thank you for your affirming words love. You are more than welcome 💕✨

@ryu7408 2 жыл бұрын

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.b

@KathRob1994 3 жыл бұрын

This video helped me more than any other video on guilt. You addressed so many important points and I do feel better. Your compassionate voice is comforting as well. Thank you!

@Abby-nv6rr 4 жыл бұрын

I’m watching this during quarantine and I have been having reoccurring thoughts and this helped me so much. God bless you❤️

@drmichelledaf 4 жыл бұрын

You are more than welcome darling. Just the Lord working through me. God bless you too honey.

@Abby-nv6rr 4 жыл бұрын

Dr. Michelle you’re amazing ❤️

@ryu7408 2 жыл бұрын

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.a

@juicykindess3129 4 жыл бұрын

Her and Chrissie, Chloe and now she is my new favorite too I just subscribed

@lauraapotter7911 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this, I made a terrible mistake this weekend and was having a hard time forgiving myself. It only evolved myself but could have been tragic. I'm greatfull to be alive and working on forgiving myself. This was healing to my soul

@Yuppp328 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for making a video on this topic and holding space. Since the start of quarantine, I’ve been constantly revisiting my past actions, ruminating and obsessing over mistakes I made - both beating myself up for how terrible I believe I am for making them, and constantly reliving those moments to see what I could do different. It’s caused me to be stuck in a rut, make myself believe I am not worthy of things, that I’m a sociopath, or that I’m inherently a bad person. It’s made me consider self-harm and I’ve distanced myself from those I care about the most. But I’ve came to realize (and your video highlights this) that the first part of growth is acknowledging those mistakes, owning them, and making a pledge to not commit them again. It can be hard to know those actions are apart of my past. Yet what is even more difficult to me, is knowing how my past actions may have caused distress or hurt to others. That’s something that won’t ever leave me, even after I’ve apologized (though maybe it’s for good reason). In addition, often times I viewed my mistakes in a vacuum; blaming myself for everything and anything that situation had to deal with. When in actuality, some of my actions were the result of the environment and society I grew up in, and some were completely out of my control. Of course, this doesn’t deny/or give a pass to my actions, but it is a way to explain why I made specific choices at a specific time. Again thank you so much for making this video. It’s really helped me. Ultimately, I agree with you tenfold; in order to hold ourselves accountable, to cleanse our past actions, to continue to love others wholeheartedly and spread love, we need to first begin by forgiving ourselves. Much love ❤️

@ryu7408 2 жыл бұрын

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.

@narmeenkhan5618 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this video Dr. Michelle. I love how you put emphasis on asking for help from God. I'm 20 years old beginning my feminine journey. Though I'm feminine from the outside, I still need to do a lot inner work. And I'm so happy that I've found your channel because you're the only KZfaqr that I know in feminine community who talks about building a relationship with God.

@fatimaowusu6544 4 жыл бұрын

Who would thumb down such a motivating message? Thank you so much my Ghanaian sister for this message! Love love love it!

@drmichelledaf 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you sista!!

@ryu7408 2 жыл бұрын

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.b

@Kai-by8rr 4 жыл бұрын

I love that you're wearing your natural hair. You're gorgeous and thank you for the message.

@drmichelledaf 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much honey. I appreciate you watching!

@ryu7408 2 жыл бұрын

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.c

@doctornobody611 3 жыл бұрын

Ive said and done terible and insensitive things. I feel so much shame every day. I wish i could apoligize to everyone ive ever known. I hate myself. And i want to be a creator but i cant with these things hanging over my head. I understand things like blm and kindness now, and i hate who i used to be....

@godislove7410 3 жыл бұрын

Oh you used to be racist?? Like a white supremacist?

@LillyAmbrose 2 жыл бұрын

That’s who you used to be. You are not that person anymore. It’s a good thing you acknowledged that what you did was bad, so now you need to learn from it and move forward. Mistakes are bound to be made. Yes, some are bigger than others, but that’s part of life. You are not a bad person and you deserve forgiveness.

@ryu7408 2 жыл бұрын

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.b

@meganslater5421 3 жыл бұрын

Michelle - thank you. I came out of a neglectful relationship and looked for love in all the wrong places. I didn't respect myself and ppl took advantage of it. I feel such shame over it... this happened 2 years ago. This video is helping my mind and anxiety a little. I may watch this a few more times till it sinks in. Thank you.

