I remember calling off my engagement because I noticed the red flags! My family and friends thought I was crazy. told me I was overreacting. What they thought didn’t matter cause I knew it would only get worse as time went on. I decided to take the “L” now rather than later!
@DearFutureWifey4 жыл бұрын
Wise decision.
@drreneefowler4 жыл бұрын
What COURAGE!!! Right move!
@divinelychosen55543 жыл бұрын
Wow! Well done girl.
@brandynicjones3 жыл бұрын
Amazing 😍 Good for you ❤️
@mollystalk83733 жыл бұрын
God loves you
@drreneefowler4 жыл бұрын
Thank you for the opportunity to share my story on your podcast! Blessings to you and all that you do!
@DearFutureWifey4 жыл бұрын
Thank you for being transparent. Your story will heal a nation.
@LeroyIsaiahJones4 жыл бұрын
Your story is such a blessing. I thank God for sustaining you. You are a mighty woman of God.
@drreneefowler4 жыл бұрын
@@DearFutureWifey Thank you!
@phendyjean4 жыл бұрын
I'm 32 and never been married but I truly thank you for your transparency. This allowed me to see a whole another level of grace
@drreneefowler4 жыл бұрын
@@phendyjean Yes. Don't ignore the signs... ever.. no matter your age!! Your life depends on it. I would rather stay single than enter another toxic relationship!
@rachelhornbuckle80714 жыл бұрын
Super proud of you mom! You’re legit my shero and I hope to be as graceful as you in the face of adversity and judgment! A lot of people could NEVER handle what we have been through and still be standing! It’s so easy for people to judge from the outside looking in, but I’ve learned you shouldn’t through rocks at glass house and that we never know what anyone is going through so we SHOULDN’T JUDGE when we don’t have all the facts or know the experience of others! It’s so easy to look at someone like my amazing mother and assume things, but what y’all don’t know is this ABUSE hurt our entire family and my mother held us together with a paper clip, AND sacrificed so all THREE OF HER CHILDREN (especially her expensive/active daughter, aka ME) could have one present parent and legit make sure we could have the option and the ability to follow our dreams! Something most people, myself included, could never do! I love that you are so graceful, kind, and forgiving to those who don’t even deserve it, which has been an AMAZING example to me of the Grace of God, which none of us deserve, but he keeps on giving each and every day! You are amazing mama, keep giving love and teaching women to love theirselves and to accept the love they deserve because we don’t always do that and can end up in abusive situations and not even realize it because it’s so subtle! I love you and I am so proud of you!!!!!!!!!
@DearFutureWifey4 жыл бұрын
*Drops mic* Well said, Rachel. Wow.
@drreneefowler4 жыл бұрын
My sweet daughter, Thank you so much for having the courage and strength to share your own thoughts and experiences! THIS EXPRESSION is the true blessing of pressing through adversity and never giving up! THIS EXPRESSION is why when I share my pains and struggles that's it's done so to inspire and give hope! THIS EXPRESSION is my WHY! THIS EXPRESSION is proof of what can occur when healing, persistence, courage, strength, and CRAZY FAITH collide. Parents this is why we must not be selfish and should parent even through our pain. Thank you, @Rachel Renee and I pray and hope that others read your words and reflect upon their own lives before they choose to throw stones! I pray they will hear your heart and be moved to compassion. Jesus was always overtaken with compassion and did not judge nor condemn. I love you and I'm so proud of you and your brothers! Love you more! We are Strong! We are Resilient! We are a GREAT example of Courage and Faith! We will fulfill Purpose! Mom
@drreneefowler4 жыл бұрын
@@DearFutureWifey My Mini-ME (the 6 Ft. Version)! This is my reason! My Why!!!
@rachelhornbuckle80714 жыл бұрын
Dear Future Wifey just giving credit where credit is do!!! This was amazing by the way!!!!!!
@tinawashington35223 жыл бұрын
Thank You! I see myself, it's like you are telling my story to be exact. But One, I had Seven Children, amaging that. Same Arena, marriage/money/ministry. Don't know which is worst, Abusive Marriage OR lies being told by spouse over world wide web and endorsements of it all through Leadership???? THANK You for Your Courage/Tell!!!
@GodsGiftUnleashed4 жыл бұрын
Red flags be looking like six flags when you're feeling somebody 🤦🏾♀️
@DearFutureWifey4 жыл бұрын
🤣🤣🤣
@laurac.23994 жыл бұрын
Good one! Lol🤣
@TL-yc1nl4 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂😂😭😆 wheres the lie?😆
@RoniiiB3 жыл бұрын
😂😂😂😂😂
@quinntheqt42813 жыл бұрын
Say so!! 😄😄
@crystalpowell86194 жыл бұрын
Unfortunately many believers don't know about the perils of a relationship with a narcissist and unfortunately, preaching is an arena where many narcissists hide. The thing about the narcissist is that they want control of everything but they willfully live their lives out of control. Controling others and creating chaos keeps folks from seeing what is really going on. I uprooted my whole life when I saw that happening. And now I try to help others before they go down that path.
@DearFutureWifey4 жыл бұрын
Crystal, I'm so glad you were about to get out of that relationship. Narcissists are no joke!
@LibertyMadison4 жыл бұрын
They want your life, future, children, soul
@racquelhudson72434 жыл бұрын
Great explanation!
@danielapearson3504 жыл бұрын
Crystal...I’m about to shout and wake up my neighbors this early in the morning. Someone come put some blessed oil on my forehead 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🎶🎶🎶
@kidchocolate92534 жыл бұрын
That was very well articulated.
@jessicastrong60063 жыл бұрын
No matter how hard you pray, if A bad guy doesn't want Change, He Won't. I have been there
@vickienantakiika73943 жыл бұрын
Loud it
@gld9273 жыл бұрын
so have i
@JR-ze3nn3 жыл бұрын
Discernment.. God will give us signs.. don’t ignore them.
@DearFutureWifey3 жыл бұрын
Facts
@priscillatehmeh71953 жыл бұрын
I did and I’m my paying for it with my emotions.
