Debunking the "Perfect Family" myth

Debunking the "Perfect Family" myth | Episode 2

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@leotise8399 Жыл бұрын

Coming from a toxic dysfunctional family without any religion, as a newly found Christian its apparent to me that this family is giving me the blueprints on how to have a Christ centered family. And not a self centered family. Their is a huge difference. This is what i want when I have a family! Your whole family is blessed and beautiful. Thank you so much!

@ellenmelon88 8 ай бұрын

Same same same 🙏🏻

@fiffiebrown7590 7 ай бұрын

Couldn't have said it better myself. I love Jb, Lisa And your beautiful family. May God continue blessing all your family .May He keep ya'all In the Palm of His hand, Amen.

@noelc2 Жыл бұрын

Obedience is “Right away, all the way & in a happy way” “Consistent rather than crazy” 👏

@yourbestlifewitheziaha7493 Жыл бұрын

Julie’s tweak of the week is EVERYTHING. I LOVE the point where she says that even though there is still a conversation to be had because we are committed to doing it COMMUNALLY. …. PHew. So goops

@ioanapone3576 Жыл бұрын

Yes when God forgives me, He chooses to remember my sin/offense no more, in the sea of forgetfulness. So we too need to follow suit, forgive others and choose not to focus nor rehearse the offence in your mind ever again, as our Heavenly Father does. ❤

@thekohvenant6340 Жыл бұрын

So blessed by this! As a mum to 3 who is guilty of the yelling and “threats”, and feeling like I failed to meet these unspoken expectations, you have no idea how much this spoke to me. I was listening to this as I was packing up the mess in the home and I had to stop what I was doing bcos I kept breaking down in tears haha!

@viktoriyamalyk5701 11 ай бұрын

I feel adopted into y’all’s family! in a good way, you make the viewer feel so welcomed and speak so much love, I feel so blessed to have y’all in my life!!! re-directing my life with the wisdom and giving me tools to be fruitful as a christian mom. thank you so so much truly.

@LoC1776 10 ай бұрын

Omg … the point made at around 14 mins …. LITERALLY WHAT I NEEDED TO HEAR.. you don’t even know, 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻

@gkhis1156 Жыл бұрын

This is THE podcast that all believer's need to be listening to! Thank you Bevere's for your wonderful wisdom, transparency and testimony! Keeo going!

@carriegauger1715 Жыл бұрын

Yes!!! A whole episode for forgiveness and another to rebuilding trust.

@dermanydelgado9043 8 ай бұрын

I'm walking away letting God handle what I can't handle trust the process

@lisawilliams7465 Жыл бұрын

This was phenomenal to me. I wish I knew this information when my children were children. I love that I can share it with them and hopefully impact them as parents and young married people. Thank you for sharing lessons learned and being learned. It truly blessed me!

@HeavensBrideOfficial Жыл бұрын

Indeed repentance is the key to renew and restart 😍😍😍😍

@oilinmylamp Жыл бұрын

I’m enjoying these very much. Just found them and watching them one after another. All of them so good.

@AndrewFinney Жыл бұрын

This is excellent! Thank you for creating this podcast. I found it on the Messenger X app. I’m on the app usually 5-6 days a week listening to the courses. I love how the Holy Spirit speaks through ya’ll! May God continue to bless ya’ll always. Thank you for being true to your calling. You’re helping to transform, change, and improve lives. 😇😇😇

@kaylashunk9407 Жыл бұрын

I’m a better Splendor player than my husband! Please speak on decisions around public, private, homeschooling post 2020 culture!

@MiLy1081 Жыл бұрын

Wow! This one was just packed with the information that I needed!

@raneebrown5679 Жыл бұрын

Thank you Lisa for reminding we mothers to not beat ourselves up. God bless you guys for being real and teaching us about lessons you have learned. 🙏

@hazelimali654 Жыл бұрын

Amen Amen. Thank you Jesus 🙏🏾Thank you Lord😭🙏🏾

@BluntTruthProductions Жыл бұрын

Wow. Thank you guys so much for letting us into your home and being able to hear your hearts. it is so encouraging and I can't wait for the next one! Love the tweak of the week, next you should try to have a conversation whilst eating progressively hotter chilli peppers!