@joy1372 2 жыл бұрын

I've been struggling with similar things 😔 still working on it

@ryu7408 2 жыл бұрын

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.b

@pokenitro2113 3 жыл бұрын

I know everyone that's reading this is going through a tough time, but you need to just look at the positives. Life is much better when you choose to be in the present.

@ynwa2o256 3 жыл бұрын

I needed to hear this, thank you so much, I will return to this video in the future at times when I feel guilty and shameful for my regrets.

@POOKCHOCOLATE 3 жыл бұрын

Wow thank you for this. This video just confirmed that I am indeed on the right path when it comes to forgiving myself for past decisions. But definitely can improve on the positive affirmations tho! 💜 I really needed to hear this 😭

@angiea.9853 3 жыл бұрын

You are Beautiful in and out 💜💜💜 As a single mom, recovering from a toxic childhood and other relationships, your messages help remind me of who I really am. I made mistakes but HE forgives. Thanks for the your honest and kind messages.

@ryu7408 2 жыл бұрын

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.c

@joeturner9219 Жыл бұрын

This video has helped me more than any other I've found. Thank you so much for sharing this. This was much needed. I've done very sick things. Things I won't say on here but I made things right with the person and their family. I received their forgiveness, I was finally able to forgive myself after SO much remorse, regret, guilt and shame. But most importantly, I received God's forgiveness. I've truly learned my lesson and I'm never doing those things again.

@ildikocseh278 3 жыл бұрын

I am crying so hard now, i did somthing terrible to another person, ruining his vacation. I am writing an apology letter, but i feel like this bad feeling will never leave. However 100% I want to be better and not harm beloved once and myself.

@sabrinagilmore Жыл бұрын

Thank you. Thank you very much. I thank you with all my heart, my soul is grateful to you… I needed to hear that. I’d been blaming myself for about 5 years for one horrible mistake that I’ve done. I wanted to be innocent and easy, simple again. But because of you I realized, that my does not define me. I’ve learned my lesson. I changed completely. I CAN be innocent and easy and simple. I know that I will never do the same thing again. Never in my life. And I am trying my best. Thank you with all my love from the very heart ❤️

@Sweet_Southern_Pecan 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this video. I told so many lies years ago, it's terrible. Ironically I have now been on the other end of the spectrum, always being truthful, for well over a decade but still feel shame. I pray God can heal me.

@ryu7408 2 жыл бұрын

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.a

@lillierose5304 7 ай бұрын

I behaved in a really silly way years ago in a brief dating situation. And I had forgotten about it for a while, but recently the crippling feelings of embarressment and regret have crept back up again because I moved back to the area and have had annoying reminders popping up (running into his ex wife and daughter, etc). I was in a bad place mentally at the time and I just can't even believe my actions.. so so embarressed. And he would've told all his coworkers etc. so him and lots of people think I'm a nutcase. I have to try not to care what people think.

@SarahsTimee 4 жыл бұрын

Liked before watching because I need this message 💕💕

@drmichelledaf 4 жыл бұрын

Blessings to you!

@alyssagiannascoli5936 2 жыл бұрын

thank you so much for this❤️i’m so young and i’m thankful i’ve learned from my mistakes at an early stage in my life. excited for my future.

@aaliyahs9594 4 жыл бұрын

This is something I really needed to hear thank you for this beautiful ❤️ yes positive affirmations are important I have begun doing them more often .

@drmichelledaf 4 жыл бұрын

I am thankful that you found this video. Yes, they are so powerful!!!

@ryu7408 2 жыл бұрын

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.b

@marzk6038 3 жыл бұрын

THANKU SO MUCH !! I’ve been feeling guilt over something for 1 while year. I cry out of stress

@emilopucci8962 3 жыл бұрын

I need to forgive myself for being a victim.i was bullied , put down often had low self esteem and people were mean to me growing up. I was hurt and eventually started to hurt other people with those same nasty characteristics

@AngelBien 3 жыл бұрын

I want to like this video a hundred times. It helped me accept that what I did was wrong but that I can let go and be different. Other sources just try minimize what you've done and simply excuse you for going against your values. They want you to skip the natural guilt that comes with doing something wrong. That's not right. Now I know you have to go through the process and it's okay. You can go through it with dignity and grace. Thank you so much.

@JustMitchyNo.9 3 жыл бұрын

I'm not religious in any sense of the word, I'm very stuck in my head and yet this video made me feel better about my guilt.