@3DPeach3 жыл бұрын
Unfortunately, I ignored the signs and paid for it dearly not only I paid my children did and it's because of me, I didn't listen to my gut. Your gut will NEVER lead you wrong. I mean NEVER!!
@phurplkyxxex3 жыл бұрын
That's why God gives us a free will.
@masegomoruakgomo90334 жыл бұрын
The red flags seem so clear but the enemy is the father of lies and deceit he’ll put a veil over your eyes for you to miss the warning signs. But the Lord will use your story to impact someone before they get into deep. Blessings
@drreneefowler4 жыл бұрын
You are correct! And knowing what to look for is key! Thank you
@stephaniep17613 жыл бұрын
Hormones deceive you, nothing more.
@LL9493 жыл бұрын
@@stephaniep1761 It’s actually pride that deceives people. All the people I know that ignored red flags simply didn’t want to lose face breaking up, when it was still relatively safe. Almost all felt some type of serious discomfort, but still went ahead... God promised that He does not allow more than we (His Spirit filled children) can handle, so even in the infatuation phase we will still have enough sense to know what’s right from wrong! That is, hormones were not created to allow deception, so they are not that strong. Not victim shaming here, but people need to understand dealbreakers like a spiritual, but flirtatious partner... or a controlling one, an irresponsible one, a DIVISIVE one (always somehow connected to drama) and/or one that doesn’t like serious questions about their past!
@LifewithAngie114 жыл бұрын
I remember her and their church coming to my old church IBOC back in the day when all of this was taking place. I knew there was something special about her. I’m glad she and her children are doing well. 🙏🏽
@DearFutureWifey4 жыл бұрын
Yeah, she's a pretty dope woman. Proud of her strength.
@JB-zy7vg4 жыл бұрын
I was a member of this church at the time when this happened I remember pastor RR IBOC was the only mega church that stood by our side and supported the church to the point that he publicly called out church leaders and asked them to stop talking about what had happened but covers us with prayer. IBOC had a 3 night service and raised money to financially help. The only reason I left in 2009 I relocated to other State.
@drreneefowler4 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much
@drreneefowler4 жыл бұрын
@@JB-zy7vg Hey 👋 You are correct! You rode it out Thank you. I pray you are well!
@LifewithAngie114 жыл бұрын
Jannetta Brass yep I was there.
@nickies53253 жыл бұрын
I was a member of this church from 2000-2005. I remember his last sermon before he was charged. He had just been accused and he told the congregation, that we were about to see a miracle. He really thought he was going to overcome this. I joined this church not because of his sermons but because of her, how she was always so genuine and poised. First time I heard any pastors wife preach on Women of Excellence.. I am so happy to see she is still thriving. Im also a faithful tither due to what I learned under this ministry, I hate that this happened, but I wish her and her ministry now, well God bless her.
@DearFutureWifey3 жыл бұрын
That's so powerful, Nickie! Renee would love to her this. You should DM her on IG.
@nickies53253 жыл бұрын
@@DearFutureWifey ok, I will!
@drreneefowler Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much!
@lexgervin68804 жыл бұрын
“Stop, drop, and pray!” 😫 Adopting for life! Thank you, woman of God! 🙏🏽
@1980tiffani4 жыл бұрын
Absolutely!!! My mom always said if it don’t fit don’t force it!! I forced it and ignored so many signs ... even the night before the wedding and my mom came to my room and said get your stuff ..let’s go! It’s done! And I stayed out of obligation and not wanting to let all the people who were there for the wedding... parents need to talk and expand and explain this to their kids... instead of just throwing stuff out there and leaving it up to our interpretation... I didn’t know what those red flags were or what to do next... but I know now and talk to my daughters about it.
@clarkclarke53213 жыл бұрын
So your mom telling you to get your stuff ??
@shaky59563 жыл бұрын
That was my take... I wish my parents and family were open about this type of trauma... I talk to my daughter and her friends about those things with a certain fortitude...
@shaky59563 жыл бұрын
@@clarkclarke5321 sometimes it's not, it's a question of WHY..... I had one friend, a guy who was friend to the both of us....Say don't marry him, I said Why....He would not tell me exactly, he only said he's not ready, (he told me he was ready he acts ready brought a house pays the bill ready) Narcissistic People mask Everything I Finally walked away, but I had to protect my child, from the TV. BROADCAST, they kept my man out of story, but your church, your childrens school and schoolmates knew... It was trematic. But God sent me, two friends from my past, I knew them from the age of 15... They put Me back together again... Listened to Me with judgment, I was able to bounce my ideas off them... Strategies for recovery were made. My family, I needed them the financial support to manage my investments, to overcome the obstacles that he kept throwing at me, still haven't stopped after the divorce. BUT I'M STRONGER AND WISER NOW..... THANK YOU LORD FOR SAVING ME AND MY CHILD...
@TXBornTXBREAD2 жыл бұрын
Many may think this was easy for her to do, because it's been so long ago, but this TOOK COURAGE, and I applaud her 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
@DearFutureWifey2 жыл бұрын
Facts!
@drreneefowler Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much!
@danielapearson3504 жыл бұрын
My college roommate called off her wedding the night before. It was a big to do...who’s who..... Anyway he smacked her DURING the rehearsal dinner. Yes!!!!!!!!’ In their culture sadly that is common. Long story ....her family disowned her. Telling her how she would never meet anyone else with that kind of money who would ever love her. Now 33 years later, she married only 5 years ago for the first time. And she’s so happy. That former fiancé ....he passed away from a terminal illness. He was living a secret lifestyle and my college roommate said she ALWAYS knew something was different. His abuse towards her was deeper than the human eye 👁 could see.
@DearFutureWifey4 жыл бұрын
Wow!!!!!!!!!!!
@drreneefowler4 жыл бұрын
So glad she had the COURAGE then to stand in what she knew in spite of the losses.... Grateful that she is able to now enjoy the life GOD had for her. It is so sad that in the various cultures that acceptance of abuse is still condoned. It's a reality and something that we must stand together to change. Thank you for sharing!
@tellnolies85304 жыл бұрын
Wow! My aunt left her husband after 4 months of marriage he hit her!!