@rachaelireland9467 Жыл бұрын

Coming in a little late on the comments but very good word from Addison expounding on the word "perfection" and that it's part and parcel

@lydsa9662 Жыл бұрын

Thanks so much for this. This really came in perfect timing as I was determined to start the day right in the morning and all that unraveled with an unexpected morning incident. I just finished listening to all the videos from Lisa and Havilah on Moms of Boys/Men which I learned so much. So I’m so glad that I’m seeing that this channel is here. Thank you for your authenticity and vulnerability. I’ve been looking for this in people and it’s very hard to find.

@dermanydelgado9043 8 ай бұрын

celebrate the growth

@MelissaBeaconGinnard Жыл бұрын

Love this new podcast! That was awesome! Go there so you can grow there! Ejection tools...definitely will be watching for those in myself and others!

@kathyrichardson8445 Жыл бұрын

I love this episode! I'd really like to know how to deal with 9 year old daughters that won't listen to their parents when being told it's not right to spend the night at their boyfriends house

@Brianna-yh7iy Жыл бұрын

That was powerful about apologizing

@dermanydelgado9043 8 ай бұрын

because I hurt myself when faith show me walk away you tried faith show you your method isn't working so glad I'm alive to share

@moniquezambrano5364 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this! I’m so excited you guys started this up ❤ I will be here for all of it! Also my season right now is raising a little one so I really appreciate Lisa talking about the (how to) when it came to discipline with the little ones. Thank you all again! Love it 🎉😊

@lauracoon2347 Жыл бұрын

So blessed by this content! Thank you for your faithfulness to the Lord!

@bethe9323 Жыл бұрын

love that you are doing this new podcast!

@lisamartinezyanez5805 5 ай бұрын

Love this new podcast really helps. Thank you Amen 🙏 🙌 ❤️

@kriszimmerman4548 Жыл бұрын

This is beautiful! I would love to sit at the table with you and ask questions but this is next best.

@laurens8623 Жыл бұрын

Addison....you took a sneaky sip on Julie's point. Haha

@dermanydelgado9043 8 ай бұрын

very true

@noahyutzy5162 Жыл бұрын

Thanks for sharing

@jasonjacobs5597 Жыл бұрын

Hi family Bevere, Thanks so much for the great content and also your authenticity! Writing to you here from the Netherlands, our (my wife and I) question would be: In this day and age, now living in a time in which pornography is so accessable and in which the world's view on sexuality & gender is so different to ours, when do we start talking to our kids about sexuality? Our oldest is 3,5 years old now and that seems very young still. However, we want her to hear what God says about relationships and sexuality first, before she hears other things elsewhere. She's going to start going to school when she turns four and of course she'll have play dates at friends houses where there are older brothers and sisters. We would like to hear your insights on how to navigate this: not being too protective and fearful but on the otherhand also being wise. Another question is: are there some ways/specific questions we can ask our child to have her share about her world and what she experiences. Much will be going on that we don't see or hear of unless she shares it with us. How do you grow this dynamic at a young age already? (sorry, there's more than 1 question in there hahaha)

@lovegodlovepeoplebyleezwan4200 Жыл бұрын

GOD BLESS YOU FAM🙏😇😰😘🙏😇🤗😃♥️😍☺️💖From SOUTH AFRICA Christian Revival Church, Hillsong Church And Upper Room Counter Culture and Prisma Family GOD BLESS YOU Bevere Family You are Our Family, right from Sisterhood Hillsong where we Collectively listen to you every Week IN JESUS NAME AMEN 🙏🙏🙏

@dermanydelgado9043 8 ай бұрын

wow thanks for sharing that!

@cherylroumillat3660 Жыл бұрын

Blessing's Beautiful Darling Family foe Sharing & Teaching God's Holy Amazing Word & Love..⚘🎚⭐🍑🦋

@dermanydelgado9043 8 ай бұрын

understand Lisa

@dermanydelgado9043 8 ай бұрын

speak it I have nothing to lose

@dermanydelgado9043 8 ай бұрын

yes that's very true the fact that Vincent said to me over and over again you can go but don't take our son maxwell

@dermanydelgado9043 8 ай бұрын

humility to create space or a new life

@dermanydelgado9043 8 ай бұрын

God was speaking to me you know better trust God favor over your method and pride

@DoyinJ. Жыл бұрын

Amenn!