@christopherquaye1633 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this. This really did resonate. Granted I am not the most religious person, this definitely hit on a lot of gems.So again, I thank you for helping me acknowledge that I am still a being of work, and I am not my mistakes.

@jessicarousch63 3 жыл бұрын

I needed to watch this...I literally do that repeat things of my past mistakes. Mainly all of them are toward my husband but boyfriend at the time. I have been dealing with this for 3 years now :( thank you for advice!

@ryu7408 2 жыл бұрын

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.b

@heiltecn9ne 3 жыл бұрын

I have done my loved ones wrong in my past and it haunts me daily. I feel awful everyday and don't forgive myself, addiction led me down a terrible road for many years and I just hope one day I can feel good about myself and feel like I am doing others right.

@dianen.6665 3 жыл бұрын

thank you so much for this video. i've been struggling a lot and i've been praying to God to help me heal. i think this video is really helpful 💕

@karen.island3697 3 жыл бұрын

Somehow “thank you” doesn’t quite express my gratitude. Absolutely wonderful message.🙏❤️👏

@drmichelledaf 3 жыл бұрын

Aww! I am so happy this was helpful to you. So much love to you!

@karen.island3697 3 жыл бұрын

Dr. Michelle 🌹🥰

@Deisye0 4 жыл бұрын

As soon as I heard you voice, I subscribed. I can feel your authenticity. ❤️

@drmichelledaf 4 жыл бұрын

That is sweet, thank you!

@ryu7408 2 жыл бұрын

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.

@SHINY_STAR73 3 жыл бұрын

I made a lot of mistakes and faults in the past...But I still try my best to become a better person than I was before. Also thank you for this amazing video, I really appreciated it!💕😄

@drmichelledaf 3 жыл бұрын

That is wonderful, I am thankful that it was helpful to you.Thank you for watching!

@ryu7408 2 жыл бұрын

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.b

@andreablossom3929 4 жыл бұрын

Dr Michelle thank you for your channel. I am optimistic, constantly reinforce positive ideas in my brain and hopeful majority of the time. However, even for me sometimes I just don't feel good. I just don't have the energy or faith or patience to journey through my aspirations becoming a reality. When I don't have the strength your videos encourage to breathe and be at peace to trust good things are coming with perseverance.

@drmichelledaf 4 жыл бұрын

You are most welcome love. Continue being optimistic and eventually your brain will change and it will come much easier to you. Blessings and love.

@gabe2deusiee294 Жыл бұрын

I really want to thank u for helping me I'm 14 and I am not that religious but when u said "u need to accept that u did something u didn't know was wrong and u keep blaming yourself" I felt that and should help me put my pass behind thank u ma'am so much 😌

@sam199213 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for being so real and kind always , whenever i needed some kind words and support i will seek your channel and it never fail me I am grateful ❤️

@taylorsswag6009 3 жыл бұрын

I have been dealing with guilt, from me seeing things online I wasn't supposed to be seeing, at such a young age. Thank you for this. :D

@vanneeessaa Жыл бұрын

Same.

@jasperoo. 4 жыл бұрын

this saved me, truly. thank you for bringing this into light in my life.

@drmichelledaf 4 жыл бұрын

I am elated to hear that. You are more than welcome love 🦋✨

@ryu7408 2 жыл бұрын

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.b

@TwoGendersOnly 6 ай бұрын

This really helped me. Im a Delivery Driver and last week was all the black friday deal deliveries. Well, one day the system apparently malfunctioned and I ended up with a huge amount of packages that werent on my list. We are supposed to manually scan them in and deliver them, but instead, I left them at houses I had on my list. We are already worked hard and the company doesnt care enough to make sure important things like that work as intended. I was very angry, but i feel guilty because I work hard and Im a good and honest person. Im always friendly with people and I am grateful for having what I have in life. I truly feel guilty. Even though those people will receive replacements before christmas, I shouldnt act out of anger because it isnt their fault. I will try to keep a level head moving forward.

@buttaflyantics8618 3 жыл бұрын

Having to sit still during covid has made me look into me self and admit my faults and weaknesses and this shadow work is so hard. I can’t believe how much I didn’t truly love myself enough to walk away from situations and people who never loved me or felt I was worthy. I’m forgiving myself so I can heal. I want to be a better woman and mother.