@danielapearson3503 жыл бұрын
Thinking back I wonder if Ms. Fowler’s college boyfriend used the Bible as an excuse against her sorority? Perhaps he wasn’t accepted into a fraternity and got mad and flipped the script??? Just thinking 💭 out loud.
@drreneefowler3 жыл бұрын
@@danielapearson350 Hey there, Just for clarity My college boyfriend was a privileged athlete. It was my ex-husband who didn't allow me to participate And I do think he might not have been accepted in a frat - now that I think about it.
@cm88184 жыл бұрын
Narcissism is a pandemic!
@DearFutureWifey4 жыл бұрын
Facts!
@believewomen1653 жыл бұрын
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
@MelissaAlesiPainFreeGuitarist3 жыл бұрын
!!!
@firstladysara31113 жыл бұрын
Deep 👍
@priscillatehmeh71953 жыл бұрын
Definitely
@metropcs75603 жыл бұрын
I am a former pastor's wife, I experienced all of what this strong woman of God went thru. I got out with my life but my children paid a price. Men and women listen to this lady because it can go both ways. Thank you for sharing this!!!
@whitneymwangi4 жыл бұрын
I imagine Future Wifey finally opening that box to read the letters. God knows how much tissue she will need! Such a beautiful channel!
@paigenicholespeaks61723 жыл бұрын
Right!
@tanikanakeyalewis42023 жыл бұрын
Whitney Mwangi is so Positive. 👏. Not all Abused Individuals Cry.
@helenlugone17163 жыл бұрын
My sentiments exactly!
@tanikanakeyalewis42023 жыл бұрын
@@helenlugone1716, Vanessa Bryant is a Widow. Why, if You're Winning?
@tanikanakeyalewis42023 жыл бұрын
@@helenlugone1716, Influence, and Inspiration is Distinctive: the Distinction is Accountability. "Influence: a person or thing with the capacity or power to have an effect on someone or something, late Middle English: from Old French, or from medieval Latin influentia ‘inflow’, from Latin influere, from in- ‘into’ + fluere ‘to flow’. The word originally had the general sense ‘an influx, flowing matter’, also specifically (in astrology) ‘the flowing in of ethereal fluid (affecting human destiny)’. The sense ‘imperceptible or indirect action exerted to cause changes’ was established in Scholastic Latin by the 13th century, but not recorded in English until the late 16th century." "Inspiration: the process of being mentally stimulated to do or feel something, especially to do something creative, the drawing in of breath; inhalation, Middle English (in the sense ‘divine guidance’): via Old French from late Latin inspiratio(n- ), from the verb inspirare (see inspire)." "Inspire: fill (someone) with the urge or ability to do or feel something, especially to do something creative, breathe in (air); inhale, Middle English enspire, from Old French inspirer, from Latin inspirare ‘breathe or blow into’ from in- ‘into’ + spirare ‘breathe’. The word was originally used of a divine or supernatural being, in the sense ‘impart a truth or idea to someone’"
@michellebarnum84654 жыл бұрын
I ignored them red flags, when God was clearly showing me that he wasn't the man for me. Looking back I wished I had listened. Know better now though.
@drreneefowler4 жыл бұрын
We all do BUT now we KNOW and we will do BETTER! We deserve it!
@ladennayoung29393 жыл бұрын
Just use that opportunity as a lesson that you needed to learn, don't be hard on yourself, and share your experience with as many people as you can. Even if that mean posting videos about it on your own channel. So many people need to know about narcissistic abuse. So, they can get out of those toxic relationships. Don't let the enemy keep you bound in shame and fear. God got you. God loves you, and so do I in Jesus name. Amen. 😘😘😘😘
@toneyfox63283 жыл бұрын
U know now sis
@lorebay25933 жыл бұрын
Don’t feel bad, young and naive, I did too.
@evezazzle59743 жыл бұрын
@@drreneefowler love you 😭🙏❤️🤗 God's continuous support, loving blessings and peace
@MISAO_SAO3 жыл бұрын
She's drop dead gorgeous and such a good example for young women. Thank you for your testimony.
@friedashifotoka65564 жыл бұрын
I’m going back watching each and every video. She is such a woman of wisdom and I love how despite everything she went through she had faith and continued to trust the Lord🙏🏾
@drreneefowler4 жыл бұрын
Thank you and may you be strengthened! Learn the lessons well!
@cleopatrawf4 жыл бұрын
Yep I can relate to this. First isolate then cast doubt on ur character and whether your behaviour is morally right. Used the Bible to justify all kinds of abusive behaviour. Be aware ladies.
@danielapearson3504 жыл бұрын
Facts 🙌🏼🙌🏼
@dezdez75413 жыл бұрын
Really fun but it kart
@debbiejoy7 Жыл бұрын
Been here but escaped marrying them.
@elijahsmimi34654 жыл бұрын
My story isn't as tragic but I was dating a guy and I kept making excuses and seeing the flags flying. This interview was the push needed.
@M_wognministry Жыл бұрын
What kind of excuses were you making?
@sscott5044 жыл бұрын
I am so going to do as Laterras and start writing my letters to my future husband. Thanks Sir!!!❤
@DearFutureWifey4 жыл бұрын
I encourage you to do so. It's cathartic.
@karenmcgee18694 жыл бұрын
I've already done so for 4 years from 2013-2017. I stopped because I completed the journal/book. I'm thinking of starting again!
@speaklifewithboiketlo4 жыл бұрын
😹I thought about after Purpose vs Preference Podcast. It's a sign 😹✨
@destinixshakur4 жыл бұрын
Facts. I need to
@revecawithav41504 жыл бұрын
Thankful
@Tricey.894 жыл бұрын
I remember seeing a meme that said “these red flags looking kinda pinkish” - even though I laughed, it has some truth in it, when you make an excuse for red flags or stay with the person despite the bad signs, they no longer look as dangerous as they did before
@drreneefowler4 жыл бұрын
Great truth!!! It's difficult sometimes to determine what's healthy and whats not.
@kejuanlynette85313 жыл бұрын
Your picture is beautiful Patrice🤗
@kejuanlynette85313 жыл бұрын
@Robert Drake Thank you Sir!