@dermanydelgado9043 8 ай бұрын

true lisa

@janeenejc2184 Жыл бұрын

Wow so good

@laurens8623 Жыл бұрын

Go there so you can grow there

@nicolelouck2190 Жыл бұрын

Okay, what do you guys think about this really trendy parenting style called "gentle parenting". I see a lot of reels on social media about it?! From what I understand, you don't say the word "no" to your child, you redirect as much as possible. You also let your child share and say sorry when the child feels like it. The theory is that forcing your child to say sorry or share is wrong because it's not coming from the heart and it's not genuine. This can lead to resentment because the parents don't let the kids express their true emotions or feelings at that moment in time. I wish I could dive more into this but that's basically the gist of it! In my personally opinion I dont agree with "gentle parenting" but all my friends, church mom groups, even some family members are on this trend! Am I not getting the picture ?!

@Mr.Goodkat Жыл бұрын

Why do you not agree with it, if I may ask? what is the flaws in doing what you describe in your opinion?

@zivotsbohomWASABI Жыл бұрын

I tried to do the gentel parenting for few years, didnt work for us. we were constantly exhausted, kids had little manners etc. Few months ago I discovered Dobson's new edition books and our home changed. kids are happier, house is calmer and parents are more rested :) Gentle parenting is not for everybody, i would say, it is meant for perfect kids and perfect parents, that our family is not :D My kids even thanked me for changing the rules!

@Mr.Goodkat Жыл бұрын

@@zivotsbohomWASABI You never got to the bottom of why they had little manners, any punishment is never ever the answer and is immoral just because it resulted in what you said doesn't mean the end's justified the means.

@jessicabracegirdle2786 Жыл бұрын

I think like any parenting strategy, you take from it what resonates with you and works for you, and turf the rest. I spent about 7 months in a Christian Gentle Parenting FB group, I learnt some great ideas that I still use now. I also found a lot of things I didn’t agree with. Coming from a more authoritarian upbringing, it was really helpful for me to learn things that helped relax my parenting and find a style that tbh is more biblical. I also found some good nuggets of wisdom in Have a New Kid by Friday, and loads on Raising Giant Killers. So to answer your question, yes some people take gentle parenting to the extreme and don’t give their children boundaries, but that is not the true gentle parenting way. True gentle parenting is about giving boundaries, natural consequences, having conversations about the why of things, and loads of modelling. I probably lean more towards gentle parenting nowadays, it taught me to listen to my children and help them to process their emotions, and gave me permission to lay with my children to get them to sleep when they needed it. I am still very firm with the rules, and there are definitely consequences. I speak to my girls about it being my job as their mum to protect and empower them, and this has framed a lot of good conversations with them. Mine are 6.5 & 4.5 for your reference 😊

@dermanydelgado9043 8 ай бұрын

right you grow

@dermanydelgado9043 8 ай бұрын

create space see them on thanksgiving

@dermanydelgado9043 8 ай бұрын

right

@jessicastudd2318 6 ай бұрын

I would actually like to go deeper. My husband and I are healing damage the world did to us and that we did to ourselves before our marriage. We are wanting to bring God into every aspect of our marriage including our sex life and wanting to know what's going to help that journey and what's going to hinder it. Thing's like; -oral, anal 😅. -when only one spouse is in the mood - when you're in a season of drought and it's more like a chore (for lack of a better way of phrasing that) -how to shift from the goal being just the orgasm and changing to it becoming the joyous experience God intended for us And more in-depth stuff that is so rarely discussed in the church as its often still viewed as taboo. But for couples that have been really damaged by the world and need help there aren't many avenues to get that help.

@athomewiththebeveres 6 ай бұрын

Hi there! Thank you for sharing! Here is a link to an episode where we covered some of this stuff. If you have more questions please post a comment and we will get back to you! :) kzfaq.info/get/bejne/lbaeZNWS19qviKM.html