@ryu7408 2 жыл бұрын

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.b

@monaedawson4523 4 жыл бұрын

Dr. Michelle fan 🤸‍♀️😊. I have been binge listening to your content this month. What a wise, beautiful, bright, and informative young lady you are. Thank you thank you Thank you. Just goes to show, lessons and blessings come from all types of sources(ages, sizes, and cultures). I am a member of the middle aged woman club now 😄🙌 and though most of your content has resonated(blessed with 2 mother figures growing up), I too have learned so much from you. God bless you and your journey. May you continue to teach the masses and seek the Kingdom of God and His Righteousness👑🙏😘

@drmichelledaf 4 жыл бұрын

Wow what a beautiful comment, it made my morning! Thank you. I am so touched to know that all of this has resonated with you. You are right, no matter what you can learn from every single person. I thank you for your love. God bless you!

@andreina_la2939 2 жыл бұрын

Oh, you don't know how much I thank you for all that you said. 💕✨ This video just comes in the right moment, have a great life! 🌷

@missmimideon2452 4 жыл бұрын

Good morning and thank you for this! This video speaks to me and how I see myself.

@drmichelledaf 4 жыл бұрын

You are more than welcome sweetheart! I hope you have a blessed day!

@pm1647 4 жыл бұрын

I needed this so much 🙏 thank you. God bless your work and I hope this reaches more people who need to hear this.

@drmichelledaf 4 жыл бұрын

You are so welcome my love. God bless you too, I hope it does as well.

@Bisforbernice 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this video. This was something I struggled with heavily about 2 years ago. I find myself getting back into that rut every once in a while, but I’ve deff come a LONG way on the self forgiveness front.

@drmichelledaf 4 жыл бұрын

I'm so happy that you are coming out of the rut sis! God's got you!

@ryu7408 2 жыл бұрын

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.b

@iankings6405 2 жыл бұрын

I married young, had four beautiful children and let them down through my bad behaviour, since remarried, had two more children, 45 years married and things are good, but privately I can’t let go of the hurt I caused in the past, it haunts my dreams, I am now 85.

@ShaunHolden Жыл бұрын

You can do this, if you are prepared to put the work in absolutely... Let me know if you have still not yet managed to fix this?

@mewa3263 3 жыл бұрын

I said some awful stuff to a friend of mine a couple weeks back. I wanted to apologize but she's been avoiding me and blocked me on everything, I just snapped at her and I've learned that wasn't ok but it seemed like the right choice then. I'm truly sorry to her, and I've come to terms with what I did was wrong. Thank you for helping me get through some of the guilt ❤

@Muzza1991 3 жыл бұрын

For years I’ve had so much anger , pain and Burt towards what people have done to me in the past. But then it’s also the fact of me reflecting on my mistakes but it’s given me anxiety and panic attacks for years now

@empeericism 3 жыл бұрын

Same ✨✨needing others validation so much that I allowed things to happen. Then when I reached my breaking points, I didn’t handle it well and my actions came from a place of hurt. I feel guilty for the good people I didn’t give time to chasing people who didn’t love me correctly and for letting the fact that I’d been hurt allow me to stoop to a level. Now I know not to let anything affect my character, if I say I’m a certain way no amount of hurt should change it . It’s still a process ✨

@VickersJon 2 жыл бұрын

The part about not waiting for the forgiveness is so powerful.

@izzyt1836 3 жыл бұрын

in february i was in a toxic mindset and one day something didn’t go the way i wanted and had an emotional outbreak causing me to cry and make others feel uncomfortable and i can not stop feeling guilty. i have learnt from it and have returned to my positive mindset and am starting to love myself for the first time ever but it still comes back to me a lot of the time and i always feel very guilty about it. this video was very helpful to me, thank you very much💞

@andreasam5189 3 жыл бұрын

Hopefully I can go back to my positive self ...😕

@izzyt1836 3 жыл бұрын

Andrea Sam you will! 💕

@tysonmichael6485 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for your wisdom. One thing I’m doing to do for sure is change my perspective to what I know that I am and who I am

@thebravebird 2 жыл бұрын

this felt like a hug. you are gifted and you are light.

@drmichelledaf 2 жыл бұрын

Wow thank you so much honey!

@orbitingsentientsatellite4361 4 жыл бұрын

6:01 see thats what i thought, but no my conscience tells me “what you did was horrible they have to forgive you if you even want to live with what youve done”

@drmichelledaf 4 жыл бұрын

Well now you know the truth. They do not have to forgive you. Thanks for watching love!