@torriepenney9363 жыл бұрын
For example..he is building a business..so cannot set a schedule about Time with you. It was called by him Doing good for me. I made the statement..yes..There I am walking down the street with my arm up..around the invisible man. The one who " just can't be there" again! Plus..he made no gains..no Giving to make up for missed time. Put me through torment..came knocking at my house pleading He was doing good work. DEVIL in disguise..mocking Gods word about being set straight..made right. I ate dinners alone bc of biz meetings. Stopped inviting the Skipper! If he showed up, I would not say are you hungry? I would ask through a closed door..Tell me one bit of Good news..that you got funded for your project. He always said Soon. The lies showed that's all he could produce. He did pay for my moving costs..knew I needed help..and at least paid back something for the grief he often caused me. Still did not mean he could be around..say more lies. I cdn't continue repeating When will something show a Good result. I kept my apartment, raising a son and not giving my ear to that person. He could not say definite days for anything..only his schemes covered up as "going well". He resisted saying where new office was..because I might come and Speak to staff they were in for some trouble. Am sure they found out. Shutting the door on those who cannot give of themselves Is the only choice. They ll continue on in stories until all turn their backs. They will cry in regret for not hearing why trust needs to be kept..for not learning to manage What they say is important to them. Job focus..will only give you job related successes. After work..what will you have to look forward to? Nothing but material gain. That can become unsatisfying because Sharing it becomes the last thing they will do. Giving bad news is deferring hope. In between getting to levels of success, one ought to show human interaction and recognition for support and understanding. Cancelling that is akin to antisocial behaviour..they get no one standing by them bc they wouldnt stand by anyone.
@collegegrad29554 жыл бұрын
I learned the hard way about ignoring red flags with my ex he had some of the qualities I wanted in a man( provider and protector) but some other qualities were missing ( God fearing & family oriented). I can not date/ court potential because potential is not what I needed at this point in my life.
@goddessk46104 жыл бұрын
college grad beautifully said. I'm going through the same thing and you're so right, he only has potential and that's not enough.
@collegegrad29554 жыл бұрын
@@goddessk4610 thank you
@luvmecurlznall4 жыл бұрын
I went through the same exact thing. Great great potential but he needed to go through his own healing that i couldn't be apart of. I still pray he receives that healing
@tacowboys68903 жыл бұрын
At 41 I’m with you on that!
@BeautybyJemyjoan3 жыл бұрын
Never date potential!!!👌👌
@VibeWitMe402 Жыл бұрын
I can really relate to her story. As a 27 year old who was fresh out of college, I met a guy who ended up being abusive. I didn't know what the signs I was seeing meant and went through with a marriage that I didn't feel comfortable being in. I shared my trepidation with him before we married and he screamed in my ear about how he was ready to marry me. I ignored that flag and the unease and unfortunately had three children with him. I left that burning building with my 3 children and left him after he had a fit of rage. Thank God I did. I am praying for her and her children. Ignoring those red flags (or not knowing those were red flags) cost me an opportunity to meet someone healthy and forge a loving marriage for me and my children. If it doesn't feel right, do NOT get married... even if people say it's cold feet. Only marry a person who gives you PEACE at the thought of being married to them.
@twortham39793 жыл бұрын
A wife has the natural ability to "see through" her husband when she is confident in her own spiritual discernment . We are no longer accepting claims and "blind eye" theories from the elders in the Church anymore . If nothing more, I hope this teaches younger women who are considering marriage to accept devotion only after they are fully confident and wise enough to use discernment. 🙏🏾
@tierradestinyfriends-digit96113 жыл бұрын
AMEN! R.C Blake's on KZfaq is the best resource for this!
@twortham39793 жыл бұрын
@@tierradestinyfriends-digit9611 I used to tune in to him.... he's so old school lol. I appreciate this podcast for the balance
@Misssixty5103 жыл бұрын
This ♥️
@ladennayoung29393 жыл бұрын
Yes. We have to use Godly wisdom in everything that we do. Some people really are wolves in sheep's clothing.
@okaygee41323 жыл бұрын
Tony Gaskins and the late Pastor Stephen Darby also have great videos on relationships and discernment.
@ladennayoung29394 жыл бұрын
She is a pretty woman. It is good that she is sharing her testimony. I have been in countless of abusive relationships. A few of them physically and verbally abusive. The last one was primarily emotionally, psychologically, spiritually, and verbally abusive. If you have been through this share your testimony. Don't let the enemy silence you. People need to hear this. So they know what type of relationships to avoid.
@DearFutureWifey4 жыл бұрын
Exactly! Thank you for sharing your testimony. You made it sister!
@ladennayoung29394 жыл бұрын
@@DearFutureWifey Amen!
@gcreations4113 жыл бұрын
Powerful testimony from the guest. This brings back so many memories for me. I am encouraged to finish my book. Empowerment!
@chelseascott84884 жыл бұрын
This conversation was Very enlightening. One of my daughters is in a Relationship that has All the Red flags and I have made my concerns known. I shared this podcasts on the family Group thread. We can't make Our grown up children to do what we want, but I haven't stopped Praying and Trusting GOD 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 Thank you Sir for Covering all aspects of Relationships. Maybe Dr Dharius Daniels could come on here to discuss his Relational Intelligence book. Awesome Read!
@ladennayoung29393 жыл бұрын
All you can do is pray. Don't be judgemental or harsh when speaking to her. Need to know and understand why she feel as though she is not valuable enough to wait on a man from God that will love and respect her in a genuine manner. More often then not she grew up in a toxic environment. That caused her to not create healthy boundaries, and not show genuine love to begin with.
@ohanaohana88443 жыл бұрын
Speak in depth to your daughter about your concerns. Share your own personal experiences, so that she can have a deeper understanding. You can't make a grown person do anything that they don't want to, but parents should talk to their children and provide clear knowledge and the talks should start at a young age before they start encountering challenges.
@mariedee073 жыл бұрын
My ass use to be color blind to read flags!! No anymore. With every experience, you start to see the more and more clearly. The spirit in you will start to become agitated. Don't ignore that! I use to think I was bugging and ignoring my instincts. I grew up in a controlling and strict home. This is not healthy for any child. You grow up being a people pleaser, unaware of healthy boundaries, and unable to speak up for yourself because controlling behaviors are such a norm. I had to get help for myself to heal. I have been doing this for years and I'm still doing the work. Once I understood myself and got grounded in who I was, I was quick to stop any bully or emotional vampire in their tracks. I learn to create healthy boundaries, not walls in order to protect myself.
@rlight76663 жыл бұрын
Well said! "I learn to create healthy boundaries, not walls in order to protect myself."
@gsamuels79464 жыл бұрын
It's really important to listen to God. I was in an abusive relationship about 26 years ago and he wanted to marry me and on the way to the jewellers to get my ring finger measured, I heard the loudest NO in my heart and I walked away from the shop and the relationship ended shortly afterwards. I am now with someone new who is displaying the same thing. I have been praying and seeking God to remove him, but he has been around for 2 and half years. Two nights ago I heard whilst praying sever the tie. So I asked God to sever the tie and I have not heard from him since. Praise God....
@DearFutureWifey4 жыл бұрын
God is so good!
@drreneefowler4 жыл бұрын
Thank GOD that HE speaks to us.... Im so grateful that you are listening. You life matters... Praise God
@gsamuels79464 жыл бұрын
@@drreneefowler Thank you Renee
@tellnolies85304 жыл бұрын
God will do what you ask he want us to seek him and Love him with all our hearts and soul I asked God to cut the ties from the root of my heart I prayed and told him if it’s meant for us to be together he’ll do it in his own time , he was my HS sweetheart we reconnected an emotional 10 yr affair the situation was messy after that I cut all contact with him and yes it hurts, but God showed me an ugly side of him I’ve never seen!!
@gsamuels79464 жыл бұрын
@@tellnolies8530 God loves us so much that if we just speak to him about every single thing that concerns us, he promise to perfect it, whether the door closes or remains open. He is our protector and sees our end from the beginning. Keep believing your desires are coming.
@user-tv8yy9nm4m3 жыл бұрын
Silence keeps you stuck.
@kayluv1843 жыл бұрын
I found myself in a narcissistic relationship. I didn't have a word for it until about 3 or 4 years in. I just watched and paid attention. Finally after the 6th year, I started studying narcissism and had that aha moment. I knew that we would never go farther than where we were. I checked out of the relationship mentally emotionally and physically in the last 3 years. Divine intervention stepped in 2019, when he got a job transfer and he moved. Thankfully it happened like that in order for the toxic bond to be broken. I am now on a self healing journey and it feels good
@DearFutureWifey3 жыл бұрын
Preach!
@luissmall91423 жыл бұрын
Yes it's best to move on it will never. work got my confirmation
@karenmitchell58093 жыл бұрын
Wow this pod cast almost broke me down in tears while listening at work. I saw so many things in my present relationship but also some things in my self. Truly a soul awakening. This shook my world. May shift my life.
@DearFutureWifey3 жыл бұрын
Hallelujah!
@chewznbooz Жыл бұрын
Renee Fowler Hornbuckle has blessed me, and enlightened me. I cried as I listened to her testimony because I was abused and I begin to see all that I wasn't taught and given. I am a runner and I recently relocated . Now I am questioning why did I relocate? I thought it was a fresh start but I don't know now. Am I running again.? Am I running from my past or problems or running towards finding love. The love would be, love that I never received from the people GOD chose to bring me into this world. I thank GOD for this Dear Future Wifey Podcast! Praying to get to the other side!
@user-zm2lx2sr8c Жыл бұрын
Went thru a similar story. we were together 17years. He was in the news. You are very brave to share something that I was soooooo ashamed of.
@Nou754 жыл бұрын
In my thirty journey, I was conditioned to achieve a degree, relationship, house, etc. & all these things are great, but I am learning that NOT to pay so much attention to these things. In relations, sometimes when we want something so bad we ignore the red flags. I'm learning to really enjoy the moment, acknowledge ALL the flags and really put faith into the creator. what will be for me will be for me! Thank u for posting. I really needed this
@DearFutureWifey4 жыл бұрын
Amen!
@drreneefowler4 жыл бұрын
You have learned well. Stay alert always
@NateBig774 жыл бұрын
It seems like a lot of red flags are matters of degrees. Like you SHOULD place boundaries on your male friends, you SHOULD have some focus on your relationship as well as your family, and you SHOULD prioritize your marital relationship over other activities. Sometimes it's hard to understand or see when things have shifted from a reasonable concern to unhealthy restriction or manipulation.
@okaygee41323 жыл бұрын
Great observation and well stated. Secret societies and fraternal organizations often have ungodly roots. We are to leave and cleave. The devil comes as an angel of light and uses half truths to deceive. God help us, especially the daughters of Zion, that we will not be deceived.
@tierradestinyfriends-digit96113 жыл бұрын
I love that he asked if she ever reached out to any of the victims. That was a powerful and revealing question. Says alot.
@tierradestinyfriends-digit96113 жыл бұрын
Amazing interviewer. That was a question that provided insight without judgement.
@MiyzP4 жыл бұрын
What she says at 22:40 I can relate to that. My closest male friend died suddenly when me and my ex were supposed to meet. This demon acted like nothing had happened. But rather made it all about him. The red flags are always there. Also the issue about knowing prior to the wedding day is real. I wanted to cancel my wedding to my ex husband that morning because he "sat on my glasses breaking it" everyone around me thought I was overreacting but looking back, that was my sign to tap out. It's safe to say that after a few years, I tapped out and doing so much better. Do not ignore the signs, you are not being paranoid. Make your choice and God will sustain you. Great podcast.
@DearFutureWifey4 жыл бұрын
True! Thanks, Ms P.
@dr.veronicaoutlaw46244 жыл бұрын
I think it is so important for people to know these subtle signs of domestic abuse because most times before it's physical, it's the isolation and control. Unfortunately for me, I didn't recognize it until it became physical. My experience was very similar to hers. This breaks my heart, but I'm thankful to those who have the courage to speak out.
@drreneefowler4 жыл бұрын
I'm so grateful you are one who made it out!