@pearlinestewart1178 2 жыл бұрын

I am glad I was able to find this video, I am struggling with guilt, the person has forgiven me, but I am struggling with forgiving myself. It's affecting me so much, because I keep thinking am a evil person for what I did. It's eating away at me, am in therapy but I am still struggling 🙏🏿

@theresabennett915 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for these words. I had an outburst attack at my job. I feel so freaking bad. I apologized right away. However, I am ashamed of how I acted. I am not making excuses, I was on overload and when my coworker asked me something I exploded. I plead that God forgive me and contain me. God bless you. By the way your hair looks great.

@lydiaanderson6194 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this video. I recently had an experience where I was in the wrong and I can't get past it. This video is really helping me get there.

@artwithmamafairybreadd 2 жыл бұрын

“The outcome of that decision is part of your life now, that is really tough”… And it’s these exact words Dr Michelle, that stop me in my tracks and I can’t move on… I hurt people so much, and they have no passed away, and I can’t find it now, and I know how I hurt them…. I feel pain all the time knowing I did this to them and they didnt deserve it….I get that things are not the same for me now becuase of it…and I have accepted that I cant be truly happy , but I didn’t realise I’d be this unhappy…I didn’t realise I’d feel absolutely no joy at all in anything ….but I do know it’s because I truly hurt a loved one with my words and inaction….

@risunakeryn840 Жыл бұрын

I recently did something horrible to my brother and the entire family in general. To be honest I've been having sleepless nights of blaming myself and recalling every, seeing him down because of me makes everything worse

@drmichelledaf Жыл бұрын

I am sorry. Repent and ask for Jesus to come into your heart and He will save you from this and set you free

@kimmyhotstuff 4 жыл бұрын

Beautiful spirit in the morning that's for sharing this video it was so timely my father passed away about 2 years ago an his birthday was September 16th an I always feels guilty about I should of done better as a daughter hmmm this video was very uplifting thanks for sharing

@drmichelledaf 4 жыл бұрын

I'm sorry to hear that sis. Continue to pray about it. God will guide you. Much love to you sis!

@ryu7408 2 жыл бұрын

I'm Sorry For many years I carried a deep sense of guilt with me. Which has shifted again and again, as soon as I apologized for something to a person. I carried the guilt with me and tortured myself for many years. Until I realized that the only one I really had to apologize to, was myself. I have tortured myself, the most. So every day I apologize to myself for what I've done to myself. This is how I find my innocence; that I once lost, again. And by apologizing to myself, I release my feelings of guilt. And so I don't do anything to others either. Because I am at peace with myself and therefore with the world. Therefore, apologize to yourself if you feel guilty about yourself. Because you can't torture yourself and apologize to yourself at the same time. Tormenting inflicts sorrow. And apologizing takes away sorrow. I hope someone who needs this, stumbles upon this. It took me many years to realize this.b

@demonareid4645 4 жыл бұрын

Hi, this is my first time viewing a video from your channel. It was very soothing and uplifting. I thank YAH for speaking through you and for your dedication to uplifting others especially women!

@queenlinsey8839 4 жыл бұрын

honestly made me feel so much better, such a beautiful message

@drmichelledaf 4 жыл бұрын

I am so happy to hear that. God bless you.

@sii6380 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you Dr Michelle. You are amazing and God bless you for everything you share with us. An adviser,a sis I’ve never had ❤️

@LenaO01 4 жыл бұрын

This was amazing. I played the last two minutes five times in a row to write it all down.

@drmichelledaf 4 жыл бұрын

I'm so happy you feel that way love. I'm happy that it was helpful. Much love to you!

@Isabel-ih5cj Жыл бұрын

This literally made me tear up, I've done some stuff that I regret and especially hurting a dear friend that I had, I really miss her and regret hurting her I always wish I can go back to that day and that it never happened. I have apologize but maybe it was too soon and she was too hurt to forgive? I'm not sure how she feels now about it this happened 4 years ago. I'm still truly sorry and regret it I lost a good friend and as we know it's hard to find true good friends. I'm so glad I found you're channel!! I love you're advice and knowledge you make me feel like everything will be ok and better with time just want to say thank you for spreading positivity and love god blessed you dearly and you're light is beautiful.

@zanayerry Жыл бұрын

im so sorry for you,I know and believe your not like that anymore and that you have changed but if you don't mind me asking what did you do to hurt her im sorry for asking