@dr.veronicaoutlaw46244 жыл бұрын
@@drreneefowler Thank your for the courage to share and for your reply. Your interview refreshed my thoughts on why I continue to speak out because the testimonies are for those who are in the trenches now, or still suffering from the aftermath and need the help. God Bless You! 🤗🤗
@beedabee12214 жыл бұрын
Thanks for this interview. I’m truly grateful to see that there are men who truly listen and care and will respect and cover us. The letter at the end truly touched my heart. Thanks so much.
@Djdontforgetthedomo3 жыл бұрын
I know her daughter personally and she’s such an amazing soul!!
@LuxeprivaeMedia3 жыл бұрын
Hornbuckle... hmmmm. I remember that name. I met a pastor in Arlington many years ago and the day I met him after the sermon, shook his hand and got a very bad vibe... years later I found out why....God is good.
@iwrist3133 жыл бұрын
I agree with you Fred. I went to this church bc a friend invited me to come to a Xmas event. I believe at that time it was on Division St. I walked in and everyone looked like they were at a formal jazz club with the musician playing the sax. My spirit went on alert and made me watch EVERY THING. After it ended my friend asked me did I like it but I told her that the tithes money was not utilized for the benefit of the church and there's something wrong was there and I'm not going to go there. A decade later she called me and said that I was right in what I discerned...that Hornbuckle got arrested right after his sermon for drugs and the assault of teen girls. So many lives and love toward God destroyed bc of this. I pray healing for the victims.
@CathyJordanGlobal4 жыл бұрын
Sista Renee, what GOD placed inside you no man can take away. Re-ignite the fire and shine bright! Thanks for sharing your story.
@talaya25233 жыл бұрын
I am a witness to this. You don't have to look like what you're going through. AKA my glory don't tell my story😍
@southerngurl.speaks49014 жыл бұрын
I always enjoy hearing her speak. Her strength is indescribable
@palesamocoancoeng35104 жыл бұрын
She's so graceful. Wishing her the absolute best. May her testimony continue to change peoples lives.
@shonbond80744 жыл бұрын
Wow. This tugged at my heart. Thank you for this testimony. Even though I have no children I am always aware that I have to be cautious of the red flags because of the people connected to me and my ministry. That Future wife ending prompted the comment. Well said and well done.
@shineawright89554 жыл бұрын
This blessed my soul.....I recall the news of all of this. I’m SO glad God preserved Lady Renee, her children and her ministry in the way that He did! 🙏🏾💜🙏🏾
@frankaaknight36994 жыл бұрын
This woman really encouraged me to keep walking in faith now that I'm walking out to my freedom. Knowing who we are and knowing who God has designed us to be is so important. Thank you for such an inspirational pod cast God bless you very much.
@carlacarter56744 жыл бұрын
Pastor Renee is a phenomenal Woman of God! I respect her dearly and glad to know her and her children are doing well.
@DearFutureWifey4 жыл бұрын
Thank you for your support. Please be sure to watch some of our previous episodes. Hope they bless you.
@d_roi86893 жыл бұрын
Mr. Whitfield, just finding your show. Enjoy the cleanliness and open dialogue you allow. Please keep your format as polished and professional as now witnessed. You are a great guy and anything less would not be great. God appears to be with you and your "LIT" agenda is refreshing in the midst of profanity laced KZfaq and podcast channels.
@carsandrajones75964 жыл бұрын
SO WOWED BY THIS FIRST LADY'S TESTIMONY OF FAITH AND STRENGTH.
@shemireyahlilly55214 жыл бұрын
I remember when this happened 16 years ago in Dallas. It was a major local news story.
@DearFutureWifey4 жыл бұрын
Exactly
@ladennayoung29394 жыл бұрын
God allowed it to be on Valentine's day. Because that was the day your journey of loving yourself deeply and correctly was going to begin. God don't make any mistakes. He is an awesome and on time God.
@DearFutureWifey4 жыл бұрын
You better preach!
@drreneefowler4 жыл бұрын
AMEN
@dineoportiamagoro32123 жыл бұрын
Amen
@acwriter Жыл бұрын
Incredible testimony! I’m learning so much from this episode. Thank you and God bless you abundantly, both of you.
@lydiawallis82662 ай бұрын
We were members at Agape prior to this happening. Pastor Hornbuckle brought me and my siblings to Christ! I will forever be grateful for this ministry. Still praying for this family.
@t7cooley4202 жыл бұрын
“Public fall, public resurrection… we have to think about our children’s, children, children… walk with grace, strength & dignity… it’s time to live” Oh my, too many nuggets to list them all! You are an amazingly strong woman of God. Thank you for your transparency and testimony. Many blessings to you and yours ✨
@candaceellison71474 жыл бұрын
If you have God and your mind, you can rebuild it again. That was so so good.
@drreneefowler4 жыл бұрын
It's a truth I live by! For real! Bless you!
@laurie94523 жыл бұрын
Oh sister! your story is powerful. I needed to hear this...
@DearFutureWifey3 жыл бұрын
Glad it was helpful!
@missnurseeri2 жыл бұрын
I don't even have the word to fully articulate what I just witnessed. Other than I feel so exposed. God, You are so very good. So very very good indeed. ❤️
@DearFutureWifey2 жыл бұрын
God is pursuing your heart and mind.
@blazinleotexas85624 жыл бұрын
Thank you Renee. The grace, dignity, & strength you have shown is a true example of a Warrior Queen. Many blessings to you and your family.
@roselynkantema64932 жыл бұрын
Dear future hubby, I truly wish you watch this podcasts. January 2021 I chose to leave a 5 year relationship with the father of my child. It was the hardest decision of my life but rather that than ignoring the red flags. I loved him so much I overlooked the narcissistic tendency!! This is powerful!!!! Thank you for this podcasts! ❤️❤️❤️
@YT4Me573 жыл бұрын
"As of August 25, 2020 Hornbuckle has been transferred to the Texas Civil Commitment Center in Littlefield, Texas." Thankfully, Ms. Renee Fowler Hornbuckle and her children will be safe from her narcissistic ex husband, who still refuses to admit full responsibility for his actions.
@DearFutureWifey3 жыл бұрын
Amen
@drreneefowler3 жыл бұрын
Moving forward. Thank you
@terrabrown21882 жыл бұрын
Love her openness to share her story! I hope it helps others to recognize that it’s ok to act on those red flags we see. Don’t doubt yourself! It’s REAL!!
@webuysellhousesaptscashoff94534 жыл бұрын
This was a great interview that stood for authenticity where deliverance can truly take place. Thank you for being obedient both of you. I pray to meet you both one day. I have been thru some abuse as well however your story is amazing. Wow! Were there ever any signs or intuitive feelings of betrayal or infidelity ? I am going thru that now.
@traumaMaryJane4 жыл бұрын
I am scrolling through the comments and what I am about to say always bothered 😕 me with advice podcast ~ where are the men ? Do they watch ? Do they want a healthy relationship? And is just like church ~ the church is filled with single women who is looking for that one hope or that one word ~
@DearFutureWifey4 жыл бұрын
My analytics show men account for 12% of viewership. They do leave comments just not as much.
@traumaMaryJane4 жыл бұрын
Dear Future Wifey I wish they would to let us know as women that they are out there ~ but 12% ~ my Father in Heaven help the women because Brother there is more than 12% of women that is watching ~ 🦋🦋🦋 rebirth*
@traumaMaryJane4 жыл бұрын
Dear Future Wifey thank you for replying back to me ~ just breaks my heart ❤️
@drreneefowler4 жыл бұрын
Yes, Men are paying attention... there are many that don't condone this behavior. I participated in an all men's panel and ministry event years ago.. as the only woman in the room they asked TONS of questions and many repented for their behaviors that they mostly learned from the men around them. They had to stop the session it went so long. Perhaps, we need to continue the conversation...
@Nikki-ci5ze3 жыл бұрын
@@drreneefowler there are plenty conversations and I've the original commenter stated no comments from the guys and thats sad.
@sheilatolston68364 жыл бұрын
Sir You have great content. I may watch 5 to 10 minutes, but this one held my hand. Great and so personal, real genuineness. Thanks for sharing.
@DearFutureWifey4 жыл бұрын
I appreciate that.
@kellyjones55094 жыл бұрын
So many women even in church deal with verbal and physical abuse behind close doors. Pastor Hornbuckle does not look like what she has been through. Always admire her testimony.
@DearFutureWifey4 жыл бұрын
Facts!
@melaniismail4 жыл бұрын
This is an awesome interview. So glad Dr. Renee was able to rise from the devastation her and her family went through.
@DearFutureWifey4 жыл бұрын
Thank you homie! Gotta get you and your husband on a episode.
@drreneefowler4 жыл бұрын
Thank you ❤❤❤❤
@sha_la0074 жыл бұрын
Great podcast!!! The legacy conversation piece spoken here is so important. I lost my mother in February and she left me a legacy. I did not expect anything, however, I am grateful for everything. I consider what was left to me as a privilege. She taught her only child how to live with no expectation to recieve anything. Please talk about this more
@DearFutureWifey4 жыл бұрын
Sorry about your loss. Make your mom proud.
@rlight76663 жыл бұрын
Ohhhh how I missed some serious red flags!! I should have never married my ex. God will throw you a pebble before he throws you a brick!! He busted me all upside my head...lol
@sharleneandsamsonentertain88583 жыл бұрын
Me too.
@lailafiola77283 жыл бұрын
😂🤣🤣🤣🤣😅me too
@tiff9653 жыл бұрын
🤣🤣🤣
@Hallelujur3 жыл бұрын
What a magnificent woman!! 🙌🏽🌹 How incredibly important is her story for women all over the world. Dear Father, bless her and her children to soar even more. 🕊
@jamiethomas6274 жыл бұрын
This is so needed within the body of Christ in this hour because many people desire they are not suppose to have because of the lust of their flesh. It’s imperative that we pray and prepare ourselves for marriage but establish a stronger relationship with God. Many people go into relationships hurt without being healed and so broken and damaged that they become so toxic. Let the Lord cleanse and purify your innocence and focus on what He wants you to do. I thank God for this video
@drreneefowler4 жыл бұрын
So true! There are so many taboo subjects that we don't want to discuss, but we must! Thank you
@Peacelovekrissye3 жыл бұрын
The guest, she is such a beacon of hope. ❤️..so glad I stumbled upon this KZfaq channel and this specific interview in particular. Thank you for what you do.
@DearFutureWifey3 жыл бұрын
Welcome to the family
@DoctorCarrieHall Жыл бұрын
Thank you for confirmation that I made the right decision when I recognized the red flags and ran in fear, and horror. These videos have jump started the healing process in my life. Being an older woman 👠 this helps me so much. Thank you for your openness and honesty. These videos have also helped me realize the importance of counseling and taking care of my mental health.
@LovesJourney12 жыл бұрын
I am Thankful I heard her message. It hit me hard because I know it was truly meant for me to hear her. When she spoke on the legacy, I could only smile. Before I had children, I said those exact words, I have to protect my children's children's children's children. I knew I could not do or say what would harm them. Writing my story a little more daily. This episode was my push.
@LuxeprivaeMedia3 жыл бұрын
I got a red flag the day I met that pastor.... I didn't come back.
@mzschelioaas-shelois71523 жыл бұрын
Wow, that was so powerful. Very encouraging and I know without doubt that the best of Pastor Renee’s days are ahead of her. She definitely doesn’t look like what she went through. Here’s the thing, God knew all about her husband’s character and He still allowed His prize gift (Renee) to marry him because He knew she would endure. She shall live to see the goodness of the Lord in the land of living. Blessings to you, and looking forward to reading about your full recovery and restoration.
@DearFutureWifey3 жыл бұрын
You preached! So true!
@TriciaBent3 жыл бұрын
This was amazing, something I didn’t even know I needed to hear. Thank you for your courage 🙏🏾
@MylahStanton4 жыл бұрын
Stop, drop, and pray. Yes Lord! Her message resonates with me. I knew better. I didn't listen to the Holy Spirit. I praise God everyday that He saw me through and rescued me. Now I walk in purpose!!
@DearFutureWifey4 жыл бұрын
Amen. Keep walking.
@MylahStanton4 жыл бұрын
@@DearFutureWifey Each and every single day.
@nourishment4yoursoul8603 жыл бұрын
I’m glad that you spoke on this Pastor because truth be told this happens to many women of all colors all over the world. It’s called narcissistic behavior/Jezebel yes Jezebel can be a man too! Thank you! This must be addressed. In the church and in the home. Many families are being destroyed because of lack of knowledge
@abbasjoy47852 жыл бұрын
It's a spirit...religious spirit.
@rondas77723 жыл бұрын
This is great, but remember faith is dead without works!! We have free will, so we need to learn to walk away and stop just saying God remove the person. I think you should ask God to remove when you try to walk away & they keep hounding you & the temptation gets too strong. God gives us strength and common sense. Most likely anyone who prays and says God remove him, knows already that the guy is no good, that's why you prayed it in the first place.
@torriepenney9363 жыл бұрын
This is not so easy when Children are shared after divorce. I was Made to divorce, husband had found someone when doing a sport. My son was a gift from God after a miscarriage. I know about trials. I dont bother my ex, he barely tells me what is going on with Our son. Of course I need to understand how son is doing. When he arrives, he shows the behaviour of Irritation. Why am I asking what he s been doing..So we can have a relationship despite the Blocks done to Reduce understanding. Praying to stay connected, Covid has put a heaviness on son and I. The ex.s relationship crumbled last year. I ve had foot injuries this year..but am better. No family here helping w chores..its not easy. Narcissists only know how to be self focussed. If I say need to know when my son is coming..its considered demanding. Holidays get cut down..even if it's my time with my son. Praying all manipulating be thwarted..heap coals on head of the ex. I don't ask for anything..to do so will mean Ex has to add in some further obstacle. Is hard after 20 yrs of marriage and successes in life to Continue with less, and be despised for Requesting simple decency. God weighs w perfect scales. Those with many family members near them, u may find things change for you suddenly. Be kind to women or mens who are raising famil
@rondas77723 жыл бұрын
@@torriepenney936 I agree, it's definitely hard when you have to co-parent.
@sharoncobb25473 жыл бұрын
Say it again for the people in the back Romda!
@SBecktacular3 жыл бұрын
Great video about awareness 👌 “If it doesn’t feel right, don’t do it” Great advice- but to someone who Has been around dysfunction from the beginning, that person already has a cloudy understanding of “right”- but it’s stories like yours that can help get clarity. Thank you 🙏
@ladennayoung29394 жыл бұрын
That was good. When she said they refuse to become aware of where they really are. You can't heal if you don't accept the truth in regards to the situation. Only the truth will set you free. People that abuse in the manner that she is speaking of is a narcissist, and these people will and can destroy you in more ways then one. So if you can get out of a relationship like this. Remove yourself from them. Even if the abuse is coming from a family member. It is important that you protect your sanity, joy, and peace. Blessings to all.
@DearFutureWifey4 жыл бұрын
Facts. Been there.
@drreneefowler4 жыл бұрын
Truth! Thank you
@drreneefowler4 жыл бұрын
Absolutely! Thank you
@helenlugone17163 жыл бұрын
Very powerful interview. The honesty of Ms Honeysuckle is extremely refreshing and Mt Whitfield is on point as always. I have watched it twice. Fabulous job Mr Whitfield!👏
@helenlugone17163 жыл бұрын
Oops Hornbuckle not Honeysuckle, apologies!
@ChelseaBlessings4 жыл бұрын
Man! This blessed me...been in abusive dating relationships....physical, emotional, and verbal. Hope springs! Thx guys
@drreneefowler4 жыл бұрын
Thank you for your supportive words. But make sure you don't ever ignore the signs! You have great value and worth! #greaterawaits
@ChelseaBlessings4 жыл бұрын
@@drreneefowler Amen! I receive! 🙏🏽🌻
@DearFutureWifey4 жыл бұрын
Continue being an overcomer. Proud of your honesty and strength.
@Simlicity093 жыл бұрын
that line "weakness vs wickedness.." yes! that's the truth. From my experience..it has leaned to wickedness in males I have encountered.
@nw2533 жыл бұрын
Wow, this was such an encouraging interview and what a "lit" ministry in every sense 🔥. Glad KZfaq suggested this (new to me) channel today. I find the concept of this show so refreshing and empowering. God bless from a new subby ✝️.
@DearFutureWifey3 жыл бұрын
Welcome to my journey. Thank you so much
@howardmanley33883 жыл бұрын
I’m 28 years “nag free now” and I intend to stay that way, the only relationship I’m interested in now is with my creator...✅🙏
@DearFutureWifey3 жыл бұрын
Did you say, "nag free?" 🤣🤣🤣🤣
@galejordan45702 жыл бұрын
AMEN!
@bee123554 жыл бұрын
He was a narcissist
@kathysteele43033 жыл бұрын
Agree... overt narcissistic personality disorder
@tammrabryant41503 жыл бұрын
True narcissist
@tammrabryant41503 жыл бұрын
Who was her husband
@deborahwaters93383 жыл бұрын
I’m married to a narcissist and working to get out of it. He is a horrible person.
@cathyrussell32533 жыл бұрын
He is a narcissist to the core 😐
@TXBornTXBREAD2 жыл бұрын
The advice he gave her about writing the letter, is more powerful than most people may think...I did that by writing a letter to my late father, releasing him from all the bitterness that I carried around for years!!
@belindalindsey6074 жыл бұрын
She has done it well and a great success is coming her way.
@Joyful-gu5bj3 жыл бұрын
Am learning so much. We can never take back words spoken into our children's future Thanks for sharing your story. Beautiful, strong and focused on what God called you for.
@JoseyTurn174 жыл бұрын
When we look delivered, We should not look defeated, In Jesus name!!!
@cwrichar3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for sharing. I know how brave you are, I see myself in pieces of your story.
@ascension33dancestudio404 жыл бұрын
This was truly a blessing! Thank you for sharing your story!
@DearFutureWifey4 жыл бұрын
Glad you enjoyed it! Thanks for your support.
@ladennayoung29393 жыл бұрын
The flags are there. We just choose to ignore them when we fear being alone or whatever the case maybe.